Simone Vincenzi Joins Us On The Steve Jobs Inspired Join Up Dots Podcast
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Introducing Simone Vincenzi
Simone Vincenzi is our guest today on the Steve Jobs inspired Join Up Dots free podcast interview.
Lets tell you he is a man with a similar career path to myself.
And a man who also has a desire to see the world flourish, and help individuals across the globe to grow exponentially, becoming their greatest versions.
But of course to get to that point, you truly have to go through a journey of discovery yourself, to find your inner skills that make you unique and valuable to everyone.
And it would be fair to say that just a few years ago, our guest was many many steps away from discovering their purpose in life.
He was working in a restaurant in Notting Hill as a waiter, as he had been doing since the age of 15, and had certain mental restrictions should we say, that were holding him back from creating his dream life.
He didn’t have a degree and his level of English was not quite enough to understand the self development literature that he was starting to immerse himself in.
How The Dots Joined Up For Simone
As he says, “Just three years ago I was facing a very difficult moment of my life. I knew I had to change but I didn’t know what to do.
I felt lost, like wondering in a circle in a dark room with no exit sign and this wasn’t me!!
I have always been the uber-positive-hyper-charged person that was able to lift up the energy of an entire room!!
Where was that me? Where did it go? I wanted to find him and bring him back!
So he took the plunge and signed up for an extensive two day coaching course in London, even though he had nowhere to live, and started working on himself everyday.
He built that personal belief that he had inside him what was required to create a succesful business and little by little saw his life and his finances change.
He first set up his coaching company Your Power to Shine Ltd and then a personal development events company, GTeX and was on his way.
And now with a flourishing public speaking, coaching and development, and didgeridoo business (well the last one isn’t a business but is very impressive) he seems to be having the time of his life.
So when did he truly switch the switch of belief and start making the bold decisions that make such a difference moving forward?
And does he look back at himself and think “You were always ready to find the power to shine” you just had to start?
Well lets find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up dots with the one and only, or as they say in Italy la sola e unica, Simone Vicenzi
During the show we discussed such weighty topics with Simone Vincenzi such as:
How he recalls being held back by his personal self image at the very beginning and battled as he felt he was being made to conform to the normal.
How he went from being the youngest manager in a Michelin Star Restaurant, to creating his coaching business in just three years. And it was all down to building his network!
Why he believes that it is a great learning experience to handle everything in the early stages of creating a business, but start handing things off as soon you can to focus on what you do best.
The strangest stories involving body waxing, organic vegetables, ex-girlfriends, hitchhiking, and how to get free rent in London that you will ever hear.
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Full Transcription Of Simone Vincenzi Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK. David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:36]
Yes, hello there, everybody. Good morning to you. Oh, I don’t know if you know this. I don’t know if you keep up with Join Up Dots. But I’ve been away. I’ve been away and I’ve been travelling the world. This is my first time back on the mic professionally. And I’ll be honest with you, when I set my system up this morning, I couldn’t remember how to do it. It’s bizarre, but we’ve been away for three weeks and I was thinking, is this a microphone? Do I talk into this end order talking to the other end but Fortunately, I’ve got a professional. I’ve got a professional public speaker today. And he’s already eased me through how to stop sweating, how to not die with a breakfast biscuit in your throat. And all these other stuff, we should have recorded this, but we didn’t because he wants it to be professional. And he is a man with I suppose a similar career path to myself and a man who also has a desire to see the world flourish, and help individuals across the globe to grow exponentially becoming their greatest versions. But of course, to get to that point, you truly have to go through a journey of discovery yourself to find your inner skills that make you unique and valuable to everyone. And it’d be fair to say, but just a few years ago, our guest was many, many steps away from discovering their purpose in life. He was working in a restaurant in Notting Hill as a waiter and had been doing so since the age of 15. And had certain, let’s say, mental restrictions that were holding him back from creating his dream life. He didn’t have a degree and his level of English was not quite enough to understand the self development literature that he was starting to immerse himself in, as he says just three years ago. was facing a very difficult moment of my life. I knew I had to change. But I didn’t know what to do. I felt lost like wandering in a circle in a dark room with no exit sign. And this wasn’t me. I’ve always been the Uber positive hyper charged person that was able to lift up the energy of an entire room. Where was that me? Where did it go? I wanted to find him and bring him back. So he took the plunge and signed up for an extensive two day coaching course in London, even though he had nowhere to live and started working on himself every day he built that personal belief but he had inside him that was required to create a successful business and little by little so his life and his finances changed. He first set up his coaching company, your power to shine limited, and then a personal development events company and was on his way and now we have a flourishing public speaking, coaching and development and didgeridoo business. Well, the last one is in the business, but it is very impressive to see him play. He seems to be having the time of his life. So when did he truly switch the switch of belief and start making the bold decisions that make such a difference moving forward and does he look back at himself in You are always ready to find the power to shine you just had to start well let’s find out as we bring onto the show to start Join Up Dots with the one and only Oh as I say in Italy let’s Sala unica Simone Vincenzi
Simone Vincenzi [3:17]
Oh wow, that’s an introduction. I was I was Is that me? Great thank you love your energy. How are you David?
David Ralph [3:26]
I am very well indeed was that Did you think I was naturally Italian? Did you Simone.
Simone Vincenzi [3:32]
I actually I actually felt a bit of Italian swagger in that and that makes you stand out from every other interview were so double Thumbs up for you double Thumbs up for David.
David Ralph [3:45]
Oh, don’t go any more with it because that’s that’s all I’ve got. And I wasn’t even sure if I was saying that right. So Did I say that right? Is that the one and only last Sala a unica
Simone Vincenzi [3:56]
kind of is that is slow.
David Ralph [4:00]
You know just say you just say yes 5% there
Simone Vincenzi [4:03]
David Ralph [4:06]
where do I go wrong?
Simone Vincenzi [4:07]
Where did I go here? Last sola. Because in Italian, we have something different that English guys you don’t have, which are we have a letter at the end of each word that will change depending from the gender. So when you say last sola and only CA is referred to a female, but when you say l solo and only God is referred to a male, so this is our This is how would that be that 100% but you got 85% there apart from the fact that you introduced me as a woman. But anyway, I love you.
David Ralph [4:47]
I love you and you would make a very sexy woman you’ve got you’ve got long flowing black hair, you’ve got those kind of come to bed eyes, you would make a very good woman outside.
Simone Vincenzi [4:57]
David Ralph [4:59]
As you can tell, I haven’t done this for a long time. I’m totally opposite of the case. Now, let’s get back onto Let’s be professional. Let’s create an episode of Join Up Dots. Now, I have been doing some stalking of you. And one of the things that bizarrely threw me off was that many years ago, not even many years ago, you looked very different. And I was up been looking at websites thinking, is this the guy and if it wasn’t for your eyes, because you’ve got a certain kind of, I don’t know, piercing look in your eyes. I wouldn’t have known it was you you’ve got flowing black hair, you’ve got your goatee beard, you’ve got everything going on. Couple years ago, if I’ve got it right, you were totally bold is that it was in my mind looking at the right person.
Simone Vincenzi [5:39]
Exactly. or looking at the right person. I I’m unique. Because you know sometimes the older you get the lesser you have. Yes. Now, I go the opposite way. I was bold that that the older I get the more hair I got. But actually I owe this to my image. consultant because I tell you something, I when I started I was one of these really flourishing hippies right so I was a living went spent time living in communes and they used to wear the same you know, like this big colourful trousers with their flowers and they say a long scars and the head on top of a head like probably you’re seen in some of the pictures. And I was wondering why my coaching business wasn’t thriving would would want to work with someone like that. So a friend of mine died, an image consultant and he said, You know what, Simone, it is time to change right now if you want your business to grow, you got to look more professional. And I said, No, no, no, that’s my that’s me. That’s my style people will connect with me is like a bunch of crap. Because if, if you’re starting out, you want to look a certain way. Because that’s the first impression right that you get in people. And so he told me first of all, grow your hair, get a goatee, get a suit,
David Ralph [7:09]
is a fairly interesting stuff. So I spent all my time teaching people to be unique to be authentic. But you would say at the very beginning, you’ve got to basically follow the herd and then find your thing later. You can’t start being unique too early.
Simone Vincenzi [7:27]
You know, Davey, I think is a great question because I battled myself. When I was a it was really fighting with myself, like, shall I follow? What is my what I want to wear? Or do I want to make my business work? And I personally now have a very pragmatic approach to life. Does it work? Yes, keep doing it. Does he know work? Let’s find something because I think that too many people are attached to their self image at the end of the day, What I wear is not who I am. But I can choose to wear something that can help me reach my goals if it makes sense, right? And because in the field where I was going, which was the coaching and training industry, there is a certain standard and also because when I started I was 22. So not only is the age credibility issue didn’t matter, I was a good coach but like, what can you learn from a 20 year old guy right? On top of that, I was looking like a homeless he doesn’t do things if you look at pragmatically say, yeah, you can follow yourself but if you want to have a successful business and maybe you got to make some changes, so I said, You know what, base the result? This is not working. Let’s do something different. Let’s see how it works. Time three months, my business started booming.
David Ralph [8:56]
So back, would you go back and change it in a few years time? Would you go back to those Big baggy trousers and a bald head and big floppy hats, would you? Uh, you know what? No,
Simone Vincenzi [9:06]
I actually love my suits. So now I have a collection of suits and I’m loving them. So I actually discovered that they Talia and suti in me which is really which has been really interesting. I think that David I don’t know if you have maybe been there but you arrive to a point and you have a into behaving a certain way you’re you hang around a certain kind of people. And then maybe do you have is not the stage in your life when those kind of people or a certain way of thinking doesn’t resonate with you anymore. And so that’s what happened to me. So I found myself detaching a bit more from the hippie land word and more in gore and going towards day more business professional word, which I was eager to explore and I evolved in that and now I found my place. into that, if I’m my way into that, and I love it. It doesn’t make sense,
David Ralph [10:04]
David. I think it makes total sense. I do because I used to travel up to the City of London for years and years and years and I always wore a suit. I always wore a suit and tie. And now the only times I wear a suit and tie it off for weddings and funerals, and at the moment, I don’t know if this excites you. But at the moment I am just wearing a pair of shorts. I’ve got no socks on. I’ve got nothing on about a pair of shorts, and it’s very hot today. So I’ve got a fan under my desk blowing a very nice stream of air up the left leg of my shorts. It gets complicated down there Simona doesn’t it it needs it needs a bit of life. And I think to myself I couldn’t have done this years ago this this is this is me so I could slip into that hippie vibe but it’s it’s hosted some courses, isn’t it at the moment being a podcast that you can literally create the the identity you want.
Simone Vincenzi [10:55]
It’s true I agree with you. In fact, when you are required Something wet, which is a video or like I know do someone doesn’t see you You can read be like wearing whatever you want. But imagine that you’re going to a really big networking events where you have an opportunity to meet Richard Branson. What would you wear in that?
David Ralph [11:18]
I’d leave the fan behind and leave the fine behind. Yeah, if it if it was meeting Richard, I would leave the fan behind. He doesn’t want to see that going on, does he?
Simone Vincenzi [11:28]
Yeah, that’s it. Unless it might be interesting because of the fan. And he might have an entrepreneurial ideas to sell that font to his virgin.
That’s another conversation. Okay. So but but let’s talk about Richard Branson, because I
David Ralph [11:44]
have been, as I say, I have been travelling you I’ve been to Gran Canaria for three weeks, and I had a lovely time. And I read the Richard Branson’s biography, and it was a fascinating story all the way through. And he is somebody you’ve I looked like a hippie at the beginning and he still looks like a hippie, you know, he’s gone totally against what everyone sort of expected. How has that worked? How has he managed to do that? Do you think cemani when, like yourself, you felt that you have to present an image that people expect? What do you reckon?
Simone Vincenzi [12:19]
I think that you arrive, and everyone has his own journey, right? Everyone has his own path. So I think that’s just my personal opinion. He arrived to a point to where it is success, then the clothing is not anymore a problem or a barrier for people to doing business with them. Because they had maybe already a certain level of success. So already certain level of contact so what it kind of doesn’t need to impress anyone anymore or defame is so high that people don’t care. How is dressed. So what I found is that just at the very beginning the starting point, people make that first judgement, that first judgement on the look. And it is about For me it was about taking away that barrier and say, Why do I have to create this barrier in the first place where I’ve already other barriers to overcome to go and make a name for myself in this industry? And for me, it worked out this way, but I’m not saying that this is the only way David right. Because I believe that everyone has their own uniqueness, everyone has their own path, my life is very different from your life. The way I am is very different from the way you are going to be I am is very different from the way Richard Branson is. So I found that this based on results worked for me and actually I love that so that’s why I actually now always, always very soon, like people rarely see me without a suit. But is that Because I need to I need to wear a suit now. No, because I can go to a business meeting and my reputation now precedes me when when I’m going there, but I am loving it. Like I love wearing a suit like people that they they see me as the Italian in the development industry with the nice nice suits, right.
David Ralph [14:23]
But we have got that Italian you know, all the way through. I’m listening to you talk and I love your accent. Yeah, you want to sing I want to go and the moon in the sky is Somali. I just I just don’t like having pizza already. And it’s only what I’ll pass in the morning and I feel like surrounding myself with men with heavy backs. I Italians have a lot of heavy back so I don’t know what that is about them.
Simone Vincenzi [14:51]
And I shave let’s say I’m one of them.
David Ralph [14:55]
Well, what is it about Harry backed Europeans they they are I was down in Spain, as I say, and I was sitting around the pool, and I thought I was in that film gorillas in the mist to remember that film. It was just hairy, horrible looking, man. I’m not saying that you’re horrible. I say I said he was attractive right at the very beginning. But these guys I think to myself, it’s alright to have a bit of hair. Well, I haven’t got heavy chest at all. I really do look like a prepubescent Chinese girl.
Unknown Speaker [15:22]
David Ralph [15:24]
there is nothing going on there at all. But if I had it on my bag, it’s coming off. It’s coming off. So you you you are embracing the Italian hairiness.
Simone Vincenzi [15:36]
I’m embracing the Italian hairiness? Yes, my fiancee. She’s not on the same on my same view. She’s like, when are you taking this off? And the light is on my hair. No. But you take me. If you’re like me, you take me with my hair. I’ll tell you there was a when I was about 23. I went into this phase of being super And I’m still very pretty fit. I’m a lover. I play basketball and I play basketball almost every day exercise at minimum about four or five times a week. And I remember when I was at 2022 23 I got into this phase on. I got to be like super shredded. I need to be super pumped. I got to have my super six pack. And at that time, I got to admit that David, I used to wax bench Front,
David Ralph [16:33]
back in front as well.
Simone Vincenzi [16:35]
I’ll tell you something. It was painful. I don’t know if you ever watched yourself, but it’s painful. And I remember I used to go to this waxing audio called waxing ladies in in colander colon de cada de something like that. And seeing a
real was going there.
David Ralph [16:58]
What What do you say at wax Ladies Is this what you say you’re going into like a booth where somebody strips you naked covers you in candle wax and rips it off?
Simone Vincenzi [17:07]
It kind of kind of Yes. Because apart from other than the candle wax they haven’t very like they’re strips and they are Oh, so it was so painful and so I got to tell you something which is really personal now that we are here my skin is quite sensitive. So it happened that I used to take paracetamol before the wax because the paid was through hard disk drug so I bought it the old delayed is that everything waxy this I love like how did you do it? I did it for one year, and I had to take paracetamol, right. So this is just I never shared this with anyone else apart from I think from from my fiance at the moment. So we are getting to an all new level of intimacy DVD here.
David Ralph [17:58]
I’ll tell you why you don’t Get this on Entrepreneur on Fire do this is the kind of gold I sent awards coming our way ceremony this is this is the true gold. But if we back away from waxing because I don’t wax myself because I’ve got no hair. I don’t even wax me car. I don’t know, I last time I saw a bit of wax. But it What interests me about you. And there’s so many things that interests me about you was that not only did you have the self image battle, but you had the big mental Battle of the language of the age, that that is a big one to overcome, isn’t it and so many people would have just settled back in. It’s not happening for me. Now one of the rare things about simony was that we’ve actually connected before we started recording this show. Now that doesn’t normally happen. Guests normally come on the show two seconds beforehand, but you were very hassle friendly. You wanted to connect you wanted to sort of build a network. Was that something that helped you you overcome those mental barriers that you had right at the very beginning?
Unknown Speaker [19:04]
Simone Vincenzi [19:06]
Yes and No, actually, I guess they are Sol moda is something that I always had a soul friendly mode. This is something that I always said since the process I was born at I remember I don’t know where it came from I just one of these kind of over super overachievers, type A personalities that you give me a goal. I want something, I’ll get it no matter what. And so I remember by the age of 19, I was already the youngest Michelin star restaurant manager in Europe and I been working in more than 200 different restaurants by the age of 19, which is quite unheard of. But that that’s kind of mentality that I have when I started as you said, I was but didn’t know very well how to Speak English. So becoming a public speaker was a bit of a challenge. And, and in three years down the line, I’ve been doing an event, hosting an event with 1000 people with Les Brown and another event with Gary Vaynerchuk. After only three years of being in the speaking circuit, where people will take 1015 years doing that, and what I think you really put really hit the nail was in building the network. Because I think that you never know where opportunities can come from. And I’m always looking for two things. One is called people to connect with because at the end of the day, this is something that we really share we have in common is our life like no one really can tell us the way we should this death or we shouldn’t do stuff. We could do things that we could couldn’t do things. So what I want to do is connect with amazing people and I’ve been bitten recommended that someone recommended me to listen to your podcasts and I got connected with you and say this is a cool person to connect and second is okay, this is an opportunity now you never know what’s going to happen after. So that’s it and I think that having this mindset helped me as you said also the beginning overcoming the barrier of the age overcoming the barrier of the language because I believe that I don’t know about you but I I believe there is always a way I believe there is always a way numb numb doesn’t matter where you are, there is always a way forward it might be a person it might be a connection, it might be a skill that to learn or it might have been maybe luck. I I’ll tell you this one. I’m sure you will love this part.
David Ralph [21:49]
Is this as good as your wack story because if it’s if it’s not you keep it to yourself. simony you’ve hit the level you’ve hit the level already. Now.
Simone Vincenzi [21:57]
I set the bar really high right?
It can be as good as the walk story can be a good story. I used to be with the with my my ex ex ex girlfriend at the time and with the we were supposed to move together in Exeter and she was already living in exit there. And when we were going to so I had all my stuff there so all my stuff were already there and denied before moving to Exeter guess what David?
David Ralph [22:32]
D got taken up by aliens and my clothes.
Simone Vincenzi [22:37]
Kind of they were flying cows. They were not alien. They were flying cows. We you know, we had we had that phone call. And do you know where I’m going with that? So we have that phone call. And we said we agree to split up. It wasn’t any more a case to be together. But now imagine this I had all my stuff in Exeter, I left my room that I had in London to move to exit there, I left my job at the moment where I was building my business, I always had a part time or a full time job to cover my expenses. So I went, I left my job, so I had no income. I had almost no savings, because I wasn’t the kind of person who was saving at the moment. And I didn’t have a girlfriend anymore. I didn’t have a house anymore. And I didn’t have the money to pay another renters so I said, Okay. What am I going to do now? So as you do, I cried. And I said, God, if there is a moment where I need your help, this is exactly the right moment. So please do your magic. And I’m a big believer in God. I’m not particularly religious or following another religion. So just a god, whatever you You are whoever you are. Energy spirit universe and table chair, whatever you want to call it. Please help me. So the day after I felt this urge, and it’s where the story gets interesting. They were that I felt this urge to buy organic vegetables as you do. Brian.
You want to buy organic vegetables?
David Ralph [24:26]
I didn’t see that coming. I’ll be honest, but I’m with you. I’m hanging on every word now.
Simone Vincenzi [24:30]
Is it? Is this still matching the waxing story?
David Ralph [24:33]
It’s it’s hitting a peak now. I’m interested.
Simone Vincenzi [24:36]
Okay. Okay, right. And I was there. When bide my organic vegetables in there in a shop is a lovely shop in new cross gate in southeast London, and is a plant shop and a health food shop at the same time, and I’ve been shopping in that shop called Dignitas nursery for about two years before So I had a good relationship with the owner. I went there and I said that this guy’s and I’m Gary and chap. I mean chop about is older than 50 but his, uh, his younger that in the heart is younger than me. And I said me Hi. I yesterday I had a house I had a girlfriend I had a job and I was supposed to move to Exeter today I’m not moving to Exeter. I don’t have a job. I don’t have a house. I don’t have a girlfriend anymore. Don’t have any child’s like, part table portunity here Can I work for you? Or do you have anywhere where I can stay or do you know anyone that has a room? And he said, Oh, don’t worry. I have a house. You come into my house. I have a room for you. And then when you have the money you pay
David Ralph [25:55]
off either going like this and we have How do you stumble across things like this? He said
Simone Vincenzi [26:02]
he’s not finished yet is the finish it
David Ralph [26:05]
was awful. That was it. That was that was that.
Simone Vincenzi [26:08]
So I, I’m really good at something that I’ve been always good. That’s how I’ve become the youngest Michelin star restaurant manager, new rope or building my business. I’m really good negotiator. And when I see an opportunity that there is a win win, I go for it. So this guy had a problem. He hired a problem in his leg at that moment, and he needed to have an operation. And what he does, he’s a genius. He organises what is called the tomato festival. So he grows 150 different kinds of tomatoes on the rooftop of this el food store. It’s crazy. So we had thousands of plants of tomato plants that needed to be water daily for being ready for the festival. And I said how about this? You have a problem with the lag. How about I come to work with you for you. For two days a week, and I don’t pay the rent, thought it looked at me for a second. And I said, why not? So for the next two years, I basically lived in London without paying my rent, and also without paying my food because I was working a food shop so I could get my food from there for more than two years, and that’s what allowed me to build my business because suddenly, I had an almost no overheads, like the biggest expenses that people have are food, and bills, rent being the major one, right? So immediately, I found myself without this to big expenses. And so it didn’t matter if I was my business was making 500 pound a month. I was the richest man in the world. Because this 500 pounds were overweight.
David Ralph [27:54]
I tell you why this ties in beautifully to the next stage of the conversation. So I’m going to play some words and then what gonna delve back into that is Oprah
Oprah Winfrey [28:02]
the way through the challenge is to get still and ask yourself, what is the next right move? not think about, Oh, I got all of this too. But what is the next right move? And then from that space, make the next right move and the next right move, and not to be overwhelmed by it. Because, you know, your life is bigger than that one moment, you know, you’re not defined by what somebody says, is a failure for you, because failure is just there to point you in a different direction.
David Ralph [28:34]
Now think that Tony’s in brilliantly to where we all saw an opportunity. It wasn’t gonna be the game changer, but it was a step towards something. And that is how success is built, isn’t it? You can’t go right. Okay, I’m gonna build personal development event company, you’re gonna do this, you know, Join Up Dots has gone amazingly well. It’s really really successful. And I look back on it now and I’m gonna say this because this is off on my mind at the moment. I was on a podcast the other day. And somebody asked me what was your biggest failure. And when I used to be asked by at the very beginning of creating the show, I used to say I have an utter failure. I’ve just always done where my knowledge was at that time. So if it turned out to be wrong, it wasn’t a failure. It just, I didn’t quite understand the process. Now I look at it. And I think my biggest failure was not handing things over to people about a better way of doing stuff than me. Now, when you’re building your business, did you fall into that same trap as I did, where you listen to the Oprah word and you think, yeah, I’ve just got to do one thing after another after another, or did you go right, okay. I’m actually not very good at building sexy websites. Let’s get somebody to do it for me. I’m not very good at doing something else. Was it a bootstrapping mentality that held you back? Or did you just steam your way to success because you were willing to, to free the stuff you didn’t like doing and wasn’t very good at doing to the things that you are good at.
Simone Vincenzi [30:01]
I guess that we share our biggest failure together.
We share the same biggest failure. I was, I met on I was. And I’ve been changing massively now because with the growth of the business, I couldn’t keep up. But I was doing everything by myself. So I failed to my first website, but myself spending almost a year on building a crappy looking website. And I spent all the time learning every single thing and it was a massive waste of time. And on the other side as well, it was also a great learning experience, because I think I have still mixed feelings about that. Like it was it a failure that I wanted to handle everything because I didn’t have the spare cash to pay someone else. So instead of, on my my mentality is my mindset is something is better. And nothing. If I don’t have the resources to pay someone else to do it, then I’ll as well might as well do it myself. Now, I’ve changed that to say, if I don’t have maybe the money to do something, I see what negotiation can be a win win situation can be in both parties, because there might be something for the other party that I can bring to the table that they might need at the same time in exchange off of that, so But before I wasn’t needed mentality, so someone, if I said, I want to do something, I’ll do it. I need this. Load the resources now Okay, learning myself and I’ll do it myself.
David Ralph [31:36]
what you’ve got is the power got, I think that where I fell down, was I’m pretty good at everything. You know, I’m not brilliant at everything. So I can normally work out how to do stuff, but I look back on it. And I think to myself, if I was totally crappy at something, I’d have no problem getting somebody to do it. You know, for example, I can’t hang wallpaper for love nor money. So I pay for somebody to come in and do it in my house. You know, just how much you’re gonna charge yet you do it for me. How about tables? Building well, IKEA tables. Oh, I’m good at IKEA. I am good at IKEA. I know. Okay, our local local school has just been sponsored by IKEA, which sounded a good idea, but assembly takes twice as long. There you go. That is comedy at its best, isn’t it? That’s what your one on a show. Yeah, no, I have wallpaper so of people coming in, just sort of hanging out. But in a business, I just felt that I should do everything myself and it’s lunacy is lunacy. And I would say to everyone, if you get an idea, and you’re spending more than three months, building a website, then just get something out. Just get something out. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Just get something so that people can sort of direct it to move on to doing the things that you can do. That is the money isn’t it? That is where coaching coaching coaching happens. Because you are tapping into your own super talent. You think that’s Amane
Simone Vincenzi [33:07]
I agree with you massively I agree with you is when I started really saying okay, actually what I really love this just to speak. And in particular something that is became my, my big passion right now is to change the course as to change the personal development industry as it is. Because I think that there is a lot of crap going around. And I’m on a mission to make sure that the people that speak on stage, they are aware of the impact that they have on people. And in particular, they’re walking their talk because they find a lot of people that just because they read a Tony Robbins book, the thing that can make, that can change people’s life or whatever is going to be and it’s fine, but they actually don’t spend time learning their stuff and really mastering It, whatever their field is going to be just because they think they know a bit of something, they can claim yourself an expert, because they have a signature programme and they can put international speaker in their LinkedIn profile, which then when you do a bit of research in the background, you see, actually that’s not true. So what I’m looking for and what is my mission right now in the industry is to make sure that the people that are going to be sharing the stage that people are going to be there and making an impact are actually have something to share, but not just because they have read a book. But from this personal experience if and also they work with a lot of people to prove what is that they do. So we work with those people to make sure that they can have more creative products, they can create the services they can sell from stage they can have event that sell. So that’s what I’m really passionate about at the moment and the more I focus on this The more clients come, the more money comes. The more opportunity come, the less you focus on that. Bom Bom Bom is like, Oh, where are the clients? It’s like, last month was a pretty good month. And now, here I’m like,
David Ralph [35:18]
No, I can I can see this as well, because you once again, you’re focusing in on your 8020, you’ve now worked out where your biggest results come and you’re just dealing with that. But as he was talking about that Apple Yeah, you’re absolutely right. I get a lot of people pitching to come on the show. And one of the things I do, and I’m going to share this, I don’t know. Yeah, I’m gonna share this anyway.
Simone Vincenzi [35:38]
Go Go on. Oh, God, David
David Ralph [35:40]
share is this is what I do in the background. I go over and I look at domain registries to see when their website was created. And quite a lot of them they come on and they say, oh, I’ve been doing this for years. And their website was created like six months ago, and I’ve been was it and I do a little bit of dabbling. Go on to the link. profile because you can always find out stuff about them. And more often than not, it’s absolutely like you say, they are saying, I’ve been seen on the Huffington Post I’ve been seen on this, I’ve been seen on there. And I think where you only started six months ago, I don’t believe you. So I’m gonna sort of knock you back, which is what I liked about yours. When you go back onto your LinkedIn profile, you can actually see that there is a progression of your business as it grows, you know, your first one, your power to shine limited. What I kind of liked about it was with the greatest respect, it’s one of those names that you would pick right at the very beginning. You know, what your coaching company now is where branding actually joins professionalism. And that’s when it actually comes together, isn’t it now, how did you transition from your development company from your first coaching company and did you see as a natural natural step by step or was it now hang on longer? Turn on here, I’m going to focus on the development event company from that one.
Simone Vincenzi [37:05]
It was a really, it went to because of my business partner in the transition became from my business partner and I agree with you like the name is very material and but also the name of growing together exponentially, which is the name of the company that because no one and also big another a material mistake when we created our second company growing together exponentially. We didn’t realise that no one could spell exponentially. So no one but a good 70% of people that were googling and obviously the domain name of the website was www dot growing together exponentially.com so which before people got here, right? Yeah, you could you needed to have an assistant to type in for you. So now that we have called the company g tech gtex.org.uk That’s it. That’s our company. And that became a, it was a natural progression. Because what we were doing when I met my business partner at the beginning, he was doing his consulting work in the recruitment industry. And I was having my your power to shine. And then there was this event company GTX in the middle. But there was a bit of a conflict in there because, like the money that I was earning from your power to shine was in your power to shine, the money that he was earning through his consulting was his money, and then we were chipping getting into gtex. But then we said, if we really want to do this, let’s put everything we have into gtex. And let’s grow it exponentially. Right. And that was the move that turned things around. And then again, it was a step by step process. We were learning about branding. We were Learning about email marketing. We were learning about creating videos when they will, I’m going to send you and I’ll send it to you later my first video you see my video now and people say oh Simona You’re so great on video. You are so captivating and you’re engaging. You’re entertaining the awesome. Watch my first video that I did four years ago, it’s been four years of making videos. Like you could you prefer going, I don’t know. And like cutting your wrist is more pleasant. It’s definitely this video
David Ralph [39:36]
doesn’t have your ex girlfriend in it does it by any chance?
Simone Vincenzi [39:39]
No, it doesn’t. It doesn’t
David Ralph [39:43]
have any of those videos you could share with us?
Simone Vincenzi [39:46]
No, I don’t have any DVDs. I don’t know what kind of videos that you after David.
David Ralph [39:50]
I don’t know. He just popped into my head but it was a question that needed to be asked. You see that I was looking for a win win. I thought there was an opportunity there and Okay was a personal Win win, but I’m gonna take that. That’s what it’s about
Simone Vincenzi [40:04]
personal generally this kind of video quite exciting.
David Ralph [40:08]
Very good. I’ll tell you why that would go viral on Ted. Yeah, if you put that up, you don’t need it TGV Do you don’t need to blow into one of those things you can actually talking about that I have watched your TEDx talk, and what is the didgeridoo about now, for people that haven’t seen this TED Talk, we will put it on the link. And it’s very good. And it’s about sleeping with your clients. And it had a good, good time. Thank
Simone Vincenzi [40:33]
you for introducing that in this way. Sleeping with your clients. Yeah.
David Ralph [40:37]
That’s how it’s all about. I’m bringing in large musical instruments at the same time. Now, you play a did you do at the very beginning, which was kind of bizarre, just because the fact that you were doing it on a TED talk, you’re Italian. How did that all come about? Why did you think it was a good idea? And has that been something that people talk about? And so it sort of builds conversation?
Simone Vincenzi [41:00]
Right, is is a mixture of things. I think that when you are a public speaker, you want to do something that stands out. So people don’t remember you people don’t remember most of the time what they learn from you people remember how you make them feel. Yeah, and how you and you entertain them because you can have the best message in the world. But if you’re not an entertainer, people will get bored. Right? This is some This is crucial, and not every people say everyone can be a speaker. No, I mean everyone can speak is true, but not everyone can be a great speaker. Because it unless they learn how to be entertainers, then they have or it can find their own style as well. I mean, everyone has their own style, but you will find it most of the time. If there is a there is not an element of entertainment after a while people get bored. Why? Because then my natural needs a break. So I personally had a passion for I mean, it went, again, this is one of these stories. And if you ever been in one of these parties, and imagine you that you’re in a house in Cambridge, and is just just imagine that and was one of these parties where is so boring. And so DOL that the only thing you want to do is to move and leave the house. Have you ever been the situation?
David Ralph [42:27]
I have hosted many of those myself, to be honest, but
Simone Vincenzi [42:30]
yeah, right. So don’t invite me to your next party, please. And so, but the fact is that I was stuck in Cambridge. Why? Because it was a party at a friend’s house and me and my other mate decided to hitchhike to Cambridge because we never checked in our life. So we checked into, like we went to at the end of the motorway, and we checked at the end of the motorway, which I wouldn’t recommend to anyone. Why because cars don’t stop apart if they are there is one poor lost soul that needs company in their car. So we talked to Cambridge that I was there and this super doll party and it was took about two o’clock in the morning. I didn’t know what to do. And there was on the corner beside the sofa. There was a didgeridoo there. So I said, Well never play the didgeridoo. So I spent basically my night on YouTube, vibrating my lips and that sounds wrong but the way you play the didgeridoo is where you vibrate like your lips like and learning how to do that and do a first sound on the didgeridoo and it took me about five hours to get a sound that didn’t look like a fart. So it was pretty persistent in that it was about the time seven o’clock in the morning I was shot there. And I said to myself, I love the didgeridoo. I don’t know I felt I felt connected in some way or I lost So guess what I was coming back home The day after and you know when you have your neighbours that are giving you that are moving house and most of the time they’re putting the stuff that they don’t want to the front of their porch or whatever it so the door for people to pick up.
David Ralph [44:21]
This is gonna get weird ceremony isn’t it and you’re not telling me that they just happen to have a didgeridoo that they were throwing out.
Simone Vincenzi [44:28]
Sadly just in front of my house. I said no, we’re talking about joining the dots right
David Ralph [44:35]
now but this this is a weird I bet we’ve had body waxing organic vegetables ex girlfriends from Exeter. Now there’s a clue in it. hitchhiking on motorways and now people throwing out didgeridoos I’ve never even met somebody that’s bought a didgeridoo. Where do you go to get a didgeridoo and I just happen to be throwing out. I don’t want to say that there’s gonna be a drug test at the end of this show. But Michael just
Simone Vincenzi [45:03]
got me to drink jack daniels before the talk like this is something for every listener David tells drink a bottle of jack before the talk so you can be more funded entertaining and
David Ralph [45:13]
time so in the morning people tend to nine in the morning you you get him at 11 o’clock at night. God knows what he’s going to tell you.
Simone Vincenzi [45:20]
And guess what? When I moved house, I this is my first Did you do that I found then I then I moved house and guess what my flatmate had in a room? Rolf Harris he had
David Ralph [45:36]
Yeah, Nike tallied up and you Nick T’s didgeridoo
Simone Vincenzi [45:42]
sounds very wrong knowing the background overall fair isn’t what it did. So moving on from raw fires. Yeah, Justin did you do without their fat race? So that was my second did you do by now I have about 60 do reduce a year in my house. They’re popping out everywhere. And I’ve played also in the largest didgeridoo festival in in UK as well and do regular concert and did you do now is part of my public speaking. So, going back to the TEDx talk is that how do you stand out as a speaker? How do you do that? So you want to bring something that is unique to you people know me, I said the Italian speaker vegan with the didgeridoo. Most of the time, they cannot even pronounce my name right. But they know that I’m Italian. I’m vegan, and I play the didgeridoo. So it’s part of my uniqueness and you want to play in your uniqueness so that you can be more memorable for people and people can remember you. That’s why I started my TEDx talk when a didgeridoo so to create it’s a bit of what the heck is doing factor and, and people know that. I’m the guy with the didgeridoo and I was religiously walking or with events. I do. I’m walking with my didgeridoo so you find me in a nice suit. Nice tie with the didgeridoo
It’s a bit interesting right?
David Ralph [47:02]
It’s It’s so interesting it’s so bizarre it’s one of those shows I actually wish we were doing this live because I would get on and I would do that thing with my lips like you did which probably was good which the ladies probably are getting a great for it I don’t know. But howard stern going on there i think but it is it’s one of those things that is unique to you but I can’t get away from the very beginning of the conversation where you’re doing a suited Italian didgeridoo playing role, but you could have been flowery powdery Strauss’s and bald head and all that kind of stuff. I don’t know Well, I don’t know if it was the right thing or the wrong thing I really can’t get a steal on you
Simone Vincenzi [47:48]
are for me was definitely the right thing. For me was the right thing. It was just a part of my evolution. You know I think I yet to to move into where I wanted to go, I need to let go of an image today a bit about me. And a certain set of beliefs that I had that were in serving me at the time based on result I’m always looking at results. And this is also the people I work with does it work? Great does it not work it doesn’t matter how you like it, if it doesn’t work and you want to have a different result you want you got to do something different. At the end of the day, what’s more important, just the image that you have about yourself or your fulfilment and that was, I think where it comes down to so who cares what you wear, alright, but if what you wear can be a stepping stone and even a small stepping stone to create a new image for yourself to get you closer to where you want to go. Why not? And then if it doesn’t work, guess what you can always go back and air and wear again, your flowery things. When when I came to London To UK, I came to UK because people were calling me I’m using a bit of a strong Can I use what like is is more strong word like as no strong word. Okay, go for it. People were calling me the bitch of the catering industry where I was working. Why? Because I was, if not the best one of the best waiters in my region and almost the rest. The catering industry is a very small industry. So all the restaurant owners, they know each other. And sometimes I was just finding myself getting offers. I mean, I didn’t write a CV up until the age of 23. Why? Because I always saw people that came to a restaurant and they say, Oh, I want you to work for me. Or I was so good at selling myself that people want to give me a trial and then I will say, oh, I’ll work for you for free for a week. And then at the end of the week, if you don’t think I’m your best waiter, then you send me home. Otherwise you pay me this much. This were the kind of thing that I was doing and
So what was the same that Alex Michael Ellis will try to vote?
David Ralph [50:05]
I have no idea at all. Okay.
Simone Vincenzi [50:09]
Okay, so when I was there when I was when I was doing that I added to our thinking that I was talking about letting go of any image that we have so rather whether it’s serving us great is not serving us great do something different but I think that my fulfilment and my goals the things that I want to achieve in my life or the happiness that I want to feel is much more important than this is the image that I have about myself because that will always change I can right now you might be David in that day’s clothing and then you William David in different clothing and guess what still going to be David are going to be anyone else.
David Ralph [50:51]
I think that’s very profound, very profound stuff. And I’m gonna bring on the billion dollar hippie as he’s known, this is the late Steve Jobs but Let’s see what he had to say.
Steve Jobs [51:01]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path and that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [51:36]
So can you join up your dots as he’s saying some money?
Simone Vincenzi [51:41]
I can. I can and is there is a really is really fascinating just talking back and saying that night just talking about didgeridoo talking about something quirky, the night where I was in a in that boring party and high Chai to Cambridge now beam My digital do what makes me stand out in the industry and what gets me hired. And as an emcee for big events like Les Brown or Gary Vee. I can I can join the dots too. When I came here to UK, and everyone was telling me not to go, Oh, that’s what I wanted to say as well, before when I lost my train of thoughts, because my parents split up when I was about 14, and my father was an alcoholic. So when I came to London, I actually was supporting my family. It was like demanding to house with my little brother and my mom. So when I came to London, and they offered to work in London, everyone was against that. All my friends or my family members. My mother didn’t talk to me for three months after that. He was tough. But I knew that that was I had to make my decision. Now did I know that that was the right decision at the time? No. But I felt inside me. That’s it. Do it some to stab. And now I can connect the dots. That’s why I felt I had to follow this offer. That’s why I needed to come here to London. So I could learn whatever I need to learn, I could connect with the people I need to connect to then start this career that I’m doing. And then let’s see where for the other adults
David Ralph [53:22]
will be. And what would your big.be if you looked over everything, where would you sort of place for
Simone Vincenzi [53:30]
the big.in is the decision to come into London. That was the big dot. That was the most difficult decision I’ve ever faced. And they battled and I fought with my guilty for about three years for that. Because in Italy and also nofas in Italian thing worries me. But we love our families and in particular in Italy, you find that their families very close. Generally you find people that live with their parents up until the age of 3536. That’s the average So just imagine, I don’t think he’s healthy, by the way, but that’s imagine how close the family values are in Italy. So for me taking that step and leaving a small town
Unknown Speaker [54:13]
Simone Vincenzi [54:14]
go after something that I didn’t know if it was going to work or not, just because I met a guy that told me I wanted to work from a Michelin star restaurant in London, out of the blue, and never didn’t speak English very well, I could make a small conversation but that was it. So for me, that was the biggest gamble and then was the big dot that also gave me the confidence on I can stand up for myself, I can do things for myself. And it doesn’t matter what situation I am in. I know that I can always find a way that was the big thing.
David Ralph [54:51]
Great stuff that is that is the gold that is better than your waxing story or your organic vegetable. It’s you know, I didn’t think we were gonna get there. I bought the organic vegetables, just a thought of you living in a land of tomatoes was going to be the best thing but you’ve over delivered you have over delivered as I’m sure you’re going to do now, because it’s the end of the show. And this is the play we call a sermon on the mic when we send you back in time to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time and speak to the young cemani What advice would you give them? What age would you choose? Well, we’re gonna find out because I’m gonna play the theme tune and when it fades, you’re up. This is the Sermon on the mic
Unknown Speaker [55:37]
with the best bit of the show.
Simone Vincenzi [55:54]
Okay, little Simone Vincenzi you are 15 now And what I would love to share with you is something that it, it will help you massively in the future. And the thing is, you are not the centre of the world, right? People don’t care about everything you do, and people don’t observe you constantly. So don’t take everything people say personal. And don’t feel that people are going to judge you because of everything you do. So be free, to be yourself, be free to make your own decisions, because guess what, this is your life. And people we judge you for who you are. People will judge you for who you are not but it will do for a split of a second. Why? Because at the end of the day, they will keep thinking about themselves and their lives. So take what people say and just see if that resonates with you. If that applies to you, if not, say, thank you very much. And then
as this new song says, Let it go. Let it go.
David Ralph [57:14]
How come Are you seeing in English language as weird I was expecting to go, I let it go and let it go. I guess I’m lucky. Oh,
Simone Vincenzi [57:24]
oh, is it better?
David Ralph [57:26]
I think this is great. I’ve been trying to get a karaoke element into the show for a long time and you’re somebody you love it, don’t you? You? Did you get up on stage and sort of a didgeridoo and slide on your knees and do karaoke?
Simone Vincenzi [57:39]
I do. I do. I’m a show man. What can I say? The more people the more I can show off, the better I feel. So
David Ralph [57:50]
it’s a weird thing. And as you were saying about your public speaking, I was barely aware right at the very beginning in Join Up Dots and it’s taken a while to really find its feet. bad business success, but entertainment is is the powerful message. You know, sometimes you will listen to a show and you just get bored after five minutes. But I think, you know, that is what everybody has to aim for, isn’t it to try to provide something, whether it’s public speaking, whether it’s in your business, whether it’s on a podcast or whatever, but at least people are entertained by because they will stay with you.
Simone Vincenzi [58:24]
True, massively. If you made them feel good, they will stay with you. That’s why people watch television, because it’s entertaining them even if it’s a pile of crap in their dirt. You can they can be they can feel entertained. That’s why people go to go to the cinema. That’s why people go to theatre. So if you’re able to provide that entertainment in your own unique way, like for example, like you’re doing a wedding on a chair with your shirt on, that’s fine.
David Ralph [58:57]
hit the fan. The fans still working If I move in a different position, it will go all the way around the back and upper back as well. It’s a
Simone Vincenzi [59:08]
revealing they say their secrets.
David Ralph [59:10]
Yeah. You don’t want to know any more than that. Listen as well. This is the end of the show. So there’s only one thing to say to you, sir, is what’s the number one best way that our audience can connect with you?
Simone Vincenzi [59:21]
number one best way is through my website www.gx.org.uk. Or you can connect with me connect with me on Facebook. I’m always doing Facebook Lives. So it would be great to see
David Ralph [59:36]
you there. We will have all the links in the show notes. Simone Vincenzi Thank you so much for spending time with us today. joining up those dots. Please come back again, when you have more dots to join up because I do believe that by joining up the dots and connecting our past it’s the best way to build our futures. Simone Vicenzi. Thank you so much.
Simone Vincenzi [59:55]
Thank you, David. It’s been a blast.
David Ralph [1:00:02]
money they chinzy I liked him a deal. I’ll tell you why, as I say, get some drinks down him What kind of stories again, come out of him. They were bizarre when they were bizarre but hugely entertaining. And that was the sort of, I suppose the thread of the whole show. But you can just free yourself from your self image. And you can just be be yourself and create success. And that’s what he’s done. He’s doing things his own way. He’s enjoying himself. He’s networking, he’s hustling. And it’s been a bit of a rocket for him really, for years to do what he’s done has been remarkable, especially when he couldn’t speak English very well at the beginning and he had those mental barriers to hold himself back. So if you have mental barriers, if you are out there thinking it’s not possible, believe me, you listen to this episode once or twice and you will hear two people that literally are having the time of their lives and doing great stuff and enjoying themselves and getting paid very well to so have a lovely day. Whatever you’re doing. If you want any sort of, um feedback, if you want any help in any shape or form, connect with us, send us an email through or connect with us on Twitter. I’ll respond to everything. love to know what you think about the shows, I’d love to know where you listen to them. And we will see you again very, very shortly. Thanks very much guys. Cheers. Bye.
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