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Introducing Shelly Ehler
Todays guest, joining us on the Join Up Dots podcast interview is Shelly Ehler, who simply calls herself “A mom with a towel”
She doesn’t consider herself a celebrity, she isn’t a millionaire, but she is someone who had a thought, transferred that thought into action, and created a business that is growing year on year.
A few years back she had an idea for a towel with a difference.
Such a different in fact that she was featured on ABC’s Emmy nominated reality show, Shark Tank, the US equivalent of our UK based version Dragons Den.
You know the programme, when some wannabe inventor or entrepreneur steps up to the plate and tries to convince the sharks or dragons, that their product is gold and worth investment.
How The Dots Joined Up For Shelly Ehler
Well our guest quite simply shone in the spotlight and ended up having three “Sharks” fighting over her and is the only entrepreneur in the show’s history to ever leave with a check in her hand.
Her towel has now also been featured on The Today Show, The View and Good Morning America.
Her story is one of overcoming huge challenges and obstacles and going for it.
As she says time and time again “Dream it, Believe it, Let it Go.”
So what made this extraordinary mother decide that an idea she had was one worth persevering with?
How did she overcome those huge obstacles, not least the fear of failure?
And what was it about this item that made the sharks go into a feeding frenzy?
Well let’s bring onto the show to start joining up dots, as we discuss the words of Steve Jobs in todays Free podcast, with the one and only Shelly Ehler
During the show we discussed with Shelly Ehler, such weighty topics such as:
How when you feel the passion truly then nothing can get in your way!
How you need someone to support you in your ventures, but not love everything that you decide to do!
How the waiting period is the killer of dreams, and is when the doubts will start entering into your life!
How she would write a life of things to focus on and then work tirelessly to achieve each one of them in turn!
There are no shortcuts in life, you have to take the steps. One after one until you get to your destination!
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Audio Transcription Of Shelley Ehler
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK. David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Yes, hello, bear world. Good morning to you and welcome to another episode of Join Up Dots. Yes, it’s Episode 157 is the second of October. And we aren’t going to deliver a powerhouse performance today because this is a lady who has gone a storey, which is quite amazing is one of these kind of Join Up Dots storeys. When you look at it from her point of view, you go, yes, this is the kind of conversation but you also look at it from the product point of view and you go, Wow, I could go in this direction. And Ben has a lot of weird stuff that kind of happens in the middle, but you kind of go, right okay, so this is the Join Up Dots session. It is it’s going to be a master class. Because the guest today is an inspiring entrepreneur who took a simple idea believed it with all her heart and made it come to life. She’s the inventor of the show no towel and was featured on ABC Emmys nominated reality show Shark Tank. Shelley had three sharks fighting over and he’s the only entrepreneur in the show’s history to ever leave with a check in her hand. A towel has also been featured on the Today Show the view and Good Morning America. And our product is set to launch in major retailers this summer. She’s storey is about overcoming challenges and following the voice of her heart. And it is truly inspiring. Her motto is dream it, believe it, let it go. Let it go. Let it now she she believes Anything is possible when you follow your heart in faith. She’s a wife and mother of two young boys and lives in Orange County, California. So what I need to say is, how are you, Shelly Ehler?
Shelly Ehler [2:02]
I’m great. David, how are you?
David Ralph [2:04]
I am rocking and rolling. I say that on every show because people always ask me how I am. Because it’s a polite thing to say. But I’m I can’t be better. Shelly Ehler, I do this every day. And I get amazing conversations with amazing people. And the kind of people that have taken an idea or they’ve taken a risk. They’ve had a leap of faith, and they’ve really run with it. And you are somebody that quite simply has done all those things.
Shelly Ehler [2:27]
Yes, yes. And good for you. Because that’s the only way to be, you know, when you are living your life fulfilling your passion, you can’t be anything but great and rocking and rolling. So that’s great.
David Ralph [2:37]
So So do you feel you know, we’re going to cut to the chase, we are going to go around and join up the dots of your life. But do you feel that you are living the thing that you was put on this earth to do?
Shelly Ehler [2:49]
I’m working towards it. I’m working towards it for sure. There are other things I know I meant to do what I’m working on them building slowly, it doesn’t happen all at once it says journey. And it takes a lot longer than you think, you know, I think one of the hardest things that all of us go through is is is that it’s a it’s a process, there’s a lot of waiting involved. And when we’re waiting, a lot of times we’re waiting, that’s when the doubt can slip in. And that’s where we can fall. So the best thing you know, what I’m trying to do is just to stay patient with it. And just be grateful for every moment grateful for every lesson, and keep moving forward towards those goals, towards that fulfilment towards that life that I know I meant to live. I’m working towards it. And so I’m a work in progress.
David Ralph [3:33]
Well, let’s start talking about the product. And then we’re going to sort of Join Up Dots of your life. And we’re going to talk about those doubts and those insecurities, and those kind of things that screw so many people up because we like to believe in the overnight success. But we’re not willing to believe in the incremental gains and those small steps that take years to get you into that position. So you came up with this idea of this towel, the show no towel. And I want you to explain to the audience what it is. But I’ll be honest, when I saw it with the greatest respect, I thought, this is a good idea. Has somebody else not thought of this before? Because it seems so simple for all parents, who have had kids for years and years and years, we’ve had the situation that you have dealt with, and you’ve created this product to sort of deal with it. So two questions, bear. First of all, you kind of amazed that he hasn’t been created before.
SShelly Ehler [4:31]
Yes, I am. And that was my first thought as well. When I thought of it. I thought the idea came to me in the middle of the night because I was at the pool with my kids. And when when they wanted to change into their dry clothes. My older son asked me to wrap a tent around him like his towel, hold it like a tent. So I’m holding this tent around him. And my younger son wanted me to wrap a tent around him so he could change his clothes. And I couldn’t hold two tents at the same time. And I remember thinking, gosh, I wish there was something I could put over them and they could change on their own. Well, that night, I get the idea at four in the morning, I shoot out of bed, I just feel this energy come through me I sit up and I say oh, what if I took a towel, put a slit in it. And they weren’t like a poncho, we would cover their front it would cover their back. It’s changing towel. It’s a poncho with the show no. And my head starts spinning I get so excited. And I thought someone has to be doing this. This is too. It’s too simple. And I jumped on Google. And I started to do a Google search. And what I found was that there are plenty of posture tells for young children for Toddlers and Babies with hooded with hoods, like those little baby hoodie towels. But once the children grow out of those hotels, there is no other Telford child, they go from put a towel, maybe up to about the age of four to regular towel. And kids at four and five, don’t know how to wear and hold and dry off with a regular towel. So I saw that there really was a need for it. So yeah, it was shocking to me. But another side note is since I started making my towel, and since I had as much exposure as i have i one of the most common emails I’ve received from people who said, Oh my gosh, my mom used to cut holes in our towels and do the same thing for us. Or my grandmother made those for us every year when we went to see her in Cape Cod. But you know, why didn’t we do it? Why did we do it? And and and it was always amazing to me because I know so many other people have done this. But when I when I did it, when it came to me at the time, I knew it was mine. I knew it was special. And my heart just said to me when I said Is this what I’m supposed to do what you said, yeah, it’s and it’s but why isn’t it been done? It’s so easy. Because it’s for you. This is for me? Yeah, it’s for you follow it in faith Shelly Ehler, you’re not gonna believe where it’s going to take you. That’s what I heard, follow it a fake, you are not going to believe where it’s going to take you. And it’s been you know, and that’s where we that’s where we got started.
David Ralph [6:53]
It’s amazing, really, because we all have those bounds, I had the exactly the same doubts. When I started the show. I was at work, I had this kind of a Tiffany but I couldn’t do the work anymore. And I had to leave. And I didn’t know what I was going to do. And then when I had this idea of right what I’m going to do, I’m going to do a daily show, well, you’re going to speak to all these people. And I started investigating it, I realised that everyone was doing it or so it seemed. And I had the opposite. Not that why isn’t people doing this? It was, oh my god, everyone’s doing this. There’s no place for me what’s the point, but I just had to put the blinkers on and close up and just go for it. And that’s one of the big learning curves, I will say to anyone. But if you feel have a passion for something, then that’s half the battle. And all you’ve got to do is just keep chipping away chipping away at it. And the people that are doing it for purely the money or purely that is an exercise to do quite often they will drift away and you will just keep on moving past them. Have you felt that in your sort of entrepreneurial journey?
Shelly Ehler [7:59]
Yes, very much. So I think that when you are on the path of your destiny and your passion and your purpose, nothing really can get in your way. Really, if you just stick with it, and you stick with it. And faith, you don’t have to worry about competition. And and that is a fear. Because I speak to a lot of entrepreneurs and people are calling me all the time. And I always make the time to chat and help other people as much as I can. But one of the most common things I hear people are afraid that someone is going to steal their idea. And, and and I get that I understand that. But the thing is this, you have to move forward in faith, nothing is going to happen. When you hold on to something hold on to it. You’re protecting it, you’re holding on to it, you’re protecting it, you’re holding on to it, what’s it going to turn into nothing until you let it go and faith you have to let it go and let it develop and know that there’s space for everyone. Could there be people to come and copycat it? Sure there could be why does that mean that it’s game over for you? You it doesn’t necessarily mean that there. This is a huge world, we are meant to cooperate and share and not worry about the other person. And you know, it was a huge risk that I took when I went on the show. opening this idea to other people and other things. Yes, I have patented protection on it that type of stuff. But that only offers you so much protection. But you know what? I don’t worry about it, have other people copycat it a little bit a little bit here. And there, I found people on Pinterest making it and people Oh on Etsy, making it things like that, you know what, I don’t worry about it, I bless them. That’s what you have to do, the best thing that you can do really is bless your competition, because the blessings will come back to you. When you curse them. When you are afraid of them. Well, that energy is coming back to you too. So, you know, that’s just I think it’s a really, really important step to not worried that everyone else is doing it. Or every someone’s going to copy. Those are just the messed up messages that you get from your ego that come from fear, they come to all of us, they’re not unique to you or to me or to anyone else. We all hear them. We all hear that. It’s all fear. And what I’ve learned probably one of my biggest lessons is fear is a lie. You know, it’s just a lie. Really.
David Ralph [10:24]
So So do you would you say to the sort of listeners, but newbies who got this idea and it’s going around and I keep on going to work and I keep on thinking this is good idea. I can’t believe no one’s done this or whatever. And so investigating it on the internet. If I do find competition, then that means that there’s money to be made, otherwise there wouldn’t be people doing it already. And that’s not a bad thing. If you find a market but no one’s doing anything in it’s more of an idea of Hang on. Why aren’t people they already?
Shelly Ehler [10:55]
Right? Very, very true. Very true. And it might be harder to break into. You know, but that happens all the time, David, people will look at something have an idea see that somebody else is doing it. Well Forget it. There’s no room for me. No, no, no, no, no, no, there’s always room for you. If your heart is guiding you in that direction, if that idea came to you, from your soul, there is a reason there are no mistakes, there’s a reason you’re hearing it. Now you can choose to ignore it like most people do, and and just stay safe. You know, and then that that’s fine. But you don’t realise when you step into that uncomfortable space, when you take that leap and step into that fear. miracles can happen. That’s the space of miracles.
David Ralph [11:43]
So imagine that you’re in bed with your husband, when this idea pops into your head. So you’ve been to the pool, five o’clock in the morning or something, he’s on one side of you snoring away, and suddenly you go bang and you you sort of burst into life. And you go down to get on the computer or you’ve got a happy about us on D bed and you start doing some investigation. Now, when you shared it with him which, as all married couples, we would wasn’t a surprise, but his wife was suddenly entrepreneurial, or was there that kind of spirit in you over time. And he was always looking at little things and making little things and sort of having that creative pen.
Shelly Ehler [12:22]
Now I’m super clever. And so I’m always coming up with things. And you know, bless him, he is so supportive of me, everything I come up with, he thinks is brilliant. So I really found the perfect partner for for me, he’s never told me anything that I’ve come up with is silly or a waste of time. He’s always applauded me and everything that I create. And so when I shared this with him, and I just, I told it, yeah, because I’d been up for hours by time he finally woke up. By the time he finally woke up. I already had a working prototype, I went straight from the computer into my sewing room. And I started making one. And he just looked at me and smiled. He said, I think you’re right. He said, Wow, this is I get it, I get it, I get it, I get it. I think this this, this really couldn’t be it. So that’s, that’s also important. And that’s another thing that a lot of people might not have, David, because and that’s another thing that stops people is they don’t have the support of other people. And they might turn to their husband and say look at this. And their husband might say, you know, grumble grumble grumble, how much is this going to cost me and this is ridiculous. Just you’re a dreamer. This is silly. Go do your own job, that type of thing. You know, that happens to a lot of people. And I’ve mentored many people who shared that with me, Well, my spouse doesn’t really support me or my parents think that this is ridiculous. Or, you know, and and I get that. And that’s a really tough place to be in a really tough place to be in. But the best advice I have to give is, listen, this is your life. You know, this is your life, they might not get it because that voice isn’t speaking to them, their own voice is speaking to them. But the voice that told you about it isn’t speaking to them, it’s always speaking to you. So might not makes sense to them. But try your best to keep moving forward in faith. Over time, they’ll come around, you can make it happen. It’s your life, you have to live the life that you’ve been brought here to live.
David Ralph [14:12]
Having a supportive entrepreneur husband, he’s obviously so important because so many people speak to me and they say exactly what you’ve just been saying that their spouse, their girlfriends or whatever, don’t really understand them. And when they’re going, I just got to do this. I feel like I’ve got to do it. It’s kind of like, oh, why can’t you just get a normal job? Why can’t you just get a nine to five job? Why can’t we just have two weeks holiday? or vacation a year? That kind of stuff. But having somebody which is overly supportive? And says everything that you do is amazing. Is that difficult as well? Would you rather have somebody sort of go low? This is rubbish. This is stupid. And then when you had this idea, wow, this is it. I think this is it? Is it? Is it difficult to separate the wheat from the chaff when somebody’s saying, Yeah, everything you do is amazing.
Shelly Ehler [15:00]
Well, everything I do is amazing. So I’m just totally kidding. I get what you’re saying? No, you definitely need someone to be honest with you, if you have a goofy idea, you need someone to, to be totally honest. and say, You know what, I don’t really like that one. And for the most part, my husband, you know, he hasn’t loved every idea that I brought to him. And there are some things that Hey, what about this, and we’ll kind of hash it out, we’ll have dinner that night will say, well, this could be our market. This could be that because we’ve always been entrepreneurs, both of us, and ideas have come ideas have gone. But you know, so that’s important. You can’t have someone that just as constantly loving everything that you do. And I know I said that earlier. But I really, you know, my husband is if there’s something that brought to him in the past, and there are a few things I brought, what about this? I don’t know who kind of, I don’t know. But when it came to the towel, he just said flat out. I love it. You know, I love it. I love it, I love it, I see it, I get it, I’m in what can I do to support you really lucky for that, because listen, I i understand the other side as well. Because the other spouse, you know, they want their partner to just have a normal job and bring in a steady paycheck and have some benefits. And you know, that takes the takes a lot of pressure off of them when both people are contributing. And both people have benefits. And you know, when one person chasing a dream, it’s not always easy, I get that. But, you know, we have to follow our hearts or else at the end of our lives, we’re going to just kind of be stuck with the what ifs. And that’s just something I don’t want to do with the end of my life. I don’t want to you know, reach the end of my life and think, damn it, if only I had this, if only I had that. And being an entrepreneur for really my whole life. I mean, I was a school teacher for a short time. But my husband, I have always been business owners. I don’t have any regrets. And we haven’t always one, David, we’ve lost. We’ve lost huge, huge. I still don’t have any regrets. I don’t have any regrets. Because I’m still following my heart and faith and I keep moving forward. Keep moving forward, I don’t stop. Well, let’s
David Ralph [17:10]
play one of our motivational speeches on the show, which really says what you’re saying perfectly. And this is Jim Carrey,
Jim Carrey [17:17]
my father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.
David Ralph [17:44]
Now, we’re not saying everybody has to go out and become entrepreneurs and earn their own money because God forbid if they all did when the industries and the businesses would just collapse because we need employees. But of those words from Jim Carrey, Allah right? Do people need to take a risk on something that they love?
Shelly Ehler [18:05]
I think so. I think so. I think that if you don’t, I think there will come a time in your life, when you will regret it. You’ll regret it, you’ll have regret. And who wants to live a life of regret? You know, life is so short. And I just, I’m not someone who wants to live a life with regret, I have no regrets. So I completely agree with them. That’s a great speech. Is it something that
David Ralph [18:27]
we should play in the schools, I’ve had a conversation numerous times about the education system, but it lacks inspiration is almost a conveyor belt to get people from one end to the other, out into establishment and businesses. And that’s all it’s designed for. And that isn’t what humans are about. Humans are about being creative, being inspired, taking leaps of faith, doing mad things, but turned out to be genius. But the education system seems to take all that away and just pushes people through to an end product.
Shelly Ehler [19:00]
Completely. And as an educator as well, it to me, I would think it’s so important to be in the schools, it should be required courses, especially in high school in junior high in college, one of the most important courses, I think that would that someone would need to take is the course that says what you think about and what you dwell on becomes your reality. You know, that type of thing. So many times we are stuck in this negative space in our head. And in just we constantly are stuck in the negative and our life around us looks pretty, pretty yucky, you know? And we’re thinking, God, why can I turn my life around? Why is my life so bad? What are you thinking? What are your thoughts look like? Okay, because I can pretty much guarantee you, if you have Happy, happy, cheerful thoughts, you’re not going to be living in a miserable life, you are the creator of your life. And this is something that everyone needs to learn, these kids need to learn, they need to learn at a very, very young age should be very careful with their thoughts. Because you can train yourself to think good thoughts, you can train yourself and there and there’s a way of doing it, you know, there’s a way of doing it with your affirmations and, and through gratitude by giving yourself love every day. And speaking looking at yourself in the mirror and telling yourself you love yourself might sound Goofy, but it’s not. It really works. And and it’s a way of, of giving yourself some love and filling yourself up with good thoughts. And in that space, you’re able to create, you know, pretty much anything possible, I think.
David Ralph [20:38]
I agree totally. Absolutely. I spent many years in a corporate gig, doing the nine to five, knowing that there was something in me, I just always felt different. And I couldn’t pinpoint it. And I would try writing novels, and I’ve written a couple of novels, they’re all right, I’m never going to show him to anyone. But so sitting there.
Shelly Ehler [20:58]
And I did it.
David Ralph [20:59]
Yeah, I’d did it. And I thought I was going to be even sort of next Duran Duran for a while and all those kinds of things. When I look back on it, it was just me trying to express myself in a way that wasn’t conforming to what people expected of me. But it takes a time until you find what you naturally should be doing. And that’s the thing that I think people struggle with, they feel that they have to go from something to perfection, they’ve got to go from a job that is crappy that I don’t like to laying on a beach with a laptop, earning money overnight, and just living the the luxury life. But as you were saying right at the beginning, there has to be steps towards that. And there has to be a transitional period where maybe you go from that really rubbish job to just a job that is earning your money so that you can challenge your passions into something. It doesn’t have to be seamless, does it?
Shelly Ehler [21:54]
know and it’s not going to be? I think one of the huge lessons I’ve learned is that there are I don’t think there are any shortcuts, David, I and I think that when you spend your time looking for shortcuts, you’re just wasting your time. You there’s work to be done. And and you’re the one to do it. You can’t farm out your work to somebody else and get to where you want to go, you have to do it. And there’s a lot of work. But, you know, a lot of times you will try and cut corners here and cut corners there. And and then they’re surprised when it doesn’t work out the way that they thought it would. It’s like, Well, I know, but there are no shortcuts. It’s all a journey. And and, you know, are there overnight sensations, I suppose there are I don’t really know that many to be honest with you. All the people that I know that are very successful, it’s taken them years and years and years to get to that place. Of course, there are people on TV that look like they’re overnight sensations. But when you examine their storeys, it’s not the case, you know, it’s not the case. It’s it, I had a friend of mine from Shark Tank, who said it took me eight years to become an open night success. And, and that’s true, you know, it really does take that amount of time. So I think that that’s people have to be realistic when they step into the space of following their dreams. And and know that, yes, you are being guided here. Yes, anything you can do this, but there’s a good chance it’s not going to happen overnight. Okay. So you need to have a lot of faith, and you need to be tough, and you got to be ready for the battle. And you have to be ready to to fall in and out of faith. And you have to be ready for that fear to attack you and the doubt to come. And you got to be able to pick yourself back up and keep going. And when you do, there’s no way you can’t get to where you’re supposed to. But it you know, some people it might happen quicker than others. And that’s just fine. Some people it may take longer, but that’s what you can never judge yourself against another person. Oh, gosh, they got their business up and running in two years. Look where they are now. And it’s been five years, six years for me. And I’m still not where I want to be. Listen, you are where you’re meant to be. There are no mistakes. You are where you’re meant to be. And if you’re stuck somewhere, you’re not moving forward. There’s usually a reason why you’re stuck. Because there’s a lesson there you’re supposed to learn. So when you get quiet, and you say thank you. Typically you get the lesson. And once you get the lesson, you’re able to move through it and move on.
David Ralph [24:20]
Yeah, absolutely. I agree with that. I don’t think there’s any overnight successes, this journey that I’m on now I’ve suddenly built up momentum. And people say to me, you’ve done it so quickly. It might seem like I have but yeah, I’ve actually been doing this for five years, the actual show since April. But I think all the elements that I brought into the show that have made it so successful so quickly, have actually been developed over 20 years, doing other things and doing public speaking and doing courses and god knows what is all those incremental gains as those stepping stones, those dots. That mean that I many ways I might seem like an overnight success. But I’m not now lead that now the thing that in your journey as well, as I was saying there’s some weird stuff that’s happened. And is it weird? Is it coincidences? Or is it just the fact that you are doing stuff but you set yourself up for opportunities? You know, I looked at that first one where you couldn’t get the patent for the towel. It wasn’t a lot of money, but you didn’t have the money. So tell the listeners that storey because that is weird for a star, isn’t it?
Shelly Ehler [25:31]
It is? Well the thing that’s cool is the very night that I had the idea for this town the very night that my heart said this is yours, follow it and faith. You know, I heard this voice that started to say to me, come on now Shelly Ehler, the voice in my head started saying, Let’s take a reality check. You have no money, you have no idea what you’re doing. You have no Connexions. This is ridiculous. You need a real job, your life. And my heart replied by saying, Well, you know what that might be true. And it was, but you don’t worry about that. Shelley, you’re going to dream it and you’re going to believe it. And you’re going to let go the house. Because the house just kind of, I’ll take care of the house. That’s what I heard, I’ll take care of your house will come and face. The hardest part is the dreaming and the believing of the believing it all the way around without doubt. That’s the hardest part. That’s what you’re going to have to do and you give me the house. And you will be amazed because every single thing you need will show up exactly when you need it. And that and that’s exactly what I heard within just just my intuition. The voice within just was telling me this. And I said okay, I can do that. And I should just put one foot and just put one foot in front of the next and facial you’ll see. And so I did you know, I made the towel that very first day, I went to the pool, I had five people ask me about it, I started making more. And when I would go shopping for towels, damned if they wouldn’t be on sale, you know, and I needed sewing materials. And that day I’d go to my mailbox and there’d be 50% off at Joanne’s stores sewing supply. And I know that that’s not a coincidence. not a coincidence to me. So down the road, I needed a logo for my towel. And I didn’t have any money I couldn’t have pay to to hire a graphic artist, but my neighbour a couple a couple doors down, owed an advertising agency. And I said, Hey, Todd, can you help me with my logo? He said no problem. And I said, what do I owe you He said, Make me one of your really good macaroni and cheese, casseroles, you know and, and I brought in my macaroni and cheese casserole and a bottle of wine and I got my logo. And then not long after that, I was really wanting to try and get some type of patent on my product. And again, it’s just not something several thousand dollars to move in this space to you know, to get a pad. And we were moving my husband and I were moving from our home, we had to short sell our home. And a week before we were moving new neighbours moved in two houses down. So I walked over to introduce myself because I was sort of like the neighbourhood coordinator. And I walked over and said hello and welcome them. I said, you know, we’re having a going away party, my husband our movie, why don’t you and your family come and and then you can meet everyone in the neighbourhood to be great for you. I have no idea who these people are. So they come to my house. And I’m introducing them to everyone. I’m taking them on a tour of my house and the wife is complimenting my drapes. And she she had the exact same model home I didn’t. So she was Oh, that would be perfect in our house. She’s telling her husband and we went into the kitchen. And she said oh john, look at this is the this is the kind of table that we need for our house is I wasn’t sure what kind of table to put this would be great. These drapes would be great. This is wow, I this is such a good. I’m so glad that I saw your house because now I know how I want to do mine. And I said Oh, great. Thank you very much. And I said, so tell me what do you do? And she said, I’m a patent attorney. And I am I end my head start spitting I said, you are going to think you might think I’m nuts. You don’t even know me. I said, but I have an idea. I have a product. And I’m looking for someone to do a patent. Would you be interested in treating this person furniture and these drapes? Actually were moving? I couldn’t take that furniture wouldn’t fit in our new house. I said, Would you be interested in trading it for a patent? And she said Are you serious? I said I’m dead serious? And she said yeah, absolutely. And we did. You know. So what when people come to me all the time is, yeah, all the excuses. I can’t do it. I don’t have money. I said, Listen, I didn’t have money. I started my business on zero dollars. 100% faith, okay, don’t give me an excuse. You there’s always a way. There’s always a way if you want it bad enough and you’re willing to work for it. If you want to just have excuses, then it’s never going to come your way.
David Ralph [29:39]
Well, we don’t touch on this. But we touch on it all the time. Because so many successful people talk about coincidences, opportunities coming their way things that they can’t quite understand how it happened. And it kind of links back to the law of attraction the secret? Yes. And so many people are anti that. But there’s successful people that I speak to seem to go yes, I believe in it. And I never bring it into the the shows, because I know it’s one of those contentious things that people will go either way on it. But I do think that what you’re talking about is the ability to work so hard, but you’re making the opportunities occur, you’re the person that is going down to the shop. So you are likely to see a sounds on there. You know, it could be a sale on every time you just don’t know it’s you. It’s gone. You’re the person that’s opening the book, looking for coupons. You’re the person is doing bass, bass, bass, bass, bass, bass bass. And I do think that if you are somebody who’s getting off their backside, and really making effort, you’re more likely to get these things occur to you. I find the freaky stuff occur. And I think hell did that happen. Now. Yes, yeah. And I really reflect I kind of think Well, yeah, okay, because that probably happened. And that happened. And I have to go back about six months. But when it does happen, it just falls in your in your lap, you kind of go, Wow, so are you somebody that you know, has read the secret and would buy into the logic that’s in that book.
Shelly Ehler [31:13]
Yeah, I have and I completely have bought into it. I know that it has a lot to do with exactly where I am. I took I followed the secret I wrote a list this is one of this is when it when this after, shortly after I started making my towel, I wrote a list after watching the secret. I watched the DVD I didn’t read the book. And it says you you what you have to do is write this list. And then you have to focus on one of the things once at a time. And and believe it, imagine it the first thing you do is imagine it you imagine it and you emotional eyes it you put like an energy to it. And you feel it you really you put it in that space where you can see it and you feel it. And I would I would do it so much where I would just laugh. Sometimes I cry because it felt so amazing insert like such a blessing. Tears would come down my face. And I sat there and went and on my list. I said I listened all the water parks that I wanted to sell my talent. I listened to the TV shows that I wanted to be on. I listened I said I want a business partner. I want my child to be on the Today Show. I want my child to be with Hoda and Kathie Lee, I want my child to be this and that. And I’ll tell you three months after I wrote that down the today show called me at to say that Hoda and Kathie Lee wanted to use my towel on their segment.
Unknown Speaker [32:30]
Shelly Ehler [32:33]
was I you know, for me to call it a coincidence, excuse my English, but it feels like you’re like shooting on a miracle. You know, like it just to me like, I couldn’t call it a coincidence. It’s not to me, it’s a miracle.
David Ralph [32:46]
And I reason I actually asked you about Shelly Ehler because there is that fascinating part of your history as well. But Oprah Winfrey came in and she didn’t come in, right. She sort of came and sat down next to you. But it was something else but because she was ready for the message that she gave you. Through her TV programme. It literally transformed your success, didn’t it?
Shelly Ehler [33:09]
It did. I have been following Oprah since I was 14 years old. I am one of the world’s biggest, biggest Oprah fans. Oprah is my girl, I will tell you, and she’s just been a huge part of my life. When I was in college. I wanted to work for her. That was that was my dream. I was going to graduate I was going to move to Chicago. I wasn’t going to take no I was going to work on The Oprah show. And it didn’t work out that way. I became a teacher and my married my husband and you know, there were no mistakes. I wasn’t supposed to do that. But I did end up working for Oprah which is funny, funny storey a couple years later, I worked at her print film production company in in Beverly Hills. But she’s always been there I in her lessons are had been so profound. I’ve always watched the Oprah show and Oprah it’s a very spiritual person. And the lessons that she teach I just I I’ve had so many awesome aha moments watching her show. Well, a few years back, actually, I think it was trying to think I can’t remember the year, a few years back, she started her own cable network, the own network. Have you seen it? David?
David Ralph [34:11]
I’ve heard of it. Yes.
Shelly Ehler [34:13]
Yeah, it’s wonderful, wonderful. And she has a show called Life Class where she teaches her favourite life lessons. And, and I was watching I of course, I watch every episode, I’m glued to it. Because that’s, that’s, that’s how I learned, you know, that that’s, I don’t just watch TV to watch TV, I watch TV to be inspired. I watch TV to learn and to grow. And so. So I’ve really only watch, typically her network and things like that, that that lift me up. But one day I was watching her show, and she was talking about, about how she’d been waiting on God. And what she didn’t realise was that God was actually waiting on her. And that’s what had been happening in my life. For the longest time. My husband and I had lost our home, we lost our business. And I sat there waiting for God to turn it around, waiting for it to improve, waiting for it to get better. And and when nothing would get better. I just kept getting so mad and so upset. And why aren’t you listening to me? Why isn’t? This is all BS. All of this is Bs, you know, and and when I heard her say that I realised, you know what, maybe it wasn’t about that at all. Maybe God is just waiting on me. It was such a huge aha moment that I taped it and I sent it into the show, and they aired it on the show. And so I was on Oprah’s life class. And, you know, it was a neat moment for me to to actually be able to be on Oprah show my biggest mentor my whole life, it was pretty special. So So how did that one
David Ralph [35:41]
show vote change? I know what you were just saying about the logic of it. But why were you right? To accept that message at that time.
Shelly Ehler [35:52]
You know, the right messages come to you just when you need them. And I think that that message actually is a powerful one, it’s still comes to me. Because if there’s one lesson that I still struggle with, like I told you the beginning of the show, it’s the waiting, it’s the it’s the it’s it’s the waiting, it takes so long, it takes so long, in so many times you feel like you could be doing something wrong or something’s wrong, or maybe you’re not on the right path, or maybe you’re not doing what, and there’s so much doubt that lives in that waiting that, you know, it’s it’s, I need to be reminded that you know what, there’s nothing wrong, there’s nothing wrong, it’s all going to happen and in its own time, God’s waiting on you. And when it in when you’re ready, you know, it will be. And so I’m still just I think that my message is I’m still working on myself, I’m still trying to figure it out. I know what happened when I’m ready. And my message is I’m just I don’t know that I’m completely ready yet. To go to the places that I need to go. It’s time for me to still continue to prepare, and learn, and grow and learn and read and read and listen to podcasts and read and read and learn and teach. You know, that’s that’s what keeps coming to me. And you know, you can’t No one’s going to do something for you, you have to do it for yourself.
David Ralph [37:15]
Now, a lot of our listeners are not going to be religious, obviously. So will we be talking about self limiting doubts, in their terminology, it’s when you mentally hold yourself back until you finally decide I’ve got to do something about it? Is it? Is this a different way of looking at what you’re just talking about?
Shelly Ehler [37:36]
Completely? It’s exactly what I’m talking about. And you don’t have to believe in any religion. I’m not even a religious person, I might sound like I’m a spiritual person, but I’m not religious, and not that that matters. But anyhow. It’s It’s It’s not necessarily even meant to to. It’s it’s just it, I just what I know it from my experience and from the journey that I had been through. Don’t think that there are mistakes. I don’t, I don’t I think that you are where you’re meant to be. And if you don’t like where you are, you have the ability to change it. All you have to do as far as it’s what happened to me is to get quiet. And here, look and ask for guidance. You, you, you everybody. You don’t have to be religious, you don’t have to be spiritual. everybody hears those voices within everybody does. It’s their intuition, right? You know, and sometimes you hear these two, sometimes what gets confusing is you hear competing voices. So one voice will say, there’s nothing you can’t do. And the other voice will say Watch out, you’re being you know, don’t take that risk. And I distinguish it by one is the voice of my head is more the voice of my ego. And the other one is more the voice of my soul. And the voice of your soul is more gentle. It’s, it’s it speaks of love, it speaks of cooperation, it speaks of dreams, that’s the voice that you want to follow. And for years and years, Oprah used to talk about this voice, well, you just have to listen to that voice and listen to that voice. And I remember in my younger years saying, I don’t even know what you’re talking about. Because the only voice I hear is the voice that tells me everything I’m doing wrong. I mean, whenever I, whenever I just go to my whenever I go to that voice within it tells me everything that I’m doing, it’s wrong. And it’s so critical of myself. I don’t know what she’s talking about. But I didn’t realise I hadn’t gotten quiet enough to hear the other voice. You only hear that other voice in silence and stillness in mountain walks on the beach, and, you know, a relaxing tub in, in quiet still moments, that’s when you hear that other voice. And so this outside world is so loud, that it we can’t drown it out, we just hear so many other loud voices from outside and this loud, loud, loud voice in our head, you got to silence that voice going to silence that one that that that is so negative. It’s so negative, it you know, it’s pointing you in the wrong direction.
David Ralph [40:09]
I think this is fascinating, because whether we are talking about internal voices, and obviously we are and we all have those, we all have those self limiting thoughts, those doubts those fears. We’re also talking in many sense if of peer group, and so many people will be wanting to do something, but they will tell their dreams to somebody and those people will go, That’s rubbish, you’re not going to be able to do that. And that’s going to route them to the spot. So you do you need to separate yourself, you need to be able to put yourself in a position, but you can reflect on what you need to do. And if you put yourself in a position like I did, when I realised a lot of my friends, quote, quote, were actually holding me back, I actually had to sack them, I needed to get rid of them move on. And I found that the friends that I had it, I don’t miss. And I’ve replaced them where people who believe in me. And it’s almost like you allow a vacuum to suck in replacements, and by your belief, your personal journey, your motivation, whatever you suddenly find like minded people. And then that means that voice inside you that you’re talking about has more room to actually come to the surface and actually, and speak to you and talk to you. Now I’ve never actually heard that voice. I would love to be able to hear that voice. But I do take intuition. Absolutely. Because as gospel and if I feel like something’s right. And if I feel like something is scary, Shelly Ehler, I now go for it. I realised the scary bit is light compass. And that’s the bit that’s actually saying what you’re going to do, David, you’re going to do this, it’s going to be scary. But by doing it, you’re actually going to improve and you’re going to come out of your comfort zone and you’re going to go into areas you’ve never done. And then I realised that that is where I need to go. And I do it. And I’m terrified. I don’t know why I’m terrified. Because really, it’s not that scary, but it feels scary. And then once you do it, you kind of look back over your shoulder and you go, actually I wasn’t too bad. Oh, there’s another scary thing ahead and you realise you’re moving on and you’re moving on moving on. But what you’re doing you are fine tuning you’re developing your you’re making a bigger version of yourself to finally get what you should have in life.
Shelly Ehler [42:27]
Right, right. But see, even even hearing that voice is telling you to step into that fear. That’s the voice. That’s it.
David Ralph [42:35]
I don’t hear a voice vo is just a feeling I’ll we
Shelly Ehler [42:38]
just uh, it’s okay. It’s the same thing. It’s the same thing. It’s it can be a feeling it can be a voice, it can be the same thing. That is that that that is coming from within. And it’s guiding you do would you not agree that that that is guiding you towards your purpose? Oh, yeah, absolutely.
David Ralph [42:52]
And I know exactly what I need to do on a daily basis. Because I’m terrified.
Shelly Ehler [42:59]
Yes, yes. And it’s an important thing to step into an uncomfortable space, we all should step and do something every day, just one little thing that makes us feel uncomfortable. That’s an important lesson, you know, to yesterday, I did something uncomfortable. Two days ago, I took a spinning class at the gym, do you notice spinning classes? It’s
David Ralph [43:17]
when you know by Can you pet like a lunatic?
Shelly Ehler [43:19]
Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes. And I’ve done it once before, and I hated it. And it’s, it was so hard. And I just didn’t want to. But I thought you know what, no, I am on the journey to be the best that I can be, this is a great workout for me, I’m going to do it. That was my thing on that day that I stepped into that I didn’t really want to do. But by taking those little things, every day you grow and you learn, you grow and you learn, you get your best lessons when you step into those uncomfortable places.
David Ralph [43:47]
But let’s play the words of Steve Jobs. That’s the theme of the whole show, Join Up Dots. And then we’re going to have a quick word about those words. And then I’ll be very interested in your big, your big scary moment. I think it would be terrifying for most of us when you went into the shark tank and you confronted the sharks.
Steve Jobs [44:04]
So this is Steve Jobs. Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leaves you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [44:41]
And does that make a difference to you?
Shelly Ehler [44:43]
Yes. Because it’s exactly what I’m doing right now, David, I’m just I’m having faith that those dots are all going to connect. Because there’s a lot of stuff I don’t get right now. I’m still confused that a lot of things haven’t worked out in my life. I’m still I’m still trying to make sense of it. But what might help heart tells me is just keep moving forward, Shelly Ehler, you’re going to be able to connect those dots down the road, it’s all going to make sense. You’re going to be able to look back on this and go, Oh, that’s why oh, my God, can you believe it? Is that amazing? That door had to close to that one could open? Oh, I get it now. Okay. It’s exactly right. You know, it’s, it’s about having faith that those dots are going to connect and, and continuing to move forward. When you judge it is wrong, David and you just didn’t go? No, that was wrong, you know, then you then you miss those opportunities to make those Connexions.
David Ralph [45:34]
So the main part of that is the faith key thing.
Shelly Ehler [45:38]
For me, that’s what I think that it is, for me, it’s it’s hope, really, you know, it’s hope, you have to have hope. I don’t know where I would be without hope. It’s, you know, that’s what keeps me moving forward that hope, that hope, and that faith that that I’m going to accomplish everything that that I desire in my heart that I can be everything that I want to be it’s that hope, if I didn’t have that hope, I wouldn’t have anything to move towards.
David Ralph [46:09]
Now you moved towards something that was extremely scary. And you went on Shark Tank, which is the American equivalent of our Dragons Den as we have over in the UK. Now, I always look at that programme. And for people that don’t know it, I’ll be amazed that you don’t know it. Basically, entrepreneurs will go into the tank or the Dragon’s Den, and line up against four or five very influential businessmen and barter for assistance and be sharp. So the dragons will say yes, I like your product, or I hate your product. And if I hate it, you walk out empty handed. Or if they love it, they will try to buy into your business. And it’s up to the person who goes in there with the product to decide on what they will actually except for a monetary terms. So if a accepts 75,000, but it might lose 50% of their business. But then they gain the two to ship and the mentorship or the shark who’s going to help them in areas of business. But they don’t know that’s about right, Shelly Ehler? Yeah. Correct. So you went in there, and you went in there with your two sons to demonstrate this town. And I’ve spoken to a few people who have been on Shark Tank. And they say one of the most scary parts is the first 30 seconds when you walk in there, and you’re not allowed to say anything. And they just all like look at you while they’re taking different shots. When you were there, did you feel like running out? Or do you think this is my opportunity? This is why I’m here or were you in a complete fluster.
Shelly Ehler [47:42]
I was flustered. I was terrified when we first walked in. And that is intimidating. Right? When you start, one thing that was a little bit easier on me was having my children, I think soften the moment. So I wasn’t getting the stare down like a lot of the other entrepreneurs get. It was more of the smiles and they were smiling at the children. So that was sort of easing my nerves. And I for me, the hardest part was the first line, you know, just getting that first line out. Anytime even I give a speech. It’s that first line is that first paragraph that, you know, you still have your nerves are still jumbled. But once you get going, you know, it’s okay. And, and that’s what happened to me. I was terrified when I first started. But I just got on a roll. And I let myself be there. And I just put myself on the same field as them. And I just spoke from my heart, you know, just just me. I just gave it everything that I could. I was honest and truthful and spoke from my heart. And I did really well.
David Ralph [48:41]
Well, you did better than Well, I read the stat but you’re the only person in history that has walked out with a check. They haven’t been. Is that still true today?
Shelly Ehler [48:51]
It is. It is and the to me, I know that there’s no coincidence, I walked in there with so much faith. This is something that I have written down on my my list might set up for the secret. And all of a sudden here it was, it was pretty amazing. It was I had three of the sharks fighting over me. And I actually got a better deal than I want and asking for I went asking for $50,000. And Mark Cuban said, I think it’s worth more than that. I’ll actually give you $75,000. So I didn’t see that coming. I and I didn’t see a check coming. But to leave there with three of them fighting over me a deal better than I went and asking for and a check on the spot was was it was pretty incredible. I was in shock for a couple of days, to be honest.
David Ralph [49:37]
Now the thing that always occurs to me when I watch this programme is is this a quick route? Do the sharks actually provide value for money? Or is it the exposure of the product that is actually the big win on getting on that show? Because I imagine that you come out of there. So many thousands of millions of people have seen the product and the media interest, local where you live must be huge, obvious this local man was on Shark Tank, let’s get him on the local radio station. Let’s get him on the press and back on his stuff. And you must sell more products or get orders because of that, then actually what the shark actually provides to you?
Shelly Ehler [50:15]
Well, it You’re right, and that it is mostly about publicity. Some people and I network with a lot of people from the show, some people have had help from their sharks and they and they they do help. For the most part, the value that they add the actual amount of help they give you is tremendously minimal. It’s not a fast track, I thought it was going to be. And going back to what I said previously, there are no shortcuts. See, I thought this was going to be a shortcut. And it wasn’t it didn’t turn out to be a shortcut because there are no shortcuts. So it I didn’t. My deal didn’t really work out the way that I thought it was going to it didn’t certainly work out the way that it was portrayed on TV. And which is okay, I’m completely fine with it. Now I I’m not in business with the shark that I went to business with on the show. I own 100% of my business, which is fine. It’s just it’s it’s great exposure, but it’s not as much as you think everybody thinks just kind of like people have said to you. Wow, you know, you’ve grown so far so fast. Listen, it’s public opinion is a lot different from perception is a lot different from reality. Right? So a lot of people perceive me being on the show, and all of a sudden having all the success. And that’s not really what happened to me at my tell, to be honest, you didn’t really sell that. Well, you would think that I would have had all those other media opportunities. I didn’t really David, I mean, the local press wasn’t contacting me, ABC is in charge of your media. And I was expecting to be on local TV stations, something like that. No, that didn’t really happen. None of that happened. For me. There’s some people who land those things who have their own PR agents, but I didn’t, I couldn’t afford my own PR agent. So, you know, I didn’t have those type of opportunities. And my product didn’t sell that. Well. It’s just the truth. It’s been rerun over and over again, I’m one of the most rerun episodes that the show has. And I continue to not really sell that. Well. Why? I don’t know. I think I have a great product. I don’t think it I know it. And the people that have it. Absolutely love it. I get emails all the time. This is the greatest thing that people that have them want to buy them as gifts because they want to, you know, share it with other people because they love it so much. But I don’t know, I don’t really know what it is. I had my huge aha moment really the day after the show. When I was at the highest of my high when my episode aired the night we aired it was the coolest thing ever. I saw myself on TV. I was it was viewed by over 60 million people. I my episode was amazing. I did such a great job. All my friends were congratulating me we had a huge party was so awesome. And then I realised the orders weren’t coming in. And I just crashed. And I thought this calculus See, how could this be happened to me again? How could I have come so far not get my reward. And I got my answer the next day. I just I didn’t want to get up out of bed because I was just I was so scared. I was so scared to face it. I was so scared. I was terrified. It’s one thing to fail on your own. But it’s another thing to fail with 6 million eyes on you. You know, so I was just terrified. I didn’t. I didn’t the newspapers could be calling me my new partner could be calling me. And I just the voice within kept saying to me just go read your email. Shelley Get up, stop want to stop complaining. stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get up and read your emails. And I started to read my emails I did and and one after another. I had hundreds of emails that just said, Dear Shelly Ehler, I saw you last night and I cried. I cried tears of joy because I’m you and you’re me. And I’m a mom and my husband lost his job. And I have this great idea. And I too afraid to do it. But you give me faith that I can do this. Thank God I watch a show last night. I’m so grateful for you. I wish you so much success. On and on and on. Dear Shelley, I saw you last night you give me hope for me. And in that moment I realised Oh my. I wasn’t on Shark Tank to sell a towel. I was on Shark Tank too. So hope I did that. I was really good at it. I did it. That was my purpose. And when I finally realised that I found peace in that gift
David Ralph [54:31]
that is a fantastic storey. He thinks that that must really let you sleep well every night.
Shelly Ehler [54:40]
It does. But it’s it also says kind of said to me. So is there more to this for me. Yeah. Could this be that? Maybe I’m just kind of starting on a new path. Yeah. Could it be that this is just the beginning? Yeah. So what am I supposed to do now keep moving forward. Just keep moving forward. Use your life and service Shelley. help other people spread joy, inspire, give back, keep paying it forward. It’s all lining up for you. And so that’s what I’m trying to do in my life. I’m working on a career as a motivational speaker and I’m working on a book and, you know, I know that eventually, my storey will, I think bring me more success than my tell ever could have.
David Ralph [55:19]
And so the towel hasn’t been forgotten, the bell is still ticking along.
Shelly Ehler [55:24]
It’s still ticking along, we’re actually doing well. It we I sell primarily now to swim schools, I found a very good niche for me and swim schools, swim schools are privately owned. And I’m able to handle the amount of orders that they give me and their year round. So I’m doing well in that space, I stay busy. I also signed a licencing deal last summer with a major towel manufacturer who is going to be making the towel and hopefully selling it to big retail stores come to spring and summer. So that’s a huge, huge opportunity. That is that’s out there for me right now.
David Ralph [56:00]
wish you all the success with a towel, because I think your journey is inspirational. And I think it shows all the elements. But I want to get out every day on the show like Join Up Dots, that you start something and you don’t know where it’s going to end up. But just trying stuff and having faith psyche as Steve Jobs says, and just going off the well worn path and finding your unique self, Ben, ultimately, you will be a success. And if you lie on your deathbed, I always think and you go, I’ve done my hardest here. And it didn’t work. But I know but I couldn’t have done any better than that says good as anything.
Shelly Ehler [56:39]
That’s, that’s all that you could hope for that that’s just that’s all that you could hope for.
David Ralph [56:44]
But let’s find out what the young Shetty would have made about this. Because this is the end of the show. And this is when I send you back in time like a young time traveller. And if you could go back in time and have a one on one with your younger self, what age would you choose? And what would you tell her? Well, we’re going to find out because I’m gonna play the theme tune now. And when it fades out, you’re up. This is the Sermon on the mic.
Shelly Ehler [57:29]
Hello, little Shelly Ehler, this is big Shelley, I’m 42 years old. And I’ve learned a lot in the last 42 years. So listen closely, because there are some things that you need to know. Number one, fear is a lie. Okay. So when you hear that voice come in that voice that tells you there’s something that you can’t do, there’s something wrong with you, that tells you that you’re less than that’s that that’s just fear, and it’s pointing you in the wrong direction. What I want you to do is to take some deep breaths, and to find a quiet space and get quiet and go within and ask your heart. What do you want from me? Show me use me and, and you will hear reply. And when you hear that reply, you follow it and faith that will guide you towards your destiny, towards your divine purpose to a life of fulfilment to life more successful than you can imagine. Your job is to dream big, don’t dream small, dream as big as you possibly can. Because the universe has a dream that is even bigger than you could possibly imagine. There’s nothing that you can’t do. And as you go through life, they’re going to be people that want you to play safe, because they’re scared, and they love you. And, and so they want you to be safe. So they’re going to want you to play safe, and they’re going to want you to take that safe job and the safe thing. And if you don’t want that, don’t follow that. Don’t ever play safe. Don’t ever play small, it will never, ever serve you ever step into that space, the things that that that that that frighten you, don’t be afraid, step into that space, you’ll be amazed at what you can find. A lot of people are too afraid to go there Don’t be. It’s the space of miracles. When you step into that space, step into their follow it and faith follow that voice, it’s going to guide you to something so much bigger than you can imagine for yourself. Use your life in service. The best thing that you can do in your life is to help another person with theirs. Don’t ever compete. Don’t ever think you’re better than anybody because no one is better than anyone. We are put here on this planet to help and to cooperate. The voice of your head, your ego will tell you that you’re better than someone will tell you that you have to get there faster will tell you that you have to step on somebody to get there. But that’s all BS. It’s not true. The best thing that you can do, the fastest you can get somewhere is by helping another person up because they’ll help you up. You hold another person’s hand and you help them along the way. And you’ll be amazed how far you can get together. spread joy, inspire, give back. Use your life and service. And you’ll be amazed at what you can accomplish.
David Ralph [1:00:21]
Shelley How can our audience who’ve been listening, connect with you.
Shelly Ehler [1:00:27]
You can connect with me on Twitter and my handle is at show no towels one word where you can connect with me on Facebook at show know where you can connect with me on Facebook at my private Facebook pages, Shelly Ehler sh e Ll y, middle initial j last name either h le er. And on that private facebook page is where I share a lot of my inspirational tips, my inspirational videos and those type of things. So I’d love to connect with you there on Facebook.
David Ralph [1:00:56]
But we will have all the links on the show notes. And thank you so much for speaking time with us today. joining those dots and please come back again when you have more dots to join up. Because I do believe those dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. Shelly Ehler. Thank you so much.
Shelly Ehler [1:01:13]
Thank you, David. It was a pleasure.
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David Ralph [1:01:42]
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