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Introducing Heather Strang
Heather Strang is our guest today on the Join Up Dots business coaching podcast.
She is a lady who has one of the biggest smiles I have ever seen, and it’s not surprising to me.
It seems to me that she is someone who has found her thing in life..
And when you find your thing in life, you cant stop smiling as everything comes together and leaves you feeling great and full of the kind of energy that most people don’t get to feel everyday.
As she says in her own words “You have the right to glow with love, to radiate positive energy, to live fancy-pants, to talk to trees/animals/nature/God, to eat an entire chocolate bar in one sitting, to dance with magic daily, to toast every moment of joy, to sleep in most days, to smile at everyone, to take the uncharted path, to receive millions just being who you are, to love whomever you desire with the fullness of your heart. You have the right to make this your most rockin life yet. No apologies, no diminishment of self. Just all you, being your all”
Wow, that is nothing short of amazingly positive
She began her journey towards this state of “”Wow” when she left her practical, corporate job in Marketing and Public Relations over 9 years ago—with all of it’s bonuses, benefits, and cash—to follow her lifelong dream of being a writer, and started up her own business as a freelance journalist.
But even though she had taken the leap of faith, she felt in her heart that she still hadn’t found her path.
How The Dots Joined Up For Heather Strang
She had started walking along the path, but hadn’t taken the right turning and found her own path. She knew that she needed more.
And that came after the removal of an ovarian cystic tumor, and weekly visits to a many different therapists and medical practitioners.
She was gaunt, had zero energy, and felt helpless, so at the suggestion of a friend, she took a drastic step towards healing.
She went and booked a two and a half week trip to a remote Brazilian village and received psychic surgery from renowned healer, John of God.
And that was the moment when her path changed direction and led her to where she is today. as an author, regular contributor for The Huffington Post, Master Success Coach, and Certified BodyTalk Practitioner.
Her books include “The Quest: A Tale of Desire & Magic” (currently being optioned as a feature-length film), “Following Bliss,” and “Anatomy of the Heart: Love Poems.”
So does she look back on her life and see the dots joining up to where she is now?
And is she like so many other people who are bemused when they now reflect on why it took so long to find their thing?
Well lets find out as we bring onto the show, to start joining up dots with the one and only Heather Strang.
During the episode we discussed such weighty topics with Heather Strang such as:
Why it is so important to dress for success everyday of your life, and not always wait for a better day to come along.
How she had a realisation that her life was connected to her younger version, by a triangle which appeared on her forehead one morning.
How she doesn’t believe in coincidence at all, but would rather consider those strange things that happen to us all as “Simply Magic”
Why we should try to put a bubble around ourselves to stop any negativity from getting into our lives everyday.
If the path feel light and easy, then follow the path. If it feels hard and full of fear then don’t…….job done!
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Full Transcription Of Heather Strang Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Yes, hello there everybody across the world in internet land. I used to say that over 270 shows ago and then I stopped for some reason but it is true. We are connecting the world through the power of the internet. So wherever you are listening, thank you so much for being with us today. It’s an absolute honour to introduce you to today’s guest. She is a lady who has, quite frankly one of the biggest smiles I’ve ever seen. And it’s not surprising to me as it seems to me that she is someone who has found her thing in life. And when you find your thing in life, you can’t stop smiling is everything comes together. leave you feeling great and follow the kind of energy that most people don’t get to feel every day. And she says in her own words, you have the right to glow with love to radiate positive energy to live fancy pants, to talk to trees, animals nature gods to eat an entire chocolate bar in one sitting, the dance with magic daily to toast every moment of joy to sleeping most days to smile at everyone to take the Uncharted path to receive millions. Just being who you are, to love whom ever you desire with the fullness of your heart. You have the right to make this your most Joaquin life yet no apologies, no diminishment of self, just all you being your own. Wow. That is nothing short of amazingly positive. She began her journey towards a state of well, when she left her practical corporate job in marketing and public relations over nine years ago with all these bonuses, benefits and cash to follow a lifelong dream of being a writer and started up her own business as a freelance journalist. But even though she had taken the leap of faith, she felt in her heart that she still hadn’t found her path she had started walking along the path, but hadn’t taken the right turning and found her own path. She knew that she needed more. And that came after the removal of an A Varian, cystic tumour and weekly visits to many different therapists and medical practitioners. She was gold had zero energy and felt helpless. So at the suggestions of a friend, she took a drastic step towards healing booking a two and a half week trip to remote Brazilian village and receive psychic surgery from renowned healer john of God. Never heard of him, but we’re going to discuss john of God. And that was the moment when her path changed direction and led her to where she is today. And as an author, a regular contributor for the Huffington Post, Master success coach and Certified BodyTalk Practitioner, she’s found her thing her books include the quest of a town of design and magic, commonly being optioned as a feature length film, following bliss and anatomy of the heart love poems, so that she looked back on her life and see the dots joining up to where She’s now and she’s like so many other people who are actually bemused when they now reflect on why it took so long to find their thing. Well, let’s find out as we bring onto the show, to start joining up dots with the one and only Heather Strang. How are you Heather?
Heather Strang [3:15]
Oh my god after an introduction like that, how could I not be feeling amazing? And that was incredible. Thank you, David.
David Ralph [3:21]
You’re absolutely welcome is it is a wow, when I was reading that. Fancy Pants. I’m gonna get straight to fancy pants. How? How do you live fancy pens? Because I don’t think in the United Kingdom. We have fancy pants because pants over here, his underwear over there. It’s trousers, isn’t it?
Heather Strang [3:41]
Well, you got my meaning Exactly. Because what I really meant was fancy pants and the British terminology. And it’s sort of just this fun thing that I like to say, to bring light to the fact that we really get to live outside of survival mode. I felt I lived so long in survival mode. I was like, Oh my god, I can buy the fanciest panties that I want. I can do whatever I want. That was just like one of the things that was like, Whoa, I don’t have to live in survival anymore anymore.
David Ralph [4:11]
Do you know I’m desperate to ask what the fanciest panties you asked, but I can’t do that. I can’t do that. Maybe we discuss up off air. How about that. But that’s another conversation. It’s a nice image to have, isn’t it that you are wearing your fancy pens and every day you’re getting on and putting your, your special ones on and not the ones that you’re saving for a special occasion? You’re basically making the special occasion every day did you do you feel about?
Heather Strang [4:39]
Absolutely. So I really feel like we always have an opportunity to find the silver lining the cause for celebration and every day. And you know, when we’re living in scarcity mode, which again was the mode that I was living in for so long in my life, it was like I’m saving that for a rainy day, right? I’m not gonna wear the really nice outfit until this time or I’m not gonna Going to eat that piece of chocolate cake. Because no I need to wait. And, you know, work out more before I do that just as always putting off the joy of life. And I made a commitment to myself to just stop that. And really let every day be the day that I wear my fanciest panties, my best clothes, eat that chocolate cake if I want to, you know, just really allow everyday to be a cause for celebration, and it’s just so much more fun way to live. I mean, it just it has changed everything for me.
David Ralph [5:28]
You know, I don’t think we’ve had a type of conversation like based in 2075 episodes, but it must your mind in a different stage. Really, if you get up dressing for success, looking through your wardrobe and thinking, right, I’m going to feel as good as I possibly can by looking as good as I possibly can. It’s got to set your mind you know, a very positive way I I basically get up and I’ll be honest with you, however, I’m not the most clothes z person in the world. So I kind of get up and I look like a I’m just about to decorate a room, I kind of come into close, I think I will no one’s gonna see me, I’m gonna be in a recording studio all day, it doesn’t matter. But I suppose it does matter, doesn’t it and you should make that bit of effort.
Heather Strang [6:12]
It feels so good. I mean, when I work with my clients we I work with, you know, women primarily. And we talked about this, like, choose the outfit that’s going to just make you feel the best about your body and the best about who you are, even if like I work from home, and my clients are all over the world. So I’m not seeing people in person on a regular basis. But I want to feel good, I go to the grocery store. And I used to just be like, whatever, you know, like sweats and yoga pants all the time. And now it’s like, I want to really feel good about how I’m showing up in the world because it feels good to me not even because it’s about anyone else. It doesn’t mean I’m in high heels every day, but it means that everything I’m putting on and the food that I’m putting in my body and the people that I’m talking to and the media that I’m taking in, are all aimed at like I’m taking this in and wearing this because it makes me feel good about it. Me.
David Ralph [7:01]
And in the introduction, obviously, it was quite a lengthy introduction because you you’ve got quite a story that’s led up to this point. But there was a time then. But you didn’t feel Wow. On a daily basis you felt anything about. Exactly.
Heather Strang [7:15]
Yeah. I mean, I grew up in a poverty environment, and there was a tonne of negativity. I was probably one of the more the most sarcastic, cynical people you would have ever met.
David Ralph [7:29]
No, don’t you?
Heather Strang [7:31]
Well, it’s really fun. A lot of times I like wit now a little bit more sarcasm, can take digs, you know, and can have some negative connotations. And that’s certainly where I was at with it. I was like, Oh, the world is happening to me. You know, I was really like, unable to see the magic that was all around me. And so it’s been a huge transformation. I feel like, you know, the joining of the dots is happening, you know, on a regular basis, we’re given the next piece and the next piece in The next piece to be led to more and more of who we really are and who we really are, is magnificent. And it’s like we forget. And we’re on this process of remembering.
David Ralph [8:10]
So, so cutting to the chase, and we will sort of lead back to this point in the episode. How much of you at the moment is, as we say, just being who you are in the intro, you said to receive millions just being who you are. And I know what you mean by that. Because when you are truly authentic, then you radiate a quality that other people haven’t got. And if that that quality hits, people that love that quality, that’s where the value comes to you. So how authentic Are you compared to what you used to be?
Heather Strang [8:41]
Oh my gosh, I wouldn’t. I mean, it’s been a journey, but I went through a period where it was like, no more secrets. Like we’re just being we’re being totally open and vulnerable, and learning intimacy and learning vulnerability. And, yeah, I mean, everything that I do is an expression of who I am. And that’s like, it’s been a huge shift for me. And that’s where you find your alignment, just like you said, I mean, I really didn’t start stepping into the wealth and the abundance until I started just fully being who I was, and letting that be how I showed up in the world. And that’s when you know, the money. You know, I talk a lot about this with folks, like the money is not the number one thing but the money lets you know, when you’re in alignment with your core self and who you really are.
David Ralph [9:26]
Because so many people hear that word of abundance, and they think, Oh, it’s a bit woo woo is a bit. It’s a bit the secret. You hear it all the time. But it’s true, though, isn’t it is true. But once you get to that point, but you are playing to your strengths, then life becomes fun somehow. And you want to put more into that and then you get the value. It’s a win win and abundance is all around us. But you can’t see it until you start to see it.
Heather Strang [9:53]
Absolutely. And the more you focus on it, and I hear what you’re saying about abundance, be like a woo woo word. I’m here in Portland, Oregon. Where we love the Whoo. But when we’re talking about abundance for some people Cash Money isn’t the thing that like, you know really Jazz’s them but having you know, I have a friend who like she would always get like free travel upgrades and you know, free this and free that and that really lit her up. So the abundant
Unknown Speaker [10:17]
did she did that though?
Unknown Speaker [10:20]
Well, she was she
David Ralph [10:21]
was she pretty.
Unknown Speaker [10:23]
She was very
Unknown Speaker [10:24]
proud, man. Yeah, that’s how it works.
Heather Strang [10:28]
But I that’s not my thing. That’s not what I get. And I have other friends who get wealth and other different ways. So it’s just like, it comes to us in the ways that it’s easiest for us to accept and the ways that are the most fun and we can start being more intentional about that. And then it just becomes like this really cool game that we get to play with the universe to see hey, let’s see what happens next. Let’s see what I can attract next. from a place of, you know, fun and lightness, and not from a place of like greed or desire to just have to have this is really about enjoying your life and we have all of this energy around us that we can play with and work with and have fun with.
David Ralph [11:06]
So if we take you right back to the little Heaven, I love doing this. And you’re eight years old and you’re running around in the garden and you’re coming back from school. What would she have thought of you now? Are you just a medium miles away? Are you very close to actually that young Heather, but was first walking around in the garden at the age of eight?
Heather Strang [11:28]
There were scenes definitely, I think that she would be astounded because I’m continually astounded. Like, really, I get to do this. This is my life. I have moments of that regularly. But you know, it’s great. And what I love about your what you’re doing with this show, David is that I can see I had a moment actually a couple of days ago, where I realised that that seemed to be who I am right now. You know, was there the whole time yet? I did not know that. I mean, we were in such a different environment. I mean, the biggest thing I could dream about was you know, maybe I’ll get married and have some kids but there was never, there was never any context for what I’m living right now. Not even close.
David Ralph [12:07]
So So tell us about what happened a couple of days ago, how did you feel connected to your younger self?
Heather Strang [12:14]
Well, it this is we’re going to go all the way to the whoo with this story. But it was really profound for me. When I was born, I had three, like moles in the middle of my forehead that were in the shape of a triangle. So they’re like three or little freckles and the shape of a triangle. And over time, I grew out of that, like they just faded away and went away as birthmarks often do. And I, when I went to Brazil to john of God, and had that transformative experience, I brought back with me a prayer triangle, which they have all over the Casa. And every morning, I do my prayers. I leave my forehead, up against the triangle, just like you do in Brazil and I say my daily prayers, and I got out of my prayer space and I went to the mirror to like, I don’t know Start working on my hair to get ready for the day. And I noticed that there was a triangle imprinted into my forehead and the exact place that those freckles had been as a child.
David Ralph [13:10]
But wasn’t that just that you were leaning against a triangle?
Heather Strang [13:13]
Yes, exactly. Yes. But it was like it was set up for me this whole time and I didn’t even know it. Like I came into the world with that. But I didn’t discover john of God and this whole experience until 2008. And now it leaves every time I do my morning prayers. It leaves that same little mark that I had on my forehead that I was born with
David Ralph [13:33]
it do you connect to those so coincidences? Did you see them as coincidences? Or do you just see them as things that happen? Because you’re putting yourself out there, you’re, you’re seeking out new opportunities.
Heather Strang [13:45]
I call it magic. And I have the experiences every day and I don’t believe they’re coincidences. I don’t believe in coincidences at all. I believe that everything that’s happening is communication for us and guiding us and just giving us affirmation. Support like that was, am I I teared up, I totally thought I was going to start sobbing, like when I had that realisation like, I was always going to be here and I didn’t know it. And I went through such a hard time in my childhood, that it was just so affirming, like, I was always going to be okay, I was always going to be here. And it was, it just astounded me and felt really magical and miraculous for me. And those are the moments I live for. And because I pay attention to them, and I honour them as magic, I have them all of the time. And I love it. It makes me so happy.
David Ralph [14:31]
Well in this room what you do now so all the listeners out there are hearing this conversation and they might be thinking, How does she earn money? What does she do on a daily basis? Why is it so good? And then we will start looking at your career how you got to this point. So how what do you do what is sort of Havers normal day?
Heather Strang [14:50]
Well, yeah, but the days are always different but I what I’m how I’m framing it, how it’s been framed to me, I should say in my meditation This came in recently, as I was preparing For gliding into 2015 is I am what you would call a new paradigm spiritual teacher. And I’ll be working more with that concept. But really my whole gig is supporting other people who are called and living their souls purpose and living a Spirit led life and their business and in their love life and in every way, and creating a lot of magic and romance and sexiness in their life. And I support people through the modality of Body Talk soul alignment, through upliftment through reminding them of who they really are through my novels. So there’s a lot of different ways that we can share together to go higher into who we really are. That’s my gig right now,
David Ralph [15:42]
and how do you connect with people because the guys listening to this show more often than not are in a cubicle or in a job that they don’t like? And we’ve had a few people that have framed bear life pretty much like you have. And the thing that I get emails about is Oh, yeah, This show, but how do they find the clients? How do they connect? How do they bring value to them to ultimately provide income? How do you do it?
Heather Strang [16:11]
That’s a perfect question and the the the general like broad answer is when you are living your truth and you’re clicked into the path of your destiny, the people just come to you but the the main vehicle that people have found me through has been Facebook which surprised the hell out of me. I no idea was going to go like that. But literally people will be like, I’ve been seeing your posts. I had a dream about you. I know I’m supposed to work with you. I mean, it is always people are called to work with me. They just know and they just come to me and so what I tell folks is that when you make your alignment with your soul’s purpose, and your destiny in this lifetime your focus the people come to you you’re guided to the right you know events if you need to put yourself out there you’re guided to the right social media, that will be the best expression You know, for me, it’s Facebook for other people, it’s Instagram or Twitter, like, you’ll be guided to the best way to make an impact. And then the people, they just start finding you. And sometimes they don’t even know how people will be like, I think I saw a link from another friend to another friend or, I mean, it’s just, it’s, it’s magical. But when we make our focus our soul alignment and living our purpose, instead of how am I going to get get get, things just start flowing. And so I that’s, you know, what I support people with is really being in that flow so that we’re not having to effort and make things happen. We’re really able to work with the energy that’s around us and with our soul to allow what we desire to happen.
David Ralph [17:38]
Now, I haven’t seen your Facebook page, but I would pretty much swear but there’s not many posts, but say, I’ve had a crappy day to day and life is just rubbish. I bet they’re all pretty much positivity. So people do pick up on that don’t know, and it’s one of those things that people need positivity in their life. And if they’re not gonna directly Where do you get it? You go virtual world and it is a world of opportunity now for anyone, isn’t it to create a business, if they frame it in a way that life is good for me, then people will look at you and go, I want a better but why is it good for her? How she done it?
Heather Strang [18:18]
Yeah, we all the thing is is innately we know that we all deserve to have that. And I take it as a personal responsibility of being here in this lifetime to only put positivity out into the world. I am not benefiting anyone. If I’m cranky pants like that is not helpful. And so I’m just I take that is my responsibility. I do billboards with an organisation in Portland called the joy team, and we put positive messages on billboards. Like I am just 150% committed to it. We’ve got enough negative messaging, we don’t need more of it. I’m certainly not going to contribute to that. So I have a sense of like, real obligation and responsibility around that and it just feels good. just feels so good.
David Ralph [18:58]
So you’ll you’ll know it It has been slightly strange because most people build up to a leap of faith. But you’ve actually had like two leaps of faith Avenue because you were the Director of Public Relations at West Side promotions and a lot of what you did, I thought, I can’t imagine you doing this cold calling lead generation, but you were very good at it. He was a high sales performer. But then you decided to quit that or a little bit further along the line to become a writer. And then you decided to quit that again and go off and sort of find your your true thing. How much of that cold calling was you playing a part? Or how much of it was you at that time? Because I couldn’t imagine each you have a to be honest.
Unknown Speaker [19:39]
Oh, no, it was.
Heather Strang [19:43]
Those were tough times. Um, you know, my life has been a series of leaps of faith, and I don’t think that ever stops. I don’t think there’s one and then we’re done. I’m sure there will be several more I feel like this next. 2015 is really asking me to make more leaps of faith like we just keep being asked to show up for our lives. Life and our path and because I’m committed to being spirit lead in my life, like it just keeps showing up. But I will say that, you know, one of the things that a lot of business owners struggle with is marketing PR. And I spent 10 years doing that stuff. I don’t have any problem with it. And I can see now that that was all preparing me for this. And the sales piece I’m not, you know, I’m definitely my quote unquote, sales. Pitch is definitely different than, you know, a traditional environment. But I feel like that prepared me to be able to connect with a lot of different people. I was always outgoing and loved people. And so I feel like each piece was leading me to here to a place where I’m really supporting people and showing up for them and I freaking love it. And I’m able to market myself really effortlessly and do my PR, because I did it for 10 years. And even though at that point, it felt like soul draining, you know, I did not love it. I’m like, Oh, that’s why I had to do that. Like literally every single thing that we’re doing is preparing us for the next piece. And the next piece it is never like, Oh, that was just a waste of time. It’s never like that it’s always supporting us
David Ralph [21:09]
is an absolute key thing to life that no experience is wasted. And I think the the vibe of this show really emphasises that if you are in a job that you don’t like, then try to transition to one that you do like by becoming very good at something in that job. But you do like everything is like a learning period, isn’t it? But you can go, I don’t like doing cold calling. I don’t like doing lead generation. But I do like writing commercial scripts for radio. That’s what I will focus in on and you use it as a stepping stone to your next stage. But I think so many people out there just go Arby’s is rubbish, everything’s rubbish. I can’t wait till Friday. Let’s meet down the pub and so we can slag off the bus. And then we go again on Monday and I don’t see that actually. You’ve got an opportunity whilst you’re in that job. To to create something.
Heather Strang [22:02]
Absolutely, in fact, people can start doing if you find yourself in that position like you can just start with every day just focusing on the parts of your job that you do love and just letting yourself really enjoy those pieces. And if you just kept your focus there, and if you could just keep your focus there, if you could do a daily visualisation where you saw yourself just doing things you loved, if you just did that, that job would either have to rise to a higher level to be more of what you wanted, or it would go away and something better, that was more aligned would come in. So we can just start working with the energy and just placing our focus very intentionally and that will start to shift our 3d reality like that is no joke we can all do that.
David Ralph [22:45]
How do we do that? Both I know you say that but it is easy saying it but how do you do it when everything’s going around your head and you’re rushing to work and you’re picking up the phone and you’re doing all that? Is it just making quiet times in your Life is it by your commute, not having a radio on just thinking about things, and how would you do that.
Heather Strang [23:06]
So the first to keep it really simple and easy for someone who found themselves in that situation, the first thing I would say is make a commitment to every day, visualising what you do want. And so for some people, and for me, having a song that I really resonate with, you know, a song that really inspires me and makes me feel good. That’s a songs like three to four minutes, turn that song on, and just let yourself daydream about, like, you know, what you would be doing, like, you know, for me, I would see myself just, you know, at home and my comfortable clothes with the water in front of me, you know, making millions of dollars, you know, or whatever it was, you know, and just see myself surrounded by loved ones. Just let yourself go into Daydream and have fun with it, just for that song. Just commit to doing that once a day. And then tune into your current job and be like, what are the things I actually enjoy about this job, write it out, and then make a commitment that everybody De, you’re going to really enjoy the times when you get to do those. And when you find yourself thinking about the stuff you don’t like, you’re going to just shift your focus back to what you do. Like it does take effort in that regard, because you’re rewiring your neural networks, and you’re rewiring your focus, but you can do it. And it can start as just those two simple things can start to shift your frequency and shift your vibration, and that job will change. And maybe the job stays but you get a raise, or somehow you just find yourself enjoying it more like you don’t know what’s possible for you. But just start playing with it and see what happens. And I guarantee it will shift and I say at least 30 days of that you’ve got to do at least 22 to 30 days of that consistently and you things will change. Absolutely.
David Ralph [24:46]
Because I’ve always been a very positive person and I’ve always been very lucky but even if everything is rubbish around me, I can still operate in a in a bubble of positivity. It doesn’t really get me down very often and I used to say to people, if you are sending out with honestly listeners, if you’re focusing in on this, this isn’t where we’re at all this is just basically human nature. If you are sending out positive vibes, then people are going to find it very difficult to be horrible to you back, they might sort of dismiss you first of all and go, always, always happy. What’s he got to be so happy about. But after a while, they know what they’re going to get. And so they play accordingly. I used to working in an office where I know that when I used to go to the coffee machine, people used to think Oh, God, here he comes, because I knew that I was going to have a conversation with them. And they can’t just turn their coffee and walk away and under while that’s that, that was it, that was the given. If I was coming into the room, you were going to converse with me and people change their behaviour. So if you’re changing your behaviour, they will change their behaviour and suddenly you’re creating this pop up again, which can can float you off to wherever you want to go.
Heather Strang [26:00]
Hundred percent correct. Like it is a law of the universe. This is like mindset stuff you’re working with the energy and things will shift. And actually I love your you’re saying about the bubble because I would actually put when I was in a corporate environment, I will put a bubble around myself and be like only the highest positive experiences can come into this bubble. And I would just start really being intentional about what I was wanting to create an experience in my life. And the nastiest people, they couldn’t help themselves, they would have to smile and be nice because you just can’t buck a current of pure positive energy. You just can’t
Unknown Speaker [26:35]
know you either
Unknown Speaker [26:37]
in or they change.
David Ralph [26:39]
I think it’s the easiest way. It’s the hardest way in many ways because you really are setting your stall out. But I think on already on this episode, we’re giving you a blueprint where we’re saying, get up in the morning and be very deliberate about how you’re going to look dress for success. And that’s going to make you walk differently down to the train that’s going to make you feel better than just Brian on some clothes, and when you get there, your mind is already where you want to be, because you’ve used your commute, I’m gonna be honest with you, I stand in the shower probably longer than I should do. And my kids are always banging on the door along, you’re going to be bet that most of the time I just Daydream, I just think about things. And sometimes nothing happens at all. And other times I go, Oh, that’s a good idea. And bang, it comes to me. And I sort of run them and sort of do it. But more often than not, I’m thinking about what I want to achieve and what I want to do. And I’ve got a series of images around me, I’ve talked about this quite a lot, and I should take them down really, and they were visions of what I wanted to achieve when I first started the show. And I remember there’s been certain times when I looked up at them and realised, but what I was looking on my computer was replicating these images that I’d created. And I’d already achieved it. Now really, I should put them down and put some new ones on by kind of like them and now they’re They’re still there. But it’s in a way it’s routing me to what I’ve already achieved and I should be aiming bigger and bigger and bigger.
Heather Strang [28:07]
Absolutely the vision board I have used vision boards forever. It may seem like how is this possible, but just like you I’ve literally taken photos on vacation that match exactly the photo that was on my vision board. And I didn’t even realise it until later. I was like, Oh my god, I manifested that without even like, consciously realising it. So you do that deliberate creation where you’re doing your visualisation, and then if you feel called to take it a step further, get actual images and put them up and like make it in an area you’re going to see on a regular basis that starts embedding into your subconscious mind. And you will start attracting that without even realising that you’re doing it. I mean, it’s really like you said, it’s the easiest and the hardest way to change things. But once you get on the track of like, Okay, I’m going to be deliberate about what I’m creating in my life. Watch out because your life just got way cooler, way more magical and a lot more fun.
David Ralph [29:00]
as you were saying that I’ve lent over and I’ve pulled off my vision and look, can you hear that? Can you hear that? I can, it’s going, it’s going up, tighten it off. And I’m going to replace that tomorrow with something even bigger. And I will reflect back to you how we’ve achieved it. So let’s bring some words on them really emphasise everything that this show is about but really emphasises what we’re talking about now really stop taking control of your life. This is Jim Carrey.
Jim Carrey [29:26]
My father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.
David Ralph [29:53]
Is that what everybody should buy into? Do you think is that that message that the education system and Heavens don’t leave the drive into their kids.
Heather Strang [30:04]
I have chills listening to Jim is a master manifester. He also wrote himself a check for like $10 million, and then cashed it like 10 years later. So he gets it, he really gets it. And yes, and it’s like that whole route of playing it safe that our parents went through, like we’re here to evolve consciousness forward, we did not come to just keep the same old stagnant thing happening in our family line. We can look at our families, we can see the patterns and say, How am I going to evolve this forward into the next level? And we can do it we really can and, and I believe, as Jim brought out in that quote, that, like, yeah, you can fail or how you know things not work out in anything. So why not just go after what you really want, and you can use this in all areas of your life.
David Ralph [30:47]
I think he’s absolutely key for everyone to realise it’s down to us. It’s done. Nobody else is gonna make this happen. It’s down to us. And if you’re thirsty, you will go to the fridge and you will get yourself a drink and You’ve achieved something, you’ve taken a task and you’ve done it. But when we don’t kind of believe that we can do the same thing in our life and go and get stuff, but since I’ve been doing this show, I think I always believed it, but I never took action on it. But since I’ve been doing this, I’ve totally realised, but no one is going to bring me a drink. And if you live in my house, that’s more often than not truth. I need to go and do that. And if I do that, I can do something else. And if I do, somebody else can do something else. And once you start building that momentum up, you really do start creating a body of work, that when you look over your shoulder, you think, Blimey, how did that happen? that excites you to work even harder, and then you’re starting to find your thing. Now, I’m going to ask you a question here, heaven. It’s a total departure from the conversation I was planning to have. But I was asked to write an article the other day for a book that is being published. And he’s got the likes of people like Tim Robbins and jack Canfield and stuff. So it’s quite a big population. Yeah. Thank you very came out. And they said to me, you know, can you just write something, anything you want about how you feel? And I said, right, okay, what I’m going to write, and basically I said, don’t go looking for your passion. Try and find something that you just fancy doing or you like, and the more you do that thing that you like, you will realise that you get better at it, and that getting better at it will mean that you will like it more. And suddenly, you will find that that like turns into your passion. And then you found it. I think that’s an easier way of this. Find your passion, find your passion once you find it, you will never work again. What you think.
Heather Strang [32:40]
Yeah, I think that passion creates a lot of pressure for people like even souls purpose. People are like, overwhelmed. You start really simple because the things that you like you like for a reason. And so you like them because they are assigned, they are a key on your path. So if you just keep it super simple, I’m going to just do more of the things I like doing things that I enjoy doing. It naturally turns into your passion and naturally turns into your purpose. And you just keep following that, just let that be your benchmark. I think that’s brilliant David that sort of takes all of the like big like bigness out of your passion and your purpose is can be a little bit overwhelming for people,
David Ralph [33:17]
isn’t it because you just hear that all the time, go out and find your passion. And really, I know that we we don’t want to do this, however, but after you’ve heard it, or 900 times, you just want to punch the person in the face who says it to you again, because you can’t see it can you can’t see your passion. And more often than not, and this is a strange thing when it comes. And I think I said this in the introduction with you. So many people are being used when they now reflect on why it took him so long to find that thing because once it comes you kind of go, oh my god I should have been doing this years ago, but I just couldn’t see it.
Heather Strang [33:49]
Exactly. And you see it at the time that you need to see it like it’s always working out for you. So I mean, I had no idea that I was ever going to do this kind of work. There were definitely Like little dots along the path that were letting me know I was good at these things. I like these things. But if you just keep following what lights you up and what feels good, if it feels light, follow it, if it feels heavy, don’t do it. You know, like, you just keep it simple like that. And you keep following that it is going to lead you to a life that’s even beyond what you could have ever imagined.
David Ralph [34:22]
What would you think about this, I’m gonna play this little speech here. And I’ve started throwing this into the episodes only because I think this is so powerful as well, because a lot of what we’ve been talking on the early episodes of Join Up Dots was very much like the conversation we’ve had now. Come on, go out there and do it. But a lot of people have overwhelm, as you say, and they think I don’t know how to do it. This is what Oprah Winfrey says about this.
Oprah Winfrey [34:44]
The way through the challenge is to get still and ask yourself, what is the next right move? not think about, Oh, I got all of this stuff. What is the next right move and then from that space, make the Next right move, and the next right move, and not to be overwhelmed by it. Because, you know, your life is bigger than that one moment. You know, you’re not defined by what somebody says, is a failure for you. Because failure is just there to point you in a different direction.
Unknown Speaker [35:16]
Simple as that.
Heather Strang [35:18]
Preach it. Oprah Yeah. She’s, she’s dead on of course. I mean, she’s mastered it. And she shows us
David Ralph [35:24]
why even if it is so simple that, you know, if you want to take a journey, you take a step, and then another step, and another step and another step. But when somebody wants to create something amazing, and when somebody wants to change direction, when somebody wants that dream life, it’s almost that you look at the big picture of what do I want, I want to be laying on a beach with a couple of beautiful girls next to me and my laptop and having money just coming to me, that’s what I want in life. But you can’t quite grasp the fact that you’ve got to do something and being something else and then something else the big picture stops happening because it’s too big to start with.
Heather Strang [36:03]
Yeah, I think that people can get really tripped up by the how, like, if I had known here’s the thing I don’t think we ever know like the full I don’t know that Oprah knew she was going to be Oprah right? She just took the next logical step and the next, you know, step that made sense and just kept following that, and that’s what we’re all doing. If someone had said to me, yeah, they’re gonna be like, spiritual teacher, author, coach, you’re gonna do this healing work, and it’s going to change people’s lives, I would have been like, No, I think that’s a little too much for me. So it’s like, you just have to keep following each step. And if the if the big picture feels overwhelming, don’t go there. Just let yourself stay focused on what feels good, I think really like trusting our body’s wisdom, like, our body knows and it’s co created with our souls. So if it feels light and good, follow it. You know, just really keep it simple and know that like, you don’t have to figure out everything you just have to like Oprah said, just get quiet. What Okay, what’s the next thing I’m gonna do right now? Okay, and then what’s the next thing I’m gonna do right now? And I encourage people to practice that like on a weekend, like on a Sunday, like don’t make any plans and let your soul guide the whole day. And that means you just stop get quiet. Okay? What am I going to do next? I’m gonna go eat an apple, okay, you eat the apple, okay, what am I going to do next? I’m gonna go walk the dog, whatever it is, you end up having a day you never saw coming. And that’s just a microcosm of what’s possible when you make your life that way.
David Ralph [37:28]
But you do so much. Yeah, you do have to be quiet. But I don’t mean that’s possible. With the best of Bon Jovi blasting at you. I think you do need to allow that mind that that’s why my shower sessions I think so valuable. And I know I’m in there for probably longer than I should do. But it is that moment, but nobody else is with you. And you can just let yourself go. It’s very difficult in life, isn’t it to to have these forts, these quiet moments because you just got you got fizziness all the way around you all the time.
Heather Strang [38:00]
You have to commit to the quiet time you absolutely have to. And I mean, I, I don’t tell people like you have to do a lot of things. But I do believe that meditation is one of those things that makes all the difference in the world. And if calling it meditation freaks people out, I say, just call it your 10 minutes of quiet time, like just getting still and sitting with yourself. And that is a non negotiable it’s like, you know, exercise or any other healthy habit like you just have to make it non negotiable. Like I’m spending 10 minutes every day, just being quiet with myself, because it will start to shift the momentum in your life because that quiet time stops the flow of thoughts that might have not been working for you. It also allows you to connect with your higher power, whatever that is, and you start getting inspiration and ideas like you were sharing from your shower sessions that you didn’t even see coming like that time is really critical. I hundred percent agree with you.
David Ralph [38:50]
So did you have quiet time in Brazilian village when when he was down there? I can’t imagine. You’ve got Netflix all over the place. So what was it one of those places You were forced to reflect.
Heather Strang [39:02]
Oh, yeah, yeah. And I had never, I’d never done anything like that I had tried to meditate in the past where I was like, Oh, I can’t mind chatter, blah, blah, blah, you know, and all these excuses. And in Brazil, there is nothing happening. You know, you’re in the middle of, well, not, not where john of God is. It’s in the dhania. And there’s nothing happening. So when you have a psychic surgery, you have to stay down for 24 hours because you had a surgery, no TV, no reading, like you’re not taking anything in. And honestly, I couldn’t because your all of your stuff is coming up. And you’ve got to sit there and be with it. And it is incredibly uncomfortable. But it was so transformative. I mean, not just that altered the course of my life forever.
David Ralph [39:41]
It will it you can see that for where you are now but what made you do that what I’ll be honest with you, however, if somebody come along to me, and I wasn’t feeling very well and they said, well, the best place to go is to a Brazilian village to john of God, I’d probably go Nope, not gonna happen, where you prime for kind of advice at that time? Or were you just at a point when you thought, oh, I’ll just do that because I’ve tried everything else.
Heather Strang [40:06]
Yeah, that I was at my breaking point I was not getting better. No one could help me. I tried you know, everything from Reiki to acupuncture, nature paths, shamans. I mean, you name it, I had done it all. Western medicine included, no one could help me I was at the end of my rope. I didn’t even know what a psychic surgery was. I’d never meditated before. But I was desperate. And and so I went and it you know, best decision I ever made in my life. And you’re called to these kinds of things. That’s the other thing. I tell people, like, the minute it came into my consciousness, I met a woman at like an event and she told me about it. And then I started having dreams about it. And then I was like, I have to read the book to know more about this and I read the book and I start having more dreams and it was like, I had to go I could feel it. Like my soul was just like you’re doing this. So I tell people to really pay attention. You’re having dreams about a certain healer a certain path, like follow it. If you feel this competitive. That reason to do something or this poll, do it especially when it doesn’t make sense. I mean, it’d be no sense for me to take that time off and spend that money and go do that. But I had to do it. I mean, my life, it really felt like my health definitely depended on it, which is everything.
David Ralph [41:16]
I have dreams about Katy Perry. I don’t know what that’s gonna.
Unknown Speaker [41:20]
You might want to work with that a little bit. underneath.
David Ralph [41:22]
Yeah, I think I think I better hold back on that one. So did you keeping you actually have to get to a point of no return? To start moving in the direction you want? I’d see this time and time again, where people are in a comfortable position. They’re getting a salary when their life gets to that point where it’s really as crappy as it can be vain. That’s the moment when they find the start of that part, but they want to go on do you do you think that’s true? Or do you think so many people find it from a point of happiness as well.
Heather Strang [41:56]
I think it’s human nature to let it get as shitty as it can be. Before you actually make the shift, I would like to stop doing that. And I would like to support other people and stopping and doing that. But it has been my experience for me that it like it sort of has to come to a head before. I’m like, Oh, wait, this is not working, I really need to do something different. And then I make a big shift. And so the more I work with that, and the better you know, yourself, it doesn’t have to get that bad. But at that point in my life, I didn’t know who I was. I didn’t know what I really needed. I was just following what I had been conditioned to believe and you know what everyone else was doing. And so I needed that we need sort of like that big wake up call when we’re that disconnected from who we are. And then the more that we are who we are. It doesn’t have to be as dramatic.
David Ralph [42:43]
Because I changed direction when I was very unhappy. Now I look back on it. I think I don’t think I was bad. I’m happy. Maybe it was just that time. But I look back in other parts of my life, and I’ve had some dreadful times. Not very many, and most of them were career driven. When the pressure was just too much for me, and I couldn’t see it at a time that it wasn’t good for my health, and I had to go to work every day, even though it was killing me, all that kind of stuff. So many people experienced the same thing. But I look back on all of them. And I kind of go, thank God for those rubbish times now, I’d really, they were the making of me. And it wasn’t the good times, I could have had those all the time and just just floated around. It was the bad times. But that’s, it’s a shame in many ways, isn’t it? But it takes those points to actually do something about it.
Heather Strang [43:33]
I think we can reframe everything. And I love that you brought this up, you know, I really work on this myself and I share this with others, like when crisis and quote unquote bad things are happening. What happens if we look at it as like, Whoa, this is an opportunity that’s going to lead me to my next great thing because that is the truth. That is what happens. Because what that quote unquote bad thing happening means is that like there’s just been a lot of negative momentum that has brought things to a peak and now This is ready to completely dissolve from your life. So how can you take it as an opportunity to go higher and further into who you really are into living the life of your dreams, like, we really can use everything that happens from that vantage point. And when we do, life takes on, you know, a whole new dimension, we really look at everything differently.
David Ralph [44:20]
I’m gonna play some words and then a theme of the whole show. And this is the speech that Steve Jobs did back in 2005, when he talked about looking back and connecting the dots.
Steve Jobs [44:30]
This is Steve Jobs. Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college, but it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever, because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence Follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path and that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [45:06]
Well your path really went off the well worn path you ended up in a Brazilian the jungle with with john of God is a truth in those words to you.
Heather Strang [45:17]
Oh 100% you you cannot see it. Looking forward, you can only see it looking back and you have to trust and know, which is you know what you’re sharing with the world, David that it is all connected, it is all connected. And it is leading you to exactly where you need to be. And just trusting that while you’re moving forward. And then knowing every single time I can look back and be like, oh, like I just had that moment in the mirror of like, Oh my god, I was born with that. Like, it is all connected. It was always leading to here. Beautiful.
David Ralph [45:47]
And so it does excite you. But does he is it liberation as well to come to that realisation but even when things are bad, it’s a learning experience. Even when things are good. It’s showing me the way it Oh, those kind of things that we’re talking about is it is it liberating when you suddenly grasp that fact?
Heather Strang [46:06]
It’s a huge relief to me. I think I was so like worried about getting it wrong and I’m screwing things up. And you know, there’s all this pressure to do things that quote unquote, right way and it’s just such a relief and like this freedom. Yeah, so definitely liberation of like, I really just keep following what feels right for me in that moment and keep following my heart. I’m like, it is going to be perfect. This is this is our life. We get to create it like so awesome.
David Ralph [46:32]
So so what what is your big dog when you look back? And I always love asking this question. I asked it that she on every episode, but when you look back and you go, yes, that’s when haver really come to the fore. That’s when I started becoming who I wanted to be. Can you remember?
Heather Strang [46:50]
Yeah, yes, I remember it very clearly. It was actually before john of God. I was sitting at my kitchen table. I was I discovered the cystic tumour. I I was gonna have to have emergency surgery. I was barely making it in my life. Anyway, as a journalist, I was working my ass off for not much money. And I was in a relationship that was good, but it wasn’t lighting me up and I was sitting at my kitchen table. And I just said, that’s it. I can’t do it like this anymore. I surrender. I want to be Spirit led. I don’t even I didn’t even know what those words meant. They just came out of my mouth. I said, I want to be Spirit led. I it’s not working for me to lead my life by my mind anymore. This is not working for me. I surrender. Show me the way how do I live a Spirit led life. And that that changed? That was seven years ago that changed everything.
David Ralph [47:42]
And did you sort of thing at that time? Bear in mind, but you wasn’t even aware of what a spirit LED light? Did you kind of think Hang on, I think I’m going a bit mad.
Heather Strang [47:52]
Yeah, I was like that must have just been an emotional breakdown. Being sick. I don’t know what this means. But I said it out loud and I probably it out there. And I’m not kidding you like now I can look back and see the dots. It started from that moment on, and everything has changed. And that’s who I really was in that moment. She emerged for a bit and then she just kept being emerged from following the dots.
David Ralph [48:15]
Because I remember walking across this field with a friend of mine Ian barrows if you’re listening, sir, which I don’t think you will be because you, you’re too busy for this kind of thing. But I was walking across this field and he owns a farm or his family owned a farm and it was a Sunday afternoon. And we were pushing. He’s his brother, Tom, who’s who’s severely disabled. And we were pushing him in a wheelchair. And we were sort of talking about things behind and I was saying to him how it’s terrible. It’s terrible. I’m, I’m gonna hate this manager I’m working for it’s really, really rubbish. And he said to me, Well, you know, what would you like to do? And I said, Well, no, I just don’t want to do something. I want to inspire people. I want to do fun stuff. I want to do all these kind of things. And he said, Well, why don’t you bet and I went, well, yeah, I suppose so. But It was it was some simple when he said that, but he almost knocked me off my feet. But I look back on that. And I think that was one of my dots, but really was the stepping stone to where I am now. It was that realisation of just somebody saying, why don’t you do it? And you think, Yeah, why not?
Heather Strang [49:19]
I’m so sorry, those he was an angel in your life, right? Like these people pop in. And maybe they don’t stay for long. Sometimes they do. Sometimes they don’t. And they say these big things to us, right? And it totally shifts us. And like everyone who comes in as an angel for us, and they have a message they have some gift to give us. I love that story. Thank you.
David Ralph [49:36]
Well, let’s bring it to the end of the show. Now, I don’t want to finish this show. I really don’t. But this is the part that we call a sermon on the mic. And he says when I send you back in time to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you couldn’t go back in time heaven speak to the younger However, what age would you choose and what advice would you give? Well, we’re going to find out because I’m going to play the theme and when it fades you up. This is the Sermon on the mic.
Unknown Speaker [50:05]
Here we go with the best bit of the show.
Heather Strang [50:22]
Hey, beautiful girl. This is your older self. I know you’re only 10 right now. I’m 36. And I have some really great news for you and some really awesome messages. First of all, you are totally beautiful. I know you look in the mirror, you’re not seeing that, but you’re a gorgeous, gorgeous human being. And don’t worry about what you look like or what people think because it doesn’t matter. And I want you to know that all the craziness that you’re in right now. It’s going to change it’s going to totally transform that insight that you had that you are going to get out of here someday and do something with your Life. It’s true. You’re going to do big things, you’re going to help a lot of people, and you’re going to have a blast doing it. I know it’s hard with mom and dad right now, but I want you to know, you can’t make them better. You can’t heal them. You can’t fix the situation. So just have fun being you. Don’t listen to what the teachers tell you about. You can’t be a writer. Don’t listen to what people tell you about. You’re not on the right track, and you need to follow these certain rules. Don’t listen, don’t listen to the religion. Don’t listen to those words. You really are ready to do whatever you want to do. That desire within you that says, No, there’s another way. Listen to that. It’s totally right on. Follow your instinct. Follow your heart. It’s all within you already. And you keep getting clouded by what other people are saying and I’m just telling you, you don’t have to. It’s so much easier than we ever thought. And you get to have more fun than you thought possible. And your desire to celebrate and have fun. Real. So don’t let anyone take that from you. Just keep writing. keep shining your beautiful light, you ride that bike with the big handlebars and banana. See, no matter what anybody says, You have that big hair, enjoy it. This is your life and you get to enjoy every minute of it. And I promise you, you’re going to be so happy with how everything turns out. In the meantime, don’t worry about what anybody else says. Just enjoy this ride. You can relax, you’re safe. I love you so much.
David Ralph [52:32]
Heather. How can our audience connect with you?
Heather Strang [52:36]
Heatherstrang.com and find me all my social media links are on Heather string calm on the Facebook all the time. So come say hi to me on the Facebook. And I have a free meditation for your listeners if they’re interested lived the life of your dreams meditation, it will align you with living the life of your dreams. We will have all the links on the show notes. Thank you so much for spending time with us today and joining up those dots and please come back again when you have more dots to join up because I do believe But joining up the dots and connecting our past is the best way to build a futures. Have a strength. Thank you so much. Thank you, David.
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