Anthony John Amyx Joins Us On The Steve Jobs Inspired Join Up Dots Podcast
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Introducing Anthony John Amyx
Anthony John Amyx is todays guest joining us on the Steve Jobs inspired Join Up Dots business coaching podcast interview.
He is a man with not just a unusual name, but a fascinating tale of how he has reached a place in his life where he seems totally at ease and loving everyday
Growing up in a tiny little town called Seven Points in East Texas for the first few years of his adult life he hadn’t got into first gear.
Studying Graphic Design at college, he didn’t start setting the world alight.
In fact I’m sure the only thing that he considered setting alight was the college.
It didn’t suit AJ, and he hated every minute.
But he did what he had to do, and graduated before getting a job quickly in an advertising agency in Dallas.
How The Dots Joined Up For Anthony
And looking back I am assuming AJ Amyx hated college as in many ways it suppressed his free spirit.
His desire to do things his own way.
His need to be creative on his own terms.
So fast forward to the evenings and like Bruce Wayne and his alter ego The Dark knight, our guest slipped effortless into his other role. That of guitar strutting rock god.
Yes, AJ Amyx worked hard with his band, toured nationally, playing festivals, getting on the radio, and sharing stage space with some of the biggest bands of the day. And then it came to an end.
His music career was no more.
So what do you do when everything you have worked for comes to an end.
Where do you go when you are at a crossroads in your life, and the dots that have led you to this point stop, and you are left with just your own vision of what life will be?
Well let’s bring onto the show to start joining up dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs in todays Free podcast, with the one and only Anthony John Amyx
Show Highlights
During the show we discussed with Anthony John Amyxx such weighty topics as:
The reasons why he realised that he was pushing all his friends away and how he stopped doing it!
The benefits to getting a successful life when you go to the bottom and start hitting rock bottom
How he learnt to ask himself the right questions again and again until his true calling appeared to him!
The love that he has for helping people across the globe get the future and life that they deserve!
And Lastly………..
The fascination he has with my nipples…..yeah, this is a bizarre episode!
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Audio Transcription Of Anthony John Amyx
Intro [0:00]
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK. David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Yes, hello there. Good morning. Well, how are we ready for another faultless professionally performed episode of Join Up Dots? I’m sure you are. I’ve got a guest on today. But I said I wouldn’t say this to him. But last time, I was ready to record he didn’t turn up he actually slept. So I screwed him up live. And do you know what was worth? He said to me on those that day that he overslept because he’d set his alarm for four o’clock in the afternoon. Whoever sets of alarm before cooking afternoon should be up and about. This is the laziest person you’ve ever met. Well, we’re going to find out in the show, because he is a man who hasn’t just got an unusual name, but he has a fascinating tale of how he has reached a place in his life, where he seems totally at ease and loving every day growing up in a tiny little town called seven points in East Texas. For the first few years of his adult life. He hadn’t got into first gear, studying graphic design at college, he didn’t set the world alight. In fact, I’m sure the only thing that you consider setting a light was the college he didn’t suit him. And he hated every minute. But he did what he had to do and graduated before getting a job quickly in an advertising agency in Dallas. And looking back I’m assuming he hated college as in many ways it’s suppressed he’s free spirit is designed to do things his own way. He’s need to be creative on his own terms. So fast forward to the evenings and like Bruce Wayne and his alter ego, The Dark Knight, our guest slipped effortlessly into his other role. That of guitar striking luck, god, yes, he worked hard with his band toward nationally, playing festivals, getting on the radio and sharing stage space with some of the biggest bands of the day. And when it came to an end, his music career was no more. So what do you do when everything you’ve worked for comes to an end? Where do you go when you’re at a crossroads in your life, and the dots that have led you to this point stop and you’re left with just your own vision of what life will be? Well, it’s funny now as we bring on to the show to start Join Up Dots, but one and only Anthony John Amyx. How are you AJ?
Anthony John Amyx [2:26]
Thanks for having me. I swear you’re the funniest freaking man and podcasting. I’m like, You’re freaking hilarious.
David Ralph [2:33]
He is amazing. Actually. You know, it’s I don’t know what time it is out there. But I imagine you just got out of bed. You’re in your pyjamas? What is happening in your life? Because how did that happen? But you set your alarm for four o’clock in the afternoon.
Anthony John Amyx [2:48]
Man, I felt like the biggest, dumbest person I think that’s ever walked the face of the planet. I don’t know, I set my alarm. And I knew you know, to get on your show. I had to be up at 4am and I stayed up the night before till midnight. I don’t even remember why but I had to for some god awful reason. And so I’m like, okay, so and then put the phone and I said it what I thought was 4am but apparently on my iPhone. I did not move it to am apparently it was it automatically said 2pm. And I woke up like in a cold sweat. And it was like it’s dark. And I looked at and I’m like, rub my eyes. What time is it? It oversleep? And it’s 6am. And I’m like, No, and I knew I had to be on with you at 5:30am. So it’s 30 minutes later and I’m panicking. I’m picking up my phone and I’m like texting you via Skype, and I’m an idiot and you’re like it’s okay. And now here you’re making fun of me publicly. So thank you so much. I appreciate it.
David Ralph [3:42]
I was just quite chilled. You know, if you exclude john Lee Dumas over, he would have had you he he is a military man who would have come for you with probably a bit of a armoury and a tank or two but I just let it go. Because that’s what as UK Guys, do, we just let things go.
Anthony John Amyx [4:00]
I’m so glad. I’m glad you didn’t like behead me. I mean, I appreciate that.
David Ralph [4:05]
So what is your image of English people? Because I’m quite fascinated. And so many of the guests always mentioned the accent nada. And when they asked me off air, some bizarre questions about what it’s like in the UK. And some of them I kind of think,
Anthony John Amyx [4:21]
really,
David Ralph [4:22]
is that what you actually think? One one of them I had the other day was is it always raining? And I thought, well, no, it’s not. Do I wear a bowler hat? So did you have sort of similar sort of stereotypes of what it’s like being in the United Kingdom?
Anthony John Amyx [4:39]
I just you know when I when I think of David Ralph, I think of this man with red hair. yellow teeth, hairy chest, rubbing his nipples. Screaming Yeah, maybe that that’s that’s what i think you know, I think
David Ralph [4:55]
nipples is right.
Anthony John Amyx [4:58]
totally kidding did here’s the deal. I’m wasn’t I was in
your world, other people’s nipples.
I was in your world. It’s been a long time. But it was in 1996. And I played I was playing soccer on this club team. And I was there for two weeks. And then never think it rain once when we’re there. So my, my what I see like if, like London or UK, I just think of normal people playing soccer, gorgeous rowing fields, green grass, real laid back unless you’re in London. And if people say hey, it’s right around the block, that means it’s probably around a four mile walk. And taxi drivers who throw you in the back of those those black cars that they drive, you know, semi fast and London. That’s kind of you know what I think of London I just think of really cool nice people. Soccer and some good football and green fields and sheep.
David Ralph [5:49]
bv semi fast a taxi. I think that’s a water. If you are on any road, and you see the fastest car go past you like a blur. I guarantee it will be an empty taxi. And if you see the slowest car go past you is a taxi with a passenger. And I think across the world that is it. I see blows go past me. I don’t even have to look now I think I was an empty taxi.
Anthony John Amyx [6:13]
Yeah, unless it’s Superman. I mean, he’s faster than a speeding bullet faster than a locomotive. So you know, it may not be a taxi driver, it could be Superman.
David Ralph [6:21]
I think you’re high on drugs. I think you are. So it was it was live for you because I am going to delve back into your history. But what was life in seven points in East Texas because how tiny is a little town
Anthony John Amyx [6:35]
city I still live in seven points. And so to the population was a little over 900 I think it’s like 926 or something like that. I mean, I did it. It’s super small. And I know growing up maybe it’s like 1200 and 56 now something like that. But growing up there’s like 700 and something so we you know we made progress, we increase the population over time. And but the surrounding communities because we live on a lake this area is is kind of called Cedar Creek Lake and so the surrounding communities, they pull together for maybe a population of 10 or 15, maybe 20,000 people so it’s just really small man and here in seven points like the only thing is there’s one stoplight, there’s gas stations, there’s a fried chicken place and the rest of them are either liquor stores or bars that’s pretty much it. And then if you go across the lake into gun barrel city, which is a you know a great name for a little city in Texas. That’s where more of the shopping and more the the eateries and the diners are and then if you head over to Maybank, that’s where more of like the schools and that’s where I went to school at and so forth. So so it’s kind of like this meshed really small mesh community very small town, very laid back very quiet.
David Ralph [7:48]
And then do they know you from your your online presence because you are somebody and we’re going to touch on what you’re doing now and then we’re going to work back on it. So I don’t think in the introduction I really give gave a flavour of what you’re doing now. But in seven points, are you the kind of online guy are you the old but I saw AJ on the web.
Anthony John Amyx [8:08]
they they they know me from Facebook, but they have no clue what I do, why and try to try to explain it to them. It would just be like it just go over their heads. So all you just have to say is I’m a consultant and Okay, that’s good. And leave it in this leave it at that like they’re they just they have no clue. They have no concept. And they so there’s a saw your video on Facebook, it was really inspiring, or you’re such a great motivational speaker, you should come speak to the kids like that. That’s all they know about what I do.
David Ralph [8:37]
Because I have started saying to people, I’m an online chat show host because I realised when I was saying I’m a podcaster they had no idea. And they would just look at me blankly. But now I say to a mama online chat show host like Oh, really that’s so interesting. So it’s funny in the online world, how there is so much opportunity to create income, create vast income in many ways. But for many people who are not involved in that environment, it still is still an unknown quantity, isn’t it?
Anthony John Amyx [9:08]
Absolutely. Like the most people can’t, like they can’t even conceive, you know, there’s a killer dislike way you use the internet to talk with people and serve as clients. How do you do them? Hey, it’s pretty easy. I mean, we just use GoToMeeting, and I have a webcam, they have a webcam. So it’s just like kind of like we’re, you know, having coffee, I could never do that. I mean, I need this I need I need to have human interaction. I have human interaction. You know, we talk we email, we were on these type of masterminds, and we meet up, you know, once a quarter, that’s, that’s weird. I don’t how do you get clients again? And you’re like, Oh, you know, they, they they read content, or they connect with you on a podcast, or they hear you here. And then they you know, curious about what you do. And you have this thing that you help them? I don’t understand why why don’t you go get like a real job. I’m like a real job like one hour, I would make less income as a teacher than I do currently. I’m good, I really enjoy my geographical freedom and the ability to actually make more money than I would with a full time job.
David Ralph [10:07]
So is it a joy? No, I’m gonna ask you the question, what is your job, then let’s, let’s frame it for the audience listening in so they can know exactly what we’re talking about.
Anthony John Amyx [10:17]
Dude, at the end of the day, it’s it’s being a consultant, which is helping guide somebody to launching a product or launching a coaching programme or some type of brand in 90 days, I like working in 90 day increments. So we set a goal, we set a monetary goal, and then we I help them create the strategy to pull that off. And if we have to build something, either I build it or somebody on my team builds the infrastructure or teaches them how to build what it takes to build their business.
David Ralph [10:46]
So somebody is online and buy online to the ability of a search on Google and they do their banking, and they do to kind of look for what what’s on that the movies, that kind of stuff, and bear listening to our company on a daily basis. And they get this idea, they get this idea of a business. But it’s only an idea to them, because they don’t understand the practicalities of setting up a website, linking it to PayPal, or doing lead pages and all that kind of stuff at the online guys gobble up, you would be somebody that would be able to walk them through to where you can bingo, your business is established is in its formative stage. But you’ve got enough knowledge to what I’ve taught you to be able to take it further.
Anthony John Amyx [11:31]
You got it. I mean, essentially, we are connecting the dots. Because in the online world, we suffer from signing up shiny object syndrome, we’re like, oh, this, this new tool is the thing that’s going to be set me free, or this new strategy, or this new programme or this new this, this new this. And the reality is, is all of those are tools, right and if we wanted to build a house, so we can build a house with old with nails and a hammer, and we can do it and it’s going to take it forever. Or we can upgrade and use a drill and use screws and go a bit faster. And there is no right or wrong way the hammer and the nails will get the job done the screw guns in the screw the the drills and the screws will get the job done. It’s just another new technology away. But end of the day, you still have to pick up the tool, put it in your hand and use it to build the house. And the only way that you’re going to build the house is either literally squeezing the trigger of the drill gun and pushing on it to go get it to go into the wood or to use the hammer and swing it and you have to consistently every day day in day out, put in your eight hours of work, commit to doing the work to build your house, nobody’s going to build it for you, you’re gonna have to build your house.
David Ralph [12:40]
But what you’re teaching boom, once they’ve learned it once they’ve got enough of an idea to be able to replicate it. So if I have somebody that built a business that starts working to a point and because of that success, and that competence that it breeds by venting, I could go bigger on this would be even be able to do it themselves, or would they need to come back and and request another series of tuition?
Anthony John Amyx [13:06]
Yeah, it depends on where they’re at, man, if they’re like brand new newbies, it may take them like to like six months to really get a harness and feel comfortable with using the technology, right? Or to open up the idea of or maybe they need the accountability. But ideally, yes, you are correct. Within 90 days, they have the basic framework to understand how to use optimise press with WordPress to build their stuff to make their text changes to add videos to continue creating content without having to ever see me ever again. If they want the if they themselves are okay with continuing Lee to up level their skill sets. Absolutely.
David Ralph [13:46]
And what about if I wanted something done, for example, they’re listening to this content. Now they’ve already got an online presence, they’ve got to build a business. But now you may think Yeah, it’d be great to have a video on it. But I’ve got no idea how to do. Would they be happy to contact you as well?
Anthony John Amyx [14:03]
They can and they’re just be where they at? So like one of the video scripts, like one of the things I you know, you know me I love shooting video. And so maybe it’s just a simple conversation. And maybe it’s we don’t have to take them on as a client as a coaching client. But rather than the saying, Yeah, here’s a simple way to shoot video, think of what is the problem you’re solving? What is the possibility you’re taking them to? What is your path? And then what’s your call to action? So if that was an opt in video where you said, Hey, are you experiencing this, this and this, that would be the problem? Would you like to get to here, here and here. And here. Hi, my name is and I help x and get why. And I’ve discovered the secret is this, Hey, take this action. Like that’s all they need to know. And if they’re like, Well, can I create it the you know myself like Sure, absolutely. If you have an iPhone, or an iPad, you have a camera look directly into the lens, you can create it. But if you don’t want to take the time to learn how to edit yourself, then I can, you know, point them and say go work with this person who can help you with your video, you know, like chase turbo or Eric Costas or somebody like that.
David Ralph [15:04]
Well, let’s take you back in time, Ben, because it’s fascinating listening to you talk, although we’ve already worked out but you are in some sense the world’s laziest man and don’t get up. But you are infused, you’re passionate you love what you’re doing. But a lot time in your life. That was totally the opposite view. You didn’t like going to college, you didn’t like what you was doing? Wasn’t it right in my introduction, but it was because that environment was not conducive to your creativity.
Anthony John Amyx [15:36]
Yeah, I think it was that. But at the end of the day, I felt like I was being forced to learn a bunch of stuff that didn’t mean anything to me. You know, like I was learning biology. Why don’t want to learn about biology. I’m not gonna go be a doctor, you know, why am I having to learn? Why am I having to take a pee class, I’m healthy, I can go learn to live in do health on my own? Why am I being forced to take this art history class, when I’m not going to go, you know, teach at a museum. That’s the piece I didn’t like it. The other piece I didn’t like about it. And I’m surrounded by college students, and I hate the wall. It’s such a strong word, but it’s true. I don’t like the college campus culture. I don’t like college students. I didn’t want to do what college students do. I just wanted to go out and produce, I wanted to get the work. And then that’s what I literally wanted to do. I wanted to go all in on. And so I did it, it identify with that culture that I was in, you know, growing up, I always identified with those who are older than me, some say, oh, you’re this old soul, which you know, that’s fine. If it is it is I like hanging out with people who are older than me. And that says, who identify and bond with, that’s who I like having conversations with. And so here I was in this complete culture. And I felt like, the best analogy I can give is, I felt like I was a freshman in high school. And I’m sitting in elementary class. And you can only takes so much of it before. It’s just absolutely annoying and a waste of time. And so I kind of came to this conclusion by my sophomore year in college, and I had to make a decision. It’s like, well, do I, you know, continue, quote, unquote, investing in my education here and continue racking up student debt? Or do I pull the plug and in waste two years of my life here, and so I decided to Ender for another two years, just to just to be done since I started just to go ahead and finish. And then what I learned from that experience, if I could go all the way back and time again, is to say, you know, what in the world, is it that I want to experience and then what skill sets Do I need to pull that off, and then just go do that, if that means going to a tech school, perfect if that meant hiring mentors, and investing in different coaching programmes, perfect. And at the time, I wanted to do, you know, graphic design, and I thought special effects, I wish I would have just gone to like a two year art school. So what it have had waste, what I feel like is wasting my time learning all of these Liberal Studies, which, you know, in my opinion, they did not give me the, you know, the skill sets to produce, they gave me the skill sets to produce a broad range of conversing on random topics. But at the end of the day, it did not increase my value as a human being because we’re in a day and age where people want results. And you know, my value as a producer in this new world is can I get the results for people and the more I can increase my value to do that, and the more I’m worth, and that’s that’s the thing about college that really kind of ticked me off.
David Ralph [18:38]
But that’s, that’s a fundamental flaw with the education system. And to a man and a woman, we get the same comments over and over again, that the education system is built as a conveyor belt. And it basically pushes you through the system to come out with a qualification. And it’s not an inspiring environment. I remember being bored up at school, all the way through because I wanted to do my own thing. And I didn’t quite work out why I had to do it their way just because they were telling me. So I wasn’t suitable for the education system. If I went back now, as you say, and fine tuned what they wanted, because I’ve now got the experience of adulthood. And I go, yes, I know what I need. I’m gonna go and learn about I’m gonna learn bad. But it can’t work the opposite way, can it because the kids don’t know what they want until they know that they want it.
Anthony John Amyx [19:31]
Yeah, exactly. You know, and I think this is where it comes back to, you know, the parents, the man, I don’t have a kid. So I feel like I’m speaking out of turn here. But so many times parents say we’ll go to school, and they’re going to teach you and it’s more of this hands off philosophy, at least it is here in the United States. And, and it would be the equivalent of handing your hard earned money over to a financial advisor and is hoping they don’t lose it all this hoping and praying, they don’t lose it all, but yet not paying attention. Like you’re not going to get good results that way. I mean, it’s okay to give your money to the financial advisor, but at the same time, we have to educate ourselves on what am i investing in and, and, and having a proactive role and making sure that that money is growing and adjusting and moving it as need be. And I think with our children, it’s the same way the parents have to take a proactive role. And I have friends of mine who did this idea of unschooling, which were they did not go to school, I mean, they literally their parents pulled them out of school and the third grade and in the first grade, and they never went to a public school. And they didn’t really do homeschooling, they tried it for about three weeks, and the kids hated it. So instead, they just facilitated the child’s interest from a very young age. And so if the child was interested in birds, then the parents went out and bought the NERC binoculars and bird books, and they studied birds. And if they wanted to be a vet, then they started, you know, at a young age, and we’re talking about 910 11 years old, they’re volunteering at the local veterinary office and at the animal hospitals, and, and all of that. And then when they decided, Well, I think I’d like to be a model, then the parents invested heavily into the child and took them to castings. And as a result, the child naturally said, this is this is what I like, this is what I feel like I’m called to do, and the child committed and went all in. And at the end of the day, when we were talking, you know, years later now, you know, my friend is, you know, a very successful international model, because she spent that time you know, and Malcolm Gladwell wrote the book, outliers, you know, where you have to invest 10,000, you know, 10,000 hours to become kind of the expert or become great if you want to become the Michael Jordan or LeBron James or the Pelayo names you don or the, the, the the david beckham, right? Like you, you have to invest the hours to be able to play at that level. And so by allowing their children to facilitate their interest at a young age, and allowed them to invest those 10,000 hours, into their craft of choice, so they became really good high players in their industry. And that’s what I think, you know, you know, moving forward, I hope, you know, more and more parents will do, and they’ll become very active and proactive, and helping their kids from a young age, facilitate their interest, facilitate their passion, so they can figure out their purpose, and then they get the skill sets to pull that off. I think that’s very profound.
David Ralph [22:23]
And the tagline of our show is connecting our past to build our future. And one of the things we talk about time and time and time again, is the fact that the things that we love doing as small children, is the fundamental passions that we forget, we like. And then as we go through adulthood, we get a job just because it pays the money. And then we end up doing a thing that we don’t really like doing. Now, I created this word, and I think it’s inspiration. And it’s a cross between education, but inspiration. So what they’re doing, they are educating their children, but they’re inspiring their children as well. And I think that’s fundamentally where the education system is flawed. And that’s why we all have our favourite teachers that we look back and go, Oh, that person was brilliant. And we realised it wasn’t that they taught us stuff that we remember, we remember how they made us feel. And that’s a totally different ball game altogether.
Anthony John Amyx [23:16]
So yeah, and go for it. And I said, and as I as I look back, man, as I as a kid, what I love doing was creating, and I and I think that’s why I wake up every day loving my business so much, is I’m helping me not only am I creating, I mean, like you’re creating man, and you’re creating these ridiculously amazing conversations and these podcasts with the crazy music and these hilarious intros, like, You’re, you’re in your flow state of being creative. And it’s very fun. It’s very inspirational for you. And that’s very much the way I am when it comes to creating email content and, and videos like that’s fun. But then I get to help other people tap into their creative genius as well. And you know, now looking back, you know, I could see that that’s what I love doing as a kid was painting and drawing. And it’s interesting to think that, that creativity and me, led me really, you know, honing that creativity led me to where I’m at today of just being Uber creative. It doesn’t surprise me at all,
David Ralph [24:12]
you know, you are Episode 144. And we’ve had the same conversation every single time. And I almost want to get this show for Well, my daughter, actually, who’s nine years old, she plays it to people. And she says all this is my dad Listen to this. And she’s had an awakening at certain points. And she said to me the other day, she said, I was listening to you the other day, and she listens to the same one. I think she’s got it stored on a on a phone or whatever. And, and she said to me, I was thinking what I would like to be when I grow up. And I said, What would that be? And she said, it’s something that lights me up inside, and I went, that’s it. That Yeah, you don’t know what it is at the moment. But when you find that thing, that is the thing that is going to be effortless to you. And that’s going to be the thing, but funnily enough, you will provide more value to the world, and you will highly likely earn a lot more from it. Where we all go to Starbucks, we all go to Taco Bell, and we try to get those kind of jobs, and whatever you know, people are doing in the world. It’s very rare that we go with our core passion. But the successful people have found it, they found it, it doesn’t matter how long it takes, they find it and when they find it, they know and then they run with it. And that’s exactly what you’ve done isn’t it?
Anthony John Amyx [25:31]
Did Absolutely. And it’s the end of the day, if we don’t love what we’re doing, there’s no way that we’re going to invest the 10,000 hours in it to become great at it. Like there’s there’s no way it’s it’s, it’s you’re going to hate your life. I mean, you’re you’re going to wake up one day, you know, if you’re just like, well, I’m gonna do this just for money, and I’m going to spend 10,000 hours trying to be, you know, again, trying to be great at this, at some point, you know, whether this is a 5000, the seven thousand 9000 our mark, you’re just going to be like I’ve had it, I would rather shoot myself in the face than die, then do this again, like there’s no way that you’re going to become great at it. And that’s why, you know, the the idea of the people who are great the people who leave a legacy. These are the people who have identified just what they love to do. And then they go at it with everything they have, because like I said they would they would rather die then the not do that.
David Ralph [26:28]
But let’s play the first about motivational speeches that we play on the show. And he sees Jim Carrey and he quite nicely says what you’ve just been saying. So this is Jim,
Jim Carrey [26:36]
my father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.
David Ralph [27:03]
I would want my kids to hear that every day. Every day. I listened to that. And I think to myself, he’s nailed it. He’s now to it. But he’s not a lesson that we are getting out to the masses early enough.
Anthony John Amyx [27:15]
Yep, I totally, totally agree. I mean, like, what what would happen? Like, you know, just to think for a moment, if we close our eyes here and think like, what would our world be like? Yeah, from the first day of kindergarten, children are hearing speeches of this nature. And that’s carrying into first grade into second grade and third grade. And yes, we’re indoctrinating our children. That’s what we do in school anyway. We’re indoctrinating them to say, you’re awesome. You’re amazing. Go tackle life with everything you have. And there is no right or wrong answer. Just be you and be really good at whatever you do. Like, how cool would the world be? If we were able to have children thinking that way from a young age?
David Ralph [28:01]
Would you you haven’t got kids at the moment, although the population of seven points has gone up a lot recently. I was wondering if it’s got anything to do, but I wasn’t brave enough to ask. But um, you haven’t got kids at the moment? Or as far as you’re aware? Would you do that kind of thing? Would you kind of play those motivational speeches? Or would you allow them to find it on their own sort of path?
Anthony John Amyx [28:26]
To I would definitely play those but it wouldn’t, I wouldn’t have my children say listen to this, it would be something I’m living that path. I’m me as a human being and walking that path and showing them you know, so my girlfriend and I when we drive places right now we listen to audiobooks. Yes, we do listen to music, but but times we do listen to different audio books, things, things that inspire us things we want to learn. And so as I’m walking, my talk, is I’m walking my beliefs, I’m showing my children or my potential children are those that I don’t know about. Right, I’m showing them the new possibility, like the old here, here’s my, here’s my analogy. Growing up, my dad owned a construction company still does, by the way, you know, they build big government projects. And I would, I was never told a day in my life, son, work hard. You know, I was I was told what kinda was I was, I was told the key to success is work hard, save a lot, you know, the key to success is is low debt, and I and I try to live that way as much as possible. So I was told that but at the end of the day, I got to go to work with my dad, I got to see him work, I got to see my great my my grandfather work and my uncle’s work, I got to see what it means to work hard. And so that’s why when it comes to today, I have a ridiculous work ethic, I can produce like nobody else because I know how to be focused and and what it means to work hard, you know, and not mess around or waste time. And I see my cousins on the on the other spectrum, where they were told to work hard to go get a job. And they do. But yet, they weren’t able to see it because their families, their moms, dads worked in a corporate job. So they don’t, they don’t have the reference of what it means to work hard. And so we can preach all day long. But unless we have a model to follow, it’s going to fall on deaf ears, because if they can see the work ethic, then they can say, Oh, that’s how I need to implement. That’s how I need, you know, to to work. And so for me that I think that’s, you know, come back to the question, that’s what I’d want to do with my children is, I just want to model that. And if I can model it consistently model that that’s what’s going to set the pace for them, regardless of what my words that come out of my mouth, because at the end of the day, my actions are going to speak way louder than my words.
David Ralph [30:51]
So you’re walking the walk talking the talk, and they will naturally think that’s the way to do it, because dad is doing it.
Unknown Speaker [30:57]
Yes, exactly.
David Ralph [30:59]
The interesting thing with that, though, is the fact that so many people that I speak to see the same thing time and time again, and they go into employment, because their mom and dad were in that kind of employment. And I did a similar thing back in the day, I went into an office work, I never really wanted to go into an office work. But I didn’t really know what I wanted to do is I just naturally migrated into it. But they get to a point that they know it’s the wrong path. But they’re still unwilling to do anything about it. And I say to people, you know, I saw a chap recently who I grew up with, and I said to him at his work when he went when there was a job, and I went, well, why can’t you do something, he said, it’s all right for you. And I went, No, it’s not. It’s a life for everyone. And my belief, now, AJ is not the fact that we’re all going to be entrepreneurs, punch your boss in the face, leap of faith and all that, right. But I do believe that everyone can be happy. And if you’re in a job that is just crappy, and you hate it, there’s other jobs out there. And it may not be the perfect one, the next one you get, it may not be the perfect one off the bat. But you will find a better one. And you don’t actually have to put up with, you know, a rubbish boss in the rubbish environment. And if you do want to take a leap of faith and create it yourself, you’re now in the perfect position with the power of the Internet, and the ability to connect with amazing people like yourself online and across the globe. But it’s not like generations back where you would go and do work because it was in the vicinity of where you grew up. Because we’ve got the ability now to really create an income and a life across the world.
Anthony John Amyx [32:32]
Dude, I totally agree with you and see, I don’t think everybody’s cut out cut out for entrepreneurship. And I don’t think everybody is called to be an entrepreneur. And to be quite frankly, as an entrepreneur, I’m really glad people want jobs. There’s certain tasks I don’t want to do. And I’m very happy to pay people do that. And I’m very grateful that they enjoy doing that work. Right. So I, you know, my message to those people who don’t like their job, it’s like, Cool. All right, understand that you’re not a victim, you’re in control of your life and nothing changes and nothing changes. If there’s something you want to experience, like you said, Who what other employer out there would employ you? And if you’re like, Oh, well, I’m not qualified enough to go, you know, work at this company. Cool. That’s fine. That’s that’s the starting point. How can you level up your skill sets to them become qualified? And how can you level up your mindset to grow your confidence and your certainty levels to then be able to walk into that office of whoever you would like to work for, and say, you know, what, I see I could produce this for you. And I guarantee you, I can make you more money because I can do this. And in fact, I willing to come in and work for you for the next 14 days for free to prove to you that I can make you more money, like a person that has that type of confidence and certainty. They can get any job they want at any corporation they want in my opinion, but it all comes back to us being responsible for the lives that we want to experience in taking responsibility to put a game plan in place and a strategy in place to pull it off.
David Ralph [34:05]
Now the one thing that you’re talking about, and I agree with you totally Yeah, you’re not getting an opposite view for me in any shape or form. But thinking from the listeners point of view, it’s difficult to change gears, if they’ve been in a situation where they’re comfortable, and they’re going to the same office and they know the commute and they know the hours, it is difficult to change gear and change direction. Do you have any tips that you would suggest but you think this is the way to actually break free? Only if you want to break free?
Anthony John Amyx [34:40]
One of the things you know I read and awaken the giant within by Tony Robbins and he talked about the the pain pleasure principle. And I use this in my own life because there was a time You know, when I was a musician and I grew up thinking you know, men don’t cry, you know, they know no really emotional attachment so became very callous not in a mean way but like there was a just couldn’t really resonate with people I couldn’t allow myself to be empathetic with people everything was just always fine and dandy to me. And and so I had to come to this place of where I pushed everybody. I mean that my actions had pushed everybody I cared about a way for me because if I said thank you they knew it wasn’t necessarily sincere. It was just a word that came out of my mouth. I said, How can I help you they knew it wasn’t sincere is just words that came out of out of my mouth, rather than being empathetic and being aware and, and seeing how I could tune into them how I could just open up and serve them, etc. And so I had to come to a place and said, Okay, if I continue doing this, and being this way, it’s a choice, I can do that. But if I do, then I need to paint this, this negative experience. And I need to equate so much pain in this that it’s going to push me over the edge to shift and so I got down a piece of paper, and I wrote out okay, if I continue this action, that I’m gonna lose my family, I’m never going to have a girlfriend or a spouse never going to have a family I’m going to be loan I’m going to be miserable, I’m going to have to eat soup with my with a cat, like it would just life would be this terrible existence. And on the other hand, I wrote down this paragraph of what it would mean if I was able to shift and I, I painted this picture of these amazing experiences like connecting with a girl my dreams and, and being able to be present and with people and everybody, you know loves me and we love each other and we’re doing good, like, and so then I had enough pain to push me into that new reality. And I started finding the solutions to then kind of recondition my neural pathways to allow myself to be more present, allow myself to be more transparent, allow myself to be more vulnerable, and ultimately, being more empathetic with people. So I think for those listening today, if you’re okay, where you’re at, that’s fine. Does this continue? But if you’re complaining every day and just don’t want to do this, I don’t want to do this. How can you harness even if you have to fabricate this by the way? How can you harness enough pain to push you over over the edge where you’re willing to go get that new experience that you want to have?
David Ralph [37:06]
That’s a good point, isn’t it? How do you fabricate that so how how do you
Anthony John Amyx [37:11]
so I like I said it comes back to it. I did it my journal man I just I literally wrote wrote this experience out. That’s how I did it. And then I literally allowed myself to feel the pain of that negative situation. Another way that you could do it is think through how could you place yourself in those shoes. So for example, let’s say if I was a smoker, and I’m I’m complacent with smoking, but yet I have this this this burning desire within me that says I want to quit smoking, but yet, I’m complacent, saying Well, I’m okay with it. I really would like to, how can you leverage and harness a painful experience? Well, the way to do it is go to your nearest hospital, walk through the emphysema wing of the hospital and watch all these people who are sitting there dying, because they’ve smoked enough cigarettes or their lungs are black. And the reason reality is if you can spend you smoking, you’re going to end up just like them. And if that should should be like a tangible reality where you can say there’s no way in hell I want to end up like these guys are these ladies or these men or women, I am going to stop smoking period. And that gives you enough painful reality to push you over the edge to stop smoking.
David Ralph [38:21]
So are we talking really about visualisation, which is one of those things, that the two things that come out in conversations time and time again, is the ability that successful people have and be they crave this time to meditate and actually allow them time to reflect on what they need to do and let their mind go off of what they’re doing. And the other thing they seem to tell me all the time is that they will have vision boards, and they will have things that they look at and the daily basis and they will focus in on that is this really what we’re talking about, for the newbies out there, or the people who are in a situation that they don’t like that I really got to start focusing on what they do want, and not just a passing moment in the shower, but really saw like, put their life together. So that is surrounding them all the time. And they’re almost believing it’s there before it is.
Anthony John Amyx [39:16]
Absolutely, and I think it’s different for different people. Like I think a vision board is great, you know, I have them I haven’t really created one for this year. But I have several images and stuff that I do look at. And I remember growing up as a kid, like I played soccer at a very high competitive level, or football if we’re here in the UK or anywhere else in the world, right. And so I played you know, football, this is high level. And I remember as a kid having the soccer ball and playing out in our in our yard and it would just be me man Meet me in the ball and visualising me playing in these championship games and me playing and doing these moves and psyching people out and scoring these goals are passing yet all I’m doing is passing to the tree or kicking the ball against the fence or whatever, but I’m in my mind just like as a child, you know, imagining draught castles and dragons were cowboys and Indians. I’m I’m visualising that experience. And I remember and I didn’t realise it again to looking back and kind of connecting the dots here. When I was a musician, it was the same way. When I would when I would rehearse during rehearsal, you know, I visualise the audience, I visualise the experience of visualise my, my movements when I wasn’t in rehearsal. I remember visualising that experience in my you know, in my mind or in front of the mirror, or I would be driving down the road and be thinking about me on that stage. And and I literally could feel that experience in my body. I mean, it would give me shivers, you know, I’m thinking of that, you know, when I was doing that, and even bringing that to current day like thinking about being on shows like this and inspiring people or being on different stages. And speaking in different events like that stuff that gets me pumped up, right. And so I think for those listening, that’s a piece of it is putting yourself in the future and truly allowing yourself to experience and not to get so whoo, whoo. But in our minds and our bodies, they don’t know the difference between the future or if we’re having that experience right now. And we can go read about all the scientific studies about all of that. But at the same time, we can visualise all we want. And until we put some type of plan in place where we know the first step we need to take to create that reality. We have to then take that step. And if there is a block between you know, Stephen principled calls this the idea of resistance, and he said that we all have two lives, the ones we live, and the life within, that’s unloved, the unloved what life within that’s that that’s within us. And the difference the thing that’s separating the two lives to live without and the life within us, the unloved life within us is resistance. So if we’re meeting this resistance, we have to have something that’s going to come and kick is kind of in the butt. And usually it’s a painful experience. And I think that’s why so many inspirational thought leaders, inspirational figures, so many people who are doing so many great things. They have these traumatic experiences. And Walt Disney said sometimes All we need is in life is a good swift kick in the teeth. And once we have those experiences for many of us, that’s the experience that pushes us into beyond the resistance of taking that first step. I know I definitely had that experience. But for those of us who don’t want to go through that painful reality, we have to fabricate it somehow, whether that’s through a journal or whether that’s going to some some physical place where we can experience enough pain to push us into this new pleasurable reality.
David Ralph [42:40]
So So was your career, your music, career ending was that you’re kicking the teeth? Or was it something because I hear this a lot as well. What people who had this dream of being a touring musician, and obviously playing Madison Square Garden Vanunu, Bon Jovi and all that kind of stuff. And they sort of say, when it finished, they’re kind of relieved, because it was the towing It was a rubbish hotels, it was the bad. It was all those kind of things. Is it was that similar to you? Or was it a kick in the teeth at the end?
Anthony John Amyx [43:10]
That was a piece of it. And so the whole kick in the teeth happened between October of 2009 and march of 2010. And in that six month window, I had broken up with the girl I had spent four years of my life with, we decided to to dis can the band and everything you know of that 10 year music career, I ended up dating one of my best friends. And then after us dating for six months, she said, you know, you have to leave and before I moved in with her and her family at the time, I sold all of my stuff. Also, during that time, my parents got a divorce on after 25 years of marriage and then told me on my birthday, my mom then shortly after the divorce fell from a ladder, eight foot and shattered vertebrae in her back, we had to go get rods like in some, you know, super crazy a surgery. And so I ended up losing everything but my health. I mean, I didn’t have my truck wasn’t working at the time, I didn’t have a job. I mean, I was trying to this internet thing, but I wasn’t making any money. In fact, I was doing construction building a movie theatre and we just finished that job, you know, as a contractor, so that that went away. So I had no job, no money, no car, nowhere to live. My parents is gone. My identity is the musicians gone. Like everything I knew about my life was gone. That was the kick in the teeth where I said, Okay, what in the world is my purpose for living life like you like I don’t know, like I literally there were days when I just wanted to shoot myself. Now I never never got near doing that. But the thought was definitely on my shoulder, the you know, the light and the dark. The darkness within me was like, wow, you know, driving down the road. It’s like, why don’t you just not make the turn? Why don’t we just keep driving straight and roll roll this borrowed car that we’re driving right now. Right? Then I had to say not know, I’m here for a bigger purpose. So let me figure out what in the world this purpose is. And I had to dig deep. And this is where I, you know, I thankfully picked up awaken the giant within his record friend recommended by a good friend of mine. And I implemented everything in the book and I said, Okay, I can ask these disempowering questions and say, Why me? Why me? Poor me, poor me. And if I do, I’m going to get disempowering answers. Because we know that if we ask, we will find if we knock on the door, the door shall be open. So if I’m knocking on bad doors, I’m going to get bad answers. If I’m asking bad questions, I’m going to get bad answers. So how can I consciously ask good questions from this space? Even though I’m an immense amount of pain? How can I consciously ask myself, what can I learn from this? What can I learn from this? What is my purpose for living? What is my purpose for living? And after asking, and asking and asking and asking, I finally started to see it. The voice came through me and said to inspire me, and that’s a great, you know, to inspire millions do what like, what do you want me to do here? And it’s like, well, to inspire millions passion, like, Well, how do I how do I do that? And it’s like, well, once you figure out how to use the internet to get your message out to the world. And then if you can do that, then slowly you can start liberating others. And as they continue taking step after step after step after step, here we are five years later, where that’s, that’s what that’s what I’m doing the vision that I had, and oh nine, early in 2010. After that all fell apart. It’s it’s been a five year journey, a five year culmination of just step by step by step by step of me continually to level up my mindset to continually level up my skill sets, to then have the experience that I’m having today. So that was what you know, my swift kick in the teeth with which I am thankful every single day for because without that experience, there’s no way in hell I’d be who I am today.
David Ralph [46:56]
I asked Michael O’Neill, the host of the solo pioneer hour, he was on the show 200 episode and I, he had a similar situation where he he basically got to the point of having $14, and nothing else, he got to rock bottom. And I said to him, is it easier to go forward when you’ve hit rock bottom? And he said, Absolutely, absolutely. He wouldn’t have it any other way. Do you feel that? Because you go to such a low point. But in a simplistic way, the only way was up?
Anthony John Amyx [47:25]
Yeah, absolutely, man. And here’s, here’s my belief, I believe all of us are called to do something in life. And this, this calling comes through us in a very gentle whisper. And it is kind of like a small, just kind of gut feeling. And if we don’t listen to it, then we experience things in life, that’s like a gently tap on the shoulder. And if we continue to ignore it, then finally somebody, you know, picks up a two by four and hits you across the head. And then if you ignore that, then you get hit by a bus. Eventually, you listen, or you die. That’s that’s kinda the only two options that you have. So to answer your question, yeah, I mean, after you get hit by the bus, you’re at rock bottom, the only way you got to go is up. I mean, so I mean, it has your attention.
David Ralph [48:10]
Because I never hit rock bottom, I just hit a kind of unpleasant part of my life. And now I’m doing this I kind of thing. Wow, I should have been doing this years ago, I should have been doing this. I should have been there waiting for iTunes to open its door. Because it just feels so natural is like Yes, my previous life didn’t really occur. Somehow, I look back on it. And I go and meet the soul. People I used to work with have a beer every now and again. And I can’t remember what I did. And it’s amazing. It was only like a year ago. But they asked me certain things. And I I’ll be honest with you, sometimes people come up to me, I can’t even remember their name. It’s like my last life has kind of blanked out someone is amazing that when you find your thing, your focus is totally switch to being only on that thing. And once you do that, and the shiny syndrome goes, and you realise that it’s your path, then your energy levels better, your concentrations better, the amount that you can produce is better, you know, I do a daily show, and I do an hour conversation every single day. And people have said to me, how do you do that, and I kind of thing, it’s not that hard, you get a bit of structure and you you have conversations that you really want to have
Unknown Speaker [49:25]
understood? Absolutely.
Anthony John Amyx [49:27]
As I said, You’re that perfect example of the part of being tapped on the shoulder and listening. Like it didn’t take you getting hit by a bus or getting hit with a two by four. And all this is metaphorical, by the way to then to then go to what you felt really in your gut what you were felt guided to do. And you’re just that perfect example of you don’t have to experience immense amounts of pain. Just listen, and whatever that that voice, whatever that that gut feeling is telling you to do. And if it’s calling you to be something good. Go Go with every that you have.
David Ralph [50:01]
And that’s possibly why the successful people talk about meditation, because when when people started talking to me about it, I kind of thought Oh, it’s that business when you sit cross legged new try to float three feet off the floor. And now I kind of think No, it’s not it’s just closing down closing all the distractions closing down your Facebook, closing down your email, and allowing your mind actually to ask questions. And I’m absolutely I think that’s what it’s all about.
Anthony John Amyx [50:31]
Absolutely. I remember I hired a mentor of mine. Her name was Robin Lee Vela, and she wrote this book called The Silent voices of the souls what it’s called an invite on Amazon great book real short, easy read. I mean, you can read it this a couple days using the bathroom. I mean, it’s it’s a great book changed my my perception of a lot of things. And I remember having a conversation with her. And she was like, well, you need to you know, to meditate. I’m like, Robin, I just, I my brain will shut off like I’m just like, I’m like I’m little rabid monkey. Like, I just can’t she’s like, it’s okay. She’s like, not everybody’s created to sit there and Lotus Pose. She said, for me, I get my messages, my downloads, you know, my quiet time is is cleaning the shower or mopping the floor doing housework. She said for you. Maybe it’s running. Maybe it’s when you’re taking a shower. She said, Everybody gets spoken to in different ways. All you need to do is listen, find that thing where like you said, Man, like find that time where you can quiet your mind whether that’s going on a walk, whether that’s going on a run, maybe maybe it’s doing a triathlon, maybe it is sitting in Lotus Pose, like whatever it is that you need to do to be able to quiet your mind where you’re open to listening and receiving, dude, magic transpires.
David Ralph [51:46]
Simple as that, yeah, disconnect yourself from everything else. And I’m going to play the words now of Steve Jobs, because he was somebody that was quite big on disconnecting and really allowing his mind to wander and obviously, he creative magic in the world. And he’s left us with magic. And this this, this statement that he’s left is so powerful in many, many ways. I’m going to play the words of Steve Jobs. And then I’m going to ask your opinion on it. This is deep.
Steve Jobs [52:12]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [52:48]
I actually really stopped to listen to that I do so many shows that sometimes I’m clicking button, the violet see he’s talking, I stopped and listen to that. And he’s banging on isn’t he?
Anthony John Amyx [52:58]
Did spot. I mean, you know, this, this idea that the life that I’m living now, in 2009, there’s no possible way I would have known, you know, on this day, and I know what date is September for 2014 that I would be sitting here talking to David Ralph, who’s in the UK hanging out in his garden, petting his favourite cat while I’m here, hi, 4043 acres, you know, like there’s there’s no way and then it goes perfect to what Steve said like, you just have to trust that those dots are going to connect as you continually just put your best foot forward and then your next best foot forward and and aspects foot forward. And then five years, two years, one year, 10 years, 20 years, you’re able to look back and see the epic creation that you’re now living.
David Ralph [53:52]
Well, when was your vision for the next three or four years because I’ve seen you fly in front of me so many times with Nicholas, who does life on fire. And you’ve got a sort of programme going to have your smiley faces all the time. And I thought this is good. Because what you’re doing, you’re taking somebody else’s audience and your audience and combining a powerful package. But ultimate effect is that sort of collaboration. What interests you now?
Anthony John Amyx [54:19]
Man, what what’s really interesting or interesting way right now is you know, I have a new business partner, Andy’s it’s been of the game time movement, and like, what interests me now is like having it all like, and I’m still trying to figure this out myself, by the way. So I’m not I’m not qualified, in my experience to teach this. But five years from now, this is kind of where I’d like to head is helping entrepreneurs figure out how do we have a booming business? How can we have this relationship with our significant other that’s like on fire? You know, how do we have this connexion to source where we’re, we’re able to tap in where we can lead? And how do we have this body that we have amazing energy levels that we feel confident in? Like, how do we have everything rather than just focusing on business? Or it is focusing on a relationship? How do we? How do we have it all, like, what’s the art and science to really pulling that off. And so I’m really inspired right now. And I’m trying and experimenting with things in my current life of stepping up my game and life and in business. And then eventually, you know, five years from now, I want to be able to create this community called game changers, where we’re gonna be changing the world with our businesses, we’re changing the world, from our, with our families, we’re changing the world through our bodies, man, we’re deeply connected to source. And you know, we’re liberating leaders, you know, five years from now that that’s where I see myself going and really creating,
David Ralph [55:44]
does it frighten you, when you when you look at that, and what you’re saying sounds amazing. But for so many people, that the faults of doing something amazing suddenly becomes too big for them to deal with. And I was speaking to a gentleman this morning, and he’s got these global identity that he’s creating. And I said to him, this is this is like, a world movement you’re creating. And he said, yeah, it’s too big for me. It’s too big for me. But somebody’s got to start it. Did you feel like that? Or do you feel that everything that you aim for is in your grasp already.
Anthony John Amyx [56:19]
I remember a quote from Michael Bernard Beckwith, and he says, if you can see it within them, it is within you. And so as I look at people who inspire me, man, I look at Steve and and not just because what he created Apple that that doesn’t really mean it’s cool. But that doesn’t inspire me. What inspires me is Steve’s ability to innovate and to lead, I mean, to lead a group of people to pull off something magnificent, that’s inspiring, as I look at people like Brendan Bouchard, who are affecting millions of people with their with their message. And they’re using technology to create a sustainable business year in and year out, not just one year, a two year I mean, but year in year out to sustainable growth and, and reaching people and inspiring people. that inspires me, as I you know, looking at Nick and seeing him, you know, inspire people to get fired up and creating business that inspires me, you know, being an experiences with you, where you have this show that people are tuning into from all over the world, and they’re having those aha moments, that inspires me. And so that quote, always, like burns deep in my soul, knowing that there’s no way that I would not be able to pull it off. Because I see it within you guys. Like it wouldn’t be fair. Like if the creator was like, Hey, you see all this cool stuff? Yeah, you can’t do that like that, that life would suck, right? Like there’s this, it would not be fun, it wouldn’t be fair. And so by me being able to just be conscious of man, I’m seeing you guys do so much magnificent work, than I’m capable of doing the same if I’m willing to be committed. So it doesn’t necessarily scare me. It really gets me fired up. And I have to ask myself, dude, are you committed to pulling this off? Because there’s a lot that has to happen? Are you willing to go on this journey and embrace the journey. And as my girlfriend is she willing to embrace the journey with me, as we push on and push forward?
David Ralph [58:15]
I’m inspired by your content, and I’m sure that you are going to achieve it, and I want you to achieve it. And anything that I can do to help you achieve that. You only have to ask me.
Anthony John Amyx [58:24]
Thank you so much, man. Thank you. So and it goes both ways. The road definitely travels both ways. Here, my friend.
David Ralph [58:31]
Well, let’s send you on another road. Now, because this is the end of the show. I don’t want to stop this show. But this is the part of the Sermon on the mic, and I send you back in time, like a young Marty McFly to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time and speak to the young AJ, what age would you choose? And what advice would you give? Well, we’re going to find out, because you’re up and this is the Sermon on the mind.
We go with the best of the show.
Anthony John Amyx [59:17]
Yo AJ, here’s the deal, man. Don’t get solely focused on hitting home runs and Grand Slams. If you do, you’re going to strike out most of the time and you’re going to have a life of insane ups and insane downs. Instead, my friend focus on hitting singles every single day. And I know this sounds boring, but I assure you, you’ll win the game and winning consistently day in and day out is a hell of a lot easier and a lot more fun. Embrace the journey. Life is not a sprint, but a marathon. The hair always wins the race. Steady, consistent action is everything. Excitement is fun at first, but I tell you it wears off fast. So in your decision making process, weigh your options, ask yourself, What are you willing to be committed to commitment is what it takes to be successful and have a thriving business. Anyone can get lucky and score the winning goal once in a while. But it’s the players who continually focus on practising the basics and levelling up their mindsets and their skill sets. Those are the players who leave the legacy. They have a ruthless commitment to being focused for years at a time. And this is what makes them great. And this is why people are willing to pay them so much. It’s because they bring immense amounts of value to their team. And the same is true in business and in life. So my question to you is What are you willing to focus on and do for the next 10 years of your life? Making sure your sole focus is not just on crushing business, though. Because if you do, you’re going to sacrifice everything. I mean, your health, your friends, your family, and your spiritual connexion will die. Don’t let this happen, man, because life is not worth experiencing. Without these. Instead, focus on how can you have it all. Learn to invest in it all man, like create the game plan and the strategy to have everything and be ruthlessly committed to your girlfriend or your spouse or your family and your friends and your body and your spirit and your business. And yes, there’s going to be games and there’s going to be battles you’re going to lose. But learn to shift your mindset to focus on what can you learn from the experience, and push on to play the game again, tomorrow, go all in each and every day, in every area of your life. If you focus only on moving the needle and one single area of your life, you’re going to learn that you’re going to leave the others behind, only to end up putting the area of focus down go rescue the others who are burning in the fire behind you. This is going to leave your mental capacity drained. And ultimately, you’re going to feel like this hamster who’s running on this endless will. Life isn’t hard then. But it’s not easy either. Yet, it’s simple. Return to the basics of life. Work hard. Spend below your means save some and invest the difference. Take your loved ones out on a weekly date night, you know, call your friends and your family and ultimately live an awesome life. You my friend are created for greatness as all humans are. Your ruthless commitment to having it all will be the thing to feeling happy. At the end of the day, that’s all you really want anyway, I mean, no external approval from your father or your mother or your grandfather or anyone else is going to make you happy. No amount of money is going to make you happy. All of this. It’s just an illusion to keep you stuck. a vicious cycle of wanting more and more true happiness is found and truly appreciating what you have. People will see you as a successful person if you’re a confident and happy. And the state of mind can never be bought and honestly my friend, it’s a simple choice. You don’t have to accomplish anything to them someday, one day, then have it. You can have it all right now, all you must do is choose I love you, you got this freaking go get it
David Ralph [1:03:35]
loved by AJ. And the thing at the beginning, really was something I wanted to reemphasize, don’t go hitting home runs just go for singles because singles. That’s progress, isn’t it, that steady progress. And if you try to just swing swing swing, you’re just going to exhaust yourself so that that’s the trouble that we will battle with the overnight success syndrome. We don’t see those singles, singles or singles that has made that that home run suddenly become visible to us
Anthony John Amyx [1:04:06]
today. Absolutely. I mean, the huge players in the game of life, the huge players in the game of business. I mean, they’re the ones who are essentially, you know their successes like an iceberg, man, I mean, they’re underwater, just hitting a single hitting a single hitting a single hitting a single and before you know it, the bases are loaded, they hit another single they score run bases loaded again, they hit another single, then you know another run is scored. And before you know it, then everybody’s seeing the mountain above the water and they’re like oh my gosh, you’re great. You’re amazing. I want to do that. Let me pay you to do it instantaneously. But the truth is, just get committed to hitting singles every day. And if you do it then you can replicate the success yet it may take you five, seven or 10 years, but you can do it.
David Ralph [1:04:49]
Absolutely. AJ How can our audience connect with you sir?
Anthony John Amyx [1:04:54]
Man, the best way is go to AJ a mix am y x.com or hit me up on Twitter. Just a at AJ aim. com Facebook at AJ are slash Aj mix.com. Just across the board man just first and last names best way to contact me
David Ralph [1:05:08]
when we will have over links on the show notes. And thank you so much for spending time with us today. Join me up those dots. And please come back again when you have more dots to join up. Because I do believe that by joining up those dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. AJ, thank you so much.
Anthony John Amyx [1:05:24]
I’m honoured brother. Thank you so much, David.
Outro [1:05:27]
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