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Introducing Keri Murphy
Keri Murphy is the CEO and founder of Inspired Living, where she and her team help entrepreneurs become go-to experts in their field and build influential brands through on-camera training, business strategy, media, and marketing planning.
As an international speaker,media expert,and business mentor,Keri is committed to helping others to create and thrive at a business they love and teaches them how to authentically convert
their ideal clients using video in particular.
Keri always knew she had an affinity for the entertainment industry.
As a young girl she attended modelling and acting school and was represented by a local agency.
At 27, Keri purchased that same talent agency she went through in Portland,Oregon, and quickly built it to one of the most respected agencies in the Northwest—Murphy Talent Group.
The agency had grown over 400%, but after the recession hit in 2008, Keri was forced to close her business and completely start over.
How The Dots Joined For Keri
She moved to Los Angeles to pursue her dream of being on-air talent,landing a gig on E! and red carpet premieres.
Since founding Inspired Living in 2011, Keri has worked with hundreds of entrepreneurs and visionaries helping them become industry influencers – choosing the types of videos to use, and how to leverage their message on-camera so they can make a big income and an even bigger difference.
She has been on camera and an entrepreneur for 20+years, and is a television veteran with appearances on MTV, E!, FOX and NBC.
When not inspiring others, she can be found spending time with friends and family, playing piano,or relaxing by the sea with her daughter, Lauren.
So when she looks back at her life does it seem a blink or years and years of hardened knocks, success and of course crushing disappointments?
And do people truly need the backstory to achieve the level of success that they want?
Well lets find out as we bring her onto the show to start joining up dots with the one and only Keri Murphy
We discuss how to get past yourself on screen by loving yourself and all your imperfections no matter what.
How so many of us have to turn up our dimmer switch and truly become the person the world wants us to be.
Why Keri shares her belief that anyone starting today is ahead of the curve when it comes to video marketing and audio production.
We discuss the power of the backstory and why its so important to weave it into your business whenever possible.
Keri shares her story of crushing disappointment and hurt, which has turned out to be the best thing possible
How To Connect With Keri Murphy
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Interview Transcription For Keri Murphy
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK. David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:25]
Yes, good morning world. How are we thanks very much for tuning in and being with us on and Join Up Dots once more. Would you like a job would you like a job way from the baqia garden you can connect with people across the world from America to Africa to Australia to Antarctica. I’ve got one of those jobs and today’s guest is somewhere across the world I think in California, probably in America, but we will find out later. And she is the CEO and founder of inspired living where she and her team help entrepreneurs become go to experts in their field and build implement Brands through unscripted on camera training, business strategy, media and marketing planning. Now, as an international speaker and immediate expert and business mentor, she’s committed to helping others to create and thrive at a business they love and teaches them how to authentically convert their ideal clients using video in particular. Now, she always knew she had an affinity for the entertainment industry as a young girl. She attended modelling and acting school and was represented by a local agency and at 27. She purchased that same talent agency she went through in Portland, Oregon and quickly built it to one of the most respected agencies in the northwest Murphy a talent group. The agency had grown over 400% but after recession hit in 2008, she was forced to close her business and completely start over and she moved to Los Angeles to pursue her dream of being on air talent landing a gig on entertainment and red carpet premieres. Now, since founding Living in 2011 she’s worked with hundreds of entrepreneurs and visionaries helping them become industry influencers, choosing the types of videos to use, and how to leverage their message on camera, so they can make a big income and an even bigger difference. She’s been on camera and an entrepreneur for 20 plus years. Yes, she doesn’t look old enough, and is a TV veteran with appearances on MTV, a fox and NBC. Now when not inspiring others, she can be found spending time with friends and family playing piano or relaxing policy with a daughter Laverne. So when she looks back at a life does it seem like a blink or years and years of hard knocks success? And of course crushing disappointment, and do people truly need the backstory to achieve the level of success they want in front of the camera? Well, let’s find out as we start joining up dots with the one and only Keri Murphy. Good morning, Keri.
Keri Murphy [2:59]
Hello David Hello, hello. That’s quite the intro thank you for that.
David Ralph [3:04]
Alright so right. That’s what I do carry, you know, I put into research I spent time trolling around the web trying to find your thing. Now your thing is very different from a lot of the people that come out because a lot of the people that connect with me on the show, they seem to want to inspire people to be bigger versions of themselves. But a lot of it seems to be kind of hokey, almost internal Jedi mind tricks, but you really do push people to overcome those fears by getting in front of the camera and for many people is scary time, isn’t it?
Keri Murphy [3:43]
It really is David. I mean, I say most people aren’t born out of the room with the affinity or the know how to get on camera. So you know what, I love what I do so much because, you know, the ability to work with entrepreneurs and visionaries that know that Have a story that know that they’re here to make an impact and quite frankly are really frightened to put themselves out there and to see that transformation and to see them go Ah, I get it and I’m good enough and I can do this is why I love what I do.
David Ralph [4:16]
Now you obviously have genetics on your side you’re very attractive lady and without even looking at you. You look like an American TV host you’ve just got that kind of groomed image over here in the United Kingdom. We kind of pro anyone on TV they’re all unshaven they’re all scruffy looking. But at the the Americans, they grew, they grew and they they’re the more presentable for some reason. Have you noticed that as a difference is is there a kind of movement now to people just rocking up looking like they just got out of bed?
Keri Murphy [4:49]
Yes, I do. And I actually really like that because growing up in entertainment, I started when I was 11 years old. And you know, I grew up in the 80s with supermodels. And it was has the perfect you know coughed hair and the pageant girl and the perfect makeup and yes we still have that in the US for sure we have those overly made up stereotypes that we see in Hollywood but David what I am loving that I am seeing more and more of is that UK kind of scruffy Come as you are I connect so much more with you when you’re real versus perfectly put together and I do like my glam I do love a good lash and hair but you know what I’m telling you, like that’s a version of me but often in my videos I’m showing up as long right as a as a business owner wearing 1000 hats, and I think people relate to that a lot more.
David Ralph [5:44]
Oh, I like the glamorous side. I I must admit, I don’t I haven’t dipped that far down into your back catalogue to see the scruffy version of you.
Unknown Speaker [5:52]
Well, I mean, my scruffy probably isn’t
Keri Murphy [5:57]
I still probably have a glam scruff but But I do. It’s a mixed David. I think it’s a mix between showing up too polished and not being able to have someone relate to you and still feeling you know, for a woman feeling beautiful and feeling confident in who you are.
David Ralph [6:18]
Now, isn’t that a brilliant branding when you said that glam scruff? I thought to myself that’s exactly what it is being scrappy but feeling glamorous, feeling confident feeling in your element. That’s what really shines on the TV, isn’t it?
Keri Murphy [6:34]
It is, I think more than anything, regardless of you know, hair and makeup and all of those things, David, and it really is about how you feel about yourself whether you’re glammed up or your scruffy or, you know, your Uber chic whatever it is, I think the important thing about putting yourself out there is really and I know this is cheesy, easy, but just like you gotta love the person that you’re putting out. We got Let’s have you know the the external ego that wants to show up.
David Ralph [7:04]
I think I’m now starting to love my dad. Because every time I look at myself on camera, I just see him looking back. Now that that’s an obstacle to get past in it.
Keri Murphy [7:15]
Sure, sure is. I see my mom too. So I’m right there with you.
David Ralph [7:19]
Now, let’s take you back in time because it hasn’t always been a seamless path. And for everybody in Join Up Dots land by have a series of dots that look like they’re now connected, but at the time seemed very scattered and eclectic. Now, what was it about the young girl that so wanted to sort of get into entertainment? Why did you have that affinity for the entertainment industry at such a young age?
Keri Murphy [7:45]
You know, David, my family is pretty immersed in entertainment. My grandmother looked like a version of Marilyn Monroe, but small petite blonde, not not me at all, but I grew up looking At her, and she was this Uber glamorous for coat diamonds, you know, again, going up in an era with like the Maryland’s of the world, and I would look at her headshots, and I’d look at her records and I do like, Oh, I want to I want to look like that. I want to do that my uncle was a professional musician, incredible artist. I grew up again in the 80s where they were supermodels. And, you know, I just knew I just knew that I loved being on camera. I love to to act I love to perform. And people ask me all the time, David, because I say, you know, I cultivate the it factor in people and growing up, I would hear that term all the time, like, oh, wow, she has it or he has it. And I get asked all the time. Is that a natural thing? Are you born with it? Can you cultivate it? And I really think that yes, there are people that are just born with it, that magnetic energy field that draws people to them, but in the last 90 years of teaching entrepreneurs how to be on camera. I’ve also learned that all of us have it, we just have it on the dimmer switch, most of us have not learned how to like turn up the volume on our own it factor. So we do attract what it is that we want. So that’s where the affinity came from. I grew up looking at a very beautiful grandmother who was a singer and a model. My uncles and entertainment my whole family sings plays an instrument. It’s you know, it’s a little bit like the sound of music. But,
Unknown Speaker [9:32]
but that’s where it came from.
David Ralph [9:33]
No, I come from a background where I play the piano. I’ve always been very confident and comfortable opening my mouth, whether it’s on stage, on video, or whatever, I never found that was an issue. Now what I did find an issue and I’d be interested in your point of view, was actually bridging that I feel comfortable with it into a format but I could actually make a living now I’ve been doing this like six or seven years now. And it’s so much easier now when when it was at that time, all those passions, all those skills, all those talents, couldn’t be channelled in some way. Now, the question I’m going to ask you, Carrie, is, are people now starting behind the curve? Or has the curve not been reached yet? Although it seems almost like a saturation point. Do you still think that this is ahead of the game?
Unknown Speaker [10:26]
Is video ahead of the game end of it?
David Ralph [10:28]
Everything we do, whether it’s podcasting, whether it’s video, whether it’s content blogging, you know, are we still front runners, anybody connecting with you tomorrow or today?
Keri Murphy [10:39]
at a such a good question, David. You know, I say all the time, I had to audition to be on camera. I got told a million nose before I got to the yeses. And now you’re absolutely right. We have this open playing field where anyone you know, anywhere in the world can stream live and launch a pie caste. And so, and I very much understand because I work with people just like you who, you know, feel a level of comfort on camera, they have no issues with using a platform. But it is oversaturated. And there is an you know, only right now I think like half of the world is online. And they say by 2022 2023, you know, 90% of the world’s going to be online. So there’s more people joining right, the movement of this media that is available to us. I absolutely think you’re still ahead of the curve if you’re using podcast using video. But now more than ever, and I could just get on a soapbox about this my friend, like you have to have a strategy. You have to know Who in the world you’re talking to and why you’re talking to them. And why you Why should they be listening to you, you know, and so it’s not just about I say throwing up on camera, and just using it because it’s at your fingertips, but really understanding how to leverage it. So you can actually convert people to fans, followers, you know, clients. Isn’t that the point? Right? The point is that we can work in our garden. Well, how do you do that if you’re not making money? So it’s Yes, yes, you’re still ahead of the curve, the curve is still needs to be defined, because most people have no idea who they’re talking to, why they’re talking to them. And they have no strategy
David Ralph [12:25]
now that there’s a guy online. And he’s called Matt develop, and he’s on YouTube. And I quote him only as a reference point to many of the people that create content on YouTube. And I suppose it’s, it’s similar to podcasting as well. Right? you stumble across these people and you go, this is good. This is real quality stuff. And then after a while, you think it’s kind of repeating itself, because our bar our standard is so high compared to what it used to be. You know, if you got back into the 80s Wayne’s World was like cutting edge being Do you kind of think Wow, that was amazing that they could create that? Now the videos online and on YouTube, I like mini movies. You know, they’re amazing. Is that an issue as well as the quality gone so high that it’s a struggle to keep up?
Keri Murphy [13:18]
You know, David, I’m going to say yes and no. Yes, it is really amazing what we’re seeing on YouTube and most people it blows my mind are discovered on YouTube, my first national hosting job, I was found through my blooper reel on YouTube. So it’s so viable every I think everyone who really wants to make an impact has to have a YouTube channel. And it is amazing to see at our fingertips, the editing the software, the bells and whistles that we have available to us. And yet, I have to say you can build a seven figure business without it. I don’t think you need it. I think that you need a powerful message. I think you need to know how to attract the right followers. I think you need a conversion strategy. But I don’t think you need to look like a feature film every time you put out a video. And I think that’s what stops a lot of people is that they say, Oh my gosh, I don’t have that ability to create that high production quality. And I don’t think you need to, I don’t I think it’s amazing what you are able to do and to see the formats continuing to advance. But I don’t think you need that to create a successful brand.
David Ralph [14:30]
Well, that is what I want to sort of focus in on because I noticed so many people out there, like me that are daunted by the quality. You know, I have seen things out there but I think my god, you know, how much did this cost to do using drones to fly across London and multi camera sort of images and stuff. So what would you say for somebody out there who wants to come across to inspired living and can I do it from a distance as There’s a question. I don’t even know the answer, or did I have to visit you? Is it something that they can do remotely?
Keri Murphy [15:04]
Absolutely. Yeah, we have a great online training. We have clients all over the world from the UK to Australia, New Zealand. So yes, we definitely work with people around the world. My signature training is a two day intensive on camera training in Los Angeles, where we shoot your video for your website, but I have had quite a few people come from the UK. I’ve had Yeah, I’ve had people come from all over. I just had someone come from Iceland. So yeah, there’s lots of opportunities. But I do think that what’s more important than the bells and whistles, just like you, David, I mean, you said you had your on your 2,000th episode. This is incredible. It’s consistency. I think that people are so fearful because of the lack of technology, that they might do one thing and then they stop because they don’t get the result. And like anything that we do Consistency always wins. And so what’s more important than the super fancy production quality? Is the consistent messaging is you being committed to showing up. And again, having some strategy I think is is very valuable. But I think that’s the biggest thing I see is that the two biggest mistakes I see people make is that they have no idea who they’re talking to. And it is so saturated. So if I don’t know you’re talking to me, I’m quickly leaving. So statistics show david, you have three to eight seconds on camera to keep someone’s attention. It’s really mind boggling. So three to eight seconds. And then it’s that consistency, you know, at least every week, just like your podcast, right? You’re putting it out there. You’re putting it out there and there’s a tipping point where you put it out, you put it out, you’re like, Where are my people, no one’s listening, no one’s watching. And then hopefully momentum hits.
David Ralph [16:55]
Easy geographically. While you’re saying that as People from Iceland have come across to you and the UK. Is it easier because for my side of the UK and I’ll give you a backstory. I was watching Ellen on YouTube the other day, and I don’t watch Ellen. But she was giving away Christmas presents to the audience. And the audience was going mental. They were absolutely going mental and I thought to myself, we wouldn’t do that in in in England, we would just go Thanks very much and we would sit there you know, quietly clapping but I absolutely jumping up and down hugging each other bursting into tears. Is it easier to get the Americans to be themselves on camera by and it was somebody from Iceland or the UK? I swear blind it was but maybe I’m wrong.
Keri Murphy [17:46]
That is so funny. And you’re absolutely right. I think the people in the UK are a little bit more proper or what’s the word I’m saying we find in the US I hate where we’re a little bit more used to being emotionally available. mantra.
Unknown Speaker [18:04]
That’s what they
Keri Murphy [18:05]
say the clients I’ve worked with mental, mental, mental. Yes, absolutely. I will say that after two days of working with me, all of the clients I’m thinking of right now did an incredible job learning how to quote emote, right and show expression. Not quite, we’re not going for mental, okay, but we are going for emotional connection because that’s what everything is like you have to be willing to make someone feel something and I think you do a fantastic job of that just listening to you and your energy. And so, I think yes, yes, there is a bit more of a poll that I’m bringing out. That is more of a, you know, disposition here in the US, but I think it’s very, very possible and it can you kind of have to know who you’re trying to reach, right. So if you’re trying to reach your ideal client is in the UK and They are turned off by mental, right? And they’re like, I would never I would never do that. Well, then you’re not going to do that on camera either, you know, so I think you have to know who your audiences, and then you can decide how you need to show up to best. Connect with them.
David Ralph [19:17]
Well, let’s hear some words now. And Ben, we’re gonna be back with Carrie Murphy.
Jim Carrey [19:21]
My father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.
David Ralph [19:48]
Now, inspirational content there. Now, one of the things that I think about people wanting to create a personal brand and one of the very first podcast I ever listened to back here 2014 was a show and it’s still going now called the solopreneur hour with Michael O’Neill. And he launched just before me so I was avidly hanging on this podcast as it grew into what it is today. And one of the things that I remember him saying was when he was struggling, he really wanted to be a public speaker. But he didn’t have anything to say. He said, Now, it would be fine. Somebody says get up on stage or get on a camera. He’d have something to back it up with. When somebody is coming to you carry and going, yes, I want to be this. I want to be that. Dude, I have to have the backstory. Is it important to be living the life which has been being demonstrated on screen? Or can they come totally cold and create something new?
Keri Murphy [20:47]
I think it’s a combination of both. Most of my clients come to me in a place of transition, where maybe they’ve held that job. They were the accountant. Right. It was me I owned that’s talent agency. There was no plan B was everything that I was. And I then I found myself starting over. So yes, I think we can create something new. However, I think all of us, regardless of where you think you are, or how important it is, or how much it, you know, really made you into the person you are today, we all have a story. And I think it is important we share it because at the end of the day, David, that is the only unique differentiator we have is our story. That’s it. There’s a million people who do what we do. There’s 7 billion people on the planet. There’s no new idea, really. So when you’re looking to grow an audience and you’re looking to make an impact. I think knowing how your story is a part of who you are, and why you do what you do is actually pretty vital. I do I think story backstory is important now. Do you have to be homeless and in your car and starting from nothing? And you know, just getting off crack. No, I think that, you know, you don’t have to be in this horrible down and out place and have this great, you know, butterfly transformation story to make an impact. But at the end of the day again, that’s the only thing that connects me to you is, where you came from and how I see myself in your story that gives me hope that gives me inspiration that says I can work out of my garden to That’s amazing. So I do think it’s important and yet I do think you can reinvent it anytime.
David Ralph [22:35]
Because I have a big buck bear and I talk about it all the time. And I lots of people connect with me and say, Oh, I’d like to be a guest on the show. And I always go off and I do my due diligence. And so many of them either haven’t got a website haven’t got a profile, or if I go into LinkedIn, and I’ve managed to find them to two weeks beforehand. He was an accountant in Kansas and They’re saying about their Twitter expert, and you go over to their Twitter profile, and they’ve got two people supporting them. Now, with your backstory, your backstory makes a logical step to, I can trust this person. This person has lived the game. She’s been in the game. She’s been at the top in the entertainment industry, and now she’s chosen a path that is bringing all that experience. I understand how that sells. But how does somebody use their story, their backstory to transition into a profitable business with video? And not just making it sound like it’s a sales pitch all the time?
Keri Murphy [23:38]
Well, I think you have to understand how the story connects. And you’re so right. I mean, we see these pop up experts and, you know, I used to run big conferences, and I would have people submit their, you know, profiles and there’s their speaker sheets to me, but just like you, David, they have no website. Their photos look horrific. The quality of what they’ve done. They don’t have Any, you know, any testimonials? So I think that before you crown yourself an expert, you actually have to get people to resolve the promise that you can. And, and that takes time. And so, you know, when I’m working with someone, and they’re in that place of transition, we’re absolutely connecting the dots. We’re looking at, okay, you were an accountant. And now you want to be a fitness, you know, Guru coach, leader, how are we? Where does that connect? How are you going to take people through that journey in a way that makes sense, where I trust you? And that takes some work. And for some people, you know, quite frankly, they shouldn’t be promoting themselves as an expert they should be doing the beta testing they should be out there speaking should be getting people the results before they crown themselves. World’s Best, right? So I have a big bone with that as well. But I think that everyone’s story does connect You just have to have the right type of person that can say, how do we make this work? So it actually helps support what it is that you’re doing now? Yeah,
David Ralph [25:10]
I’ve had people that had come on the show. And they also had all the platform, it all looked very, very good. And as I was talking to them and interviewing them, I started to think, I don’t actually believe what you’re saying here. And I’ve had the devil, an angel on my shoulder, thinking, do I call you out here? Or do I praise the fact that you are breaking down your backstory and you’re reinventing yourself? And more often than not those people if I looked at them now, I can’t find any sense of them at all. Now I look back and I think I should have called them out. But I was on my own journey of discovery. And I don’t think I had that competence. So it works both ways, doesn’t it? You can have the experts with the profile, and they’re not experts and you can have the experts with nobody profile and they’ve got there and then you can get the people like the Gary Vaynerchuk you know that he’s just cranking out content left, right and centre and I know he’s got a team, but he knows what he’s doing. He’s got the brand The brand is him, he’s the brand and that’s when it really does ignite your in factor to say what I’ve just read on your website.
Keri Murphy [26:23]
Yes, and that is such a valid point that this comparison that we have now with social media, we’re looking at these people with these huge bought followings these beautiful glossy photos. This brand that looks so beautiful, and they have done nothing. They’re not monetizing it. They’re gone in 15 minutes, you know, and then you have the people that are actually really good and they’re so talented and they have the backstory and they’ve done it all. But they don’t know social and so they’re not found and I am telling you from my point of view, it is one of the most frustrating things and where we are today. I have to drink to it. I’m pregnant. So I’m not doing that right now. But oh, congratulations. Do you know what you’re having what you feel? I don’t think you, I’m having a boy. Well done to you. Thank you. Thank you. So I’m not drinking as much. But it is. It’s it’s maddening because because social media, you can put out anything, right you if there’s total autonomy, you can create a profile, you can make yourself look like the world’s best, and you have nothing to back it up. And then you have the people that are truly amazing experts at what they do. And they don’t have the following. Therefore, they’re not perceived as an authority. And that is why I love what I do, right that those are the people I work with. I don’t want to work with the people that don’t have the background and don’t have the ability to transform lives. Those aren’t my people. My people are the people who have this incredible story. Have this way of, you know, impacting lives and don’t know don’t know how to do it because you know, they didn’t grow up with the phone in front of them. And have been on social their whole life. Now I’m going to ask you a question TV is awesome. By the way, I think that people love him or hate him.
David Ralph [28:07]
Well, I didn’t like him at all. I just, I just couldn’t get him. But I think there’s certain experts, but you’ve got to get to a certain level to understand what they’re talking about. And when it makes sense to you, and I think at the beginning of my journey, he was too in my face. But now, I understand it, I bridge that gap. Okay, he’s further down the line. He’s doing this. He’s doing that which is great. But I can understand the reasons why he says these things because I’ve now lived it.
Keri Murphy [28:40]
Yes, that is a great point, David. And also it also goes to the fact that not everyone is going to be liked. And I think one of the things that makes Gary Vee so successful and this is exactly what I teach, is that please don’t be vanilla. Please don’t try to be this perfect version of yourself. You know, I call it like in the US, we call her pageant Patty, where, you know, every word is perfect. And you’re saying I just want world peace said, you know the wave is down and the hair is perfect. Like, what what Gary has done so well as he throws down the F bombs, he doesn’t give a crap whether you like him or not, he is in your face. You love him. You don’t he doesn’t care. And I think especially with women, but men too, like we care too much week and we have no personal identity, we press record. And it’s like this version of ourselves shows up that is I have to be perfect. I have to say everything right. And that is what like detracts people from you. So the fact that he wasn’t right for you, in the beginning, is perfect, because you’re right. He wasn’t and it’s okay. And I think that we have to be okay with people not not digging our content, not liking the way we show up disagreeing with something that we say and yet and I don’t know how it is In the UK, but man, do we want to be liked? You know, oh my gosh, I just you know what if someone doesn’t think that I’m all this, what if I don’t get likes today. And that is counter intuitive to building a brand that will have any sort of impact or longevity.
David Ralph [30:17]
Because I don’t care if people dislike me at all, Not in the slightest. Now, I want people to listen, I want people to get inspired. I want people to share the content, all that kind of stuff. But if somebody doesn’t actually like the way I present, or the way I talk or whatever, I really don’t give a monkey’s as we sign the United Kingdom. I just don’t care at all. I just can’t do anything about it. I can’t control it. Now, if my kids said to me, I don’t like you. All my friends said, We don’t like how you’re becoming. I’d go Oh, hang on. I’ve got to do something about this. This isn’t good. But if somebody in Missouri just sends me an email that says you’re a complete idiot, I hate what you’re doing. I really don’t care at all. Right?
Keri Murphy [31:05]
Yeah. And that’s valid. I think when it’s someone close to you, your family, your friends, then of course, I’m not saying, you know, be totally callous about, you know, feedback. I think feedback is actually very important. But yes, there are a lot of trolls online, right. And I think people are so frightened to be judged, that they don’t put themselves out there, or they don’t put the real version of themselves out there. And I will say, for me, being that I lost it all. I built it again. I was a single mom, you know, I’m in my 40s having another baby. I don’t care, like I am so clear with who I am and what I’m doing in the world. But I think that that takes time, David, I don’t think that everyone feels that way. And they’re still they’re still trying to figure out who they are. And I think until you do, you really can’t build something that is authentically you
David Ralph [31:54]
as she adult or this might be too personal question. So if it is then please just say I’m not answering that. But Does your as your daughter embraced the new arrival? Because when I had a new arrival later in the day, my kids were not happy with it in the slightest. It really put their nose out of joint they were happy with how life is. Has that made a difference? Have you had a conversation, but actually, I was quite happy when it was just you and me mum.
Keri Murphy [32:21]
She’s actually very excited. She can’t wait. She’s so independent. She is the little girl that goes and makes friends and holds other kids hands and she’s very nurturing. And so she’s very excited to have a little brother now everyone warns me Wait, right because she’s for so just wait until he comes. And she’s not you know, the centre of the universe especially because it was just the two of us for the first three years. But you know what, right now she is very excited and I’m praying and hoping that continues to be the case.
David Ralph [32:52]
Yeah, my mind with teenagers when it happened. And yeah, they weren’t happy at all, but but now now they’re banging out. And they’re saying he grandkid and I can go when I’m not excited by it, you know his pocket back at you have another one make me excited. Now, right? Before we take you to the end of the show, what I want to do is touch in on the experience that you’ve got. So for somebody out there thinking about getting online and creating their own video content, do they actually need somebody like you what, what is the difference between you and them just hooking up a webcam, doing it on some online editing and making it themselves? Where do you set that different level of, of skills and knowledge?
Keri Murphy [33:43]
Well, David, yes, I think anyone can learn how to be on camera, any great actor, any great athlete, any great business person has coaches that help them get there, right. Someone is born with innate ability to dribble a basketball and shoot a hoop yet you would never try to get into the NBA without a coach without training. And so, you know, the people that I work with are really serious about using their message to make a impact in the world. And an income that allows them to give back that’s why my company’s called inspired living because I want to create wealthy entrepreneurs that have the heart and mindset to give back to society so we can actually make the world a better place. I know it’s cheesy, but it is really my calling and I’m feel very drawn to that. So sure, you can you can take you know a course and learn how to be on camera, but you’re never going to get the transformation that you get from working with us. Because you don’t have the training. You don’t know what you don’t know. One of my favourite quotes Les Brown says, You can’t see the frame when you’re in the picture. Yeah, so you don’t have strategy. There is a way that we scientifically think that takes us to making decisions. And I teach that you can’t be scripted and be authentic. So you know, how many of your 10,000 hours to become an expert Do you want to do and making mistakes and doing it wrong? versus working with someone who’s been on camera for 30 years, being an entrepreneur for 20 having a team that knows exactly how to get you there quicker? So yeah, I mean, you can do it the hard way or you can come work with us and and find an ease about it, and really understand your own it factor and how to put it out there in a way that isn’t just throwing up on camera, you know, that isn’t like, Hey, I’m just going to get on camera and do my thing. But it actually has a point of focus. You know exactly who you’re talking to. And because of that you’re attracting the right people that will pay you and can’t wait to work with you.
David Ralph [35:51]
What jumped out at me was the key thing you don’t know what you don’t know. Because I laugh a lot. Most of my guests always say to me after was thinking of doing a podcast? I don’t know why they had that kind of American voice. But in this case I do. I’m thinking of doing a podcast and I’m so excited. And I always say to him, Well, if you need any help, you know, I’ve been doing it for six years, and they never come back. I never ever asked for my help, you know, and I’d give it to him for free. I’m not even gonna charge them. But I always think to myself, you know, I’ve probably since I started, I would imagine I’m somewhere around about the four and a half thousand hours. I’ve done about 2000 shows, and with the post production and the editing and stuff, probably more about $5,000. So that takes me to a level where, you know, I know a lot of what works and what doesn’t, but the guests still don’t and they plough into it and you see them launch and I go, Oh, yes, it’s rocking it and I look at it and think, I don’t think it is. I really don’t think it is because you’re doing this and you’re doing that. Yeah. And so do you see the same with yourself when people kind of just think that they can do it themselves but you sit back
Unknown Speaker [37:01]
Don’t give it a go.
Keri Murphy [37:03]
Absolutely all the time, you know, and I’m like I, you know, but sometimes to you have those people that are those learners that they just have to do it themselves. They have to, they want to figure it out. They want to try it on their own. They want to do it the hard way. And then they come to me after a couple years of like, Carrie, I’ve been doing this nothing’s happening. You know, I don’t know what I’m doing wrong. And then I’m like, Okay, well, if you’re ready now and now let’s, let’s take a look at this. And by the way, David, like I’m coming to you because we’re launching a podcast, so I will absolutely take you up on that offer. But it is Isn’t it funny, though? Isn’t it funny? How we have all of this opportunity to learn from people? And we’d rather fail first is bizarre. I don’t
David Ralph [37:51]
know. Why is it but I do beside myself. You know, I I stumble around looking at YouTube videos from 2000 12 more than connecting with somebody or you know, so I’m as guilty as everyone, but it is strange when we do that.
Keri Murphy [38:07]
Sure. Again, I think there’s that dynamic loner is what it’s called. And it’s the, it’s the side of our brain and all of us habit that is experiential. We want to, we want to just pull ourselves, you know, and throw ourselves into something and look at what everyone else is doing and try to figure out on our own, and there’s nothing wrong with that, you know, there’s nothing wrong with new trying to do it on your own. It’s just I’ve learned and one of the most valuable lessons of being a business owner for 20 years is that you can do it on your own, and it can be challenging and arduous and costly. But there’s a level of grit, there’s a level of gosh, you know, I went through this it all creates that story we were talking about, but I will say that now being a wiser version of myself investing in my Self and hiring those people to help me is at the top of my list. I just don’t have the time. I don’t, I don’t want to spend the time and trying to figure out systems and strategy and all of these things that we’re doing. I’m launching a makeup line, I have no idea what I’m doing. So I brought on a board of advisors, I’m finding people who know what they’re doing. Yes. Will I fail in some capacity? Probably Absolutely. Because it’s a new venture. But I wouldn’t I rather reach out to people that have been successful at it, then just try to go through it in the dark, having no idea. So it’s interesting. I just think the mindset of people and culture and how we, you know, we do fail forward and that’s okay, but I’m in a place in my life where I would so much rather invest in getting the help to get there quicker and easier.
David Ralph [39:44]
I agree. I agree. 100% Well, let’s listen to Steve Jobs. Now. He made this show famous. He didn’t know he was doing it. But he’s words are still here is Steve Jobs.
Steve Jobs [39:55]
Of course. It was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [40:30]
Now listening to those words, did they make the difference to you? Do you believe that the dots do all join up?
Keri Murphy [40:36]
and million percent? Yes. I mean, I listened to that and I’m just just don’t wanna like, excuse me scream from the rooftops? I do. When I look back at my life. everything that has happened, the failures, the divorces, you know, the parenting everything. I would not be where I am today. And yet I didn’t even know that. This was an option for me when I was that younger version of myself. So I have to 1,000% agree with Steve Jobs that you do have to trust. And I think that’s one thing that has really brought me to where I am, is that I am a risk taker. I do listen to my intuition. I’m willing to take that next step when I have no idea what’s following the other foot. And when I look back, David, absolutely. It’s so divine. Like, I could not have orchestrated that better. And I think that, you know, it’s so cliche, but everything happens for us, if we’re willing to see it that way. And if we’re willing to take that next step, so yes, I’m a believer.
David Ralph [41:44]
I’m a believer as well. And I remember hearing you know, that that that kind of trite phrase that we almost dismiss about the enjoyment is the journey itself is not the end, you know, and now I’ve just got so much competence Fat, whatever I do, even if it screws up, just so, you know, I said to somebody the other day, and I’ve mentioned it a couple of times on podcast, I’m just about to turn 50. And so that means that 50 years I’ve made right, wrong decisions. And it has led me to this point. And it’s a bloody good point, you know, I’m having a lovely time. So what would make the difference moving forward? Once again, making bad decisions, good decisions, genius decisions, lunatic decisions, mental decisions, whatever you want to do. It all just kind of pans out, make a one one and then make it two or three good ones to get back on track.
Keri Murphy [42:37]
But I think the key there is that making decisions How many people do you know, have been in the same job for over 20 years that they hate. They’re in a relationship that is killing their soul every day, but they’re too afraid to move on. The key David to you living this life at 50 is that you have made decisions that allow you to connect dots like it, I think people get so scared to make decisions that they don’t move. And the only way to really step into your greatest destiny is to move and be okay with that and know that, you know, whatever shows up is just part of the path for you. And it’s cliche, and we’ve heard it a million times. But you have to be willing, right to move, you have to be willing to make decisions and to fail and to say, you know what, I’m going to do something radical, or I’m going to do something dumb, or I’m going to do something inspiring, like whatever it is, you’ve got to be willing to move.
David Ralph [43:39]
And so looking back on everything carry to where you are now, what is this literally every single episode, so it’s coming to you. Yet big dots? Do you look back and think oh, yeah, it was that it was that one thing that one conversation that one moment that has really pushed me here and more often than not, it could be a bad time. That was actually the transition to where you are?
Keri Murphy [44:02]
Yes, I’m 1,000,000%. For me it was losing the talent agency. You know, that was something that was absolutely soul crushing, devastating. I had no plan B I never have. And here I am at 33 you know, feeling like I was a big fish in a small pond, doing what I thought I was here on this earth to do, and literally lost everything I short sold my home. My my business was gone. I felt like my identity was stripped. And a couple months later, I move out to LA with no family, no connections. You know, I signed with an incredible agency out here to pursue my childhood dream of TV hosting. And all of that brought me to where I am. And as I look out my window, I have this ocean view with an amazing partner a baby on the way a child a little girl that I can’t in My life being without. And if that did not happen, and if I did not move to LA and say, you know what I’m going to, I’m going to do something radical. I’m going to leave everything I know, my family, my friends, and start over with no idea what that looked like. There’s no way I would be here.
David Ralph [45:20]
You know, I think you are living what we could call inspired living, don’t you?
Keri Murphy [45:25]
Yeah, I think I think I am. I think
David Ralph [45:27]
you’re there. I think you’re there as we are at the point of the show that we’ve been building up to brings the show to an end. But we call the Sermon on the mic when we’re going to send you back in time to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time and speak to the young Carrie, what age would you choose to and what advice would you like to give her Well, we’re going to find out because I’m going to play the music and when it fades. Europe This is the Sermon on the mic.
Unknown Speaker [46:00]
Unknown Speaker [46:01]
with the best bit of the show.
Keri Murphy [46:16]
To my 11 year old version of Carrie, I would say to her, that that vision that you see for yourself, that dream that you hold, is divinely meant for you to stop comparing yourself to everyone else around you to stop feeling like you’re not worthy, you’re not good enough. And as you’re growing into your teenage and college years, to know that, again, your talents that you feel that vision, that knowing is what you’re supposed to follow. And the people are telling you it’s not possible. They love you. But it’s not their journey, that what you see for your life is what you’re supposed to pursue. And every path you go down, that is not connecting that.is a distraction from what you’re here on this earth to do. So it stop comparing yourself, stop thinking you’re not good enough, stop thinking you’re not pretty enough or tall enough or thin enough. I know you’ve been told your whole life, you know, you need to lose weight to be successful. And I am telling you right now, that is not the case. The case is you have to love yourself enough to be successful. And you have to be willing to take those risks. And again, to really trust the gifts you’ve been given. We all have them. We all have things that we are naturally pulled towards. And it’s when we don’t pursue those that we lack fulfilment in our life and end up in a place where we ask ourselves, how did I get here? How did I get here? And how do I get myself out of here? So, follow that thing that lights you up. Trust yourself, take the next step and know that the dots will absolutely be connected.
David Ralph [48:19]
Yeah, powerful stuff for all of us. So Carrie, for our audience, what’s the number one best way that they can connect with you?
Keri Murphy [48:27]
I would say probably through my Instagram inspired living TV. We also have a Facebook group that is incredible. It is called ignite your it factor. It’s a free group, you can come and join and we do free trainings. You can upload videos, it’s an amazing community. And of course the website has a tonne of knowledge on it too. And that is inspired living dot t v.
David Ralph [48:52]
We will have links on the show notes. Keri, thank you so much for spending time with us today. joining up those dots and please come back again. When you got more dots to join up, because I do believe that by joining up the dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. Keri Murphy, thank you so much.
Keri Murphy [49:09]
Thank you for having me.
David Ralph [49:12]
Carrie Murphy, all the way from Los Angeles, California. So video and it’s the way forward, you know, so the way forward is a leap of competence. Yes, it is. But they recognise and you can understand this, but Google is going to be more visual and audio. So blog posts are going to be a thing of the past video is the thing that really will kick on because people just want to look at their phones and watch things they don’t want to read and stuff. So if you jump in now, you’re going to be ahead of the curve. Until next time, my young padawans thank you so much for being here. Thank you so much for Carrie. And thank you so much for every single person who’s coming across to Join Up Dots, joining up with our coaching, changing their lives, and that’s what we’re here for. Until next time, see again, You ready to make a full time living online? Check out the amazing Join Up Dots business coaching.
Unknown Speaker [50:04]
Hello, my name is Alan. And I’ve just completed the excellent eight week course with David.
Unknown Speaker [50:09]
Before I started working with David Actually, I had no idea at all where to start. I had a lot of ideas about
Unknown Speaker [50:18]
what I probably thought was going to be good business time without the help me through that though, to find that passion. Within literally minutes. We had a we had a business idea. And for the last seven weeks, we’ve been building on it and building on it and the position I’m in now, I don’t think I’ve ever got here on my own
Unknown Speaker [50:36]
because of the amount of information that David gives the structure. He’s got the full package here and he explains it in a way that I can understand. His support is is phenomenal. I feel like this is the way business is supposed to work. David helped me understand, okay, what
Unknown Speaker [50:52]
was the next logical steps that I should do? How can I get this up and running? So I would really recommend this as an excellent course. Helping you if you have an idea if you have no idea, really teasing that out and at some of the practicalities and steps to take to really launch your business, whether as a full time job was a side hustle. So it was really excellent.
Unknown Speaker [51:12]
I recommend it for anybody thinking about setting up their own business. I don’t think it’s an exaggeration to say David will totally save you years. Thank you, David, for all your amazing help and support which keeps on going. And we certainly couldn’t be where we are today without you so your author,
David Ralph [51:30]
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