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Introducing Adam Urbanski
Adam Urbanski is todays guest joining us on the Join Up Dots business coaching podcast interview.
He started life in Poland, and it was fair to say that he has come a long way since then, both Geographically and financially.
Arriving in the United States of America with just $194.00 dollars in his pocket and a sprinkling of English, Adam Urbanski set to work with a passion.
The entrepreneurial bug has always been a keen element which makes him who he is, so it was with little surprise, but a lot of hard work that he transformed his finances by creating a series of business opportunities around California.
How The Dots Joined Up For Adam
First of all Adam Urbanski co-owned a collection of bagel shops, and then moved onto running a multi-million dollar business that includes consulting, coaching, training, and information publishing.
But there was of course so many stumbles, falls and triumphs between them. Isn’t that what makes a story interesting after all.
But if you think that our guest is now simply a money making machine, who values wealth against anything else then think again.
He believes that through hard work, perseverance, talent and passion we can all design our lives to be what we want….the purest definition of success.
As Adam says “When I say success I don’t just mean money. Don’t get me wrong – financial rewards from your business are essential but they’re not enough!
Health, family and friends, spirituality, contribution to others – that’s what combined all together creates balanced, fulfilled life. And living such life makes you an irresistibly attractive “success magnet”.
So lets see how this happily married father of two, has succeeded so remarkably when starting with so little.
Lets start joining up dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs with the one and only Adam Urbanski.
During the show we discussed such weighty topics with Adam Urbanski such as:
How Adam believes that everybody in life has a story that can lead to success if they only work at it!
How he admires the folk who enter “Britain’s Got Talent” and go for their dreams, and uses clips in his coaching sessions!
Why we shouldn’t take any interest in the big picture, but need to look at the next step, and then the one after that!
How you have to deal with the important stuff in life before anything else!
How he shares the blueprint to success, not just once but several times during the show!
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Audio Transcprtion Of Adam Urbanski Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Good morning world. How are we? How are we? Oh, do you know if you listen back to Episode 100? I was saying to you, the first hundred shows were great. They were remarkable. They were brilliant. But since Spain, wow, have we raised the bar? We are doing some stuff, which is simply spine tingling on a daily basis? And how do I know that and I feel that when we actually having these conversations, but I used to think I got a lot of emails, but now it’s an absolute tsunami, I can barely keep up with them. So what I’m going to try to do, I will try to contact you all, I used to do quite lengthy responses to the emails. But to be honest, I’m kind of running out of time. So don’t think I’m rude. I’m just trying to deal with them. But I will contact you at some stage. And I really do appreciate all of you listeners, dropping me a line telling me about your progress, telling me about your fears. And telling me about that, that kind of leap of faith that you’re planning because you’ve been inspired by the conversations. And today’s conversation is going to be Wow, it’s going to be inspiring because this guy has had a life that is simply a film ready to be made. He started life in Poland and it was fair to say, but he’s come a long way since then, both geographically and financially. Arriving in the United States of America with just $194 in his pocket and a sprinkling of English. He said to work with a passion. Now the entrepreneurial bug has always been a key element which makes him who he is. So it was a little surprise, but a lot of hard work. But he transformed his finances by creating a series a business opportunity entities around California. First of all, he co owned a collection of bagel shops, and then moved on to running a multimillion dollar business that includes consulting coaching, Training and Information publishing. But there was a course so many stumbles falls and triumphs between them isn’t that what makes a storey interesting afterwards, we here on Join Up Dots Day after day after day. And if you think that our guest is now simply a money making machine who values wealth against anything else, and after the show, I guarantee you will think again, because he believes that through hard work, perseverance, talent and passion. We can all design our lives to be what we want the purest definition of success, as he says in his own words, when I say success, I don’t just mean money. Don’t get me wrong. financial rewards from your business are essential, but they’re not enough. Help family and friends, spirituality contribution to others. That’s what’s combined all together, creates balanced, fulfilled life. And living such a life makes you an irresistible, attractive success magnet. So let’s see Alice happy married father of two has succeeded so remarkably, when starting with so little by bringing onto the show to start joining up the dots of his life and I can’t wait for this one. The remarkable Adam Urbanski, how are you Adam?
Adam Urbanski [3:12]
I’m fantastic, David. And I have to tell you, this is by far, bar none the best introduction I have ever heard of myself, coming onto the show. And men, kudos to you for doing your homework and prep. I mean, you’ve honoured details about me that I have forgotten. So I’m just deeply, deeply honoured. And I shared with you before we got live online. I am a little bit petrified about this interview, because you reveal that you’re going to ask me to reveal some things that just you know, might make me a little bit emotional. So So I’ve got my Kleenex ready. And let’s rock and rock.
David Ralph [3:46]
Well, yeah, let’s rock and roll. And so in that introduction, are you sitting there thinking, I’d like to know about this person? This person? Sounds great.
Adam Urbanski [3:54]
Absolutely. I want to meet the guy.
David Ralph [3:56]
Yeah, you should meet him, I tell you well, and I’ll tell you what, you could even sleep with him. And I recommend, hey, that would be fine in his book. So you have had a life that is, you know, it’s a film waiting to be made, isn’t it? It’s it’s one of those ones that you would sit there for two or three hours in a cinema or movie theatre. And you’d come out with a box of Kleenex and empty popcorn bucket and think to yourself, well, I’ve been entertained.
Adam Urbanski [4:22]
You know, I certainly did. And I continue to have, but you know, if I can dive a little bit into my storey but but before I even go into this, I think what’s important to point out is David, everybody has a life just like that. It’s just not everybody has the skill to go back and reflect on it. And not everybody has a skill to on Earth, the few turning points the shifts that have transpired that are absolutely not just you know, life altering, but there are so deeply transformational and moving to other people, you get to share them with other people. So you know, kind of like what do you would you share it you know, I came to United States no money, no English, no connexion high school graduate, in just like you described in the in the opening, I had really nothing but a huge vision and a dream and an aspiration I was wanting to do, do whatever it took, within limits, you know, nothing illegal, and nothing, it just, you know, immoral, but but really, whatever it takes in terms of hard work, perseverance, and never giving up until I got what I wanted to get. And, you know, I think the disadvantage today that a lot of people have, especially the younger people, but also a lot of us, you know, older, we grew up not having to fight for a lot of things, you know, I’m truly blessed for having to grow up in a communist country, where we had to fight for a lot of things we didn’t have, you know, basic necessities sometimes, you know, like, like, you know, sugar and milk and meat, those were things that just yet to stay in line to get with the fight for them. We didn’t have the right to freely express ourselves. So I grew up with that mindset of you, you have to fight for something going after something that you truly want that you truly believing. And I think a lot of people didn’t have that opportunity to really fight for something, things came too easily. And because of that, they’re not quite as appreciated. And they’re not quite as recognised, you know, as the blessings and transformations and shifts and turning points that we have.
David Ralph [6:17]
I think that is so true. And I call it the kind of American Idol syndrome, where people think that they can go on stage, get through a few rounds, and then suddenly they were multi millionaire, where if you go back in, there’s just a music business, for example, people used to play clubs and pubs for years and years and years and work at work, work. And what you’re doing by that struggle that fight back commitment, you’re sharpening your tools, you’re learning your trade, aren’t you. So when you do get the lean times, you’ve got the experience, and you’ve got the understanding that things can turn around, which you won’t get if it’s too easy for you.
Adam Urbanski [6:53]
Absolutely. And you know, you mentioned American Idol. I’m actually huge fan of The X Factor you’ve got I think you’ve got talent, whatever it’s called. And I think actually, the British edition of you’ve got talent is absolutely fantastic, for whatever reasons, little less happy. But you know, I actually play chunks of those shows, in my transformational events. And here is why David, to me, it’s absolutely fantastic to see a person who comes on stage and may have just they may have just finished working in the in the restaurant, you know, peeling onions and cooking potatoes and, and, you know, scrambling eggs, and and they have the stink of oil and frying things. And they look kind of scrappy, and then they built out a song and the entire audience is on the feet. And the judges in the two or three minute time span go from really taking potshots at the person going like Yeah, really, you’re gonna sing for us, whatever you loser. And then the person goes on and just impresses, everybody sweeps them off their feet. And then what I really like, and this is what most people need miss their train miss their both their entire life is when they reveal a bit of a backstory and say, Look, you know, I, I may have fought that I’m good, I may have fought that I’ve got a shot. But you know, people told me I wasn’t good enough. And then you know, something happened in my life. And I lost, I lost the confidence. And I just I gave up on the dream. And I just went back and be of being a fry cook or whatever it is for the person. And you know, now at the age of 40, or 50, I’m coming back and you know, I’m giving it a shot. And it’s almost like number one, they didn’t know how good they were number two there was surrounded by people who instead of building them up with tearing them down. And number three, the last their own confidence to give themselves a shot. And I love those moments where they go at it, they give it a shot, and they go like wow, and it really doesn’t matter if they win with the show or not. It’s the part where they just they the moment of accolades, and they that the spark of conference then sensory awake, and then they have their, again, the courage to pursue what they may have wanted to do their entire lives. But word didn’t have the courage to do. So I think that those those moments just inspiring beyond any measure
David Ralph [9:12]
the words you said there was courage. And it is, isn’t it. Anyone who is in a life, well, I’ve got a dream. In all these conversations, we’re not saying just by acting on that dream, it’s going to come true. But if you don’t act on it is never going to come true. And and you do need that courage to be able to break out of that envelope that you your comfort zone, the mud or wherever you are settled in, and actually break free. And by little by little by dragging yourself out and start moving, you suddenly realise but that dream, in many ways isn’t as big as you had already projected it. It’s just a series of small, as we say on the show dots, that will lead to something. And once you get that momentum going, really anything’s possible. Would you agree with Adam?
Adam Urbanski [9:57]
Absolutely. And you know, the metaphor that I often use with with students and clients in the business sense that sometimes looking at the big picture is scary, it’s kind of like looking at a huge mountain that we have to scale. And instead of you just looking at maybe at first level of first stage of the first camp, that you have to ascend, that becomes easier. But another metaphor I use, is if you often look at planes taking off at the airports, you know, 99% of the time, they take off in the completely wrong direction. And it’s because of how the airport is build wins. You know, the Senate situation, the OIG, the noise, ordinance, whatever they have to deal with, but they take off in one direction. And as soon as they get to a certain altitude, the first thing they do is they turn around to actually get themselves on course. Now I always talk about the fact that it’s so much easier to change the direction of the flight in the air than on the ground. So just like you talked about, it’s easier to just start taking small steps, just you know, it’s the body in motion has a lot more energy in the body just kind of sits there does nothing. So it’s critical, just start taking the first few steps. And you know what might happen, you will realise that the dream you far off is was closed but wasn’t quite that something completely different will open itself up. And number two, that new thing that will open itself up the opportunity that would have not existed Have you not taken the action is actually exponentially bigger, better and more exciting than what you originally thought of. But again, you wouldn’t have stumbled upon it if you had not taken action.
David Ralph [11:36]
I had a chap on episode 82. And he was so remarkable. I’ve mentioned this chap many times called Eric James. And he dream it well. He believes that the bigger you dream, the easier it is to achieve because so many people don’t follow through. So if you really have a big dream, don’t think to yourself, it’s never gonna work for me. Everyone else thinks that so just by taking one step ahead of the game, and he told his remarkable storey how he wanted to go up into space and take photographs. He’s a photographer. And just by about five or six steps, he put himself in a 5050 chance to do it. absolutely unbelievable. Episode 82 if anyone wants to go back and listen to it, and it was just it was a state of mind. And he said now he’s got that state of mind. Anything’s possible. And he has these absolute weird fluky things that happen all the time. And he kind of think,
Unknown Speaker [12:30]
how did that happen?
David Ralph [12:32]
But of course it happened because he was doing stuff. And stuff happens when you’re doing stuff, end of storey, if you’re sitting at home on a sofa, just watching Britain’s Got Talent every day, nothing’s ever going to happen is it? But by actually getting out and going to a stage show or something go over when you are going to meet people and there’s going to be some kind of reaction by your movement.
Adam Urbanski [12:54]
Absolutely. And you know, I’ll show you something else that this you know, I deal a lot with people who want to try transform the passions into into their source of revenue, that a lifestyle. So and they kind of get some, you know, they concoct some ideas, watching someone else going, I don’t want to do this, I want to do that, when they really don’t realise that what they have themselves already is exponentially bigger and better and what they see someone else’s don’t they don’t need to be a copycat. So I talked about a couple of things that I want to I want to mention. Number one is that in life, that which comes the easiest to us, and which excites us the most should be the thing that we get compensated for the most. So like in your case, David, I can just see that you’ve got a passion for connecting with people interviewing, listening on earthing things. and rightfully so you’re in great place for being a host of the show. And you know, you will be compensated greatly for doing this work, which you absolutely love doing. In my case, I love brainstorming business ideas, creating business models, I can do in half asleep in the middle of the night. And I’m still better at it. And how did you know that thousands of other people, and I get paid for that the most for the short amount of time I get paid a lot of money for doing this work. But here’s the problem, that most people will go through the entire lives not realising what that area of brilliance is, is so natural to us. That we just take it completely for granted. And to me, you’ve got to start paying attention to things when people say things to you like, Hey, could you help me with? And if you hear multiple people around? You tell you that? Could you help me with that one thing that asked you to help? Would they perceive you being good at it? Or when people when you do somebody will say wow, How’d you do that? And you kind of go not a big deal. So you have to you but to everybody else around you, you realise you’re looking at you like a magician. So those are some things to start recognising. What do you need brilliant that there’s something there’s a storey that came my way about john lennon just a couple of days ago. And I forget the guy’s name, but it was another band in the 70s. And the guy in the band became friends with john man on and he wrote a fascinating little piece that he said, throughout many conversations, I finally realised one thing, and I realised that john lennon didn’t know who the Beatles were. He said, You know, I grew up just basically just loving and adoring and cherishing The Beatles beyond the words in a way that I couldn’t even describe. But Jim john lennon never had that experience. He just never understood, you know, what transformation would experience with brilliance The Beatles brought to the world because he was one of them. And he said that he went on to discover that many people who are absolutely brilliant at what they do, they they reside like in the eye of the hurricane of the brilliance. And then one of the hardest thing for them is to discover what that brilliance is actually harness it. So it becomes the vehicle for creating for expressing the passion and living the lifestyle as they move forward. And I just found it fast. And because I think a lot of us, I kind of like john lennon not knowing our own Beatles, we have no idea what that brilliant says that the world is fascinated by.
David Ralph [16:17]
That’s astonishing that because I had a email conversation with a chat last night, one of my guests who was on a one of the earlier shows, emailed me, and I’m just just out of the blue. And he said, David, I just want you to know, I love your show. And I love and he was sort of like waxing lyrical about it. And I sort of went back to them. And I said, honestly, it is, you know, really true. I said, because it’s quite hard. I’m doing it. And I’m just recording and throwing out and recording and recording now. And it’s exactly as you’re saying, I’m in the eye of the hurricane. And it’s sort of ripples are going out across the globe. But because I’m right at the centre, it’s very difficult for number one to me to believe the feedback because it’s kind of something that I’m doing, which you say, you know, it’s kind of also what I’m just talking to people and connecting and then making these shows and sending it out. But when the feedback does come back, once again, you kind of think to yourself, I’m not sure I’m not sure I’m not doing well enough. And this chap said to me, he said, The trouble with humans, and I thought it was brilliant. He said the trouble of humans is we beat ourselves up all the time. So what if you want to beat yourself up, pick up a favour and put down the bat. And I thought, what a brilliant phrase, yeah, beat yourself up with a favour because it’s never going to be perfect. It’s never going to be amazing. But you can just do your absolute best. And with the Beatles, they did their best. And you know, we all love the Beatles, and most people do. But I take that point totally, that when you’re in the centre, and you’re churning out the content, and you’re throwing out, most of the time, you haven’t got time to reflect whether it’s worthwhile or whatever. So you don’t build that connexion of it. Batman listeners and followers do.
Adam Urbanski [17:58]
Yeah, so true. And you know, so that brings me to another thing. You know, I talk about building support teams. Because if you cannot recognise your own brilliance, you know who will, right you’ve got to have someone who’s willing to to be this reflection for you. So what happened, it’s so fascinating, because how we have brought up, we often condition to bring certain things into our lives, but doing other component we don’t recognise we need other things as well. So I talked about four different types of support. So certainly, we all need teachers, right, we don’t know what we don’t know, we need someone else to teach us. Now another thing we need is we need doers. So there are certain things that we really shouldn’t be doing, we need someone else to do them for us. So for example, you know, most people should not be fixing their own cars. You know, if you, you know, if you don’t enjoy cleaning up to your house, you know, have someone clean it for you. So there’s whatever things are just know that they’re beneath you, you just not made us may not have the skill, the talent, but they need to be done in your life, right. So you need to do worse. The third type of support we need is we need to push those. And oftentimes, you know, our parents will push teachers, and the teachers will push there’s no view in sports, your coach was a pusher, which basically pushers are the type of people that say kind of like, you know, like, let’s say you started the show and an episode 50. And you were like kind of notice it’s hard. nobody’s listening. I don’t get any traction. Oh, screw this, I’m just gonna go and do something else. And people say no, David Shut up, and you promise that you’re going to record hundred episodes, we won’t let you quit until you record 100 episodes, and so shut up and go and do it
David Ralph [19:38]
won’t be too sharp. Well, Adam said again, I bet there’s many people that want me to shut up.
Adam Urbanski [19:45]
I don’t know about that. I mean, they’re always up, but it’s a whole different storey. Right. So we need to push us and we are good. We are conditioned to find them. But there’s one thing, one type of the fourth type of resource that most people completely don’t have. And that’s cheerleaders. And you know, look at every Sports The Why don’t have cheerleaders on the sides, whether they lose the when the cheerleaders go in there, just go Yeah, yeah, go guys win the game, go get them. We don’t have people in life that no matter what’s going on, they’re always there to affirm your value. And like you said, we as humans are wired to beat ourselves up. So we need exponentially more cheerleaders, then we need you know, pushers and anybody else. Because we want to do a great job beating ourselves up as it is. And when that happens, we diminish our own confidence, our own courage to go and do things. And that’s what we need those folks around us, we say, Look, you’re brilliant, you’re good at what you do. You’re amazing. You just, you’re good enough as it is, as a human being. You know, don’t put yourself down, go out there and do the great thing that you want to do go out and get your dream. So kind of an assignment for for our listeners. You know what, find more cheerleaders in your life, people that just absolutely love you and adore you unconditionally, and will always be there to cheer you on when you when you may be losing your honour ability to, to find confidence to pursue your dreams.
David Ralph [21:03]
But just before I take you back in time, and we start looking at your sort of childhood, because I’m fascinated about your childhood in Poland and how you made that transition across, I just want you to have a listen to this very short speech. This is by a chap called Jim Carrey, the comedian that he made recently. What do you think about this,
Jim Carrey [21:19]
my father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.
David Ralph [21:46]
I love that I listened to that on a daily basis. And it’s pointing link for me. What do you think about that?
Adam Urbanski [21:54]
Well, besides the point that I’m speechless, and then I just love how you weave those those moments and quotes and inspirational speeches into your shoulders. Absolutely love that. You know, this is so true. Today, there is a persona out there in the social media Gary van or chalk and get advantage jack wrote this book called crush it. And he said something to the effect that today in in the in where we have some opportunities where everything pretty much is equalised. In terms of access and opportunities and possibilities. There’s absolutely no reason to do to live live in the miserable way and do things you hate do it. You know, I’m listening to the speech. And again, I’m reflecting back back on my upbringing. And you know, we were kind of a an upper middle class family and me grow up. And when I was growing up, my my father’s my father owned a bakery. And bakery was one of the two types of businesses that were actually permitted to be privately owned in a government in a communist government bakeries, and showrooms Shoemaker shoe repair shop. We’re kind of the only kind of like a cobbler industry almost, you know, so my parents were always perceived to be a little bit better off than anybody else. But let me tell you, they work extremely hard. And in a struggle to kind of make things happen. And you know, how we supposed to run a baker, we’re often you cannot actually buy flour to make bread. So I’ve watched my father being extremely creative. We was genius, man. But you know, I also watched him settle. Because he was just beaten up. And at some point, he just had no more energy to really to fight the fight. So yeah, I think that for all of us goes back to having the cheerleader super don’t go like, Look, dude, take another punch, get up one more time. Go for it, it’s just not worth selling. Because Well, just like that speech said, you, you may absolutely fail at the things you don’t want to do anyway. So you might as well fail at something you love doing.
David Ralph [23:53]
All your parents did around at him.
Adam Urbanski [23:56]
My mom is my dad passed away 14 years ago.
David Ralph [24:00]
So did he get a chance to see your success in America?
Adam Urbanski [24:04]
He did to a degree Yeah, he was part of it. When I was building my my first business. So yeah, he was around, he was actually around when I, I purchased my first dream home. So then that was you know, just absolutely was, you know, for some people who back in Poland were accustomed to was absolutely mentioned. And they were just like, wow, you know, and obviously the dollar to to polish money conversion back then was astronomical. So today, they’re just, you know, they kind of get get to witness, you know, a lot of a lot of what I was able to accomplish, but I will tell you something, I do have, you know, kind of an unfinished business and regret when it comes to my father, it might be a kind of accurate, might be appropriate for us to talk about. Because, you know, I moved out of my parents home when I was 14. My father and I will very much alike, very strong headed, very driven, very opinionated, very kind of my way or the highway. So I needless to say, when I got to be a teenager, we did not see eye to eye at all. So you know, my, my, my solution to the situation was just, you know, get up and leave. And it took me until I was in my late 20s, early 30s, almost, where I had those, I had some, like, let me just reflect on all the things I’ve learned from my dad. And Have I ever thanked him for it. And I gotta tell you, it’s like, what I finally figured those things out and made a decision to go back and had a conversation with him kind of hard, too hard and tell them how much I love them. And how much I appreciate everything he has taught me and showed me. You know, the guy died seven days before I was scheduled to meet with him. And man, I just to this day, I mean, I’m kind of telling the storey somewhat coldly not to get emotional about it. Because it’s often hard for me to to go through it. I was just so mad that I did not make the time sooner to take care of the important things in life. So you know, kind of one of the dots I know you’re going to get to this later on in the conversation is you’ve got to do the important things right there in the moment. And you’ve got to get better at recognising what those important things are. Right in the moment.
David Ralph [26:16]
I see my parents a lot, I say my mom and dad more than a lot compared You know, I’m 44 years old. And it’s amazing how much I see them. And if I say to my mom, mom, I love you. She go what you after, or, okay, she never says it back ever. And he’s been come a little kind of test for me. And I know she loves me. I know, you know, from the bottom of my heart, she loves me, but she never says it back. And I never realised how important that was to me until my own kids came along. And then I realised but my family were very much they love you. They support you. But there wasn’t a lot of sort of hugging and, and sort of telling you beta love you. It was just kind of an unwritten support. I had a moment with my dad, when I had to go on a road trip with him to my daughter’s wedding. And we was in a bar and we broken down and we was in France. And we were trapped in this town for three days. And he turned to me and he said, You know, you’re much better dad than I’ve ever been. And I said no, that’s rubbish day because you’re the best that you know I could possibly want. He said no. In your mind. You think about it. He said, but you’re doing stuff on a daily, daily daily basis that I didn’t because I was so busy trying to build a future and build an income and all that kind of stuff. And it struck me at that moment, Adam, that a lot of my memories in my head of rose tinted sort of memories. Actually, I’ve constructed because I think I wanted it to be like that. And I find it hard to actually sort of break down what I would need to address and what I I don’t need to address because I’m not really sure what is fantasy or not. Does that make sense?
Adam Urbanski [27:58]
Oh, absolutely. I mean, I can so relate to that as
David Ralph [28:03]
well. Why do you think As humans, we do want our peer group to support us. But as been coming out on conversation after conversation, our peer group are generally the ones that are likely to hold us back more than anyone. Our parents are the ones that should support us and love us and build us up and, and really biggest up, but quite often because they don’t want us to get hurt or failed. They will hold us back. What did you know your dad grew up in a communist country? Was he very stoic? Was he somebody that didn’t sort of hug you? and all that kind of stuff? Did? Did he give you this or mobile support that you needed? Or did you because as you were saying, you didn’t allow him to get that way, because the two of you were at loggerheads?
Adam Urbanski [28:53]
Well, it’s interesting. So I don’t think he was one of those that really, you know, that they almost proverbial or caricatures of a of a Eastern European kind of hardcore man that, you know, wouldn’t shed a tear, it would be very kind of cold on and drag it on the outside. Now, my father was actually quite warm, and I’ve seen him on a few occasions kind of shut it to get moved. And, you know, be a bit of a bit of hardware to work, you know, kind of more of an affectionate side, it just my biggest thing was that he was just like, maybe your dad perceived himself by that was constant trying to provide for us. So, you know, he was just too busy to be there. For me, I only knew I have two older siblings who are significantly older seven and 10 years. So I only knew from their storeys that there were times when my family would spend time together and travel, you know, I experienced a lot less of it. Because again, my dad was always just busy, you know, trying to provide for us and trying to make ends meet. But, you know, you ask an important question, David. And that was, you know, why is that we, we see approval. And I think as you know, as human beings, we are wired to be herd animals, we were wired to be in a in a community in a group. And so and we perceive not having that acceptance as a threat. Now think about it. I mean, this is so deeply why I call it the, you know, the reptile brain or the lizard brain. And in order for us today to succeed, we have to find ways to hack the lizard brain against its own wiring. So the lizard brain is why it’s still from the caveman era. Now in the cavemen time, being a solo player, basically mean men demise, you were dead, you were cast out of a tribe, you were dead that very night, you know, you died of cold, exhaustion, exposure, or by wild beasts, you know, your choice, but you were dead, the very next didn’t survive very long. So we are wired to today that we seek our, you know, peers acceptance, we’re in today’s environment, it doesn’t necessarily serve us anymore. In fact, you know, I’ve got five things written right on my computer in front of me, kind of a five stages, or five, five different ways to look at things today as entrepreneurs. So number one, there’s like three sequences, so going to give it to you. Number one is stop seeking approval. You know, because today, what people perceived as absolute bogus and crazy and just totally lunatic, tomorrow, it’s a breakthrough. So if you see them to if you seek people to approve your ideas today, you’ll never have a breakthrough. So the first thing is stop seeking approval. The second thing is risk disapproval, actually risk the fact knowing into things that they’re going to laugh at you get that just what you know, you talked about earlier that there’s probably lots of people who would want you to shut up and stop talking. There’s always naysayers. But you know, when you go into things that are exciting, there are new that are fresh people, especially the those around you, you have to accept you have to be willing to risk their disapproval. And the final thing that the second, the third step to that is actually seek this approval, if you want to be a thought leader, if you want to go crazy and have breakthroughs, if you want to really feel those butterflies in your stomach all the time, like you felt when you maybe were getting a new exciting job, and maybe before your guest for the first time or, you know, found that that person you really want it to love for the rest of your life. If you want to feel that way, you’ve got to actively seek this approval from your tribe. Because if you seeking approval, then you just settling for status quo. And then I’ve got two other things that I wrote kind of along the same line is number one is reject acceptance. And number two, accept rejection is a very, very important things that I tried to ingrained myself with. Because again, if I if I just nothing but I if I, again, reject acceptance, if your ideas are readily accepted that I know that not revolutionary, they’re not far thinking enough. And knowing that the ideas that are revolutionary that I break through that for thinking and I’ve got to be rejected. That’s just that’s just what is because most people just want what is that’s how they are wired
Unknown Speaker [33:14]
up a long dissertation, I hope it makes
David Ralph [33:16]
total sense. And I’m sitting there thinking about my own journey on this because it was an absolute leap of faith. I didn’t know anyone who did this kind of thing. It was just not hurdle. And so I had to create it right from scratch. And I think I’ve been through every single one of those steps. And I think I’m still going through those steps. And that’s the show is getting bigger and bigger and bigger. It almost makes those steps bigger and bigger and bigger as well. Because when I started it, I just wanted to get going. And then once I got going, I just wanted to get traction. And once I got traction, I just wanted to get an audience. And now the audience is getting bigger and bigger and bigger. I consciously think to myself, am I providing for them? Am I providing what they want? and mentally, I have to think to myself, why is the audience growing at such an exponential rate is because the content is given them something, it’s inspiring them? It’s providing hope. And I can’t give any more hope and I’m giving, but mentally your brain kind of things. Can I deal with this? Can I sort of keep on going Can I keep on churning this out. So I think it’s an absolute key point to all the listeners out there, that to get anything going, you really do have to play back to this, this speech, and around about a 30 minute mark, listen to it, and listen to it again and make notes because that is a blueprint for success that Adam has just provided to you. And it’s not going to be easy. You will need courage. But you jot that down and you’ve got more than a head start. So thank you for that. Adam, it made perfect sense.
Adam Urbanski [34:50]
Awesome. And you know, just to make it even more tangible for folks, all of us are probably on Facebook. And I want you to think about when Facebook rolls out changes. You know, there’s always a huge and you know, that’s just one example. There’s always a huge uproar. And you know, people go, Oh, you know, Facebook is doing this and doing that. And finally, thing at two weeks later, nobody even remembers what things used to be like they just accept the new thing. But right when it happens, everybody was like, because what do we want? We want the same. It’s like, well, I used to go in there and things look like this. And now they look like that. And I can’t find things. It’s all doesn’t make sense? Well, yeah, because you’re thinking from a perspective of yesterday and seeking approval, they’re thinking perspective of moving forward, and they’re willing to risk you temporary disapproval to approve things long term. And I think that’s again, where we need to spend more time all as human beings,
David Ralph [35:41]
how to overcome the imposter syndrome that stops many of us in our trap, because you’ve got so many skills and talents that you’re using on a daily basis. But all of those had to be funnelling tuned. And so you must have gone through many stages where you think, oh, now they’re going to catch me out here or this is too big for me or up to be so whatever. So how have you managed to overcome that and create such a world around you of success?
Adam Urbanski [36:08]
You know, that is a fascinating question. It’s certainly, you know, so so the first thing I’ll share with you that that imposter syndrome, or I call it a fraud factor, you just kind of feel like, Oh, my God, people only figure me I figured me out there just the whole thing is going to collapse, right? I find it fascinating that a lot of successful people deal with that. And it’s something that never quite goes away. It’s almost like you suddenly have to pinch yourself, Is This Really? I mean, am I really living this? is this happening? Oh, my gosh, what are people thinking? Again, if I just wake up, it’s all gonna, you know, I think that we, the higher up you go, the intensity of that increases. So the first thing is you have to be aware that it’s a very normal feeling. And it may at least I think, for me this for a lot of people that I know it is, because we were growing up with parents who a segment on put your soul out there, just take it easy, you know, don’t rock the boat. So it’s very feeling normal that we feel in that not natural in that in that place where we’re getting ahead with it, everything is just bigger and grander than ever before. For me, you know, first I was just young and stupid. And I had, I had, there was no place to go. But up. I mean, things were so bad, that I had nothing else to lose. So I think that’s part of it. Number two,
I had sort of a kind of a blessing, I had a bit of a disdain for a traditional education. And today, I learned to appreciate it but in a different way, in a way that, you know, people put themselves through years and years and years of education. And I admire the discipline. But I, I had this I question things when someone went out and said, Well, you know, let’s say in English class, you know, for me, it was polish, we will be discussing a poem written 200 years earlier. And I would have certain feelings about but a teacher said, No, no, you got it all wrong. Here’s what the policy was trying to say. And in my mind, I would kind of nod my head. But you know, because I had no choice. But I also would actually voice opinions like, look where you frickin there 200 years ago. So How the hell do you know he was trying to say, maybe my opinion is accurate. Just because you went to school, 10 years longer, you have an opinion that will shape Bye, bye have a different opinion. And, you know, I think we should agree to disagree, but don’t tell me that my opinion is wrong. And I think that kind of feisty devil’s advocate spirit is what drove me. So when, for example, it came to starting a coaching business, I looked at people who spent three, four or five years 10s of thousands of dollars getting a coaching certification. And they thought they couldn’t go out there and live their dreams support the family, living the passion, because they had to be approved with a stamp behind their name. And I looked at the certification. So wait a second, how did this certification come to be? Oh, I see. So there were 10 people who are coaches, the guy together, and they agreed that you can’t call yourself a coach or a certified coach, until you have, you know, x numbers of training or hours of practice. And then you are then you then you are permitted. So basically, I today I say, basically, it’s a bunch of assets, people like you and I bunch of assets that got together and decided that you can call yourself something or be something until they tell you it’s okay. And I said screw this, that’s not true. If I want to be a coach, I can be a coach this afternoon, and there’s nothing they can do about it. Now, there are certain limitations, if you want to be a, you know, brain surgeon, right, or, you know, a sort of rig operator, you can just go in there and do it and go like I’m going to fake it till I make it you’ve got to have the trainings and certifications and so on. But there are many things in life where we just, we don’t need other people’s approvals. But again, through school, through corporate life, we’ve been conditioned that someone else has to tell us we are okay. And I’ve made it my life submission almost to like say Screw it. If you want to do something, it’s a wild wild west, you get on the freakin horse, you gallop through the prairie and you stick the claim, you know the stick the stake in the ground and you claim it to be your patch of your ground. And then you’ve got to arm yourself to the top and be prepared to defend it from the Indians and other settlers. I want to take it away from you. So in life, you know, if you want to be something, you go out there and call yourself that you out, you go out there and claim that patch of territorial industry of recognition, but you know what, then you better be prepared to work your heinie off to defend it because others will come say you’re like people cancer Ward makes you the marketing mentors. You go to college? No, I didn’t go to college. But I’ve made millions of dollars. And I’ve made 10s of millions of dollars to other people. That’s what makes me a marketing mentor. If you want a degree go somewhere else. But people will take Well, welcome will take shots and we’ll try to take it away from you. Because they follow the traditional route. They follow the stack to the status quo. You know, today. You know, I’m an expert. But the experts are the most dangerous breed on the planet because experts stick to what they know that work. But you know with us so certain that something works. You are blinded because you’re not willing to explore some things that you’re the you’re the decider, they’re the know that it doesn’t work until someone else comes along and do what they’re not supposed to do. And they create breakthrough results. And you go like, oh, how the hell did that happen? Well, they didn’t know what they what they couldn’t do. And they did it anyway. That’s how it happened. So I think the most dangerous thing is, you know, to listen to experts and for people like me why experts? You’ve got a question even your own freakin expertise and approach every single day. Are you gonna die like a dinosaur?
David Ralph [41:42]
And what you’re a pioneer and I remember manager many years ago saying to me, if you’re doing something new people are going to take shots at you. And he said, All pioneers attract arrows. And that’s, that’s what you’re saying, isn’t it? Absolutely. Do you find that exciting bow carving out your own sort of path, being bloody minded because it is come up in the interview? You know, I think I think you’re amazing. I’ve really been like your passion and enthusiasm and the fact that you do say to people, you know, or life in general, you know, screw it, let’s do it. Just get to it. You know, let’s cut to the chase, and let’s build this thing. Does that does that sort of annoy people? Or are they inspired by you being in your in your vicinity?
Adam Urbanski [42:26]
I think it goes it cuts either way. Some people get absolutely annoyed, and some people love it. But you know, I have to tell you, David, you know, I’m not claiming that my way is the way everybody is wired differently. Some people just don’t want that some people you know, want to live differently. So whatever floats your boat stick to it. But the point is, whatever makes you passionate, whatever just again, floats your boat, give it up, give it your all, don’t just, you know, dabble at it, give it your all. And in terms of this, you know, doesn’t doesn’t rub people the wrong way. I know it grabs a lot of people the wrong way and frankly, couldn’t care less. You know, today, there’s just I mean, I could just tell you storeys and analogies, I tell my clients that look, no one has a, the only way people have a vote in my business is when they vote with their wallet or their credit card. If they want to just you know, for example, speak some on stage and at the end, people have an opportunity to invest in working with me or get at home study course. And then inevitably, there’s always a person or two that comes back to me and says, Well, you know, you should have done that speech differently. And you know, I’m like, excuse me, number one, when was the last time you spoke in front of stage like this. And number two, that you just buy my product will then get the hell out of my way make room for paying customers? Quit wasting my time. You know, you can tell me how you see I could do it better. But you know what, everybody has an opinion. I couldn’t care less about your opinion until you told me you have out earn me out, strategize me and outmanoeuvred me have something to learn until then you don’t have much to contribute. So I think we often gets so concerned about other people’s opinions. And let me You know, I think it’s the quote from Dr. Seuss, something that goes like those whose opinion matters. They don’t care about the imperfections that you have, and they they’re not there to take shots of you. And those whose opinions don’t matter, then they will take shots at you. But you know, who cares? They’re not going to put a roof over your head, they’re not going to feed your children not going to take care of you when you you know, have a medical emergency. Why should you character what they think.
David Ralph [44:29]
But people do care, don’t me, that’s the thing, you know, and these conversations are so driven to try and to inspire people to take on board what you’re saying, because it obviously works. And then the next episode, somebody else will have a different spin on it. And it obviously works. And it’s just the flavour isn’t it, it’s the flavour of, you know, not accepting where you are not accepting the rubbish boyfriend, the rubbish girlfriend, not accepting the boss, but puts you down every day. It’s that ability to actually create your own reality. That’s what people need to do. And whether they do it your way or my way or the next way. It doesn’t matter. It’s in them and they’ve got to tap into themselves and find out the way that works for them.
Adam Urbanski [45:16]
Absolutely, and you know, just the one quick storey you’ve gotta you nailed it, you’ve got to do it. It’s not my way. It’s not David’s way. It’s not whoever’s way it’s like it’s kind of be your way and just be prepared your way some people will love it, some people will hate it. But that’s exactly what life is about. Let me tell you, there’s only one time ever that I dialled into a radio station was mid 90s, I used to own my chain of restaurants job between a couple of restaurants to visit them. And I listened to the show on the radio and there was one host it was very controversial, he was always just choosing controversial topics. And many times I disagree with him, I hated the guy with a passion. But you know, he was he was getting me so pissed off, that I couldn’t even turn the radio off would change channels. If I got mad, I clicked a different channel like 30 seconds gonna now I gotta go back and hear what he says again, even though was making me mad. So there was you know, one time only in argued with him on the shelf. But here’s the point I’m trying to make it make people that love you will follow you people will hate you will pay attention because you just you know, you drive them so much they can find they can find themselves to peel themselves away. It fascinates them when it pushes them off. And you know, there’s this small segment in between the lily Willie the vanilla. And that’s the worst place to be. Because if you find yourself to be vanilla, nobody cares. And that’s where most people how most people live their lives, their vanilla, nobody cares, that are driving everybody the wrong way. And not just causing huge waves of excitement. But as kind of paddling along. And it’s like a kiss of death. Come on, step up and do something freakin crazy. Someone love you, someone hates you, but they will pay attention and follow you.
David Ralph [46:54]
Just before we play this speech by Steve Jobs, which is the theme for the whole show. One of the things that’s been coming out on this every show is but there’s a big.in people’s lives, there’s there’s a moment that they can look back on and say yes, if it wasn’t for that, I wouldn’t be here. And funnily enough, a lot of the times that big.is black, it was a dark time, it was something that didn’t go right. But like the looking back, they kind of go, Well, I really wish I hadn’t gone through that because it was a dreadful time. And I really remember it being dreadful. But part of me goes, yeah, thank God, I went through that because I am who I am now, have you got a similar tale of a big.in your life that was dark at the time, but you can reflect on it as a positive?
Adam Urbanski [47:36]
You know, absolutely. So, man, I’m trying to think which one to share with you. You know, so
there is a storey that I always share with the United States with hundred $94, making millions by blah, blah, blah, there’s a storey that I haven’t shared for years, which is after I’ve made my millions in the early 2000s. I’ve lost everything. I’ve lost everything down to having $20 in my pocket and driving a borrowed car that I couldn’t even afford to put gas in there. And man, I was already in the in the industry that required me to be perceived as success. I mean, I certainly knew how to make money I’ve done I’ve done it once before. And it was just embarrassing and really dark, embarrassing, I lost my confidence that I actually can do, I’m good at what I do that I can do it for a living, that I can actually help other people achieve success. And, you know, fortunately, I had both teachers and pushers and cheerleaders who just said, Look, you can do it, you can do it. And out of that what happened is the methodology evolved, or emerged at first and then evolved, that I used to number one turn my situation around. But today, it’s one of the primary vehicles that I use to catapult customers and companies from often a standstill or startup to hundreds or even millions of dollars very, very quickly. So you know, and if it wasn’t for that question, particular time in my life, I just as I might have never stumbled upon that that particular method
David Ralph [49:06]
is weird, isn’t it? How that is such a truth across the world. And another thing that keeps on coming up, Adam, which is the tagline for the show is connecting our past to build our future. And so many people have started telling me but actually the things that they do now are fulfilling what they love doing as children. So if they love, you know, building stuff, and Lego and building blocks and all that. Now they actually like building companies, and it’s the same kind of methodologies that came same kind of tapping into that thing that you would do, even if he wasn’t being paid for it. Is there commonalities with you, when you look back to the little item that you kind of think to yourself? Yeah, actually, I remember doing this kind of thing when I was a kid.
Adam Urbanski [49:48]
Oh, absolutely. So you know, I was constantly I was constantly doing business. I mean, I don’t remember as a four or five, six year old, I was roaming and out and around the the neighbourhood and my parents never knew what would happen. I’d come home with a goat or a rabbit in a suitcase. And they were like, how did you did it? I’m like, I bought it. Anyway, like, well, how did you buy it? You have no money. Oh, you know, I tell people were storey Oh, I did a service of some sorts. Now I traded it, what did you treat it if I told them a storey. So so the first thing is I always kind of wanted to be in some sort of business and trading and making things happen. The second thing was, I always wanted to tell storeys, and that and that kind of led to the third party, which is growing up, I imagined myself as being kind of an actor slash movie director, producer, I imagined myself kind of having a long career and playing in the you know, in action movies. And here’s what happened for me, I realised that the Acting career Not going to happen, the long career, I tried it for a while and I’m you know, bold as it gets. But But here’s what happened. I’ve created my own live events where people come and I have an actor on stage, I get to tell storeys, I get to produce my own show, and I get to act in it. And because of that, I get to impact like transform lives. And absolutely, it’s an extension of what I dreamt I will be doing. It just I couldn’t get hired as an actor, not that I haven’t tried. So I created my own shows. And I get to locked in. And
David Ralph [51:14]
it’s madness moments for so many people and I, I was the same. When people would say follow your passion or find your path, you kind of know what that is, you know, I’ve got no idea. But now I look at it. And I think I did know, I just forgot. And by taking responsibility and getting a career and going for the money and and and all those kind of things that we do in adulthood, I forgotten the things I love doing, which was almost applying. But now, as you said, right, the very beginning of the show, for all the listeners out there, what I would recommend them all to do is get a bit of paper and just jot down, try to remember things you did when you were little that you would just do all the time and you’d run home from school and lay on the floor and you draw or you you you know, you make club sup with your mates and all that kind of stuff. Because that’s going to be touched tapping into your sort of real passions in life. And that can’t be sort of taken away from you. That is who you are, isn’t it?
Adam Urbanski [52:12]
Absolutely. I mean that I think that’s great advice. I never thought of that. But it’s great advice, David,
David Ralph [52:18]
let’s play the Steve Jobs speech, because I’m fascinated to see what you think about these words, because they are so powerful for so many people. So I’m going to play this and then I’m going to ask whether you feel that they’re relevant to your own life. This is Steve Jobs.
Steve Jobs [52:30]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [53:05]
Well, you’ve created quite a path for yourself. So is that true? Does that reflect your life?
Adam Urbanski [53:12]
Absolutely. And and you know, I’m kind of bracing myself because you, you you told me that this will come into the show? And yes.
You know, just like we talked the metaphor of a plane taking off in one direction and changing in the air. And it’s so true, you can’t quite see ahead, Word will take you. But I think what’s critical is that you start taking the steps, it’s taking this proverbial How do you eat an elephant one bite at a time? How do you go from, you know, New York to San Diego, vice versa, you can’t see the entire journey. But you can only see a few hundred yards ahead, whether it’s day or night. And yet somehow you travel a few hundred, you know, a few thousand miles. And it happens but just a little chunk at a time. And then when you look past, you kind of go like, Oh my god, I’m so glad I did this, Oh, I’m so glad that this happened to me. Because without that happening to me, you know, I would have never been where I am today. So you know, just one quick thought I’ll share with you. In the 90s I drove around a lot. And I you know, what happened is there’s two things. Number one, I hired a consultant for our restaurant who got me on got me to listen to books on tapes. Without those books on tapes, I would have never found a passion for self growth, self growth, and for, you know, for transforming other people’s lives. In the late 19, extra couple of times throughout the 90s I was enrolled to be a part of this company called Amway. You know, I never I never had much success with it. And today from perspective of time, I understand why. But through those companies, I learned the value of support network again, they were huge on education, on self growth on marketing training. Without that training, I would have never been in a in a constant code coaching consulting industry that I am today. And then finally, you know, like my own flavour of education. Throughout the 90s, there was a radio show in the States by Dr. Laura laura schlessinger adapted she’s known outside of the United States, maybe she has maybe she hasn’t. But you know, there was she was always very short, when she was coaching people in radios, people would dial into to get to ask for coaching for guidance on relationships. And number one, she had a knack for getting to the bottom of the issue very, very quickly. And number two, when people ask for opinions said I can give you their opinion, but who cares, it’s just my opinion. Now I can tell you, you know what, what you need to do what means what works, what doesn’t work, but it’s not the opinion. And you know, I didn’t even realise how much I adopted the same philosophy like getting to the bottom of the things quickly, I don’t want to I don’t care about the storey, I don’t care about the umbrella, like give me the gist of it. And I can tell you what to do with it. And then the second part of it is, if I notice situation, and I can contribute, I will contribute. But you know what? my opinions are useless. It’s just my opinions, you know, everybody has one. So if I, if I have a solution, if I have a tool, if I have a technology, great if I don’t, I’m obligated to tell you what I can tell you the opinion. But again, that’s all there is. So just three things that I can remember, you know, how they contributed to where I am and what I did today.
David Ralph [56:09]
So just before we send you back in time on the Sermon on the mic, and so that you can have a one on one with your younger self? What’s in the future for Adam, what are you looking for all your planning, or your passions that you’re developing? Share with us?
Adam Urbanski [56:23]
You know, this conversation is so timely because I think I’m kind of reawakening my passion for really playing bigger and and and creating more support for people. So, you know, today I’m on this mission to help people create their own playground, whether you live your own life, you know, whether you’re employed for someone or or you have your own business, you’ve got to become the king of your own kingdom, the queen of your own Queen land, and just absolutely do things that fulfil you, you read it in the opening as part of my bio, it’s not just about making the money. It’s about living an amazing inspired life. It’s about going places you want to go, it’s about contributing to the causes you want to contribute. It’s about touching the people that are just kind of there in the haze. And they’re waiting for the light to the fog to come out. And you know, the fog to party go, oh my god, I was waiting for that, whether it’s a little bit of a how to information, whether it’s, you know, a dose of hope, because they’ve lost all or it’s a bit of inspiration when they go like, you know, I’ve got no excuse. And I’ve got to go and do this, I’m inspired again to give it my all and go and do it. That’s my mission to help people create the playground, their own playground, help people live the life they want to live.
David Ralph [57:36]
And has that just crept up on you again, or something occurred to reignite those passions?
Adam Urbanski [57:42]
You know, it’s sort of a little bit of both, you know, I’m
you remember, you mentioned a conversation with someone a few episodes back where they said that your dream is not big enough. Yeah, you kind of lose momentum. Well, I think that’s kind of what I’ve been bumping up the best again, and my my circle advisors and telling me, Adam, the reason you kind of fizzled out in some places. So the reason you sound kind of flatly you’re not excited is because, you know, you you stop dreaming that big dream, just the things you going after not big enough to no longer excited and no longer this big of a challenge. So, again, you know, that passion has always been there. What has crept up on me is the fact that I lost the connexion with and I needed to rekindle it again,
David Ralph [58:25]
where you’re going to get it back big time you can hear it just the way that you talk is just there isn’t it simmering away, and something’s going to happen. And then suddenly, bang, you’re in full flow again.
Adam Urbanski [58:36]
Man, I take your words, as the words of a wise prophet from from the Greenland of
Unknown Speaker [58:41]
David Ralph [58:43]
you take it from me, Adam Urbanski is gonna go big for you. So let’s put you on the sermon and Mike and this is a bit when we send you back in time to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time, what age of Adam would you choose? Would it be the five year old running around buying rabbits and goats? Or would it be the older one just coming into America, so I’m going to play the tune. And when it fades out your lap, misses the Sermon on the mic.
Adam Urbanski [59:32]
This is probably one of the hardest conversation ever to have. But you know, a little while I was not that little little Adam Urbanski was in his 20s. And he thinks he’s got the world by its feet. And, and he really doesn’t know what’s in store in front of him yet. So I would say this know, as hungry as you are, be hungrier. But at the same time, be patient. And whatever big dreams you have you realised come your way, if you decide right there, and then that you are not going to give up until you get them. And the final thing, just three things. Be hungrier, be patient. And the final thing is that you will regret more than things that you haven’t done. That the things you actually do the bike and my backfire might be a mistake at the moment. So be hungrier,
be more patient and play bolder at any given time.
David Ralph [1:00:36]
I love that. And I hope a little Adam is listening. Big Adam, how can people connect with you?
Adam Urbanski [1:00:45]
Oh, the best way, the marketing mentors that calm that’s our main site be marketing mentors.com. That’s the marketing mentors, calm or just on Facebook, look up Adam Urbanski or facebook.com forward slash Adams fans. And I’m on Facebook quite a bit. So it’s a great place to connect with me.
David Ralph [1:01:06]
We’ll have all those links on the show notes. And Adam Urbanski, thank you so much for spending time with us today. joining those dots of your life has been absolutely inspirational to me. And I’m sure all our listeners, please come back again, when you have more dots to join up. Because I do believe that by joining those dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. Adam, thank you so much.
Adam Urbanski [1:01:26]
Absolutely. My pleasure. And David, I want to turn around and actually thank you and honour you for doing what you’re doing because it inspires a lot of people. You are like john adams and the Beatles, you have no idea what what Join Up Dots really is. And what are you creating out there. So kudos, and keep up the great work
David Ralph [1:01:47]
today. Appreciate that. Thank you so much.
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