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Introducing JD Bloodstone
Today’s guest, joining us on the Join Up Dots podcast interview, has the biggest balls you can imagine.
Well I better rephrase that really, it doesn’t sound the best way to start an introduction after all.
So lets go with, our guest today is Mr JD Bloodstone, who has three hugely successful books all based around the theme of being “Ballsy in life”
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Highly influenced by the classic “Think And Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill our guest has brought the book and its content up to date, and added a rich vein of humour, anecdotes and well…..himself to the pages.
All of them are fun, readable and hugely powerful guides to taking control of your life, shaking off the fear that roots us to the spot, and moving forward with more momentum than you could hope for.
But believe me, behind the words of the book we have a man with a personal story that has been challenging and difficult, which has allowed him to roadtest the words he has given to the world.
So what makes a man take the leap of faith and attempt to change the world.
And what makes a man think that he can bring something different to Hill, Robbins, and Canfields of the world?
Well let’s bring onto the show to start joining up dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs with the one and only JD Bloodstone.
During the show we discussed such weighty topics such as:
How he believes in the power of asking for something as if you don’t then the answer will always be “No”
How without courage you are never going to get off your backside and grasp hold of the future that you deserve!
Where fear comes from and how we can beat it to achieve our aims!
How he believes that he has found the “Secret” that is hinted within the pages of the classic “Think And Grow Rich” book by Napoleon Hill
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Audio Transcription Of JD Bloodstone Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David, Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Good morning, everybody. Good morning to you wanna know, wherever you are across the globe. Except for Greenland. We’re not getting any downloads in Greenland. So if you know anyone if you’ve got an uncle or Auntie or, or somebody in Greenland, and get them to download the show, and listen, because it’d be nice if I can get the entire world green. And that means that I’ve got listeners in every port. Well, let me introduce you to today’s guest. And quite simply, he has the biggest balls you can imagine. Well, I better rephrase that really, because it doesn’t sound the best way to start an introduction after all. So let’s go with our guest today has three hugely successful books, all based around the theme of being ballsy in life, Think and Grow balls, awaken the balls within, and 2014 addition to the balls family, the 10 Habits of Highly ballsy people highly influenced by the classic thinking Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill. Our guest has bought the book and its content up to date and added a rich vein of humour, anecdotes, and well himself to the pages. All of them are fun, readable and hugely powerful guides to taking control of your life shaking off the fear that routes us to the spot and moving forward with more momentum than you could hope for. But believe me behind the words of the book, we have a man with a personal storey that has been challenging and difficult which is allowed him to road test the words he has given to the world. So what makes a man take the leap of faith and attempt to change the world and what makes a man think that he can bring something different to heal Robbins in the can fields of the world. So now without further ado, let’s bring on to the show to start Join Up Dots the one and only JD blood stone. How are you today? Jd?
JD Bloodstone [2:07]
I’m well thank you for having me on your show.
David Ralph [2:10]
No, it’s lovely to have you on the show. So whereabouts are you? Where we’re talking over Skype? I am just outside London. But where is home for JD Blackstone?
JD Bloodstone [2:20]
I’m actually in Boise, Idaho. I’m in a suburb just outside called meridian and United States.
David Ralph [2:31]
Okay, and what is there to do there if I was thinking of coming over on holiday to Idaho? And certainly was it Boise you said, then what would loom into that world?
JD Bloodstone [2:44]
Well, the the main attraction is just the closeness to the outdoors. Within 45 minutes drive in any direction. There’s, there’s almost an innumerable things that you can do. We get all the all four seasons here. So in the wintertime, we’ve got a ski resort, there’s no revealing there’s snowshoeing in the spring, in the fall, there’s hiking, in the summer, you’ve got fishing, boating, water skiing, we’ve got our own reservoir, just about a half hour outside. The weather’s really enjoyable, it’s not too humid, it’s pretty dry here. So it’s pretty comfortable all year long. But I’ve lived in several different places across the country. And I keep finding my way back to Idaho. And I think more I think the big reason is just because I like the people here they they’re just a downer people. And so that’s my kind of person.
David Ralph [3:47]
And I suppose the million dollar question is with all that on your doorstep? Do you actually do that? Because most people don’t take? Well, I don’t use the things actually, that’s all around them?
JD Bloodstone [4:00]
Well, I certainly try but that you’re right, no, I don’t get out and do everything that I can do, unfortunately, with my business, that takes the vast majority of my time, but that’s also a choice that I make, because I do you enjoy what I do. And and you know, I, I, I suppose I work harder than I play. But again, that’s okay for me. But when I do decide to play, I don’t have to go very far. And you know, that’s that’s a big reason why I’m here.
David Ralph [4:38]
So we’re talking about your books. That’s obviously what drew you to me and made me so grab the attention because it’s, you know, thinking grow balls is not a sort of name that would naturally come to an offer, I imagine. So where did you first get the idea of sticking the word balls on the end of the dissolve classic thinking grow rich.
JD Bloodstone [5:01]
That’s actually an interesting story. And it’s one that I’ve never, I’ve never told before. So you’re going to be the first there was a book written by Rhonda Byrne called the secret, I think it was also turned into a movie as well. And I’ve always been really into self improvement books. And we were going back to 2007. Now, but there was a part in the book where it talks about the secret being, you know, other than the law of attraction and talks about asking the universe for what you want. And although I’m not a complete, 100% believer, and everything that she talks about, in her book, I do understand that I do believe in the power of asking for what you want. Not necessarily the universe, but asking everybody asking, you know, if you need help ask for it. If you want something, ask for it, you know, the answer will always be no, if you don’t ask, and I’ve always, I’ve always been programmed that way. And you know, at that time, I had written most of the book, it was not it didn’t have a title. It didn’t even have a working title, it, it was the book kind of was written in my head over the course of maybe a year and a half. As I as I started to read more and more books, I started to realise, you know, there’s, there’s something missing with these books, and I couldn’t quite put my finger on it. But I ultimately did. But I had the book and I knew what the book was about. And, you know, ultimately, the book is about what I think self improvement books don’t talk about. I think that I tried to write the missing chapter to virtually every self help book out there. Because I, I couldn’t find what I was looking for. Because I didn’t want to write a book if somebody else had already written on the topic. But you’ve got these great authors and these great books, some of them, I think, at the time and Think and Grow Rich and sold 160 million copies worldwide, and was translated in almost every language on the planet. And I thought, you know, if it’s sold so many copies, you know, and it’s so popular. Why? Why is it everyone who reads it a success? You know, what, what’s the, what stops everyone who reads this book? Like if the secret is here in this book, which I do believe it is? Why isn’t? Why isn’t everyone successful upon learning the secret. And basically, I had come down to, you know, the self improvement books are really good at motivating somebody in terms of making them feel really good about themselves, I think that’s part of the draw, and it’s part of the allure of self improvement books is the really good ones can do an excellent job of making you feel good. And you can, as you said, you can kind of connect some dots in your head about where you’ve been and where you are, and get an idea of where you want to go. But the missing piece is that if you don’t, if you don’t have the courage, to take action, and actually do something with all of this knowledge that you have, or these skills, or as Napoleon Hill planet, the 13 success principles, if you don’t have the courage to actually do something with that knowledge, all of that knowledge is useless. And you know, the only book that I really came across that, that talked about, what I write about is was a little obscure book, I can’t find it anywhere. My grandmother gave it to me when I was about 15 or 16 years old. And it’s called I dare you. And it’s a little manual, hardcover book. And in it is basically just the author was I dare you to think about your future. And I dare you to think about what you want in life. And as you get to the end, you know, it was it stopped short, but it was getting to where, you know, I dare you to write out an action plan, I dare you to, to take action and then accomplished the first item on the list. And you know, that was really powerful to me, because I’ve always been programmed As
you know, there comes a point in time when you thought about something enough. And you talked about something enough that for me, something just clicks in my head, I call it flipping the switch. I’ve also called it dropping in here down. But something happens in me to where I just have decided that I’ve thought enough about this. It’s something that I want. It’s something that I I know that I can do. And I don’t always know that it’s going to be easy. And sometimes, you know, I because of that I have made some, some mistakes. But ultimately, I know that you have to decide to take action. And getting back to your question, I’m sorry, I got a little historic on you there. But that’s what
David Ralph [10:31]
we like on this show.
JD Bloodstone [10:34]
I, I was practising what I preach, I was doing a little bit of my, my meditation and was doing some auto suggestion I do whatever I can, I truly believe that that that’s a way that we can use our conscious mind to directly imprint, whatever we choose on to our subconscious mind. And in one of these sessions, I just I was exhausted after, you know, writing continuously all day. And it was really bothering me that I didn’t have a title yet. And I know, I know, I have a marketing degree. And I know from my experience that having a good title is 50% of your success. It’s literally that important, especially when you consider how competitive the publishing world has become. You know, specifically when you figure in all the self publishing that’s going on, you know, the publishing industry has completely changed. And everyone really has the same advantages and disadvantages that everyone else has, if you don’t have a major publisher working with you, but I had it I just decided to ask the universe for the title of my book. And as sceptical as I was, I kid you not within 15 minutes in a state of complete and total relaxation. A voice I don’t even think it was my own my own voice to be honest with you. But it was just it was an internal voice that just said thinking grow balls. And it was my hair just stood up just now thinking about it. But it was so powerful because I I knew in that instant that that that’s what the title of my book was going to be. Because a it’s it’s clearly calling attention. It’s basically my homage to Think and Grow Rich because I I certainly never meant to offend anybody. And I I’m only trying to be the funny with the title. But I I think it works with my message. And I got online and I went to a domain registry and I looked up to see if they can grow balls calm was taken. And it was available. So I I knew that. I knew nobody had thought of that before. And I am so I registered it immediately. And that became the title of my book. And interestingly enough the next day.
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David Ralph [13:22]
And why why would I JD?
JD Bloodstone [13:25]
Well, because they played this stupid commercial every 15 minutes, and I’m
David Ralph [13:31]
talking to the wife or something.
JD Bloodstone [13:35]
No, and I, this commercial used to drive me nuts. It had this this guy. I was smiling Bob. And he whistled. And you know, he was just tacky. And it was actually playing in the background. And that’s when the subtitle of the book came to mind. How to shrink your fear and enlarge your courage. It just seemed like it went together. And I ran with it.
David Ralph [14:05]
And so you should run with it. Because once you do get that moment in your life, call it an epiphany, call it an inner feeling or whatever. It is so powerful, isn’t it? You’ve got to go with it. You know, I’ve caught this show Join Up Dots. And at the beginning, a lot of people were saying well, no one’s ever going to find it. What does it mean? It doesn’t sort of that there’s no relevance to it in any shape or form, other than a looseness connexion to the speech of Steve Jobs back in 2005. But I didn’t listen to them. Because I just bought it sounded like and it proved to be right, because it really is the thing that is is connecting the shows is connecting the people and Join Up Dots has become a metaphor for Connexions around the world. So when you do get that moment, you don’t really have to fight it. Do you just kind of go, why it may not be clever. But God It feels right.
JD Bloodstone [15:00]
you know, there’s a spectrum, I would think, you know, sometimes on the far end of the spectrum, such as with the title of thinking grow balls, I think, yes, 100%. I, that that was a sign that that was the answer that that I asked for. It was perfect. It, it. It hit everything that it hit on, it touched on everything that I talked about in my books. And it even incorporated a sense of humour, which I have, and I like to like to play too, because I am not always such a serious person. And my natural personality is when it comes to talking about difficult subjects. You know, if you can, if you can inject a little humour, it seems to, to go over a lot, a lot more smoothly?
David Ralph [15:56]
Absolutely. I think the two words out of all that, that really sort of resonated with me is, you’ve got to ask for something that lasts more than two words, and courage. And you put the two together. And you you’ve got a half a fighting chance of creating your own reality, Evan, you having courage and asking for stuff. And it’s easy asking thing, when when you’re a kid, and your parents go. If you ask for it, you’re not going to get it. It kind of brainwash is us to somehow not be able to reach out to people. But it’s not scary. It’s scary in your head. But as soon as you do reach out to people in the right way, more often than not, you do get a positive response, don’t you?
JD Bloodstone [16:41]
You do. And you just reminded me, I was actually thinking, just along the lines of what you were saying about when you’re a kid when you’re asking your parents for something. You know, I was the youngest of three children. And my older brother and sister had grown up with the same office opportunities that I had. But I didn’t know that. But when I was in seventh grade, that my teacher gave a presentation about a school field trip to visit Washington, DC, and Jamestown and and visit all of these historic, significant monuments. And I thought that would be really fun. So I asked my parents if I could go, and they said yes. Well, after that happened, my brother and sister.
Unknown Speaker [17:33]
JD Bloodstone [17:35]
I don’t know how to describe it. But they basically turned on me. I mean, they were unhappy that that I was able to go in this field trip. And when I, I talked to them about it. They said, Well, we wanted to go on that field trip, but we never thought mom and dad would let us go. So we never asked. And I said well, you know, that’s your problem, you know that that thought did enter my head. I just thought if I want to go I need it permission. And so I went about getting their permission, you know, and, and really early on. I mean, we’re talking seventh grade here, I knew that I was just a little different than that. I didn’t look for the reasons on why I couldn’t do something. I was always looking for the reasons on why I could or I was looking at how I could do something. And I just I picked on in my teenage years or picked up on in my teenage years that, you know, people aren’t mind readers. If you don’t express yourself, if you don’t tell people what you’re looking for, the answer is always going to be no. But the surprising thing is that if you’re open with what your agenda is, if if you let people know what you’re looking for sure, people can say no, and you could get rejected. But the flip side is is that you can find other people who share your your wants, they who share your goals and your aspiration. So you can actually find friends and you can find allies and people who are willing to help you along the way. And you would never, you would never find this out you’d never find these friends or these so called guardian angels, you’d never find these people who are out there to help you. If you know that.
David Ralph [19:21]
And the ease of sort of pass it forward thing, isn’t it? Pass it on? You know, when when I was trying to get this show together, I had to reach out to people and I’ll be honest, I was terrified. I don’t know why looking back. I was terrified. Because now it’s been a bit of a breeze really, I’ll be honest with you. And I don’t think I’ve ever had a response that’s come back and said, You’ve got to be joking. Who the hell do you think you are? You know, or whatever? It’s either yes or no, it’s not quite the right time at the moment. Could you come back to me in four months time? But it’s scary, isn’t it? It’s scary in your head. And I don’t know why it’s scary. And I’m sure there’s lots of people out there listening to this who’s got an idea in their head? And they think to the Oh, I don’t really know how to do this. I you know, I’ve got the angle. I’ve got the idea. But why do you think it is other than we don’t like know? Why do you think it is so
JD Bloodstone [20:11]
scared? I read books on and to answer your question.
succinctly as possible. It’s fear of the unknown.
But I tried to take it a step further, you know, there’s, you know, anyone can say, oh, you’re afraid. But I wanted to be more constructive. I literally wanted to write a manual I wanted, I wanted to write something that somebody could actually use, I didn’t want someone just to read my books, and set it down and go back to their life. You know, like I said, I wanted my book to be the missing chapter of every self help book that’s out there. So I wanted it to be applicable to everyone schools, or whatever they might be wanting to do with their lives.
So I, I forgot my train of thought here,
David Ralph [21:06]
no problem, I’m gonna jump in. I love it when the train the ball just disappears. So um, well, I’m back, always back on Go for it.
JD Bloodstone [21:15]
Basically, it’s fear of the unknown. So what I tried to do was, I tried to, I tried to answer that question. As a human being with, you know, considering myself average, like I’m no better, no worse than every human. on the planet, I have the same system, I have the same body, I have the same makeup I have a spiritual viewing, I have a physical being a mental being. It’s I have all these pieces that make up me. And I wanted to know, where fear came from. And I wanted to know why, why it’s there. Why do we even experience fear. And better yet, I wanted to know how to face it. And I wanted to know how to give it a name. And I wanted to know how to defeat it. And in order for me to do that, I had to research a lot of anatomy and physiology but but learn how the body works. And I came across what I call the feel good chemicals. And these are a set of neurotransmitters and hormones that are inside the human body, we all have them. And it’s these chemicals that provide us with the range of our emotions. And I just chose to, to focus on fear versus courage. And in my writing, I talked about how fear and courage are separate emotions, they’re actually the same emotion, they’re on the same spectrum. Just there on one side of the other on one side, you have absolute fear. And on the other side, you have absolute courage. And it’s very good, rarely where you’re going to be on one side or the other. Most of us in any given day, in any given situation, we’re going to be somewhere in between those two points where we’ve got a little mixture of confidence, and courage and we’ve got a mixture of fear. And what I tried to, to do in my books was to help someone identify where they were on that scale, and then how to change their thinking so that they could slide that the fear, the fear over the fulcrum point to where, you know, have more courage than you have fear. And it’s only when that point happens. That you can actually take action, you know, so it’s not it’s, you know, being courageous is not that you don’t have fear. I think it’s that you just think that’s something else is more important, and I believe a quote, I believe, Ambrose retinue might have said that, that fear or courage isn’t the absence of fear, it’s realising that something else is more important. And I, I firmly believe that, and I don’t think fear goes away. I, I think fear, I think the ultimate purpose of fear is to make us more alert is to tell us that we need to be careful. And we need to open our eyes and open our ears. And we need to be more perceptive. Because there’s danger. And I don’t think fear was ever meant to stop us. I think it was just meant to say proceed with caution. And I think when you look at it in that way, you you start to see, or you stop seeing fear as as an enemy. And you start to see it as an ally, you say, Well, how can I use fear to actually get what I want. And and that’s what I write about
David Ralph [24:54]
that that is the key point, isn’t it if I if I can just emphasise what you’re saying there to this to the listeners. But it’s it’s almost nature’s way of saying but you are going into an area that you’re not comfortable with when you feel those fears and where you feel those doubts. But if you can find a way, and we’re going to touch on this in a moment, but if you can find a way of confronting those fears, and actually pushing through, you’re actually developing yourself, you’re improving yourself, you’re taking yourself out of the comfort zone, into the uncomfortable zone. And that is where all the magic occurs. That is where you’re in situations that you’ve never been in before. And that’s where opportunities can strike you down.
JD Bloodstone [25:37]
Yeah, I a big part of my writing. And it’s a consistent theme in all three books is even small actions, the baby steps, even just the little tiny is actions towards your goal provides you with feedback. So this feedback, again, can be positive or negative. What What do you think think of it is really what it is. And if you interpreted as as being bad, then it is that if you interpreted as being positive, and it is. But you know, I think fear and anxiety, I think anxiety is pre fear, almost thinking anxiety is the fear of fear. But I think our brains, when when we think about something that we’ve never done before, again, it goes back to the fear of the unknown, our brains want to help us become more efficient. And because we have no experience in doing something, our brain essentially returns a no value. If it doesn’t have a response, it can’t help us. And I think that’s, I think that no response is what triggers the feel good chemicals in our body and brain to produce the sensation that we know it’s fear. So the power of taking baby steps or taking any action whatsoever towards our goals, providing with feedback that our brains can then use in the next step. So the next step doesn’t feel as fearful because now our brain is able to return a response to the question that we’ve asked it show to show it, I jumped from point A to point B, well, if you’ve ever done that, before your brain can really assist you with that other than what it believes to be true about you and the light in the world you live in. But as soon as you have some experience, a lot of times when we find out that what we fear isn’t even anything close to what actually happens in real life. In a lot of cases, there was no reason for the fear to begin with. But you never really know that unless you take the action, and are then are able to use that feedback in the future. And that’s really, that’s really the main point of my books, right there is just trying to understand how the human body it works, and how the brain functions and why it’s important to think positively. And how you can stop yourself from, from hindering yourself and stopping yourself from from doing and being what you really want. And, and flipping the switch on that. And encouraging yourself to actually take action and, and do something and, and bring about this positive personal change. And I released thinking grow balls in December of 2007. So we’re going on six and a half, almost seven years. And the feedback that I have from the book is has actually been phenomenal. I I I never really thought that. You know, I guess that’s a fear of all authors, I guess you know, you you write a book, you spend a tremendous amount of time writing something and you don’t know if it’s any good. And when you release it, you know, you’re opening yourself up to criticism, which is one of Napoleon hills six dose of fear. And, you know, everyone has those? And I certainly do. And for me, it came to a point where, you know, I had written the best book that I could, I knew that I wanted to expand upon it. But for the first book, I had finished it and I said you just have to publish it and cross your fingers. And and hopefully people are mean,
David Ralph [29:29]
well, you you had faith in yourself, didn’t you, you had faith, you had believed you took action. You did everything really that Steve Jobs talks about in that iconic speech back in 2005, which I’m going to play now. And we’re going to look at it because it really does sort of emphasise, but you didn’t have all the answers, you didn’t know that these books were going to be successful, you didn’t even know it was the right title to sort of grow it to what it has. But you went with it, you had the faith. So I’m going to bring Steve on now and see what he has to say.
Steve Jobs [30:00]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [30:34]
So when did you start? When was the first sort of dot that led you on the path to where you are today?
JD Bloodstone [30:44]
Well, it’s it all goes back to right before? Well, it goes back to when I knew that I wanted to write my own book in it, then I had no idea what would become a bit. But you must
David Ralph [31:00]
you must have been before that. Surely, you know that you must have written storeys as a child or, you know, there must have been some creative element in you before that.
JD Bloodstone [31:11]
Yeah, yeah, no, that’s true. I I wrote poetry as a teenager, although I never shared it with anybody except maybe with a few girlfriends. I took creative writing classes in high school and in college. And I always had great feedback from from them, you know, from my teachers, and they’d say, you know, keep keep writing. You know, you’re you have you have talent, but it needs to, you know, you have to, you have to you know, you need more practice. You know, there’s, I’ve worked with a few people who call it getting the rocks out of your mouth. And I think they I think they use that metaphor more with when you’re speaking, but it’s the same kind of deal when you’re writing. You know, the good stuff, inspirational inspiration and good writing doesn’t just doesn’t just flow out of you for no reason. Basic. I mean, you have to have a tap on before the water’s gonna flow. So
David Ralph [32:07]
did you want a lot of stuff that you look back on it? And you go, because I’ve written novels anytime? I’ve never shown anyone? Oh, no, actually, I’ve shown one person, a novel that I wrote. And I, sometimes I would come home after a day’s work and being right, I got three hours, let’s go for it. And I couldn’t get anything coming out. It was just rubbish. And then other times, you’d sit down sort of late at night just for sort of like 15 minutes and four hours later, bang, you’d banged out about 50 pages of brilliant stuff. So that creative writing but led to this book, was there elements of it that really were a stepping stone they will adopt when you actually bought Yes. This is closer to what I wanted this these books to be.
JD Bloodstone [32:49]
Well, yeah, I I real, you know, if you’re talking about connecting dots will definitely be necessary specifically to these books I would say would be with my second book, there’s the there’s a little bit of, of history that you may want to know here is that I had, I had never intended on writing a weekend or titling a book, awaken the balls within or the 10 Habits of Highly ballsy people. I had always intended to run with thinking grow balls, and I had just planned on writing a second edition or Revised Edition. And I had planned on continuing to use that, as my own knowledge, and writing and abilities improved. I just planned on updating the one book that I had. But little did I know that that I’m still kind of Napoleon Hill foundation would find my work. And they sent me a cease and desist letter asked me to not only stop selling my book, but hand over the domain name and destroy it all the copies that I had and apologise to them and never let it happen again. And
David Ralph [34:07]
his book was in like public domain, I thought it had run out of its publishing deal or whatever. And you could just do what you want with it now.
JD Bloodstone [34:15]
Well, that’s true, but they claim to have the trademark, right, they claim that I was
violating their their trademark, and also engaging and unfair competition, by using any variation of thinking grow. They, they think that, that thinking grow with any word after grow, is protected by their trademark. And obviously I, I disagreed. And probably one of the best moves I made was I got myself one of the best trademark lawyers in the country, her name, our neighbour, she’s, she’s based in Salt Lake City. And she she was awesome. And we we fought this deal. And, you know, I never met to it to offend anybody with this title. And, and after seven years, I realised that not everyone appreciates the grow balls metaphor. And and I understand that I get that. But again, my intention was never to offend. I was just trying, it worked. For me, it said everything that I needed to say. And in my book, I, I certainly give Napoleon Hill much praise I consider him as being very valuable in, in, in changing my life. And, you know, and no, no fewer than three times in my book, do I tell my readers, you know, if you haven’t read thinking Grow Rich stop, you know, read that book before you read this, because this is really a capstone to, to to that book. And what what what
David Ralph [36:06]
was it about that book because I’ve read the book, and I’ve read it, and some parts of it, I flew through and some were bits of heavy going. But you’ve you’ve made an income out of it. So what Where did you get that extra room from that book that perhaps I didn’t?
JD Bloodstone [36:25]
Will it all it goes back to when he he hints about it in the book several times as the secret to the Andrew Carnegie secret that, that he’s hitting, even says that he’s hitting it almost almost every page of the book, and he isn’t, he isn’t going to say exactly what it is. But if you’re ready for it, it’ll jump out of the page. And and it’ll, it’ll it’ll find you. And you know, it’s very cryptic in and in fact, I think if you Google, what is the Carnegie secret? You know, I think you’ll find several hundred thousand pages of different people giving their their opinion of what the Carnegie secret is. And I wrote an essay about it was actually, you know, I guess if we’re talking about Join Up Dots, I guess the essay came before the book. I wrote an essay, you can find this essay on my website at think, bro balls calm. We’ll get back to that in a second. But I want I thought that I I guess I still do I feel that I know what the Carnegie secret is. And the articles that I read about people trying to say what it is I thought No, that’s not it. And so I just felt like I had something to say. And I wrote an essay and shared it with a few people and it was gone. Wow. That’s kind of hard to argue with. And and basically, I think that I think the Carnegie secret is, is our secret. What’s your secret? It’s your individual secret? He doesn’t? He doesn’t tell you what the secret is it because he can’t tell you what your purpose is. He talks at length about a definite major purpose. And it’s the ultimate overarching concept of each of our lives. It’s the reason why we’re on this planet. And that secret that Carnegie secret is individual to each of us. And we need to experience and find out what that is for ourselves. So So how
David Ralph [38:33]
do people do that? Bo, JD? How do people find out that secret? When most of the time they’re going into a nine to five job? They’ve got two days off at the weekend and bang, they’re back into it again. So how do they find that that thing that he’s talking about?
JD Bloodstone [38:52]
You know, I’ve always believed that, that people already know, there’s, there’s an end, there’s an interest, we all have an internal voice inside of us that knows what we want. I believe in this. And I I think if you ask I think every single person on this planet has a dream. They if if they couldn’t fail if they had their their way, every single person with I mean, maybe we might take a few a few minutes to, you know, to get into words. But I think ultimately everyone has that answer. But I think managing life and responsibilities and certain situations and environmental factors, I think that weighs heavily on reality and our in our own lives. And, and I think that we let that world dictate our lives. And what I tried to do was, was just to, to, to spin it back to to sell, you know, you know, I’m, I’m the most important part of this sequence, you know, this is my life, I’m, I’m perceiving the world around me. If there’s an aspect of my life that I don’t like, I’m going to do everything I can to change it. If there’s something I want to do or something I want to be, then it’s up to me to get there. Because nobody cares about my success, like I do. And nobody cares about anyone else’s success like they do. And if you want it to happen, you have to take responsibility. And you have to make that happen. Because everyone else is worried about their own success. And no one has time to just hand success. Because success is so valuable that everyone wants it for themselves.
David Ralph [40:41]
So what do you want from your reality then? Jd? So you you’re sitting there now you’ve written your free books? Where Where can you see your life going? What How are you shaping your future?
JD Bloodstone [40:53]
Well, I I’d like to be able to, to make a full time income. My blog is a full time income off of writing and travelling and speaking. That’s where I see myself I, one of the things I enjoy most is I have a mentor programme, I don’t like the word success coach or, or anything like or life coach or anything, but I have my own programme. And that’s really, where I get some of my it was all worth it moments is when somebody reads my book. And it’s it’s helped them in some way. And they say, you know what, I want to spend more time with this guy, and I want to pick his brain and I want to see if he can help me and I have I call it my escape velocity mentorship programme I have that I have several students that I work with on a continual basis. And if I could, if I can incorporate break more of that into my daily life, that would, that would definitely make what I do more fulfilling, because you can, you can write books, you can, you can sell books, you can you can do all of this stuff to occupy your time, and you can make tonnes of money, and it’s all great and everything. But that’s not really for me, it’s not really the most satisfying aspect of this, quite honestly, the most satisfying aspect is when I realised that I’ve helped somebody. And my purpose, my definite major purpose is to help other people find out what their purpose is. And I believe that that’s the highest form for me on this planet. And if I can do that, and at the same time while supporting myself and my dreams, then it’s a win win. So innovation and that’s, that’s what I’m trying to do with
David Ralph [43:04]
my life right now. So what’s holding you back from doing that? Obviously, you’ve got the background, you’ve got the clients already so what what’s stopping you expanding that until your your dream life is fulfilled?
JD Bloodstone [43:19]
Well, I think it’s, I think it comes down to marketing. It’s, you know, I don’t have any in giant publisher or an agent or anybody behind me helping me with this. This is this has been a project of my own creation since since the beginning. And it is just me, and the world is a big place. And, you know, people are just finding about finding out about my first book now. I mean, here, it’s been seven years. And there have been and I do, I do a little bit of marketing and promoting and networking every the day. I have done that. That’s my that’s basically one of my goals in life is that every day I do one thing that takes him closer to that ultimate
David Ralph [44:10]
dream, and but you’ve got about 200,000 Twitter followers or something I saw.
JD Bloodstone [44:16]
I think I’m at 187
David Ralph [44:18]
Yeah, 197, which, you know, that’s marketing on it on a huge scale, isn’t it?
JD Bloodstone [44:24]
It is, and that’s actually one of the things that I’m most proud of I, I do, I do follow a lot of people, and I follow people who follow other people that I follow because I, I feel that they have something in common with me. And the other thing is, I’m not trying to sell my books. You know, I I do a couple daily posts, I do a motivational post in the morning, and then I do a pic of the day in the afternoon. And you know, those, those moments are powerful for me every day because they get my mind, right. And if I can, Twitter gives me the platform to be able to share those moments with everybody else. And you know, I it’s not about having a big following, even though that’s nice, but it’s more about introducing myself to somebody and then giving them a reason to follow me. And I can say that, but how
David Ralph [45:20]
have you done it, how there’s going to be loads of people out here listening to this show. And that’s going to be the thing that really sort of gains their interest because it is so important having a social media presence. So how how have you managed to get hundred 97,000 Twitter’s? Which, I must admit, when I saw it, I thought really Blimey that that’s a huge amount.
Unknown Speaker [45:42]
How have you managed to do that? It’s quite simple. I follow 1000 people today?
David Ralph [45:47]
What so you you click 1000 thousand thousand thousand?
Unknown Speaker [45:51]
David Ralph [45:53]
It’s got to be more than that, though. Surely,
JD Bloodstone [45:59]
you know, other than my tweets, you know, I I’ve had my to motivational tweets for three years now. So there, I think there’s a little bit of a snowball effect there. Um, someone can go to my Twitter account and go to my history and see and see my tweets and you know, find out that, you know, this is something that I’m dedicated to, and I’m trying to help and I I’m trying to provide value. So no, I don’t I think I think following people and introducing myself to people is just half the battle. I think the other half is giving people a reason to follow you. And I think that’s where your content comes into play. You know, you have to have decent content, I mean, not everyone’s going to follow everybody for any reason. And that’s really that’s, that’s really it, that’s my strategy, introduce myself to the thousand people every day, and give them a reason to follow me
David Ralph [46:57]
now, but how to do other than just sitting there going Follow, follow, follow, follow, follow, but you can’t just do that 1000 times.
JD Bloodstone [47:04]
There’s a few tools out there that that make that easier, but you still have to find the people you still have to. And this is this is where the art of it is you still have to find find the people that you think that you’re going to have something in common. I’m not, I don’t just go blindly introduce myself to people, I think that would be a waste of time I, I try to I, I just try, I predict I guess I just try to say, I have this person’s follow this person. And I think we have something in common. And, you know, I guess from a marketing standpoint, or from an advertising standpoint, I know that the default settings are for Twitter, is that when someone follows you, Twitter sends out an email saying so and so followed you. And yeah, that email is your picture, your link in your bio. And, and so I thought, you know, well, that’s an that’s an advertisement, that that is free, that I don’t have to pay for other than my time, which, you know, I’ll be honest with you, it does, it does take some time to do that every day. But I’ve committed myself to doing that. And after three years of doing that, that’s just the way it is. I don’t even think about it anymore. But so I know that I that 1000 ads get sent out to people that I think that are similar to me and might like what I do, and the rest of the rest is from there, they can follow me back or they don’t have to.
Unknown Speaker [48:53]
I would say
JD Bloodstone [48:55]
I would say that out of 1000 people that I follow on a daily basis, I would say you know, anywhere from 200 to 600 people following me back.
David Ralph [49:07]
I think that’s a real, that’s a real nugget, isn’t it from from this episode, because there’s so many people out there who are emailing me saying, you know, you’ve inspired me to go into a new venture. But it is one of those things social media that really you kind of wish that you didn’t have to mess around with it. Because it does take so much time. I know there’s tools that can sort of speed it up. And you can get virtual assistants to help you in that. But it is a sort of a big time suck, but you can’t get away from it. So the fact that you’ve advised us on how you’ve done it. And I was making lots of notes here because I know that that’s something I need to get better at myself is this huge sort of nugget of the show. So I thank you for sharing us sharing that with us. But just before I let you go, JD, this is the end of the show. And this is when I put you on the mic, and we call it the Sermon on the mic when I send you back into to have a short one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back, would you go back to sort of childhood? Or would you go back to your teenage years? What age would you go back to to be honoured to have a one on one? And what kind of advice would you give? So I’m going to play the music now. And when it fades out, you’re on the mic. This is the Sermon on the mic.
Unknown Speaker [50:25]
Here we go with the best of the show.
JD Bloodstone [50:46]
Hey there JD little Jamie, this is this is feature. Jamie talking direct from the future, obviously, I guess, I guess you would be 15 or 16 years old. And I guess I would just say if I could, I could say a few things. I would say don’t don’t internalise everything. Don’t, don’t think so hard about everything in your life. And there’s a lot of filler in life, it’s not all as important. As you make it seem. And, or it may seem. There’s there’s a lot of people who appear to be important in your life. And there’s a lot of things in your life, that that that are going to seem really important right now. But when you’re older, they’re not going to seem so important. But you’re you’re going to learn some lessons about being able to filter out and identify what, what’s important to you. And you know, you can relax a little bit because you don’t need to be on guard and not everything needs a response from you, there’s you know, the world is fine, the world will take care of itself. Worry about you worry about what’s important to you worry about what you can do now. Worry about how you can help people now Don’t, don’t get frustrated when when people don’t accept your help
realise that everyone has a mission, everyone has their own purpose.
Many, many people like to find out this purpose on their own. It’s not your job to to tell people what they need to do. But you can be there to listen to them, and guide them, and then help them find that out for themselves and
laugh a little bit more and prank a little bit more and stay out a little bit later. And
the work you do is important, but
it’s not always about work or you know, sometimes you have to slow down and, and enjoy the fruits of your labour a little bit. Because time you don’t you don’t have all the time in the world, you’re only here for a little bit. So you want to make it count. But at the same point in time, you know, you always need to have a smile on your face and humour goes a long way. And it will keep it Don’t let somebody who’s already messed up their life, talk you out of doing the things that that you want to do. And if there’s one bit of advice that I would tell you, it’s that sometimes you’re going to run into a lot of resistance because you’re doing the right thing.
Not because you’re doing the wrong thing.
There just are some people out there
who are miserable, and
they don’t want to see other people happy. They don’t want to see other people’s to succeed. It’s unfortunate, but
don’t let these people hold you down.
You know, plough through keep going. You’ve always known what’s important to you.
Unknown Speaker [54:34]
And just stay true to what you want and help as many people as you can. That’s it
David Ralph [54:40]
JD How can people connect with you who’s been listening into the show today?
JD Bloodstone [54:47]
Well, the easiest way to get me personally would be on Twitter. My handle is at JD Blackstone My website is think grow balls calm. I didn’t really is Think and Grow balls calm in my in my dealings with the Napoleon Hill foundation. But I didn’t get the permission to continue selling the book but so you can go girlboss com. Twitter’s good. I do have a Facebook page. You can search me on Facebook. I’m rarely on Facebook. But I do check in every so often. But you can reach me directly by email as well. That’s easy JT blood stone at gmail. com. I do read all of those. And I try to respond to each one
David Ralph [55:36]
will I’ll put all those links on the show notes. And I’m sure that there will be people contacting you. And I just like to say thank you so much for spending time with us today joining up those dots of your life. And please come back again when you have more dots to join up. Because I believe the only way to build our futures is by connecting our pasts. JD Blackstone Thank you so much. Thank you.
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