Welcome to the Join Up Dots Business Coaching Podcast With Brad Yates Tapping Expert
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Introducing Brad Yates
Brad Yates is my guest today on the Steve Jobs inspired Join Up Dots business coaching podcast.
Brad is a man who has built a very unusual business, after travelling a very unusual path.
He is the author of the best-selling children’s book “The Wizard’s Wish,”
The co-author of the best-seller “Freedom at Your Fingertips,”
And of course has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows.
He is an expert in tapping, which is something that I had never heard off until recently, but has many many followers and practitioners around the world.
To Brad Yates tapping is the key to a world of change and improvement that can quite simply change lives.
What Actually Is Tapping Then?
Tapping, also known as EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), is a powerful holistic healing technique.
It has been proven to effectively resolve a range of issues, including stress, anxiety, phobias, emotional disorders.
Even chronic pain, addiction, weight control, and limiting beliefs, just to name a few.
Tapping therapy is based on the combined principles of ancient Chinese acupressure and modern psychology.
Tapping with the fingertips on specific meridian endpoints of the body, while focusing on negative emotions or physical sensations.
This simple process helps to calm the nervous system, rewire the brain to respond in healthier ways, and restore the body’s balance of energy.
For example according to Brad Yates tapping for anxiety is simply a no brainer that has to be tried.
But Brad isn’t just about a history based around medical practices.
As intriguingly he is also a graduate of Ringling Bros. & Barnum & Bailey Clown College, where he was selected to be the emcee and a featured performer in the final show under the “Big Top.” :•)
So how did a man go from this point to where he is today, helping people around the world overcome financial issues, heath issues and a wide range of symptoms?
And is this something that was obvious to him, or did he fall into it like so many of our other guests who has appeared on the show?
Well lets find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Mr Brad Yates.
During the show we discussed such weighty topics with Brad Yates such as:
Brad shares how 95% of the things that bother us in life will lead to stress.
We talk about issues which can be alleviated by practising the tapping technique he teaches.
We discuss how he has created a global YouTube following simply by recording a video and then another.
Now there are amazingly 700 plus to view. You have to start somewhere.
He recalls how people saw the moment that he left his acting career as a step in the wrong direction.
Not many supported him as he began work on his new venture
We discuss the abundance that is found in the world today.
How we can all create businesses whilst still creating amazing livings for ourselves.
Nothing should stop us starting.
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Audio Transcription Of Brad Yates Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. join up dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK David Ralph
David Ralph [0:24]
Good morning, everybody.
Good morning, and welcome to join up dots. I tell you Well, I’ll tell you what this is this is. I feel inspired today. I don’t know why. I’ve been recording that was upon hours upon hours upon hours and hours and hours. But I just love it so much, but the energy just never stops. And that’s as we keep on saying is something that you’ve got to be very aware of in your own life. If you’re listening to the podcast, and you’re going to a job and you’re just so exhausted by the end of the day. You really got to look at it closely and think to yourself, Am I in the right place? Am I doing the right thing? Well, today’s get he’s quite obviously doing the right thing. And he is a man who has built a very unusual business after traveling a very unusual path is the author of the best selling children’s book the wizards wish to co author of the best seller freedom at your fingertips, a featured expert in the film The tapping solution, and has been heard internationally on a number of internet radio talk shows now, he’s an expert in tapping, which is something that I’ve never heard of until recently, but has many many followers and practitioners around the world. Tapping, also known as EFT Emotional Freedom Techniques is a powerful holistic healing technique that has been proven to effectively resolve a range of issues including stress, anxiety, phobias, emotional disorders, chronic pain, addiction, weight control, and limiting beliefs to name just a few. Now tapping therapy is based on the combined principles of ancient Chinese acupuncture, and modern psychology, tapping with the fingertips on specific meridian and points of the body, while focusing on negative emotions or physical sense, helps to calm the nervous system, rewire the brain to respond in healthier ways, and restore the body’s balance of energy. But this guy isn’t just about a history based of our medical practices. As intriguingly he’s also a graduate of bring this boss and Barnum and Bailey clown College, where he was selected to be the emcee and a featured performer in the final show under the big top. So how did a man go from this point to where he is today? Helping people around the world overcome financial issues, health issues, and a wide range of symptoms? And this is something that was obvious to him, or did he fall into it like so many of our other guests who have appeared on the show? Well, let’s find out as we bring on to the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Mr. Brad. Yay. Good morning, Mr. Yes.
Brad Yates [2:45]
Hello, David. Thanks for having me on the show.
David Ralph [2:47]
It’s great to have you here. It is lovely to have you here. I’m going to get straight to it. I’ve never heard of tapping until a couple of days ago. Why am I’d never heard it?
Brad Yates [2:56]
Well, you know, we’re certainly a lot of us are doing our darndest to, to get it out there and being used by all kinds of people in all kinds of fields, Olympic athletes, professional athletes, be psychologist doctors, but it’s still still a little bit on the on the fringe. So not everyone knows about it yet.
David Ralph [3:17]
And the easiest one of those things because I I come from a kind of, it’s a weird, I’m a closed off open minded kind of soul. I look at something and my first thought is, this is strange. And then after about 30 seconds, I think I can see the point of it. But my initial is always I don’t see how this is gonna work. My wife on the other side, she’s 100% closed off, and she can never see how anything works. So is that the kind of audience that you’re dealing with? Yeah, very
Brad Yates [3:45]
often, even even as you were describing tapping in the introduction. Part of my mind says, Yeah, that just sounds crazy. And it definitely looks a little strange be tapping on one’s face. But I you know, as you said, I’m a graduate of Ringling Brothers clown college. So when I learned EFT, it was not the strangest thing I’ve ever done. I was more open to it.
David Ralph [4:08]
Can you juggle? Can you drive a car that falls apart? Can you squirt water out? You have a pail? Can you do all those things? I can juggle a little bit and I haven’t tried out. But I was able to ride a unicycle for a while. I’d love to juggle that’s one of those things I can I can do most things, but I just love to get some balls in the air and impress my friends. I will I was at work once and a guy said, Oh, I can juggle. And we said can you? And he said yeah, I can do five things. And we went really? And so we saw the grab lights, staplers and different things in the office. And he could he could do five and that that impressed me more than anything I’ve ever seen in my life.
Brad Yates [4:50]
I can only do three and and not for very long. It’s been a long time since I’ve really practice. It’s one of those things. You got it you got to keep up with
David Ralph [4:57]
Obama as a young man. I was very impressive Baywatch. When I used to watch it on a Saturday evening, I’ll be honest. So um, we won’t go there impressed. We won’t go there. But I tell you what, when I was a young man, I would have done, I would have done if the wife wasn’t around, I would have gone straight there. So looking at your career, I’m fascinated how you’ve got to where you are? Because Is it a master plan? Is it something but I can’t join up the dots off because most people that come on the show, you can literally join up the dots you can see happening. But with yours, it’s quite difficult.
Brad Yates [5:35]
Oh, no, in kindergarten, I was telling people someday I’m gonna grow up and I’m going to tap on my face for a living. Now, it’s, it’s been very interesting in how I I’ve just found something that I’m interested in, I go for it. And until it’s like going down one road until something catches my eye and I decide, oh, that’s where I’m supposed to be. And yeah, it definitely has not been as linear as one would think. But I have always trusted that I’ll be taken where I meant to go. And so looking back, I can definitely see where each piece led up to the next one.
David Ralph [6:13]
So So let’s talk about it, obviously, because there’s going to be so many people out there are thinking, twofold. Number one, what is it really? And secondly, how do you build a business around it? With the kind of closed off mindset, but I expressed earlier? So is it just tapping on the face? Is it tapping on the hands? Is it tapping on the knees? Where Where? Where is it best done?
Brad Yates [6:34]
There are? Well, as you said, it’s based on acupuncture, which has been around for thousands of years. And there are these points all around the body. So in traditional acupuncture, they may stick needles in points all over the place, when for instance, when my wife was pregnant, this even before I learned about tapping, my first introduction to acupuncture was my wife was pregnant. And our daughter was transverse breech. And we went into acupuncture to see if that would help. And it didn’t cheap turned and was able to have a normal birth. But they had needles in my wife’s feet and in our head. So there are all kinds of places that you could tap, we tend to just tap on the face, the torso and all on the hand.
David Ralph [7:23]
Right. So which is the best place for somebody to do it is it sort of doing on the pain because I imagine that’s more subtle than standing there tapping your own face.
Brad Yates [7:34]
It definitely depends on where you are, there are points, you can tap on the fingertips or just on the side of the hand that if you’re in a in a situation where you don’t want to be calling attention to yourself by tapping on your face, then there are definitely more subtle ways to do it. And of the eight major points that we tend to tap in around when we’re doing the process. One, you may find that there’s one particular point that you feel you feel drawn to tapping very often folks will tap just the collarbone point, or, you know, maybe the side of the eye, you can also hold the points and rub them. I’ve been in situations where I just held the side of the eye and rubbed it in a lot of people do that they just rub their temples and so it looks pretty normal.
David Ralph [8:21]
Now I have particularly bad sinuses always have done is always been a problem that half the time I’m blocked out. And the other time It feels like I’m being murdered by a pillow by my wife. So is this something that could sort of clear my sinuses
Brad Yates [8:37]
they’re all kinds of benefits to tapping and physical ones are very common. And I’ve definitely there definitely been plenty of times where people have talked about feeling their sinuses clearing all kinds of different things, aches and pains disappearing. And it doesn’t always happen immediately. But sometimes it happened very quickly that these things shift.
David Ralph [8:59]
Now one of my big problems Brad and I hope you can help me with this is I get podcasters buttocks I sitting recording, so many episodes might start to really do I just need the wife to massage firm, or do I need to go to a special place? Or can I just tap myself and feel energy from getting through my politics?
Brad Yates [9:21]
Well, if you can get your wife to tap on your buttocks, that might be very great solution. You can also just take breaks and stand up once in a while. But absolutely tapping can help clear out all kinds of things going on in the muscles. Because what we’re doing with the tapping is we’re clearing out stress, so we’re deregulating or down down regulating stress. And like 95% of the things that bother us physical and or emotional are either caused or worsened by stress. So as we do the tapping, and we lower stress those other symptoms dissipate.
David Ralph [10:03]
So can we do a sort of a master class for somebody sitting there at their desk listening to this? And we say, if you start tapping any part of your body you will feel something? Or is does it not work like that? Do you have to be strategic to what you’re doing. But the symptoms and one of
Brad Yates [10:18]
the great things about tapping is there so many ways to get benefit from it. Obviously, there’s a there’s a formal kind of round, where we start off by tapping on the side of the hand and stating what the issue is, you know, even though my buttocks are hurting, choose to love and accept myself, even though I’ve got this pain in my butt, I used to love and honor myself. And then we would tap through these eight or nine points, saying this pain in my butt this pain in my butt. And we could be talking about sore buttocks, or we could be talking about somebody at work, or a political figure, whatever might, whatever you’re paying the button might be. And, and going through that. But the great thing about tapping is that the process works. I believe it’s always working. Sometimes the effects are very subtle, you know. So it’s like if you’re trying to get in shape and your way out of shape. And you decide, well, I want to have a six pack. And you decide I’m going to do sit ups, you do three sit ups, and then you look and go oh, you know, I don’t have hardcore six pack, obviously sit ups don’t work. Yeah, some. So with tapping, it’s often that same kind of thing where it takes some persistence. But very often, we can just start tapping one point. In one, we’re feeling some discomfort, and just tapping and any of these points like under the eye, the collarbone point. And we’re going to start to feel relief from start to feel better when I’ve been
David Ralph [11:48]
tapping my right eye as we’ve been doing it. And I don’t know, how long do I need to do it for before I feel anything? And when it gets sore? Well, I actually make myself sore.
Brad Yates [11:59]
Yeah, so it’s a self care process. So we want to be tapping so hard that, that we hurt ourselves. I had a guy who’s come to a number of my workshops, who is a martial artist, and he just really hits himself hard. But he can take it. But But in general, we want to we want to do it in a much more gentle way. And you know how long it takes depends on so many factors? Because it depends on what’s going on. behind it. So sometimes as I said, we we experienced huge results very quickly. Sometimes it’s much more subtle, like, like doing the sit ups and it’s going to take some more persistence. And you know, but it but obviously, if it gets to the point where it’s hurting, I would say Stop. Don’t Don’t keep hitting where it’s sore.
David Ralph [12:46]
I since I was a young man, I keep on going for the same parts of my body. And I never I never worried about it, right? I never, I never worried about it. And so I shouldn’t I should have learned I should have learned from that. So just struck me as you were talking is the fact that how do you build a business around this? If people can just do it themselves?
Brad Yates [13:10]
Yeah, certainly. And when, when you give so much of it away for free on YouTube, yet, it does make it a curious thing. And that’s, that’s one of those places where the the dots joined up, because when YouTube came around, and I had this training as an actor, that was my background, when I went to clown college is when I was an actor in Los Angeles. So to use that medium of video was a natural step. And I have hundreds of videos on there. So it’s like, Okay, well, if I give it all away for free, how do I make money, but there is working with me privately where I can talk to someone and really find out you know, what is this pain in your butt? What’s going on there and help them get to the root of the issue? Then Mattson added value that you can’t get from video and there are plenty of people who who know the benefits who see the difference that it makes, and are willing to pay, you know, decent money for that. And then I do live workshops where people come it’s it’s it’s like the videos are the music songs to play on the radio, but some people want to go to the live concert.
David Ralph [14:22]
Oh, I like that. That’s a good way of explaining it. And so what what’s what’s been your biggest audience for a live tapping session?
Brad Yates [14:30]
Oh, the largest audience is probably I jack Canfield had me come up on his stage at breakthrough to success to teach EFT. And there were several hundred people by 500, something like that people they’re usually the largest audiences are get are in London, because I’m, that’s my my biggest fan bases in London. Go figure?
David Ralph [14:53]
Well, I’m intrigued Why? Because I worked in London many, many years. I was in London last Friday night. And they don’t seem to be somebody that or a group that would look at that as something interesting to have it. It was more about getting down the pub in the evenings and the afternoons in the mornings more than anything. Well being
Brad Yates [15:17]
well, there’s this thing called law of attraction David and it’s the people that you attract to you. So you know, there’s a lot of
a lot of people in London. So it depends on the ones that you’re meeting, I happen to attract the ones who who liked happening. And I mean, I’m going to be there just in a few days, I’ll be up on stage and in London doing an event and one of my largest events I’ve done. And it’s I part of it may be that when I was an actor I studied in London, I lived there for a while, and fell in love with it and still feels like my second home. So I think that I have a particular energy and energetic connection to London. And so that’s possibly why why do so well there,
David Ralph [15:58]
and then do audiences different across the world for these kind of things.
Brad Yates [16:03]
They do in in in some ways. But now To be honest, all of my world tours have been to English speaking countries, this trip coming up is the first time that I’m actually going to be doing workshops in countries where English is not the preferred language. That’ll be interesting. But for the most part, yeah, the folks who come and pretty much everyone who comes to my events are ones who have seen me on YouTube. And so they’re their fans and followers. And so they’re, they’re engaged, and they’re having a good time. So for the most part, they’re very, very similar in that
David Ralph [16:38]
now I’ve been doing a bit of sort of research, as I say, because once you connected with the show, I thought I’d never heard of this before. And I did, I discovered our friend jack Mr. can build and he was talking and waxing lyrical about it. And then there was a guy, Nick, I seem to remember. And he seems to have taken it to a really big level is like it very big business that he’s got. You know, this gentleman?
Brad Yates [17:03]
Oh, absolutely. I was Nick started by doing the film The tapping solution. And I was an expert. In fact, that’s where I first met jack Canfield was we were both being filmed the same day for for that film. And then Nick has then gone on to do a summit each year, the tapping World Summit, where he has a series of experts on and so we just did the 10th year, and I’ve been on. I’ve been one of the speakers who’s been on all 10 years. And it is remarkable how, Nick, he’s been a very good businessman with his his whole family is involved in the business and has really taken it to a huge level.
David Ralph [17:42]
But let’s play some words. And then we’re going to delve back into how you created your business. Because of course, that’s the fundamental reason why you’re on the show. Here’s Jim Carrey,
Jim Carrey [17:53]
my father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice in said he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love
David Ralph [18:19]
the following on from those words, Brad, is this your thing? Is this the thing that you love? Is this sort of connected to those words from Jim?
Brad Yates [18:28]
Oh, absolutely. So as I said, I had been an actor when I was in high school is when I first started acting, and thought that that’s what that I was meant to do. went to college to get a degree in drama, I studied acting in London, joined a theatre company and toured around the world actually doing theatre went to Hollywood to be a movie star. I thought that was it. And it was along the way. Actually, when I was in LA, I met my wife, and we got married. And when she was pregnant with our first child, I thought, you know, I probably ought to have a backup career. And instead of getting a sort of normal job, I trained to become a hypnotherapist, because I’d always been fascinated by the power of the mind. And it was doing that. And then when our second child was on the way I thought, you know, I’m actually this is actually what feels like my calling, I could never have anticipated it. But I was loving working with people overcoming their blocks and changing their lives. And so decided to move on and make that my career. It was shortly afterwards that I was introduced to EFT and started introducing that into my hypnosis sessions and fell in love with it, and that it really did feel like this is really the passion. And it was funny because with actors, actors get very stuck in, in the career and understandably, if it’s, that’s what you’re calling is great. But if you if you leave, they say Oh, so you’re quitting, and I’m like, No, I found what I’m supposed to be doing. Because as much as I loved acting, it was never the same experience that I have when I’m working with someone, and I’m helping them see things in a different way and seeing themselves in a different way. So I love every minute of the work that I do.
David Ralph [20:21]
And this is connect to the young bride this I used to ask this question all the time, because the strapline of the show is, you know, connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. But when you start doing something that you naturally think is your thing, more often than not, is the kind of thing that you would have done when you was a small kid anyway. So were you that kind of child.
Brad Yates [20:42]
Yeah, like I said earlier, I knew from a child that I was going to be tapping on my face. So I you know, it’s hard, it’s hard to say because the tapping is it wasn’t around at that time. It wasn’t anything that I knew. But there were definitely times in my life that I you I in the way that I do the tapping, there’s a create a certain amount of creativity. And so I was being creative in different ways. I was a cartoonist, which led to me, writing the children’s book, the wizards, which which I also illustrated, there’s all kinds of different things where I can look at aspects of my career, the the videos that I’ve done, and the humor that’s in there and looking back at clown college, and even much earlier comedies that I had, that I had done, and and a certain intuitive that that came up at different times when I would talk to friends about things that were going on. So while I could never have foreseen, making a living of tapping on my face on YouTube, it was there were definitely definitely little, little things where it’s like, oh, yeah, I can see where that was a spark.
David Ralph [21:55]
What fascinates me about yourself, and I suppose what fascinates me with every single guest, is the fact that they have this idea. And it’s not even an idea. It’s just almost like a feeling. And they’re drawn towards something, when it’s just in their head. Literally everything that they do is creating it from scratch, before it even becomes anything that somebody can look at and go, Oh, yes, I can see what you’re doing. How did you push through that? early days, when literally, you’re making it up as you go along?
Brad Yates [22:29]
Well, I’d love to say that it was all done with grace and panache. But we’re definitely
especially especially for my wife is saying, Honey, I’m going to make a career tapping on my face. and support our family this way. And,
David Ralph [22:53]
he thinks he was made.
Brad Yates [22:56]
Well, to be fair, she met me when I was an actor, so she knew I was mad from the big.
You know, there was she loved me enough to have faith. And now that I’m taking her to on trips to Europe, and Australia and things like that, you know, she’s feeling better about having that had that faith in me.
David Ralph [23:15]
And then what was the journey of, you know, the time scales between getting something that was just your thing to actually it being recognized as a business being your career? Because I do think so many people think that there’s a quick get quick, rich scheme going on, which is never the case.
Brad Yates [23:35]
Yeah, now, it’s, and I couldn’t even really foresee it when I first started. I mean, certainly, as an actor, it’s not a, that’s not a simple career to go into. And there’s no Oh, you do this, and this, and this. And now you have a good job where you make plenty of money and have job security. There was so from the get go, I was I was drawn to those things that were a little bit different. And I was very fortunate in that my dad had stepped away from what had been expected of him and his family business. And so he had told me from the beginning, you know, what do you want to do be who you want to be do what you want to do. So I’m very blessed, and that I had that kind of nurturing. And, you know, and then just kind of followed along. So when, for instance, when I started doing the tapping around 2000, around 2003, or four is when I first started putting things on the internet, and having programs there. And then 2007 when I did my first tapping video, and that was all I ever intend to do was one tapping video, I thought, hey, this YouTube thing looks interesting, I could come up with a video that people could start their day with, and Wouldn’t that be great, and that would be fun. And, and I got that up there. And that was all I ever intended to do. And I start I had no master plan of, yes, YouTube is going to introduce me to thousands of people around the world. But, but then six months later, I thought of another idea for a video, and then another one. And then over a decade, there’s over 700 of them. And in that time, the numbers of people who’ve watched have grown and have gone from being some obscure guy in Sacramento tapping on a face to be known by people around the world.
David Ralph [25:23]
I find it unbelievable, really, but you can come up with 700 different ways of tackling. I think I would struggle on about four I’d be drawing.
Brad Yates [25:33]
You know, I sometimes when I when I look at the numbers and see how many videos there are, I’m like, how, what, what on earth am I saying and those because I certainly don’t remember all 700 of them. But I still have long list and it’s just covering all kinds of different things that come up from people, you know, why? why they wouldn’t feel comfortable having money, why they might be feeling grief about something motivated video, so it’s all different nuances and different ways of looking at it. And it’s just coming from that where where people are with, you know, I want to feel good, but I’m not feeling good right now. And, and coming up with a way of saying All right, let’s talk about that. And let’s tap on our face while we do it. Because in the tapping we’re clearing out the stress that keeps us stuck in a certain pattern and we clear that stress out and and there’s a new way to look at things. So you know, there’s all kinds of different nuances. I could take almost any issue and do multiple different rounds because there’s so many different ways of talking about it
David Ralph [26:37]
at home and in life. Are you just absolutely carefree because I could imagine being an expert at teaching people how to be stress free as soon as you have a moment where you are a bit ratty to say least people were pointing fingers at you and guys say see you tapping person that it doesn’t work.
Brad Yates [26:57]
I have perfect equanimity 24 473 hundred and 65 David I am the
totals know I definitely have my moat and there are times. You know, fortunately, I you know, I’ve been doing this long enough that it occurs to me to tap but I you know, I’m still human. And there are times where it’s like, I don’t want to tap I want to be in a snip. Fortunately, I tend to move out of that and, and then you know, blissfully I’ll have a tele class or a client call. And so, in working with my clients, I’ll be tapping on my face while they’re tapping on theirs and I’ll start clearing that stuff and shall be forced to come out of my bad mood.
David Ralph [27:40]
I tell you what gets me out of my bad mood. I’m not in a bad mood very often. But what I like to do is basically strip down naked except for my underpants, and then pull the sides of my underpants up really tight. So it looks like I’m a sumo wrestler. And they dance around in front of my wife. She She hates it. I love it. Yeah, I bring music into it where I go Sumo. Sumo. Sumo. Sumo. Sumo. And it’s just this, this chant, but I do, as I’m leaping up and down, that’s gotta be a business. And then I created something that people can do in the office, they can do in traffic jams, it really, really stressed them. I,
you know, I,
Brad Yates [28:21]
we all have our coping mechanisms. And I believe there’s a There are over 8 billion, over 7 billion people on the planet. And I’m sure that there are enough people who would find that, that beneficial that you could probably make a very good business of it. And so I go ahead and do what I do. And start out by making a video of you doing that and see where that goes. That’s what I’m going
David Ralph [28:42]
to do. I’m going to be the Bible Sumo the boys myself as well as it’s going to be amazing. This is going to be my face a good point that you might bright but but there are 8 billion people on the planet. And the fact that you’re here, doing this tapping, somebody could look at this and go, this is what I want to do. And it won’t affect you at all. I seem to feel that there is a vibe that people have to create a new thing all the time. But there’s other people podcasting and it makes not a blind bit of difference to my livelihood at all. It’s it’s a brilliant way of connecting with something that’s already working by seeing how people are doing it.
Brad Yates [29:21]
Absolutely. And there are different ways of doing it. It’s not like there’s, like you said with the podcast, it’s not like there’s one way of doing podcast. And you know, and with tapping, Nick does it differently than then if when jack doing tapping, or my friends, Carol, or any anyone who’s a tapping expert, it’s like music. I always look at this as music. And there are there are different genres of music, there are different instruments that are played. And there are people who play them differently. You know, so one person could say, you know, Eric Clapton is the best guitar player, but someone else might say, Well, I think Keith Richards the best guitar player. It’s not like the Rolling Stones said, Oh, we could do this rock and roll thing. Oh, shoot, these guys called The Beatles are already doing it. Obviously, we’re not going to be able to make music.
David Ralph [30:10]
Well, I love about what you’re doing. And what I love about everyone is in its simplicity is you’re being selfish, you’re being selfish, you’re actually doing something that is right for you. And you’re not listening to what your parents might have told you importantly, your dad gave you a gift, which was amazing. But I do think, and I want people to be more selfish to think it’s my life. I’m on this planet. Let’s do something that’s right for me.
Brad Yates [30:39]
Yeah. Another thing my Ted taught me early on was, there’s no such thing as a completely altruistic act. We’re always getting something from it, even if we are, if what we’re doing seems completely self sacrificing. There is something in us that says, Well, I get to feel good. If I’m self sacrifice, I get to feel that I’m a righteous person, or I’m a holy person, or whatever it is, we always get some benefit out of it. So we can kid ourselves about it. It’s funny, because I will have people comment on my YouTube channel, you are such a giving person. You’re so altruistic, it’s like, No, you don’t understand I love this. For one, it’s fun for me, but to I know the difference that it makes, I get to hear from people who say, you know, oh, you have no idea what a difference this is made. To me, this has saved my life, this is changed everything for me. And that’s rewarding. So I get all kinds of rewards. And it’s it’s one of those things where it’s great, because it’s a win win situation. There are plenty of people who are doing selfish things where it’s win, lose, I get to feel great. And it screws the other person over. This is I’m very blessed to have found something where when it’s working for me, it’s working for other people too.
David Ralph [31:50]
Well, I’m not sure because I feel great on the podcast, I feel great telling these stories, but I always worry about people eating their breakfast now thinking of me dancing around the well depends, am I sending out the right message
Unknown Speaker [32:04]
may be a very valid concerns.
David Ralph [32:07]
I don’t know if you’ll have time to go back and edit that part out. But, you know, and here’s the thing is because you can’t you never know because some people are going to be upset by certain things. I you know, I, I still get a share of comments on YouTube of people saying, This is crazy. Or I got one the other day where someone said, You’re not my dad, that’s like, you know, I’m not. And if you don’t like this, don’t go watch someone else’s video. I had an email, and I might have mentioned this on to the show, but it was bizarre. And this guy connected with me. And he basically said, David, I have been following the teachings of Lucifer. And now I see you as my leader. And basically, it was the if you’re listening me it was the ramblings of a madman. But um, I always remember that because it was one of the first kind strange things but I got joined up to that point, it was all positive all the time. And then from that point on, I get more horrible things sent to me when nice things is really weird. And I’ve spoken to other podcasters and I say yeah, people are more likely to say horrible things but nice beings. And it is true in life, isn’t it? We we tell people when we’re not happy, but we don’t often go into a shop and say, brilliant service well done. We just kind of take it as expected.
Brad Yates [33:28]
Well, certainly a lot of people do. It’s because there’s a culture around that and and even more so now with the internet with the the anonymity of the internet, people are feeling more freedom to come out and say the horrible things that are going on. And it’s because they’re in pain. So this is why I do what I do and put it out for free on YouTube is trying to help people get through the pain and clear that pain that causes them to lash out at people. So when I get a negative comment on YouTube, I’m like, okay, you’re probably someone who really needs this. And, and it’s probably the people who do it are the people who are the most resistant because they’re afraid that their lives could change. And they don’t know what to make of that. Because if someone’s just not interested, they’ll just move on. And and when you’re putting yourself out there, yeah, the more you put yourself out there, with 7 billion people on the planet. There are some people out there who are upset and disturbed and many who are mentally ill. And you’re going to, you’re going to reach some of those people, and they’re gonna, they’re gonna say hi, yes, I found you.
David Ralph [34:38]
And do you ever go back to them and say, you know, tapping our give you tapping? It’d be the hardest tapping you’ve ever read? Or do you just kill with kindness? I,
Brad Yates [34:48]
you know, it’s a learned to, to pick my battles. And there are definitely times where where I would love to respond that way. But, you know, I Dad, I have to tap through that and recognize they’re in pain. And unless I have something that I can offer that I know will be beneficial, or that I think they might be open to I just move along and and let them have their rant.
David Ralph [35:14]
Yeah, that’s what I do. I just go in doors and kick the kids around, I can always get it out of my system in some way, is easy targets, they don’t move very quick. Especially now they’ve got tablets in front of them, they can’t even see me coming. Just go through them. Like a kind of a stealth, stealth is there was something and I just came through the furniture and bang.
Brad Yates [35:39]
Well, you could do that. Or you could do the sumo dance in front of them. You know, there’s all kinds of thing my kids are adults now. So you know,
I just have to say, you know, let’s tap.
David Ralph [35:50]
And then away they go. So let’s play some words. Now, just before we’re getting to the end of the show, really. But we have to listen to these words, because they created the whole format of join up dots in a roundabout way. So let’s see him again, Steve Jobs.
Steve Jobs [36:03]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards. 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [36:37]
I never get fed up with those Brad literally every day I listen to him now never get fed up with him.
Brad Yates [36:42]
Yeah, no, it’s, it’s brilliantly put.
David Ralph [36:45]
And so I always ask this question, so you’re going to get it as well. But what is your big moment? When you look back on everything that’s led you here?
Unknown Speaker [36:54]
Brad Yates [36:57]
there have been,
you know, it, I can’t think of one particular blinding light moment where it’s like, Ah, this is where it changes everything. It was, you know, the may have been the moment when I decided, you know, I should get a I should get a backup career and look at something other than acting. I, it could be the moment that I decided to, to be an actor, rather than studying something that would create a a normal job, that wouldn’t be entirely satisfying. It could be the moment that I decided to try making a YouTube video. But it’s it’s like this one, long stretched out of making these these interesting choices that just open new doors. It’s like walking through a hallway and opening different doors like Oh, that looks like an interesting door, and not knowing what’s going to be there. And and then it leads to something else. And so is it is it just as simple as that every every single day, we’re creating dots just by getting up and doing stuff. You certainly I mean, we’re if we’re if we’re open to it and opening doors now. It’s not like every door is going to there’s going to be you know, oh, there’s a million dollars behind here. And certainly some of the doors we we crack open and certainly pull it shut again and lock it real quick. You know, I can certainly there have been certainly plenty of missteps that I’ve taken and realized, Oh, that was wrong. But I think if we, if we allow ourselves to trust our gut, I you know, I love the the comment from Miles Davis, he said, don’t be afraid of making mistakes, there are none. Because, you know, so much of his great music was created out of him making a quote unquote, mistake and thinking, Wow, that sounds really great. And leading to that. So it’s allowing ourselves to have that, that faith as much as possible. And, you know, so I use it for me, it’s been so much with it, using the tapping to clear my own fear that I’ve become more and more open and taking more chances and tried more things then that I would that I would have much earlier on.
David Ralph [39:12]
So before we send you back in time bread on the Sermon on the mic to have a one on one with your younger self. What what’s going forward for you same as you’re doing now, have you got bigger and bigger plans?
Brad Yates [39:25]
Well, I yeah, it’s just wanting to share this work more and more like you mentioned with Nick and there’s so we’re all just trying to lead more and more folks know about I mean, the fact that you were saying you didn’t know hadn’t heard of this until a few days ago, even though it’s out there so much. So there’s a lot of people who have not yet been reached and the benefits are so tremendous nine I understand that it’s it’s weird when you first see it, but I said professional athletes, people at the highest levels of achievement, finding that it that it works, I’ve worked with rock stars and stuff. So it’s wanting to get it out there, you’ve more and an entrepreneur, one of my things is one day I want to be presenting tapping the Royal Albert Hall. That’s one of my big goals. I reckon you could do it. And you could have like 100 tap dancers behind you
David Ralph [40:13]
coming down the staircase. That would be brilliant when
Brad Yates [40:19]
I hadn’t thought of that. But thank you there, you know, there’s a while there’s dots, it’s connecting up. And then there was that time I was on David show, and he gave me that idea.
David Ralph [40:27]
And we go back to that’s your next YouTube video, we’re into the eight hundreds now we’ve always stack is never going to dry out is going to be perfect. Well, this is the bit of the show that we’ve been leading up to. And this is the part that we call the Sermon on the mic when we send you back in time to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time and speak to the young Brad, what advice would you give? Well, we’re going to find out, because I’m going to play the theme tune. And when it fades, you’re up, this is the Sermon on the mic.
Brad Yates [41:17]
So here’s the deal, you have more faith in your potential in, in believing that there’s, there’s more to you than what is readily apparent. If something takes more than five minutes to get it right, you still have the chance that it’s going to that’s going to go right with practice, that you’re going to get better at something and don’t simply rely on those things that come naturally. Because there’s, there’s a lot of things that have come naturally. And you can probably get far just using those. But there’s so much else that’s possible. Don’t Don’t give up on something that takes a little more work that takes a little bit more effort that doesn’t that doesn’t come so easily. Don’t give up on the guitar simply because it’s hard. Because sticking with it sticking with something and practicing those things and making those so called mistakes. That doesn’t mean you’re a failure. If you don’t get it right, right off the bat, it just means that it’s taking more practice and be willing to make those mistakes, to get the reward that comes further on.
David Ralph [42:27]
Great advice. Great advice for everybody out there. So bread for the people who have been listening today, what’s the number one best way that they can connect with you?
Brad Yates [42:34]
best way is at my website, tap with brad.com. You can also go on YouTube and put in Brad Yates if you put in tapping, you’ll probably find one or two of my videos will come up.
David Ralph [42:48]
Perfect. So Brad, thank you so much for spending time with us today. Join me up those dots. And please come back again when you got more dots to join up. Because I do believe that by joining up the dots and connecting our past and the best way to build our futures. Mr. Brad Yates, thank you so much.
Brad Yates [43:04]
Thank you, David. It’s been great being on your show.
David Ralph [43:08]
Mr. Brad Yates. So he’s created something that is an online platform, on YouTube and through podcast. But also he can take it offline is a kind of hybrid. But there’s a positivity behind it. And I said to him, I love what you’re doing. Because there’s no cynicism. It’s just good stuff going out to people and you can either take it or leave it you can either say yeah, that’s great. I’m want to find out more or no, it’s not something for me. He is traveling the world. So if you’re doing something out there and you think that there’s a marketplace for it, there will be a marketplace and you’ve just got to find how that is stretched across the globe. Because more often than not there are people everywhere looking for the things that you are ready to offer. And that is how you build a business. Thank you so much as always for listening to this episode of joint enough Dotson until the next time. That was your host David Ralph saying thanks for listening. Cheers. See ya.
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