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Introducing Megan Collins
Megan Collins from Style Girlfriend is todays guest on the Steve Jobs inspired Join Up Dots Podcast.
She is the go to lady if you are a guy who likes to look good, but hasn’t got the first idea how to pull it off.
Or perhaps you are the kind of guy that has a style thing going on, but you are looking for a bit of quick inspiration instead of traipsing around the shops on a weekend.
She is the founder of the Style Girlfriend website and information business.
Combining the best of fashion, food, travel and fitness, all from the perspective of a female, guys across the world have at their fingertips the perfect guide to help them have it all.
As she says “I want my readers to have it all. The swagger, the girl, the great meal, the adventure. All of it.”
But although the platform is going from strength to strength, her journey started about as far as possible away from the heady world of online fashion advice as possible.
How The Dots Joined Up For Style Girlfriend
Starting her career back in 2001 in a customer relations position for Bumble and bumble a fast-growing, luxury hair care brand located in NYC, she then went into Government affairs for three years, before doing a myriad of positions that filled time more than exploded her passions.
In fact it wasn’t until performing a favour to a friend by starting Style Girlfriend, did it then turn into a syndicated national newspaper column, and later as a men’s style blog, and as they say the rest is history.
So what does she think is the number one mistake that men make when throwing on something each morning?
Picking it off the floor where they left it the night before, or something far more serious?
And what is her fascination with 70’s movie star Steve McQueen?
Well let’s find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up dots, the one and only Style girlfriend herself, Megan Collins
During the show we discussed such weighty topics with the style girlfriend such as:
Why it is madness to fit into a companies idea of when we should be the most productive. Why should we work 9 to 5 if it doesn’t suit our body clocks?
How she was so surprised that when she started “Style Girlfriend” there wasn’t a similar online presence giving men’s fashion advice from a ladies point of view.
Why she now believes that security only truly comes from a role where you are indispensable and how many of us can truly say that in life?
How you can only really benefit by saying “Yes” when someone gives you an opportunity even if you don’t know what you are doing. Say “Yes” and then learn as quickly as you can how to do it.
How when she left the corporate role for a while she got really “judgey” and couldn’t understand why people were settling for such unhappiness and time restraints.
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Audio Transcription Of Megan Collins “Style Girlfriend” Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Yes, hello, everybody. How are we Oh, welcome to a Join Up Dots. You knew that anyway, you’ve clicked the button. That’s why you’re listening to us. episode two to five today. And we have got a lady who really is the lady to go to if you’re a guy who likes to look good, but hasn’t got the first idea how to pull it off. Or perhaps you are the kind of guy that has a style thing going on. But you’re looking for a bit of quick inspiration instead of traipsing around the shops on a weekend. Combining the best of fashion, food, travel and fitness, all from the perspective of a female going across the world have at their fingertips, the perfect guide to help them have it all. As she says, I want my readers to have it all the swagger, the Gail a great meal, the adventure. All of it makes me wonder what all of it is I have to ask about it. But although the platform is going from strength to strength, her journey started about as far as possible, away from the heavy world of online fashion advice as possible. starting her career back in 2001, in a customer relations position for Bumble and Bumble, a fast growing luxury haircare brand located in New York. She then went into government affairs for three years before doing a myriad of positions that filled a time more of an exploded her passions. In fact, it wasn’t until performing a favour to a friend by starting style Galperin did it then turn into a syndicated national newspaper column, and later as a men style blog. And as I say the rest is history. So what does she think is the number one mistake that men make when throwing on something each morning picking up the floor where they left it the night before? Or something far more serious? And what’s up fascination with 70s movie star Steve McQueen? Well, let’s find out as we bring on to the show to start Join Up Dots but one and only style girlfriend herself. Megan Collins, how are you? Megan?
Style Girlfriend [2:12]
Hi, David. I’m great. How are you doing today?
David Ralph [2:14]
I am rocking and rolling. I’m losing my voice. But other than that, it’s the energy is the last. I’ve been recording for three days solid. And you’re my last one. So I’m going to give you the best I possibly can.
Style Girlfriend [2:27]
Fantastic or should I just talk the whole time and then you know, you can sit and drink. Kevin melty. How does that sound?
David Ralph [2:33]
That sounds like marriage. Megan. And I’m already into that. So no, this is going to be a conversation is going to go different from what I experienced.
So get get into the chase, because there’s so much to talk to you about. What is it about Steve McQueen? Because I’ve been doing some virtual stalking of you over the last couple of days. And literally every page I turned Steve McQueen icon was on there. But a lot of he was looking well, he was looking rubbish. In my view. He was.
Style Girlfriend [3:05]
I know, I know very
David Ralph [3:05]
well, we’ve started a conflict First of all, but that there was a picture of him on a boat or something. And he was wearing like stripy trousers like a prisoner with a jumper and a kind of jacket. And I thought, you look rubbish. I’m missing a trick. Am I missing a trick?
Style Girlfriend [3:22]
Well, the straight pants certainly aren’t for everyone. I will say that. Steve McQueen, he factors in. You know, his legend looms large as it were in the mentor scene today, I think a lot of guys look to him as an icon, both past and present, really, I mean, I think that if you dropped apart from maybe those striped pants, if you dropped in his wardrobe into, you know, Justin Timberlake closet, or Hugh Jackman’s closet today, they would look just as stylish. And I think that that’s what people really like about him. And I think that’s actually it speaks to men style, in a way that I love, which is is to say, it shows that it’s all about the classics, it’s all about building a foundation. It’s not necessarily about following trends, because again, if you know if he came back today, wearing the exact same clothes, he would look just as good.
David Ralph [4:13]
Because I was talking to a chap and he was very involved in the fashion world. And he was saying that he doesn’t follow trends, he creates his own look. And that is the kind of the hybrid viewpoint of fashion. Are you going to be a trendsetter? Or are you going to be a follower? So what Steve McQueen a trendsetter? Or was he just wearing what everybody else was wearing in the 70s
Style Girlfriend [4:38]
may think there was no doubt that whatever he was wearing, he was wearing very well and having broad shoulders and a great head of hair and a beautiful girl on your arm obviously doesn’t hurt your look any. But no, I mean, I think that he was following you know, the beat of his own drum when it came to his style. And it just happened to be that other people really liked what that was and started to follow it. So I don’t think anyone sets out to be a trendsetter. Maybe, you know, the Lady Gaga is of the world. But otherwise, for men I think it’s more about I want to feel comfortable, but look good. And what are the clothes that make you know, that helped me reach that intersection?
David Ralph [5:19]
So obviously you aren’t a style girlfriend? Is that how you phrase yourself? And when people meet you do you go? Yes, I am the style girlfriend or the or do they just know you as Megan?
Style Girlfriend [5:33]
I’ve gotten it every which way To be honest, I’ve gotten are you? Excuse me? Are you style girlfriend I’ve gotten Are you the fashion girlfriend, which I said close enough? But if if I’m introducing myself, I’ll say that I run a site called style girlfriend and it’s all about guys style and lifestyle from a female perspective.
David Ralph [5:53]
Because it is huge. Isn’t your site when I was looking at the figures about it’s bringing in on a monthly basis it is going from strength to scrimp. Does that number one surprise you? Or does it surprise you but there’s so many men out there that just haven’t got a clue?
Style Girlfriend [6:09]
Well, it surprises me every day that you know, thousands of readers show up to to see what I have to say it I feel obviously so gratified by that. And I think what surprised me the most though, is that when I first got started, I was really surprised to learn that there wasn’t anyone else in the space. That’s what surprised me the most it felt like, hey, there’s this huge audience of guys that’s not being spoken to either by high end fashion magazines, or, you know, the department stores where there’s shop all the way down to, you know, their wives and girlfriends at home who maybe weren’t giving them positive feedback. So I found that, you know, sort of nesting in this niche of providing accessible style advice in a really friendly, supportive way. Well, yeah, what surprised me the most was just that nobody was doing it yet.
David Ralph [6:59]
The data kind of almost stop you in the tracks when the idea came to you. And I’ve asked this to so many people who have created something, I generally go, I would have thought this was out there already. And they come back to me and they go, we fought the same. But for some reason they dig around and I realise it’s not fair. But it is kind of crazy. Oh, that kind of thing isn’t bad. You would have thought his been there for years and years and years. So did did he kind of did you have that moment where you thought this would be a good idea? Our bet it’s been done already?
Style Girlfriend [7:33]
Absolutely. I always tell people that I wish I could say I had done this broad sweeping competitive analysis of the menswear landscape and found that a female voice was missing. But I really just fell ass backwards into it. I you know, you had mentioned in your in your intro that it literally started as a favour to a friend I had left a career in advertising and had gone on to pursue this freelance writing lifestyle and I was taking on you know, any and all projects that I could get my hands on and a good friend of mine. He had recently started a custom suiting business. And he said, I know you’re looking to write more. Why don’t you write a weekly column for my site? Just so I have more content and you have some more experience? And I said to him, I’d love to. Is it okay that I don’t know anything about mens style? And he said absolutely just you know, and he was literally just spit balling. He said, Well, why don’t you just sort of write about what what girls like to see guys wearing? And it was this very big light bulb moment of, Oh, I can absolutely do that. And I think that, you know, speaking to most women, and obviously I’m generalising here, but I think most women are perhaps better able to verbalise what it is that they like or don’t like about what someone is wearing. And so I very much started from this place of simply giving really anecdotal avid advice of, Oh, you know, when you put on a suit for no good reason, women love that, like, it’s, you know, it might be a little bit extra effort, but it really does pay off those kind of sort of common sense sort of draw back the curtain kind of insight into what women think about what men are wearing. And it really just snowballed from there. And I obviously, you know, this many years later, I, I feel that I’ve done my research and can consider myself more of an educated resource or expert. But back then, yeah, when I started, it was more just yeah, you know, let’s talk to guys let’s get a conversation going let’s let’s
open that dialogue, which I don’t think was really there before.
David Ralph [9:39]
So so if we went back in time and joined up your dots, you did have in a kind of eclectic career leading through this all of them that the the the Bumble Bumble and the the government affairs, the government affairs jumped out at me because it just doesn’t seem like you that the magnet I see on your, your, your blog, your platform and the mega that I’m talking to now, I can’t see how you went into that. Was it just a job? Did you just look for something that was a career backstage to pay the bills.
Style Girlfriend [10:12]
So I went to school for public relations and advertising. And when I got out of school, I took a job with a PR ad agency where I was in government, public affairs, it It wasn’t just a job, I really did hope for a career in that field. Not necessarily in in government or, or public affairs, but in public relations, actually, I knew that I wanted to communicate with people. And I knew that I wanted to have my voice heard and help to persuade people. That’s what I really wanted to do. And that was the first I mean, that was the first in the best job that I was offered out of school. And I took it and I pretty quickly realised that it wasn’t the career for me, it wasn’t giving me sort of the tangible benefits of feeling like I was getting feedback from that audience. You know, when it comes to PR, so much of it is is one sided, and you’re sort of putting your storey out and hoping people digest it and hoping people take your side, but it’s not necessarily a two way conversation. And so I pretty quickly switched gears and got into the advertising side of things, and also bond pretty quickly that I didn’t like that. But I’m someone who craves security, which is why it’s so funny that I do this now. Um, well, I was gonna say,
David Ralph [11:38]
because it’s not well, it is stable. Now you’ve created something so successful, where he’s stable, and he’s just going to get bigger and bigger. But when you start anything entrepreneurial, it’s not security at all, is it?
Style Girlfriend [11:49]
Oh, in no way. And so that’s why I ended up staying in a career for three and a half extra years that I knew I didn’t want to be in because at least there was a corporate ladder, I knew that after being an assistant account executive, I become an account executive. And after that, I’d become an account supervisor. And then I’d become a manager, you know, there literally was this ladder that I could see it and I hated every rung of it. But I, I had benefits. And I, you know, I had a 401k. And so it was really hard for me to leave this industry that while I didn’t feel any passion for it, I I was fulfilled, or I did get that security that I craved. So that’s, that’s the reason that, you know, you spotted that as an anomaly is because it was really hard for me to say, I am going to set out my own and I, it will be scary, but I know I’ll be so much happier once I’m in it. So it definitely took a while to sort of let go of the the ledge there.
David Ralph [12:42]
But But I suppose it was an anomaly, but it gave you the foundation of starting to know that you had a voice and you wanted to make a difference.
Style Girlfriend [12:54]
Absolutely. I mean, what I found once I started writing, was that it I did, I joined it so much more and feeling like I did have some sort of foundation and knowing what just the business world was like what the real world was like that, you know, it helped me in everything from putting together scopes of work to writing a really great, you know, pitch deck, whatever, you know, whatever it might be. So it definitely helped me I think I probably would have been just as helped if I’d only done it for two years. Before but but you sure I mean, I I can only look back with appreciation for where I came from. So I mean, it doesn’t makes any sense to live with regrets and that way. So
David Ralph [13:38]
back in time now, if you could go back in time, and we’re going to do that at the end of the show. But would you have stayed in that job for as long because I look back on certain careers now. And I go, I was there five years too long. And if I could go back in time, I just wouldn’t stay there that long. But for some reason I was I wasn’t chained. I wasn’t stopped from leaving, but it was just that wasn’t bad enough to make me move on to the next thing. But now I’ve seen the other side, the other side of things, no way I would go back and I would literally grab my younger self and drag myself out. To do the same.
Style Girlfriend [14:13]
I’d like to think so. Um, but I doubt my younger self would listen. try my hardest, but I mean, it’s tough. Like it’s, I mean, hindsight 2020. But, um, you know, like I said, it’s, it’s so it doesn’t make any sense to look back and say, I wish I would have done this and this and this differently. Because, you know, I got to where I am today because of all of that. And, you know, my journey. I don’t think I would give it up. I mean, it’s frustrating sometimes now I wish that I was you know four years farther in this career. And I just get impatient sometimes if anything but but like I said, I mean I if I wouldn’t have become so just debilitating Lee unhappy in my old career, I probably wouldn’t have taken the leap to go off on I don’t think it really did take me being miserable to finally like, Okay, enough,
David Ralph [15:05]
but but that’s the truth, isn’t it? But genuinely, if something he’s okay, we don’t shift. It’s when
Style Girlfriend [15:12]
I literally stayed at a job for an extra year and a half because I liked the person I shared an office with. Like, we shared a birthday and we were like good friends. And and I was just like, oh, what would I do with that Steve? Like, I literally stayed at a job that I hated just because I liked who I worked with. So yes, I think you find all of these excuses not to change your life in this big way. Because changing your life in a big way is really scary. Like I get that I was scared for years. So So yes, I can absolutely see making excuses to stay in something that’s even you know, that you know, isn’t right.
David Ralph [15:46]
Even if you’ve got a Steve in your life, do you? Do you still see Steve?
Style Girlfriend [15:51]
Yeah, I do. He just, he his wife just had a baby. And it’s so funny sometimes, especially as a woman, you know, you kind of look at these different mile markers in your life. And I do I have friends now that are getting married and having babies and all of that. And, and my, you know, I’m able to say well, I’m going to I’m going to career. I’m the CEO of my company. I’m you know, I’m hiring on employees. I’m doing this I’m doing that. So he has babies I have style. Now that’s that’s just right.
David Ralph [16:21]
So how many people with you got working for you? And isn’t it’s not just your your baby.
Style Girlfriend [16:27]
I have a few freelancers and partying people. And I’m about to hire on my first full time employee and managing editor and I’m really excited about it. And simultaneously totally terrified. Because, like you said, it is my baby. And it’s something that I just I want everyone that works with me to care as much as I do. And I’m sure you know, that’s very hard to find. So it’s just a matter of learning to let go a little bit, but um, yeah, about maybe six people at any given moment. Um, I have a storey staffed up or down.
David Ralph [17:02]
How do you do that? Because that is a key question to ask, because so many people have fear of the entrepreneurial road. And so many people would just be rubbish entrepreneurs. And that’s a given, they should stay in jobs, as long as they’re happy in that job. But when they do go into creating their own business, they will work and work and hustle and hustle. And they will build it up to a point that it’s successful. And that’s all they want. But the big fear comes when you’ve got to go, I need to delegate this has got too big for me now. It’s it’s gone beyond enjoyment is worse from where I used to work. I’ve created a monster for myself. And I’ve got to allow somebody else to help me with this monster. That is double scary, isn’t it? Because I’m at that point now where I’ve created this show based on my own efforts. And now I’m looking for people to sort of take up the slack in certain areas of your there’s something that makes me hold back on it, even though I could structure everything I could show them. How did you overcome that fear.
Style Girlfriend [18:09]
Just by acknowledging that you’re not going to get any bigger without help. I think that it’s something that absolutely entrepreneurs face. I mean, if they, if they’re lucky enough to face those kind of problems, they should be happy that that they’re you know, facing down a schedule that’s gotten too overloaded for them, I, I try to look at my career. In terms of points where it’s, I’ve had good problems to have, which is to say I had been too busy to do something on my own. About a year and a half ago, the good problem that I had was that I had these other freelance jobs, and I had so much to do with style girlfriend that I had to give them up. So it was a good problem to have those I was too busy. And then about maybe two to three months ago, when honestly was it was more like six months ago. But I only imaged myself about two to three months ago, I realised that I needed a full time person helping with our girlfriend and managing the day to day. And again, a really good problem to have was it has been a pain in the neck to go through that hiring process and learn how to be a good interviewer learn how to suss out whether people would be a good fit for your company. Sure, that’s been. I mean, it’s been a learning process. But it’s a great problem to have, I feel so lucky that I’m so busy that I and you know and successful enough that I’m able to bring a full time person onto my company.
David Ralph [19:28]
Could you have delegated things out and get those freelance jobs looking back on it? Because that is money in the bank, isn’t it but you’re you’re getting paid to do certain work. But a lot of the entrepreneurial venture is about repetition and doing stuff, which actually you can hand over to somebody else. So looking back on that, could you have got rid of a lot of it and going well, actually, yeah, I’ll get rid of all that. And I’ll still keep those jobs.
Style Girlfriend [19:54]
I don’t think so I think just mentally I needed to put on all of my headspace in the style girlfriend, there was just no way for me to continue breaking up my day among different brands and different clients and different projects and still trying to find that mental energy to give to siloed girlfriend. So what I found now is that without girlfriend, I can certainly delegate things. I mean, it’s the reason I have a stable of freelancers that I can call upon when I do have, you know, brand new content or brand partnerships, things that I can’t do on my own, I’m able to call on them. But But no, I mean, when I realised that what I really wanted was to make a go of it without girlfriend, I really realised that I had to get rid of the rest of the work that I was doing. And in terms of we were talking about the good problem to have, when I went full time it was before I was financially maybe ready. Like when I gave up all of the other projects, there was, you know, a month or two where there was a dip, because I had to net you know that now find other projects to compensate for the other projects that I have given up. So I did have to take a bit of a leap of faith and say, you know, this isn’t, this isn’t going to maybe be a smooth transition. But I know that it’s it’s the right one to make.
David Ralph [21:20]
And you were totally willing about staged to do that.
Style Girlfriend [21:24]
It became apparent to me that the work that I was putting into other projects was, you know, 75% and style or when I was giving it 150%. So it just didn’t even feel fair to my clients, you know, to other people, I was working with a non style girlfriend projects, I was just like, I’m not giving you my all and and I never want to get into a position where someone doesn’t think I’m doing a good job. I mean, that’s just the overachiever in me. But perhaps but I but I certainly would never want someone to come away from working with me and say no, she was only out right. And that’s what I was, even if clients started to notice that I was noticing it about myself that I was sort of rushing other things and so that I could get to celebrate and get to doing you know more with that. So, so no, I mean, I couldn’t have couldn’t have stayed on with anything else for much longer. doesn’t make me that it wasn’t scary. I mean, it was still a tough decision to make, again, just speaking to the security lover and me, but, but it was definitely the right thing.
David Ralph [22:21]
Well, let’s play some words that really sort of emphasise is at this point in your life. And this is Jim Carrey,
Jim Carrey [22:28]
my father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job. And our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at what you don’t want. So you might as well take a chance on doing what you love
David Ralph [22:54]
isn’t about right for where you were at that time in your life.
Style Girlfriend [22:58]
Holy smokes, I feel like you talking to me that yeah, that’s absolutely how I felt I was actually just explaining to someone the other day. When talking about hiring on for this managing editor position. They This is this funny. Um, I actually I offered the role someone already and they turned me down, I don’t think they’ll do this. I think it’s okay to divulge here. It’s this great girl she was she’s one of my freelancers. She’s working at a job that she hates. She’s an amazing writer, she knows social, she would have been great in the role. And I offered her work I offered her you know, it would have been full time freelance, no benefits, but with equity. So I thought a pretty good deal. And she said, You know what, I just can’t leave the security of this job. And I, I said, right, you know, obviously respect your decision, I think, I think you’re making a mistake. And I will say that I think security comes from Jobs where you’re indispensable, and you would be indispensable to me, I, you know, whoever I’m going to be giving this role to they’re literally taking over the day to day of style or friends. So I can focus on bigger partnerships. And there’s a lot of security in that there’s a lot of security in my job because I can’t get fired. I’m doing this until I run it into the ground or sell it for, you know, $10 million. So there’s a lot of security in that. So yes, I absolutely agree with Carrey, I think the idea of sticking with something conservative, because it’s safe. It’s actually not as safe of a choice as people think it is. Especially I mean, especially today.
David Ralph [24:30]
Well, I think that’s absolute truth, isn’t it? More often than not, when I started my career back in? What 1985? You were probably, I don’t know, you probably weren’t even born in that state. But um, it was people used to say it’s a job for life. And you would go in there and you’d expect there to be 40 5060 years. And
Unknown Speaker [24:50]
David Ralph [24:51]
I remember in my heart of hearts thinking, even when I was walking up the steps to my first job, God, I don’t want to be here in 60 years. I don’t want to be here in six months. But it’s a job, I will just do it. And now those words and never phrased it. Nobody ever says it’s a job for life, people will go, it’s a job. And that’s it. And that’s the sad news. I heard something the other day, and it really kind of hit home. And somebody was saying that they they wrote a book. And it was the 10 excuses, or the 10 regrets that people have on their deathbed. And there was all these people dying. And this this, I don’t know how these Oprah did it. And he went round and said, Can I ask you some questions? And he asked him the questions and he compiled this list. And but number one regret that they had was about the lip somebody else’s life. They didn’t live to their passions. And that that’s terrifying to me. What do you think?
Style Girlfriend [25:49]
Oh, absolutely. I, it actually took me obviously took me a long time to come around to what it was that I really wanted to do. But I can pinpoint the exact moment that I I went off the rails and that was when I graduated from college, I had the opportunity to go work at that public affairs agency that I took the job at. But I was also offered a position in the NBC page programme. I don’t know if you ever watched 30 rock, but not all of it. Yeah, that Kenneth played, he was sort of helped out around the show. And it was, you know, he was already a young, impressionable guy who just, you know, wanted to help everybody and, you know, be there and in any way that he could, and it was actually it’s a very coveted position, I think that’s what maybe isn’t shown by the role, but it’s, it’s maybe I want to say it’s like 50 graduates every year get offered the role out of maybe 3000 4000 that apply. I mean, it’s it’s, it’s a an honour, you know, and I was lucky enough for, you know, impressed, I somehow impressed them enough to be offered the job. And I turned it down because it was, you know, very little money. And honestly, what I actually ended up making in my entry level job was not that much more. But I, I felt so strongly that I needed to be more safe. And I needed to be more secure, that I needed to have a job that wouldn’t necessarily, you know, the page programme was only a year long, and you weren’t guaranteed a job after that. And, and so I, I took the other role, and I, you know, I pretty immediately regretted it, and it, it felt like for a couple of years after that I really lost my way in terms of losing my nerve. And, you know, I was what 2324 25 years old saying, I guess I’ll just hate my job for the rest of my life. I guess that’s just what my life is going to be, I guess my life is going to exist outside of work. And and you think that that would be enough to jolt someone into changing, but it is a really strong pull this desire to be safe and this desire to have that security lent from your job. But when you really, you just have to think about it. I got laid off twice, when I was still working in advertising. I mean, it’s not safe. It’s not nothing was promised to you. So I had to learn my lesson the hard way.
David Ralph [28:06]
But but it’s kind of fascinating to me talking to you now that there is a connexion, you can join up your dots, you can see how the progression went. But even when your friend said you would you do this? Would you start writing about men’s fashion? There was still a part of you that kind of pushed back to it in it where you kind of went, No, hang on. I don’t actually know anything about this. This isn’t something I can do. Where would you do that now? Are you more ballsy in your choice? Are you a kind of screw it? Let’s do it kind of girl.
Style Girlfriend [28:42]
Absolutely. I think that you can only benefit from saying yes. You know, yes. And maybe we can do this too, or Yes. But let’s figure out a smarter way to you know, get from A to B. Absolutely. I mean, I think that the idea of turning things down because you don’t feel like you’re prepared or turning things down. Because it’s scary. That’s, you know, that’s not a good reason do the scary thing. The scary thing is going to be the most fun in the end.
David Ralph [29:08]
Have you seen that film The Yes, man with Jim Carrey?
Style Girlfriend [29:11]
know, what’s your obsession with Jim Carrey? It’s not that
David Ralph [29:15]
I had kind of no obsession. But there’s a couple of things that I really am inspired by one was that they will sort of comment I played earlier. But he made this film called The Yes, man. And it’s based on a book by an Englishman called Danny Collins, who decided for I think it was a six month project. But he would only say yes to things. And he would go into a pub. And somebody would say to him, for example, oh, we’ve got a party around the corner. Do you want to come? And where before he would have kind of gone? Now I’ve got to be up early in the morning. So I won’t. Next time be great, but not today? He would say yes. And he’d have to go to the party. And when he was in the party, somebody would say to him, oh, we’re flying out tomorrow to Greenland and on a wild trip. Come with us. Yes. Okay. And he was just seeing where he’s life when now Jim Carrey does a kind of Hollywood version of it. But it does emphasise what you were just saying that the only benefits come from saying yes. If you say no, you’re just where you are. Nothing has moved on at all. But yes, it’s kind of scary word, isn’t it? So many people fear yet, even though they naturally know that something is going to happen. whether it’s good or not, it’s still something that’s going to happen. Now, that invigorates me the thought of that now really excites me. But still, I will have that. That moment of almost saying no, instantly, because we’ve just programmed over all our life to do better way.
Style Girlfriend [30:46]
Of course, I mean, it’s easier to say no, and stay at home on your couch and watch Friday Night Lights on Netflix, but that doesn’t get you anywhere in life. So. So yeah, you’ve got to change your mindset. If you’re someone who immediately jumps to the negative or immediately jumps to the here’s why that won’t work. It’s so important. I mean, for entrepreneurs, but for everyone to really flip that switch and automatically say again, if not, Yes, right away. It’s a I think so how can we figure it out? Or I need more information? Can you tell me this? Yeah, to not just jump immediately to the No, it’s? I mean, it’s vital.
David Ralph [31:25]
Is it easy to do that when you surround yourself with quote, unquote, movers and shakers, because once you get to a certain level success does come towards you, and you surround yourself with people who are equally as successful? And so they are equally likely to say yes to opportunities. Does that make it easier for you to do that?
Style Girlfriend [31:47]
Absolutely. I think as you get older, your social circle, maybe naturally, titans of it, but I think, especially when you’re an entrepreneur, because I mean, I find this day in and day out that I really can’t stand talking to people who just want to complain about their job. And I am here to tell you, David, that that’s all I did. When I worked in advertising, I would just meet up with my advertising friends, and we would just complain about how shitty our day was. And, and how boring is that. So now that I’m doing something I love, even if I’m, you know, thing, I don’t really frustrating day, this thing happened with this client. And I couldn’t figure this out. And I’m trying to, you know, learn how to be a better manager to my, you know, freelance, or whoever it is, that’s, you know, so preferable to, and then my boss said this, and then this meeting happened around and around. So I find that, you know, whether intentionally or not, or aggressively or not, maybe my social circle is definitely dwindled to those people who care just just as much about their careers as I do. And, and you know, who I can brainstorm with and who doesn’t mind if I talk about work the whole time, because talking about work is exciting, because exciting things are happening in our work. So yes, I think, you know, like, eventually finds like when it comes to who you want to spend your your free time with, because especially for entrepreneurs, you don’t have that much like that whole work life balance thing, it doesn’t totally exist, which for me is fine. Because again, I love what I do. So I I’m happy to do it as much as I have to to be successful. And you know, so it does blur those lines, you know, you’re talking about work, when you’re getting a drink, you’re talking about work when you’re at the gym. And then and you’re at the gym at two in the afternoon, because you’re setting your own schedule, whatever it is, I mean, it’s just, it’s a very different lifestyle than people that have stayed in the in the corporate world.
David Ralph [33:40]
I went to a reunion recently, and I left my company just over a year and a half ago. And when I was there, I used to go out for a drink on a Friday evening. And you would surround yourself with people moaning and groaning about work. And I left. And since that time, I’ve just been surrounded by people, people that are inspired by life and sort of energised and loving what they’re doing. And I went back to this reunion. And the amazing thing was in a year and a half, I couldn’t remember the names of anyone, it was just totally gone from my head. So I spent a lot of time calling people, buddy and stuff. But the same conversations were exactly the same as a year and a half before the same people are moaning about the same things. And I put my god, how many Fridays Have you had, but you’ve done the same thing gone to a pub moaned about it, but just haven’t taken the action to think it’s up to me to make my life happy. Simple as bad. And it really hit home. And afterwards, I went home and my wife said to me do Geminis time I went Yes, I did. It was nice to see them. But bloody hell, the conversations were boring. Every time I went around, people were just moaning and groaning about their situation. And I couldn’t see. But ultimately, it’s them that’s putting themselves in that situation. It’s very good. I’m getting a bit 20. Now, Megan, but it’s been that one job, and I go to the interview, and I do their best, and they get the job. And then they spend the next three weeks saying to people, I’ve got a new job, it’s going to be brilliant, why you take that action to get into the thing, but they don’t take the action to take themselves out. And it really struck me.
Style Girlfriend [35:19]
You know, something I’ve realised is that some people have jobs. And some people have careers. And both are fine. My best friend in the entire world, she and I could not be more different. She works as a receptionist at a pharmaceutical company out in San Diego. And her life does not revolve around 830 in the morning to 530 at night. It’s what happens outside of work. She’s a triathlete. She’s planning her wedding, she has a huge group of friends and lots of social activities. And she does she does not complain about work. She never is mumbling and grumbling about, you know, the copier was broken, like nothing. She’s just talking, you know, she’ll talk to me about what’s going on outside of work. So for her, she has a job. It’s not a career, it’s nothing she feels passionate about. But she also doesn’t. Joseph doesn’t complain. And I think that that’s what’s really important. I, you know, for a while I got a little like, once I left the corporate world and struck out on my own, I got a little jumpy for a while about like, why wouldn’t everyone do this, this is so much better. And what I you know, came to realise is that there are people that are simply better suited to working for someone else. And you know, punching the clock, I guess for lack of a better term. But again, just be happy about it. Like if that’s the choice you make if your life takes place outside of work, then great, but you know, be satisfied with it. Because Yeah, I can’t stand when people complain about their situation like no one is changing you to your desk, like get either get a new job, get a new plans for the office, like whatever it is just change your situations. I don’t have to hear you whining anymore. That’s that’s really what it comes down to do whatever you want. Just be happy about it.
David Ralph [37:01]
I love that phrase. I got a bit GLG Yes, I know exactly what you mean by that.
Unknown Speaker [37:08]
I’m better now. Now you
David Ralph [37:10]
had not you just hide it better deep down you. Because it because that’s one of the things that really I have to hold back from because when I when I do in that reunion, for example. Because I’m so passionate about what I’m doing, I kind of wanted to say to people come on, come on. But they don’t want to hear that. They don’t want to hear me saying, you know, get off your ass and do something about it. Because that’s not where they are at that time. But when it is the right time, when you know it’s the right time, isn’t it when you’re suddenly a Cold Spring and you can’t get enough of it? And you can’t, you know, I am totally unemployable. Now, I don’t think I could ever go back to work for somebody, I just just couldn’t do it. And as from the moment I sat at my desk at eight o’clock, I would be thinking, why the hell am I being told to sit here at eight o’clock, I don’t want to sit here till 10 o’clock. And it that kind of vibe. And once you get that, as you were saying going to the gym in the afternoon at two o’clock, it’s very difficult to give it up, would you be able to go back and be an employee again?
Style Girlfriend [38:11]
Oh, absolutely not, I, I call it being the master of my own domain to pull it, quote and completely turn it on its head, I think it’s really important that I’m productive when I feel the most productive. And it does it, it made me realise immediately, again, once I left the corporate world, how silly it was that someone else dictated when I was the most productive. So yeah, the idea that I can get up at 530 in the morning and work for a few hours and then go grocery shopping, and then work for a couple more hours and then go run some errands and then go, you know, do everything on my own schedule, I could never give that up at this point.
David Ralph [38:52]
When are you most productive.
Style Girlfriend [38:56]
I work really well in the mornings. And then I work really well at night. So I get a lot done between Yeah, between 530 or six in the morning and maybe 10 or 11. And then I can’t I can’t do anything that requires brainpower from about three to five. So that’s my generally my time for you know, if I have to take a meeting like I’m interviewing someone or if I’m just meeting up for coffee with a you know, a brands PR person that wants to talk to me, that’s when I do that stuff, or you know, the the mindless errands. And then as long as I don’t have an event that night or anything like that, I probably pick back up work around seven or eight, and maybe I’ll work till 10. And then and then I do what I want. So it’s not conventional, certainly, but at least for now it works for me,
David Ralph [39:44]
because I kind of start at about six in the morning. And I work through till 12. And then I might have 15 minute break, and then I will work through till about 910 o’clock at night. And I do huge long days. And my plan is on gonna do it all in one day. And the next day, I’m gonna have my own time and do things. And when I wake up in the morning, and I think, oh, now I’m gonna do some work. And I kind of do that again. And I haven’t broken free from that, where every day, I love doing it so much. So I’m doing these incredibly long days. And one of the only drawback about being entrepreneurial, and I don’t know, if you find this in your life, is I have the time freedom to choose when I do it. But none of my mates have they go to work. So if I suddenly say, Oh, I’m going to give myself the afternoon off, I’m on my own. And that’s that’s the one drawback I can see that my my circle of friends haven’t bought into to the the myth that I’m trying to create that you can actually have your cake and eat it, they still go off to work and they come home in the evenings. So um, do you somebody that you could find somebody at two o’clock in the afternoon and go fancy going to the gym and you’ve got someone? Or is it like that you you do it on your own?
Style Girlfriend [41:00]
About half and a half. I mean, I am lucky that I
I have found those friends and that support system here that are, you know, not doing the same thing as me but living a similar lifestyle. And that’s, that’s been great. I think the only drawback as I see it is that when I visit my family, my family lives in Wisconsin, I’m so lucky. They’re literally all there. You know, my sister, my brother, my sister, and sisters, kids and my aunt, my grandma, like everybody’s there. And when I go to visit, they don’t always understand that, Hey, guys, I’m going to work for a couple hours in the morning by myself. And then I’ll come and take the kids to the zoo. You know, they don’t necessarily understand that. Well, but you’re here and you’re you’re on vacation. I’m like, I’m never on vacation. I’m literally never on vacation. And hopefully in a few years, I will get to a place where I can take my fingerprints off of my business for whole days at a time. But I’m not there yet. And that’s, I think what they don’t get is, first of all with us. Fact and second with an outline that that I again that I love what I do. So it’s fine. If I have to work for a few hours when I you know, could be watching Sesame Street, maybe she’s like, it’s okay, that’s fine. So I think just having to explain it to people can be a little bit challenging sometimes. But we’re also on conversely that you know, if you do decide to go see a movie at two in the afternoon that you’re not playing hooky, like, you know, I was up and working before you were awake today. So yeah, it’s all right. So yeah, it kind of works both ways. So so what
David Ralph [42:33]
what does your mom and dad say that you do if one of your friends comes along and says, you know, how’s Megan? Well, what does she think that you’re doing for a living? Can I can I explain it because that’s one of the things that entrepreneurs have a trouble on, especially the online ones actually explain how they do the job.
Style Girlfriend [42:51]
They’re not great at it, they love me to death. And they’re so supportive. And I feel really lucky about that my father is a lawyer, but he left his firm when we were all really little. And he started up his own firm. So it’s not something that I really appreciate it until I struck out on my own, but I definitely have that entrepreneurial blood in me because of him. So even if they don’t totally get it, they’re very supportive of it. And they just want to see me do well. And, you know, they were concerned about all the things that parents should be concerned about, are you going to be okay? Are you going to be able to keep a roof over your head, and as they’ve seen me have these opportunities, you know, partnering with brands and meeting, you know, meeting readers face with it, you know, having readers come up to me, and when I’m walking through the mall, or whatever it is and introduce themselves. They they get it more now. So I don’t think they’re worried about me anymore. But they Yeah, they still have a hard time putting me in the Christmas letter and knowing what to say. So so
David Ralph [43:49]
you do you actually have a level of fame now attached to your to your platform, your your star girlfriend?
Style Girlfriend [43:56]
You know, it’s interesting. Just recently, yes. And I think that’s because just recently I felt more comfortable with considering myself the face of the brand. And I think I pushed it off for a long time because I said no, I’m a writer, I’m, you know, I’m running this site, and that it’s about the site, it’s about the words, it’s not about my face. But at the end of the day, this is about providing a female perspective and showing, you know that I am sort of a normal girl next door girl you can see at the end of the bar, female presence is is actually very helpful to remind readers, you know, just to make sure that they don’t think they’re getting cat fished, and I’m some 400 pound, you know, 40 year old living in his mom’s basement. Yes, it is important for me out there. So when I finally realised that and started, you know, doing more video content, putting up more more personal images on social media that definitely help to, to get both my brand and, you know, subsequently my face out there. And it’s been good. I mean, it’s been good for the site. So I still feel a little bit gross about it from time to time, I think a lot of you know, fashion bloggers, which you can’t see but I just putting quotes out there that that’s literally what they get by on is their faces their brand in this, you know, major way like literally their site is just pictures of them day in day out what they’re wearing, what they’re eating, what their whatever. And that’s not what’s our girlfriend is our friend is you know, lifestyle resource site. It’s, you know, you come and you get advice on how to buy a suit, you’re not getting pictures of me wearing a blazer and saying, Don’t you like this blazer? Me so it was something that I had to get to a comfort level with. And just not feel totally obnoxious. But as long as I can fit it in organically and say hey, here’s how I would wear a chelsea boots. How would you wear a chelsea boots, then? Then it makes more sense.
David Ralph [45:56]
So so you’re you’re really are finally embracing who you are. But the identity of the programme. And yourself is so intertwined that both should be shown.
Style Girlfriend [46:09]
Yes, absolutely. And I, I do like, I don’t know why it took me so long. Just like I don’t know why it took me so long to leave advertising. Of course, that makes sense that readers would want to know who’s giving them this advice. So I, you know, sure, I wish I could have started a bit sooner. But yes, I’m very comfortable embracing the fact that you know, I am the style girlfriend as it were.
David Ralph [46:34]
But we’ve been talking about your journey all the way through and the the dots that have joined up, I’m going to play the words that make this show possible. And these are the words that Steve Jobs said back in 2005. And I always like to ask all the guests whether they have resonance to you personally. So basis, Steve Jobs,
Steve Jobs [46:52]
of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college. But it was very, very clear looking backwards. 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path. And that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [47:28]
Did I make all the difference to you what he’s saying?
Style Girlfriend [47:31]
Oh, wow, absolutely. I mean, we spoke earlier about my very first decision out of college was a bad one. And I knew in my gut, it was a bad one. And I just overrode that I just steamrolled right past, you know, my heart and my gut saying No, man, you’re going to be miserable. And I said, but I’ll be secure. And I’ll have $500 and a 401k by the end of this. So yes, I the idea that you have to trust your gut and that you have to be okay with maybe just seeing the first step of a staircase. Absolutely. I mean, I could never have predicted that Salvadoran would be what I was doing today. But absolutely. Looking back, I can see how everything led to this.
David Ralph [48:17]
How far up the staircase, are you now because when you when you start building something, you you build it to a certain point, and then it starts taking on a life of its own and many starts branching out. Because talking to you, I think, Well, you’d be perfect to do TV and radio. And it can literally go anywhere, can it’s darker girlfriend, even though the name is two words. But that is so powerful. That’s my perfect branding. So how far up the staircase do you think you are to where this could go?
Style Girlfriend [48:46]
I mean, I’m on I’m on the first landing. I’m not even to the first floor yet. It’s this is the part where you know, you take your shoes off, if it’s muddy out. This is not far at all. And I and I’m fine with that. And I think that that’s what I feel so different from my previous career as I I was so aware of the ladder, and you know, so I want to say intimidated by it. But I didn’t I don’t want to keep climbing it. So the idea that I’m looking up this very steep staircase, and I’m like, yeah, let’s lace up my running shoes. Like that’s great. I, I don’t mind that I feel like I have so far to go because it’s exciting. That means that there’s there’s so much opportunity in this business. And I want to, I mean, everything you mentioned, I want to tackle all of that. So, you know, it’s not even a staircase at the treadmill. I’m just going to keep going as long as all that me
David Ralph [49:38]
and we want you to keep going just before I send you back in time on the Sermon on the mic, and I’m looking at the word Steve McQueen again at a 70s and I’m not going to sort of reflect on the he’s bad fashion sense because really, he’s he’s, he’s lost. He’s got
Style Girlfriend [49:52]
he’s got no really hurting my credibility.
David Ralph [49:59]
Who is in today’s day and age into a movie stars, but has got the Steve McQueen fashion sense second pro on anything and look corn charismatic?
Style Girlfriend [50:11]
Oh, wow. That’s a great question.
Who’s the Steve McQueen of today? Gosh, maybe. I mean, it sounds cliche, but Ryan Gosling knows how to wear a suit. He knows how to wear the heck out of a suit. And he knows how to dress down as well. Any I think that he sort of harkens back to that idea of a man being a man as it were, you know, you can write you a love letter, and you can change your tires. So I think that that’s important to women. I think that this idea that guys are wearing jeans skinnier than then you know I would be is disheartening. So I think he lends to that notion of, of old Hollywood glamour of back when, yeah, back when a guy could kind of sweep you up in his arms. And you know what woman doesn’t want that?
David Ralph [50:58]
So he said, Can you thing that men need to be able to dress up and dress it down? Because I was thinking, you know, George Clooney, but then when you said about jeans and stuff, I thought now I can’t imagine him in jeans. He’s always like, suits and things. So is it? Is it that fashion sense of both directions?
Style Girlfriend [51:18]
Absolutely. I mean, with the the casual thing of the workplace, it’s become so much more important to know how to wear, you know, a, you know, khaki pants and a blazer, just as it’s important to know how to wear a navy suit with a crisp white shirt and a dark ties. So if not more, so I would argue I mean, I have new readers that challenge me on the site and say, What do I even need a suit for? I’m like, Oh, you need a suit, like, someone’s either going to die or get married. And you do not want to be finding yourself, you know, hustling to the department store to get something off the rack that probably won’t fit and you don’t have time to tailor. So yes, you need a suit at home. So yeah, I actually think that that can be more intimidating to guys than a stupid, at least with a suit, you sort of know what to expect. But the idea of layering the idea of a slim straight leg and getting you know the break taken out of your pants and knowing what shoes to wear with this type of pant versus that type of pant. That’s what guys have to kind of figure out and that’s what salad gryphons for is, is helping you figure out how to create a wardrobe that that you feel comfortable in and look stylish wearing. So yes, I think it’s actually perhaps surprisingly enough. It’s the casual wear that I think trips people up more than anything. So that’s what they need the most support on?
David Ralph [52:36]
Well, I can honestly say over you haven’t been happy with my Steve McQueen comments, I spent quite a bit of time looking over your site, and it was the first sight. But the majority, I would say about 95% of the stuff that you was advising to Well, I actually looked them for. Yeah, that looks pretty good. I could see myself wearing that if it wasn’t weird fashion. And that’s my question with fashion sites, you look at the stuff and you think who would really wear that down the street, but you’ve got a common sense approach, haven’t you? It’s it’s stuff that is classy, it’s fashionable, it’s practical. And a lot of it wasn’t overly expensive as well, I was very impressed by and as a sort of middle aged married man who pretty much wears the same thing every single day, I looked at that and thought, this is the site for me, I have found style girlfriend.
Style Girlfriend [53:26]
Oh my gosh, I love hearing that. I mean, you nailed it in terms of who the reader is, and what he can get out of the site. The whole premise of our friend is that intention really changes experience. So when you think about what you want to put on each morning, and when you put it on and actually feel like a million bucks wearing it, you approach your day so differently than, you know, if you’re pulling something off the floor or pulling something out of a dark closet and just saying it you you know you, you just act differently. When you walk out of the door feeling really great about your outfit, you hold your shoulders back, you hold your head high smile at strangers on the street, and it is something that I think women intrinsically understand. at a younger age than men, I you know, a girl will put on her junior prom dress, and feel like a princess and be like, Oh, this is what it feels like when you dress up. And you know, you don’t have to wear a ball gown every day. And you don’t have to wear a tuxedo every day. But you should be wearing something that fits you well that flatters your shape that makes you feel handsome, why wouldn’t you want to feel handsome every day. So the idea that that’s accessible to everyone is really the point that I’m trying to get across. And in terms of price point. You know, I hear from a lot of readers that you know, I subscribe to GQ, I subscribed to Esquire, but I’m coming to style girlfriend for actual advice on what to buy. And I totally get that I shop. Am I gonna butcher this I shop on the high street. Like I shop it, regular stores, I’m not shopping at product and Gucci and Chanel, I’m shopping at Zara and banana republic and gap. And I think that most of my readers are too and I think that where a lot of men’s magazines go wrong is that they assume that guys eventually want to price up to product and Chanel and not Chanel, but Gucci and wherever else when, you know, for me, the aspirational shopping experience to me would not to go directly for the discount and the clearance bins at say j crew like that is my aspiration like, someday I’ll just pay retail A j crew and I’ll be living the life. Like that would be great. So the idea that it’s okay to say stick at a more accessible price point. I think that there’s some really powerful in that. And again, for whatever reason, other men’s websites, other men’s or magazines haven’t really acknowledged that or discovered that or, you know, maybe they just want their reader to be somebody else. But I think there’s a lot more guys out there that are shopping the way I’m shopping and shopping at the store as I’m shopping at so wouldn’t I give them those recommendations rather than the ones that I can’t even afford? That doesn’t make any sense?
David Ralph [56:05]
Absolutely. I think the key thing that spoke to me is you can look a million dollars, but not have to spend a million dollars. And that was the difference. And I looked at loads of these sort of jumpers and things he was showing. And I thought that’s not a bad price. That’s not a bad price. And I never do that. I always kind of look at it and say I’m not paying that. Now, why would I pay back when I’ve got something in my cupboard? You might be six years old. But that does that does me. But um, yeah, it was the first time but I actually flicked around it for quite a while. And I found myself shopping and I just don’t do that. So credit to you, you created something that is, I totally believe is going to get bigger and bigger and bigger because you are providing what they the normal man wants. He wants simple advice. He wants ease. And he wants ideas given to him. And I think you’ve done it.
Unknown Speaker [56:53]
Thank you. Yeah, I’m going to quote you on that.
David Ralph [56:55]
You you quoted you can say the the host of Join Up Dots. He’s Look at me. Look at million dollars. From now on, I’ll take a photo of myself wearing my best clothes, branded my style girlfriend at the bottom? Well, we see end of the show. And this is the part when I send you back in time Megan to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time and speak to the young Megan, what age would you choose? And what advice would you give when I’m going to play the theme tune and when it fades? You’re up? This is the Sermon on the mic.
Style Girlfriend [57:51]
Megan, it’s Megan, don’t be scared. I’m here to help. I hope my hair looks better than it did when I’m talking to you. I chose to speak to you at your second job out of school. I figured that if I tried to stop you from making a decision about choosing a exciting but perhaps a little bit less secure job over the really safe secure career arc advertising job that I know you’re planning to take. I just don’t think you would have listened. I think you just said Megan, appreciate you stopping by their Get out of here. I want to 401k. So I’m talking to you after you’ve been you know what, you’ve been beat down a little bit your spirits a little bit broken. And that’s why I think that I can get to you. And now you do not love your job. And you don’t even have a career. And that’s all you’ve ever wanted. So why are we still here? Now you don’t have a good answer. I just have three things to share with you. And I hope that you take it
in the spirit of love that is offered.
The first is do it now. Really think it’s time for you to make a big change. I think that you need to get out of public relations out of Public Affairs out of advertising. This isn’t something you feel passionate about. You’re good at it, but you’re never going to be as good at it as someone who actually, to be frank gives a shit. You’re never as good as those people. So you like to be the best, you’re never going to be the best of this. The second thing I would say is to say yes, I want you to say yes to everything that comes your way. Even if it’s scary, even if you don’t think that you’re equipped to handle it, you’ll find a way You’re a smart girl, you can ask for help. And you know what, at the end of the day, that’s what Google’s for. So if it’s in a freelance writing assignment on alpaca wool or fireman’s benefits, or Indian rounds, just take it, you’ll figure it out. And the last thing I would say, and this is probably the hardest one, and it’s still a talk that I give to myself in the mirror even today is I’m pretty we want you to enjoy the journey. It’s so easy to look ahead of you and say, well, when this happens, I’ll be happy. Or when I’m at this point in my career, I’ll feel really satisfied and be able to sit back and appreciate it. You’re just someone who that’s tough for you are not good at sticking in the present moment. But I really would encourage you to, to work on that. Because it’s all really fun. Even the hard parts, even the scary parts, even the parts where you’re learning a lesson because you totally act up. That’s something to appreciate, and you’ll be able to laugh later. So enjoy the journey. Say yes. And do it now. And please go get a haircut.
David Ralph [1:00:45]
Megan, how can our audience connect with you?
Style Girlfriend [1:00:49]
They can find me at style girlfriend calm on the web. And they can also find me on social media, you know, Facebook, at style girlfriend and on Twitter and Instagram. My handle is stuff jF
David Ralph [1:01:01]
we will have links in the show notes. Megan, thank you so much for spending time with us today joining those dots. And please come back when you have more dots to join up. Because I do believe that by joining up the dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures. Megan Collins, thank you so much.
Style Girlfriend [1:01:18]
Thanks for having me, David.
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