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Introducing Kimber Leigh
Todays guest, joining us on the Join Up Dots business coaching podcast interview is Kimber Leigh.
She is a lady who is tackling so many different areas, and subjects in her life that you kind of wonder where to start first?
She is an actress, producer, animal lover, TV host to name just a few of the things that fill her resume.
But the interesting thing to me is you would have expected her to start her career at drama school and be performing as Annie in local productions, but the truth is very much different.
For many years, since 1983 she was a fight attendant for America West Airlines, so she was certainly aiming high even in those days.
And since then the sky has literally been the limit and as an award-winning actress and film producer with more than 37 film shorts, eight feature-length films, several television roles, and a theatre play to her credit she has flourished in a business that has for many people brought them to their knees.
How The Dots Joined Up For Kimber
Over the years, Kimber Leigh has produced nine films one in which she played multiple characters including a man, and another called Veil, which helped her win awards as best actor in a film short.
And then if that wasn’t enough she decided that she could muscle into my territory and through her interview with the president of the Arizona Film and Media Coalition, Mike McGinn she won a Gold Hermes Award in 2010 for a television news interview
And now with her show “The Animal Rescuers” gaining a bigger and bigger and hugely loyal fanbase, she is in control of her destiny like never before, but you just know that he has only got to this point by hustling like crazy for many, many years.
So what was it about the airline industry that kept her working there for so long?
And how does she decide where she should channel her energies into next, with so many opportunities flowing round her?
Well let’s bring onto the show to start joining up dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs in todays Free podcast, with the one and only Kimber Leigh
During the episode we discussed with Kimber Leigh such weighty topics such as:
How as a five year old she had to fend for herself, and although a hugely difficult time now looks at it as an amazing gift to savour!
How her two biggest fears in life amazingly are acting and flying, and you can hear on the show where she spent most of her life!
The reasons why so many people think there is a quick path to success, and wont put the effort into achieve it!
Why she believes that there are no limits in life, and so we should take the top off everything and carry on going upwards!
If you don’t believe in yourself 100% then you can’t really expect anyone else to feel the same!
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Audio Transcription Of Kimber Leigh Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:27]
Hello, everybody, how are we? We all right, it’s Episode 172 of Join Up Dots. And as normal we are going to be having an amazing conversation with somebody who is motivational, inspirational, and quite simply has gone up her backside and done some amazing things with her life. And she is a lady who really is tackling so many different areas and subjects in her life, but you kind of wonder where to start first. She’s an actress, producer, animal lover TV host and then just a few other things that feel her ready my but the interesting thing to me is you would have expected her to start her career at drama school and be performing as an in local productions. But the truth seems to be very much different. But many years since 1983. She was a flight attendant for America West airlines. So she was certainly aiming high even in those days and see what I did. And since Ben, the sky has literally been the limit as an award winning actress and film producer with more than 37 Films short, eight feature length films several television roles and appear to play to her credit, she’s flourished in a business that has been many people brought them to their knees. Over the years she’s produced nine films, one in which he played multiple characters, including a man and another called Vale, which helped her win awards as Best Actor in a film short. And then if that wasn’t enough, she decided that she could muscle into my territory. And through her interview with the president of the Arizona Film and Media coalition Mike McGinn, she won a gold Hermes award in 2010 for a TV news interview. Now with her show, the animal rescue is gaining a bigger and bigger and hugely loyal fan base. She’s in control of our destiny like never before. But you know, just that she’s got to this point by hustling like crazy for many, many years. So what was it about the airline industry that kept her working there for so long? And how does she decide where she should channel their energies into next, with so many opportunities flowing around her? Well, let’s find out as we bring onto the show to start Join Up Dots. But one and only Kimber Leigh, how are you?
Kimber Leigh [2:32]
Oh, my goodness, I after that introduction, I’m wondering Is that really me?
David Ralph [2:39]
It’s a weird introduction, actually in it, because I’ll be honest with you, I’m looking at a picture of you, and you are a glamorous woman. But when you look at the sort of history, I almost feel like you should be about 110. Because there’s so much in it, isn’t it and it’s not even like stepping stones, you’ve done huge blocks of work in certain areas, which we are going to touch on. But um, we’ll leave that for the moment. So give us a sort of bit of an overview your kind of Hollywood area on you you’re you’re a Hollywood glamour by day.
Kimber Leigh [3:12]
Well, I’m I’m actually in Arizona, I’m outside of the Hollywood glamour, but I we are in the independent arena, which means we don’t have studio backing for the work that we do. We do it because we’re passionate. And we are creative and artistic and
just want to taste all of it.
David Ralph [3:37]
And so you really do have to hustle even more than without the sort of the backing of the big studios, you must have loads of projects that you passionately believe in, but get to a point that you just can’t get them off the ground.
Kimber Leigh [3:52]
That is correct there in the independent genre of filmmaking producing, etc. It is just you are a one woman or one man band. And your goal is to get other people to believe in you believe in your project, and help you to take it to the finish line. And oftentimes, you can create and do create, and you don’t get to the finish line. And that’s where I come in, I won’t give up I won’t stop until it is completed. And if only one person watches it, at least I’ve touched that one person.
David Ralph [4:31]
Have you always been that kind of ballsy get to the end kind of Gill?
Kimber Leigh [4:38]
Yes, I believe so. I know. It was from my upbringing. I it which wasn’t glamorous by any means, and was always basically pretty much alone and self sufficient, not by choice. So when when you’re being brought up, not by a village, but by yourself. You just look, it’s almost like survival of the fittest, how am I going to survive? How am I going to get to the next person, place or thing to be able to take care of yourself and survive and live. So I think that’s where that never give up. Lesson was learned at that age. And so as unfortunate as it may have been at that time, today, it is one of the greatest gifts that the universe has ever given.
David Ralph [5:35]
So so so well, I each kind of Gail will be talking about but you really had to fend for yourself.
Kimber Leigh [5:41]
As far back as I could remember, I I think the the most the age of recollection for me was probably around five or six. And anything prior to that I have no recollection of. But it was a very dysfunctional upbringing, not that my parents didn’t love us children, but more importantly, that they themselves didn’t know how to love those children. So they did the best that they could.
David Ralph [6:16]
And it’s funny, though, isn’t it? Well, it’s not funny, bad situation. That sounds terrible, be honest. But it is amazing. That’s a better way of saying it. But through our lives, quite often, the difficult times in our life do turn out to be the gift, like you say, you may not think at the time. And that’s one of the lessons that comes across on these shows time and time again, where people go, Oh, that was terrible that time in my life, I would never want to go through it again. But my I’m glad I did. And you really feel strongly about that was the gift that you had?
Kimber Leigh [6:47]
Yes, it’s it’s an extreme gift. And for a lot of people that do grow up either with dysfunction, failure, disappointment, etc. Quite often, they tend to blame their parents or they blame the situation. And I encourage anybody that’s listening, if you did have a difficult upbringing, start looking for the gift inside of that, because blame will not change the outcome. In fact, blame will only bring in more of that which you don’t want. So really do some soul searching. And there is a beautiful gift in there and focus on that.
David Ralph [7:29]
So So this sort of five and six year old, you are literally feeding yourself us or looking after yourself, or was it that you spent the days on your own, but you’d come home and dinner was waiting for you? How was it playing out?
Kimber Leigh [7:43]
Well, some of it was good. But then my mother, she suffered some mental issues, alcoholism. And my father was a very hard working man, he was trying to provide for his family. So he was never there. He was always working. And because and I don’t really know the personal relationship between my mother and my father, but they did the best that they could. So when I would come home from school, I would have to clean up the house or clean up the mess from my mother’s so that my father wouldn’t be angry. And, you know, there just was never going outside to play or having sleepovers, or all those wonderful things that children did. It was basically how, how can I keep my mom out of trouble? or How can I make my home life better for them. Because when you’re little like that you think it’s all your fault, or it’s something that you had done and but I had an experience at the age of five, where I was actually touched by the light. And with an angelic, you know, realm, I know this is going to sound really far fetched for some people that are listening. But I did write, we did do a film about it. And I talked about it in a book. But being touched by the light and being shown what your life was going to be like, and to know I and I knew that I was going to be a flight attendant that I was going to be an actor and but when you’re five years old, you see it and you know it, but no one tells you how you’re going to get there and how you’re going to do it. So I often think back had I not been touched by that light. Geez, I wonder where what where I would be.
David Ralph [9:37]
But but that’s a beautiful image, though, isn’t it is not something that any of our listeners would go that far fetched. I think all our listeners would go, Wow, I wish I had that. Because here I am. I’m in a crappy job. I’m in a crappy situation. And I haven’t got that lie. And I wish I could, you know, we talk all the time about finding your passion in that and that is so hard to find. So you’re giving your you get given a kind of almost blueprint to follow. That is it. That’s a double gift, isn’t it?
Kimber Leigh [10:08]
Yes, it is a double gift.
You know, sometimes it is so unbelievable, even to myself, I go back and say now Jeez, did that really happened to me. But yes, it did happen. I never told anybody about it until way, way, way, way later in life of, you know, very grown adult, did I ever expose that information because I didn’t think anybody would understand it. And I, to this day, don’t understand why I was so fortunate and so blessed. But I have to tell you that I am so glad that I was because of my other siblings didn’t fare as well. So I am just grateful. I am extremely grateful.
David Ralph [11:00]
So So you’ve got this blueprint, you’ve got this plan to follow. Was there any part of it, but you fold now actually, I don’t fancy this. I don’t fancy being an airline steward or an attendant or whatever they’re called in those days? What did you follow blindly the path because it was so strong to you.
Kimber Leigh [11:20]
Have the whole journey has been amazing. I want to say before I answer your question that my two biggest fears in life are flying and acting. And I mean extreme fears of both. But when I was little, and I knew that, that’s what I was going to be. I was I grew up in Pittsburgh, and I wanted to work for US Airways. It never happened, I moved to Arizona. And ironically enough, a friend of mine had had seen an ad in the paper for this new startup airline called America West. And they sent in my application without my knowledge. And so I got a letter from America West stating that I could come in and interview they interviewed approximately 5000 people for their startup airline, they ended up hiring 112. And I was going to be in class one of the airlines. So when they contacted me, and I did the interview, they wrote back and they said, you know you fit all of the qualifications, but our class is full, and you just cannot be a part of class one, we may remember you for class two. And I remember taking the letter and I ripped it up. And I thought to myself, I’m not a class to person, I know that this is where I have to be, I was told that this is where I will be. So I will just wait for that moment when I will be. And four days before the class started. They called me and they said that people had flunked their back exams and they had some openings with I’d be interested in being part of class one.
David Ralph [13:04]
So So what’s the difference between class two in class one banking, but
Kimber Leigh [13:08]
there wasn’t a difference. But for me, personally, for my life, for my goals and my dreams, I had to be in that initial group of people that we’re going to be the startup, it was just something that I never wanted to be number two and at anything, I always thought to push ahead and move forward. And it was just a very small obstacle in my mind. And it was one that I was going to overcome, because it just meant something to me.
David Ralph [13:40]
That says a lot about you, doesn’t it really because you know, you have overcome so many things, and you’ve done so much in your life. You know, I was joking at the beginning that you could be 110. But I could be but I’m looking at it. And there’s you must literally have obstacles every single day. So you can go back to that point where you get knock back and you go, No, that’s not a knock back. That’s a different way of thinking, isn’t it? So many people out there would look at that and go, Okay, I’ll go get a job at Taco Bells or something. But you you just didn’t believe it? Is it blind faith? Or is it just bloody mindedness? And is
Kimber Leigh [14:19]
it there is no such thing as blind faith, but there is such there is such a thing as unbelievable faith and being touched by the light at that young age, my faith is all I have. It’s if I there is no dollar value to it. It’s It’s a gift that I cherish each and every day. And you know, going back to the airline, there was no date for class to we didn’t even know if there was going to be a class to because it was the first deregulated airlines. So obstacles to me are GIFs because with each obstacle that the universe places in front of you, it’s it’s an opportunity for you to embrace it. And and look at it and dissect it. And, and it’s a gift, just open it up and look at it.
David Ralph [15:17]
So So when your friends send the resume in your your job application to America West, bear in mind, but when your big fears is flying, wasn’t ever part of you going, Oh my god, what are you doing? Now? I’m not ready for this? Or did you just go business part of the plan, and I’m going to go for it. Because that fear. I imagine most people it would just stop them in their tracks, I wouldn’t even go there, I would choose a different career. You know, if you’re if you’re scared of sharks, you’re not going to go in the water, you go in a swimming pool instead.
Kimber Leigh [15:50]
Absolutely, because I am scared of sharks.
But I prefer the air. I don’t know really what it was, I just knew that this was something that I had to do. And I don’t know, maybe secretly it was there was a part of me that wanted to get away from, you know, just every day doldrums. And in order to enjoy the dream, you have to take all those things that go with it. And my fear was, I suppose my fear wasn’t so much a flying but more importantly, never coming back home. So every time I would land, I would, you know, thank God for getting me home safely and pray about my next trip that it to would be safe. And in the interim of my career, I had four emergency landings. And one was really bad at one time. But I you know, I got home every day. And I had a wonderful successful career and I got to retire. And I know can fly anywhere in the world for free, which was, you know, a beautiful gift in itself. Don’t you do that? Then
David Ralph [17:08]
how’d you fly everywhere for free? Don’t you just have to stay with America West?
Kimber Leigh [17:13]
Well, I I wanted to end my career when September 11 happened. I saw the world firsthand for many, many years, I saw many religions, many walks of life, many cultures, many celebrities. I mean, I saw the world firsthand. It’s like I had a front row seat. And the world was incredible. It was beautiful. It was positive, it was vibrant. It was abundant. And then September 11 happened and I watched. I watched the world just stop completely like someone put on the brakes. And I watched fear take over and lack and poverty and freedoms just everything stopped. And so I knew that I didn’t want to live in that kind of world anymore. And my goal was to retire at that point. And because I knew that I had a plan B, which was be becoming an actor, I wanted to them pursue that portion of it. But being a flight attendant was my number one dream. And I fulfilled it. And so I know now that anything that I attempt to do, I will fulfil and complete.
David Ralph [18:34]
You feel so strongly, because most people just have wondering don’t leave but you seem to have a couple of dreams or maybe three or four dreams and you think that you will achieve all of them.
Kimber Leigh [18:46]
Absolutely. I mean, I was given a one way ticket as you and everybody else on this planet are week we get a one way ticket to our destination and it is up to us to you know, use it and and use it to the fullest because the greatest gift on earth is to live a full and complete life. And not everybody gets that opportunity, some diet, childbirth, some die. You know, as toddlers, some people die in their 20s 30s and 40s. So anything that you live beyond that it is your obligation to take your life and live it and do everything possible. That will make you happy, because you’re here to experience. I mean, that is what we’re all doing here. And some of us experienced to the nth degree and some of us just let life give us our experiences.
David Ralph [19:41]
Well, let’s play a speech that says that so marvellously This is Jim Carrey.
Jim Carrey [19:46]
My father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. Our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.
David Ralph [20:12]
So that’s really what you you know, you live your life by that, don’t you?
Kimber Leigh [20:16]
Yes, I attempt that every day.
David Ralph [20:21]
Is what those words mean to you, obviously, bear in you. But when you see so many people in the world today, kind of half buying into that, but not having the courage to really go with what he’s saying? Do you kind of look around and go? You’re just so missing a trick? Did you? Did you feel that there should be more more focus when they’re young, but they don’t have to follow a path that’s expected of them that they can really get that kick ass life that they want?
Kimber Leigh [20:52]
I yeah, I think that people in today’s world, they let the media, social media networking, whatever they let other influences determine what their daily goals and their futures will look like. And so many people and I, you know, I don’t want to judge these are just my opinion. But what I’m seeing is that nobody’s grabbing the bull by the horns and writing it. They’re watching other people write it, writing it and experiencing through other people. And if just everybody just did one little thing, and their little tiny universe to make one change for the betterment of society, then we would be looking at a greener, bluer, more beautiful planet.
David Ralph [21:47]
Well, your sounds pretty beautiful. You’ve got birds flying around your head at the moment. I mean, what what’s making all those squawking sounds?
Kimber Leigh [21:54]
Oh, I have two lovebirds upstairs. And they you can hear them.
David Ralph [21:58]
Y’all can hear them. Yeah. Okay. Like it’s flying around your room that you’re like in a tropical garden is lovely. So we’re people do you think they because I think that you were very subtle with what you were saying then because I would be a lot more harsh. I think that people are generally frightened of failing. So they don’t give it a go in the first place. And I think more often than not, people think that they can do something overnight, and they haven’t got the perseverance that success takes. And when you look at your career, the fact that the 21 years you was working in the airline industry. But it fascinated me that it said that during that it taught you all phases of the film industry, which is where you are today and it producer, director and actor in the cinema. So you could you kind of believe that you should pay your dues, you actually have to work at something to get to the next stage, where so many people now get that American Idol syndrome, as we call it, but I just think they can get up on stage and they can sing one song and way they’re playing Madison Square Garden for 16 nights.
Kimber Leigh [23:06]
Oh my gosh, you’re so correct. It’s either give it to me instantly. But it that’s the problem. It’s it’s a lot of work. When I started with the airlines, I wanted to be a flight attendant. And that’s what I was told I was going to be. But when I got into that,
we had to be we were cross utilised, we had to do the ticketing, we had to bring the planes and we had to do baggage, we had to do reservations. So the airlines taught us how the wheel goes around. And for me, I just thought that’s how life is you have to learn every aspect of it. Because if you only learn your job, you the company will not be successful or you will not be successful, you may do be doing your job great. But the rest, the other department is not. At the time I just disliked it. But as time went on, I saw the gift in it. And so when that career was over, and I started into the film industry, I realised that learning all phases, how to run the camera, how to direct how to produce, how to act, how to write, it is a beautiful learning experience. And if one area does not work for you, then you move into this area, maybe you’re better at producing than you are acting. So there’s no way you can fail. You have many hats you can wear.
David Ralph [24:40]
I agree with that totally. But I also when I was a manager up in a city of London, I used to make sure that if I had a team, I knew their jobs better than me, so that they couldn’t pull a fast one. And they couldn’t tell me they were busier than they were. And I would know the nuts and bolts of it exactly the same as what I’m doing now with this show. I know every single aspect of it. So if somebody comes and sort of like, assist me, I will know it better than them. And I think it’s an apprenticeship isn’t it is apprenticeship that you hone your skills, and it takes you to the next level. And for much of it. You can’t quite see the next level because it’s almost like a jigsaw puzzle. And it’s only when all the little areas fit together. You realise, oh, that’s built my step. I can bend step to the next level. But you need to learn everything about what you’re doing at that time.
Kimber Leigh [25:28]
Yes, you do. Because it’s it’s, it’s that is what’s going to make you successful this instant success. You know what, it’s almost a detriment, because what are you going to do after you instantly? Okay, you’re nobody today and then instantly The next day, you’re this humongous star. So what do you aspire to? What do you do? And I couldn’t imagine having to do that. I love the adventure, the journey, the learning experience, and it is hard work. You’re working at it every day, you have something on your plate to do every day.
David Ralph [26:06]
So So jumping into the glamour of Hollywood, because as we’re recording this, if he hasn’t got married he he’s just about to get married George Clooney. So he’s, he’s an A Lister. And he seems to just be totally at peace with being an A Lister, Hollywood star, where others you see them getting into trouble and fighting the system. And what what makes certain sort of Hollywood stars totally come in that environment when others struggle now you’ve got an insider’s point of view.
Kimber Leigh [26:37]
I believe that it is who you are surrounding yourself with negativity. It’s like the bowl of Cheerios, you you pour your bowl of cereal and you have six Cheerios floating over here and three floating over here. And there might be only one over here. So it’s who you attract, and who you draw to you. I see George Clooney, he worked really, really hard. I mean, he started and was it a sitcom or
Unknown Speaker [27:09]
dirty? Money? Yeah,
Kimber Leigh [27:11]
yeah, he did TV. And he started from the bottom. And he worked and worked and worked and continues to work his way up. The other people, they depend on their styles, their money or you know, things that they really didn’t have to work at. And what are they really contributing? So Hollywood is it has so much to offer? It’s just Who are you going to surround yourself with? And who who are you going to be? And what contribution Are you going to make to society, if anything at all. And I really admire George Kony, because his word was his want when he spoke of being a bachelor. He meant it, he didn’t speak it and then do the opposite of what his words were, or if he spoke of his success, he did just that. And that’s a lot of a lot of people use their words. And they don’t mean it. It’s, you know, say what you mean. And when you say it mean it when you say it,
David Ralph [28:20]
is that easier to do when you’re at the top? It’s, you know, I was speaking to somebody the other day, and she was quite open with me. She said, you know, at certain points of my life, I had to lie. And now I don’t, you know, go with lying, but how you got to do what you got to do to sort of open a few doors, when you get to the top? Is that integrity easier to hold? Or is it something that we should all, you know, show no matter what level we are?
Kimber Leigh [28:46]
Well, I don’t think there is such a thing as the top, because this is an unlimited universe. And you should never limit an unlimited universe. So to me, there is no talk, you just keep going. And you go and you go, because again, the gift here is to experience everything on this earth. And so if you are at the top, then there is nowhere else to go. So don’t there, take the lid off the top. And just keep going.
David Ralph [29:18]
So you believe in this sort of an analogy that you spend your time hustling and working, and you get to the top of the mountain and as you get to the top, you realise there’s another mountain behind, but you’ve got to go and it keeps on happening that way.
Kimber Leigh [29:32]
Yeah, there is there are no limits. What happens for me as I don’t go looking for the work, the work finds me. And it is because I believe that when you have faith and you pray, and you the your intentions are pure, and God knows your heart, then those things will be provided. It’s asking you shall receive. And so I have been very, very fortunate, I rarely had to go looking. Just for instance, the animal show that I’m doing. I had to I had two sheep dogs who are not my dream dogs in my life, and they both passed away. And it was very, very difficult for me during that period, because animals are unconditionally loving. They’re the only beings on earth besides mothers, and fathers that know how to love unconditionally. But when they passed away, my brother gave me a camera and said, Cisco find something to do get over this and stop thinking about it. So I put the camera on Facebook, and I said who wants to work with me? I have a beautiful camera. And a gentleman by the name of Corey Mandel wrote back to me and he said, Kimber, I don’t need your camera, but how would you like to host my animal show. It’s called the animal rescuers. And it knew that that came to me from another dimension.
David Ralph [31:05]
Well, it coming to date, but you only got it because you have so Didn’t you, you, you put yourself out there. And that’s the difference. If you just sit on your sofa, just waiting for the door to go, then probably nothing happened. But because you actually went to Facebook and you did something, which was, you know, you reach out. And that’s what so many people struggle with, they think they’re going to get knocked back so they don’t reach out and you you have a proof that you can reach out to strangers, and they will see something in you and more likely than not, they will try to help you in your dreams.
Kimber Leigh [31:38]
Yes, that is true. And I want to tell anybody who’s listening, when you do reach out, you have to reach out with the purest intent, intentions are huge, when that’s connected to anything that you want to do, because what will come back to you, it’s like the universe is your Genie, whatever you ask for it will give to you. So if the intention is pure, you will get that pure gift back to you if there is an ego attached to it, like look at me look at me or you know, for anything that is not good, you will get that too. So I believe that intention with anything connected, and that what you do is the biggest ingredient,
David Ralph [32:24]
you know, that is admirable for you to say that, but in your industry, there must be so many people that go a totally different way but you must come across and they are literally, you know, climbing over people to get to their perceived top.
Kimber Leigh [32:39]
Yes, I have seen it I have experienced it. And you know, all you can do is just bless them and and let them go. Because if you keep connected to them, you are forever, you know connected by a spiritual cord is the best way that I can describe it. But people have to understand that if if you don’t come from a point of desperation, my dear friend, core Roland taught me this is that never come from desperation. Because it’s it’s a lower vibration, it’s negative, you will only get that project with that lower vibration attached to it. So those people that are scratching and clawing and climbing over other people to achieve their good, they’re just going to run into that that will happen to them somewhere down the line.
David Ralph [33:37]
I remember Will Smith, he was on a British chat show. And he said basically he lives his life by being as nice as he possibly can to every single person he means and it doesn’t matter if it’s a taxi driver or dustman or, or a garbage collector, as you called him, he will be really, really kind because he says ultimately, my style is going to fade and I will go down and I will meet these people on the way down. And so I don’t want to sort of leave any bad feeling that’s going to come back and hold me but people are going to get this on me.
Kimber Leigh [34:08]
But what happens is we are all connected, we need the taxi driver to get us to our destination. And we need the grocery store clerk to bag of groceries. I mean, we need everybody. And although we are in entertainment, and our job is to entertain people, we need everybody that is on this earth. So you we are all equal. We’re not greater than we may believe differently, but nobody is greater than the person sitting next to them. We’re all human beings. Actually, actually we are spiritual beings having a human experience.
David Ralph [34:49]
So So push comes to shove, Kimber, we put you in a world full of animals because you are an animal lover, or world full of humans, which one would you go with?
Kimber Leigh [35:01]
No offence to all the humans out there. But I would live in the planet of unconditional love.
Unknown Speaker [35:10]
Because it was
Kimber Leigh [35:12]
yes. But the thing is this is that human beings we love conditionally accepting for our parents. And I don’t know why the the the unconditional love stops there, I have met people along the way that aren’t my parents that have loved me unconditionally. Yes, I wish that epidemic would catch. And if we were going to spread anything in the universe, that that would be the one thing that we spread. But it’s just that it’s it’s a lesson that they don’t teach in schools, the churches don’t teach it, it’s just something that is out there that nobody bothers to want to try on for size it is. But animals know how to do it, they. And if you want to learn anything about life, just watch nature. I mean, trees keep growing, the grass keeps growing. There’s it’s a very abundant, loving, beautiful world. And, but we place conditions on it if you don’t do this for me, and I can do that for you. And you know, just because so in the world goes round and round
David Ralph [36:23]
is astonishing to me, or it’s not astonishing now, but it was in the early days, how many successful people that I would interview on a daily basis, that would actually say that nature was their inspiration, especially the way nature just gets it done. And it takes its own time. But everything follows and everything grows and Ben dies being comes back to life again. Whereas humans, we think we can do it overnight. And it kind of comes back to that, that perceived overnight success, which is a problem for so many people and they won’t put the work in and they won’t put the effort in and have had the apprenticeship to get it done. But nature does. And do you find that with the Uber successful people, they seem to have more time they seem to be more in control, because they know what they need to do at the right time to get the results.
Kimber Leigh [37:15]
Yeah, I feel sorry for overnight successful people. Because if you follow their work or follow them at all, they they struggle and, you know, they there’s a lot of negativity attached to it. I mean, I, you know, without judging, again, I just look at that. And that is all to me is all ego driven. And the ego is not the heart centre, it’s not the Sacred Heart, you’re not coming from your heart there, it’s just, it has to be ego. Because if you’re, if you’re coming from your heart,
there’s so much love attached to it. And I,
I can’t go any further with that, accepting that just to say that, if if the dream was not placed in your heart at first, and the footsteps to get from point A to point B, then there are going to be some negative things attached to that. And the people that are overnight successes Now, unfortunately, are being our role models. And I that is what my hope and dream is to also be a role model for people who want to put in the hard work who want to experience the journey of getting from point A to point Unlimited, B, C, D, E, F, G, H, i, j, k, l m n, o p and keep going.
David Ralph [38:54]
It’s an exciting football, isn’t it to think that life is unlimited? You know, because I do know you, none of us are idiots. And we would know that most people out there who are scrambling around for a penny will have a different point of view. But actually, there’s no different point of view. If I take different actions and they take more responsibility for their actions, then life can get better. And I’ve proved that massively. Since I’ve done this for years, I was just an employee. And I would go to work. And no matter how hard I worked, I would get what I was paid, and the storey. And I kind of thought that that was how life is. But since I’ve started doing this, I’ve seen it in a totally different way. And it’s only over the last year or so. But I can just see that you you try things and you move and you create your own environment. And then things start gaining momentum and then it goes into a plateau for a while. But you just keep on working. And then something else happens and you speed forward a little bit. And then suddenly, you your success starts sucking in other people from around the world. And their success breeds your success and you keep going keep go and keep going. So life is abundant life doesn’t have any limits. But it’s very, very difficult. And I understand how difficult is when you are in a situation that you are scrambling around and you’re unable to, you know, think more of the day ahead to actually buy into that theory.
Kimber Leigh [40:18]
Yeah, and I think that’s a lot of what people are seeing right now. They they just see all the lack, and they’re not flipping, it’s just a flip of the switch. I mean, go take a walk in the park, look at a tree, it has roots, it you know, especially a large tree, and it just keeps growing and growing and growing. And it there is no lack unless you perceived lack. Again, if we are here to experience the universe will oblige and say okay, what do you want to see today, if you see lack will show you more of it because it’s an abundant universe. So it can abundantly show you you lack or it can abundant. Lee show you abundance and abundance doesn’t always necessarily mean success or money. You can be abundantly in love or abundantly in health, good health or abundantly happy, you know, people equate abundance to the green dollar bill. And my point of view on money is it is just the reward for the hard work for the journey that you’re doing. And so if we flip the switch on what abundance looks like each and every person can experience that every day.
David Ralph [41:38]
So if we kind of jumped back into your actual career, when you went into the film industry, did you have a total belief that you was going to succeed in that environment as well? you’d already been 21 years as a flight attendant, you go into a new industry, how did you knock down the doors? How did you make the opportunities to go in to a new world?
Kimber Leigh [42:03]
You know, again, it just happened it was I was after I was not a flight attendant anymore. I went again, my goal was to be an actor, and I was bartending at the time for a side job to get some money, I needed money. And while I was at work, I looked on the wall and a director came in and he was filming a movie. And he was going to do the auditions at the bar where I was ending. The movie was called the 49th line. And what captured my heart was he said, Who wants to live my dream with me. And I thought, wow, this guy has a dream. And I could be a part of his dream how exciting. The only problem with that was that I was bartending and I was the one that had to serve all the people that were going to be auditioning. So I asked one of the producers, if I could be the last person to audition, could I have an opportunity. And after a served 120 people, they let me do a very quick audition. And I ended up getting the part, it was in a full feature length film in 2005. And it never stopped since then it just kept going. However, I knew that being in in the independent arena, there was going to be no money. Just like when I was with the first deregulated airline. I thought there was money, I thought there was glamour because there was before, but being deregulated kind of a like a negative word attached to the job. I understood going into it that it was going to be there. The the money was not going to be there, it was going to be a lot of hard work and a very long journey. But I took it any way because again, I knew in my heart that this is long as I believed I could make it happen.
David Ralph [44:06]
Is that the key thing is that the key sort of phrase to this episode, but if you have belief, then you can make things happen. And that’s that’s the bottom line.
Kimber Leigh [44:18]
It is the bottom line. Because let me ask you this, if you don’t believe in you, then how in the world would you expect anyone else to believe in you, because they’re already not. If you don’t believe in you, they’re already not going to believe in you. And guess what, that’s none of your business Anyway, what other people think or believe about you. So it really does begin with you. I believe in me, I’m going to continue to believe in me, it is none of my business if ABC or D do not believe in me, but it is my business to keep going and keep believing. And eventually, you will run into the person that believes in you and will take you to the next level.
David Ralph [45:01]
how close you been to be a young girl that’s sort of five year old girl, because one of the things you’ve obviously found your path, and you are hugely passionate. And one of the things which is amazingly easy, I suppose. And I’m finding that now. But even though I do incredibly long hours, probably, you know, double the hours I was doing in corporate land, because I love doing it. It doesn’t feel like work. And it seems to me in that kind of area, you seem similar, but you are willing to get up and hustle and go through extra hours, hours and hours because you generally love it. But if you go back in time, is there a connexion to that young five year old to who you are now? Have you got that passion? That was always in you, you’ve just managed to draw it out somehow?
Kimber Leigh [45:50]
Yes, because I always tell people, it’s funny because you said I sound like 110 Well, I always tell people I have Peter Pan syndrome, I am never going to grow up. I am an eternal being. And I placed no age on myself. So I am very I am that little girl, I am extremely connected to her. We are one and we go on every day. And I love the essence of the use. You can be old if you want to be or you can be forever young, if you want to be
David Ralph [46:26]
because the tagline of the show is connecting our past to build our futures. And one of the things that came out very early in the day was but if somebody needs to find their passion in life, really look at what you did as a young kid, and you didn’t get paid for it. You just love doing it and try to find, you know, try to get back to that state. But unfortunately in life and through education and getting jobs and stuff, we kind of forget that. Is that an important thing that we should be getting out to the audience as well that although they might think that they’ve got the responsibilities of the world on their shoulder by kind of get back to a three year state, which will actually take them forward?
Kimber Leigh [47:06]
Yes, absolutely. I want people to dream and keep dreaming and and not only dream, but do it be you know, make it happen. I don’t care who told you you can’t do it? I hear it all the time from family and friends. You can’t do that you can’t do this. Yeah, well, guess what? Maybe you can’t, but I can. So don’t tell me your limitations. For anybody that is stuck, get unstuck. You can do it right now. It’s just a flip of the switch, the light is on, the light is off. It is that simple. You just have to have the intention to want to do whatever it is, is it’s placed in your heart, the whispers that are placed in your heart. were planted there before you got here you have to fulfil, are those you have to to complete the job? And even if it seems impossible, you have to get it done. You have to do it.
David Ralph [48:10]
You kind of almost have to make yourself quiet for a while, don’t you? I think that in life nowadays, it’s such a fast pace. And we’ve always got our mp3 players in areas and we’re on the on the computer and we’ve got our phones out. And we are just totally, totally going over time. And I think to actually find what we’re talking about and find that passion. You’ve got to sit back and just be quiet and not let anything bother you for a while don’t you?
Kimber Leigh [48:38]
Yes, you do. Because again, the mind is the ego. It’s the it’s like a computer and we are being fed informations. So rapidly, I don’t know how we not imploding right now, but the mind is the it’s the one that tells you you you can or be little Jim or put you down but you You are so correct. You get quiet inside your heart, everything you need. I mean, is it any coincidence that there are over 7 billion people on the planet, and we have over 7 billion cells inside of our body. If we turned ourselves inside, we are a walking universe inside of our bodies. That’s how majestic we are. We are incredible, beautiful, talented beings who don’t have limits. We place the limits there. So if you know that you are an entire universe, how could you not keep going?
David Ralph [49:41]
Oh, well, what a lovely statement that was. That was that was inspiring. That was I’m going to play some words now from somebody else who left us with some inspiring words. And this is Steve Jobs. And this is the theme of the whole show. So um, he said this back in 2005, and I think is worth listening to now this is Steve Jobs.
Steve Jobs [49:59]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [50:34]
Well, I’m usually came back, it seemed like your dots were already given to you. So it wasn’t really offer. Well, one part of you, you’d already got shown your path.
Kimber Leigh [50:45]
Yes, and thank goodness that I did because it wouldn’t have fared well for me. Had I not and I’m not any special. I’m not any more special than anybody else. But I prayed so much the only thing that I had to turn to was God when things were so bad. And so because I turned to my Creator, I was given my blueprint, we all can be given our blueprint at no matter what age if we asked for it.
David Ralph [51:21]
So so do those words have resonance to you, though, even though your path has been slightly different?
Kimber Leigh [51:27]
Oh, absolutely. Because Because I was given a blueprint, believe me, it was not an easy journey. It was I, if you really delved into my life, you would go Oh, my gosh, you are a miracle. Because there’s no reason in the world. Why, why I should be where I’m at today, I had every reason to not be the person I am. I had to fight I had to struggle I had to I was alone and no support system. It was no that it was a complete struggle, Steve Jobs is correct. You just have to cling on to whatever small iota of faith that you have, and just hold it and don’t let it go. Even if your hands are bleeding, and you are tired, you keep going.
David Ralph [52:20]
So if I really put you on the spot now and said in your timeline, is there one big dot that really made you who you are today? Could you sort of zoned in on one?
Unknown Speaker [52:34]
Yes, I could.
Kimber Leigh [52:37]
And I would have to say that,
that one big dot would be the loss of my two brothers who committed suicide. When I was in my I was very young, and because they weren’t given a blueprint, and they
didn’t have a chance. So
for them, and for every other person out there who has lost faith, I want to be that inspiration. I want you to look at me and say, Wow, you know, I’m not any more special than anybody else. But faith and belief in God and to make this world a better place. So people like my brothers don’t have to do what they did, to be able to find love and know love and understand.
David Ralph [53:37]
I’m obviously you know, it’s almost a stupid question. but bear with you constantly. Do you actually feel that every challenge that you overcome, now you are actually doing it for them?
Kimber Leigh [53:49]
No, because I’ve left there on the other side doing what they need to do. And I really don’t carry them with me every day, because that’s not fair to them. But what I do what I when I do close the door on that. I’m just open to love and to just do the best that I can do I want to every day be better. I tell people don’t be like me, please do not be like me, but you can do me a favour and be better than me. And I don’t cling on to their to them. But I cling on to the fact that I can make a difference for somebody else in their world.
David Ralph [54:30]
Well, let’s give you the opportunity to make a difference to somebody else. And this is the end of the show. This is the bit we call the Sermon on the mic when we send you back in time to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time and speak to the young Kimber, what advice would you give? And what age would you choose where we’re going to find out because I’m going to play the tune and when it fades out, you’re up this is the Sermon on the mic.
Unknown Speaker [54:57]
Here we go
David Ralph [55:00]
with the best bit
Unknown Speaker [55:00]
of the show.
Kimber Leigh [55:16]
if I had to go back and talk to my younger self, I would like to choose the age of 17. And I would say to that very scared, mix up by herself lonely little being that you are never alone. You are surrounded constantly by love, unconditional love, and guidance. And to don’t give into the fear. The fear is just the illusion out there, that it is something that we have a choice. That little girl has a choice to choose the fear or to choose the love. This is a universe that is wonderfully, beautifully experienced. It’s up to you. What do you choose? It’s like a buffet of entrees and what meal Do you want to eat on that day. But for that, if there’s any scared young 1718 1920 year olds out there that are alone, please You are not alone. Please try to choose the positive path. Pray for someone to be placed in front of you that will put their arms around you and guide you. And if you can’t find that person right away, do not give up. They are there. They do love you. You will be guided you can go on you can do anything that you want to do. You have to believe in you. You have to love you in order to love anybody else or anything on this planet. It does all begin with you go inside of yourself. All the answers are there. All the love is there. It is abundant inside of you. And with all my heart I love that little girl
David Ralph [57:23]
Kimbo How can our audience connect with you
Kimber Leigh [57:27]
they can reach me on facebook.com slash Kimber a Lee you can email me at Kimber a le g h at em HPC calm you can find me on Twitter at Kimber a Li and also I host an animal show called the animal rescuers. You can find us on I family tv.tv if you’d like to see some of the episodes, and if you are struggling, if I can help you in any way, please, I’m here I would love to be an inspiration for you.
David Ralph [58:07]
Thank you so much for spending time with us today. joining up those dots Kimberly and thank you for being so open and generous as well. Please come back again, when you have more dots to join up because I do believe that by joining those dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. Kimberly, thank you so much.
Kimber Leigh [58:23]
I am so eternally grateful, David, thank you so so much. It’s been a pleasure and you have a phenomenal voice.
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