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Introducing Jacob Nawrocki
Jacob Nawrocki is today’s guest joining us on the Join Up Dots podcast interview.
He is a man who can really turn us around no matter what our state of mind to focus on a positive future.
Living in the Milwaukee area of the United States, Jacob Nawrocki was on a path similar to the rest of us.
Until one day on his 26th birthday, he came to a realisation.
And unfortunately it wasn’t the type of realisation that was joined by clouds parting, angels singing and the like, but instead he was struck with pain, fears and worst of all self-disappointment.
Jacob had hit the point in his life where it was time to make a change, and he grabbed this thought with both hands and ran with it.
How The Dots Joined Up For Jacob
As a child his dad was always listening to the motivational tapes, and filling his children heads with success quotes.
Not in his wildest dreams could he have imagined that his path was intrinsically linked to one looking at mind-set, positivity, and helping others fulfil their dreams.
Good old Dad, for planting the seed that had grown without his knowledge for years and years into such a powerful force.
Jacob Nawrocki, now runs a company called Operation Self Reset, which was launched on May 10, 2013, the day his son Nolan was born.
As he says “Nolan gave me the motivation to do what Nike has said for many years, “Just Do It.”
And now he strives to provide us all with tools, tips, and stories on ways to reset our lives.
Well let’s bring onto the show to start joining up dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs with the one and only Jacob Nawrocki
During the show we discussed such weighty topics with Jacob Nawrocki such as:
At the end of the day there is no right or wrong decisions, its just your personal choice that matters!
How his colleagues in the fire department unknowingly held him back from taking that first step on the road to success!
Why he would listen to Zig Zigler’s motivational tapes as a six year old with his Dad, not grasping how much he was taking in!
How he doesn’t just spend his whole day playing Ping Pong and polishing his fire engine!
How “Self Discipline” is the key to starting everything in life – you will fail in everything without this!
How To Connect With Jacob Nawrocki
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Audio Transcription Of Jacob Nawrocki Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David, Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Good morning, everybody. How are we? Oh, how are we? Oh, I am rocking and rolling this morning. I am rolling and rocking. Because my guest, you know, you might have heard me say this many, many times over the show. But But time zones I’ve had to work and it’s been a pain, it really has. I mean, it’s too much of a pain, hey, it’s not like doing a nine to five gig in any shape or form. But today, the chap had to get out of bed at half past four. So while I’m sitting with a nice cup of coffee, and the sun shining all around me, it’s all dark and gloomy in here. Well, but really, that seems to me the only part of his life that is dark and gloom because he is a positivity guru, and he’s somebody that I’ve wanted to have on the show for a long time. So let me tell you about him. He is a man who can really turn us around and no matter what state of mind to focus on a positive future. Living in the Milwaukee area of the United States, he was on a path similar to the rest of us. Until one day on these 26th birthday, he came to a realisation. And unfortunately, it wasn’t the type of realisation that was joined by clouds partying, angels singing in the like, but instead, he was struck with pain, fears, and worst of all, self disappointment. It hit the point in his life where it was time to make a change. And he grabbed this boat with both hands and ran with it. Now as a child, his dad was always listening to the motivational tapes and fitting his children’s heads with success quotes. And not in his wildest dreams. Could you imagine that his path was intrinsically linked to one looking at mindset positive and helping others fulfil their dreams good old dead, because he was the man who planted the seed that had grown without his knowledge. But years and years into such a powerful force, he had to act on it. Now our guest runs a company called Operation self reset, which was launched on May the 10th 2013. But day, his son Nolan was born. As he says, Nolan gave me the motivation to do what Nike has said for many years, just do it. And now he strives to provide us all with tools, tips and storeys on ways to reset our lives. So let’s bring onto the show to start Join Up Dots, the one and only reset master Jacob Nawrocki, how are you today, Jacob?
Jacob Nawrocki [2:40]
Awesome, David, and thank you so much for bringing me on the podcast. But what an introduction. I’m sitting here and I got chills down my spine. It’s like, wow, this is this is quite, quite the show. So I’m honoured to be a part of it. Now, it’s lovely to have you here. And it’s
David Ralph [2:55]
funny, a lot of the guests talk about the introductions, because I used to listen a lot of podcasts when the host would do a little bit of an introduction and then say, spend the next five minutes telling us about yourself. And I was so why would you do that? Why would you get somebody to give up their time Come on a show, and then not do the research.
Jacob Nawrocki [3:17]
Right. Right. Right. You know, and it’s funny because I actually have a podcast. And I do it like that, who? Yeah, so maybe I need to update my my style. And it’s funny, because I think even in life, people get used to what other people are doing, and you kind of, I don’t say fall in this trap. But you kind of think, well, that’s the way to do it. But in actuality, like yourself, you’re taking control of your own show, you’re doing it the way you want. And it’s something unique and creative. And and you just inspired me to extend myself when I start bringing on guests and everything like that. So I appreciate that. Nice job. Thank you.
David Ralph [3:50]
But I liken it to the beginning of Star Wars, you know, when you sit in Star Wars, or whatever that that might that might have been Superman. I couldn’t think of that. Yeah, whatever. Right. Right, right. And for about three minutes, you see the yellow words come up. And really, by the time the rocket ships or comes across the top, you’re already into the storey. And I think that’s what an introduction needs to do. You know, the guests. By you don’t know you from Adam. But within sort of 30 seconds, I can decide whether this is going to be something I want to sit in and listen to, or it could be something Oh, it’s not going to appeal to me, I’m going to go off to operation self reset and listen to a master at the podcast genre himself. So I don’t think it’s it’s very important to do that. But hey, you know, we all do things different. Why don’t we?
Jacob Nawrocki [4:37]
Right? We do correct. And there’s no right or wrong, you know, it’s whatever you feel on the inside, whatever you feel is comfortable to you. I suggest you try to stretch yourself more than than anything. But at the end of the day, it’s it’s your quality, it’s your voice, it’s your passion, whatever you’re feeling at that moment. And if you feel it’s right, then you just got to go with it. So
David Ralph [4:58]
you’re right, Jacob, when you were 26. And I’m gonna, I’m going to start with this point, and then I’m going to jump back. But that time when you had that realisation when you were laying in bed going, Oh my god, was that really an epiphany? was that? Was that really something that just occurred overnight? Or were you building up to that moment, and the pressure was just getting too much for you to bingo, I need to do something about it.
Jacob Nawrocki [5:26]
You know, it’s weird and kind of as I’m even reliving that right now. I was, it was on my birthday was it was during the week, I can’t remember exactly what day it was. But my my girlfriend at the time, she laughs she went to work, my, my house was vacant, we had a dog that was it. And I was laying there in bed and was around eight o’clock. And I’m thinking to myself, like I just I felt depressed. You know, I just felt lonely. I didn’t feel like I accomplished anything. I’m thinking about my life and kind of reflecting and, and how I got a couple of text messages, but nothing special. Nobody called me at. And I just felt really alone, you know? So as I started to wake up and really reflecting I realised, you know, I had this pain that I just couldn’t push away it was it was really, unlike myself, I’m usually outgoing guy, you know, happy, laughable, everything like that. But it was just on that morning, it was it just really struck me as like, I need to do something, and I don’t know what it is. And I started thinking about what could I do and and at the time I owned some real estate property and was thinking, well, maybe I need to increase my real estate property. Because at the end of the day, maybe that pain was associated to money, right? Anytime when you have, like, you don’t feel comfortable, you don’t feel satisfied, you’re thinking well, maybe I need more money. You know, that’s always what we fall back on because our lives are are bombarded with materialistic things and and we think, you know, money will solve everything. Well, my father called me around 815 20. And him and I started talking he said Happy birthday and everything like that, I think told him about this feeling I told him about my gut turning, I felt like I needed something, you know, and, and I’m in it. My father, like you introduced me to the show, which is very inspirational to myself. He’s been listening to motivational tapes, listening to all the Guru’s and he has been very influential in my life and upbringing when it came to mindset, self belief, all that stuff that we’ll probably get into later on in the show. And I asked him, I’m like, Dad, I’m just not feeling right. I feel like there’s something more out there. And he goes, Jake, I don’t have the answer for you. But what I can suggest is, you go out there and you find it. And I’m like, Well, how the heck do you do that? Like, where do I go to I’m gonna fly out, you know, to Jamaica and talk to this, you know, hundred year old man or something? What’s the deal? And he goes, I don’t know what you have to do. But no matter what, I know, you’re going to find it. So I’m like, All right. Okay, well, thanks for the no help their dad. Geez. So I started thinking to myself, What can I do? And the first thing is, well, I’m going to go to Barnes and Noble. And I’m just going to start browsing around and see if something you know, catches my eye, and I go there, and I automatically drawn to the entrepreneur area. And so I started reading these books and came across the four hour workweek, which probably a lot of people have come across on your show, or inspire them to take action change. One did, yes, see exactly, you know, and in for the people listening, if you’re looking for that, that somewhere to start, you’re looking Yeah, you’re listening to this, and you love these storeys that are on this podcast, and you’re thinking, what can I do to get myself in that type of mindset, I would suggest the four hour workweek, not because you’re going to be working for only four hours, but it gives you different avenues to think of when it talks about creating business, creating the future of your life, creating what you want out of things. And it may resonate or may not resonate with you, but obviously affected both of us. So I’d say that’s that’s a pretty good start right there. So I read that and, and I started thinking, huh, inventions are my thing to go off of. I don’t know why inventions, I’ve always been creative. I always think there’s a better way to do something. And so from reading that book, I started putting out my feelers I started thinking about my the inventions I previously had and everything like this. Well, the funny thing is, you know how you say how they say you know, whatever you think about expands if you wish for the universe will give it to you. And I was really wanting some type of crazy cool invention to happen to me or something that I can go wow, that’s perfect idea. Oh my gosh, I can’t believe nobody thought about this. Well, one day when I was travelling from the south side of Milwaukee to the east side where my property was at, I put in the back of my truck. I have a pickup truck. Numerous cabinets have grown 12 to 13 cabinets. The last cabinet I put on my truck was a sink base. The sink base is usually around 36 inches wide, 24 inches deep. It was you know, packed in this big box, and it was the largest cabinet out of all of them. And I decided I was gonna I didn’t decide I knew I had to go and drop them off at my property. East Side. So it was a beautiful day. I can remember it like it was yesterday. It was 11 o’clock 11:30am. I jumped on the expressway and I’m cruising down towards the east side of Milwaukee and it’s beautiful. I got the windows down. I got the radio up. And I’m listening to Bon Jovi
living on the edge.
Well Little did I know.
There you go. I like the backup vocals.
David Ralph [10:29]
We could make a podcast band. You know, that’s actually a good idea. Let’s do let’s do we will rehearse and come back live.
Jacob Nawrocki [10:39]
Right. Okay, perfect.
So little did I know though that cabinet that I was put in my truck, that same base was on the edge of my truck, tailgate because I did not close my tailgate, like a goof. I don’t know why I didn’t I got distracted. I knew I got a phone call about an issue with the properties. And I just decided to zoom off. Now you’re thinking, well, Jay, come on, you can probably see your tailgates down from your rearview mirror. Well, I couldn’t because my whole back of my truck was packed with tall cabinets. So I couldn’t see. Now I couldn’t also see the tailgate was down from my side mirrors. So as I’m driving I my arm out the window, and I hear this big smack, and boom that that cabinet falls out of my truck and start spinning down the expressway. Now what was weird at this moment, there was nobody else around me on this Expressway. This expressway is the main vein that goes through Milwaukee. And I was not I couldn’t believe that nobody was wrong. I mean, it was like as I picture right now, there’s nobody in front of me. There’s nobody behind me. And as soon as they hit the the expressway, I was going 65 miles an hour. By the time I even noticed it and realised that it was too far gone for me to stop and run after it. So I pull over to the side of the road in the emergency lane. I get on the get on the phone with 911. I don’t know why I know they’re not going to show up instantly. But I felt like it was the right thing to do. And that that that the cabinet fell in the left lane of the expressway. And it kind of was on a crest of a hill. And and this is where the magic happened, I guess we’ll call it there was a white sedan that was in the left lane. And in the middle lane was a big tractor semi truck, semi tractor trailer. And so when they were coming up the crest of the hill, the white sedan had saw saw the cabinet had nowhere to go. So it locked up its brakes and I went into the left emergency lane because that semi was in the middle lane blocking him from diverting it going into the middle lane. And behind that white sedan was a jeep. And that Jeep hit that cabinet. Like the Fourth of July, it was like Arnold Schwarzenegger movie, it blew up. There’s cardboard and pieces and chunks all over the place. And I was sitting there going, oh my god. First of all, luckily, it was not a month motorcyclist or anything like that, because that guy probably would have been wiped out and who knows what would happen to him. So I guess the only pluses he was a car and I’m thinking okay, it’s just damaged. damage, no big deal. Well, luckily, that guy saw me with all my cabinets in the back of my truck, he pulls over. And he goes, you know, did it was that your cabinet that I hit? It was luckily he was in good spirits. 1700 dollars later in down damage. I had a an idea for an invention called the tailgate spotter. It was a simple to use device that would allow you to know when your tailgate was in the up or down position, it was like a little flag that stuck out with a magnet that you could see from your side, side mirror as the driver. And, and from there, I was like this
Unknown Speaker [13:43]
Jacob Nawrocki [13:43]
This is my million billion dollar idea. I’m going to go on Shark Tank, I’m going to do all this crazy stuff on this sell 100,000 units, I’m going to be a success storey I’m going to go around, you know the world telling people to to you know, create interventions and all this stuff. So I go through the whole gambit making prototyping it, getting a patent pending building a website. You know, making videos, infomercial, videos, all this stuff. I spent around like $3,000 on this whole project. I did not sell one. And so that’s what I knew inventions was not my gig.
David Ralph [14:18]
But why didn’t you sell one, there must have been somebody out there
Jacob Nawrocki [14:23]
that you know why? Because I was scared. I was scared. I was truly scared to go and marketed. And, and and that was my first big hurdle. I think that Yeah, I know, we’ll catch. But I know we’ll get into that a little bit and connecting the dots. But I really believe that was the first hurt. Now to give people a little background, I work for the fire department full time, I’m actually a lieutenant on the fire department, we just had a promotional exam. And I just got promoted recently. And I’ve been in the thinking about language. And being in the fire service. It’s a old school blue collar mentality. A blue collar mentality is just, you know, work in a tradition job, having a good time at it afterwards, you hang out, you drink beers, and you just kind of continue to live your life and you’re just a hard working individual. And there’s nothing wrong with that. Well, being from that mindset in that background, you don’t have the creative thinking mind that I had when I created this invention. So I was very, very bashful and shy and nervous about putting this product out there. Because I was like, Oh my gosh, the guys from the firehouse are going to know about it. And they’re going to make fun of me, and they’re going to laugh at me and they’re going to make me feel because that’s what we do at the Firehouse, you make fun of each other in a happy way. You know, it’s never personal or mean or anything like that. It’s just, you know, you’re, you’re, you’re working on each other constantly for messing up here and there. So when I knew I decided to publish this, this invention, I was like, my gosh, these guys gonna tear me apart, you know, Okay, then I’ll see myself, Well, okay, just leave it online. Don’t tell too many people offline, like don’t go out to sports goods, you know, stores, or don’t go to truck accessory stores. And don’t go to you know, like these sports conferences, you know, where the guys with their pickup trucks in the hunting conferences, and don’t sell yourself too far, because then people are going to find out about it. But let’s just just slow you down
David Ralph [16:17]
there for a moment. Cuz that is a key point that your peer group that you’re surrounded with, who work with you on a daily basis, they will run into a burning building with you. So they must love you and care for you and support you, but are quite open to ridicule you. And it’s a strange thing. But so many of the guests that I have had on the show have almost had to sack or get rid of their peer group and move on to ones who were taking similar action and would be more supportive, even family members are likely to hold you back and anchored you to where you are due to the fact of deep down not wanting you to to be upset and file and that’s simply where it is, isn’t it?
Jacob Nawrocki [17:03]
Yeah, pretty much and and that’s you bring up a good point. And I believe if you want to extend yourself if you want to think creatively, if you want to chase after that passion, you are going to lose friends, you are going to hurt family members, you will get in arguments, that is a guarantee that is you will not be able to divert that and and it’s funny because you know, it might sound silly to some people like Oh, come on, just get out there and hustle and and you know it it’s a product that you have a great storey behind it. It’s a product that I even still believe in to this day that could could sell and help people. And it’s it’s really weird. I guess it’s too bad that I thought like that. It was a very, very restricting mindset that really held me back and
David Ralph [17:51]
yeah, you you quit on it, didn’t you?
Jacob Nawrocki [17:53]
I did. I did. I really did. I quit on it. Because I thought it It hurt. I thought it was turning into more of a joke than the actual process because then the guys at the Firehouse caught wind of it. And of course they saw the videos. And honestly, if you guys check out the videos, you can go to tailgate spotter, calm. The videos are hilarious. video, where I’m just acting like a true infomercial, like has this happened to you. And then I back up and then like, things fall out of my truck, and I drive off and they’re on the street. And it’s just, it’s just hilarious. And it because I was I was having fun with it. I was having passion about it. But then when these other guys call wind about it and everything like that, it just totally, it totally made me freeze. It totally made me think well, this is stupid. This is just a joke, you know what I mean? And and it was it was really too bad. And that was truly a turning point in my life, realising I’m not going to make everybody happy. Because as the person that I was, I was the guy that was outgoing, always happy trying to make the the awkward people in the room feel comfortable, I was that guy that would go up to the person that wasn’t always getting talked to and talk to them out, make everybody feel a part of the group, whatever situation we were in. So when these people started making fun of me, I felt like the outsider. And I didn’t like that. So I knew that I had to quit this thing to become the insider again, you know, and and by it’s kind of weird, because as time progressed with this invention project, and maybe we’re getting a little too lengthy on this. But during this process, a lot of people would come up to me personally, after the the group has dissipated. And they’d be like, hey, Jake, that’s pretty cool. How you did that? You know, I got this, I got this idea about this invention thing. And I was wondering, you know, would you take a couple of minutes. And you see,
David Ralph [19:35]
that’s the that’s the nuts and bolts, young Jacob Nawrocki, that is the nuts and bolts, we as human beings, we thrive on other people’s success, and we benchmark ourselves against other people’s success. But we don’t want other people to be successful. Because when it looks bad on us, so we will hold them back. I’m doing a show at the moment is a daily show. And I believe from the bottom of my heart, but it was going to be a success. And when I started it off more than one people, persons or people or whatever, said to me, You realise you know, it’s so competitive out there. There’s other people doing this, you know, are you going to bring anything new to the table, all those kind of things. And they were holding me back. Now he is a success. I speak to him they are we always knew it was going to work. Oh, we always had faith in you. And that’s what they like to do. Don’t know people like to do it. You got to be aware, the listeners out there. You listen to Jacob Nawrocki story, because you will find yourself being more than aware. But when you’re talking to big Brenda, who sits next to you in the office, and you’re talking about your dreams and aspirations, quite often you will get things now. If it was that easy, everyone would do it. And and those kind of comments. It’s anchoring you to where they feel comfortable. Not where you feel comfortable.
Jacob Nawrocki [20:57]
Yes, exactly. And it’s too bad. You know, because as as listener, you’re thinking there’s no way you know, I got some really cool friends that will stick with me through thick and thin. I think you know what, no matter what they’ll be there. I’m telling you, it’s it’s it’s it’s sad to say, but it’s going to happen, people are going to question you people are going to break you down, people are going to leave you and be like, you’re not going to mount anything. Why are you wasting your time? Why don’t you hang out with us all this stuff, because you’re so focused on yourself, you want to succeed, these people are going to leave you and you’re going to first going to feel kind of like, man, I feel like nobody wants to hang out with me anymore. But you got to focus on why you started this project in the first place. And it doesn’t have to be invention. It doesn’t have to be an entrepreneur mindset. It might be you know, baking cookies on the weekend and selling it at a farmers market it whatever it is to you. You just got to be confident in what you’re doing. Because you’re at the end of the day, you’re doing this for you, you’re not doing it for anybody else. And I realised that at that moment, I realised no matter what I endeavours I get into in the future, I realised I am doing this for me and nobody else. I’m sitting here at 430 in the morning, not because David asked me to and I’m like, I’m getting on a but I’m doing it because I know why I’m doing it. I know that I want to be a motivational speaker. I know I want to inspire other people that were struggling, that don’t have the confidence to get themselves to that level of confidence to take on the world ahead. And that’s why I do it. That’s why I’m sitting here telling you my storeys and my issues and my imperfections. So you the listener can get out there and hustle and become the personal best that you can be and know that you’re going to, you know encounter hurdles and difficulties and lose friends. And there’s gonna be moments so you’re going to feel bad and sad, and nobody likes me. But you got to know why you’re doing it once you know your why the world will open up to you.
David Ralph [22:44]
How different Are you Jacob to the 23 year old? How old? Are you at the moment?
Unknown Speaker [22:49]
I’m 2929. Okay,
David Ralph [22:51]
so let’s go six years back. So that’s three years from now. And three years before the sort of heart attack situation? How different Are you a person
Jacob Nawrocki [23:00]
extremely, I’m 23 years old. I it was it was funny because I was just telling my wife this and we kind of my wife is very supportive of operation self reset. She’s very supportive of the project, but she was kind of questioning, you know, why? Why are you putting so much time into it, you know, you need to be spending more time with family. And as as you know, it’s tough. I’m balancing a full time job. I’m balancing real estate on the side and balancing a lot of a lot of irons in the fire. They say and, and we kind of had this breakdown. And I told her you know, the reason why the just don’t take this the right way. The reason why I got married to her not was that because like I had to, you know, there’s pressure on me, it was because I knew that she would allow me to grow as an individual. And I knew that she would be my partner or long my endeavours, she was the one that always believed in me, she was the one that I could do something silly and overextend myself and she would be there in my corner supporting me 110% when I was 23 years old, I was I got on the fire department when I was 18 years old. So I had money in my pocket at a very young age. At 23. I think I was still living at home. I know it might sound embarrassing, but I was I was investing in real estate early my career and which was a smart move. So I had a stay at home with my parents, my parents are great. And I never had an issue with them. But I had additional money in my pocket. I was going out all the time, I was you know, chasing women and doing things that were unhealthy. I was not in the mindset of who is Jake and Rocky, I was in the mindset of I want to, you know, be fulfilled in areas that were silly, you know, running around, travelling to destinations just to get totally obliterated with friends. You know, staying out late, you know, that’s not silly. That’s what
David Ralph [24:47]
you should be doing at 24.
Jacob Nawrocki [24:49]
You know, and it is part of my storey and you’re exactly right. You know, it’s funny, because right now I’m so passionate. I’m so driven towards my goal and my why that I think, man, if I only had that one when I was 23 Where would I be when I’m 29. But you know what? That’s that’s my storey. That’s my journey. And I can’t force these things to happen. And it doesn’t matter if, if you’re 55 years old right now and you’re listening to this and and you finally have this aha moment. go chase after it. And you know, what, your whole life before that you can’t think I wish I would have started earlier. No, because that is a part of your journey. That’s the part of your storey and and you’re exactly right. I had a blast, I had an amazing time, my storeys that would not be appropriate for this podcast. And that’s where I was at mentally. You know, when I was 23,
David Ralph [25:34]
you a 23 year old, I used to travel across America and you know, road trips with a thing. And me and the guys, we’d get a car and we wouldn’t know where we were going. And we’d end up in these these tiny little towns, but most of them, I can’t remember anything about them. But there was a was a bar, and you’d go into the bar, and you’d get absolutely blitzed and then, you know, and I look back on it. And I think, what value Did I really get from that not a great deal I probably learned to play Paul had some stupid conversations. But that was where I was. And I would hate the fact that you know, and you see it so often when people get married very young, but they get to the ages of like 40 and suddenly start having affairs and feel like they’ve missed out and stuff. And I say to all my kids are my daughters and stuff, I don’t care if you have, you know, 50 boyfriends or 50, whatever, you know, when you choose the one, that’s got to be the one, you’ve got to have almost burnt yourself out ready for the next part of your life. And if you’ve got any embers, but I’ll just sort of slightly burning ready to burst into flames again, and make you back to that 24 year old, you haven’t quite done what you need to do at that point your life.
Jacob Nawrocki [26:45]
Right now. That’s very good point. And having a young guy myself, I think that’s a great suggestion I might offer to him when he’s at that, that appropriate age because it’s very true.
David Ralph [26:55]
Nolan, that’s what you’re saying.
Jacob Nawrocki [26:57]
Yeah, exactly. Exactly. To my son Nolan. And, and I, you know, working you know, I think there’s divorce all over the place and, and sometimes you hear those storeys of the guy just wants to get out, you know, he just wants to open up and he feels like there’s so much that he didn’t live early on in his life. And, and that’s why divorce, or was his option at that time. And I don’t even know why now I’m talking about why why people get divorced. But that’s how
David Ralph [27:23]
the show rolls. You know, when your dad came up and said to you on that door, you found him on that day. And he said, you know, search search for the thing you know, you you know what it is? A lot of us get that, that kind of advice from people who have found their thing. And you basically you want to punch them in the face because it’s not enough. I want to have concrete evidence or show me a book show me something but I can find my path to life. But for those of us and I will quote myself now this firmly back have found that pop in life is that same advice, isn’t it and it is so annoying that you say to people, when you find your passion, you will find your life’s work. When you find your unique self, you will find your your you know life’s work again. But it is annoying, isn’t it? For the listeners out there go? Oh, it’s all right for the I just don’t know, I’m still doing this job that I don’t like. And I noticed something more, but I don’t know what my passion is.
Jacob Nawrocki [28:26]
Yeah. Yeah, that’s a loaded? Well, first of all, it’s a loaded question. And it’s so true. Because I remember being on opposite side of this microphone here. And these people like oh my gosh, I finally find found my life’s work, like you just said. And so if I had to give suggestions that people that are listening, that are cringing and going I What is it? You know, tell me? First of all, I say, what is it that you absolutely love to do? What are the magazines that gets sent to your house every single day? What is something that you always seem to turn on? Or always interested in? What is the first website that you always go to? Besides Facebook? Come on, let’s be serious here. What is something that you’re always tinkering in? What is that idea that that always is there, but you feel like it’s never good enough. It’s silly idea. It’s something that you want to achieve, but you just don’t think it could work. And it could be maybe you want to be a spa reviewer, that’s my wife always says if I could have one job, I want to review spas, you know, because you go to the spa, you get pampered and they make a review on it, whatever it is, you know it, it’s just something that you’re not in the right mindset of it. And I say mindset because you are thinking so hard. And you’re thinking for that big, that big, beautiful, you know, new bike, and you want it so bad and you just oh my god, I just got to get my hands on it. That you’re not allowing yourself to think logically you’re not allowing yourself to see the things around you the see the experiences you created the see the magazine laying on your table, the scene those those creative thoughts that pass through your brain. And how do we get out of that that mindset? Well, first of all, or that, that that wanting so deeply mindset, the first thing I suggest is be in a mindset of gratitude, being grateful for everything that you have being grateful for being healthy, being grateful for listening to this podcast, being grateful that you have a job where you don’t have a job, just trying to put yourself in a state of harmony, a state of comfortable being you know what I’m man, I’m so thankful that my parents are still living and and we still talk, I’m so grateful that I, I have this, this nice bed to lay in. I’m so grateful that I’m able to drink this great cup of coffee, just enjoying each minute. Once you start to do that, you’re going to start to tame back those crazy, I need to find my why what is that, you’ll start to pull that back. And once you start to, to dial that back, it will allow you to open up and see the bigger picture to see what maybe your purpose is to see those ideas and that creative thinking to allow to come into your body. Now you’re thinking, well, how the heck do I even start doing that? Well, you can start doing it right when you wake up, instead of thinking, Oh my gosh, I gotta check my email and jump in the shower and all that stuff later, for a second, take a deep breath and say, Man, I’m thankful for this, this world. Look at this great room I’m in. Man, these covers are so warm, they’re so soft, they make me feel good. From there, everything you touch everything you get your hands on, start seeing it and at first, it’s gonna be awkward, you’re not going to get it. But if you continue to do that day after day, and it doesn’t have to be that extent like, oh, thank you for this toothbrush. You’re cleaning my teeth. Yeah, it doesn’t have to be ridiculous. It could just be
David Ralph [31:33]
your toothbrush. Right? I would love to see you doing that Jacob.
Jacob Nawrocki [31:37]
Right. Yeah, you know, and it’s really awkward. If you come to my house, Someday, I’ll show you that. I’ll give you the whole routine. But now it’s just those little things that you can do to get yourself in a state of flow and just a state of calm. And once you do that, I’m telling you, then the things will start to open up because it took me a while to figure out my why even even my dad was into the motivational stuff, it took me, you know, since I was six years old, to realise this is my path that I want. So you just got to be in a constant flow and a constant harmony, a constant mindset of gratitude. And I’m telling you, I promise you and I guarantee you with 100% money back guarantee, it will come to you. You just got to allow yourself to relax, be grateful. And think to yourself, it will come I’ll figure it out. And the universe will give it to you when you are ready. And the universe might sound too complex and ridiculous and what you know, what do I believe in witchcraft? No, it has nothing to do with that. It’s just something that your body will be ready to accept it when it is and you can’t force it. And it’ll just come to you. So hopefully that that helps the listener,
David Ralph [32:44]
I heard an interview with Ricky Jabez A while back and I love him or hate him Ricky Gervais is is out there and he is successful. And he was talking to his girlfriend apparently, just after he’d started getting going. Because for a long time in his life, he didn’t know what he wanted to do in any shape or form. And once the snowball started going, and he started getting bookings and becoming successful, he said to his girlfriend, you know, why didn’t I do this 10 years ago, and she said you just weren’t ready. And it is as simple as that isn’t it? When you are ready for the next stage of your life, it can happen at any time, I was 44 years 26. But when it happens, there’s no disputing the fact that you’ve got the skills, you’ve got the knowledge, you’ve got the passion. And the tagline of the show is connecting our past by building our future by connecting our pasts. And when you were six years old, if you look back at that six year old person, and you could go back in time, as you will be doing at the end of the show. Do you actually think about six year old person was closer to the person that you are now? But you just lost them somewhere along the line?
Jacob Nawrocki [33:56]
Yes, I do. And the reason is, is because when I was six might the way I got into the motivational atmosphere was because of my father when we would go to hockey practice at around this time, actually. So this is not too unique for myself to go to the hockey rink, he would pop in, you know tapes of Ziegler and we would just listen to those tapes. We wouldn’t talk, we wouldn’t really say much at all. And it would be that background noise. And when you’re six years old, I’m not like oh my gosh, Ziegler. Yeah, that’s a great quote. I’m gonna write that down dad. I wasn’t like that. It was like that subliminal messaging. I was looking out the window. I didn’t care about the speeches that were going on. But I for some odd reason. It really melted into my brain. And and maybe it took until I was 26. For for that, for that that baking process to finally say, dang. And it finally hit me. But yes, looking back, that is those dots truly connected me to where I am today.
David Ralph [34:54]
Well, let’s bring on Steve Jobs, because he had the iconic speech back in 2005, which we, every day on the show, and or 99% of the shows we do. And it really does seem relevant to most people’s lives. And I’m going to play the words now. And afterwards, Jacob, I’m going to ask whether you think it’s relevant to you, whether it’s relevant to everyone, and your general feeling about these words. This is Steve Jobs.
Steve Jobs [35:18]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [35:54]
Does it make difference?
Jacob Nawrocki [35:57]
It does, it makes all the difference and in by the awake. That’s such a powerful down that’s the second will third probably 910 time I’ve heard that speech, it’s a very powerful speech. That’s a great that’s a great addition to the show, by the way. It doesn’t make sense. You know, it’s amazing how how your your life pushes you in certain directions and avenues and storeys. And and you’re in for the listener, you might be thinking, I don’t have any cool storeys and never created an invention, I have no idea where you know, I don’t really have anything that I can say this is a cool storey about me you do you have so many unique experiences you made so many Connexions, you made so many, you affected so many people around you and you have no idea. But when you get in a place of of drive, and you’re at your destiny and you you figured out the feelings of your gut, and you just trust that everything will come together, you can see it laid out but you you can’t when you’re in it, you truly, truly can’t. And I know I’m still very young in my my profession here my career, not only with the fire department, but what I want to do as in motivation wise, and I’m excited to see the future of it. Because I know I’m only going to grow. And there is a funny quote, and it says You don’t have to be, you don’t have to be great to start. But you have to start to be great. And when I started this, this drive of becoming a motivational speaker and starting the podcast and all the things that I want now. I was not good. But I knew that I needed to start to get where I needed to go. So even though you don’t need all the dots to already line up. Somewhere through that process, you will have that epiphany that aha moment, that gut turning, feeling whatever. And then you’re going to continue connecting the dots. But you are able to see what happened in the past to allow you it’s true to give you the confidence to go the future I’ve always copying the speech, I’m sorry, I’m sorry. But it’s so true. It’s it’s almost it’s sickening how how honest and and and that that speech hits home, where you are in your life. And and I’m telling you for the people that are listening again, just keep on trucking day in and day out, it will come to you, you will have epiphany, you will make sense, it will all come together. And if you’re just screaming at your radio in your car, if you’re screaming right now on your walk, because you’re like Jake, you’re saying the same stuff over and over again. The reason why we are the reason why we keep saying the things over and over again, is because it’s true. It works. It’s the honest to goodness, truth when it comes to finding this journey, finding this path.
David Ralph [38:33]
Well, what I liked about what you were saying there, Jacob and it’s something that I do repeat, you know, it is a daily show. So there’s, there’s a lot of themes that will come up again and again and again. But sure, you have to start, you have to start and it doesn’t matter how rubbish you are, when you start, no one is going to notice, no one will come to your blog, no one will listen to your podcast, or very, very few. But if you can doing it and keep on doing it, keep doing it. And as the comedian Steve Martin says, be so good until they can’t ignore you when something is going to happen. And I I started listening back to some of my early shows. And I don’t think they’re bad. I think they were as good as I could do at the time. But I was saying to my wife, I think now I’ve got control. And I think I sound like a host. So when somebody is going on too long, I can actually stop them and cut them in where some of the early ones I would just let them ramble because I thought it was rude to baton. But now I realise but the bat is my progression. I’ve got the storeys, the guests, I’ve got the storeys, but it’s up to me to sort of weave them into a show, which is listen, double, but I didn’t have at the beginning. And you can just be you know, you can just be ugly at the beginning because no one’s going to see you until you grow into a swan.
Jacob Nawrocki [39:52]
Exactly, exactly. And that relates to everything you know, whatever it is your life, if you have that, that little jab, that little idea that spark something, whatever it is even being a stay at home mom and you want to start making crafts with your kids. Just do it. You don’t I mean, there’s nobody holding you back. But yourself. Once you get past that mental barrier of Oh, what are people gonna say about me who cares, they’re gonna laugh, they’re going to cry, they’re gonna be mad, they’re gonna be happy, everything. Don’t worry about the other person. And that’s what I really learned throughout my whole life and experience here. Don’t worry about them, they’re gonna they’re gonna be on your side or against you, no matter what happens if you’re successful, or you totally fall in your face. You need to make yourself happy. You need to find what makes you wake up at 430 in the am and and want to and want to share with people you know, you need to find that and you’re doing this only for you. Because if you start thinking about other people and you think well what’s this person going to think about this colour scheme? you lost it? You know what I mean? You got to do what you feel best. And you got to go from there. Were you thinking about me before you got out of bed this morning? Jacob Be
David Ralph [40:59]
Jacob Nawrocki [41:01]
As in like a negative thought or positive
David Ralph [41:04]
any photo? I just want to be in there somehow in your we small hours.
Jacob Nawrocki [41:10]
Yeah, you know, um, well, I wouldn’t What time did I go to bed last night once better, like 10. So I was kind of preparing for this interview and just kind of going over a couple of the emails. And then when, when my alarm went off, I I was tired. Of course, not used to waking up that early. But I was I was like, all right, you know, I was very dedicated. I was very self dedicated. knowing why I was doing this. So I was okay, I’m actually a morning person. I don’t I don’t even have any coffee or tea on board. I just drink some water. And I’m ready to go. So yeah, I’m very determined, obviously, but also to, you know, I thought about you and I was like, oh, man, I could probably sleep in another five minutes. But I knew I needed to get myself mentally ready for this interview. So I was okay with that I was not in any way, you know, like this too early or anything like that. So
David Ralph [41:59]
because I dream about the guests a lot. I back to my shows. So on Thursday and Friday, I do about 12 or 13 shows. And sometimes it’s very long days. But I’ve realised that one of the things that I need to stop doing is start recording the shows while I’m still asleep. I need to be able to basically wake up fresh and then go for it. But I’m not I’m still kind of almost doing it in my sleep until bang. I’ll press record and away we go.
Jacob Nawrocki [42:27]
Yeah, that’s it. That’s pretty good. You’re able to turn that on. I’m, I’m ready. Well, you know, you’re going to think though my full time job. I sleep at the fire hose 24 hours, well, not sleeping 24 hours, but we sleep there during the evening hours. And you know, there’s numerous numerous alarms, there’s nights that I don’t even go to sleep. So I there’s been numerous times to I go into bed I lay down I’m like, All right, here we go. And then next thing, you know, the you know, the alarm goes off, and I have to crawl back out. And it’s it’s constant like that, you know, Night after night. So I’m used to waking up on a whim and just dive in into whatever it is that I have in front of me. Because with the fire department, you don’t have time to get a little coffee or to kind of you know, wipe your eyes or anything like that. Literally, you are running to the rig putting on your gear jumping in and you’re going to an alarm, where you know, there’s emergencies all over the place. There’s fire showing in and you’re reacting more than thinking through so I’m playing
David Ralph [43:21]
table tennis so don’t you
Unknown Speaker [43:24]
table the ping pong? Yeah, Yeah,
David Ralph [43:26]
Yeah, we do. Actually, I used to work next door to a fire station. And for the whole summer all I saw them doing was play ping pong, and polishing the engine an episode I do anything. It was just like a boys club.
Jacob Nawrocki [43:42]
You know, there are fire hoses like that I work in the more of the the core of the city. So it’s there’s more there’s a lot more activity I’ll say going on in the the core of the city than anywhere else. But you’re right. There are fire houses on outskirts and stuff like that, that where the gentleman polish the reagan people ping pong and, and do do some stuff. The average person would probably be like, come on. Really? You’re doing this at one o’clock in the afternoon? There’s no way so yeah, yeah, we have a unique job, that’s for sure.
David Ralph [44:11]
But you have danger as well, but you don’t get an office. So So what does operation self reset, but for people out there listening to your passion, and it is unbelievable Jacob that is like half past four or five in the morning and you’re going full pelt, like you are. So what would they get when they start looking into your your operation operation self reset?
Jacob Nawrocki [44:32]
Sure, you know, Operation self reset is pretty much changing the person you are to the person you want to become we all get caught up in our lives, we all get caught up in things that we just feel and we know is not right. Operation self reset is taking you through your self reset. Realising today, this morning is an opportunity for me to stop eating those Snickers bars right after breakfast, today’s opportunity for me to stop thinking negatively treating people like crap and start focus on the better me, it’s all it’s all about self improvement, self growth, it’s about the ability of realising it any single moment, you’re able to do a reset, you did not like that outcome yesterday. All right, this morning, I’m going to do a reset, I’m going to start a new every single day. Second, whatever it is, you’re able to just push push a reset button on your own personal life and say you know what I’m going to do better, I’m going to come with a little more enthusiasm, I’m going to be a little more motivated today, I’m going to finally reach my goals, write them down, do things that I normally wouldn’t do, because I am trying to improve myself, the show I bring on guests and we talked about their failures, successes, the things they learned the things that how to keep you the listener inspired. And along the way, I’m learning a lot too. And, and David, as I know, from a fellow podcaster, you’re learning a lot of cool stuff to you’re bringing on some really crazy guests. And you’re you’re growing along with it. So. So operation self reset just brings it up a totally different realm of self help. And I kind of want to change the name of self help to self reset. Because anytime you’re doing a self help, you’re helping yourself to get to that next level. But in actuality, you kind of need to reset some of the things you previously done. So you’re able to execute the things that you’ve learned.
David Ralph [46:19]
So how can people do this, because everything you’re saying I agree with, because I’m generally a positive person, I don’t have many down days or even down moments, really, it’s just the way I’m programmed. But there are people out there, and I’m sure there’s people listening, and there are people who really need our help. And there are people that are really needing to take control of their own life. But for different situations, they won’t believe in what you’re saying. But they won’t believe that they can actually choose to do this. So what’s the sort of number one thing if somebody is, quote unquote, a negative individual, but they can actually start changing themselves not to reset them selves, but actually getting into the position to start resetting themselves.
Jacob Nawrocki [47:04]
shirt, you know, I’m going to take it back a little bit. So instead of negative thinking, I think negative thinking is very important to discuss here. But I want to talk about though, the number one thing when it comes to getting yourself in the right mindset and all that stuff. So there’s a gentleman by the name of Koi cop Meyer, have you ever heard of him? No, he wrote, okay, he wrote four books. And each of the books he he interviewed the most successful of the successful people on this planet. And he brought together 250 ideas on how to become successful, all different crazy ideas, everything like that. So he made four books. So he has a total of 1000, successful, proven techniques and ideas. He was interviewed. And they go boy, what is a couple or top 10 that we need to do, as a society people to become super successful. And boy goes to be honest, there’s only one. And without this one, you cannot complete the other 999
David Ralph [48:06]
I feel like a drummer here.
Jacob Nawrocki [48:07]
Right, right. You ready? Yeah, I’m trying to build it all, I’m trying to build it up. And he goes, self discipline. That’s it. If you don’t have self discipline, you cannot complete the other 999 999 ways to become super successful. And, and you got to relate that to your own life. So how can we take that success principle into our own personal lives? Well, if you’re not disciplined to wake up at 5am, to get yourself out of bed, so you can get to work on time, you’re not going to go to work on time, if you’re not self discipline, to to start thinking, gosh, I gotta stop being that negative Nelson in the room, you’re never going to do it. If you’re not disciplined to to stop or you know, to stop eating unhealthy. You’re not going to do it, you need that self discipline first. But to get yourself in in the right state, I consider it the five principles, the five core it ideas, and I’m actually keep saying this. And it’s I keep saying it because I’m proclaiming my goal on a public atmosphere here. I’m reading a book, it’s it’s about a five principles that I have learned, it’s called to the point. And these five principles are gratitude, leadership, attitude, love help. And the last one that kind of brings it all together self belief. So let me get through this real quick. gratitude. We spoke about that. So you know, every day you start with gratitude, leadership, you know, when we think of leadership, it’s always thinking about how can we lead other people to do what we want or how to convince them or whatever, but leadership starts with yourself if you’re not leading yourself in the right direction leading yourself towards that vision towards that person you want to become towards that that idea of success or whatever it means to you. You’re not leading other people I can guarantee you because all the great leaders out there have led themselves to a successful mindset before they became a great leader it you look in history, from presidents to war heroes to anything like that Winston Churchill, he was a great leader to himself first before he applied what he has learned to the greater good of, of the city, the community and to to his soldiers. But we can get into that that’s a whole nother podcast, I’m attitude. attitude, if you’re not in the right attitude, what good are you so attitude always relate to the middle finger, right? You’re always flicking off somebody like you got in front of me in the line, I’m pissed off at you know, attitude needs to be checked with yourself first. So instead of flicking off that other guy, flick off yourself every once in a while, put yourself in check, kind of you know, you have a dog that’s acting out, you kind of kick it you kind of jolt the colour a little bit. That’s what you need to do with yourself in a non human way. You know what I mean? You gotta do it nicely. You know, you don’t have to be choking yourself in front of people. But yeah.
David Ralph [50:53]
people wearing colours. That’s an 18 rated show.
Jacob Nawrocki [50:59]
Yeah, you exactly. So you know, you put your attitude in check. Lastly, love, you know it, you got to love yourself before you can start loving other people if you’re not in that, that realm of you know what I love my imperfections. I love you know what, I love that I have this ridiculous zit, directly in the middle of my forehead while I’m going to this presentation. Of course, it had to happen on this day. Love it. Love that about you, because it gets you into that fun, laughable. You know, feeling of You know what, that’s okay. I love that and you’re not uncomfortable, you don’t feel weird, you just sound like you’re, you’re always holding up your hand like, you know, you’re covering up like you’re sweaty or something, you gotta love yourself before you can open up and truly level their people help in our DNA. We are born with the ability to help one another. And even though we there’s times that we get bombarded with different things, and we feel burnt out. And the last thing you want to do is help that person at the office, complete a task that is so silly. It seems to you that you like this person, it should be fired. Help them out. When my son was born, the first thing I did was reach out to him with my pinky and held his you know, his, I reach out with my pinky and his hand wrapped around my pinky. And no way did anybody say, hey, Jake, when your child’s born, make sure make sure to reach out with your pinky. And and you know, my gosh, I’ll really connect you with your child. No, that’s in our DNA. It’s built within us. We see people in danger, we help them when things are when earthquakes happen, natural disasters, everybody comes out and helps because it’s in our DNA. At that moment, everybody pitches in and does what needs to be done to complete the task. Because it’s born within us. If you’re not helping enough other people get what they want, you’re never going to get what you want in return. And last thing is self belief. If you do not believe in what you’re doing day in and day out. If you don’t believe that you’re you have all these features of gratitude, leadership, attitude, love and help, you are not going to be fulfilling the life that you really should be fulfilling. And self belief also comes with changing the words that we’re talking and telling ourselves. For example, if you want to become a doctor, at first, you’re like, yeah, I can become a doctor. Yeah, no, okay. And then when you’re, you’re going through the practice, and you’re passing the test, and you’re telling your family and friends, I are, excuse me, I will be a doctor, I will be a doctor. And lastly, when you graduate, and you’re excited, and you’re like I finally made it now you say I am a doctor, if we can cut out the I can and I will go right to the I Am, you can speed up the process from where you are to truly the point that you want to get. So instead of thinking, Oh, I can become an entrepreneur, I can become a creative thinker, think I am a creative thinker, I am one to to allow ideas to come into my mind, I am one to stand up against society and do what’s right for me, Jake, Rocky. So if we start doing these little changes, and we start believing in these principles, you can really elevate your life to that next level. And in a lot of times we relate success and all that stuff to money. It doesn’t have to be money driven, it can be a charity, just starting an organisation. You know, being the best parent that you truly can be. All these principles apply to it. Because if you don’t if you’re not, if you don’t gratitude, if you’re not leading, if you don’t lead yourself, if you don’t have the right attitude, if you’re not loving, if you’re not helping if you don’t believe in yourself, what kind of parent are you, and it doesn’t matter if you’re a stay at home or parent that’s working nine to five. These principles work in every demographic. So I just want your listeners and realise that it’s not all about money. It’s not about creating invention, so you can become filthy rich, it’s about what can you do to help society? What can you do to make this world his family better than what you found? It
David Ralph [54:37]
is amazing Jacob hearing you talk with the greatest respect, you almost think, well, you’re the most stupid man on earth that you couldn’t see your path? Because it’s so obviously bear, isn’t it? The passion that’s coming out of you is it’s in waves. It’s a tsunami of passion. And it is bizarre how once you hit it, as I keep on saying, just so obvious you’ve been to her Why could I not say that before because you’re made for this, I can hear that?
Jacob Nawrocki [55:07]
Well, thank you, thank you very much. And, and I think it’s it’s not that I made for this or anything like that. It’s it’s that I want it so bad. And it’s not want as an I want success. So I’m able to buy that Lamborghini, I want to reach so many people and to open their eyes of the possibilities that they have within you, whatever you need, you have within truly so so I just get so jacked up about this stuff. Because I was so blessed, being able to listen to this stuff and realise this, this mindset and this passion early on. And I know that I am in full control of my destiny. And and I’m very excited to see you see where this leads.
David Ralph [55:51]
As soon as you have that decision in your head, you’re on the road on you, as soon as you say, I can do something about it. As soon as you make that leap of faith, you can have a structure, you can have a six month plan, you can have whatever. But as soon as you realise that you are the only person that can give yourself a kick ass life, then you’re starting to move
Jacob Nawrocki [56:13]
exactly in a little example, to give you guys a little realm of Jake, Rocky here, you know, I want to start speaking publicly, and the only way to do that you need to reach out to people. Now I have no background, I have no public speaking, you know, certification or anything like that. I actually have not even graduated from college, and I have a couple of credits. But in the in the fire service, there’s real no need for college credits. And I decided, you know what a good place to start would be to either incoming freshmen at colleges or, you know, outgoing seniors into the real world. So I decided to start contacting colleges. Well, I made a list of around 120 colleges, you know, around 150 miles away from my my location here, Milwaukee. And so I started calling one by one these colleges, and I get got denied 79 times. And the at a time finally somebody said Yeah, perfect. We need to have a group meeting and stuff like that we like to come on in, and we’ll discuss, you know, what you can talk about and everything like that. So no matter what your passion is, and no matter how crazy cool I sound on the microphone, I still need to hustle, I still need to complete these goals in these dreams and ambitions. Because passion and enthusiasm are only going to get you so far. If you can apply passion enthusiasm with hustle in there and having an objective, then you have the secret sauce. But until then passion enthusiasm are only going to wow people instead of make yourself while
David Ralph [57:42]
hustle muscle, that’s what you need to develop. And if you haven’t got it, then you start working on it. I never used to have a hustle, I really didn’t. I was like a twig on the mighty stream of life, I would just float from one thing to another. And if somebody passed me by, I would grab hold of it. And that was simply how much life when. And I was always naturally lucky. It was amazing. I could walk into an airport with 500,000 people trying to get a higher car and I would just walk along and find the first one there and get in the car and drive off. But once I quit my job, then I realised I had to hustle. And now it’s actually the most exciting part of the role. Yes, I love these conversations, and I love these passionately. But those moments where you think, oh, I don’t know if I should do this. Oh, okay, I’m gonna do it anyway, and it pays off, you kind of think brilliant. And then the next time it’s not so scary. And you sort of keep moving on moving on moving on, as you say, Jacob, and Nike say, just do it.
Unknown Speaker [58:41]
David Ralph [58:42]
Right. This is the end of the show, young man. And this is when I will get to send you back to your even younger version. And this is the part of the show we called a sermon on the mic. And I’m going to send you back in time to have a one on one with the younger Jacob. And if you did walk into the room, and you saw your younger version sitting there, what would you say to them? What a advice would you give? And would it be the five year old, the 10 year old? Maybe the 20 year old? This is the Sermon on the mic?
Jacob Nawrocki [59:32]
Hello, Jake, This is Jake. And I want to speak to you today a few minutes to get yourself to the best possible place in the quickest amount of time. Now you’re thinking and you’re looking at me. Wow, you never thought you look so good at such an old age. But yes, you will look this good at that. At that age, I want to let you know that life’s gonna be tough. Let’s going to bear down on you. And you heard this before. And so I’m not going to bore you with these things of, of what life is going to throw at you and the hurdles and obstacles you’re going to encounter. But I want to tell you a few things that I have learned that I want you to know right now this second, that will get you in the place that you need to be live your life fully. Don’t hold back, fail more than you have ever failed before. If you’re not failing, every single day, you’re not growing. Every time you fall, you get up, you learn from it, you realise this life is exciting, I’m happy to fail, because I know what’s going to lead me to the place that I need to get from there, you’re going to start to realise that you need to be dedicated and whatever aspect you want, you need to realise that this life is going to hold you back when you know you need to extend. So when that happens, think to yourself, I’m determined, I want to become a my ultimate best. And by doing that, we believe that we have the ability to achieve anything, the books and the magazines and the people of the famous backgrounds that you’re going to encounter during your life. They all started like, you know, real background, no real experience, no degrees, all they had was envision, and this vision will strike you and this vision will get you to look up at the heavens and go Is this my path. And one that strikes you even if it’s ridiculous, and it doesn’t make sense. And it’s weird, and people laugh at you, you must follow it because that is your course. That is your life’s work. And even though you go through it, and it might totally backfire in your face you go. Luckily I went through it. So now I know that was not the right thing to do. So I’m going to continue searching these events that lead into your life will allow you to become that much better, that much stronger. And the few tips that I have number one vision yourself of where do you want to go in your life every day when you wake up, take a second and visualise the life that you want the life that that you feel would be the best suited for you. Second of all, be grateful for everything that comes into your life. Next. And lastly, never give up. You never give up on yourself. And you never give up on your family and the people that surround you never give up in your support group. And with the turmoils and the tragedies and the things that you go through in your own personal life. Make sure to help those other people that could use a helping hand. You can get everything in life that you want. If you just help enough other people get what they want. Never give up. Never give up.
David Ralph [1:02:41]
On your Skype, it says winners never quit and quit quit just never win. Pretty much the same thing, isn’t it? That’s always been something that you’ve been aware of.
Jacob Nawrocki [1:02:52]
Yes, my that was my father’s licence plate my whole life. W and qq NW winners never quit quitters. never win. And tough times never last tough people do. Quick little tip if you guys have a young family, and if you’re looking to inspire your young people, I would highly suggest start putting out things that you want them to understand and learn about instead of having that playboy on the kitchen counter. Replace it with you’ve seen my Life
Unknown Speaker [1:03:21]
Jacob Nawrocki [1:03:22]
Exactly. You know instead of those
David Ralph [1:03:26]
pitches Gina? Exactly. As well sometimes Jacob,
Jacob Nawrocki [1:03:31]
right, right. Right. Yeah, that’s where you attached all those personal photos to your emails, wondering what the Magic Mike you know, put things out there. So so your kids or people that come by, you know, they can see and get inspired by what you are doing. And even though you hate reading, get books on leadership or you know, gratitude or personal development, whatever it is, and later on your house, because I guarantee it, kids that you are raising will start to look at what you’re doing. And once they see that, you can start to mould them in an on obtrusive way to get them in the right place where you feel that they need to go,
David Ralph [1:04:14]
Jacob How can our listeners connect with you?
Jacob Nawrocki [1:04:18]
You guys can head on over to operation self reset calm. But actually, if you’re looking to find a little more about passion to find tips, how to stay motivated tips to kind of change your life in a small miniscule way. You guys can download these six high quality PDFs by going to all as our podcast calm. And there you will find the six free, high quality, awesome PDFs to kind of get you in the right mindset. And if this sounds ridiculous to you, if you don’t get if you think I’m full of full of hot air, like some people feel that personal development is, I highly suggest you get over there and download those PDFs. And I know they’re not going to change your life, this isn’t going to be like oh my gosh, this is what I’ve been looking for. But it’ll help get you in the right, you know, state of mind again, and in the right frame set to progress in a different area, unlock hidden potential in your own personal life.
David Ralph [1:05:15]
Jacob, I think we’re going to benchmark this episode. And we’re going to go to remember when we first heard of Jacob now Rocky, because I think it’s quite obvious that you are on your way. There’s no way you’re going to fail. You’ve got the passion, you’ve got the enthusiasm, you’re building up the knowledge base, you’re connecting across the globe. And I think all those elements are your unique self. So I really do think this is going to be the moment that we go. I remember that guy that was the first time I heard from it.
Jacob Nawrocki [1:05:42]
And I want to leave your listeners with this. Nobody knows your name right now. But you got to think to yourself, they will know my name someday. So so that’s just kind of going in in line with your your ending quote there. You know, we don’t know who Jacob and Rocky is now but somebody and it’s very true. Everybody that’s listening. You can have your name recognised worldwide if you would like the only person, the only person that’s holding that from happening is you. So
David Ralph [1:06:13]
thank you so much for spending time with us today. joining up those dots that our has a whizzed through is actually over there. I think he’s actually coming up to our longest ever show. So I salute Yes, but keeping the passion going all the way through. Please come back again, when you have more dots to join up as I believe the only way to build our futures is by connecting our past Jacob now Rocky, thank you so much.
Jacob Nawrocki [1:06:36]
Thank you, David. Honestly, you’re doing something awesome listeners keep on listening to what David has to offer. He’s bringing on some awesome guests. And the only way to expand your own knowledge base is to keep on listening to great content like this, turn off the radio and turn on Join Up Dots. podcast for sure. So thanks, David.
David Ralph [1:06:53]
I’m gonna appreciate that and I’m gonna sign you up as me manager, sir.
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