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Introducing Paul Blais Of The Potters Cast
Paul Blais is today’s guest ready to be interviewed on the Join Up Dots business coaching podcast.
He was perhaps not the most obvious person to get behind the microphone and create an amazing content producing production line.
But he has achieved it, after living a totally different life for many, many years.
An electrician and entrepreneur by trade, Paul Blais spent his time with pliers and fuses, creating a world of light and power around his home state of Washington.
But behind his skilled hands, a light burned brightly.
A light that shone brightly on a dream to become a speaker and a writer.
How The Dots Joined Up For Paul Blais
But like many dreams, they remained simmering until after a routine health check he was given life shattering news.
He found out he had cancer, and knew that he had take action.
And man did he take action.
Grabbing a mike, a pen, and a laptop he set to work to not only achieve his own goals, but to inspire others to achieve their goals too.
And with his podcast “Doubt The Doubts” and now the Potters Cast, being published now over 180 times, Paul has certainly achieved his aim.
Well let’s bring onto the show to start joining up dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs with the one and only, the host of “Doubt The Doubts” Mr Paul Blais.
During the show we discussed such weighty topics such as:
How it took the diagnosis of Cancer to really kick off his dreams!
How he realized we have support from every corner of the world…..even from a complete stranger!
How creativity plays a huge role in every aspect of his life no matter what he is doing!
How he taught us that if you confront your fears, and doubt the doubts then you will have an affect on someone’s life…somewhere!
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Audio Transcription Of Paul Blais Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:25]
Hello there once more out there in internet land. And welcome to another episode of Join Up Dots, Episode 23. Today, and we have got a guy who really has been an inspiration to me. And boy from the very, very first time I had this thought of doing this show, he was somebody who was, quite frankly ahead of the curve. He was already doing what I wanted to do so he has been a huge inspiration to me. So let me introduce you to him. Today’s guest was perhaps not the most obvious person to get behind the mic and create an amazing content producing production line. But he’s achieved it after living a totally different life for many, many years. an electrician an entrepreneur by trade, he spent his time with clients and fuses creating a world of light and power around his home state of Washington. But behind the skilled hands, a light burned brightly, a light that shone brightly on a dream to become a speaker, and a writer. But like many dreams, they remained simmering until after routine health cheque. He was given life shattering news, he found out he had cancer and new vein but he had to take action. And boy, did he take action, grabbing a mic, a pen and a laptop. He said to work not only to achieve his own goals, but to inspire others to achieve their goals too. And where this podcast down the daoists being published now over 180 times, he has certainly achieved design. So let me bring to you someone who deserves to be heard by the biggest audience possible. The host about the doubts, Mr. Paul Blaze? How are you today? Sir?
Paul Blaise [2:01]
David, I tell you what, if you could just hang out with me and tell that little intro on a regular basis, I would always be great.
David Ralph [2:09]
I’ll tell you why. But I can get that tattooed on your backside for you.
Paul Blaise [2:14]
would be perfect. I mean, it’s just was I had First off, I am so blown away and an honoured David that you would point to me as one of those people that that inspired you to do what you’re doing that that is such a huge inspiration to me myself, you know, one of the mottos of doubt the doubts is always to encourage people to say I can do it and to hear that you are doing what your dream is just does nothing but thrilled me to death. I’m just so excited about that. So now thank you for your kind words is absolutely true. So and I imagine
David Ralph [2:51]
you must get emails saying those same things or voicemails constantly because up to 100 it shows you’ve really produced content that is global. Did you get a lot of emails on that?
Paul Blaise [3:07]
You know, I get some emails I’m I think that the amount of people that actually sit down and write is it the percentage is pretty small. But I do get emails on a regular basis telling me what they’re what what people are thinking and what how the show has made an impact. And really, when it comes down to a David, it really has far less to do with me, as it does to do with the guests that come on the show, which I’m sure you’re finding that that same thing for yourself, is that the people who come on your show that come on to mind specifically doubt the doubts. They are absolutely amazing and astounding. And to hear their storeys and their journeys. It’s just, it’s so inspirational. So, so I’m just, I’m just the knucklehead who asks the questions, you know, I’m really not that impressive of a person. It’s it’s the amazing people use kind of like the the comparison of a bottle of wine, you know, the the bottle is nothing more than the than the conduit or the caring vessel to get it from, from the vineyard to the glass. And nobody praises the bottle. It’s always the stuff inside that that matters. And that’s what the guests are, there’s this stuff inside. And I’m just, I’m just the bottle with the label on it. Other than that, it’s really those those amazing people that make doubt the doubts, as a very good show.
David Ralph [4:32]
So, so taking you back to the beginning, before you you launched, and I’m very interested in the journey leading up to the launch. But before you launched when you started to get the idea together, that one of the problems that I had mentally was the fact that there was over 15,000 200,000, whatever shows out there, and you think, Oh, I’m going to come out with a show. This is going to be good. But then you think who’s gonna listen, no one’s gonna listen. Everyone has got their own audience already. I’ve got no chance. How did you overcome that kind of doubt. But that was I suppose that little voice in the back of your head that says that you could bring something different to the ballgame?
Paul Blaise [5:15]
Oh, that’s a great question, David. First off, I didn’t, I never believed that no one would listen, I knew my mom would listen. So that was one thing. It is a big deal to to kind of put yourself out there. It’s a little scary. Somebody described, I’ve done tonnes of speaking public speaking gigs, and someone has described public speaking is getting naked in front of an audience, knowing that you’re going to have to do it again later. And it putting yourself out in a in a podcast form, like what you are doing like what I do, it is intimidating. Because for one, you’re putting your thoughts out there your dreams, your idea. There’s no other gatekeeper, to stop you and say, Hey, this is not a good idea stop, you know, so it’s really up to you. And so it is a bit, it’s a bit. It’s a bit frightening. Now, I also am a bit of an optimist, where I tend to think that I can do I can do anything that I want to put my mind to. So that’s not to say that I’ve been successful with everything that put my my hand too. But it’s but I always have this, this optimism and some people may call me a dreamer. Some people may call me call me foolish, but I’ve gone ahead and just whenever I’ve had a dream that I wanted to do, and I just kind of gone for. So I did have much higher expectations, when I started thinking that if I just had great guests, which I did have, and I thought that if I could put together a show that is that is that is clean, and dressed up. I just thought that it would get the sky was the limit. And, and so I didn’t have a lot of fear of like who would listen to it, I just figured that I’m going to put it out there. And I figured that that as long as I had great guests and I had a decent looking show that I think it would it would take off and and it’s proven to do that. Now, I was doing initially, David, I did do a daily show as you were doing yourself. And it was in December, I’ve had two transitions in the last last couple of months. One in December, around the 15th of the month, I changed from a daily show to a three times a week show. And part of that was because I wanted to focus more on writing and I wasn’t doing enough writing as, especially with someone on campaigns that was doing so I needed to I need to hone in a little bit and diversify my my thought or my my efforts. And then in December, I’m not December, I’m sorry, in March, just recently, I changed one more time to where I’m now doing twice a week. Because I’m specifically starting up a new podcast that will be not a companion to doubt the doubts but will be kind of down in different, a little bit different. Different track. So so i’ll be doing I’ll be doing four shows a week. But they’ll be on split between two different podcasts and then also doing writing and, and, and the other things that I’ve got to keep going. I’m also running a business to the electric connexion. So So I’ve got a lot on my life.
David Ralph [8:55]
So so so what’s your favourite thing out of all of it, the podcast, the new product, the writing the dope, what’s what’s the thing that really gets your juices going?
Paul Blaise [9:05]
Well, the the business I’ve always dreamed of shutting down the electric connexion, I started it as a backup not as an idea that I would do this for the rest of my life. I I enjoyed the electric connexion as more as an artist than I do. As a technician, though, I’m a great electrician. And I don’t mean that arrogantly, I just know that I’m a good electrician, because I’ve seen enough to work with the other people around me. And there are other guys out there just as good as me and better than myself. But the thing that I that I have always shined in was design work. So I’ve fancied myself more of a lighting designer. So I’ll go into a place and I will have, I will come up with the vision of how to make the house or the business more aesthetically pleasing through the, through the textures of light. So I’ve always I’ve always fancied myself more than way. So I’ll come into a into some of the nicest houses in our area and truly have been able to design the lighting for some of the most beautiful houses in our county. And I have, I’ve put my artistic eye towards, towards that part of the of the business. And then I can go on I can wire and do all the electrical stuff, sound system, theatre rooms, and the whole nine yards. But having said that, that was supposed to be a backup business. So the creativity is the thing that I love the most. And so I think I love the podcasting, the most. And the writing, I like having written more than I like writing, and I don’t like being in the middle of writing more than I like, starting to write. And I like so so let’s kind of that that that idea of, of liking. Having written is not new to me, somebody else said that. And I love that idea that it is a painful process to write, it is painful to expose the soul and to put it out there and when when it doesn’t resonate with anybody which some of my writings have done. I feel a bit I feel a little, again, one of those those naked moments. And it’s a little bit frustrating. But there’s other times where it just connects so deeply with somebody and the responses is so significant that I I am blown away by the impact of it. And I just say guys, that that change of life that somebody experienced was because I took the time to tap something out on a keyboard. And that to me is astounding. So I love having written and seen seen the impact. But it’s a painful process to do it to do it well. Now the podcasting part I love podcasting, I not a big fan of editing but it you know you have to do it sucks streamline that to where I can, I can record a show and edit a show all within an hour an hour and 15 minutes, you know, I’ve got a little block of time that I can I can interview somebody, record it,
edit it, file it and start another recording another interview in another
in at the start of another hour, 15 minute block as I’d have my day blocked out that way for interviews. So I could do things very streamlined and easy that way. But the I remember when I first started bro I was doing like an I would interview I would interview somebody and spend about an hour and a half then editing this show, it was just brutal. And then I started coming up with simple systems and and all that to be able to hone it down.
David Ralph [12:47]
So it’s brilliant that you’ve got so much going in your life at the moment. But as we said at the beginning, you have had a lot of health problems, white male health problems, you know, there’s no belittling them in any shape or form. So it must be exhausting to have those issues still circulating. But having to do all the things that you’re doing at the same time, or is it those things that gives you energy that maybe you wouldn’t have had?
Paul Blaise [13:17]
Well, interesting question, David, to be honest.
I yeah, I like the way you worded that. So
when I was first diagnosed with cancer, which was last, not this last year, but February 2013.
I’ve February 11 Be specific.
When I was diagnosed, it became the impetus to say forget this, I can’t wait for my dreams to come true. Because I always had this idea of you know, one day. In fact, one of my guests Sean Sean ogle over the world to say Sean, my apologies to Sean for off top my head not really grab his name, but he had this great line that, that I thought it applied to me before I even knew this quote, but he said specifically he said someday is not one of the days of the week. And that, that idea that, you know, saying that you’ll do something someday. And but it’s it’s not one of the seven days of the week, it’s just this this hypothetical, this hypothetical idea out there of what may or may not happen. It just is it is a dream. It’s a it’s a mirage. But, and I’ve and I had plenty of those dreams I’ve always wanted to be a writer and a speaker and an artist and and to have that kind of out there in this La La Land just wasn’t gonna happen. So when I was diagnosis that I’ve got to do it now. So that was my that was a driving passion and I’ve got it I’ve got to do this now. And and there’s you know, there’s more details that storey that people can kind of search through my podcasts and they’ll find it especially my episode my first episode. But having said that, as the as the disease wore on, which last year was a very brutal year for myself, David that you know, I was diagnosed, went and had surgery went through went through some pretty serious treatment had then I end up having having the cancer they discovered again it propagated it went from being you know, though it was very large initially was the size of an orange inside my bladder, the when they went back to look a second time in there, it had propagated and they were like 14 new tumours, all of them small, you know, the size of like the end of your pinky, but still, nonetheless, great rowing. And so you know, the we dealt with that. Then we had I went to around a treatment. And then before the next round of treatment, they went in looked again, my doctor went and looked again found more cancer growing, and had surgery again, more treatment. And a very ominous
I was not going to be making it for much longer. And it was it was I was convinced that Tony for the year and I was
Well, when I was first diagnosed, I asked my doctor Yeah, when I when I was first diagnosed, my doctor told me I said, What if we can’t get front of this and he said, well, then you’ve got 18 months. Well, that was when I was first diagnosed. But he said, but we’re not going to worry about that we’re going to go and we have surgery to take care of this. And I’ve had two doctors so far. What one because the first one, you know, I no longer with him. But that was because he moved to from this city to another city. So So I you know, by that very nature, I ended up having to get a new doctor. But he was more optimistic about it said we can take care of this and didn’t give a whole lot of information. So we just kind of went with what he was telling us. So anyhow, as time went on, the getting in front of it became less than less likely because you know, six weeks after surgery, the cancer had returned with a vengeance and then and then within three months after my last treatment, because then you go through six weeks, seven weeks a treatment that particular time from a mistake your relevant to the storey. But you know, at the end of that then we scheduled a six week appointment to be looked at again in the cantered returned again. And my new doctor, he was very frank me support this, this is a very aggressive cancer and the chances for recurrence, they are 80%.
Which to me, I’m going
which to me, I’m going back to the idea that
that it’s going to be hard to get in front of, it’s just going to be plain old, hard to get in front of. So when I started that, then when I came back that that second time, or I’m sorry, the third time, the idea that I was going to get in front of it was not quite as hopeful. And so you know, I went through that treatment and then leading up to with that echoing in the back of my mind 80% chance of coming back. And then if you depend upon which studies you you look into, it actually can be as high as 93%. Really the I was starting to lose hope. In fact, to be honest, David this last March, we’re recording now in April button in March, before my last my last appointment for first they scope the bladder, they take a camera and they look inside the bladder to see what’s going on. And that’s the only way they can tell if you have cancer or not. I was becoming pretty despondent to the process. And I was I was losing I was kind of losing hope I was starting I’m for one, you know, I’ve been off work for nine months. And so, you know, all my medical bills were just horrific. All of my other bills are horrific. I mean, there’s only so many you know, you just figure anybody who takes off, you know, a month off of work is is rough. But you know, take off nine months as a business owner and you just have it’s it’s, it’s very rough. So anyhow, coming into that appointment, I was I went in and before the doctor looked into my bladder, I asked him, I said, What do you think the chances are being cancer free. And he said to me flat out he said, Paul, this is an exact quote, I don’t have a whole lot of hope for you. So knowing all of those things, that’s why I was becoming discouraged process. And gratefully, when he did scope, my bladder, there was no sign of cancer, which doesn’t mean my chances have dropped significantly, it’s still probably 80% chance of recurrence. But the idea that I can go through a checkup and to go through three months without cancer, that is a big hope. It’s it’s rejuvenated my ambition, it’s rejuvenated my my hope for for tomorrow, and that I’ll probably be seeing 2015 I’ll probably end it does. In three months, when I am in the middle of treatment right now I just started treatment again, this last Thursday maintenance treatment. I, I think that if it comes back, I might have a little bit more hope than I would have had a they looked in this last time and just seen another another spot or two or three or 415 of it growing again, that I would have been, I feel like I’ve got more of a of an attitude will stink. This is this stuff is not all powerful. Nor am I nor is my doctor, nor is my medicine. But nor is cancer
David Ralph [21:38]
now, but I find this stunning, I find this totally astonishing. You know what one of the things I’m trying to get across on these these episodes, these daily episodes is that people have got choices in their life to do not only great things, I’m not saying that everyone’s going to be inspired and motivated. But they don’t actually have to settle with what they’ve got. But so many people do they going in every day. And yes, it is on numerous podcast. And they just try to get through to Friday, exactly as you were saying. And then they can sit on the sofa, drink a couple of beers, watch a pod cast or a show or whatever they’re going to do, and then go for it again. And they’re just not happy and the nearest person to one of their rants about their boss their job, whatever, will will get it and they just go through those motions. Now, you seem to be somebody very happy and content and you had your business and he was going around creating light systems and being you know, creative in your own field. But then you had this this moment, which really would have knocked most people up their feet, I think it would have knocked all people up their feet. And it was at that time, but you in my mind took more action, Ben? Anytime. Why Why? Why did you suddenly feel the need so much to do it? Then wherever logical thing would be saying? Right? I’m going to go into a tough time here. I’m going to be using up all my energy the they’ve developed is gonna be rough. It just seems like why did you take on those extra things when the logical thing would be to sort of close down somewhat? It’s a long, long question. long question. Oh, yeah.
Paul Blaise [23:21]
No, but it’s brilliantly worded. I really appreciate the way you asked that, David. The thing is, is that my business requires my body to be healthy. I can’t earn a living if my body’s not functional. So my actions are one of necessity. And optimism. necessity is that I have to find a new avenue of income. That’s that’s just, that’s just a reality, because my body may not be faithful for me to be able to. Right even even cancer, no evidence of cancer, we don’t really call ourselves cancer free. Those of us who are in the world of cancer, that’s a we are not healed. We’re not. We’re not cancer free. We just have no evidence at this point. And so that to us is a new reality, it’s a new way to live in a new way to think. So knowing even even having no evidence, I’m still going to go through treatment every six months, would you take me out of the out of the income bracket for two months a year, basically, every six months, I’m off for a month. You just I mean, you save up for vacations for a one week vacation, most people do. And I’m taking eight weeks of vacation unpaid. That’s just it’s just unreal. I will never get out of get out of this this disastrous condition financially, if I don’t try to find a new way to to do so that’s that’s the necessity. The optimism is also I love people, I love making an impact. And I and I want I want to see people be encouraged and change and challenged. And so doubt the doubts whole point was to help encourage people or is to help encourage people to say I can do it. A new podcast I’m starting is more along my personal creative passion sides of dealing with ceramics, I’m starting a new show that that I’m pretty sure it’s going to be called the potter’s cast, which is for artists that are into ceramics into that are Potter specifically, that that’s going to be a new show that’s specifically going to be dealing with with creativity and in the business of creativity and the creativity of creativity. So I want to make an impact in this world as best I can. And instead of waiting for this day that in my case may live truly never come. If I don’t take action that I’ve got to do it now most people think and I was one of those people, bro, that thought, I’ve got time I’m going to do it later. In fact, before I started my doubt, the doubts I started getting into the social media online world and doing this type of stuff, I did have a two year plan, it was a two year plan to build a business up strong enough to sell it for about a million or so dollars. It specifically in the with my security monitoring part of the business. So I did have a plan. But it was always it was always with the attitude of eventually. So that was like a two year plan. And who knows if I would have made that two year plan come true. The point was, I was moving towards it. But he was still way out there. Why not make a decision to go after a dream today that you want to do as opposed to saying I’m going to do this when I retire or when when I paid off the cars or when I paid off of this or whatever. Okay, yeah, those are good, good, pay off the car, pay off the house, get to retire, those are all good. But do something today that moves you towards that a little bit. So that when you do get the car paid off, you’re ready to go, you need to get to retirement, you’re ready to rock and roll instead of waiting for those things because and that’s what my problem was, is that I was always had another horizon that was self imposed as to why I would or wouldn’t do something. And I realised that life is too temporary. Passenger is a great artist that I just love his music right now he’s got this one line in there that says, package up your dreams until you’ve paid off your loans. And that’s what we do. Most of the time most people do is they package your dreams up in the little boxes and put them in the attic to pull down later on. After they they’ve they’ve lived their lives. And it’s it’s so sad. I just don’t want to be that person that’s got packaged dreams any longer. I want to live to the fullest before I get to the grave. That’s why I do that.
David Ralph [28:10]
What What is worse? What is worse? Paul? being somebody who in your mind this is personal. This is a question directly to you not not for the audience, not for people who are, you know, might be listening to this in six months or two years, five years time. But what is worse? Going for something can failing or not going for something at all? Hmm. Well,
Paul Blaise [28:34]
was it Shakespeare this said, I think it was Shakespeare, it is better to have loved and lost than to never loved at all. There is a lot of heartbreak and failure, nobody wants to fail. And the bigger the failure the harder it is. But having said that, there is a journey on the way to that failure that is totally worth going through. That that’s not to say that, you know, failure can mean bankruptcy. failure can mean the end of a relationship. I mean that that’s that’s how big some of our dreams can be okay. And so I I totally get that. But
will fear of failure. Keep me from the love of living.
That that’s the thing, we are not guaranteed failure. And we’re not guaranteed success. But we are guaranteed now and we are guaranteed that we have a dream. Those are things that we do have for sure. taking steps towards those dreams. That is that is an endorphin rush all enough all in and of itself. And if I flop, okay, I flop. But at least I flip flop while I’m was doing something. So I think it’s much worse, to become mediocre. I think it’s much worse to become mediocre.
David Ralph [30:10]
At that point, I’m just going to play that the theme of the show the now the theme of the show is Steve Jobs, beach, Join Up Dots connect the dots. And I just want to play that because it really does emphasise what you were saying there but you You’ve just got to do stuff, you’ve got to move forward, you got to try stuff, and you don’t know where your life is going to be right? If you don’t do those steps if you don’t connect those dots if you don’t take that action, which might have seemed a bit strange at the time. But intuition was saying do it. But everyone else was saying no, you’re never going to achieve it. And so I’m going to play this. And I’m just going to ask you about when you first heard base because it is you know, it’s famous is out there, everyone seems to know it. So let’s listen to Steve Jobs for a moment.
Unknown Speaker [30:56]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path.
Unknown Speaker [31:28]
And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [31:32]
So do you know where your dots were? Pull?
Paul Blaise [31:37]
You know, this, I think Steve really,
really epitomises the struggle of humanity we have for since the dawn of humanity, we’ve always wanted to know what the future holds. And that’s what Steve was talking about, you know, he, he saw a bright future. But he didn’t know what those dots were going to look like. totally get that. But that’s what that’s what all these the, you know, anytime there’s a political thing going on these there’s people that will talk and talk trying to give their ideas of what will happen and what can happen. Same with the financial what will happen, what can happen, and they’re trying to put all these dots together, it’s not until afterwards that all these brilliant people come out. So that’s that’s the way that things, you know, that led up to this point, that that’s seeing the future is so hard, because it’s there. It’s so it’s so not lived yet. So we can’t know what the future holds. We can’t know whether we’re going to fail or not. And I think that it is the looking back. That we go, Okay, that’s why I did this. That’s what led me to here is because of this person said this, to me this because of this example here that I was able to go and make this decision. So yeah, I can see those dots, I can see those dots now very clearly Hi, sight, as they say, is 2020. And it becomes much clear to myself, selectively clear to myself as to why I become who I am and what I’m doing now. So yeah, absolutely, it makes a lot of sense.
David Ralph [33:14]
So So one of one of my theories on always is, but if you do spend time, joining up your dots and looking back, and seeing those stepping stones that lead you to this point, then you’ve got a very good chance of building a marvellous future, because you’ve already seen the path, you’ve already seen, the things that you could do, well you enjoyed. But you could take forward to things that play to your own strengths. Now you’ve got to this point, now that you’ve got three or four things going on at once, and you’re you know, you’re building just just the fact that a chap like me in the United Kingdom, listen to you on a daily basis, you know, you are you’re sending out vibes across the world. Can you see now where your path is going to go? In the next year? two years, three years? I know you’ve got the new podcast net, but can you see the sort of level of success that you’re going to achieve? Or is it still still through sort of frosted glass, you can just sort of vaguely see a shape or where you want to go?
Paul Blaise [34:10]
Well, yeah, that’s, again, that that’s the problem looking into the future, we’re not entirely sure what it’s going to do. But that that’s not to say that we shouldn’t have goals. I mean, that’s, it’s the same with safe, I’m going to drive from my home, my town that I live in right now, Vancouver, Washington, I wanted to drive to Vancouver, British Columbia, which is a good five 600 miles away, you know, obviously, I’m not going to be there. The second I think about it, I’m going to have a destination in mind, I’m going to start driving on what we call here at the I five, which is the main freeway goes north to south McKinney border all the way down to the Mexican border. But I’m going to get on that road. And if I drive north by driving this direction, I’m more than likely to end up in Vancouver, BC. So yeah, absolutely, I kind of do have that. That idea of where I would like to be and I driving towards it. The problem with our with ourselves right now is that we we are going towards the dream, but don’t have the map or the GPS to get us there. We have, we have the ideas of what can and can’t get us there. And so we do use those tools to to make sure we’re going in the right direction and court correct path, you know, the compass would be the best way to say we don’t have a map, we have a compass. And the compass is supposed to help us to kind of go in the right direction. But there’s times when we had to veer off, we’ve got a we’ve got to avoid a pothole in there or get somehow figure out a way to get across this river there. And so yeah, I do have the vision. But I know it’s I’m going there with the compass not with the roadmap. So yeah, I can I can see it. Now as I go further, as I keep making these new steps. I think I’m going to be looking back since I see I see that that one did work. I think that I think now for instance, the the launching of the potter’s cast, I’ve got a better vision for that. Because that I then I would had I not done doubt the doubts and I’m going to continue to adapt the desk, but I have a much better vision of how to how to launch it, how to interview, what type of things to put on the website, a better way to be able to monetize it, and to give people enough resources to be able to want to spend their money on on my on my dream. So yeah, I think that I do have a better idea of how of what those dots ought to be look like those landmarks, I would say that I’m looking for in the future. And hopefully, my compass will get me there safely. So that that’s kind of how I look at the futures. I’ve got a compass, not a roadmap, and I’ve got ideas based upon my success of the past that’s going to help to make this more successful. So yes,
David Ralph [36:57]
guys, I see you, Paul, with all the things going on, I see you with a machete and you’re cutting down trees, you’re cutting down grass, and you’re making a path, which hopefully you’re going to look over your shoulder and you’re going to see two or three, four or five people following you. And it’s your inspiration on your podcast and in your journey. Which it’s got to have an effect on people, hasn’t it? It’s got to have the effect. And do you ever have those followers where you think to yourself, oh, if I could only just get that one person, I could really help them along the line? Did you ever have people like that they just come into your life and they kind of float past you and you think God, I missed an opportunity there?
Paul Blaise [37:38]
Oh, okay. Yeah, there are many friends that I feel like I’ve lost the ability to be the biggest impact that I can be. But isn’t that what isn’t that what life’s all about? David, isn’t that what we’re supposed to be doing is, is helping to change people’s lives for the better. I mean, that’s the that’s what it means by an impact. It’s not just, I mean, there’s two types of impact you can make an impact with a bus or you can make an impact with with your love. And I think that the love impacts what changes people you know, it’s the thing that makes all the difference in the world and I long I long to when it’s all said and done for someone to say my life is better because of Paul. And you know, it’s one of the things that is it’s such an I mean, you don’t know how how deeply that touches me one of the things that I say at the end of my show and I’m serious about it, I always say to my guests I I say hey you you’ve made our lives better so we raise our cups to you and and then I say lots of love to you. But lots of luck to you part is is a new thing from
probably from my my third recurrent, my third recurrent that I realise the value of people are so utterly precious. And I think that I have found that to be more and more true as I’ve gone down this journey of cancer that I could not have survived this was if it weren’t for the incredible love and support of of incredible friends credible family and people that I don’t even know it was one quick storey David one quick storey at Christmas time. One of our family traditions here is that we go to we go on I’ve purchased a Honey Baked Ham and Honey Baked Ham is just the name brand that’s here in the US I don’t know if it’s anywhere else in the world but Honey Baked Ham it’s like yeah, we just we just love it it’s a great Christmas tradition. It’s an expensive tradition though you know it’s a it’s 50 bucks for for you know that the ham and but it’s a tradition and so I didn’t want to sell the family short you know this this year so I kind of gathered up a little bit of money and I I went to buy our ham for the year it was like two or three days before Christmas and and as I get to the the ham place Honey Baked Ham kiosk at our local mall here. There’s a lady that is right in front of me. And we started up a little conversation and and I mentioned to her that hey, if you’ve got this coupon there’s a coupon that you can use to get a discount because coupons matter to me. Like I was buying a ham I couldn’t afford you know. And I offered this I offered this lady it was a it was on my iPhone as it can can you use my Would you like to use my coupon? And she she said Oh no, I’ve got a I’ve got a gift card so and I said okay, great. So she’s in the process of ordering her ham and I hear say something like she’s going to get this ham for Christmas then she’d come back for getting a honey big turkey later on or a turkey loaf that they sell also time for the New Year’s and so so that that was it. I know. When she made her purchase she she turned to me and she said here Paul, or I shouldn’t say here Paul, she didn’t know me. She says here take the rest of my card. And she handed me her gift card. It was just one little credit cards that had some money on it. And I was like wow, well, thank you. I I didn’t know what I just said thank you. I ordered my my ham. When they slid the card. It was like $23 was on there. I I was standing there in the Honey Baked Ham miles and I started to cry. I mean not not I wasn’t sobbing like a like a little baby but a tears roll up my eyes I couldn’t believe that I was so cared for by complete, she had no idea that I needed that I was short 20 bucks, you know, to be able to pay for this ham. And, you know I saw made my purchase I caught I ran out the door. I caught up to her and I and I told her I said Ma’am, you don’t know what this meant to me. I am a cancer patient right now. And I’ve been out of work because I don’t I can’t work physically I couldn’t work. And I just want you to know how much that little gesture of yours meant to me and my family. And she she started Christ sick and I have a hug. So we hug each other to complete strangers. She hugged me, I hugged her, she went away, I went my way. But my life was made better because of a complete stranger. So when I say that this last year, I could not have survived without the love of family, friends and stranger, I sincerely mean that. So the the the impact of people has become more and more precious to me. And I long to be able to to make an impact in people’s lives for if this is my last year, which I’m sorry, I don’t think that’s the case right now. But if this is the last year, I want someone to be their lives to be better, because I’ve been able to be there for them somehow. I long for that. Brilliant question. on your part, David. It’s very powerful.
David Ralph [42:46]
That is let me last the words, quite frankly. It seemed to me without getting to sort of spiritual, that that moment, your kind of angel came down and just said, Hey, guy going to be all right. There’s people looking out for you.
Paul Blaise [43:05]
Exactly, I have a very strong commitment in my in my walk with God, I’m a Christian and I, I believe deeply in my faith. And to me, there’s no question in my mind that that that what you described was exactly those scenarios, because there are plenty of other times when the days are dark. And I don’t feel that I don’t feel those things, but the the love and the support of friends and family and and my and my God, I feel like whether I’m here to take care of my family, which is my biggest concern is not whether I live or die, because that that it’s going to happen to all of us, right? There’s no there’s no escape. And I I read recently, the study that the death ratio is still one to one. We’re not getting out of this world alive. So that’s inevitable
David Ralph [43:54]
unless I was a young guy.
Paul Blaise [44:01]
But my bigger concern is not necessarily that Oh, my goodness, my life is is in jeopardy. My biggest concern is my wife and my children. That’s my biggest concern is making sure that they’re provided for. So that’s that’s and that I’ve made the biggest impact I would I love to be able to be there for my son for his journey and through adulthood. And for my daughter through her journey through adulthood. That’s been something that I’ve personally have lacked. I haven’t had a dad that. That was all that that has been all that involved in my life. There’s been times when I’ve needed a little bit of extra insights and into what a good decision be and there wasn’t dad turned to so I compensated and I’ve had other great mentors and other men in that I’ve been able to two men and women that have been able to get advice from and direction from that has been very helpful. But I always felt that emptiness I want to I want that for my son and my daughter, I want to be the dad that they could call when they have time. Now if that’s not able to happen, you know, that’s out of my control. But it looks more hopeful. So so I’m I do feel that there is that Providence that has been watching over us? Yes.
David Ralph [45:18]
Well, I certainly think so too. And bringing us to the end of the show, normally, what I would do is play a theme tune called sermon on the mic when I hand over the presenting duties over to you, and you give some advice to your younger self. But I’m not going to do that today, Paul, what I’d like to do is just take it in a slightly different direction. And when the theme tune finishes, I’m going to step back, let you speak and give advice to your children on on any subjects you want. Because I can sense Well, I don’t even have to send there is a deep love for your children, which may be on on a daily basis, you don’t get a chance to share. Most of us don’t we sort of get into life and life happens and we’re busy and we’re doing things. So I’m just going to let them use it place step away. And I’m going to leave it up to you to say a few things to your kids.
Unknown Speaker [46:19]
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Paul Blaise [46:40]
Well, that is a poignant thing to ask me to do.
So thank you for the opportunity, then one of the things that I would long for my kids to know is I want you to not worry about living for the American dream, but rather live for your personal dream. The the the chances of finding, finding happiness in in someone else’s definition is not going to be there for you. The definition of the way you’re going to find happiness is bill to find. Find it in a good relationship with the people around you love people the way you’d want to be loved. Love yourself the way you want people to love you love your God, the way that that you would, that you would want other people to love God. And, and be faithful. Be faithful with getting your tasks done, you’ll be amazed at the things you can accomplish just by simply getting the work done. You have the ability to change the world in a powerful way. It doesn’t have to be a massive Gandhian type of a change. Mother Teresa type of a change. But who knows that might be your scenario. But you can make a huge impact in your future spouses life in your future children’s life, just by being an upright, good and honest person. So go for it, live your dreams, live with honour and live with passion.
David Ralph [48:41]
Oh it’s been an absolute honour to have you on the show tonight. Hopefully it hasn’t been too draining on you. It touched emotions that I wasn’t expecting to be on. So as I went into it, but you have been so generous, open. But I just wish you the best. Personally, health wise obviously, and for you and your family to just go on and flourish for as long as you want it to be because the goodness that you’re putting out in the world, and the goodness that you’re trying to present to your family and yourself. It has to pay back it has to pay back big time. And I’d like to think that in another five years time, 10 years time we can have you back on the show. And we can see where your life’s gone. How the potter’s cast has taken on to become the number one in Potter’s podcast is even even a female I’ve got no idea. But of course the door is always open to return. And to continue joining those dots because my belief is by joining up those dots is the only way to build our future. Paul Blaise. Thank you very much.
Paul Blaise [49:50]
Hey, lots of love to you David, thank you.
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