Do you find yourself screaming “I don’t have time” over and over again each day?
Actually I don’t need to ask the question as time, or the absence of time is an epidemic.
We are getting up earlier and earlier.
We are staying up long past the time our ancestors would have drifted off to bed.
Yet, we still look at our watches, phones, pc’s whatever and stress “I don’t have time for this”.
So what can we do about it?
How can we reclaim the time we have available and become stress free and relaxed?
That my young padawans is where we come in.
Through everything we do at Join Up Dots we have mastered the use of time, to maximum effect and never (ok, not never…rarely) ever shout those words in anguish.
Ready to become the Jedi of time management the Join Up Dots way?
The First Reason We Shout “I Don’t Have Time”
Come on face it we do all have the time.
What we don’t have is the ability to make the time work for us.
If you look at the uber successful of the world aka Bransons, Jobs, Buffett they don’t have extra time.
They are still on the 24 hours a day (take away eight hours sleep and four hours Netflix) time restrictions.
What they have mastered is they do what they should be doing with the time available.
So a question for you (and there will be a lot of questions on this page) how many times can you squeeze in a few hours because free tickets for The Rolling Stones have just been offered?
Isn’t it amazing when a friend has spare space for a weekend snowboarding in Whistler, Canada that we can suddenly find days of time.
What do these things have in common? (see i told you there would be more questions!)
They all have the commonality that we would like to do them.
We jump all over them because they are free, enjoyable and it’s the ROLLING STONES for gods sake.
Anything we enjoy we do, anything we don’t want to do we use the excuse that “I Dont have Time”.
Weekends with your Mother In law…….I Don’t Have Time
Shopping for that new bedspread and wardrobes….I Don’t Have Time.
Get my drift.
Just say that you don’t want to do it, and don’t blame old father time because it’s not his fault for sure.
The Second Reason It’s Become An Issue
Time management isn’t a tool no matter how many people tell you.
The world is full of time management experts, showing you the way to get those extra seconds.
Neen is a fun, energetic delightful person for sure, but still her tools are useless if we haven’t decided that we actually have a problem.
We need to want to make a change to truly deliver that change.
It’s the accepting that we have to make better use of the time that we have which is the key.
I would suggest that the world is in-denial as to what they can comfortably manage to do each day.
The ability to connect to the internet on trains, planes, hotels rooms even toilets means we think we can do so much more than we can.
However actually what we end up doing is a producing a very poor performance.
We allow the time squeeze to deliver inferior work which is of course a problem.
Raise your standards, understand that a quiet room with 100% focus on a task is the way forward to the success you want.
Don’t think I don’t have time for that, and try to be clever by grabbing time here and there.
Instead make time for that thing you want to do, and accept that your methods of time management need a shake up.
Get in control.
The Third Reason We Shout “I Don’t Have Time For That”
In the amazing book Essentialism – The Disciplined Pursuit of Less, the author Greg McKeown shares his astonishment at our failing priority system.
From attending countless companies and seminars he came to the realisation that we are really poor at prioritising what we need to do.
By giving everything an equal importance we fail to understand what activities we should jettison.
Making room for the things we should keep – the essentials.
Does this makes sense?
Once again it’s not the absence of hours, minutes and seconds we are missing.
It’s just everything is equally important so what should i do first?
It’s another case of use screwing up the control we should have with our day, and giving the power over to third parties.
Which neatly brings us on to the fourth reason.
The Fourth Time Screw Up
This one is a difficult one to overcome for sure.
In fact of all the ones that we struggle with this is the biggie.
How do you say “NO, i’m not doing that to family and bosses”?
These are the two groups that i would suggest dominate our time management system more than any other.
So how do you brave up and face up to our most deadly time foe.
It’s as simple as having a very good reason why you can’t do the thing they want you to do.
Yes they will be disappointed, but if the reason is good enough then it’s not a problem at all.
No one will get upset if you tell them “I can’t do this at the moment as I am working on a hugely important piece of work for the government.”
Neither will they get upset if you tell them “Unless this is delivered within the next twenty four hours kiss your partner and kids goodbye. I’m doing it for you!”
All very dramatic but will certainly get the result you want.
The key thing is to be honest and tell them why you can’t do it when they want.
Reschedule it for later.
Make a deal with them, a trade off that they are happy with.
Anything just don’t accept one more thing on your already full plate.
The Last Reason Your Head Is Spinning
Back when I was a kid growing up in the 70’s you had plenty of time.
In fact you had so much of it you didn’t know what to do with it.
Boredom was your constant companion in your life.
You couldn’t switch the TV on during the day as nothing was on.
We didn’t have computers, mobiles, androids or anything that we could just switch on and consume our time.
Roll on forty years and you barely see anyone walking along without a phone in their hand.
Dinner times across the world are full of bowed heads.
Constant distractions from hearing the conversations of the day from people now living different lives.
Different lives under the same roofs.
If you want to get more hours back in to your life become more present in your life.
Be aware of what is happening away from that tiny computer screen you have in your hand.
Take time out to assess what your next important thing truly is, instead of filling that time up with social media and Instagram photos.
It’s hard of course, as the world is doing the same thing.
Everyone is bleeping, tweeting, and posting what an amazing day they are having, so of course you don’t want to miss out.
That of course isn’t what this article is about.
Its not about missing out on anything, it’s about gaining more of what you want.
More time to feel less stress to do more meaningful stuff and build better relationships.
That my friends is worth taking that extra effort with don’t you think?
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