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Introducing Kimanzi Constable
Kimanzi constable is todays guest joining us on the Join Up Dots business coaching podcast interview.
A guest with a difference.
At the end of each show you will hear me say the words “Please come back again when you have more dots to join up as I believe that by joining up those dots and connecting our pasts its the best way to build our futures”
Well today’s guest, joining us on the Join Up Dots free podcast is doing just that, as they previously appeared way back in the first week of Join Up Dots, episode seven to be precise.
He is Kimanzi Constable, a man who inspires me daily by his positive outlook, ability to overcome huge challenges and his desire to have an amazing life.
As you will hear in todays episode its really the kind of life that we could all have, if we only are brave enough, make good financial decision’s and want it bad enough.
Several years ago he was treading the same path that the majority of us have trod over the years.
Working long hours at the expense of seeing his children and family.
Striving to build a business that ultimately didn’t fulfil him.
And banishing the dreams that he had, to be a writer, so he struggled on and on.
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Finally with a debt of over $100,000, overweight, over-stressed, and deeply unhappy he came to a crossroads in his life.
He knew that he had to change direction and claim a life of his own.
And that is where we left him at the end of episode seven, so if you want to feel the force of his full story, stop listening now and jump to the beginning.
We will wait for you to get back.
But if you are already inspired by what you have already heard, let’s bring onto the show to start joining up dots more dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs in todays Free podcast with Mr Kimanzi Constable.
During the show we discussed with Kimanzi Constable such weighty topics such as:
How he realized when his Dad died it was about experiences and not just getting more stuff that he needed to focus on!
Why it was so scary to make the move to Hawaii even though he had planned everything as much as he could!
How fears are always there and for most us they are unfounded when we actually take them on and beat them!
Why he is an extreme extrovert but feels the need to get out there to really help people across the globe!
How you dont need permission to do something, you just need to start doing it and people will buy into your skills and talents.
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Audio Transcription Of Kimanzi Constable Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Good morning everybody out there in Join Up Dots land a good morning and welcome to Episode 132 of the rocking and rolling motivational show that you’ve all come to love. And to be honest, I love it more than anyone and I hope that comes across in the might because how could you not love it when you get guys like I’ve got today on the show. And at the end of each show you hear me say two words. Please come back again when you have more dots to join up as I believe that by joining those dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. Well, today’s guest is doing just fat as I previously appeared waving back in the first week of Join Up Dots episode seven to be precise. He’s a man who honestly inspires me daily by his positive outlook, ability to overcome huge challenges. And he’s desire to have an amazing life as you will hear in today’s episode is really the kind of life that we could all have if we’re only brave enough make good financial decisions. And I suppose one to bad enough. Now several years ago, he was trading the same part. But the majority of us have tried over the years, working long hours at the expense of seeing his children and families striving to build a business that ultimately didn’t fulfil him, and banishing the dreams that he had to be a writer he struggled on and on. And finally with a debt of over 100,000, overweight, overstressed and deeply unhappy. He came to a crossroads in his life, he knew that he had to change direction and claim a life of his own. And that is where we left him at the end of Episode Seven. I feel like say, and that is where we left our hero. So if you want to build a full force of his storey stop listening now and jump to the beginning go back to Episode Seven. And that while we were waiting fear to get back, but if you’re already inspired, but what you’ve already heard, let’s continue as we bring on to the show once more to Join Up. Dots. The one the only Mr. Kimanzi Constable. How are you Kimanzi
Kimanzi Constable [2:11]
David? Thanks for having me. I’m also probably the only guest that’s wearing a sweat band right now. And being in the first seven, I kind of feel like a superhero.
David Ralph [2:21]
Well, you should be all you just wearing a sweatband, and nothing else Kimanzi. Is that what you’re trying to tell me?
Kimanzi Constable [2:27]
Um, what’s the next question? And where
David Ralph [2:30]
is the sweatband? No, we’re not. We’re not going to ask those kind of questions. But you have you know, you’re in Hawaii. And you’ve done something quite astonishing. And when we were talking just before recording, I said, what you’ve really done this, you’ve been asleep and you’ve set your alarm for two o’clock in the morning to get up and talk to be slightly do range bloke from the United Kingdom.
Kimanzi Constable [2:53]
Oh, yeah, I have to, I have to do it, because it’s you and it’s the shell. But then, to be fair, I normally wake up at about 3am many ways to go run 10 miles. So it’s a way at 3am.
David Ralph [3:05]
Because Surely, on a life like yours, and I don’t know, I feel like I know you very well. And we connect on Facebook. And it’s funny when you get into this virtual world, but you will actually say, you know, my great friend commands he comfortable. But we’ve never met, we’ve only had these conversations and we kind of send the emails and we respond. But there is a kind of support bear from both sides. But with your life is like you can structure it to be whatever you want. So why the hell are you getting up at three o’clock in the morning to run 10 miles? Is it because of the weather? Is it too hot later on in the day? Or? Or is it the fact that you just like doing it every o’clock in the morning?
Kimanzi Constable [3:42]
Oh, I think it’s a couple of things. It’s nice to get up and run while it’s dark out. And it’s cool out and nobody else is out and and it’s all quiet and calm. I gotta get out there collect my thoughts think it doesn’t ever really get too hot here in Hawaii, and normally hovers around 85 degrees. So it’s, it’s it’s never bad at all as far as the heat. But then I guess the biggest thing is probably because I delivered for those of you that have listened to Episode Seven, and delivered bread for 12 years. And when I did that I was normally getting up between 11 o’clock at night and midnight, every night for 12 years. So I guess that early rising is just still kind of ingrained in me. Sometimes I find myself just waking up when I when I don’t want to wake up. So three is a nice compromise and get out there and run. And then with the time difference here between Hawaiian standard time and central eastern time, we’re about five and six hours behind those time zones. I have coaching clients, I have a lot of coaching clients. And so I’m normally getting up and starting to coach them around seven 8am. So my goal for my run, I do my coaching and then I got the rest of the day to do whatever I want to do. So if I want to take a nap or just lay on the couch or go to the beach. That’s what I do is perfect,
David Ralph [5:03]
isn’t it when you say it like that, and used to be numb Milwaukee? Was it. Milwaukee? Yes. You say it differently to me. But yeah, same place. And I suppose getting up and running at two o’clock in the morning in Hawaii is with the greatest respect and little bit better when running a man Milwaukee.
Kimanzi Constable [5:23]
Yeah, I mean, I can from the path that I go on, I can see the ocean I can feel the ocean breezes, it’s it’s pretty, pretty serene setting.
David Ralph [5:32]
Gina what I love about your life, and I said it in the introduction. But you’ve made brave decisions. But you’ve made good financial decisions as well. You know, I keep in contact with you on Facebook. And I’ve seen the car that you’ve just bought and stuff. But you you did you made the decision to move over to Hawaii, because you went on holiday or vacation. And it was the dream place. And you suddenly fall? Why are we keeping this dream place for two weeks a year? Why don’t we as live fair, but effectively, you could have at that point gone now we can’t afford it. It’s really expensive to be out there. But you found ways of making it affordable. And that is what these shows are all about that is about finding ways to have the life that you deserve. And you’re doing that, aren’t you?
Kimanzi Constable [6:17]
Yeah, you know, we we realised why we realised my father died last year at the age of 54. subtly, I think we talked about this last time. But one of the things that the last few life lessons that he taught me was that life isn’t about stuff and the stuff that you accumulate, it’s about your experiences. And he had told me that there were so many things he wished he had done. And so I made a vow to myself, you know, that day at his funeral that I was going to live life to accumulate stuff, and to keep up with the Joneses as they call it here. I was going to create amazing experiences that I’ll never forget, and my kids will never forget. So we came here to Hawaii with 15 check bags, that’s all we came with, we sold everything else. As a matter of fact, David, the first time we ever even interviewed was when I was getting ready to make that move. That’s when I was sitting on, I’ll send on an air bed in my house because we had sold all of our stuff. That’s where I was interviewing with you from. But when we got here, we just made a vow that we’re going to live a very, very simple life, it’s going to be about the experience and not the stuff. So the good thing about Hawaii is is that there’s a lot of turnover. So well, I shouldn’t say it’s a good thing. But the thing about Hawaii is that there’s a lot of turnover. So every weekend, you’ll see moving off the island cells. So we were able to replenish our whole house conservatively for I want to say $1,000, we were able to get all the furniture, the beds are everything you could think of for your house, we were able to get for about thousand dollars. And then we just the first 40 days that we lived here, we didn’t even own a vehicle. We just took public transportation. We took our bikes, we walk everywhere. But one of our neighbours is moving off the island. And they sold us they call it here in Maui cruiser when they sold us a Molly cruiser for 300 bucks. And she’s old. And she’s a beast. But um, she still gets us around. So So really, it’s not about the stuff at all. For us. It’s just about being together, being in this amazing place, and really going out there every day and living our lives.
David Ralph [8:24]
And the beauty about not having stuff but experiences is you don’t have to dust experiences, do you? I I say to my wife a lot. She’s somebody who she’s a lot better than she used to be. But she would want stuff. And she would want stuff everywhere. And I used to say to if it was just like minimal. We could clean his place in an afternoon. But because you’re filling it up with stuff that I’ve got to pick up and dust and put down and pick up and it takes forever in a day. So just having that mindset, it makes it easier all the way across, doesn’t it?
Kimanzi Constable [8:54]
Yeah, when we when we moved and we had to sell all of our stuff, we saw stuff that we hadn’t even seen for 10 years. And we ended up donating a whole truckload to the Salvation Army. Like literally like one whole truckload of stuff that we never even touched. And yeah, that day was a day we vowed to stop being hoarders
David Ralph [9:14]
is a criminal thing, though, isn’t it? I like this. And I’m actually going to call this title commands, he fights back against stuff or something like that. Because, yes, stuff. You can’t actually say why you’ve got it. But it’s just a veil. And there’s so many times we open a cupboard, and we sort of look there and we think, Okay, what should I wear today, or were fat. And we were the same, maybe five or six shirts, because we like them. And the ones that we get given for Christmas and things like that, but we didn’t really like but we were too kind to say, just sort of hang there. But they hang there because we’re unwilling to sort of throw away the stuff just in case we need them. And I obviously don’t need them because your shirts are falling apart. And he’s still putting the same ones on all the time.
Kimanzi Constable [9:57]
Yeah, that’s absolutely true. I mean, now, it’s nice to look in that closet and only see a few items. It’s nice to look around and to be able to move freely. But then the balance of that, and David’s my friend on Facebook, so he sees this the balance of us, you know, we’re at the beach almost every day. We’re out there surfing and swimming, and just really enjoying life
David Ralph [10:18]
is if you are friends with commands that you will see this life, but you kind of go, I hate him. I really do. This is amazing, Mr. Yeah, obviously, deep down, we sort of admire you for everything you do. But it is one of those lives that you kind of think, why not me? And that’s the kind of message I want to get across to the listeners. Why not you, you know, if you are living in a job that you don’t like, or working in a job and you’re living in a relationship or a house or a setting, but you don’t like that doesn’t have to be the only setting that you have. And especially if you’re a single person because I understand where when you live? command Z, you’ve had kids, and so you’re taking your kids away from their friends and stuff. So that must have been difficult for you. But you still took the action? How was it with your kids? Did they go? Well? Yes, Hawaii, this is where we want to be or our dad? No, I want to see all my mates.
Kimanzi Constable [11:11]
They were more excited than disappointed. They miss their friends and family, of course. But they adjusted pretty well here. They met friends right away, within a couple days of all of us come in here at all kinds of random neighbourhood kids in my house. And I’m like, okay, who are you? Who are you? Who are you? So they made friends quickly. And then they’ve been homeschooled the last couple years. So this year, we decided we’re going to put them in public school. We don’t want them to be socially awkward. So he put them there. And like they started school a couple days ago, they started a little early here in Hawaii. And the kids are like they’ve been really they miss school the last couple years, the interactions, the teachers the lunch in the cafeteria. I mean, the kids have been talking nonstop for two days telling us everything that they’ve experience. So they they’ve adjusted here really well and they actually love life here. You realise
David Ralph [12:04]
all those neighbours friends would be going home going? Do you realise? They’ve got no furniture? Mom, do you realise I went in there? And they’re just sitting on the floor?
Kimanzi Constable [12:16]
We just tell everybody that were African. Yeah.
Unknown Speaker [12:23]
David Ralph [12:23]
you just throw it away. What was it about homeschooling but because we don’t really have that in the United Kingdom, our kids go off to school. And that’s it. And to be honest with the lighted they go off to school, and when it’s like three o’clock, and you’ve got to pick them up again. You think oh my god, I got the Americans. I hear this all the time. And the first time I heard it, I thought Really? You? You teach your kids at home? Because I couldn’t teach my kids? I don’t think they would listen to me first start. So is it you or your wife that actually does the homeschooling.
Kimanzi Constable [12:54]
It’s kind of neat, or we’re more of guides, the homeschooling was all done through like a Virtual Academy online. So it’s like taking a college course online. It’s the same scenario, you log in, you got your work there, it’s all virtual, and it’s all online. All we really had to do is just log in and look at the grades. And then also make sure they’re not slacking on their on their homework and stuff like that. But it’s when I was homeschooled. I was homeschooled and 10th and 11th grade. And this was back in 1996. It was a little different because my mom actually had to teach me. And we spent a lot of time together those couple years, and I was in her biggest fan. And it was actual lessons, lesson cards, and I hated it. So to see what I had then and what the kids have now it’s vastly different because of the technology.
David Ralph [13:47]
Now you’re getting old commands, the that’s the problem. I say to my kids, when I was at school, there wasn’t cut and paste. You actually you had to go and get a book and actually write it properly. And now they sort of do his homework like i right. What’s your homework? Oh, we’ve got to research be the way that the Vikings made bread. And you go, how long is that going to take? Oh, and you take me about two minutes because I google it and I copy and paste and away they go. But in our days, we actually have to go and find a proper Viking and ask him how to do it.
Kimanzi Constable [14:18]
School has changed drastically. I just I put this on on Facebook the other day, the first day of school, kids first day of school, they were evacuated and went back to school. And the school calls us and says no need to be alarm parents. But there was a bomb threat at school, like bomb threat. Like we never had bomb threats when I went to school. Seriously.
David Ralph [14:39]
We were making our own bombs in those days. Yeah, that’s what chemistry was all about. seeing if you can make things to explode. So so let’s get into the nuts and bolts of it because it is fascinating your your leap of faith over to Hawaii. But is it that dramatic? Was it a leap of faith? Or was it something that you just knew it was going to be effortless? And you could just make it work? Was there scary parts to the actual adventure?
Kimanzi Constable [15:07]
Oh, yeah, it was scary all the way. It just the fact that it costs so much to live here. The fact that you’re selling all your stuff, the fact that you’re moving away from family, there was a lot of fear there. A lot of fear. But really, it shouldn’t have been that scary of a thing, David, because we knew what we want to do. We researched it very well. We researched everything we could have told you anything about living life here. When we got here, we actually found that some things were a little bit more affordable than we thought. So we had the plan. And then it was just a matter of executing that plan. I mean, we had an emergency fund, just in case for those unexpected times. And we had a real solid plan. So it shouldn’t have been that scary. But yet yet it really was. And we let the fear just keep us from here for too long. And then even while we’re moving, just dealing with a little issues with fear,
David Ralph [16:05]
because that that is fascinating to me, because you are somebody that you know, not only the last couple of years, look further back than that you have been somebody that’s been pushing against normality you’ve been pushing against the restraints that we all accept. And you’ve been creating your own path. So it’s fascinating that you still get scared. And even on something that is effectively you could move over there, you’re not going to die, you’re not going to be able to not afford to eat Okay, you may not be able to eat as much as you used to if it was more expensive, and all that kind of stuff. But he’s not like going to a third world country that might really set you apart. And you were still frightened of doing it.
Kimanzi Constable [16:45]
Absolutely, I think you know, and this is something that I just wrote about last night, actually. So you and I are in sync unless you were hacked into my computer, and you saw what I was writing, you didn’t do that, did you I’ve seen
David Ralph [16:55]
those pictures of you just wearing a sweatband, and nothing else that you keep on your future.
Kimanzi Constable [17:01]
David Ralph [17:03]
night, I look over I promise you.
Kimanzi Constable [17:07]
This is true. But I was just thinking about fear last night. And fear has held me back and it holds so many people back in their lives. And it’s usually just it’s dumb, let’s just be honest, it’s dumb. And I even wrote that I’m like, few fair is usually dumb. You know, I was afraid of moving here, I was afraid of becoming a writer, I was afraid that I didn’t have the credentials that and then I even have a few very dedicated haters. So they love to point out that I’m self accredited life expert and, and they like to say all that kind of good stuff. But, you know, I listened to that, and I just let that feed into my fear. You know, I feared that I’m not good enough to write for a big, large website news organisation, which David knows that I’m doing now. And, and I had so many fears over the years, and still, then the Ralph is that they don’t need to be there. And that really Life is too short to give in to those fears. You can’t, you have to do it anyways, you have to go for you have to plan and you just have to keep moving forward?
David Ralph [18:13]
Well, well you do. But the fears are still there that this is, you know, I wish that I had no fears in my head. And if somebody said to me go into a lion’s cage, I would go No, I’m not going to do it. And I say why I go I’m scared to be eaten or something that would be totally acceptable. But something that we do on a daily basis, we can actually plan for it, we can really limit the risk. And it’s those those beers in the middle of the night or they just pop into your head. They’re not proper Ave, they’re not property is in any shape or form. But we still respond to them. It’s a fascinating problem that we all have as humans.
Kimanzi Constable [18:50]
I totally agree. And and usually the worst that could happen like with situations in life, the worst that can happen is is you get rejected. I think a lot of us fear that fear that rejection. But rejection isn’t the end all be all, there’s still an opportunity to do that very thing that you got that you face that rejection with.
David Ralph [19:12]
Then I remember on the last conversation, you told me that you used to write these huge love letters to people these huge following poems, to to solve ex girlfriends. And that’s even quite scary, isn’t it, that you write something and you give it to them, and they might laugh at you. And that was quite early in the days but but looking back on, it was just a way of accepting that you was a good writer. And moving you want to the next bit. What I’m trying to say really is everything that we do is just overcoming something that isn’t comfortable at the time. That leads us to the acceptance of all we can actually do this. And we keep on growing now you’re an established writer, you’re a coach, you’re you’re everything. You’re a speaker, you’re a presenter, you’re a runner, all these kind of things. But literally every one of those, you must have had those doubts at the beginning when you fold. No, I can’t do this. I can’t do this. So I’m not even gonna bother.
Kimanzi Constable [20:04]
Yeah, it was it was definitely that imposter syndrome. I felt like an imposter runner and a pasta writer, a pastor this and that. When the reality is I wish I was doing those things I was writing, I was running, I was speaking I didn’t have to feel like an imposter because I was actually doing those things. And And really, that’s what it takes. If you want to be a writer, guess what, get out a pen, get out your your computer and start writing. That’s that’s what makes a writer writer, somebody who writes, it’s not somebody who is published, or writing for this place or that place. A writer or somebody who writes a runner is somebody who gets out there and runs, they get out there, they hit the ground, they move their feet forward, and they run, you don’t have to be an Olympic athlete, or run a marathon or anything crazy like that. All you gotta do is just get out there and run. And so realise if you’re doing it, you’re not an imposter.
David Ralph [20:57]
I was talking to a chat the other day and he said, bye, he decided he was going to be a life coach. And somebody said to him, Well, you need to go to university or get some kind of qualification. He said, No rubbish. I’m just going to say I’m a life coach. And they say, Well, you can’t do that. And he said, You tell me why I can’t do that. Why do I have to sign up to get accredited by an organisation who have just decided that they are going to do the accreditation? What why, you know, why? All my life skills or my experience? Why can’t I just say that I’m a life coach rubbish, I’m just going to do it. And he did. And he keeps on doing this, he keeps on saying what I’m going to do this. And he says, as long as you’ve got the experience to back it up, and you can actually provide value to people, and you are willing to give it your best shot. You don’t have to wait for like the Accreditation of being told you a runner, or the Accreditation of being told you a writer, you just need to do it. And if you do it with as much competence as you can, people will buy into that anyway, how people might actually saw my podcaster command Z, oh, noes. I have no idea what I’m doing. I’m just turning the mic on. And I mean conversation. But people might think that
Kimanzi Constable [22:04]
I totally agree. And really, the experience is what teaches you how to become that thing. You can go to school, and you can learn about it. Sure. But once you get out there in the real world, and you start going to experience that’s what’s going to shape what you’re doing and how you do it. It’s really the experience that that guides us. And what’s crazy Today, David is kids are getting in so much student loan debt, you know, you’re this massive debt that you have, like really no chance of paying off. Because once you get out of school, you’re not guaranteed a job anymore with our economy. And it’s it’s this massive debt with no hopes of paying it off, and then you end up getting a job. That’s not even in the field related to your career. And we see that happen a lot. When the reality is you can probably get the same education for one 10th of the price, go out there, build that experience and do what you want to do in life. Or you could just say like, like your friends said, you can just say I’m just gonna go out there and do it. I’m going to practice I’m going to gain that experience and get better,
David Ralph [23:05]
as opposed to what we’re saying to all the listeners out there is you don’t need to have permission, you just need to do it and want to do it. Totally agree. I’m going to play a little speech. Now this is from a chap who’s kind of well known in Hollywood circles, I imagine now that you’re a big star command Z, that you probably share the otter drink with him every now and again. This is Jim Carrey. And these are some words that he said recently, and I think it really emphasises what we’re talking about here. Listen to this.
Jim Carrey [23:33]
My father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love. That’s the message of this conversation, isn’t it?
Unknown Speaker [24:03]
That’s powerful. While?
David Ralph [24:06]
Have you heard that before?
Kimanzi Constable [24:08]
I’ve never heard that before.
David Ralph [24:09]
Because it’s been going sort of viral is it’s all over the internet. And I think it’s it’s absolutely now’s it doesn’t it. You know, we’re all on this path where we do jobs that are expected of us, or we do jobs just because we think financially they are the best ones for us. But quite often they’re not. And we have these dreams, we have these aspirations, we had these ones constantly ticking away. If only I won the lottery, I would do this, if only something occurred, I would do this. And at the end of the day, you suddenly might run out of time. I hope that’s never the case. But you might run out of time and all you’re left with is the feeling of what you should have done or could have done.
Kimanzi Constable [24:53]
For for 12 years, David, as you know, I built a business that wasn’t definitely wasn’t my passion for Jenna hated it. But it brought in half a million dollars in revenue every year. And so it was kind of secure. But I even even managed to run that. But But really, it wasn’t something I was passionate about. And then when my father died and we had those talks, it was the wake up call, I needed that money and all that it’s not everything. It’s not everything at all the life of that there’s a lot more living to be had.
David Ralph [25:28]
I remember in our last conversation, and it did make me laugh, but I was too polite to actually laugh in front of you command Z. But I will bring it up again, where you decided that you was going to be an organiser for your, your sister’s wedding. And you realise quite soon into the game that you were not playing to your strengths. And it was all over the shop. And fortunately your sister didn’t sort of divorce you really I know you can’t do that two brothers and sisters. But she could have done because it went a bit pear shaped as we say in the United Kingdom. And that that was a number of trying to do something but you just fought was there to do and not what you should be doing.
Kimanzi Constable [26:07]
Yeah, that was a disaster. You’re very polite for not laughing. You could you could laugh now. But it was a complete disaster. I didn’t know what I was doing. Everybody knew that I didn’t know what I was doing. They asked me all these questions. I had no answers. I got every all the wrong stuff, the wrong chairs, the wrong cake, the wrong, everything you could imagine. It was all wrong. And I spent way too much money on stuff. So it was it was a disaster.
David Ralph [26:36]
So when did you realise what you should be when the commands he comes to? But we talked about this, and we call it the Big Dot? And quite often and I’m not sure actually on episode seven, when we actually asked you this question or if we did ask you this question. But a lot of times commands the it’s when your life is really dire. It’s in a dark place. And you look at yourself, and you start asking these questions of Who am I? What am I here for? Have you had that big.in your life that you can go back to and go Yeah, that’s when command Z comfortable that’s on the mic now actually was born?
Kimanzi Constable [27:10]
Yeah, definitely it was. I had slaved away at this business. If you haven’t heard the episode, I had slept with this business for 12 years. It was good. But I had built up over 100 it was $180,000 and debt to the IRS. And here in the United States, the IRS is not your friend. Unless they’re listening to this then Hey, guys, how’s
David Ralph [27:32]
it was already 20,000. That’s what you should say,
Kimanzi Constable [27:36]
lowly 20,000, I had built up all this debt. I was 170 pounds overweight. And I was me and my wife were separated. And it was the most miserable time of my life. And at that point, I realised and then my father died, I realised that life’s too short, and I gotta do something about this, this is out of control. And so I started putting a plan in place and and started making that shift. And in that time period, I was able to lose 165 pounds, as David knows. And I was able to leave that business slowly. But the big that the kind of the thing that brought me to this point was I had self published a book. And the book had flopped, it had sold five copies in the first six months. And the book was supposed to be my quote unquote, big break, that was going to be the thing that made me famous. And nobody bought the book. Nobody cared about the book. And I was ready to give up. But the thing that had stopped me was a 19 year old guy had emailed me and was reading my blog and said, Hey, I’m reading your stuff, you inspired me to quit my job. And I emailed him back and I said, Hey, hey, man, don’t don’t quit your job. And you know, for legal reasons, I didn’t tell you to quit your job. Because I didn’t need to be sued and how everything else. But I said, Let’s get on the phone and talk and we got on the phone. And we talked was that situation you talked about your friend David, I wasn’t a life coach or anything. But I told him that I wanted to coach him and to help him figure out what he wanted to do. And within one month, he was able to land his dream job, like his dream job. And what’s crazy was he got his dream job, I still hadn’t even I wasn’t at mine. But I was so happy for him. I was overjoyed. His wife was you know, they were all crying on the phone. And at that moment, that was the big deal. For me, that’s when it clicked. In my mind. That was the aha moment, whatever you want to call it. That’s what it’s what a slap in the face was like, This is what you’re meant to do. It’s not to write to speak to vent plan to whatever. It’s to help people that felt stuck to felt the help those that felt like they had no other option. And it’s to help them get over their fears, to change their mindset and to chase that thing and to make that thing happen. And that that was kind of the big dot and the big wake up call for me.
David Ralph [29:59]
And then deep down when you got him his dream job, and you still weren’t in your dream job. Because I’ve had this loads of times in my career, people used to give me their resumes, se B’s to rewrite. And I was always very good at writing CVS, and I could just rewrite it, and nine times out of 10 they would get their dream job on the basis of it. And I used to look at it and think, why am I still doing this? Why are you moving on here moving on there. And now I look back on it. And I think it’s just because I wasn’t pushing myself that hard because it wasn’t what I really wanted. So when you had that moment when that guy got his dream job, was there a bit of you that went, come on commands? Come on, I really need to wrap up my game now. Otherwise, I’m always going to be the person that the pusher pushing people to their positions and not actually gaining myself.
Kimanzi Constable [30:48]
Yeah, definitely. I thought this is great. And I did this one time. But how cool would this be to do this for a living. And at that point is when I really got serious about this. And it was really then it was within a month of that, that guy getting that job, I was actually able to leave that business that I hated, get out of all that debt and really start living on my dream.
David Ralph [31:12]
So So how did you do that? Then how did you you started believing in yourself believing that you had something to offer to the world? And then going seeking for clients? Or was it naturally because of your blog, but the clients came to you but then you was in a better position mentally to go? Yes, I will coach you is X amount of dollars each month, take it or leave it.
Kimanzi Constable [31:33]
Now the coaching didn’t actually start for four years later because I’m I’m an extreme introvert. So for me to be in those situations, it’s a little bit harder. What what really did it was I said, You know what, this is a pretty amazing time, anything I want, I want to know on how to grow this business is online. And so I became a student and I started researching everything I had to know about. First of all, I had a website that was getting 10 people a day. And I knew I needed traffic. So what’s the best way to get traffic, what’s the quickest way to get traffic and and the first thing that I started doing that really kind of put me on the map and brought people in was I started just posting on larger websites in mind. And a lot of people are probably listened to sort of like what, but you know, guess Paulson is you just write an article for another website that’s larger than yours, they feature it, they give you links back to your website. So when I had nobody coming to my website, nobody knew I was alive. I had one guest post for guy named Michael Hyatt, who’s see who was the CEO of a large publishing company. And that one guest post that went live in March of 2012. That one guest posts that first day that I went live and brought me 20,000 visitors to my website, and 6000 email subscribers. So from there, I was able to get six more really large websites that feature my articles, and then 40 other smaller sites. So it was more than anything, David it was tactical. And it was it was strategy. So once I had went from having 10 people viewing my stuff to having over half a million in 2013 those half a million people portion of half million people bought my books. And and really the first thing that that actually made this thing reality was I was able to sell, you know, at 82,000 copies of mice to self published books. And and that’s what kind of did it. So yeah, was believing in myself. But more than anything, it was putting a plan in place. And it was the strategy.
David Ralph [33:39]
And now you’re writing for one of the biggest blogs as opposed to Huffington Post.
Kimanzi Constable [33:44]
Yeah, that’s pretty cool, isn’t it?
David Ralph [33:46]
It’s moving cool. When I saw that on Facebook, I thought Yeah, go for it. Command Z that that is that is more than cool, isn’t it? I don’t think he’s fat, big or well known in the United Kingdom. I’ll be honest with you, I don’t know many people that sort of talk about it. But certainly in the United States, it is one of the biggest.
Kimanzi Constable [34:05]
Yeah, 4043 million people a month. Come to the Huffington Post. So yeah, to write for them has been on our there’s also been a couple other big writing projects for a site called the good men project. They get about 2 million people a week. And their their tagline is the conversation no one else is having. So I love that because I can get deep and really talk to men about men issues. And I’m not hold back there. And then the third really big rightness. I haven’t even made this public yet, David. So you kind of get an exclusive here as well. We do
David Ralph [34:36]
and Join Up Dots.
Kimanzi Constable [34:39]
The third really big writing assignment I got is for Entrepreneur Magazine.
David Ralph [34:43]
Well done to you, sir. It’s really coming together, isn’t it? But you know, you say that the first time he was on that Michael Hyatt site was March 2012. And now what we’re July 2014, is not long as it is two years. But my God, what’s happened to you?
Kimanzi Constable [35:01]
Yeah, once once I put the strategy and the plan in place. After the Michael Hyatt and I got the traffic and sold books, it was eight months until this thing could really fully support me. So generally, it doesn’t take as long as you think if you’re willing to deal with the failures and the fears, and to get back up, it’s not going to take as long as you think. And then even to kind of put a ball on a David, this, you know, writing for The Huffington Post and all these large websites, either Michael Hyatt, and I felt like an imposter for so long, that I couldn’t write for these large websites. So I didn’t even bother trying. But when I could get over that and realise that, you know, I’m not an imposter. I am a writer, I love to write. And once I can get over that imposter syndrome and submit those articles, they were accepted.
David Ralph [35:46]
How did you do that? Because you use the phrase that you are an extreme introvert, and just the fact that you are on the mic. Now you’re being a public speaker, you’re writing for these blogs, you really put putting yourself out there. And as you say, there’s there’s a few haters commands, he comes for haters, and I can’t believe that, but I know. But that happens, you know, even if you’re doing things, actually, for the right reason you’re going to get people to you know, have a go at you. Why is that extreme introvert really wanting to put themselves out?
Kimanzi Constable [36:18]
I think it’s focusing on really the motivation of why I do all this. And that’s to help somebody who was where I want to help that person that just feels like they have no other options. And but they do they want to do this. So when I go out here, and I can do an interview or speak or anything like that, I’m doing it really not for me, I’m doing it for them. So I gotta look past how I feel and my weird tendencies. And I gotta realise that this is for them. And if this is for them, you kind of got to put yourself out there.
David Ralph [36:52]
But you don’t have weird tendencies. None of us do. We’re just being ourselves, don’t we? And that’s the thing once you accept who you are, and the things that other people might be weird. You are really starting to put on gas.
Kimanzi Constable [37:05]
You’re You’re absolutely right. I mean, because as public speaking in front of audience, the first time I did it, like almost, you know, peed in my pants, because I was so scared and nervous. And I didn’t want to do it. But the thing about speaking is I love to travel. So I may not love to get up there, when I get up there, I’m going to give you everything I have, I’m going to give you absolute value to your audience and clear takeaways. Because I know how it is to listen to fluff. And I don’t want to ever do that. I’m tired of fluff. But I do love to travel. So to be able to come to London, you know, with my wife last year in October, and to speak at that conference. Yeah, so that that that helps a little bit with the introverted Miss. But writing, writing is easy because I can sit here and I can look at the where we live, we can see the ocean I can see the ocean from where I live. And right that’s that’s the easy part. It’s just learning how to get over what whatever’s inside of me that’s that’s nervous about like interviews, and large gatherings and stuff like that.
David Ralph [38:06]
But that can’t be the easy part. Oh, can it you know, if I was sitting there, I’m very, I’ve got a recording studio. And at the beginning of the show, he says live from the back of his garden in the United Kingdom. And I’m here today, and it’s a beautiful sunny day. But I’ve got every single blind close shot. So I can just focus on this. And if I was writing, and in front of me was the ocean. I remember Stephen King’s saying that the years he wanted this writing desk, this amazing writing desk, that meant that he was successful. And for years and years and years, he used to write in the kind of triangle bit under the stairs. So where the stairs, he goes up. And he used to have a little desk and all he was facing was the bottom of the stairs. And he would write all he’s he’s masterpieces. And then he became wealthy. And so he decided to buy this writing desk overlooking a lake or something and the woods, and he couldn’t get any work done. He couldn’t get any work done adult because he was just looking out and dangerous me. So he had to almost recreate his writing space under the desk under the stairs so that he would sort of block himself off. So the fact that you are in, you know, paradise, in many ways must be harder to keep on churning out because mentally, you’ve kind of achieved and there’s a need to enjoy what you’re surrounding yourself. With. Can you see what I’m saying?
Kimanzi Constable [39:23]
Yeah, definitely, I think for me, the biggest thing that’s probably helped, it would be going back to the bread man days. So when I was when I was a bread man, and I was doing this this business where I was working 40 to 60 hours a week, I would have to come home, and I’ll try to my first book. And the thing that I really the skill I really had to learn how to do was kind of to not the world and just write because I only had, you know, an hour to every day to write. And so if I was going to get anything done, I had to learn how to tune out those distractions. And it almost worked too well. Because there was times when my wife would come to talk to me on writing. And I I completely did not hear anything. She was saying, I was so focused, I was so glued to the screen, every
David Ralph [40:07]
skill command Z.
Kimanzi Constable [40:09]
She actually started hating it, you know, there’s several times she’s like, I hate your stupid book, you know, because I would never pay attention. You
David Ralph [40:16]
could be a millionaire, if you could sell that across the world block out. It’s perfectly.
Kimanzi Constable [40:23]
I’ve been that kind of helped me with coming here and Allen and all the distractions that are possible. I don’t see those alley see the words in the paper, and I only see what I’m trying to convey when I’m writing. And so it’s a skill that was developed over four years. But now it’s a skill that I can I can turn off.
David Ralph [40:43]
Well, one of the things that I do I do these quite lengthy introductions at the beginning of the show, which a lot of people that told me you know, it makes my show different from other people, because a lot of these podcasts and you’ve done many podcast, but when you go on them, and I’ve done them myself, but you will normally they say spend the first five minutes telling us about yourself. And you basically recount your storey and I always think why why do I want to do about I know my storey, you know, it should be up to you. And so I started doing these introductions, and I used to take me maybe two hours to do it. And when I tweaked on something that I used to do at work, and I forgot, but I just set an alarm clock, and I set an alarm clock for half hour. And I will get that done in half hour. And generally it’s as good as it was with two hours. But it just I can see the clock ticking down. I think my Okay, Facebook is crashing, my not gonna face that, oh, no emails, no, I’m not doing anything at all. Bang, bang, bang, bang, bang, get it done. And you can achieve so much in so little time. So if anyone is out there, and they’ve got this kind of thing in their head, where I’d really like to do this, but by the time I get home, I’m so tired or whatever, as commands the same by being strategic and blocking out inconveniences, you can really do a huge amount in a very short time. And once you that momentum going, it just becomes easier and easier and easier. What do you think?
Kimanzi Constable [42:05]
I think that’s definitely been the key to because right now, David, I’m writing a right twice a week from blog. And I like to like, I’m guessing like you, I like to batch a lot of stuff. So when I sit and I write for my blog, I’m writing eight articles for the month, I’m writing them in one sitting. But then in addition to that I’m writing every other week for the huffington post every other week for the good men project for entrepreneur, magazine, and a few other places. So that’s a tonne of writing, the thing that I’ve found that helps me the most, and is big, the biggest thing because that when I when I first became supported by this, David, I would I would write for 10 minutes, and then I was watching TV, or I would write for 10 minutes. And then, you know, it was just too much free time. I was so used to just having a little bit of time, it was way too much free time. And I’ll be calling her friends. And they’re like, you know, what are you calling me for I’m like, I just want to talk man, Hey, how’s it going? You know, and I got a slip in on right now. But the thing that has helped me the most is, is just working in those uninterrupted blocks of time. So I’ll say, hey, you’re gonna have two hours, you can have four hours, whatever it is, I try to make it one hour, two hours, and then take a little bit of a break and then come back to it. But those uninterrupted blocks of time. It’s amazing how much you can how much you can accomplish. If you just say, this is all I’m going to work on. I’m turning off Facebook, I’m turning off social media, I’m turning off this and just work. It’s amazing what you can accomplish.
David Ralph [43:32]
Have you heard of Parkinson’s Law, Command Z. Look up Parkinson’s Law, this is going to be a good article for you to write. And basically is the classic scenario, this bloke I think he was civil Parkinson offset or Parkinson realised many, many years ago, but whatever task you have got to do, it will expand to the amount of time that you allow it. So a classic example is when you are a kid and you come home from six weeks holiday, and you’ve got this this assignment that you need to do, it will take every second of that six weeks, because you need to get it done. But if you only give yourself two hours to do it, you will basically get it done in that time. And when I discovered Parkinson’s Law A few years ago, I realised that a lot of the time on doing a task, I was just procrastinating or I was just not really there. I wasn’t in in the in the zone, as they say. And so you reduce the time, the time, the time that allows you so if you think first of all, okay, it’s going to take me three hours, you go, No, I’m going to do it in an hour and a half, and you set an alarm clock. And then in that hour and a half, you just have to get it done. And you can see the clock ticking down, ticking down ticking down. And you train yourself. And then you kind of go well, I did it in an hour and a half, I bet I could do it in an hour next time. And you do it the same again. And you can reduce reduce reduce tasks all the time. And, and patching as well badging I can see that is much easier to write articles, especially in the kind of emotional kind of vibe that you are doing. When you your motivated and you’ve got that juice going through you been sitting down and thinking, well, I’ve got one to do today. And you’ve got one to do. Three days later, I do these recordings. And quite often I will do about six or seven recordings back to back. Because once I get into that kind of vibe, but doing them it’s so much easier once again to do it. I’ve been doing one on a Monday and then having to work myself out and then one on a Wednesday. So patching and Parkinson’s Law is absolutely integral to get, you know, huge amounts of work done even if you think you haven’t got the time.
Kimanzi Constable [45:31]
Absolutely couldn’t’ve. And just so you know, I’m giving another exclusive usually when I’m writing, I’m listening to some Taylor Swift.
Unknown Speaker [45:38]
Why Taylor Swift
Kimanzi Constable [45:41]
her biggest fan, I love her music. I love the way she writes music and she helps me focus.
David Ralph [45:49]
So so you you can actually knowing how you can achieve goals. You could go where I want to go out for dinner with Taylor Swift and achieve it.
Kimanzi Constable [46:00]
I could do that. If I do actually get the dinner. I think my wife would kill me.
David Ralph [46:04]
You don’t tell that command Z. You don’t tell her?
Unknown Speaker [46:07]
Yeah, there you go.
David Ralph [46:09]
No. This wasn’t you. This was just a very good impression of you that I was doing. But
Kimanzi Constable [46:15]
I just I think one of the one of the 16,000 people that’s listening to this doesn’t tell her.
David Ralph [46:22]
How about a time you go out it’d be about 50,000 and then yeah, you’ll be well screw this is never going to happen. Unless, unless Taylor Swift is one of them. If you’re listening to either, we put the show links at the end commands he comes to the wants to go out for dinner with you. There you go. If she comes to you, then you haven’t done anything bad command Z.
Kimanzi Constable [46:40]
Yeah, come out here to Hawaii. You could share some fresh pineapple juice in it and give you a give her she’s Listen, I give her a copy of my book.
David Ralph [46:47]
You write some romantic poetry as well. I’m not going that far. He hasn’t lost the vibe. But you can still put pen to paper and and will you Taylor Swift. This is This is amazing. Really, isn’t it? Because I know we’re sort of joking around. But Titus with could be listening. You don’t know that’s the power of writing in a blog or being a podcast or anything. It really is global. It’s and with that I suppose power comes great responsibility. You got to be very aware of what you’re putting out there, don’t you?
Kimanzi Constable [47:19]
Well, it’s amazing the time that we live in. It’s absolutely amazing. Yes, we were joking. In case my wife’s Listen to this. We’re just joking, which she knows who you are. But, you know, I the other day, David last week, before we start writing, Flava nipples actually spoke with Arianna Huffington, New York Times bestselling author, billionaire, just, you know, a big celebrity. I actually, you know, me had the chance to speak with her, which is insane. So you’re right. We do live in a pretty amazing time. And we’re all connected and nothing’s impossible anymore.
David Ralph [47:56]
That doesn’t faze you. Because I’ve been surprised doing this job for the guests are successful. And they’re they’re far beyond where I am. But actually, when I talked to them, they’re no different at all. But in your head, you kind of think what commands the constables coming on today, I really need to raise my game. But when you actually have a conversation, no different.
Kimanzi Constable [48:17]
Exactly. Yeah, there are people just like were people
David Ralph [48:21]
who were other than Taylor Swift who would faze you who would get you Tongue Tied?
Kimanzi Constable [48:27]
Huh, that’s a really good question.
Other than Taylor Swift, probably smart qubit. He seems like an interesting guy. And he’s kind of a crazy wild guy. But he’s a great businessman. So I love to talk to him. I’ve actually spoken with Chris Gila blue, but he’s one of my heroes. Other than that, the only other person that he’s not alive would definitely be Steve Jobs, I really would have locked up a conversation with him.
David Ralph [49:02]
Well, I can bring him on the show. Now, you didn’t know that I had that power. But I’m going to bring Steve Jobs on and just hear him say a few words. And Ben, this is going to be like you having a one to one conversation. This is Steve Jobs.
Steve Jobs [49:14]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards. 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [49:50]
So when we spoke on episode seven, I played that and I asked you whether you can connect the dots in your life, but in shorter bursts, say the last four months with you planning to come to Hawaii. All those dots, just goals, can you project forward to make them happen where on longest basis, it’s it’s actually absolutely true. What he says he stumbles and falls, successes and peaks and troughs and all that kind of stuff.
Kimanzi Constable [50:16]
Yeah, it absolutely is true. And what’s crazy is once you start connecting those dots or goals, or whatever you want to call them, it’s it’s amazing how many of the other dots Connect, you know, so moving Hawaii, continuing the weight loss journey, losing losing that last little weight, you know, get into that hundred and 70 pound weight loss mark, the big opportunities are all around. Once you start connecting a few of those dots, there’s a lot more dots that are going to be connected.
David Ralph [50:46]
Because that must been hard to shift that way because you were a big fella. When you when when I first spoke to you big fella. Yeah, you was you was quite happy to say the least. And a bit the ability to even run at that stage, it must have been a killer.
Kimanzi Constable [51:03]
Absolute killer, and you just got to start slow. You know, I couldn’t run 10 miles a day, then I was happy if I ran half a mile. Yep, I’m I’m a skinny chap,
David Ralph [51:12]
basically, I couldn’t run a half a mile now. I don’t, I don’t think I’d want to run half a mile. That’s what buses are, therefore, they get you there anyway, you know. But it’s one of the things that’s coming out on these shows over time. And I’m going to ask you this, because I haven’t really asked anyone before. But it seems to me the entrepreneurial way of life is about designing a future that is very much yours. And it also seems to tie up with following the sunshine, and also making yourself fitter. And it seems that so many entrepreneurs, or really successful people also do marathons or ultra marathons or Ironman competitions, because they achieve so much in their personal life by then bring it back on themselves. And then it’s a self fulfilling prophecy. They have better they’re more able to sort of focus and get their energies and their juices up. And it seems to me you’re doing exactly the same. You’ve got yourself super fit compared to where you were, I’m sure there’s certain areas that you want to go because you now do 10 miles, I bet it’s 20 miles. I mean, I might as well do a marathon and all that kind of stuff. But you’re also following the sunshine as well. Did you find that more and more successful people that you speak to seem to live in the Florida’s the California is the Hawaii’s and all those kind of places? You don’t get many that say, Oh, yeah, I’m living in Alaska?
Kimanzi Constable [52:29]
Or Wisconsin? Yeah, um, yeah. Because you want to kind of put yourself in that environment, where you can do stuff like that, like, you know, a Hawaii I’m going to be able to run all year round. And I think it’s, it’s a kind of a combination of things, you know, I’d like to use that time to think and to plan and to strategize. But more than anything, like you said, the energy factor, you have the energy for all day. And then it’s the appearance thing, so I was going out to speak at events all over the world. And a lot of people well said, you know, yeah, his content is great. But you know, that’s a really big, he’s really big guy. And it’s kind of distracting. And, you know, if I’m sitting here, given these motivational talks, and and trying to motivate people, it’s not very motivating, if I haven’t motivated myself enough to lose all this weight and the walk around, you know, at 370 pounds. So you know, there was that factor. And then really, the other part of that equation is pushing yourself beyond what you think is your limit. Because there’s always more to give and your body can really know I’m not suggesting anybody go out there and injure themselves trying this. But your body definitely has more in you than you think it does. So when you think you can only run 10 miles, you know, this past weekend. I never thought this was possible. But this past Saturday, I ran 18 miles, 18 miles straight without walking. I never thought I could do that. But I pushed my body beyond what I thought so so there’s, it’s that factor of I just want to push it and be the best me that I can be.
David Ralph [54:01]
Often we love you commands, he comes to pull you out exactly what this show is all about. You know, if you’ve got a theme tune and I play this every now and again because it fits perfectly. It would be this oneness that that would be two o’clock in the morning. You’re getting up out of bed, you’re opening the 3g knocking back for five wor x. and off you go running you are you are Rocky, aren’t you?
Kimanzi Constable [54:25]
Five, four or five raw eggs or anything for that matter, I would need to find some Bush’s on the path to take care of business.
David Ralph [54:33]
Yeah, that’s enough. That’s enough on that conversation. So just before we put you on the Sermon on the mic, and we send you back in time for the second time you’re the first guest who’s ever been done this time travel twice.
Unknown Speaker [54:45]
David Ralph [54:46]
What is your plans for the next couple of months and few years? Because remember the last time he was talking about developing a conference in Hawaii? a sort of a seminar is that still going?
Kimanzi Constable [54:58]
Ah man so glad Jess that of David cuz Yeah, it actually what’s crazy, it’s happening, David. It’s called the work hard play hard summit. So you can go to work hard, play hard summit calm. And it is happening here in Maui on December 5 through the seventh. I’m doing it with my buddies. Gene Hammett from leaders in the trenches. I don’t know if you’ve interviewed him yet. If you haven’t let me make the introduction. David, have you in a regime? No, I haven’t. I haven’t heard it. And then my friend Jared Easley, who has a podcast called starve the doubts, and he’s happens to also be the founder of podcast movement, which is the world’s first conference for podcasters by podcasters. Have you heard of that conference
David Ralph [55:44]
I have is this August the 16th. And 17th, I think in in Dallas.
Kimanzi Constable [55:50]
That’s right. And Jared is the one of the founders of that conference. So all three of us are throwing this conference in Maui. It’s called the work hard play hard summit, where it’s not conference per se, where you’re going to come in, you’re going to have sessions, it’s going to be more of a mastermind and a hot seat format, where all 20 entrepreneurs are going to come together, we’re all going to be in this this group. And we’re going to talk about each person’s business, they’re going to get up, they’re going to be on the hot seat. And they’re going to get feedback from everybody and then some private private sessions with some of the experts that we have brought in. But this conference is here as Molly, we rented out, did this David, we rented out a mansion that’s on the water, and we hired a private chef, that’s going to be making all the meals
David Ralph [56:34]
you become a Hugh Hefner revenue.
Kimanzi Constable [56:37]
It’s if you could see I’m going to send David, you’re going to go to work hard play hard summit and see it but I’m going to send David pictures. The mansion is sick, it’s going to be like like one of those MTV houses for the road show. But
David Ralph [56:50]
you’ll get ahead of this with serving the drinks.
Kimanzi Constable [56:54]
Ah, man. But then the play hard part of this is, in addition to all this good work stuff, we’re going to be going to the top of Mount Holly Aquila, which is a 10,000 foot dorma volcano, we’re going to see the sunrise up there, then we’re going to bite down the mom, it’s going to be a 20 mile bike down the mountain. And when you get to the bottom of the mountain, you’re at the beach, and you’re at the ocean, we’re going to be going to zip line and we’re going to do original Hawaiian luau. And so we’re going to work hard, and we’re going to play harder.
David Ralph [57:23]
Gemma easily. He hasn’t been on the show. But I have interviewed he’s co founder, Dan Franks, who’s doing the podcast movement. And he is somebody that I also find fascinating for so many reasons, because he’s just taking almost uncomfortable action, everything he’s doing at the moment is coming off, which is marvellous to see. But it’s not stuff he’s done before, it seems. And how did you connect with him, because virtually, and this is one of the sort of messages once again to the show, if you have got an idea out there that you want to do, and you reach out to people, generally across the globe, you don’t even have to mention, they will help you and you can pull together. I spoke to a woman last night, who’s had an assistant working for her for two years. And she never once met her not even had a Skype call on anything. And it’s her personal assistant. So you have got this ability to connect across the globe, which is hugely powerful. And you’re you seem to be doing is amazingly well. So how are you connecting with these people to be informed through work hard, play hard, and all that kind of stuff.
Kimanzi Constable [58:27]
We just met, as you said in the virtual world, I’m just having, I guess, meet your friends. And then I’m kind of been on. I’ve done a few interviews and a few articles all over the place. So Jared just reached out one day and said, Hey, and I said, Hey, right back. And it kind of formed for there to a real friendship where we actually talk on the phone every week, we actually catch up, and it’s great. So it started online, it’s formed into a real friendship. And you know, he’s, he’s, he’s another guy that I’m going to connect you with, because he’s just a great guy. He’s doing amazing things in this podcast movement thing. I mean, if you’re a podcaster, it’s going to be a pretty, pretty big deal. But it’s amazing how the internet connects all of us. It really is,
David Ralph [59:14]
especially people with a similar theme or a mentality. You know, absolutely. Especially if you want to be a positive inspirational guy, and you can connect with cat commands he comfortable. And if you want to be a serial killer, you could probably find like minded as well.
Kimanzi Constable [59:31]
I’m sure. I’m sure there’s a group for it somewhere.
David Ralph [59:34]
There’s a group but everything isn’t there you go on Facebook and your fines. Yeah, you don’t want to go there. Stay on the positive side.
Kimanzi Constable [59:41]
David Ralph [59:43]
We saw what happened with Darth Vader. It didn’t end up good, did it?
Kimanzi Constable [59:47]
No, it didn’t. But yeah, I’m going to connect you with Jared. And because those are two guys, you definitely need to have Oh, Karen, Join Up Dots.
David Ralph [59:53]
Well, you are a big friend of mine as well. And just before we say goodbye to you, I just fascinated to see what you’re going to say on the Sermon on the mic. Because I know this time, we’re not going to send you back massively. We’re going to send you back about four or five months before you actually moved over to Hawaii. So I’m going to play this been to and when it fades out, you’re up and command Z constable. This is the Sermon on the mic.
Unknown Speaker [1:00:21]
Here we go with the best beer on the show.
Kimanzi Constable [1:00:40]
So here we are command Z. First of all, I just want to tell you that’s kind of a weird name. But the one thing I would tell you is this. Yes. Hawaii is expensive. And yes, you’re moving far away from family. And and yes, these are really big life changes in your life. That’s all happening. There’s no need to be afraid. The worst thing that could happen is you could fall down. But guess what you can get back up. You can get going. You’re going to do amazing things. There’s nothing for you to fear. And really, you’ve let fear, dictate what you’ve done for too long, you’ve let outs and the negative voices of other people hold you back for too long. It’s time to stop being afraid of making these big changes, you’ve already made some big changes. So stop being afraid, realise that you’ve done it and you can do anything, nothing is impossible to you. So stop letting that fear win and just do it. You have a solid plan in place. You’ve done your research you prepared you got a large emergency fund, just in case things don’t go as planned. Stop being afraid, stop letting fear win. And once you do get there once you get to to Hawaii and get there with all the other big changes you want to make in your life. start dreaming even bigger, start going after crazier goals, start doing the things that everybody absolutely screams Jr. is impossible. Those are the kind of things you want to shoot for in your life. You know, as Steve Jobs said that the ones that think they’re crazy enough to change the world, those are the ones that do. And that’s the kind of person that you need to be, you need to be one of those crazy ones for things that they can change the world. And if you are you will change the world. So dream bigger, Dream higher, do the impossible and don’t look back. Look forward. You don’t you’re not guaranteed tomorrow. So you have to live for today live today as if it was your last day on earth. What would you do if today was your last day on earth? live today that way and don’t look back and don’t die with regret in your heart? And and that’s what I have to tell you.
David Ralph [1:02:51]
I think it was my last day on earth. I would I would meet up with Taylor Swift and then email you some pictures to show you. And you would think I should have got first
Kimanzi Constable [1:03:04]
I will be I’ll be a little jealous, but I’d be happy for you.
David Ralph [1:03:08]
Well, probably happier than my wife would be anyway. Come and see how people connect with you.
Kimanzi Constable [1:03:15]
You can head over to command Z constable calm which is k ay ay and Z i CL and sta ble you could Google command Z constable or you could head to living or existing book calm and that will take you to commands accountable calm. But stop over there. Say Hey, say David send you
David Ralph [1:03:37]
and And do we have a link to work hard play hard yet?
Kimanzi Constable [1:03:40]
Yeah, work hard play hard summit calm.
David Ralph [1:03:43]
I will put that on there as well. And I know that that’s going to be an amazing success for you, sir. Thank you so much for spending time with us again, joining up those dots. And I’m going to say this because I need to say this please come back again when you have more dots to join up. Because I reckon you you’re going to be a theme on this show you’re going to come on two or three times maybe five or six and the storeys are just going to get better and better. How inspiring is that going to be? Because I do believe that by joining up the dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures command Z. Thank you so much.
Kimanzi Constable [1:04:13]
Thanks for having me, David. It’s always a pleasure.
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