Carmen Harris Joins Us On The Steve Jobs Inspired Join Up Dots Podcast
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Introducing Carmen Harris
Carmen Harris is today’s guest joining us on the Steve Jobs inspired Join Up Dots podcast.
She is a lady with a really eclectic career.
In fact it’s more like a group of careers, which has lead her to where she is today.
She has worked as a radio and TV script-writer and a children’s author for approaching 30 years.
Her CV includes penning 2 series of an original prime-time BBC 1 sitcom The Crouches, a 10-year stint as a core writer for Eastenders and various engagements as a film Dialogue Coach and even raising from a child the current Moneypenny in the latest James Bond series.
Yes, she is the mother of Hollywood actress Naomi Harris too.
If that is not a enough she is also an intuitive and certified healing practitioner.
How The Dots Joined Up For Carmen
Now the interesting thing for me, is how she confesses that since a small child she cold see that she was always looking for the thing that was uniquely her.
A thing that lit her up inside and made her feel that she was on a path that is hers and hers alone.
And this path, unexpectedly appeared when she visited a terminally ill young woman who rose out of a coma after she placed her hand on the woman’s abdomen.
She had joined up her dots, and found that she was going to become Carmen Harris healer from now on.
And now with her writing, and focus on well-being she is connecting all the elements of the last thirty years.
So how did this lady born in Jamaica, find herself developing characters for such an English establishment as “Eastenders”?
And does she see a change in the attitudes of the world, are we getting more open minded as we look for a different way of healing and looking after ourselves?
Well lets find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Carmen Harris.
During the show we discussed such weighty topics with Carmen Harris such as:
Why she strongly feels that stuff happens for a reason and nothing goes wasted in your life. All our experiences lead to something magical and positive in our lives.
Why we should all find that something, that we can’t stop doing and keep on doing it until it becomes something that others want us to provide for them.
How she remembers laying on her bed, crying out in the night asking why her life was going the way it was, and soon the answer appeared.
Why she believes totally in her heart that there must be a completely total different way of operating on this world…..it can’t just be what we see and feel.
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Full Transcription Of Carmen Harris Interview
David Ralph [0:32]
Yes, that’s a blast from the past the original intro from Join Up Dots over 400 shows ago and I found it and I kind of got rid of it because I got bored of it but now let us know do you prefer back to the one we got? Should we get a new theme tune a new introduction. Tell us what you think about it by email or voicemail and we might make a change Well, today’s guest joining us on the Join Up Dots show is a lady with a really eclectic career and It’s more like a group of careers which has led her to where she is today. She’s worked as a radio and TV script writer and a children’s author for approaching 30 years and believe me, she doesn’t look old enough. A CV includes penning two series of an original primetime BBC One sitcom The crouches, a 10 year stint as a co writer for East Enders. I wonder if she wrote get out my pub. That’s that’s the line we’ll know. And various engagements as a film dialogue coach and even raising from a child, the current money Penny and the latest James Bond series. Yeah, she’s the mother of Hollywood actress Naomi Harris, too. That’s not enough. She’s also an intuitive and certified healing practitioner. And the interesting thing for me is how she confesses that since a small child she could see that she was always looking for the thing that was uniquely her, a thing that lit up inside and made her feel that she was on a path that is hers and hers alone. And this path unexpectedly appeared when she visited a terminally ill young woman who rose out of a coma She placed her hand on the woman’s abdomen freaky stuff. She joined up her thoughts and now with a writing and focus on well being she’s connecting all the elements of the last 30 years. So how did this lady born in Jamaica find herself developing characters but such an English establishment as East Enders? And does she see a change in the attitudes of the world? Are we getting more open minded as we look for a different way of healing? and looking after ourselves? Well, let’s find out as we bring onto the show to start joining dots with the one and only Carmen Harris. How are you Carmen?
Carmen Harris [2:32]
Hi, I’m doing well. Thank you, David. It’s just one just one little correction. My original TV series wasn’t the crowd is although I did write for the crowd. Jeez, it was called us girls.
David Ralph [2:44]
Well, I’ll be honest with you. I don’t remember I’ve ever I don’t.
Carmen Harris [2:48]
David Ralph [2:49]
Well, I know I know. When I not good, Carmen.
Carmen Harris [2:53]
What are they not good?
David Ralph [2:55]
Yeah, well, they not good. Is that why you want to sort of just brush over
Carmen Harris [2:59]
it You know, you know, when you, you know, when you’re starting out and you, you know, you have to start somewhere and at the time it was brilliant, but looking back now I think all we could have been a lot better but then that’s Yeah, that’s for most of us, isn’t it? I learned a lot.
David Ralph [3:14]
Oh, yeah, that’s the key point. And that’s why I played that introduction from Join Up Dots. That was my original one. And I look at it now. And I think to myself, was that kind of the essence that I should have had? Should I have moved to the more dramatic one I’ve got now should have kept that you just don’t know. But you just try things, don’t you?
Carmen Harris [3:30]
Yeah, that’s what life’s about. No regrets everything. So everything goes into the learning and growth pot.
David Ralph [3:37]
Well, the last time you was on the show, and none of the listeners know this, you’ve got a call that says something happens it’s an S word with a T on the end if any kids are listening, but um and just sort of let life happens when when things go badly wrong, and I had a terrible day when you was going to come on the show and I couldn’t hear you and then my system wasn’t working and I was having power cuts later. right and centre isn’t your house Spirit then is it just, I’m gonna say the word that shit happens and deal with it afterwards?
Carmen Harris [4:08]
Well, it’s it’s actually not deal with it afterwards it’s actually putting yourself in that place where you know that this shit is here for a reason. And that reason is your personal growth. And it’s happened so many times to me and I can’t say that I’ve always dealt with it in the same way. But you know that since I wrote the book, things have been happening to me left, right and centre even down to when I had my book launch. It was that exact day when we had the first tube strike after 10 years. Can you believe that?
David Ralph [4:49]
And do you just embrace it now?
Carmen Harris [4:51]
What the initial feeling is kind of panic. Oh my god, you know, that’s that the old me and I have to remember that and then I have to kind of steep myself So in myself and say, okay, the universe knows the universe knows what it’s doing. I have to trust that. And what happened that particular day was that it was incredible. Everybody turned up, we had full house people were turning up on bikes. They were sharing cabs were taking buses, they were walking. A lot of people, it took them two, three hours to get there, but they turned up, and had I been in that state of panic. And I’m sure it would, it would have just gone rotten from beginning to end. So there’s always magic.
David Ralph [5:34]
And you believe a is actually magic is not a victim mentality. It’s a learning mentality.
Carmen Harris [5:42]
It’s, it’s definitely it’s definitely that, you know, it’s for me, it’s it and you can believe what you want. But I always say well, what belief serves you which belief actually serves you in life? I could believe that believe that, you know, all this shit is happening to me and poor me. I’m a victim. Or I can believe that this stuff is here for me. And I will know why at some point in my life, whether sooner or later, you know, and that serves me better than being a victim. So that’s the way I choose to go. And it works.
David Ralph [6:16]
And if you always know why, but even as a young girl in Jamaica running around in the surf and the beaches and stuff we will use are very much focused on.
Carmen Harris [6:25]
I have a very bad memory and I have to remember myself as that five year old child in Jamaica, I certainly don’t remember you know, being in the surf and frolicking because I actually can’t swim.
David Ralph [6:36]
So when do you remember when you’re sort of defining moment of Yeah, that’s when common was starting to move.
Carmen Harris [6:44]
And it’s, it’s been it’s been quite a gradual process. You know, I’ve always been interested in I’ve always been interested in people terribly interested in people and I took a sociology degree And I really wanted to take psychology, you know, understand the way people’s minds work, but I didn’t have a good enough math grade. So I took sociology. And I realised when I became a writer that it was all the same thing, because when you’re a writer, you don’t just write words that people say these words come from a backstory, a motivation. And it’s the same with the healing when people come to me, and they say that they have a problem. The problem isn’t to do with what’s happening to them now. It’s about the unresolved issues in their backstory. So in answer to your question, it’s been a very gradual process, but I don’t know when I started being really interested in in in people but whenever that was, that’s when my journey began.
David Ralph [7:55]
is one of those kind of moments in your life and the fact that you can assess. But on one hand, your healing career is tied up with your writing career and your writing careers tied up with your psychology. What we’re talking about at that moment is not thinking about skills, but understanding yourself, isn’t it? Finding your absolute core essence your interest, which binds everything together?
Carmen Harris [8:18]
Yes. And you know, what I’ve discovered is nothing goes wasted, you may think to yourself, oh, gosh, you know, I was in that office job to 10 years and I wasted my life. And now I’m doing what I want to do now. Nothing’s wasted. every single aspect of who you are all your experiences, all the life events around you, it all goes through that funnel into into becoming the person you’re meant to be.
David Ralph [8:48]
Now, here’s the big question when so when you’re sitting in that crappy job in an office, wondering how you’re going to gain some kind of, I don’t know, stepping stone from destiny. With a spreadsheet 24 hours a day or It feels like it was a good way of actually operating at that time. How can you find the nuggets of gold when there’s so obviously so deeply hidden? It’s very difficult to find them?
Carmen Harris [9:12]
Well, I always say that, you know, we know we know why we’re here what what we’re meant to be doing. And we but we what we do is we suppress it. Because, you know, the, the thought of facing our own potential sometimes it’s just too much is too scary. And the first thing to do is to just ask yourself, what is it in my life that I can’t stop doing? It might be cooking, it might be doodling it might be looking after children. It might be helping people it doesn’t matter what it is. But there’s something that’s driving us you so you might have the office job that’s driving you crazy, but when you go home, you find that you know, you want Go into the kitchen and cook something wonderful or, you know, you want to go and go to a pet sanctuary and hug a dog or a puppy or whatever. So there’s something that’s driving you underneath all of that and went once you identify that, that’s the first step.
David Ralph [10:18]
So if somebody says I like nothing more than laying on the sofa watching Netflix, would you say there’s still something in there?
Carmen Harris [10:28]
Well, you might be an aspiring writer, you know, because nowadays, I don’t watch television. Television doesn’t do it for me. But I used to be that person who was an avid TV watcher, I watch TV all the time. And look what came out of it. I became a TV writer.
David Ralph [10:46]
So I swap them Why have you swapped so 360 we used to watch it all the time. And now you don’t turn it on.
Carmen Harris [10:54]
And because I’m I’m interested, I mean, I love documentaries. So I get all my viewing from, you know, the internet now. So it, I think what it is, is that, you know, I don’t want what served up to me, I want to be more discerning in what i what i watch, and I can do that on the internet. So it’s not that I don’t watch stuff I do. But it’s stuff that’s important to me.
David Ralph [11:19]
I’ve been that’s a big part of what I’m doing here, really, because a podcast is tailored content. You’re only gonna listen to this show, if it’s something you’re interested in, and it’s something that you’re searching for, and likes because I’m more and more like that now isn’t it is becoming, you know, I can lose hours on YouTube, watching me to old concerts in interviews with Michael Parkinson and somebody 1970 and all that kind of stuff. Because I’m very interested in conversation and how people express themselves and how they tick so I can lose hours and hours and hours. But it is as you say, it’s me going for something and being able to find it, which you couldn’t do when I was growing up, it was down to the library. Nothing.
Carmen Harris [12:01]
Yeah, and you know, life’s too short for for one thing, you know, time is just speeding up. Now it’s my own children, I used to think that it was just older people who used to say, Oh my gosh, time speeding up, but my own children are saying it as well. So it feels as though there’s less time to cram things in and you don’t want to waste time. And there also is so much information out there so much. And, you know, you want to cram that all in and so you don’t want, you know, periods in your life where you’re watching stuff that you don’t want to be watching or listening to stuff that you know, you think, you know, it’s just background sounds you want. You want to be filling up and growing with me anyway, growing all the time.
David Ralph [12:46]
Well, I’ve got one of the deepest questions you’ve probably ever been asked and I’m not gonna focus. I’m not gonna focus in on your daughter because that’s a totally different story. Yeah, Sam Smith is now admitted that he’s wrong. coded the latest James Bond theme as your Smith, Sam Smith. He’s a singer. He’s a bloke who sang the new James Bond theme as your daughter is in James Bond. Did she tell you many many months ago who was singing the theme to where you are inside the try? Just
Carmen Harris [13:16]
ask you who is Sam Smith? So the answer obviously has to be no.
David Ralph [13:20]
So she didn’t share it with you. You didn’t go down to bookies and make a bit of money?
Carmen Harris [13:24]
No, no, not at all. Do you know it to be honest? until until the last James Bond, I actually wasn’t a James Bond fan. I am now but I wasn’t before.
David Ralph [13:41]
But what what is it that really sort of makes you tick, Ben because from what we’ve discussed so far, there’s a lot of I don’t do this. I don’t do this. I can’t I don’t watch James Bond films and I don’t watch television. Is it just purely understanding people is that what really gets you going?
Carmen Harris [13:57]
Oh, that’s that’s my main thing is it is The Psychology of people it’s being with people, it’s connecting with people. It’s his help. One of my favourite words is potential. And I just love the thought of exploring and helping people to access and find their potential. And that can take you into any number of areas. So, you know, my interests are wide and varied as as as other peoples are. So I kind of get my kick through through other people accessing other people’s passions and delights and what drives them. So I’m not I’m not sticking to mod
David Ralph [14:41]
and how to actually make money from that because that’s one of the key things that is a sticking point for most people who are looking to transition. They hear these conversations, and they hear you going through your passion and enjoying the things and loving the things, but how do you actually translate that from a passion to something that you can earn from
Carmen Harris [15:00]
Well, I used to think that well, you know, I’m a healer. So I do have I do have clients, but it was the most difficult thing in the world in the beginning number one to admit that I was a healer. And number two to charge for it. So for a long time, I gave a gave away. You could call my abilities, whatever. Yeah. And so I treated people free of charge. And you know, I had magnificent results from these people. And a lot of my testimonials are built up from those from those healings. But there came a point where I stopped believing that just because I enjoyed something just because I was passionate about it. I had to be guilty about earning money from it. And I think a lot of people feel that that you know, because something comes easy to them, because they’re passionate about it, that they shouldn’t be numerate themselves, but everybody’s here to express themselves and freebody from a plumber to adopted to a celebrity. So you know, that’s the first step really to actually just accept that you’re, you’re here like everybody else to pay your mortgage, earn a living and that can be from anything that you feel excited and passionate about. Don’t stop yourself.
David Ralph [16:22]
And do you remember when you first quoted a price? Was it a competent quote? Or was it it’s gonna cost some some time and you say, Yeah,
Carmen Harris [16:31]
I beat it back Actually, yes, I very much did. And I do remember the person and, and this particular person went away. And I never heard from her again, I thought and I remember biting my nails and going oh my god, did I do a good job? And was she okay? And how come she didn’t write me a testimonial. And a year later, she came back she actually didn’t come back. She wrote me an email because she wanted to recommend somebody to me, and she said, Do you know that that that session changed my entire life? So a year later, I discovered that the first paying client was a had an exceptional experience is
David Ralph [17:18]
so common because I speak to people time and time again, literally on a daily basis. And I know because I’ve been through this myself, one of my key points being a podcaster is been the amount of content I’ve been able to produce because I record an edit really, really quickly. And in the beginning, I used to have other podcasters going, Oh, can I just have a few minutes with you? And I’d be on the phone for about an hour afterwards. I think to myself, Oh, my God, I’ve given them I’ve given them a three year headstart basically on Yes. And I wasn’t getting anything back. They never went Oh, because of fat. We’d like to give you this we’d give you back. Yeah. And I still had to go through that. Oh and internet point when I go No, actually If you want to know how I’m doing that, then you buy my course or you pay Yeah. Now I do connect with some people, if I get a really heartfelt email that comes through to me, which you do, because you’re doing a show like this, then I will connect with them personally because I think it would be wrong for me to be putting myself out like I am, without allowing people access to me, so that that would be totally wrong. But the technical knowledge, the skills, the talent, your healing, that’s gonna be that’s gonna be a service that you pay for, isn’t it?
Carmen Harris [18:29]
Yeah, well, you know, I’ve had people that are all I’ll recommend you to come and I’ll take you to call me. You’ve got this, you’ve got that problem, I’ll take you and they don’t. They don’t bring the person for example, I’m thinking of one person in particular, they don’t bring the person there’s a lot I’m paying for this person. Because she’s a friend and she needs this. They actually bring the person on my This was in the early days, oh, my daughter and then expect me to, to deal with the situation. And that’s the end of it. You know, it People have weird concept concepts around healing in particular, but you know how I got around it and it wasn’t something I thought of it something I wanted to do is that once monthly I do a free distance healing to anybody who wants it. And so people connect with me from in the UK and around the world as well. And I have a couple of hundred testimonials as a result of those free healings. And I also you know, I you know, I don’t turn away babies and children either young children, so but anybody else, you know, it’s a business like anything else. That sounds awful, but when you when you exchange money, then it is a form of business, but more importantly, it’s an exchange of energy because if you’re saying for example, that you are taking response suitability for your own health, but you don’t want to. You don’t want to be numerate the person who’s helping and assisting you, then actually, that can’t be true, can it? Oh, no, he,
David Ralph [20:12]
he can. And I’ll be honest with you. If you had asked me for 100 episodes ago, whether I believed in your skills, your talents, I’d probably said a nice answer. But at my heart of hearts, I would have said, Yeah, but now I speak to so many people that are doing stuff, but I just don’t understand. I now think that anything’s possible. I really do. I know a guy that reckons that he can light a light bulb in London, just by thinking about it from America. Now when you first you think that’s madness, but such conviction, then go ahead and then other people have backed it up as well. You think there’s got to be more to life than just taking a pill, wasn’t it?
Carmen Harris [20:53]
Well, that’s my that’s my whole thing. That we take this Five times the three dimensional world that we can access with our five senses as though this is all there is. And it can’t possibly be an I’m the biggest biggest sceptic out there. You know, I don’t take things to anything on trust is, you know, you’ve got to prove to me that this work. So this is real. So when I say to you that yes, behind this veil there is that there’s just an entirely different powerful world that we can access and that we are part of, then you just got to believe me. And you know, when I just give you a quick example of because people often say to me, how does distance healing work? can it work? I’ll just give you a quick example. A friend of mine, rang me from Australia and she just had an abdominal operation, and she had gas trapped in her stomach as a result of the operation and she was in agony. Woke Up and down, up and down the ward. And she says, Please, can you help me? Can you send me some healing? Well, I sent her the healing, and she sent me a text. Now what happens when you send the energy directed towards that person? Is that what often happens? They fall into a deep healing sleep. Well, that’s what happened to her. She’s zonked out for three hours, woke up and passed the wind and was completely better. Completely better now, you know, that’s probably coincidence. But then somebody else rings me and said, Look, I’m travelling to the states because my brother has this neuralgia account number trade, try Mallya neuralgia something like that. It’s called, they call it the suicide illness because it makes you want to commit suicide because it’s so painful is in all the nerves in his face were alive. And no matter how much morphine he took, he still felt the pain and she said I’m going to his bedside in him. Erica, can you hear me? Can you help me? So I said when you get to his bedside called me, she called me, this guy could barely speak. So we we had to converse through the system. His pain was seven out of 10 he was on the most on the biggest dose of morphine he could safely beyond. And after 20 minutes he’s paid went from seven out of 10 to zero. And you know, she’d made that trip from the UK to America, because she was at her wits end because this has been going on for such a long time and he was thrashing about in pain. That could have been a coincidence as well. But you know, after a while, and you’ve got to admit to yourself that something is here, something is going on. You can’t just keep wanting the same story.
David Ralph [23:52]
devil’s advocate here, Carmen, because I know Yeah, there’s gonna be some listeners out there buying into everything that you say. I mean, there’s gonna be Others that don’t believe word of it. So how do they do that? How do you sort of focus in on that person? How do you make sure that it gets to that person and it doesn’t hit a random postman walking?
Unknown Speaker [24:16]
Carmen Harris [24:19]
do my distance healing I just asked people to just make the intention that they’re going to connect with me because we’re all electromagnetic that scientific fact. Yeah, we have like a sheath or surrounding something. A field surrounding us and scientists measure this. And it’s electromagnetic all of us are surrounded by this. And we’re and this field connects everybody in the universe. It connects everything in the universe, everything in itself, you know, from the ballpoint pen that you’re holding to the the rug on the floor. Everything has its own vibration and frequency and That’s what the world is made of. Okay? Everything originates from energy. And because of that we’re all connected. So if I make the intention that I’m going to connect with you and you’re going to connect with me, we’re in some form of energetic communication. Okay, now,
David Ralph [25:18]
how do we do it? The only bit I don’t understand is attention. Yep. I’ve got the intention. And you’ve got the intention. But how does that that connect? Because my intention, how does it not miss you by 200 miles?
Carmen Harris [25:34]
I can’t answer it in those terms, you know, in terms of well, you know, five inches to the left or five feet to the right, but we because we, you’ve heard of telepathy? Yes. Yeah, I can. I can send a message to you and you can read and all of this is backed by scientific experiments. I can send a message to you and you can send a message back to me by telephone The, that’s using energy frequency waves, okay? And in the same way, if I make my intention, intention is the magical force in the universe that I am going to help you, that’s going to happen because what I’m not, I’m not what I’m not doing is saying to myself, okay, you’ve got an issue in your throat, and I’m going to go in there and I’m going to, you know, pull aside your Adam’s apple, and I’m going to get behind there. I’m gonna, I’m not saying any of that. Yeah, I’m not a doctor. I don’t know, not to me. But what I am doing is saying that, because we’re all energy, we’re flowing energy and when we’re not well, when things are falling apart mentally, physically, spiritually, emotionally within us is because this flow of energy, this energy that we are not in flow, so our body heals itself when we’re in flow. So if I’m directing my energy towards you, what’s happening is that that blockage or interference of energy that surrounds you that permeates you, is once again in flow and your body starts to heal itself. It’s an
David Ralph [27:17]
agree with this. I do agree with this because we all know that the being in flow is the best state to be when hours just disappear. Your work is better. Everything just seems to be easier. You know, yeah, sportsman’s in flow. I buy into that totally, totally, totally. Well, I don’t quite get is maybe I’m thinking of it more like you plug in a socket, and then you switch it and that’s where the power comes from. I don’t know because
Carmen Harris [27:44]
the powers that the powers that all the time. It’s here as I’m speaking, it’s surrounding you. It’s in front of you. It’s behind you. It’s above you. It’s there for us to receive. You’ve heard you’ve heard of chakras, haven’t you? Yes. They like vortices that, that pull in energy into our body. And, and, and it vitalizes us. Yeah, that’s happening all the time. But if you have an issue that is causing that energy to not circulate within you outside of you, then you’re going to actually manifest some sort of issue, physical issue. I can feel it. For example, in the book I talk about Sam, who had that, who’s who’s dying of cancer, when I put my hand above her abdomen, what I was feeling at the time I didn’t realise it, but now I know what I was feeling was the energy interruption around her body, and it hurt my hand it burned my hands. So before something manifests in the He’s actually in the field as I’m going off off centre here, but it’s actually in the field. And so this energy when it’s not circulating when it’s not flowing when it’s interrupted, and it’s what causes our manifest problems in our body fat making sense?
David Ralph [29:21]
Yeah. So are we talking about? What’s it called? Starla energy? Is this what we’re talking? Yes.
Carmen Harris [29:26]
Well, if it goes by a lot of names, gala energies, Zed point. Something field I’m sorry, I’ve lost my terminologies. But But yeah, but it’s all the same thing. There are not lots of different types of energy. There’s only one energy this energy is the what originated in this, this entire universe. So you know, if we believe in the Big Bang, this energy is what created everything over billion. Billions and billions and billions of years it created everything that you can see here feel touch and smell. So how you know we are the stars and stars were created by this energy by this force were actually the same, the same molecules that make up the stars. We’re all connected. That’s the beautiful thing about this way of seeing the world. We’re all part and parcel of the same thing. So we’re all connected. And that’s how and why I can connect with somebody the other side of the world, is it is a different way of looking at things because we’re so accustomed to feeling stuff and saying, Well, you know, these are the boundaries of this thing. It’s a ball and I can feel that circumference and this is where it starts. And this is where it ends. And we’re so accustomed to seeing the world like that. But actually, if we were to take a huge powerful microscope and look at that ball, looked at the hands looked at anything we would reduce it down to its essence and its essence is vibrating frequencies I energy
David Ralph [31:09]
that there was a film that I watched and my mind is going in many different directions. Yeah, yeah. Lady Carmen Yeah, you’re getting me thinking about stuff. And I think it was cool beyond the secret. So there was a classic film The Secret with jack Canfield and Bob Proctor and different people, I believe it was behind the secret where they were talking about, as you were saying, but a desk although you can bang it is just a series of molecules jam is an energy force all the way through. Now the key word that jumped out to me over the last five minutes or so of you talking was intention. Now to me, VAT seems to be the fundamental part of everything. If you have intention, if you believe and we see it time and time again, where somebody is a big slug lying on the sofa every day thinking life is rubbish, and then suddenly they get up off the sofa and I start doing stuff and then life just changes magically because of our intention. Is that all sort of connected as well?
Carmen Harris [32:07]
Yes. Because thoughts are also energy. That’s the wonderful thing. emotions, thoughts are all frequencies. So, you know, if you make the intention, I’m going to have a bloody miserable day today. Okay? That’s a low vibrating frequency. And because you make that intention, and you’re putting that out in your field, so you’re vibrating at a low frequency, and you will attract whatever’s around you because as I said, we’re electromagnetic reality magnetise events situation things to us. So if you made up your mind you’re going to have an awful day. Yes, that led to will drop to your letterbox saying you owe X amount. Yes, somebody is going to cut you off in traffic, because everything is vibrating at a low frequency. So if you if you defend this idea, no, no, no, no, I don’t like this. I’m going to have a fantastic day, everything’s going to go right. It might take a while for things to turn around. But eventually, you will see things going in the opposite direction because you’re raising your frequencies. Thoughts are frequencies. intention is nothing more than a focused thought. I’m going to do this, this is going to happen. So I could make I could make an intention without putting any kind of emotion into it any kind of focus into it. That, for example, oh, yeah, I’m going to I’m going to help this person to heal their ailment. And I’m not actually directing any kind of energy towards that person. But once I focus in especially in the heart space, because everything comes from love and love is in the heart. And that’s extremely high frequency vibration when when a thought a feeling comes from the heart, once I direct that focus towards that person from that high vibration, and it’s a bit like a tuning fork, that person then starts to vibrate at that high frequency, they start to resonate with my frequency. And that resonance changes their frequency and then their own body takes over and they start to heal because no healer heals you, your own body healed you. But that body has to be in a high vibratory state to start doing what it needs to be doing.
David Ralph [34:39]
Well, let’s play some words now that are really positive. And I’ve looked at them in a different way through this episode. This is all about intention. This is Jerry,
Jim Carrey [34:48]
my father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant and when I was 12 years old, He was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.
David Ralph [35:15]
So that is being intentional isn’t how you find finding the thing that you want to do, and you go for it. And if you keep on going for it, you’re more likely to achieve it.
Carmen Harris [35:26]
Most definitely, most definitely. Because words are electric. As I said, we’re electromagnetic, the words are electric, emotions are magnetic. So when you combine the two, when you say something, when you issue a word, you know, for example, I am going to be a world class actor. When you issue words like that, and then behind it, you have the emotion, the belief, the pumping heart, the excitement, the passion. What you’re doing is Increasing your vibration to to a level where everything around you lines up with that. So the right the right person will or the right situation or the right event will deliver to you exactly what what you’re focusing on.
David Ralph [36:17]
Now, in the introduction, Carmen, I left with a question and the question was, do you see that there’s a change in the attitudes of the world? Are we getting more open minded as we look for a different way of healing and looking after ourselves? are we are we still sort of very closed off, go down to the doctors and get our penicillin?
Carmen Harris [36:36]
I think now in the day of days of the internet, when we’re all interconnected Now, when we think and we, we act globally, that we’re actually beginning to join up the dots. And we’re beginning to realise that there is so much out there that we’ve never before had access to that we’ve never had before and done We never been allowed to think down. And it’s, it’s, it’s it’s a positive change. It’s an absolute positive change to actually take responsibility for ourselves and our health, I believe, because we know that there are much more options out there than we’ve ever been led to believe.
David Ralph [37:20]
Because I think if you go back in time you go back a long, long way to the sort of cavemen and all that kind of stuff. I think they kind of knew this stuff anyway. And I think Yeah, middle bit that we’ve kind of forgotten or we’ve just assumed that there’s a better way of doing it. You know, if you look at the Chinese, the Chinese were doing all this horrible stuff. Thousands and thousands. Yes. Yeah, yeah. And it was working then,
Carmen Harris [37:43]
what it’s all about being in touch with this one is, it’s all about being in touch with nature. being in touch with stillness, you know, we’ve gone through this industrialised phase where it was all you know, nose to the grindstone, work, work, work. And you know, obliterate nature, or get a slice of nature when you can. And the competition and the division and all that stuff. You know, you just said, Well, what is that about? Is that why I’m born? Am I born to, to simply, you know, work in the job I hate and get a mortgage and have kids who are going to give me hell and then die is not what we’re about. It’s about actually expressing ourselves experiencing life, experiencing what’s out there. And how we do that is by connecting with other people other and connecting with nature and connecting with a planet. And knowing that whatever is in front of us is actually more than that much more than that.
David Ralph [38:52]
How authentic are you to yourself now to the true real Carmen Are you still moving along battling limiting thoughts? All the stuff that bugs down most of us are that you sort of almost bear.
Carmen Harris [39:04]
Well, do you know what every single day I wake up and I tried to eliminate What do to tools and techniques that I have learnt along the way, and I try to eliminate anything that gives me a sinking feeling in my stomach. any regrets that I have about the past any fears I have about the future? My idea of moving through life now is to be clear. I want a clear passage in my life. I want to flow with whatever’s out there good or bad. I might perceive it as bad but actually, you know, as I said before, when shit happens, there’s something behind it. That’s for me. There’s a message there for me. There’s a lesson there for me. So my idea now is for a clip. I wasn’t like this before, but I am now
David Ralph [39:58]
and so how authentic are you? nut and bolt out of 10 Would you say that you’re an A for 10?
Carmen Harris [40:05]
And I think seven, seven comes to mind. I still I still got I still got a way to go and I probably by Tom, I, you know, I shuffle off this this earth I’ve probably reached an eight. Because you know, to reach a 10 times I hit the 10, but not consistently. I don’t think anybody here hits 10 consistently because that’s what this life’s about. It’s about actually learning. It’s making mistakes and forgiving yourself. That’s the big one.
David Ralph [40:37]
To 10 outcome. You don’t just go right, that was a 10 I’m gonna do more of it.
Carmen Harris [40:42]
Because tomorrow’s another day, you know, and there’s another challenge waiting around the corner. And that’s what it’s about, you know, it’s about falling down, picking yourself up and accepting yourself anyway.
David Ralph [40:58]
Did you think life is tough? Do you think life should be tough? Or do you think life should be as easy as it can possibly be?
Carmen Harris [41:05]
I used to think that life was tough. And I was a bit of a you know, poor me kind of person. But um, you know, life is life is challenging. I really do believe that life is challenging, more more for some people than for others. But um, you it’s all about perception. You can perceive a challenge one way or you can perceive another way.
David Ralph [41:32]
I buy into everything you’re saying here. I really do. Because I just know I’ve always been a very positive person.
Carmen Harris [41:38]
And it sounded from your, from your energy, your energy is very,
David Ralph [41:43]
oh ease. I’m generally like this all the time. And when I’m like this great things happen to me. And when I know, things don’t I got made redundant. Oh, it was a job I hated so when I got made redundant. I was kind of pleased for the first bit and then I worried that I wasn’t going to get a job again. And in that period of redundancy it was only about three weeks but rubbish things happened and I look back on it now and I just think I was almost inviting them in I was almost making them happen so that I could
Carmen Harris [42:12]
vibration, vibration magnetises low vibratory experiences
David Ralph [42:18]
so is it the key Ben that all the listeners out there even if we’re in a dodgy situation if I wake up and they go right okay, I don’t care about this boyfriend is treating me badly I don’t care about the you know the food in the fridge is going off. I’m gonna really try my best to be as happy as possible and then you trick yourself to feel that way. Is that the way of doing it?
Carmen Harris [42:40]
I don’t think I don’t think you can you know you can fake it till you feel it as they say and that that’s kind of part of it. You want to be saying the good things. So you know if a if a thought comes into your mind that doesn’t serve you then notice that thought and change that thought to something that does serve you And then you’re on that road, but but also when when stuff comes at you that is is not good and makes you feel bad. You can’t deny that you’re feeling bad. You have to accept and embrace that bad feeling. But then let it go. It’s all about passing through feelings, passing through emotions, passing through experiences, and not allowing that stuff to accumulate within you. It’s about facing what’s there and asking yourself, Well, you know, maybe there’s a lesson here for me, what is the lesson I’m here to learn? But don’t do yourself down because you feel bad or sad or angry or any of those things. Allow yourself to experience what you’re feeling and then let it go.
David Ralph [43:49]
Steve Jobs said some brilliant words back in 2005, which we’re gonna play in a moment, but the essence of that is about letting things go just trying stuff having faith belief, you know, trusting yourself trusting karma, whatever. But just seeing what happens, this is what he said.
Steve Jobs [44:06]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [44:41]
But you what he said but no experience is wasted as far as you’re concerned. But what was it the moment when you put your hands on that lady was that your big dots when things really the universe through everything together and you could see the big picture?
Carmen Harris [44:57]
Yeah, but just before that, you know My whole world came crashing down. And I don’t think I would have I don’t think I would have really connected the dots until that happened. I need every I needed everything to go by the wayside before I could start rebuilding and actually opening my eyes and seeing what to do always been there for me. So that, you know, that moment was part of it. But what came before was a large part of it.
David Ralph [45:28]
And what did come what why did your life crumble before it became so good?
Carmen Harris [45:33]
I, you know, the working for television wasn’t feeding my soul. And that kind of fell apart. And I decided I was going to be the next great novelist. And I spent Gosh, I think it was I can’t remember now years trying to pursue this wonderful, I thought amazing novel that was going to be out there. You know, number one bestseller. And bit by bit by bit. I everything fell away from me everything. And I had my dark night of the soul where I was in my bedroom. And I just had enough. And I just remember screaming to go to university universe, whatever’s out there, you know, what do you do? I use some choice words, but what do you want me to do with my life? And that same week? That’s when I had that amazing experience with them. This lady in the hospital
David Ralph [46:37]
and then when you did that to the lady, did you kind of go hang on this is a bit freaky. It was dark night, the soul last week and now I’m finding this or did you just assume this was blind path.
Carmen Harris [46:49]
I wasn’t joining up the dots adorable. I was it was such an intense experience. I could only be in that experience as I was going through it. And as Steve Jobs said, you know, you can only join up the dots backwards. It was only by looking back and thinking, Oh my gosh, you know that happened. And then that happened. And then that happened. And that’s when I saw the pattern.
David Ralph [47:13]
Oh, yeah, happy now, Carmen, just before we send you back on the Sermon on the mic to have a one on one with yourself, are you really happy with you’re not
Carmen Harris [47:22]
much happier than I’ve ever been? I’m not always happy. You know, the state of the world sometimes gets me down, but I don’t allow myself to stay there. But, but generally, yes, I’m a happy person.
David Ralph [47:37]
And do you believe everyone out there can have a kick ass life? It is purely as we were talking about having the intention finding the thing that you just want to keep on doing and doing and just build that into something?
Carmen Harris [47:50]
Oh, yeah. It’s what I’m about is what I’m about exactly. going around telling people you know, this is what You want Yes, if it’s what you want, you can have it. But first of all, you’ve got to feel that you deserve it. And you’ve got to feel that you want it and that you’re going to go for it. You know, that’s the first starting block. And then after that, anything can happen. So ask for what you want. Expected or better.
David Ralph [48:22]
There you go listeners common area said that and you can’t go against Carmen Harris, she has sent some weird force at you if you if you don’t believe what she’s saying. Now, this is the end of the show. And this is the part that we call a sermon on the mic when we send you back in time to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time and speak to the younger Carmen, what age would you choose and what advice would you give? Well, we’re going to find out because we’re going to play the theme tune and when it fades you up. This is the Sermon on the mic.
Unknown Speaker [48:55]
We go with the best bit of the show.
Carmen Harris [49:14]
I see my little eight year old self. And she’s all alone. And it’s not that there aren’t any other people there. There are people that are children her own age there. But she’s sitting there and she’s in her head. And she’s trying to work it all out and she feels like an outsider. And I see myself going up to her. And I’m putting my arms around her and I’m really squeezing her. The reason why I’m squeezing her is for her to know that she has a body because she’s not in that body. She’s actually somewhere else and she’s To be in that body she’s scared to be. She’s scared to join the rough and tumble she’s scared to, to speak. She’s scared to be part of what’s going on around her. And so I want to reassure her that she’s okay. She’s okay. And that she can’t work it out in her head, she’s just got to be part of it should be part of life. So I want to take her hand, I want to lead her towards where all the other children are. And I want to just show her that you know, there’s like an imaginary line a circle, and it’s okay for her to just lift one leg, placed up foot down inside the circle and just lift the other foot and place that down inside the circle and want her to know that I’m here. And that, you know, there’s a lot of stuff that happens in life, you’re going to get bruised, you’re going to get hurt. People are going to call your names, but it’s all part of it is all right to be in this body. It’s alright. To make mistakes. And you know, you’ll be there thinking about the last thing that happened to you. But those kids who called you names, you know, they’ve moved on to the next thing and you’re allowed to do that as well. I want to just encourage her to just run ahead and join those kids because you can’t not be on your path. Whatever is going to happen to her is going to happen and it will be all part of what’s meant to be and she’ll be okay in the long run. It will all work out it will be absolutely fine
David Ralph [51:59]
Thomas The number one best way that our audience can connect with you
Carmen Harris [52:04]
via my website, www dot space hyphen for fo r hyphen grace dot webs web s.com. That’s the best way or on my Facebook page, which is facebook.com. forward slash common Harris dot magic. That’s probably the best place.
David Ralph [52:28]
We will have over links on the show notes. Carmen, thank you so much for spending time with us today. joining up those dots. And please come back again when you have more dogs to join up because I do believe that by joining up the dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. Carmen Harris, thank you so much.
Carmen Harris [52:45]
Thank you. Great.
David Ralph [52:50]
Thanks for listening to another edition of Join Up Dots and please share, share share that you can’t share anymore, stick it on Facebook, stick it on LinkedIn or whatever. Let’s get a movement going people. But the bottom line is, please come back yourself loved having you with us. Thank you very much for listening. And we’ll see you again soon. Cheers. Bye bye.
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