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Introducing Christina Ambubuyog
Todays guest, joining us on the Join Up Dots business coaching podcast interview is Christina Ambubuyog.
She is a lady who believes quite firmly in the words of Steve Jobs that we play on the show everyday.
You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.
She calls it intuition, but it’s all the same thing really.
Finding the thing that lights you up inside and going for it, even if it takes you off the well worn path and into new uncharted territories.
But why was it that until quite recently, she hadn’t followed the path that was true to her.
She had travelled the path that so many of us follow…the expected one.
The one that we are told to.
How The Dots Joined For Christina
As a child Christina Ambubuyog was constantly told that it was alright having passions, but they were not a career.
Nursing would be a good job. We always need nurses.
So she become one, and also became physically ill for an entire year, unhappy and completely lost because she wasn’t living her purpose.
She now runs from her home in Las Vegas the “I Love Intuition” movement, where she helps purpose driven leaders strengthen and trust their intuition and creativity to create soulful and successful lives and businesses.
Simply put she helps her clients find their strengths and passions and build businesses around them subsequently allowing them to have a kick ass life.
So why was it that the things that she obviously has a talent for, were for so many years put on the back burner?
What was it about her life that really made her fall to pieces and know that she had to change direction?
And as she lives in Las Vegas, can she get me Barry Manilow tickets?
Well let’s bring onto the show to start joining up dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs in todays Free podcast, with the one and only Christina Ambubuyog.
During the show we discussed with Christina Ambubuyog such weighty topics such as:
If you wake up everyday and the thing you aren’t expecting to get paid for with passion then you’ve found your thing!
How finding your passion is easy, but getting paid for it is much harder!
The emotional story of how her father became an accountant purely due to the only book her family owned!
The love she feels for the desert area outside Las Vegas and the connection to the possibilities it gives her!
How she heard a voice in her head at the very right time that told her to do what she wanted in life…and isn’t she glad she listened!
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Audio Transcription Of Christina Ambubuyog Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Yes, hello, there it is David Ralph. Of course, it’s me. It’s Join Up Dots. It’s my show. I’m always going to be here. Now, today’s guest is a lady who believes quite firmly in the words of Steve Jobs that we play on the show every day you have to trust in something your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. She calls it intuition, but it’s all the same thing, really. Finding the thing that lights you up inside and going for it even if it takes you off the well worn path and into new uncharted territories. But why was it been that until quite recently, she hadn’t followed the path. It was true to her she had travelled the path that so many of us follow the expected one, the one that were told to as a child, she was constantly told it was all white having passions, but they were not a career nursing would be a good job. We always need nurses after all, so she became one and also became physically ill for an entire year and happy and completely lost because she wasn’t living her purpose. She now runs from our home in Las Vegas be I love intuition movement, where she helps purpose driven leaders strengthen and trust their intuition and creativity to create soulful and successful lives and businesses, simply but she helps her clients find their strengths and passions and build businesses around them subsequently allowing them to kick ass life. That’s what we all want. So why is it that the things that she obviously has a talent for work for so many years put on the back burner? What was it about her life that really made a fall to pieces, and know that she had to change direction? And as she lives in Las Vegas? You actually can get me Barry Manilow tickets. Well, let’s find out as we bring on to the show to start Join Up Dots, the one and only Christina Ambubuyog. How are you, Christina?
Christina Ambubuyog [2:05]
I’m doing great. Thank you, David, for having me. I’m really excited to be here.
David Ralph [2:10]
I’m excited to just get past your name and saying it right. I’ve been building up to that all day.
Christina Ambubuyog [2:18]
Perfect, you got it down. Thank you for that lovely, lovely introduction.
David Ralph [2:22]
Well, it’s the first name that I’ve ever had. But somebody know normally I get these kind of quite unusual names. And I have to say to people, Is this how you pronounce it? And even on the sort of the most normal names, I always say is you is it how you pronounce it. And they normally think I’m a bit mad. But you’re one I actually got it. And it was phonetically written out. And boo, boo. And you’re like dog. And I thought this is amazing. She’s actually teaching me to read which is which?
Christina Ambubuyog [2:55]
so, so happy you have
David Ralph [2:57]
you always struggled? And do you always say your black dog?
Christina Ambubuyog [3:01]
No, actually, that was the first time I ever wrote it that description. It’s five, because I mean, my last name gets butchered all the time. I mean, just from being a child in school, and no one ever really knowing how to say it. And probably just because it looks long. And it’s like, oh my god, there’s so many letters in there. How do you say that? So that was the first time I ever actually used dog.
David Ralph [3:26]
So it wasn’t bad. It was going to England where we lack sophistication? Is that what you’re saying? Christina?
Christina Ambubuyog [3:34]
Not at all. I thought it was easy, because I was like, well, because some people still don’t get it when I phonetically say it and then I was or spell it out for people. And then I figure y’all, I’ll say that right? But dog, I’m gonna put that in there.
David Ralph [3:47]
But you keep doing it because it makes you memorable. And that’s what life is all about. Isn’t it being memorable?
Christina Ambubuyog [3:52]
David Ralph [3:54]
Some some in the introduction, that it’s it’s a funny old thing that we’re doing here on join us. We are talking the same subject basically every single day. And yeah, the key thing to all the conversations that we have is that the successful people more often than not start on a path that isn’t theirs. It’s a path, but is the expected one is the one that they get told to do. I put my hand up, and I did the same thing. And literally every single man and woman on the show has done the same thing to which you have as well. But I’m going to ask a question, first of all, because it is a key point. Why do you think we do that? Because it’s madness, isn’t it to say Hang on, we want this planet ones. And we’re not even going to do the things that we want to do. We’re going to do the things that other people want us to do?
Christina Ambubuyog [4:43]
Yes, that is a great question. And I think there’s different layers around it. Mostly because we’re guided from being young, by our parents, our family and society, I believe there’s different influences of energy, that keep us in this framework of believing what I should be doing. And that can influence us and from my parents, you know, our parents always want us to do the best, right? Like they want the best for us. And in their own minds, they feel like Oh, the best looks like this. Or it should look like this. Or they teach us through their own personal mistakes, probably or what their definition of success may be. So I feel like that can have such a great influence, you know, as children when we’re in the place of of growing up into our teens going into college and whatnot, and figuring out, oh, what’s really my path? Where should I be headed? Where should I go, and then we’re hearing, you know, what our teachers tell us we should be doing or what our parents or what we see on media that says all this is going to create success for you. And I believe that we get stuck in or actually will get stuck. But we take those beliefs on as our own. We don’t yet quite know it at that time, because we’re not consciously aware of it. And then further down the road, we realise Hey, hold on a second.
David Ralph [6:19]
realise it, do we have some something occurs, but kind of makes us reassess?
Christina Ambubuyog [6:26]
Yes, yeah, that’s a wake up call. Oftentimes, it’s a wake up call. And, and it doesn’t have to be like this big, huge, crazy, traumatic event. But there could just be something that triggers us to, like you said, reassess, where am I out of my life? What really matters to me? And what’s going to create meaning for myself?
David Ralph [6:54]
Did you know I’m having conversations with youngsters, I had a conversation this afternoon with a chap who 15 years old. And he started his first business at the age of eight. And he is he’s rocking and rolling. And I said to him, you know, what’s your ambition in life, he said, I want to create my own bank. And I thought, I don’t I don’t even remember ever being able to comprehend having a fault like that. But he was so focused on what he wanted, at an early age. And I met a friend of my wife’s I went to pick up my daughter from school this afternoon. And I was telling her about this chap. And I said, you know, if somebody says to you start a bank, How the hell do you do that? You know, because it’s not just a building bear, you’ve got to get money that you can lend out to people, it kind of just blows my mind. But he can do that at the age of 15. And at the fact that at that age, he’s so fixed on the path, but he knows, through his core is right for him. It’s amazing, isn’t it?
Christina Ambubuyog [7:56]
Yeah, that is amazing. There’s definitely I feel, there’s various levels of that sort of fire and passion within people, I think sometimes, especially when we’re young. Sometimes those stay lit and bright and really strong. Other times, they’re, they wither, you know, they dim and, and there were some more susceptible to influences, but I love that I love these young teens who are just like, this is what I want, I want to bake.
Unknown Speaker [8:29]
I’m gonna do it,
David Ralph [8:31]
I, it makes me feel old, you know that. I just know, I admire them hugely. And I look at them. And I don’t even think to myself, Why wasn’t I like that, I just know, in my core, I couldn’t have been like, that is a totally different animal, you know, I think you have to find the thing that lights you up inside. And sometimes it’s something that needs to be nurtured and developed. And so you need the experience of, quote on the, quote, wasted years to be able to fine tune what you should finally do, if you are fortunate to come out of the womb, and you’re suddenly Richard Branson, and away you go, that must be amazing. But I think for most of us, it’s those incremental experiences over a period of 10 1520 years, but actually build up, I suppose you could call them out dots. And then you look back on it and go, God, I should have been doing this 1015 years ago. But of course, you weren’t ready for it at that time. What do you think about that?
Christina Ambubuyog [9:32]
Yeah, I definitely agree, I think that
when we can look back upon where, where we were as a child, and what led us up, and where we are now. And if that still is the same, and maybe at a different degree. But if we still think about that, then it allows us to create those. That’s right, those Connexions of how that can can illuminate this part of us that is passionate. But I do believe that, you know, the majority of people, it’s, it does come over time. And it comes through trial and error. And, and I also believe that you know, for not supported from a young age to really stick with what you love, do what you want, you know, like have that kind of external support, or even being questioned around what really brings you joy, as a child, and then nurture that or see that within individuals, then that usually, you know, we lose the lose that connexion to that fire within us. And yeah, it does take a lot of
To realise, damn it,
I should have been doing that, you know, back then, instead of like trying it out and figuring out later. But I also believe that without those experiences before, how that creates a richness, to your storey to the reasoning, why it is imperative for you to connect with what you’re passionate about to take risks, to follow your intuition, and then to trust in what it is that you feel most excited and inspired to do in your life. So it’s kind of both it’s like you have both of those areas where it’s like, God takes time. But then sometimes that time has created that richness within experience to and adds to that.
David Ralph [12:02]
Yeah, it puts layers on your storey, doesn’t it?
Christina Ambubuyog [12:05]
David Ralph [12:06]
It gives you It gives you a sort of it is like a tree you see a tree and it is huge. But if you sort of go into and cut it, it’s just little incremental rings that become bigger and bigger and bigger. And then you’ve got that entirety, which is the tree. Now. Well, what what I want to do with you because you’ve touched on so many things that I’m going to touch on later, but if I dive into them now these episodes can be 15 minutes long. So I’m going to go to the end of the storey and sort of frame what you’re doing now and then we’re going to work back. So you will mean Vegas, the home of Barry Manilow I always like saying that I’ve never met one person who lived in Las Vegas who’s actually gone to see Barry Manilow Have you?
Christina Ambubuyog [12:47]
David Ralph [12:49]
No One No One No One seems to do that. But one of these days I’m gonna find somebody that’s going to see all bezza and sang out the sounds of it. But you’re in Vegas. You’re from sort of Filipino descendants. And you weren’t you didn’t grow up in Vegas. You’ve only ended up in that sort of city quite recently, haven’t you?
Christina Ambubuyog [13:08]
Yeah. See, I’ve been here for the past eight years. Actually. It’s going on my ninth year this year. So yeah, I’ve been here. I grew up in Chicago,
David Ralph [13:16]
though. And are you in sort of Vegas be the lights? Or are you in kind of CSI Vegas back kind of area.
Christina Ambubuyog [13:25]
And the CSI
David Ralph [13:28]
that’s where you want to be done you that. That’s where there’s no tourists bears, just choke marks on the pavements wherever we exactly.
Christina Ambubuyog [13:39]
Yes, but I’m not too I’m not too far from the strip. So it’s a good It’s far enough but close enough to enjoy when I want to.
David Ralph [13:48]
I knew you do sort of hiking and you you’re out in this old countryside around around the hills and he’s not really hills around Vegas,
Christina Ambubuyog [13:54]
is it? It’s the desert. It’s the valley. There’s the mountains and the rocks. It’s gorgeous. Absolutely gorgeous. We have this beautiful red rock State Park area that you can go hiking and and you know that areas for picnicking, and it’s huge. But I love the desert. There’s something about it that really grounds me and connects me.
David Ralph [14:20]
And have you always felt that because with the I love intuition. A lot of that you you talk about and you deal with your clients is about the spirituality is about the decor stems the passion, and is Emma kind of simple side to you. But lobster kind of the barrenness of the desert. Are you more desert than say beach?
Christina Ambubuyog [14:47]
honestly, if I looked at the beach, I’d be at the beach all the time. But, um, I think that Well, let me the desert to me, the vastness definitely connects me to that simplicity. And I think that’s why I also love the beach, because it’s not about the storey the beach, about the ocean. So the vastness and that it’s almost feels limitless to me. And that’s what really draws me in. It’s very meditative. I can just stare off into the water, I can stare off into desert Valley, and just sit there like four hours.
David Ralph [15:32]
So you know, small, do you like to be like at the centre of the universe, that feeling but you could just go out and out and out and out and just keep on going?
Christina Ambubuyog [15:42]
I do I do. And I don’t know if it’s necessarily feeling small, but I think it makes me feel more open.
David Ralph [15:53]
What does it give you that feeling?
Christina Ambubuyog [16:01]
When I’m out in nature, and I’m in a space, such as the desert or looking out at the ocean, then I,
to me, it’s like it,
I get to have the sense of connecting into the natural rhythm of the earth. And from there, that’s I think that’s where I get that sense of openness, like I’m part of this, like I am part of this whole entire piece. And it gets me out of this box of me and my life and all these things that I have to do and dusted up. And when I go into there, I think of Wow, there’s so much going on in the earth. And there’s all these other people, and people who are creating people who are struggling people who are thriving people who are surviving, you know, and it makes me think of like, that open field of, oh my god, we live in such a beautiful and magical place, and that there’s so much more to explore.
David Ralph [17:00]
So it kind of almost gives you a sense of possibilities.
Christina Ambubuyog [17:04]
Yes, possibilities, definitely possibilities.
David Ralph [17:08]
Because we’ve we’ve got a castle, I live in England, so we have castles on every corner. Not really. But we have one about five minutes away from where I live. And to be honest, you’d be quite disappointed if you saw the castle, there’s hardly anything of it left. But it’s a castle Henry, the eighth one slip there. And it’s where you go up. And it’s right on a top of a hill. And you can look down over the River Thames that goes down towards London and down towards the sea. And ever since I was a child, I’ve always loved going there. And it’s one of those places that if you’ve had a bad day, you go there and the wind blows you. And you just feel kind of free somehow. And I often say to my kids, come on, let’s go up to the castle and see what’s going on there. And it’s always the same. It’s people having picnics and flying kites and walking dogs and those kind of stuff. But I always stand there. And I kind of look into the horizon. And I think to myself, if I went back way, where would I end up obviously, if you went far enough, you’d end up back where you are, because it’s round. But I always get that feeling of possibility and travel and freedom and experience and adventure when I’m in that place. So I know exactly what you’re feeling. And it’s a it’s a good state to be in isn’t it is a good place to go. If you can find a place that makes you feel part of everything and separates you as well from the hassles and getting the dinner on and your kids homework and all that even if it’s five or 10 minutes, you can come back feeling invigorated and ready to go again.
Christina Ambubuyog [18:38]
Yes, yes, yes. Yeah, I love that. I want to go to the castle, and that’ll
David Ralph [18:43]
send you trippin Yoga is bad. It is not not that impressive. But I will I will email you a picture and you’ll see it
Christina Ambubuyog [18:51]
Yes. And the view
David Ralph [18:54]
that view, send it all to you. So So what are you doing in I love intuition because i, this is your baby at the moment. This is the company that you have created. This is where your clients flock, for you to help them. And a lot of the things that you do in the nicest things will turn certain people off. You’ve got things like so the mental aspect, aspect, psychic, and the law of attraction, all those kind of things that are very powerful for people who believe. But there’s so many people, they they wouldn’t have anything to do with that. So do you construct programmes that are suitable for the individual? Or does the individual go there? And basically follow a course. But you describe them?
Christina Ambubuyog [19:41]
Yes, yeah. So with I live intuition, and basically, really supporting people in, you know, tapping in to their own intuition from a place of, I’m using it for myself, or into the professional level where they’re wanting to, you know, serve in the same way with other people. So through the programmes that are programmes, there’s foundational pieces of the programmes, due to the tools and the meditations so that it helps you centre and ground and open up to your intuition. And the rest is totally customised to the specific individuals course, what their vision is what they’re wanting to create. Yeah, and just, you know, exactly to what they need for themselves, which I like, I like having these tools that they can use. And and then I’m also able to customise the tools for them as well.
David Ralph [20:40]
And how to how do they find you? How do they find? I love intuition. Is it just a website that they been come to a office or a building or a space that you work in?
Christina Ambubuyog [20:52]
Oh, yeah, no, I work out of my home. And I do everything most everything is over the phone. I have some local client, so come over, you know, I’ll or I’ll see them in person. But everything, all my programmes are all online programmes, my sessions there, either on the phone or if it’s internationally, we do it via Skype. And yeah, it’s just my little digital Queen dumb of love. But most people find me through, I have a lot of referrals. Definitely a lot of referrals. But more and more people are just kind of like finding me through Google, which I think is really interesting.
David Ralph [21:31]
Well, that’s the powerful medium, isn’t it? That’s how you know, right? We’ve connected and that’s how the world connects. Now that’s, you know, I remember the time when somebody said to me, why don’t you Google it? And I’d never heard of Google, you know, and that was about 2001. And now it really has, you know, it’s changed the landscape, as they say, but but you you’ve changed, changed the landscape yourself, haven’t you? Because you’ve created something that is fulfilling your requirement as much as your clients because you were in in a very bad state. You were not in a good career that you wanted to be in. You were physically ill. So tell us about that part of it, how you actually transition from going into a career, but you didn’t want to do to realising you really didn’t want to do it, and you had to get out for your health. And then what happened after that?
Christina Ambubuyog [22:23]
Yes, yeah. So just wanted to clarify that it was not a nurse.
David Ralph [22:29]
He was is
Christina Ambubuyog [22:30]
no, it wasn’t a nurse that was it
David Ralph [22:33]
took that from our website.
Christina Ambubuyog [22:35]
Oh, no, it’s not on there. It’s maybe it’s because it’s part of my storey. Like it’s, I was always told to be a nurse.
David Ralph [22:43]
I just assumed that you were in this.
Christina Ambubuyog [22:45]
Oh, yeah. No, I’m. So that’s, I was always told to be a nurse. And I actually started off in art school. And I was I had a decorative painting a mural business. And I was at art as art working as an art director at the time that I got really sick. And prior to that, I was already developing my psychic skills, my intuition skills, I was already doing the energy healing work. And I was in this place of just crazy transition, like I was an art director. I was burnt out, I would get physically ill, every other month, like it was just as for a whole entire year, it was just this ongoing sickness. And I was working with children at the time. So I was like, Oh, it’s maybe the kids and their germs. I was like, what is going on, but I knew after, towards the end of the year that something was wrong. And I was not, I wasn’t happy. And I knew that this illness was more than just me, you know, maybe being passed on from other people, that it was something that wasn’t congruent within myself. For me, I feel like, you know, my little Wake Up Calls will always speak through my body. Whereas I think some other people will, it’ll manifest like in their money, or it’ll manifest in their relationships, where they’ll start to pay attention. For me, it’s my body, like, things can get messed up around me. But if, if the universe wants to be like, hey, you need to be going to another direction, I’m going to get sick, or it’s going to show up in some form in my body that I’m like, Oh, crap, let me just shut up and listen, see what’s going on here. So
David Ralph [24:42]
and was that always the case? Even as a small kid, do you? Do you remember having those kind of feelings and those vibes?
Christina Ambubuyog [24:54]
Well, I remember that I, when things were starting have traumatic or big things would happen to me, I don’t think I would get sick, I would get tired, or I would just be really depressed, like, I would just be so sensitive to things and I would shut myself down. So I don’t remember anything where I was physically ill, that I can think of at this moment. But I know that I was able to get sensitive to a lot of emotionally sensitive to a lot of things in my life as a young child, and it would kind of take me out. Take me out of school can’t think straight. get overwhelmed really easily. Yeah, it was interesting. It was hard for me to manage those places within me. So yeah, so that’s, that’s really where things sort of shifted was, I was getting sick, I really checked in. And that was voice within was just, it’s so cliche, and I just laugh every time I think about and talk about it was I was at the point where I’m like, Okay, what am I supposed to do? Where am I at? And the voice and it was like, This voice that was just really apparent that said, do what you love. And I was it just thought it was cliche.
David Ralph [26:28]
When you actually heard the voice, did you?
Christina Ambubuyog [26:30]
I did, I did hear the voice. And it was during a at a point where I was really, I was lost my voice for a week. So I was actually silent. So I couldn’t talk anyway. So I was like, Well, I have nothing else to do, but talk to myself. And yeah, and I heard it, it wasn’t my it wasn’t like my voice. You know how you can hear yourself in your head. It was something distinct. And, and but I knew I was like, Okay, yeah, I know, that’s cliche, but something can be decided to really pay attention to that. And that’s why I did a little bit more further excavating around. Well, what do I even really love? You know, I think that question is like, Oh, do what you love. But if people want to really get down into it and ask themselves like, well, what, what is that? Like? I love lots of things, right? But what does that really mean to like, do what it is that you love, so that that was another layer that I had to sort of address within myself during that silent period.
David Ralph [27:32]
But let’s just pause you there because that that’s a key question. And I know so many of our listeners out there have that same question, what do I really love, they’ve been on the path that isn’t their own. They’re in a job that they don’t really like, blah, blah, blah. And we keep on saying, you know, find your passion, find your passion, it’s in you. And until you find your passion you can’t see is in you. And it’s one of those really annoying phrases. And even though I’m saying it time and time again, it still annoys me, I can feel my old version of myself kind of cut off. For God’s sake. I don’t know what my passion is. Just tell me what it is. But it is so true. Once it hits you. You can Oh my God, I should have done this. I should know this. So when you started asking those questions of you, how did you narrow it down? To the point that you went? Yes. I now know what I should be doing. What was the practice that you went through? Mm hmm.
Unknown Speaker [28:27]
Christina Ambubuyog [28:29]
I knew that I would have distil down to two things that really it was like it. Part of it was let me reflect back on what did I love as a child? Right? Like, what was I always into? Who did I want to be? When people would ask you as a child? Like that happened to me? My family? What do you want to be Chrissy grew up?
David Ralph [28:53]
voices, your family didn’t lay? In the Chipmunks you must have I
Christina Ambubuyog [29:02]
know, my mom, she kind of has a high voice voice. So that’s where I’m hearing it from. Um, so yeah, so I would just kind of reflect back on. Okay, what did I really love as a child, what would I get into? And is that true today, and one of the things that I loved and I talk about and I do all the time was was draw and paint and I loved art. And I went to art school and, and at the time, I had like a mural and decorative painting business. But the, and even with that piece to this is funny. So even with that piece with the art piece, there were so many things I was tapping into. And but it came down to this one question where it’s like if I could wake up every single day. And money wasn’t a factor, right? Everything was taken care of an hour to wake up every single day and just do this one thing or do these few things that really would make me happy, like, what would those be? And a distil down to painting. So wasn’t drawing it wasn’t doing sculpture wasn’t doing all these other things that I did? Right? It came down to painting, and it came down to giving readings. And that’s what I knew. Okay, I can do that. And I kind of felt like, I need to distil it down to one. Right. But if I sat and thought, okay, if I were just to pay all my life, would I be satisfied? No. If I were just to do readings and do the energy work and all that, would I be satisfied now. So I knew that they both had to be a part of my life in some way.
David Ralph [30:47]
Not to be paid for it is that is that really where passions are found when you’re willing to do it? Time and time again, just because you love doing it?
Christina Ambubuyog [30:57]
apps, I believe, I believe that, that your passion is something that usually is natural to you. And and yeah, it’s something that you would just still do. If you weren’t being paid, like I’d still be painting, I would still be giving readings. And when I started off giving readings, I didn’t even think about charging. Like, it wasn’t until someone told me that, hey, you should charge I was like, Oh, I didn’t even realise that that was possible.
It was just, it wasn’t even in my thought process.
David Ralph [31:32]
But you know, why wasn’t because we’re all in the same boat, when you can do something easily and you love doing it, you kind of feel guilty that you should be being paid for it. And we are forced to kind of believe that work has to be an effort, you actually have to go and sweat and toil. And when you are able to earn a very good income doing something that you love, and is really easy. And you see this a lot, we have sort of celebrities and artists that have it all. And then I start you know, getting into drugs and all that kind of stuff. And when they pull themselves out, they always say it was because I felt not worthy. I didn’t feel that I deserved what I was getting. So they kind of tried to self sabotage. So what you’re saying there about not realising but you should be paid for it. I’m asking you did realise that you should be paid for it. But you kind of felt guilty that you were charging for it, because you found it easy to do.
Christina Ambubuyog [32:33]
That was definitely my thought process when it was presented to me. That, oh, you can charge and that I think that’s when the guilt really started becoming apparent of Oh, but this is spiritual work. This is what I love that, that that that, you know, that’s when all that little voices started creeping in around, what does that really mean? And that the value ID and all of those pieces, and, and oh, but if I’m helping people, right, you shouldn’t be charging, because you’re helping You’re doing good work, and all of that. So that’s a huge mindset shift. For me. And it’s like a little bit of a while to sort of get out of that framework. But
But again, it’s it’s one of those things where,
you know, you’re in your passion work. And I think there’s a part of it too, it’s like, I think there could be a choice point as well. So people can can can be in their passions, right? They can embody it and do that. But sometimes I don’t believe that. And that’s the journey doesn’t have to be your quote unquote, job, right, you don’t have to, like make a business out of it, it can be something that just lights you up, and, and adds to your own meaning. So when it comes to creating a business out of it, that’s to me, that’s a choice point in that area of discovering what your passion is, because I think there’s a lot of pieces to that too, when you go into like the whole entrepreneurship, you know, area arena, because there’s another level of, of passion that needs to fire up in order for you to thrive through the trials and tribulations of growing a business as well. And so it’s kind of like do I have that drive to create this passion into something that I can monetize that I think that’s like a whole other.
That’s probably like a whole nother hour we can talk about
that is the heartbeat,
David Ralph [34:43]
you can find your passion, but then finding a way of getting paid for it is a totally different ballgame. But as long as you find your passion, first of all, that is half the battle. And I’m going to play the words. Now. I’ve been extraordinary man who’s provided us with some extraordinary words recently. And this is Jim Carrey,
Jim Carrey [34:58]
my father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.
David Ralph [35:26]
I had this image in my head now, Christina, that like a megalomaniac, I take control of all the attendees in the world. And I get the kids to listen to that every single day. Because I think that is a message that we should be getting out. And this is the message that we’re talking about tonight. This is the message about doing something but you don’t know how you’re going to do. But you know, damn well that you’re going to find a way of doing it.
Christina Ambubuyog [35:53]
Yes, yes, that that speech with Jim Carrey was amazing. I can definitely relate to that. You know, just like my own father and his path and everything. And oh, it brings tears to my eyes not great.
David Ralph [36:12]
How do you reflect? Obviously, you feel emotional, but how does it reflect on your relationship with your father.
Christina Ambubuyog [36:21]
When my father moved here from the Philippines, he was really young. And I remember when I went back with him to the Philippines in 2005, he went back to his village and all these things, and he was telling me all these storeys about him growing up and, and how much my father is an accountant. And he, the reason why he’s an accountant is because that’s the books that they already had. So when my father had to go to college, that the reason why he’s an accountant is because that was the only textbooks that he was able to get, because there’s somebody else in the family went into accounting. And so you know, due to his circumstances, it was like his, he had to, he was kind of forced into this position of an education, out of sort of a hand me down, like you have to learn this, because we don’t have any other means for you to learn, we don’t have money to for you to go into different major because we can’t afford these textbooks and all of these things so. So it’s just really inspired me for, for me to see him be in this place of of needing to, and having to go into an area of work. for him. That wasn’t his natural talent, that’s not as natural ability, I don’t believe it is I think he’s really good at it, because he’s able to leave, he’s learned the skill set of it. But my father is a yogi, a meditator, he’s a artist, he can draw, like, amazing, and but at the same time, I see how he has leveraged that part of his life. You know, coming here into America, and, and really thriving here, you know, coming into Chicago and living in the ghetto and a little studio apartment to owning two homes, and they travel and, and every time. And with my father, he’s always just very much every single time I had dinner with him or with him or driving in the car. He always says, life is really good here. It’s not like this, it wasn’t like this. For me growing up. He’s like, I have choices now. And so that’s really cool. So I just relate to that whole Jim Carrey store, because I just see how my father has has had to take this other route in his life, and sort of the safe route. Even though that there’s this, this part of him that would have loved to do other things. And even growing up, he was always he always had side businesses, right? You know, he’s tapped into all these little passions that he has, and, and health and wellness and all these things and, and then kind of just struggle through them. So
David Ralph [39:21]
So I imagine the last thing that he would have wanted is to see his daughter replicating that path. Now it sounds like your dad was of an age or is of an age where it’s kind of just acceptance. But that’s what I had to do. So I’m going to do it. I think now that we’ve got the ability to see what is possible across the globe, by tapping into the Internet, and we’ve got the TV and we got all those kinds of things where we can see more of and what was happening in our own town. It gives us that ability to dream more. And I know certainly for my parents, my parents are in so 70s now, I think if I said to my dad, or even if I think about what is my dad’s dream, I wouldn’t have a clue. I’ve known him all my life. But I wouldn’t have a clue because he’s always kind of accepted what he’s doing. And he’s never queried it. He’s never moaned about it. It’s just what he wants to do. But I think that the ability now to, as I say, see that people are having these amazing lives, where you look at it, and you think that’s what I want, in some ways makes life more difficult for us. Van, your father, who would have just accepted what he had to do, because that’s the only way that he knew what he had to do. Does that make sense?
Christina Ambubuyog [40:39]
Yeah, that does make sense. There’s a lot more for I mean, I see it as like, there’s a lot more for us to compare. Yeah, yeah. Mm hmm. Definitely. And I don’t think I’ve ever really thought about that. So I’m glad you brought that up. I think it’s something I want to sit and ponder on. Because it is it’s, it’s there’s the pros and cons, right? It’s like, we’re in this age and time where there’s phenomenal opportunity for us to do what we love to live a life based on what we feel brings us joy and meaning. And then at the same time, there’s that piece of, Oh, you know, how do I do that? How do I make that all happen to
David Ralph [41:27]
I was reading a book, and it’s by Malcolm Gladwell, I think it is, but he was saying, but the highest suicide rate in the world is in which is countries where we have more, you would think that we would be happy. But if you go to the places on earth, when I had nothing, it’s almost unheard of, but anybody commit suicide, because I’ve got nothing to compare up against, they just know that they get up each morning, they find their food, they go to bed, and that’s it. That’s their life. But once you start putting into the mix, the possibilities of what you can have mania, starting comparing, and then that is where it gets difficult. So I think it’s a wonderful storey that you shared with your dad, because I think it really does cement but he must be hugely proud to see you doing what is right for you. And I think that is justification for any parent to say, Yes, my kids are growing up happy and contented and living their true unique life. Because that’s exactly what I wanted. And that’s all you want for your kids.
Christina Ambubuyog [42:32]
Yeah, thank you, thank you. That was a, it was a there was a huge shift, I think in my relationship with my father, because he was the one that I was always like, be a nurse. Right? And I think that was out of just his own upbringing and feeling like what’s possible and, and what will create a good life for me here. And, and there was a while where my parents just did not understand what I was doing. Just like what are you doing? There was definitely a shift in that recognition. That understanding of, yeah, that’s my daughter, and she’s proud of, you know, she’s really going to do what she wants. And, like, totally support. I’ve never, I haven’t I’ve never feel unsupported by my parents, but, but there was a time where my dad sent me referrals from his co workers. And I just thought that that was a huge shift in what he saw me doing, and from this place of, of wanting to box me in until one way to completely accepting like, yeah, this is what she does, and sending people to me. And asking about, you know, my work and read my blog and doing all that crazy stuff. That was huge. Thank you.
David Ralph [44:01]
Well, if every referral would basically in an invisible ink, say, I love you, dad. I’m proud of you dad, wouldn’t it? The fact that he’s actually speaking to his colleagues and getting them to refer to you is once again, his justification, he may not say it to you, because I find that parents generally don’t, I don’t really all the generation of parents I’ve grown up with, you know that they love you, they you know that I care for you. But actually, the words you don’t really get it’s the kind of little things that they do. But you look and you add up and you go, yes, they understand what I’m about.
Christina Ambubuyog [44:41]
That’s so beautiful.
David Ralph [44:42]
Oh, this is a good conversation. This is this is going in a different direction. This is what Join Up Dots is all about we go anywhere we want. So as she was talking now, I’m looking at your website. And one of the things that I like on there, it says, intuition is the secrets. Does everybody have intuition? Well, obviously they do. But there’s everybody have that ability to take it from a source to a secret source and give it that extra power?
Christina Ambubuyog [45:12]
Ah, yes, absolutely. So intuition is one of those things that I, I believe people recognise but they don’t quite give it power, right? power in the sense of tapping into it, to give them wisdom around their own direction. And but we will give it power when we dismiss it. Right? So let’s say we have a situation in hands. My gut is telling me do this, everybody else’s, like Amnon, and now let’s do this. And then you’re kind of like, Oh, yeah, well, you know what, that sounds good, too. And then later on, you’re like, Oh, my gosh, I was right. You know, it’s like, I should have listened spice up. I knew I knew I knew. And then we’re giving it power. Right? So we definitely can tap into it, we can strengthen it, to me, it’s a muscle, and we just aren’t culture to strengthen it. It’s not one of those things that you know, it’s not a subject in school. Listen to your gut, follow your intuition. It’s it, there’s nothing there isn’t the intuition, one on one class, you know, in elementary or high school or whatever. So it’s one of those things that we tend to dismiss, or, you know, we just kind of sick Oh, yeah, that was interesting. That was an acronym city, or, oh, I kind of knew that. But you know, whatever. Um, so it is, it’s powerful. And when we do give it voice, and we start to exercise it, even with little things, we realise, hey, wow, I have this inner part of me that is, provides a compass for my well being.
David Ralph [47:07]
It’s a scary place, isn’t it? That’s what I believe. Now. We’ve intuition. Every time that I’m scared now, is my body telling me I’ve got to do it. And for years, I did what was comfortable, I did things that I was naturally talented at. And I played within my comfort zone. And even if I was doing things that other people thought was scary, it wasn’t really for me was just, I’d sort of built up to that point. And I could kind of do it with my eyes closed. But now the scary stuff, the emails, I have to send the conversations I have to have, they’re the things that I think that is intuition with Rocket Power, that is the bit that really sends you on the direction, it’s your life compass. And you shouldn’t switch off from that fear, that fear. You should really focus on that and think, why am I scared of this? And just Anthony’s? Because he’s gonna make you bigger is gonna make you grow?
Christina Ambubuyog [48:06]
Yes, yeah. I’m really, really glad you brought up that connexion between fear and intuition? Because there’s such a subtle difference with those two feelings, where there could be fear, and intuitive fear, like you’re in danger, right? There’s that. And there’s also that fear of growth. But that’s actually trigger you to grow, right? The intuitive guidance of fear. And that’s such a huge thing, because people can misconstrue that fear into, oh, you know, listen to it. And, and like you said, and take the comfortable route, rather than stretch and grow. And to follow that, because I think of that as like that intuition, where we’re like, oh, yeah, I know, that feels good. But it’s like that nervous butterflies in your stomach are like, Oh, my gosh, I don’t know where it’s gonna go. But I feel like I have to go there. And you get that feeling where it’s like, you don’t know. But you feel like you have to, for some reason,
David Ralph [49:19]
every single day, every single day doing this job, since since I started it, because I never know if I’m going to be able to do it. Every time I have a conversation, it’s it’s going to be scary for me. And I’ve spent the last 25 years doing training courses when I’d have to stand up in front of people. And I would have those butterflies all the time, every single time. And it doesn’t matter if I’ve done the course 100 times before I would still get those butterflies. And I like them. It makes me feel slightly alive. It makes me feel slightly edgy, focused. And so when I press record, or when I open my mouth and start saying things, I’m kind of ready. It’s just, it’s it’s my little. It’s my little butterflies given me wings that I can fly. Oh, really? And I generally Yeah, I like them. I don’t find them scary at all. But I totally understand why people do find them scary.
Christina Ambubuyog [50:18]
Whoo. Yeah. I like that the wings that the butterfly wings, that fake you fly, have a good image of you with butterfly wings, David.
David Ralph [50:28]
There you go, you’re making me look like a big fairy. But that’s all I I don’t mind I go with anything you want Christina, just at the end of the show. Because we’ve gone into some quite sort of deep areas, what I want to do is just play the words of Steve Jobs. And this is the theme of the whole show. And as we talked right at the beginning, I kind of just reading the introduction felt that this would be a natural fit for you. But I’m going to play the words. And I’m just going to find out how it actually really makes you be able to Steve Jobs.
Steve Jobs [50:56]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [51:32]
So you have created your path. But where was your dot? Where was your big dot, the one that actually made Christina who she is today.
Christina Ambubuyog [51:45]
I believe that there are there’s two dots that they feel both is strong. And that would be when I was eight years old, my grandmother passed. And when I was 11, and I had spinal surgery, corrective spinal surgery for scoliosis is where I have a metal rod that runs along my entire spine. And when I was eight, my grandmother passed away. And she she came to me my dreams that night. And I remember waking up and being certain just certain as an eight year old child like, Oh, we don’t don’t really go anywhere. Like this body doesn’t, our soul doesn’t really go anywhere. And she’s totally okay. And, and then 11 when I was home from the hospital, and I was bedridden for a month and my father and I was on all kinds of painkillers, and I was in a lot of pain. And my father sat there and he meditated with me, he held my hands and I was in bed, I remember he held my hand. And he closed his eyes. And I had no idea what he was doing at the time. And, and I remember closing his eyes, and he was just breathing. And I honestly, I don’t know how much time passed by. But I remember that my pain went away. And and I remember as an 11 year old that I was like, there’s I don’t know what he just did. But there’s something else. Like there’s something more. And I believe that those two dots really propel me in this area of questioning spirit and questioning our souls and and there’s something that connects us all. And what is that? And how do we honour that? And how do we? How do we dialogue with that energy? And and it’s definitely the two dots that I feel when I think about like, how did I get here? And what opened me up? Those are the two?
David Ralph [53:56]
And do you find those words of Steve Jobs? Ready different throughout your life, always. It’s something that you gain an understanding of as you get older.
Christina Ambubuyog [54:07]
Oh, it’s totally relevant. I can feel I feel like after we get off, I feel like I want to draw a map.
And then like literally connect the dots, because I just think that there’s so many big and little turning points that really have brought me to this place. So I can see numerous times in my own life where it’s like, wow, that happened because of this, this happened because of that. But at the time, I have no idea what’s going on. Why is this happening to me? Where’s this all going? And to really see how much you know back to what we’re talking about before how much all of those dots created that richness in our life to where we are today?
David Ralph [54:58]
Well, let’s send you back into now this is the end of the show. And this is the piece that we call the Sermon on the mic. And we’re going to send you back to when you were a young girl. And if you could go back in time, what age would you choose them? What advice would you give them? Well, we’re going to find out because I’m going to play the theme to now and Europe. This is the Sermon on the mic.
Unknown Speaker [55:22]
Here we go with the best bit of the show.
Christina Ambubuyog [55:43]
Okay, so I am talking to talking to my 11 year old self. And you warned me about this, David that this might bring tears to my eyes. So I’m talking to my 11 year old self, right before I went to surgery for my spine. And and then as an 11 year old, I was terrified. I was terrified, terrified, I was being wheeled into the surgery room and I was just in tears. And so I am reminding my 11 year old self that there there there is no fear that fear is an illusion. And that you have that fear is an illusion that we can transcend these voices inside of us that tell us that there isn’t anything that we can’t, that what we want to do something that we can’t do. And to hold on to that part of you that loves, loves to draw, loves to dance, loves to pay loves the saying and and loves to read astrology books at 11 years old. And to continue to keep doing that and to to really honour that, that creative part of you because of that is going to still shine when you’re 35 years old. And you have no idea how amazing your life is going to be.
David Ralph [57:26]
Do you think Neil 11 year old will look at the 35 year old and be proud of what she’s become?
Christina Ambubuyog [57:35]
Yeah, definitely. Absolutely. Probably something that she never thought. didn’t even think that would be.
David Ralph [57:49]
Well, we’re proud of you too. And we’re so glad that you have been on the show. So all our audience out there that’s been listening to you be so open and generous with your your time and your memories today. How can I connect with you and I love intuition.
Christina Ambubuyog [58:04]
They can connect with me just visiting my website at I love intuition calm and joining the part of the community. Yeah, just being a part of our conversation and part of really opening up your own intuition and trusting that that is that secret sauce to propel you into finding your passions and sticking with your passions and moving in that direction. And Facebook page two is all set. I love intuition, as well as Twitter, as to
David Ralph [58:38]
where we will have all the links in our show notes. Thank you so much for spending time with us today joining those dots. And please come back again when you have more dots to join up. Because I do believe that by joining up the dots and connecting our pasts is the best way to build our futures. Christina, thank you so much,
Christina Ambubuyog [58:54]
David. Thank you. It’s an honour. I love this conversation. Thank you.
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