I know that doesn’t really make sense on an “About Me” page, but it makes me feel like a DJ, and I guess that is what I hoped to be when I started this business.
You see the road to commencing the “Join Up Dots” confidence coaching programme, and getting recognised across the world as the premier interviewer, podcaster, confidence Jedi, and creator of Dream Lives for my clients, is a long and winding one.
But one that when I look back, I think “Man…this was a path that I was always on…I just couldn’t see it”
So let’s go back in time and share with you things about me…..would you have expected anything else on this page after all?
I was raised by wolves after being lost by my family in darkest India.
That would have been a truly brilliant starting point to my tale, but unfortunately it’s nowhere near as exciting as that.
I was born very close to my Mum, right next to her in fact back in 1970, which makes me at the time of writing this (30th April 2014) 44 years old, and throughout my life I always felt different.
Not different like, I have something weird going on (although others might disagree with this), but different compared to what others expected me to be like.
I never really felt part of the crowd in anyway.
If everyone wore black, then you would find me in grey.
If everyone was listening to a certain band, you would find me tuned into someone nobody had ever heard off.
It was like a part of me was rebelling against conformity from the very early days, without me knowing it.
Or said in a different way “I had the confidence to do my own thing, and ignore the rest” which is an amazing skill to possess.
My first memory of feeling like this, was when I was five and a teacher said “What do you want to be when you grow up, David?”
To which I replied, “I want to be a jellyfish!”
And the conversation continued with “Do you think you could be a jellyfish then?”
And I apparently replied…and this is the stuff of legend, if anyone is looking for a really obscure, non-obtrusive legend “I can be anything I want to be!”
Which is quite profound, and leaves me with a distinct connection to where I am now, talking to the successful folk of the world, who have set out on a path to be just that “Anything that they want to be.”
And of course inspiring thousands of people to follow my advice, and create their OWN blueprint of success.
Walking their own confident path to glory.
It was what I have always wanted for people (Get three drinks down me and you wont stop me showing you what you need to do to change your life, smash income and get the dream!)
Sorry to all those people that were quite happy with where they were in life, and didn’t need a boozy hour of career advice 🙂
But upon leaving school, in Essex which is touching distance from London along the length of the River Thames, I didn’t choose to be anything I wanted to be.
I went straight into the corporate world and did what everyone else did at the time.
Commuting to London, I fulfilled 25 years of roles that for the main left me unfilled, but allowed me to buy stuff.
And I guess that is why we go to work…to be able to spend.
And that was it really.
I didn’t have any great ambition (other than being a pop-star, author, motivational speaker, boyfriend of whoever was voted worlds sexiest lady at that time), and just worked everyday.
But all the time, when I was performing the role of trainer, or coach, or Manager I had moments when I came alive.
And they were the times when I would speak to crowds, or individuals and see them become inspired by my words. I had an internal switch that could inspire.
I could see something light up inside them as I spoke, and more often than not, go off and do something that was not expected, but career changing in a good way.
It was my superpower.
My confidence rocket
But like all superpowers it takes a while before you grasp how to use it…… how many walls did Spider-Man smash into before he worked it all out???
But up to that point I hadn’t lit up inside, so I didn’t know what I was carrying around with me.
I hadn’t found the way to use this god given power.
I hadn’t found the thing that made me want to bound out of bed, seize the day, and inspire the world to grow the kind of confidence that couldn’t be denied.
Then One Day A New Sheriff Came To Town…….And Things Changed!
My changing point or you might like to call it my big dot, came when a new Manager came into my life, and to say we didn’t see eye to eye was an understatement.
We didn’t see eye to eye, leg to leg, nose to nose……get my drift? She made my life a misery from day one, and I started to spiral out of control.
Although I still performed to the highest levels that I could, my heart wasn’t in it anymore.
“How can I allow my life to be dictated by just one person I thought?”
“How can my happiness be determined by a single individual?”
And quite simply it was these thoughts that made me realise in the words of Elvis Presley “Its Now Or Never!” and with the little bit of savings I had, I quit my job and then started to work…….
I started to work harder than I had ever before, but this time I wanted to do it.
I wanted to pull together all the things in my life that I loved doing, and create a future that was bright and promising for not just me, but my family and of course the world.
But as to how to do it……….nope, no idea at all.
But I did have something in my back pocket that I hadn’t realised would change my life forever.
And this was a small piece of paper with a few brilliant words from the late Steve Jobs….. more on these later!
And of course the
The Beauty Of Starting Something (With A Passion And More Than A Bit Of Fear)
I hadn’t considered getting behind the microphone and creating a daily podcast when I first began on this road.
I certainly had no idea that I would start coaching people across the world 24/7 on how you grow the most amazing confidence that takes them wherever they want in life.
I simply clung to the idea of “Just do something that you know you can do and earn some money!”
So I started working as a self-employed web developer.
This would be great. I can choose my hours. Do it where I want. And be my own boss…..brilliant!
However one aspect of this devious master plan had not occurred to me….and it turned out to be quite a huge aspect to have not considered.
Being a web-developer bored me to death.
And after a few days working at the kitchen table, I started to think “Man, this CANNOT be my future!”
The house was deadly quiet. I hadn’t seen anyone at all other than my family for days. And I had the inkling that I might had made a mistake.
BREAK THE SILENCE! I suddenly thought.
Make some noise to stop the whispering in my head, that was saying less than positive things!
Turn the radio on, that would help.
But it didn’t. I couldn’t concentrate at all with music playing constantly, and that was when the breakthrough occurred.
I looked up a podcast and my life changed forever.
Well the rest of my history will come out over the daily episodes.
And I certainly wouldn’t want to spill everything onto this one page, and make it the worlds longest About Me page, but I think it has done its job.
You get a flavour of what I am about.
And hopefully you’ll get even more of an idea everyday, when the next motivational and inspirational episode of “Join Up Dots” is aired to the world.
Or of course when we work together to grow your our business, personal brand, and of course your income.
Then you will understand what I bring to the table.
Thanks very much for reading, and oh, yeah…one more thing “Thanks for tuning in folks!”David Ralph