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Introducing Andy Murphy
Andy Murphy is my guest today on the Join Up Dots business coaching podcast interview.
Andy is a man who can call himself a global mindset coach, with clients across the world who seek him out to help them go to the next level.
From entrepreneurs, world champions, professional sports athletes, multi-millionaire business owners, TV and film producers, TV and stage actors, trauma survivors and even Royal Family have all benefited from his skills.
But what fascinates me is this.
Coming from Liverpool he would have found himself surrounded with friends and families who are just looking to get by.
He would have been on a path like so many of us that is almost expected.
Study hard, leave school, get a job, start a family….you get the drift.
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But our guest didn’t do that.
Instead he left everything behind and travelled to Sydney Australia, where he discovered Neuro Linguistic Programming in a sales and marketing environment.
Breaking multiple sales records whilst helping clients successfully structure and invest in real-estate.
Now at the top of the business in Australia he was head-hunted to New Zealand.
There he began to share his skills with CEO’s and again found himself to be in high demand.
He was prospected to many companies, helping them develop their sales teams and set up internal departments.
At the age of only 26 he opened a company developing a project to build a 100 Million dollar resort in the Fiji Islands.
After marketing the company over in Dubai along side multi billion dollar developments the global real-estate industry began to slow down and he had a decision to make.
After so much success would he batten down the hatches and go into survival mode?
Or would he do the unexpected and get bigger.
Opening his arms wide and screaming “Come on world it’s me, just watch what I can do!”
Well let’s find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up dots, with the one and only Andy Murphy.
During the show we discussed such weighty topics with Andy Murphy such as:
How he overcome his difficulties and fought back from depression and bankruptcy.
Why his time as a young man in Dubai was as hard as it could get.
How he recalls that school taught him nothing but martial arts taught him everything.
How his Father taught him from an early age to focus on the worse case scenario then you are prepared.
Why it is that so many successful people spend time on their own to allow themselves to focus on the future.
How everyday he knows that he is going to have to deal with being scared due to pushing forward into the unknown.
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Audio Transcription Of Andy Murphy Interview
David Ralph [0:00]
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when we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling in join up dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK David Ralph
David Ralph [0:57]
yes hello, everybody and welcome to join up dots it’s Episode 420 x David Ralph and I’m being all enthusiastic because we’ve got a guy who really has had a journey today. And he’s going to be sharing his journey on the show. He is a man who can call himself a global mindset coach with clients across the world, who seek Him out to help them go to the next level from entrepreneurs, well, champions, professional sports athletes, even after all family, they’ve all benefited from his skill. But what fascinates me is coming from Liverpool in the United Kingdom, he would no doubt about himself surrounded with friends and families who are just kind of looking to get by, it would have been on the path like so many of us, but it’s almost expected study hard, leave school, get a job, start a family, you get the drip. But OutKast didn’t do that. Instead, he left everything behind and traveled to Sydney, Australia, where he discovered NLP, neuro linguistic programming and a sales and marketing environment. And to say he was successful that is an understanding and he soon found himself moving over to New Zealand and being headhunted. Now in New Zealand, he began to share his skills not with sheep, but with CEOs and again being in high demand, and was perspective too many companies helping them develop their sales teams and set up internal departments. Now, it gets even better because he’s only at age 26. At this point, he opens a company developing a project to build 100 million dollar resort in the Fiji Islands. And after marketing the company over in Dubai alongside multi billion dollar developments, the global real estate industry began to slow down and he had a decision to make after so much success, what do you batten down the hatches and go into survival mode? Or what do you do the unexpected and actually get bigger opening his arms wide and screaming Come on. Well, it’s me just watch what I can do. Well, let’s find out as we bring on to the show to start join up dots with the one and only Mr. UK himself. Andy Murphy. How are you Andy?
Andy Murphy [2:57]
How are you say you made me sound amazing?
David Ralph [3:01]
Well, actually, when I said you’re Mr. UK I suddenly for all that sounds like you’re some kind of like sex model. But But you but you’re not you haven’t won that yet.
Andy Murphy [3:11]
It sounds a bit strippers, doesn’t it? It does sound a little bit.
David Ralph [3:15]
Have you seen Magic Mike three or whatever it is because my wife
Andy Murphy [3:19]
may have not been trying to take my girl but she just doesn’t want to go. I don’t know what’s wrong.
David Ralph [3:24]
Well, my wife went and she found he enjoyed it. And she’s laying on a sofa with a wet flannel on her head for about three weeks after that. So I don’t know what that’s all about. But what what do you do in your life when you aren’t being Andi Murphy consulting man, you know, motivating people? What do you actually do to sort of just rest.
Andy Murphy [3:45]
And I like to go and hang out on the beach? Me I just moved to like three weeks ago, I was supposed to come back to the UK, but it’s kind of bit cold there. So I decided not to decided to go and live by the by the beach here in Florida for three months.
David Ralph [4:00]
And can you do that? Can you naturally choose your location? Is your entrepreneurial success determined on being in a position? Or can you just go wherever you want? it?
Andy Murphy [4:12]
Yeah, I can be in any country I want and anytime I want. And I always was in fantastic money. It’s and it was it was that was the intention? It was, you know, as I’ve been through some rough times, you know, and it was interesting that you said it was even in the intro. It’s it’s interesting listening to you tell it again, because it’s it was a moment like you spoke about this hundred million dollar resort and all that’s absolutely true, you know, and it was a massive moment in my life. But what was not in that intro was that the decision was that when I came back from Dubai, the project was going fantastic. But the real estate market turned right, that’s what you said, then what happened was my business partner decided it was a great idea to steal my money, send me into bankruptcy, send me into a nervous break down and chronic depression. That’s what’s not set. And then from there, basically, I went from 2627 years old, Having perceived a good life, you know, I was working two days a week and then a couple of few grand a day. And I was I had the professional model is a girlfriend beautiful house second five series BMW and went from that to basically living in the basement of a gym, and training and fighting cuz I do mixed martial arts every day. So that was a huge shift, you know?
David Ralph [5:33]
So So how do you overcome but certainly when you’re at your younger age, you feel that the path is always going to be going up. If you’re on the ascendancy, it’s going to be naturally hustle driven. And you will get to where you go, when you get to that point in Dubai. And it’s interesting, I’ve recorded seven shows today. And you’re the third person that told me that I set up a business in Dubai, and their business manager screwed him over. So it is not where I am gonna take join up dots I promise you, I’ve learned that from now. I’m not gonna do it. So when you get to that point, and you’re still a young man, and you are, you know, cat with a cream and it gets taken away? Do you just sort of brush yourself down and go again? Or do you need a period of mourning to really sort of set yourself up for the next stage?
Andy Murphy [6:18]
That’s, that’s a beautiful question. But you know, you do need some morning, and you absolutely do. And anyone that tells you, you just got to dust yourself off and pick yourself up and keep fighting. That’s a very British mentality. And you know what, that’s also it’s not being authentic. It’s not being real. And it’s also it’s also Bs, it’s not it’s not true, guess what? men cry, things hurt. And we all get sad. And I ever met a single person who might who I’ve worked with, as I say, from Saudi Arabian royalty to people who are in 10, $20 million a year to anybody else. We’re all just human. And we all go ups and downs. And we all have highs and lows. And guess what? The differences right there. There was there was a moment in my life David explain that last little that bit that Pinnacle moment that shifted me and kick my butt forwards. It was it was interesting, because I sat I remember the scene, I remember really, really well. And I couldn’t afford rent and couldn’t afford much food. And that’s the Absolute Truth. And I was sitting there and I said to myself, Andy, you know what, you’re you’re brilliant at what you’ve done. You’ve done NLP and sales. That’s all I started out with sales for five or six years, you one of the top in the country, you’ve seen over 2000 people face to face, yet you can’t even afford food. What’s this about? What is it right now? If you could create your life again? What do you want? And I remember this little voice kicked in my head my intuition kicked in, if you want to call it that, and, and I literally sat down, I remember I see the scene so vividly. Still, David and I sat there and went, what’s my perfect day? What is my perfect day, and I remember writing every single out. And this this image is still burns into my mind. And then I wrote, what are the top 10 things that would excite me the most to do every day. And I wouldn’t even give a damn if I got paid for it. And you know what that did that start to put my mind in a different direction and started to give me hope. And from that, I basically made the decision, I made a decision, I can keep doing what I’m doing, as well. How’s that working out for me? Not too well. And so or aching. Then we dust myself off, and then we start driving forwards. But guess what? Driving forwards not like a movie. It’s so funny when I talk to people and they watch a movie and they’re all pumped up. But guess what? That 90 minute movie, the guy in the character in that that’s spaced over like three years or something, right? But everyone gets pumped up and thinks everything’s going to come to them rapidly and instantly doesn’t work like that. It’s the neural nets your your unconscious mind or your brain, whatever the hell you want to call it. The software in your head works just like a muscle. And guess what, you can go to the gym for three months Lyft every day you think you’re big and strong and looking good. yet? Nobody says a damn words about it. Right? And then suddenly you keep training, you keep pushing, and then that person says to you, and what have you been doing? Well, guess what? That’s the same with building business. That’s the same with building life. It’s a case of just working out what you want. And just understanding that it’s going to be hard understanding that there’s going to be emotional roller coasters, ups and downs and everything. But at the end of the day, what else are you going to do? That’s you’re going to do sit down. And I’m not do it
David Ralph [9:55]
yet. But the problem is Andy and I, this goes out to the listeners, more often than not, we don’t want to know that. We don’t want to know that it’s going to be hard. We want to have either the overnight success, or we want to look at the perceived overnight success as a reason why it’s not worth doing it. So many people will put themselves in a position, they will look at somebody like you and go, Oh, it’s all right, brandy. He’s a young man. He’s got good head of hair. He’s English, you always get attracted people from England. He’s got it nailed. What’s the point in me even doing it? That is the sort of sticking point, isn’t it?
Andy Murphy [10:32]
Yeah. And by the way, I lost my hair through that I just bought a new tab. But it’s, it’s it’s Yes. Oh, that’s true, although that’s true. But guess why that that’s the point is that society, society is a very, very clever business. And if you want to look at as a media, the media is a very clever business. And they train people to understand to get the get rich quick schemes, or the next, the next, the next shiny object syndrome. And guess what the only show the stories of when people have made it become successful. They don’t ever show that someone crying in the middle of the night because they can’t handle the life and it’s overwhelming and stressful. They don’t show that bit. They just show the shiny but at the end. But guess what? The people that have achieved, they go through all of this pain, suffering, stress, overwhelm anxiety, that’s just normal life. But the difference is, what you do with it, and how long you allow it to stay inside of you becomes your choice. And that might sound something Oh, yeah. And again, and you can say that, because I can say that, because I’ve been through a lot of crap. And I and you don’t you always have a choice. That’s what I’m my whole point to you listeners out there, there’s always a choice. You don’t have to to be where you are. If you’re in a relationship that isn’t working for you. Guess what you can settle for it. Or you can decide got this life is very short. Or there is no actual rules to it. Just because we’re told there is there isn’t any rules to it. And you can truly have anything that you want. But guess what it requires you working your butts off to get it?
David Ralph [12:25]
Well, let’s play some words now that really sort of emphasize what we’re talking about. And it’s it’s from a classic film character, but I think he’s a fighter like you. It’s gonna say so much Rocky Balboa, you,
Rocky Balboa [12:37]
me, nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But ain’t about how hard you hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit. And keep moving forward, how much you can take it keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done.
David Ralph [12:53]
Now you your fighter, your fighter, a physical fighter, you get in a cage and you slap people around. And you’re also it seems to me You’re an emotional fighter, you’re willing to brush yourself down and get going you’re you’re sort of find yourself on your knees and then rally yourself and go again. Does that come from your childhood? Because Because Liverpool in many ways is a very tight knit community. It’s a it’s a society that protects its own? Do you find a lot of your mental strength has come from there or because of it?
Andy Murphy [13:28]
That’s a beautiful question. Again, my it’s funny that you’ve done 420 podcasters. It’s funny that is absolutely my friend. It really is. And you know what I always say this, and this might be contradicted to a lot of people out there. But I can honestly say school taught me basically nothing. And that sounds a crazy statement. I mean that I can say that. What taught me was life. And what taught me was martial arts. Martial Arts taught me the discipline, martial arts taught me to be able to read myself another people martial arts taught me to push through and push through circumstances. And it also taught me to get if you get hit on the chin, you have a choice, you can stand back up and keep fighting. Or you can lay down, guess what happens when you lay down. Everyone just doesn’t remember you Everyone did. That’s where it ends, or you keep fighting. And you don’t know if you’re going to win, you don’t know. But my point is, what you’re going to do, you’re going to lay down where you’re going to keep walking forward. And I love what that that little clip that you just bite buddy. I love it because it is like that. But there is a difference. Now I’ve had to learn this over the last five years. Life isn’t about fighting. It’s not, you have to have the fights as halt. But life is about flow. And life is supposed to supposed to work hard. But are you supposed to flow through it, still working hard in the direction that you want, but you must flow through it. Because otherwise we get caught up in these these high highs or these low lows. And at the end of the day, that doesn’t do any good for anybody. It doesn’t bring out the world class solution, if you will, the best version of you. It just it distracts you from moving forward. So when
David Ralph [15:17]
you were in Liverpool, and you were supporting the mighty reds or all the blues, Which ones did you fall into?
Andy Murphy [15:25]
I fell into the reds. And again, like what you say about Liverpool, I didn’t have a choice. That was
David Ralph [15:32]
what you got taught. So it was Kenny Dalglish all the way you as you were growing up as the inspiration. So you always supporting the red at their glory, or probably coming to the end of their glory. And you are looking at some things in your own life. But you you’ve got no idea how it’s going to pan out? Do you decide to support yourself, friends, your colleagues? Or did you separate yourself from your friends and colleagues to be I have to make that break to go off to Australia because I imagine that so many of you would have been sitting around in pubs going, Oh, I want to do this I want to do now your world. And now you’re while you’re be here in five years time. So how did you separate yourself from that environment, but is pretty much community and football all the way or soccer? As I say in America?
Andy Murphy [16:21]
Yeah, that’s and it really is like that. And that’s, again, another brilliant question. And yes, you do. Because if you’re in around in an environment that is just supporting and your old beliefs, then you get stuck. It’s plain and simple. You got stuck. And I basically this is what changed. I went to I didn’t really traveled much ever when I was younger, I went on a couple of holidays, my mum and dad didn’t have much money. You know, mums and nurse doctors and electrician didn’t have much money just help in helping us like survive and grow up. So I didn’t travel didn’t know anything. And but I knew one thing I didn’t want to be like everybody else. And I didn’t mean I didn’t even understand that was about money or success. So I just had this thing inside of me. I just didn’t want to be like everyone.
David Ralph [17:11]
Yeah, it was everybody else to you. And at that point when you were looking around, you didn’t want to be like them. But how did you see what was their thing?
Andy Murphy [17:21]
Boring. Boring. It was like, I just saw everyone doing the same thing goes to a job that they didn’t like, sticking with a relationship that didn’t really enjoy. And, and just getting older and older, and less healthy. And just everyone’s moaning about about their circumstances. But no one’s ever doing anything about it because there was too scared. So everyone kept dreams in the head about what they would want to do. Everyone would talk about these things, but no one would ever do it because they were so afraid of that. If they did try it, it might not work out. So it’s a easy to stay inside your little imagination, rather than actually live in that type of life. And I just didn’t want that. And I had never been introduced some money. When I was I left school, there was no jobs in Liverpool, no jobs, I would think I was a professional dishwasher in restaurants, many years. You know, for many years, I’ve done every job you can possibly imagine. And then what the big shift was me I was I was with my girlfriend, the time I was with for like four years. And she had relatives in Australia. And I was looking at a car factory. Surprise, surprise. That’s what you do in Liverpool, right. And as working in this car factory, and I started in a little bit of money, it was only a couple of hundred pounds a week. But that was still more than I had earned before. And I saved up and I went to Australia and we went for a month. And as I was leaving Australia, again, life’s about decisions, everything’s about decisions you hit and T junctions or forks in the road. And it decision that you make next leads you in a certain direction. And I came back from that. And I was like, I have no idea how I’m getting back there. But I know I’m getting back there. I know I am going back to Australia, that time working on a call factory no money didn’t have a clue how. But right then I knew somehow some way that now that was my focus, I’d seen the beaches, I’d seen the lifestyle. And to me, that changed my world because I knew that life was out there. And then I went back to Liverpool where everyone was moaning and it was cold. And it’s when people were broke. And, and then just drinking and watching football thinking that’s life. But I saw a different world. And now I knew that there was a different way to live. And I that was it. So what I did, this was an interesting story. And this is again, my determination. It’s I said to myself, okay, I know it computers was a booming industry at the time. I’d never even used a computer David I’d never even double click a mouse. And that’s no joke. ever even double click a mouse. And I knew I want to get into it. Why so I could earn good money and travel. And basically didn’t have money to buy a computer. So I got all these books borrowed these books, Microsoft Certified, like exam books and stuff and, and just went okay, well, after work. I am going to study and I and I studied and study, I failed that Microsoft exam, I think it was seven times or eight times. And then I passed it. And then I went for interview after interview after interview after interview after interview, no experience, all I knew was books. And I talked myself into an into a into a job because they saw my passion. And then I got in that job and 18 months went by, I was bored. so bored. Because there was no room for the growth. In the business. I didn’t really like computers, I was just earning money. But it was in that job again. I saw people with lots of money cuz I worked for a very, I was very lucky and work for a very rich company. So again, these things started to show me different sides of life. And then what happened was, my boss was going to find me, plain and simple. And he liked me. But he knew I was starting to cause chaos, because I just wasn’t listening to people because I was bored. And then he said, you know what I’ll do, I’m going to give you three months money, three months, you won’t get the qualifications that you need, and go and get the job that you can because we can’t really you can’t progress in this company. Because it’s it’s, it’s it’s full, basically. So I went really, huh, I’m going to Australia. And that is what brought me to Australia at 24 years old. And within six weeks and making that decision, I studied my boss off again, got another qualification this time pastor first time I got 97% or something, and then went to Australia didn’t know anyone did not have a job and just jumped in. Because All I knew is that I just want to be that. And I didn’t know how I didn’t know what and how it worked was a long story short, that’s how I got into NLP. I never got into it got into sales. And I was very again very lucky, who I was taught by as taught by American guys. And they were the top guys in the world. And from there the rest is history. But again, has any of my life been smooth? No, not a single day. Not a single moment. Not ever. But there’s a difference. I, to me business and making money isn’t about business and making money. It’s got nothing to do with it. It’s about who I become through the journey to get to where I want to go. So it’s really about business to me is like a mirror to show me where how I’m evolving how I’m growing in life. And the more I do that, the more that life becomes nice and nice. And now as I say over the last five years, really I can be anywhere I want to be in the world and do whatever I do whatever I want.
David Ralph [23:19]
But but the brilliant thing about that story, and I didn’t button because there was a natural flow to it was it’s your awareness. It’s your awareness of possibilities. It’s your awareness of your own inner possibilities, what you can actually do the fact that you knew you weren’t very good at it, but you knew that you had enough to be able to study and sort of take it to that next level. I had a gentleman on the show back on episode 178 called Jeff Thompson. Who is I’m a
Unknown Speaker [23:50]
martial arts guy. Yeah, that’s right. Yeah. Yeah.
David Ralph [23:55]
Okay, yeah. So he’s, um, he was a marvelous, marvelous guest. And he was telling me the story about is, and he had this very good sort of analogy of sitting in a warehouse, pitch black, not being able to see anything at all. And you open your eyes, and you’re in this black room. And so you just sit there because you don’t want to move because you don’t know whether you’re going to fall into a hole, or you’re going to sort of stumble or whatever. So you just sit there, routed to the spot. And after about 15 minutes, somebody somewhere opens a fridge and you suddenly see there’s a bit of light over there. So you call over to the fridge and you leave the door open. And suddenly, the glow sort of spread slightly, and you can start to make out the room. And as he was describing it, he was saying those things were always around you, you just couldn’t see them until somebody shine the light on it. And if you shine enough light, you’ll see there’s a door, and you can find your way to the door and open it up and you’re in a different world. Now, what people don’t have more often than not, is that awareness of looking around, assessing their own situation and going Yes, I’m here. But there is actually a door there, back and take me through to somewhere else. That that is the difference between you, Jeff, and most people that I speak to, it’s that personal awareness of possibilities. You don’t know that it’s going to work out. But you know that there’s a chance and you are you’re willing to open that fridge and see what’s there.
Andy Murphy [25:22]
I love that analogy. And yeah, I met Jeff when I was 19 years old, actually in a body garden seminar. bodyguard because which was interesting. But yeah, Jeff was an amazing guy. And it’s either going to pioneer but what’s interesting about that, again, martial arts, right? Yeah, and I don’t know what it is about that. I think it just pushes through boundaries. But I think that’s also the same with martial arts is just one aspect with that could that could be that could be it could be soccer, it could be football, it’s just again, it could be anything, it’s just a case of understanding that you don’t have to be where you are. There is another world and yes, to be skilled at anything requires a lot of work. But it’s like learning any sport. If you want to learn tennis, guess what women’s tennis is at the start, it just feels awkward. It feels unusual, feel strange, you don’t want to play, you don’t even play in tennis, but then you keep playing tennis and what happens, oh, it becomes a bit easier, then you start to get better. And then eventually it starts to become natural and normal. And then you start playing tennis. That’s the same thing with any new habits. That’s the same with any new skills. That’s the same with anything in your life. It’s just it requires people to understand that you not going to be good at it straight away just like I failed. That that exactly. times. It’s just it takes time to learn anything but unfortunately society if you want to call it whatever is programs was in a different way. And the way we get instant information and in instant gratification and instant from from our phones and the internet. It’s amazing thing. But it’s also it’s it’s it’s stopped us on the standing that there is a learning curve to go through no matter what you’re what you’re trying to do in any area of your life.
David Ralph [27:18]
But let’s play some words now. And then we’ll start the conversation again. We’ve you standing in Australia for the first time as a young man looking around thinking, what the hell am I going to do with myself now? This is Jim Carrey
Jim Carrey [27:30]
my father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.
David Ralph [27:57]
So what did you learn from your but looking back, having a father who was raised in Liverpool and probably his dad would come from Liverpool as well. What was the kind of the traits that are inherently him, but you’ve got Andy,
Andy Murphy [28:13]
good ones or bad ones,
David Ralph [28:15]
whatever, whatever is defining of you.
Andy Murphy [28:19]
My dad was a guy. And that’s where I got my martial arts from was from my dad, but my dad is never ever got his mind in the right place. He’s never he’s always blamed other people. It’s something I don’t do I take full responsibility. And he’s also with him. He taught me from a young age to focus on the worst case scenario. That’s what used to teach me focus on what’s the worst possible thing that can happen because if you know that, then you’re safe. Well, to me, that doesn’t quite work. You need to be aware of what the worst cases but your focuses on on the big picture. So with my dad, what I got from him with strength, that’s my dad, he was a fighter in his heart. Because he grew up in a really rough environment in Liverpool I just a million times worse. That was the me get nothing. But what he did for us always kept pushing. So I know, I get that from my dad, he just won’t stop. He won’t give up. He will keep moving forward. And I know I get my strength from my dad like that. And everything else. I think it’s just me being learning more about myself and trying things and seeing if you like it don’t like it if you’re good at it. You’re all you know, and not being afraid to fail. Because I watched my dad who’s a great great martial artist, but again, he you got beat, everyone gets beat. And and no matter how good I was, and I was on the under 20 ones England team, the England squad in Crotty when growing up. And no matter how good I go, I was someone to come along and go pink, and you’d beat you. And what that taught you was that losing. It doesn’t really mean anything. It doesn’t mean anything. It’s not the end of the world who care. As you know, we all get beat. But again, like that rocky thing you said before, it’s just how many times it’s the lessons you learn about yourself when you do get beat at something that gives you the strength to move forward. Now, that’s the difference that makes the difference. It’s like a world champion. Right? Do you tell them when I work with like real high level world champions you telling me that they just go in on race day When? Now of course the dumb as ups and downs and injuries and sicknesses and tired days and awesome days and all of this. They lose races, they win races, they lose races. But what’s that got to do with anything else about your life? It’s about who you become, from those experiences that change everything. And to me I learned I think at an early age, it doesn’t matter how how good I think I am. There’s always somebody better. So I’ve always got to keep improving. And when you lose, who cares? What do you do next?
David Ralph [31:19]
But But you come from an environment Liverpool, which is famous for, you know, football is not life or death. It’s more than that. You know that? That is how it was always phrase. Absolutely. Absolutely. So how do you leave that behind? I’m fascinated about that moment in your teenage life, where you’ve had that programming for 15, 1617 years, but you had that mental strength to go. No, I’m breaking free from that. Because it’s the hardest thing, isn’t it? familiarity is the hardest thing to actually sever.
Andy Murphy [31:55]
Yes, certainty. It creates certainty. And all it is is I I always felt like I was a little bit different anyway. And and I mean that in the case of when my friends were out doing crazy stuff, I was out going to do martial arts. So I always knew I was a little bit different, then I come out and hang out afterwards was always a little bit different. And I’m probably most people out there listening to this are a little bit different, too. Because you wouldn’t be listening to this, you wouldn’t be listening to David if you weren’t different. Because you wouldn’t you’d be down the pub watching football, you’re gonna be sitting listening to this podcast. So you already different. So be realized that first of all, if you different, then it’s time to work out what different life you want. And is it hard? Guess. But guess what? I trust something inside of myself. And I know everyone listening can can relate to this. I trust this little this little voice, this little intuition. And this is how I literally bounce countries careers all the rest of it is trust in Islam guidance system I have in me when it feels right. I mean, it feels I’m excited by it. And I trust, it’s right. And my stomach goes, feels horrible. But my head’s going you know, you’ve got to do that, you know, you’ve got to go to work. You know, you’ve got to meet that person, you know, you’ve got to do that. But my stomach is like, ooh, no, I really don’t want it but my head saying yes, I won’t do it. And repeat that. So most people, they’ll go, oh, I’ve got to go and do it. I never did. And, and that’s just become that pattern is just become bills more and more and more and more. And so was it hard to leave? Yes. That’s why I had to do it quickly. That’s why I didn’t listen to anybody else’s opinion. I didn’t listen to all the doubters, like my friends thought I’d be back within six weeks, all of my friends and then suddenly six months went by then a year went by and two years went by and you’re like, Oh my God, he’s still not bad. I didn’t listen to them. I didn’t listen to their doubts, their theories and to do with mine. That’s their issues. that’s their problem, they just become jealous. And what you find is, as you move forward, you’re going to get more resistance from everybody else, because they want to pull you back down to them to that level. Why? Because it then it doesn’t feel they don’t feel bad about them not moving forwards in their life. But if you’ve got this, this feeling and this pole inside of you, then you need to listen to that you need to listen to that you need to do something different to what everyone else does. It’s like someone like we talked about the very, very start, like the people that you see in the media or on TV or even myself, wherever you relate to me. It’s a case of Oh, he’s already done it. Well, the point is, everyone starts at the same place. And we’re all born and we hope to die will hold on this life Jim and so at the end of the day, it’s what we do next, I usually back soon, it’s a bit of a cheesy thing. But it’s it’s also the truth like I was, I’ve gone in this Oprah kick over the last, like 12 months for some bizarre reason. And her autobiography is called what I know for sure. And again, what it does is it shows you that everything you’ve been through is nothing because that lady came from the worst of the worst of the most horrible circumstances you can possibly imagine. And she still built that life. So when you read also biographies, when you immerse yourselves in an amazing things, then your mind starts to build those neurological patterns, it starts to emulate them. It’s called mirror neurons. But what that does, is it starts to learn those habits and behaviors. So I always describe it like this David remember, I hung around with crazy people. When I was growing up, I also hung around with athletes. And there’s a very different mindset between an athlete and someone who’s just doing random stuff every day. And at the end of the day,
what you do I look at it, I look at it like this. I if you’ve never drank a day in your life, right? And you go and hang around with people who drink or alcoholics, guess what you’re going to do? Yeah, start drinking. If you have never trained a day in your life, but go and hang around with athletes, guess what’s gonna happen? You go into start training, take it to an extreme level, you went hung around with billionaires, guess what, you might have become a billionaire. But you’re going to be well on your way. And Why though? Well, it’s because of the conversations, the opportunities, the beliefs, they reinforce whatever the conversation is, if you’re hanging around with people who drink, what are you talking about drinking, if you hang around with athletes, what you’re talking about sports and being fed, hanging around with entrepreneurs, guess what you’re talking about. So for you, for everyone out there, your immediate people that you surround yourself with have been a massive effect or a massive effect on you. So part of what I would do with value my time so much that I would only be around and the people that I wanted to be around that made me happy, supported me and move me forward. And that was one of the biggest things I did to get me out of Liverpool. Because I started to set it was interesting, I didn’t even think about this. I actually moved that Liverpool for like maybe two months before I left. And I was a lot of time on my own. And that’s when I left that was a job. That’s when I started studying. That’s when I made the decision to go, because there was no one around me saying, Oh, you can’t do that.
David Ralph [37:51]
Yeah. And that’s the transition, isn’t it? That’s that is the the amazing thing I used to say. But I used to be a manager up in the City of London. And I used to say, people, if you want to move from that team, don’t sit with them, move to the end of the desk or move to another desk, start moving yourself away. because number one, mentally you’ll be ready for that transition. And by you will be thinking right, you’ve moved off anyway, so they won’t keep on dragging you back. So what you did there, you did a brilliant thing of actually separating yourself from those crabs, those that the bucket of crabs that drag you back time and time again, even though when you’re on your own, and I’m going to bring on one of my mates now because she hangs around me all the time. So this is Oprah but she’s got a great statement about being on your own, but not knowing the next step to make but just listening to yourself. His Oprah
Oprah Winfrey [38:45]
the way through the challenge is to get still and ask yourself, what is the next right move? not think about, Oh, I got all of this stuff. What is the next right move? And then from that space, make the next right move, and the next right move, and not to be overwhelmed by it. Because you know, your life is bigger than that one moment, you know, you’re not defined by what somebody says, is a failure for you. Because failure is just there to point you in a different direction.
David Ralph [39:17]
Because my family and do you think I’m a bit weird, I think because when I’m working I work very, very hard. But when I go back into the house, where is his lifetime, most of them my my son’s on his tablet, my daughter’s on something and my wife’s watching TV, more often than not, I will just sit in a chair and not do anything. And I go well, and you’re gonna put music on you can Anaconda, I’m just quite happy being here. And it’s what Oprah saying is giving yourself that chance to separate yourself from your work your task and your future. Is that kind of middle ground to allow those sports to, to push you forward, isn’t it?
Andy Murphy [39:55]
Absolutely. And you know, it’s the more over the years especially lost their seniors were discovered with a lot of high level people what will cost people and you doing exactly the same David it’s they spend a lot of time on their own? They do. Because that’s where you reflect, that’s where you, you get a new perspective, that’s where you got the aha moments. It’s not when you’re around constant distraction. It’s not when you around constant conversation on noise is those moments where you can get clarity that your life changes. And it is, and a lot of people like try and stay away because they don’t understand pain, pain. To me, it’s a great thing. You know why? It’s a great thing, because to me, the universe is just going guess what does that hurt? Right? Do you want to keep staying there hurting yourself? Would you want to go back to to what feels good. So when something’s horrible, and it doesn’t feel nice, and it’s painful, you probably want to pay attention to and make a different choice. And then it’s working out what you want, why you How you going to get there, and who you got to become to achieve it.
David Ralph [41:05]
Yeah, but more often than not, and the The problem is, when you get to the pain, the pain is when you take action, exactly as you say. But more often than not, I know that my listeners by are in a job, and I pay their bills, and they’re bored, and they’re looking around wanting more, but it’s not too bad to do anything, the amount of them that have come through emails and conversations and stuff, and guests as well. But say to me, when I got sacked, it was the best thing that ever happened to me because suddenly I wasn’t comfortable. I had to do something about it. And I all look back at those moments of extreme pain as actually the big docs in their join up dots timeline that take them forward. But I had to have that forced on them because comfort is the big C word isn’t it? It is the killer of dreams
Andy Murphy [41:58]
is it is I think I was always used to pain be due to being martial arts. I think I was always used to it. So it wasn’t scary. And most people try and stay away from from pain. And and and they stay in the middle rather going towards pleasure. They stay in that freeze bit in the middle. And so the pains not quite bad enough. But the pleasures not quite big enough. So these these stay in that middle. It For me it was it was I don’t know. I just it never it never scared me. And so because it never scared me. Well, that’s not true, I should say he actually I’ll take that completely back to a different way. I’m scared every single day. How’s about that for you business. And I haven’t met a single person in my life at any level ever who I’ve coached or know, that isn’t scared at some point during the day. Like, but there’s a difference. you telling me that person going to do that will that will cost race isn’t scared to death? course they are. But what do you do next? So the same with pain. Okay, it’s not quite bad. And I’ll settle. And that’s what you find a lot of people go back to Liverpool. And it’s like, it’s like a time machine. Everyone’s still doing the same thing, having the same conversation is drinking in the same pubs doing the same routine. And that feels really, really comfortable. Because everyone else around them is doing that too. So the thing that’s normal, but it is normal, but it’s not my normal. And it doesn’t have to be their normal. It doesn’t have to be us as normal. But at that moment, right, then it’s a case of what I like to do is forwards the movie. And what I mean by that is, if you’re sitting in a job that’s boring, or you just know there’s a different life. Well, okay, if you keep doing what you’re doing, if you fall without five years, how’s that gonna work out for you?
David Ralph [43:51]
Andy Murphy [43:53]
Yeah, exactly. And so then it’s like, Well, okay, I don’t know what other options are. But that write some few options down Option one, option two, option three option for cool. Well, I don’t know how I’m going to do that. But if I did do that, what type of life would it give me? And then all you do that’s that’s business. That’s anything? What are the possibilities? Well, I don’t know how I’m going to do this. Right. But which one feels right? which one can you do? Well, I’d love to do that. But oh, I just don’t know how to I just stay over here. Sure. You can stay over there. Stay there for was that movie? How’s that working out for you? Right? going to make a change? So what are the options? Right? Okay, option one follows the movie option to option three. That’s all it is.
David Ralph [44:38]
And that’s what I’m saying? Isn’t it? Really? That’s exactly what Oprah saying.
Andy Murphy [44:43]
Exactly. And hey, who’s better to know too much about how to work this world than Oprah right? She’s pretty got it brilliant nailed it, well opens
David Ralph [44:51]
one of those strange characters really, that until this job that I’m doing now, she never really come into my world. She used to be on sort of it the afternoon on some kind of weird channel in the UK. And to be honest, if she was on, I would just turn it off, wasn’t interested in the slightest. But through this, you kind of see these people in a different way. And it’s not that they have nailed it by luck isn’t that they’ve nailed it by personality. It’s so much more than that. And they realize it. That’s the key thing that I got out of it. She realizes that she’s not the finished article even now, which makes us so impressive. And when you see all the people that are doing their thing, and they’re going for it time and time again, but trying to improve, it’s like it’s like going back to Liverpool again, you look at someone like Paul McCartney. Now, Paul McCartney’s well in the 70s. And many people will say, Paul, he should stop. Now. I’m a great fan of The Beatles. And I love wings and love Paul McCartney work, but you can’t dispute that he’s voice is not what it was when he was a 30 year old. But inside him, he’s still going for that, hey, Jude is going for that yesterday, he’s going for something. And he’s that what separates these people that even when they’ve got their millions, and they’ve got their profile, and they’ve got their performance that people love, they’re still willing to put themselves out there to go again, now waiting for people to say, You’re not as good as you used to be by keep on going.
Andy Murphy [46:21]
Yeah, exactly. Because there’s a strategy or a way of thinking or a mindset that gotten there, originally. And so basically, that’s them. And what gives them the purpose of living, is that it’s that drive otherwise, what you’re going to do, you’re going to stop and do nothing in life. No, they’re still going to put out there, but there’s a difference. The difference is they don’t really give a damn what anyone else thinks. Because all they can do is that best at the time. And it’s coming from an organic way. It’s coming from the heart if you want to use that it’s coming from inside of them and all that doing expressing this Well, to me, that’s all life is. It’s just in it you just supposed to express and what’s inside of you and and like an entrepreneur to me and entrepreneurs mindset is what you can imagine, how can you pull it out into this world and make it physical? And that’s all it is because every single thing that’s ever been created by a human started in their imagination. Now, people who don’t understand the whole David thing that the imagination is just a play thing. It’s nothing. Well, guess what? It’s not that it’s very, very real. Just be when you have an experience in your mind. And you may get the aha moment, that’s as real as as touching a four or a car. It’s real. So when you start to understand this, about the conscious unconscious mind, and all these patterns, and how this, how we’re wired together, and how everything’s connected to chemicals and cells, and we can even quantum physics and all sorts of stuff. But at the end of the day, it’s why are you doing this, and for them that purpose in life is to express what excites them. And at the end of the day, that is that big tick, that’s that bucket list. That’s what keeps the moving forward. That’s why probably he’ll get to a long, long age is simply because he keeps doing what makes him feel good.
David Ralph [48:24]
So So when does Andi Murphy realize that he’s just written? Hey, Jude, when do you know that you’ve actually gone up a level to what you’ve done before?
Andy Murphy [48:37]
Really nice question when I’m happier.
When I’m when I’m content, more content, meaning I’m not stressed, it means the results. If I’m working on a good bring more clients, and I’ll build this academy, or build more the podcaster, wherever it is, when I see the result, and I know I’ve stepped up a level, if I don’t see that result, I don’t go, Oh, I suck. No, I go, what do I need to do to solve the problems to get to where I want to go? If I’m overwhelmed and anxious, I don’t sit in that overwhelm and anxious. I catch that pattern and go, Okay, how can I move through this? What do I need to know about myself that if I did, would help me let go of this situation? What is it about myself? Or another way to look at it is what would the future version of me say to myself right now, and and that is a perspective change. And that perspective, change actually encodes the unconscious mind the different way, again, that’s in your imagination, your life begins in your imagination. The challenge becomes conferences like Liverpool, that they didn’t expand your imagination. I remember I’ve told this story many times, but I remember last last few months of school, and we had a careers officer. And this career officer came in. And he had folders and folders of all these jobs and apprenticeships and everything. I sat there for about an hour. So I went up to him and went, I don’t want to do any of that. What else can I do? And he looked at me. And he went well, that’s it. And I said, No, I don’t want to do any of that. What else can I do with my life? And he basically ignored me and and went to somebody else. Nobody even said to me, oh, you can do sales happens to be the most sought after profession in the world. But no one ever said that to me. No one even asked me Andy, what do you like? What you enjoy? No one even said it
David Ralph [50:40]
because he hadn’t opened his fridge. Whoa, howdy that that was his problem he wasn’t aware
Andy Murphy [50:45]
David Ralph [50:46]
Yeah. Well, they are. They’re so dreary, nondescript, our member my career’s officer, and I think I said, and you’ve got to be in the 80s to remember this. But I was very heavily influenced by like, the Thompson weightings and Nik Kershaw and people like that. And I used to have my keyboards and I still play the piano now, but me and my mate, we were gonna be the next big thing. And I, that’s all I wanted to do, I wanted to be the next big thing. And we used to sit there every night and write songs and all that kind of stuff. And when I sat down with the career advisor, he said, work in a bank, and it was like, what you don’t realize I’m going to be on Top of the Pops. This is going to be Wembley Stadium, may I’m not gonna work in a bank, and he just couldn’t see it, because he’s awareness of possibilities didn’t sort of coexist with mine, that he wasn’t dovetailing because I had a totally different reality was like, there was a mirror. And he was on one side seeing something and I was on the other.
Andy Murphy [51:44]
hysterical, it’s crazy, because that’s how dreams get squashed. Because but the difference is, some people get told that and then they go, Well, whatever, I’m going to do it anyway. Some people go, Oh, okay. That’s, that’s how it is okay, I’ll just, I’ll just stay here and be defeated. And that’s why that’s why someone becomes Elon Musk, or Steve Jobs. And someone doesn’t, it’s the difference is that people are going to say many things to you, because they can’t see what’s through your eyes. And they also can’t see what’s your future. It starts with inside of you. And when you can open your imagination to infinite possibilities, if you could take the boundary of what’s possible. And you could write this next chapter of your life. What would somebody want? Well, guess what, like I said about hanging around with billionaires, athletes, whoever is the man times David that like even in California, you know, I’ve lived in Australia, New Zealand, Bali, California, Florida, UK. And, and even in California. Because I first got there, I bankrupt, I turned down a job in Hong Kong, by the way to work for one of the largest real estate developers in the world. flute borrowed money, this was was bankrupt in New Zealand, borrow money and flew to LA for five days. Why? Because I trusted my intuition, then came back, and then just just just made it happen. But the Mad times I got to LA didn’t know anyone didn’t have a job, nothing like that. The amount of times, I just got in a call, and would drive two plus three hours to go for a cup of coffee with somebody that I knew could help me move forwards, it would just be some days, I’d spend 1012 hours days driving, just to be around certain people that I felt could help me so I could help them. And that’s the difference, right? That’s the difference.
David Ralph [53:41]
You had fighting yourself. And you’ve mentioned this man just previously, but it is a powerful statement that he made over 10 years ago. And it became the whole theme to what has become a join up dots so let’s bring him on. This is Steve Jobs
Steve Jobs [53:55]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards. 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [54:30]
But you had that faith, the fact that you would drive three hours just for a cup of coffee with someone and you didn’t know it was going to pan out. When you look back on everything. Is there a big.in your life that really was the moment that the Andi Murphy that were speaking to now separated himself from the Andi Murphy that was growing up in Liverpool.
Andy Murphy [54:53]
Interesting question. It was funny. Yes, it does. It does this. There’s many moments, but the main one was interesting. I remember being in Australia. And I’d been in three weeks, three weeks. And I remember standing outside the hotel. And I had my old bags, my bags all pushed against the wall. I was leaning against the bags, I was standing that posture up just look in and watching and staring at everybody just caulking every single person making sure I was safe making sure my bags were safe. Liverpool, right. And then I caught myself when I’m the only one doing this. What am I doing? And at that moment, it was like a huge weight had been dropped off me because I didn’t have to be aggressive. I didn’t have to be protective anymore. And that was like a massive Pinnacle moment in my life where I realized that I was changing
David Ralph [55:53]
the when you look back at that bow, was it? Was it a mystical moment? It was it a moment that you tangibly could fill always only now you look back on it, and you go Yeah, that that was that was my big dot.
Unknown Speaker [56:08]
Well, I look
Andy Murphy [56:10]
back now realizing how big it was at the moment. But at the time, I knew it impacted me in a different way. And you knew it changed my view of the world. So I could relax. And I’d never been able to do that before I was constantly on fight mode constantly protecting constantly. So it wasn’t Yes, hindsight. That’s hindsight. You don’t know what the next thing is going to do for you don’t know. You’ve just got to walk forward to and do your best
David Ralph [56:41]
is a powerful statement to make, isn’t it when you do trust your gut. Now we’ve all got a gut. And we’ve all got that little voice and if you take all the speeches that we’ve heard today, and you bought them out of me, I think I’ve done that the four. So we’ve got Jim Carrey saying you gotta go for what you love take away Escom doing what you love. And Ben rocky saying, you know, it’s going to be rough. And you’re going to be here and you can get up and you can go for it. With Oprah chipping in with just just look at the next step. Don’t worry about what you got to do. Five years down the line, just look at that next step, when you get yourself back up the feet on your feet, because you’ve been punched in the face. Just look at the next step. And then Steve Jobs chipping in with have faith. And even if you don’t know where you are, Just have faith that it’s going to join up. And you are going to find yourself in that position. And the four of them within maybe three minutes, or whatever it would take to listen to those. That is your blueprint for success, isn’t it those four speeches joined together literally can take you anywhere you want.
Andy Murphy [57:44]
Absolutely, absolutely. Hundred percent lately. And then it’s about one two aware of that. It’s then doing something about it. And it’s then understanding that the not just words that they’re saying the trying to explain, see you that this is how they become who they become. Because all the media is showing is the end results. And unfortunately, that’s not the way it is. But what they’re trying to show you is that yes, we started where you are. And step by step we lead it towards. Now no one’s telling everyone to be Oprah no one’s telling them to be Steve Jobs. But what everyone’s were trying to say to everybody and including myself, is that we must be a work towards being the best version of Oz that we can possibly be. So we can look back at the end of all life and know that we’ve given everything we’ve got everything that we’ve got, because I want no regrets in my life not and I do my best to give it everything I’ve got every day and just help people and grow this and just evolve into the person that I know I truly am.
David Ralph [58:57]
So just before we send you back in time, on the end of the show, which is the Sermon on the mic, where is Andi Murphy going, you’ve done so much in such a short period of time. But do you know or is it literally day by day that you focus?
Andy Murphy [59:13]
I know exactly where I’m going. And and I haven’t even begun David that’s the other thing, my I haven’t even begun, I am just getting started. I’m 37 years old now. And I am just getting started. I know what I want to do that will make me happy. And what makes me happy now each day makes me happy. And I’m learning that more and more and to be happy and content in the moment for sure. And my priorities changed over the last year because I have got my girl, my My Girl That’s My partner forever now you know, and and she makes me look at prioritize things a different way. So it’s not about just me anymore. It’s about the family. So that made me change things. But it also made me step up, didn’t make me step down and worry made me step up. So to me, the the biggest picture is why I don’t need motivation any day, at all ever, is because the picture of my future is being able to build my profile, build my internet marketing skills, built my business skills. So I can travel the world and find charities and people that need support, help, and then just just grow that businesses grow that charities, and so I can help hundreds of thousands of people. That’s my mission. That’s my goal. That’s why I drive full because I know inside my head, that is ultimately my purpose. And because of that, then every day that I’m not doing that, well, I’m still building towards it. So even if that’s not true, this is the other thing. Even if that’s not true, even if that never happens, what does it do for me, keeps me pulling me forward. So I grow into the version of me that I know who I know I am. So I can be able to help all of those people.
David Ralph [1:01:10]
Sometimes you get lost on a way to a dream and find a better one. I think that’s what I say is naked. Yeah, it’s
Andy Murphy [1:01:16]
beautiful. Yeah, but it’s true. And this is the thing about the thing people get confused about these memories, or the way we’re thinking about the future is I’m here to tell everyone because I work with neural nets, I work with memories, I work with the unconscious mind. None of its real. Not a single thing is real. It’s like we have people out there going, Yeah, but that passed them that personal rip me off that was real, that the person who hurt me in the past that was real, guess what? It was real for a moment. But that’s it. It’s like me, you David and some of the cool people we could all go out for then I could interview everyone Two weeks later, everyone’s got a completely different memory of that night. You know, the, the waitress was cute, the food was awesome, the way the music was too loud, whatever it is. So then you’ve got to ask yourself a question. What’s real? Because you’re thinking about that, that that scenario being in that restaurant, everyone’s different. So what’s real, what’s real is the decision we make about it. And that’s exactly the same as way we think about the future. Because everything that we’re thinking about the future, again, it’s not real, it’s just what we’re thinking about the future. And when you understand this, these neural nets, this neurology works like a muscle, then the way you’ve been thinking, feeling and acting, you’ve been pumping that muscle. So when you start designing the future, when you start designing what you want, and who you are going to be in it, then you start to lift and pump this new muscle. And this new muscle, all you gotta do is catch the old pattern, stop firing the new one, the new thoughts and feelings, the new vision. And then this starts to build, the more you build it, the more this older version of you starts to shrink and go away, because that’s called atrophy. That’s what happens with muscles. And it happens also with neural nets.
David Ralph [1:03:15]
Let’s bring it to the end. Now we could go on for three or four hours on the show. This is the part that we call the Sermon on the mic, when we’re going to send you back in time to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time and speak to the young Andy, what advice would you like to give? And what age would you choose? Well, we’re going to find out, because I’m going to play the theme. And when it Phaedra This is the Sermon on the mic.
Unknown Speaker [1:03:44]
Here we go with the best of the show.
Andy Murphy [1:04:01]
Hello, Andy. So you’re seven years old, hey, seven years old, the whole world’s in front of you, you know, your parents, they were just doing the best. That’s all they would do. They were just doing the best with the information that they had at the time. They were just trying to keep you safe, just trying to look after it wasn’t their fault that they didn’t understand about money wasn’t their fault that their parents treat them like that wasn’t their fault that they thought the world that they lived in? Was that small. But what would happen I’m here to tell you, Andy, is that there are no rules to this life. And you deserve everything that you want. And with money. Well, just because you come from no money doesn’t mean you’re different to people with money. So right now, if you understand and just do every everything that makes you happy, and you work your butts off and understand that life is long, and you keep persistent, you’re going to have the most beautiful, incredible life. So right now, be kind on yourself. Don’t let these problems stresses, these other people’s opinions even concern you because you’re going to have a beautiful life. So be kind on yourself. And at the end of the day, you can only do your best. And so if you were to do anything in life, start allowing your imagination to expand and who knows where you can be by the end of this journey. So give it everything you’ve got. Be kind on yourself and work your butts off and you’re going to have a beautiful beautiful life
David Ralph [1:05:47]
Andy was the number one best way that our audience can connect with you sir.
Andy Murphy [1:05:52]
Yeah, there’s a dozen to two main ways to the best way but is is on my my iTunes podcast. It’s mindset by design. Another way is you just go to Andi Murphy dot biz, or bi Zed for you American folk out there. But that’s the two ways you can contact me the best and I’d love to connect and help anyone I cancer.
David Ralph [1:06:13]
Andy, thank you so much for spending time with us today and joining up those dots. Please come back again when you have more dots to join up because I do believe that but joining the dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. Mr. Andy Murphy, thank you so much.
Andy Murphy [1:06:29]
Thank you, sir.
David Ralph [1:06:32]
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