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Introducing Nadine Lajoie
She is a lady who has really turned the corner in her life, due to focus, motivation and pure strength of will to achieve huge success.
It wasn’t always a given that she would end up where she is today as a #1 Best-Selling Author, an international speaker, championship motorcycle racer, accomplished business leader, musician and vocalist who has earned more than 50 podium placements in male-dominated motorcycle competitions.
Now if that seems like a wildly adventurous and fun life to have, it wasn’t always like that.
As a young woman Nadine Lajoie was in a dark place in her life.
Dark enough to consider suicide, but as we said by taking a determined approach to stride boldly into the light, she undertook in 1999 a course of personal and spiritual development at The Institute for Personal Growth in Quebec, Canada.
How The Dots Joined For Nadine
In 2001, Nadine bought herself a motorcycle for pleasure, and two years later started motorcycle racing for sport. In 2007, she secured a Third-place finish at Daytona Raceway, against 75 men and scored 9th overall in the WERA National Championship in the USA.
But really this is just the beginning of her success and now with her books, coaching, and presentations teaching us to take control of our lives and “Win the race of life at 180 mph” then there is no better time to start joining up dots.
So let’s bring onto the show to start joining up dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs with the one and only Nadine Lajoie.
During the episode we discussed such weighty topics such as:
How you need to silence the hamster that threatens to keep us all running around in circles!
How you need to find your contribution to the world!
Why Richard Branson is her idol and the reasons why!
Why a phone call with her mother was the turning point in her life!
How you need to turn up everyday, no matter what the weather is doing to grasp true success!
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Audio Transcrption Of Nadine Lajoie Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK. David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:24]
Yes, good morning to you, wherever you are, whatever you’re doing, whoever you are with. Welcome to Episode 57 of Join Up Dots and it my voice sounds a little bit deep today. I still can’t get rid of the cold but I’ve been moaning about over the last few episodes so so bear with me, I will fight my way through as we normally do. And why shouldn’t I fought my way through when I’ve got a lady who is quite simply a fighter day to day she’s a lady who’s really turned the corner in her life to to focus, motivation and pure strength that will to achieve huge success wasn’t always a given that she would end up where she is today. As a best selling author, and international speaker, championship motorcycle racer, accomplished business leader, musician, vocalist, and also somebody who’s earned more than 50 podium placements in male dominated motorcycle competitions. Now that seems like a wildly adventurous and fun life to have. Well, it wasn’t always like that. As a young woman, our guest was most certainly in a dark place in her life, dark enough to consider suicide but as we said, by taking a determined approach to strive boldly into the light. She undertook it in 1999, of course, a personal and spiritual development at the Institute for personal growth in Quebec, Canada. And then two years later, she bought herself a motorcycle for pleasure. And two years later, the net started motorcycle racing for sport. Actually, in 2007, she secured a third place finish at daytona Raceway against 75 men and scored ninth overall in the W e are a national champion ship in the USA. It’s quite amazing. But really this is just the beginning of a success and now with a books, coaching and presentations, teaching us to take control of our lives and win the race of life at 190 miles per hour. When there is no better time to start Join Up Dots with the one and only Nadine Lajoie. How are you today? Nadine.
Nadine Lajoie [2:19]
I’m very good. Thank you very much for having me, David. I’m really excited about it.
David Ralph [2:25]
No, I’m you. Well, I don’t know where to start. Actually, Nadine, you have got one of those lives that is so exciting in so many areas. It’s it’s light and dark in so many areas. So I think the first thing that sort of really grabbed my attention is what’s a good way to pronounce your name Lajoie I’ve been practising for about four days was I spot on without all of I got things to learn.
Nadine Lajoie [2:48]
That is that is pretty good. Like, it’s probably one of the best pronunciation I ever got.
David Ralph [2:54]
I wrote it down. It spelt for the listeners, la j, o, h. So I spelt it la J. wi. And I thought that was the best way of doing it.
Nadine Lajoie [3:07]
Yes, and that means the joy. And that is that is my mission. And the word is bringing joy, passion and fun into the people’s lives with whatever I had accomplished. But it’s really helping them to accomplish the same for their own life,
David Ralph [3:21]
which is the motto of Join Up Dots every single day, we have conversations with people that have pushed themselves into positions of success. And by joining up the dots and looking back at their life, we really emphasise about literally all lives are a struggle. And it doesn’t matter. If you just see the end product, the highlight is a given really, but it wasn’t an easy step by step approach to get to there. And you’re one your life certainly seems like that he really is a life of contrast.
Nadine Lajoie [3:53]
Yes, life of contrast, this is for sure. And has you said like light and dark and challenges and successes. And I think in life this is the lesson that people really need to understand is everything is opposite, like masculine and feminine and adrenaline and downtime. It’s it’s all about how we bring balance into the in the islands
David Ralph [4:21]
serves the Union as
Nadine Lajoie [4:22]
motorcycle racer, if people go to my website needing racing com, they can see a picture of me with the knee on the ground. And with the the focus in the eyes. And then that picture really represents the five secret of the high achiever like the focus, adrenaline, passion, practice and coaching. When you do all that in everything in your life, that’s where you are able to connect the dots like you saying, I really like you analogy on that because it’s never clear when we are on the racetrack. What we are doing, we just going one corner at a time, but at the end, it’s reaching the finish line is really the accomplishment of our lives.
David Ralph [5:08]
So let’s just talk about the motor racing. Why hundred and 80 miles per hour is that as fast as you can go.
Nadine Lajoie [5:15]
Yeah, it’s some people are going faster than that, like in Daytona Bike Week in a bank key. When I was at Daytona, probably I went 178. And the fastest guy were probably over 200, maybe to 10. Is that not
David Ralph [5:33]
you know, this is gonna be a stupid question. But that must be terrifying. Maybe not terrifying. Once you’ve done it loads of times, I’ll probably still is, but when you’re actually going up, and he’s going 120 113 hundred and 40. What makes you keep on reading and going faster and faster and faster. Because I I would definitely I think slow down.
Nadine Lajoie [5:52]
Oh, it’s so fun. For me, it’s adrenaline. But going fast, it’s really easy. Going spot going fast is the easiest part actually, breaking and taking the next corner is the challenge. And sometimes you have some people who are trying to pass you outside and inside and you have to deal with maybe a crash in front of you and all that. And so it’s why I compare that with life and business. Going fast in business, it’s easy. But going fast in the right direction, or having a crash or corner in front of you that brings either a health problem or family problem, or kids that doesn’t do whatever you want to do at home. You know, it’s all the curveball that the life is bringing you if you take that as a motorcycle racer, you just take them and consider them as a new corner. It’s you need to go left or you need to go right sometimes you need to go slower, sometimes you need to go faster. And if you apply that analogy in your life and your business, that’s why the people can really
focus on whatever they need to accomplish.
David Ralph [7:11]
But I suppose in many ways that goes against what most people say steady steady, isn’t it, you know, the tortoise wins the race, and the hair always comes second. So you think that actually flip that on its head. And if you are focused, and you’re just going as fast as you can, ultimately, you will remain in control longer. Because of that that adrenaline and that that passion.
Nadine Lajoie [7:36]
Yes, actually did this is through but also because now the society is going so fast. And if you stay too much in your comfort zone, you need to kind of to push enough to be kind of on the edge living on the edge. But there is really a fine line in pushing enough and pushing too much. Maybe sometimes just one, one half of a mph can meet you crash or just a little bit more angle on your bike. So it’s all about finding the fine line to go fast enough. So like that you are ahead of your competition, you are ahead of your game, you’re on top of your game, and not crashing. So finding that fine line. That’s really where the successful people are really living on the edge without pushing the envelope too much. Now that’s
David Ralph [8:34]
a key thing, isn’t it? Because in conversation after conversation, we talk about something on Join Up Dots. But we call the contentment zone. And that is where the listeners and and other people are in a position in their life where it isn’t so bad. But I need to take action and it isn’t so good. But I feel pleased with what they’ve got. They’re just living day to day waiting for this salary waiting for the paycheck. So by ability to push the envelope and actually come out of their content zone isn’t ever actually forced onto them. So how does somebody out there who’s listening to this? and thinks Yes, I want a different life for myself. But they are in that contentment zone. How do they go about actually pushing against the the envelope?
Nadine Lajoie [9:20]
Yeah, that is a great question. And and I will go with one of my storey at daytona because the first thing that people need to do is stop the negative hamsters. In our head, we have always a hamster, spinning the wheels and saying we are not good enough or you cannot do this, you cannot do that. And my hamster was really like spinning the wheels my my race at daytona because I was going at daytona again, 75 guys, we practice and all that. And it was kind of the dream of my life to go at daytona bike weekend and being on the race. And I said okay, I’m probably the only female on my, on the grid. And that morning, it was raining. It was raining, not raining, raining, not raining. So I needed to change my tires, either for the web tire, or the dry tires. But that hamster was always keeping me going on the bad direction. And at one point I stopped, I just read. And I said, Okay, this is maybe my opportunity to be on the podium today because nobody else never raised in the rain. So when I change my head, my attitude, and my hamster, that’s why I started to be positive and having a better energy inside myself. And when I took the start, you cannot believe probably half of the people didn’t show up. Half of the people didn’t show up because it was raining. We had to take career, we risk our life we need to to change the tires, I’m me myself, and I don’t have any mechanic and half of the people and show up even if they had all the tools, the mechanic. And for me, that was a big lesson of my life. You need to show up, even if it rains, if it’s rainy, if it’s a bad day, if you’re not feeling good, you just need to keep going. And for me for the people not and if there is only one thing they retained today is really about taking the start and stop that answer inside of your head.
David Ralph [11:38]
And that hamster we all have that done. We all have that internal conflict that speaks to us and says it’s never going to work. What’s the point in doing it? So how did you overcome that hamster? Because I know you say you showed up and you change the tires and away you went and so many people didn’t. But was that always in you that inner strength that could shut that voice? Because a lot of people out there are so lucky and that that voice really gets louder and louder and louder.
Nadine Lajoie [12:07]
Yes, it’s really hard sometimes to tame the hamster. And right now I’m working on my teen co show, it’s a reality TV show. And we are dealing with the with with big stuff. And we have big challenges too. And sometimes I’m about to give up, you know, it’s it’s part of the nature of always looking the negative stuff instead the positive. And I think it’s probably kind of a true meaning that we have to do consciously, every day to just get up, just align yourself, having the bed the best moment that you can be, and being able to learn the lesson that you have to learn. But not letting the hamster or the negative or even the people around you discourage you for your life and your dreams. And if I would have listened everybody around me, I would not have been a motorcycle racer, I wouldn’t have been like 16, a word, a word entrepreneur, because a lot of businesses and a lot of project that I built in my life, a lot of people are against me because I’m always outside the box. And when you are outside the box, and when you are a leader, it’s really hard to get people grabbing your idea because you are doing a new way a new path, a new way of thinking. And being a leader, sometimes it takes 10 years, 20 years, 40 years to be able to connect the dots, again, about that it’s it’s really like only five years later, or 10 years later that you realise Oh, that’s why I was so good at motorcycle racing right away. Right away first race first podium in the woman’s class. And I never raised before I just had my first tweet by two years before, like you said at the beginning. But why? Because God, or you know the universe or Allah or Buddha or whatever you want to call it had a bigger plan for me. And now that motorcycle racing is really bringing a lot of attention to me. And a lot of opportunities because there is no other motorcycle racer speaker in the world. I am the first one. So now I understand why I was so good at motorcycle racing right away. But it’s all about the champion mindset.
David Ralph [14:37]
And you didn’t always have that champion mindset Did you? You know, in the introduction, I was saying there was a very dark phase in your life. And I was watching a YouTube video with you as afternoon. And it was it was quite evident that up to the age of 25 that hamster wasn’t just a hamster on your shoulder it was it was alliance in on your shoulder and taking away your self respect. taking away your your your desire for the life you’ve got now to the point where you was almost willing to take your own life. So was there a point where you manage to shut them out because it seems easy at the moment and what you’re saying I totally buy into every single thing. But But journey because it is so vast from where you came from to where you are now, there must have been a huge dot, there must have been a point in your life, where actually things started to come together, which you hadn’t seen were around you previously.
Nadine Lajoie [15:36]
Yes. And actually, in 95, I got sick, I got pneumonia, which means psychosomatic Lee, that you don’t want to live, you don’t want to breathe, and you don’t want to be on hurt. And for me since the age of four or five years old, even if I was good at music at sports, good parents never liked money, or getting getting raped or I didn’t have any major breakdown in my life. And I always said at 25 years old. If life is not better, I will just kill myself. And seven days before my birthday, I got pneumonia. And the death that night I just turn on the TV. And that was an episode about against suicide and the girl she said, if you want to commit suicide, if you want to end your life, I just ask you one thing you need to call at least one friend, one parent, one social worker, whoever you need to do at least one phone call. And up to three o’clock in the morning, I finally call my mom. And she really listened to me. She listened to me with her heart with her soul. And for me now my mission and my passion is really to help people in having a friend and having your role model an inspiration to never give up. And I want people to remind you that song if you have a bad moment, when you down and throw
Unknown Speaker [17:15]
Nadine Lajoie [17:19]
and nothing, nothing is gone. Right? You’ve Got a Friend? And oh yeah, you’ve got a friend. Yay.
David Ralph [17:39]
Blimey, I wasn’t expecting that, but well done to you.
Nadine Lajoie [17:43]
Thank you. So people can have a friend, a support member, anybody a coach and mentor. People need to ask for help in business, in life, in personal life. Whatever challenge you have, whatever journey you are going through, there is always a friend somewhere to listen to you. And that’s what I’m doing. That’s why I’m doing what I do. I’m, I’m a friend for a lot of people, and I’m a coach, I’m a mentor. And now my life is dedicated to helping others.
David Ralph [18:18]
This, this is a theme that runs through the shows literally every single person I can’t, you know, I’m trying to think off the top of my head, we’ve had 57 episodes now. And I can’t think of one person who has said to me, my life was better when I just focused in on myself, it seems to be the tipping point. But once you start providing value to people, number one, you feel better about yourself. And number two, you actually gain more value back certainly monetary. So many people have said to me, You know, I really don’t even think about money anymore. Because I know that if I provide value to people, it comes back to us. Now, with the people out there who are you know, listening to this, there in situation, they’re going to their nine to five jobs, but doing whatever. We’ve always been saying it’s almost better to surround yourself with a peer group of like minded positive people, or people that you can aspire to. But would you say it’s actually better to have one single person as a point of reference before you go that route.
Nadine Lajoie [19:26]
And I always suggest to my client to have always to have three coaches or mentors. Yes, you need to look up to a couple of idols. And me Sir Richard Branson is one of mine, because he owns two over 200 businesses, and I’m really excited about about what he’s doing. But in the real life in the day today. Because there is three ways there is the personal, the professional, and the spiritual. So if we want to have balance in your life, and I talked a lot about that in the book, because balance and passion, and being balanced into the imbalance is so important. That’s why you need three people, at least in one of those area to really help you because the business coach or the business mentor cannot help you on your personal Break, break down with your family, you know. So it’s why the personal, professional and spiritual you have to have those mentors and coaches and people you look up to be able to help you and to give you a hand and be your friend and helping you in many ways in your life.
David Ralph [20:42]
So when you turned to your mother, and you had this conversation, and it must have been a very deep emotional conversation for you to have did she was it kind of like, Oh, thank God, I’ve been waiting for you to turn to Me, or was it a surprise, but you did turn to her because it most of our lives. Growing up, it gets to a point when the last person that you will turn to on sort of weighty subjects are your parents, because you almost don’t want to let them down that you sort of dig down in yourself and you will talk to pretty much anyone other than your parents. So was it a relief to your mother when you when you turn to her.
Nadine Lajoie [21:20]
She was probably surprised and she was probably asleep too. And you know, because I was good at everything. I remember I talked to my parents a few times and friends of telling them that I’m not p i want to end my life and like nobody listened. And even today in the society that the suicide rate is growing and growing because we are more and more spoiled. And in my in my case, I was really spoiled. I have everything but I still have the whole inside. And you cannot explain that whole, I tried to explain it, I try to understand it, I try to find the deep root of it. And it kind of never worked out until that night, my mom really listened to me with her heart and with her soul without telling me you know, some people are dying, because they don’t even have food on the table. When you are in that state of depression, that you don’t want to hear nothing you just want to be heard. And because she really heard me that night, and even many years ago, I talked to her about that conversation. And she barely remember, you see how the subconscious sometimes the turning point of my life was probably that night. And for her that was probably another conversation we had. So it’s all about point of view. And people need to Don’t get upset because sometimes people don’t get our point of view. But it’s all about never giving up and reaching out for help. And sometimes you just need one person, one sentence or one word to change your life. You never know. You never know it may be when you go to do your grocery that you will have that turning point in your life. We never know.
David Ralph [23:12]
It’s all about looking back and joining the dots, isn’t it?
Nadine Lajoie [23:17]
Yes, yes. And then. And for me, that’s so that’s so cool that I have this interview with you. Because lately in the last month, I kind of joined a lot of my dots that I understood why I was doing this and that because now that I can kind of put everything together into my teen co show and having my speaking business, my challenges and being so depressed when I was young, now working with you and in different schools and now tightening all that into the TV show. So I would never expect that 10 years ago, I would not have understood what was my next pattern my next journey the next 10 years.
David Ralph [24:03]
Right? Okay, so it’s at this point, the show that I really think that we’ve led up to the theme of the show. And as always, this is when Mr. Steve Jobs comes into play. We’ve been playing this on pretty much all the shows. So you shouldn’t know it Word Perfect by now. But um, we’re gonna play it again. Anyway, this is Steve Jobs back in 2005. Talking about a course looking back and joining up the dots.
Steve Jobs [24:24]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [25:00]
You’ve already said that you you believe in those words. And you can actually see how it applies to your life nowadays. But can you remember the first time that you heard it and and whether it was relevant to you at that time.
Nadine Lajoie [25:16]
It’s not the it’s only a few years ago that that I listened that speech and a pieces of that’s the speech. And for me already at that moment, as I said, I kind of changed my life in 99 a lot and 2006 also when I sold my house, my car and travel the states and just being semi retired from my first business. At that moment, since 2006. I’m all about there is no coincidence and everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we don’t see the reason right away. But trusting Deb is kind of a divine connexion or divine path, even if it’s not already ways. And I would say probably never into our taste because like me, whatever happened in my life, I wish it always happening faster or slower or better. So we kind of feel as a human being that it’s never enough. But knowing that and when I when I hear that, that speech that was really kind of putting into words. A good way to understand that universe, a connexion that we all have and the our personal connexion and our personal mission on life on hurt really helped me to, to bring that together. And really listening to the to it this morning. It It was a long time. But it’s really cool because you all stand a different way. Each time you listen those magic words, you even if you listen that 10 times, like Les Brown is one of my mentor, I listened to his speech probably 15 times. And I always listen something differently, because depending on your state of mind or state of work or state of energy that they those kind of messages and speeches, historical speeches like that is really, I think, a good message and a good inspiration. And thank you for bringing that up.
David Ralph [27:34]
I think you’re absolutely right on that. And I listened to that every day. And if I’m doing multiple interviews and episodes on a day, I might listen to it four or five times in one day. And sometimes I listened to it and I think, right, okay, he’s saying, take action. And as long as you’re taking action, then it’s cause and effect and something’s going to happen. And then other times I listened to it, and I think, no, he’s saying, you know, you got to trust in yourself. And you know, you’re the only person that can make your dream come true. And you got to take sole responsibility. And then other times I listened to it, and I get a totally different spin on it as well. And it is amazing because it is it is such a simple little sentence or a couple of sentences. But it has so so much power, doesn’t it? It’s it is of it of the time, it’s going to be you know, we can listen to that in 20 years time I’m sure we are.
Nadine Lajoie [28:22]
Yes, and then speeches like that all like Martin Luther King with high had a dream. So all all those kind of words that we all wish I think we all wish that one day we will do that kind of speech in the words will be repeated again and again. And people who will follow the trays or will follow the trend and the wave that we are bringing as a leader in the word. And for me, it’s it’s really about, again, the personal, the professional and the spiritual all together, that’s what makes a difference. I know a lot of people are not a fan of Steve Jobs, and some are but you know, in a one on one thing or in in, in an energy field and what he transcend in his life. His is really bringing a strong
a strong impact. And he was dedicated to do that.
David Ralph [29:25]
Yeah, I’ve had some guests have said to me, you know, they’re they’re almost Steve Jobs worshippers, and I’ve had other guests upset, I’d like to punch him in the face. I’m totally sort of non committal, I don’t own any Apple products in any shape or form. I find iTunes, difficult to use, really and a bit sort of fussy in many different ways. But I do like the kind of brand loyalty but Apple creates. And so many people are in love with the simplicity of their products. And when I was looking at what you’re creating, in many ways, it it’s quite simple. And I don’t mean that sort of disrespectfully. But it’s quite simple. Because every word you say is about speaking to that person on an individual basis. Even if you’re talking to large audiences. You get out there and you focus in by your music, or your words or your presentations on the individual in the room. And Was that something that you’ve always thought was important?
Nadine Lajoie [30:27]
I think I got that since I’m really, really young. Because when I was young guy, at five years old, I started to do piano and singing at nine years old. And I was in a car choir at 10. And, and I was speaking in front of my church. So I always wanted to be on stage and become a celebrity. I wanted to become a star. And even when Celine Dion sang for the pole back in 84. Dan, I’m hoping she will be sick. So I can raise my hand and I can go sing for the pope instead of Celine Dion music. And when I was going to see the Nordic back and I, or sports events, I was always hoping to sing the national anthem. And actually, I signed my first five national anthem last year and singing that, because I wanted to be a celebrity and being on stage, I guess my DNA was probably meant to be like that. So it’s probably why for me, it was probably more natural skill or natural gift that I’ve got, because of the singing portion. It’s really helping you with your confidence, and being able to to perform in a music state. And in a music stage, you are in emotional state. So when you are connected with your emotion, you are more connected with the vine, it’s probably why for me to was a little bit more natural than others. But at the same time, you still need to learn the templates and, and the ways to once a question and all that there is still kind of a learning skill. But there is a natural gift behind mine, I think,
David Ralph [32:16]
well, it’s totally natural. And I have never seen somebody doing a presentation and then leaping on the piano and doing a song like you do. And do you remember the first time you did that? Did you did the audience think that you’re going a bit mad because it is very unusual now is obviously your thing and they they almost look forward to it. But the very first time that you you jumped from one thing onto the piano was that kind of Oh my god, what the hell she doing?
Nadine Lajoie [32:44]
I actually I fight a lot. And I argue a lot with my speaking coaches few years ago, when I started officially to want to become a speaker that was only in 2007. In Quebec, I didn’t want speech in 2005. And I was always good at speeches and the school and university and all that. But that in 2007, when I started to work on my speech and my template and my message and all that. My coaches, they said you need to choose you to be a speaker or you want to be a singer, but you cannot do both. So that was what the people were telling me. And most of the people they were telling me because in 2007, my French Canadian accent, speaking in English was really horrible. And people told me that you will never be able to be a speaker or being on radio or media or TV because your accent is so strong. So those two example there is a big lesson behind that is I never listened to people. Yes, I listened a little bit I tried trial and errors. It didn’t work out for me, me, it didn’t feel right for me to let go the music when I’m speaking. And now when I’m on the radio and TV and speaking all over the place and singing even on radio, I’m always singing a little piece of the song. People said, Oh my God, that’s why the people love you so much. Why five years ago, seven years ago, people were telling me I will never be successful at that. You see, the people willing to understand that what is good for you is may be not good for your coach or your mentor. So you need to try trial, the Narrows, but you still need to listen to your intuition. And what brings you vibrant and really fit with your, your style. And for me, my style is speaking, singing and inspiring. So this is my style. This is good for me, it’s maybe not good for some other people.
David Ralph [35:00]
Your unique path isn’t it is your unique selling point, which in many ways I know you’ve developed it to a high level is are the things that you’re naturally good at. And so you will migrate towards the thing. The strapline the tagline of this show is Join Up Dots, but connecting our pasts to build our futures. And I’m a great believer, but if we spend time reflecting and looking back on our life, and I’ve said this in many shows, but we will see areas when we were doing something that we loved, or we were naturally good at, or put us into a state of flow, and we lost ours just because we was we was in that moment we was in the zone. And if we connect all those things, a lot of us will have a pretty good idea of what we should be doing with our life. But we don’t we don’t seem to spend enough time looking back. And that’s what I’m trying to get through with the shows. Just by sitting there listening to these conversations. Maybe you can sort of cast your mind back and beat Yeah, fat and I am joined by how can I build a career? or How can I build a lifestyle around the things that I’m naturally good at?
Nadine Lajoie [36:08]
Yes, and it’s all about, it’s all about again, reconnecting with yourself and be sure that you are taking the right action in the universe will bring you whatever you need. Even if you don’t agree with that, even if you are not happy with that. That’s really my lesson that I learned in my life. And that’s really, I think, go go really well with your team join the dots.
David Ralph [36:39]
You talk about the universe a lot. Is that a concept that you’re very comfortable with? Because I know a lot of people are very uncomfortable when they start talking about the universe and kind of things happening that aren’t in their control? Do you let yourself go with the flow a bit and see what happens?
Nadine Lajoie [36:59]
Yes, and it’s it’s only after 99 when I because I was a mathematician I was I studied in actuary, and I was a financial planner, which is really left left brain. But that left brain really can help you in your life. In one way. The right brain, I was lucky enough to have the music to really focus on my right brain and the subconscious and learning and all that. But when I was able to understand a little bit about the universe and experience myself something that I never believed that it would be possible. And I started because I’m a really open person. So if somebody tells me something, I will believe them, I will try it. If it fits for me, that’s good. If it doesn’t fit, I will just let it go. So it’s why probably I got a lot of successes in my life, because I’m open. And I’m open to learn new stuff. And when I started to learn about spiritual, the universe, and all that kind of reconnected me to to, to the universe more than to God because for me, God, Allah, Buddha, everybody, every religion, I think the main thing is all about loving each other, respecting each other, and be good to each other. For me, this is my religion, if they could have a religion with only those three things that would be mine. So that’s why when I started to understand and apply and experience in my life, all those spiritual concepts, and sometimes I’m kind of more close to that sometimes I’m more into the day to day and it’s normal to go kind of between the, between the day to day and the between the spirituality, I think it’s some people are more one or the other. But again, it’s all about the balance and, and for me all the gifts that I had in my life, if I can inspire people to do the same, and to take action in their life and being open in learning in different things. Like if I could learn about being an astronaut, I would, it’s it’s all about learning and live the life at 180 miles per hour, learn everything you want, do realise all the dreams that you do. You can dream and don’t let our being stuck by anything or anybody. The never give up attitude is really what made me who I am right now. And its really, really present in my speeches and conversation and all that. And I think when I started to believe into the universe, that really helped me so that was good, funny.
David Ralph [40:01]
Because I’m having some weird things happen to me since I started doing this show. And I’m connecting with people across the globe. And I’m having a wonderful conversations with hugely passionate people like yourself, I will sort of finish the show and I will look in my email box and something strange has happened or somebody has just come out of the woodwork that I didn’t expect. And when it first started happening, I was thinking Why? Why are they contacting me? Now? I’m thinking to myself, this is great. I don’t know how this is happening. But this is brilliant. It’s making it easier. And it seems the more I put myself out there, the kind of easier it’s becoming it’s It is strange how it is happening like that.
Nadine Lajoie [40:43]
David Ralph [40:45]
What What do you get most from your life, if you’re laying in bed at night, and you you had a tough day, and you’re exhausted and you’ve been doing whatever, just before you drift off? Is there something that you go Yes, that’s what I’m hearing from today.
Nadine Lajoie [41:04]
I’m always doing my grateful things about the day what I’m grateful for, and I’m trying to go to bed with those grateful tasks. Even sometimes, it’s just thank you because I had food today because I had a bad day. And thank you for being in a country that we don’t have wars. And thank you for having my family even if I don’t see them a lot. So going to bed with that thankful attitude is putting me in a better state than just continuing to raging or being upstairs about my day or my challenges. And that that’s not coming from me. They’re coming from many of my mentors, and many of the books about those grateful thought at least tank at the end of the day for at least five different things.
David Ralph [42:00]
I was talking to a gentleman last night, I don’t know if you know him, called Jason Womack. No doubt, but he was saying he he’s a productivity coach. And he empowers people. And he goes around the world and talking on a myriad of subjects. But one of the things that he does, he makes sure that he thinks people and he’s got a loaded little cards. And he will write handwritten cards and post them off to people thanking them. And he might thank the made who made his bed in his hotel room. And he or thank somebody who was just nice to him on the street. And he he does bad as a constant. And he says it’s his way of grounding him and making sure that he keeps that level of gratitude up because he believes it’s so important.
Nadine Lajoie [42:50]
Yes, and there are many, many, many storeys like that, and especially when you are not feeling good. Sometimes it’s really hard to do to do that. To be grateful and thankful or even going to the grocery or, or smiling. It sometimes it’s not easy, but I think again, it’s a habit. And then this guy that you’re talking about, he made it as a habit. And this is another reason that you know, the 21 day habit that if people would take better habits in their life, they would have a better life. And this is a habit of being thankful every day. And I think people can choose what what kind of habit that the that they get. But I think this one is probably the basic one and the easy one to do.
David Ralph [43:46]
Be grateful, be grateful for what you’ve got be grateful for, you know, for what you haven’t really in some ways, because some people have some awful things happening to them.
Nadine Lajoie [43:59]
Yeah, and I’m always surprised because when I was at that depression state, and before the age of 25, I had friends who, who got beat up by their dad, and they got raped and the got sex abuse and, and they got all kinds of crazy stuff happening in their life. And they were more happy than me. And I couldn’t understand why are they happy after everything that he got. And I was not able to be happy. And again, it’s really hard to understand, it’s hard to listen. And it’s hard for that. But again, for me, what really helped me out is focusing on the finish line, focusing on my dream, focusing on my goals, focusing on the next step, just one corner at a time, just one day at a time. And that’s that’s really why I think it’s it really helps me to get going even if I’m not feeling for it. So life is a life is like that it’s one day after the other. And each and every one of them are different. And it’s always about how what is your contribution to yourself and to the world. And focusing on that is is really helping me a lot going through those bad days.
David Ralph [45:19]
Can you understand now looking back why your friends were happier than you.
Nadine Lajoie [45:25]
I never, I never understood and I when I stop wondering and trying to find conscious solution of the all the logical meaning of it, when I stopped chasing the app, left brain thing and say, Okay, this is what it is. That’s what happened to me now what, and focusing on the future and just stop focusing on the y and, and roots of it. And why I do that, that truly, where my life started to be better. And I just quit my job as a secretary and I started as a financial planner, started to go to a lot of seminars, having coaches and mentors. A lot of people in the sales industry, they are all happy. They seems all happy. So I was just going with the flow and going on that way, then that really, really helped me out a lot.
David Ralph [46:28]
So what can we expect from you now? 19? So is 2014. What What is your focus? Because you do have so much going on in your life? And in your history. So what are you aiming for now?
Nadine Lajoie [46:41]
Yeah, right now, it’s all about that same mission about speaking, singing and empowering people around the world. And I have different tools and strategies for that I’m a business coach, and I continue to speak a lot and hopefully this year will get authority school as speaking tour. So like that I can help more teenagers to become an entrepreneur and develop that champion mindset. Because when I was in their shoes, I was really depressed. So I want to show them that from that point, I was able to turn my life around and do that. And, and for me, I the TV show teen co show is really bringing all my work, all my challenges and my bad years and my success in motorcycle racing and my six businesses internationally, all that I think come back to the teen CEO show, so I can really give back to those teenagers and entrepreneurs and woman along the way for sure, because I had experience. But now it’s more a way to give back and get other people on the right. the right track like like I did, and, and supporting them. And being a mentor is one of the most recognition that we can get. It’s when we see our clients succeed or go through a bad situation or, or never give up and really like focusing on pushing them pushing them pushing them. It’s really it’s really the work I’m I’m retired right now from my first business and and I could still just be on the beach and do nothing but I chose or the universal God chose for me the mission of speaking and inspiring around the world. And that’s what I do.
David Ralph [48:34]
Well, talking about teenagers was the perfect segue to our last part of the show. And this is the part that we call the Sermon on the mic. And this is where I send you back in time to have a chat with your younger self. And it can be a teenager, it can be a five year old and at whatever age that you would choose if you could go back, sit on the sofa and just give some words of advice. This is your opportunity. So this is a sermon on the mic. And when the music fades, I’m not gonna say anything, it’s just over to you.
Unknown Speaker [49:10]
With the best of the show,
Nadine Lajoie [49:34]
life will be better. Life will be better. Whatever happened in your life, life will be better if you keep going and keep working and improving yourself.
David Ralph [49:47]
Maintain less well, it’s been an absolute pleasure to have you on the show today. You is it’s just passion pulling out of every part of you. I can’t actually imagine you ever having a down day to be honest. And there should be no My
Nadine Lajoie [50:02]
god, I have plenty of those. I have plenty of those. It’s just that I’m probably trained to get over it. And, and like motorcycle racing. When I wanted to be faster the guys told me until you don’t accept that you can crash and you can die, you will never be fast. And for me, this is a lesson that I really learned. Like even if I feel that I’m crashing or have a bad day is just getting up on the bike. And if you want to be fast, you need to keep going.
David Ralph [50:33]
And that is words of wisdom for all our listeners out there. So thank you so much for spending time with us today. And spending some time joining up the dots. Because I really do believe as I said earlier about connecting our past we really have the best opportunity to build our future and they demonise you are Thank you so much.
Nadine Lajoie [50:52]
Thank you and people can visit needing racing.com and I have a lot of free gift for you guys.
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