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Introducing When Your Dream Job Disappoints
When your dream job disappoints is an issue that can cause great distress in your life.
You go for the dream that you think is going to make your own life wonderful and after awhile it seems less than great.
But what causes this to happen after you put in so much effort to get to where you are.
Well when your dream job disappoints it’s more often than not that it either doesn’t match up to what you thought it would be about.
Or it just becomes normal, and as we all know normal stuff doesn’t seem sexy and glamorous.
It is just normal stuff that we have to do to go and pay the bills.
We lose track of the reasons why we wanted to do it in the first place, and that is when your dream job disappoints.
So lets start by looking at email that we received that made us look at this subject in today’s podcast episode
Dear David, i saw a link you put on Linkedin talking about why do people go for the dream job anymore…would you mind expanding on this?
You encouraged me to start my own nursery child minding job and i love every second.
I am slightly surprised that you are now changing direction
So now let’s look at the Linkedin post:
Being honest you see a load of inspiration on Linkedin that in my view misses the point totally.
Everyone talks about getting “The Dream Job” all the time, and find your passion and you never work again.
But does anyone really want a dream job at all?
Doesn’t everyone simply want a life that they can do what they want when they want and forget the job?
Why is everyone so hung up on finding the dream job?
Do what you have to do to earn the cash and then LIVE the dream instead.
In the todays podcast episode When Your Dream Job Disappoints – we of course break down the subject in the only way we know.
Honesty all the way.
So what do you think about the subject When Your Dream Job Disappoints?
Should we care at all, or just be glad that we are in a job?
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Interview Transcription Of When Your Dream Job Disappoints
David Ralph [0:01]
Once upon a time, there was a guy with a dream, a dream to quit his job support himself online and have a kick ass life. Little did he know that dream would lead him into a world of struggle, burnout and debt, until he found the magic ingredient and no struggles became a thing of the past. I of course, was that person. And now My dream is to make things happen for you. Welcome to Join Up Dots.
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling in Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK. David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:52]
Yes, hello there. Good morning, everybody. Good morning and welcome to a Join Up Dots is a Join Up Dots hit Halfway through January, the sun is shining. And, and to be honest, I would do anything rather than this at the moment. It’s one of those things, and this is what I’m going to talk about. Because it’s when you create a job that looks sexy for a certain point of time, after a while, it stops becoming sexy. And you, you, you change, and you realise that the motivation to do something isn’t quite as strong as it was previously. And I’m going to explain about that. Because I think so many of us go into jobs, and we are brilliant. They’ve got this new job. It’s fantastic. Yeah, and I’m really inspired. And then after a while, you kind of hit or, you know, it’s not as good as I thought it was, and then afterwards, and that’s called normalcy that is no more see where it becomes normal. And then when you’re normal is a lot sexier than other people’s, it stops being sexy. So you see these people all the time, you know, living these amazing lives and when you speak to them, they seem really sort of bored. with it because it’s just become their normal. And so today, today, my young friends, yeah, I could be doing anything other than this, but I’m doing it because I it’s my job. And that’s what we have to do. And it’s gonna lead into a link that I put on to
a post I put onto LinkedIn. Let’s get it straight David. And a response that I had from a lovely lady that I knew a couple of years ago, Claire Morgan, Claire Morgan, and so it’s all going to come together. But before we start before we start I just want to say thank you to pre guys I spent all weekend with and why we’re Ben David and Pete Pete from Sutton Coldfield. Ben from I think it was was door glass door somewhere. And David was all the way down in Adelaide, Australia and they connected with me for my two day podcast course and we sat there tend to form really tend to to both days going through what makes a podcast Six Figure event. And I think I think they were blown away. To be honest, when I spent all my time saying to people, the success of a podcast is nothing to do with the recording and the microphone, and people still don’t get back. But I sat with David and Pete and Ben. And hopefully guys, hopefully, we’re going to see some big profits coming into your life because it’s better for you. And now you know how to do it. You go ahead. So that was brilliant. Really enjoyed that. Also, I’d like to say thank you to Dan, who actually visited the Join Up Dots, HQ, yes. He’s come up into the office on Monday evening. And he was a guy that I trained on online businesses, probably about six months, eight months here ago, whatever. And he’s still getting ideas coming to him all the time thinking should I do this? Should I do that? So I sat with him and I said to him, let you know how to do it. Up to you, you know exactly how to do it. And I sketch this stuff out on a bit of paper for him. And you could see a penny dropped, a penny dropped. And he suddenly realised that making a living online isn’t hard. It’s really, really easy. And I’m going to say it again. Because I say all the time and fingers crossed, people are going to get this. You find the value that other people want. And then you give it to them. You make them see that value, and then they pay for it. And it’s really, really easy and everyone who sort of come through my coaching, they get that they get that and if I haven’t quite got it, there comes a moment when they can see it. And then I go oh my god, yeah, there’s opportunities everywhere. So Dan visited Join Up Dots Hq and he met my my silane my daughter and he came in my house. I mean, he went down to the pub and met my wife. I gave them the Join Up Dots tour. And proven night I could just see he wasn’t quite with me. He was We’ve made but he’s brain had already switched because I think he’s now got it. He can now see how easy it is to make money online. So Dan, I salute you, sir. You are not only a sexy individual, but you are now Yo Yo Mama, I will be absolutely honest. You’re my mate. And I want to see you do as well as possible. Okay, so let’s get on to today’s podcast episode. And this, this was an email, I was thinking to myself, what should I talk about? And then I received an email this morning, and if that makes sense. So this was the email database, I saw a link you put on LinkedIn talking about why do people go for the dream job anymore? Would you mind expanding on this? You encouraged me to start my own nursery childminding job and I love every second I’m slightly surprised that you are now changing direction Claire Morgan. And so the list expand on my my thinking I speak to so many people, okay. And they are hung up on the, I want to do something amazing, I want to do something sexy, I want to go for the dream. And I understand but I really do understand that. But over the last few years of talking to literally hundreds of you, and now realising that very few actually then go for the dream. It’s because it’s too big. Now, I’ve started thinking over a period of time, but and this is comes with the motivation of doing Join Up Dots as well because because I do so well financially, there’s a part of me that things I don’t really want to do anything else, you know, I’m quite happy to float around, especially when it gets sunny. Find other things to do. Van do my dream job and I’m doing business with my fingers my dream job because people always say to me, oh, it must be amazing and it is. It really is amazing. But I can find out the things to do. And I’ve started to wonder and I’d love you to drop me a line or come over to Join Up Dots, whatever. And tell me your point of view on this, because I’m starting to think that the dream job isn’t important. But it is having the dream life. You know, does anybody really want a job? A job is something that you have to do to pay the bills. But if you can pay the bills easily, then why would you worry about the dream job, you’d fill your time up with doing things that you want to do? You know, I love getting in the car driving along with the music on exploring places going for a pub lunch, just sort of just wandering around, really, you know, I just love that a little bit of adventure every now and again. And this month, we’re going away for a couple of nights with some friends. And then next month, I’m going to Iceland for about a week. And then on in April, we got something else and I just spend all my time planning to do things away from the job because I now can and I’m just thinking about it all the time. So I put this post up on LinkedIn, and it said, Would love to know your comments being honest, you see a load of inspiration on LinkedIn that in my view misses the point totally. Everyone talks about getting the dream job all the time and find your passion, then you never work again, find your passion. But does anyone really want a dream job at all? Doesn’t everyone simply want a life but they can do what they want, when they want, and actually get the job? Why is everyone so hung up on finding the dream job, do what you have to do to earn a cash and then live the dream instead? And so, I keep on talking to people and I say to them, Look, it doesn’t matter about the big sexy being let’s do a few small things. Let’s be pragmatic on it, to pay your bills, get your debts down and give you the free time to then go and do other stuff. And once you start learning income streams, you can just do more and more and more, you know, I could literally do 100 A week really, and I don’t because you get to a point, you know, when you do get lazy and you think to yourself, I can’t really be bothered. But then people come along to me and they go, why aren’t you doing more with this? I go, I’m doing. Ready. I can’t be bothered, really. But there is so many opportunities out there. Why don’t we just learn how to make money online? Simple as that. And so when you think to yourself, or I need to pay my mortgage off, just being like, okay, let’s create the value for paying the mortgage off. And it’s quite easy. I say the word easy again, because if you think to yourself, Well, I make 30 pounds a day. Now 30 pounds a day, 600 pounds a month, 900 pounds a month. Okay? So you are literally biting into quite a hefty chunk of a mortgage. Now, I think in the United Kingdom, most most mortgages around sort of 900 1200 pounds or whatever. But if you suddenly I’m making 30 pounds, which isn’t life changing, but it is constant every single De Vayne you pay your mortgage up really, really quickly, you’ve been suddenly got 1000 pounds a month or 900 pounds a month, but you didn’t have which you can then pay off our debts. So you only need to get that small pragmatically built, income stream coming through. And what I like doing is creating leads for other people’s businesses. So when you drive down the high street, when you drive anywhere on Earth, you will see businesses that are reliant on other people’s customers. So when you know how to do online traffic generation, all you’ve got to do is actually pass that traffic to them and say, if 10% of our 10 pound for every lead or whatever, and monitor it. And once you get it going, you don’t even have to monitor it yourself. And I’m going to keep on banging on about this. I really am because you don’t actually have to be doing the work. You build the thing. Then once he starts flowing, you then build another one and you move on, you know, I am doing, I’ve got five or six things at the moment, operating, and some of them are barely very small and they only pay me back maybe, you know, 80 pounds a month, whatever. But 80 pounds a month suddenly means but, you know, my phone is paid for, or my mobile phones or my kids have or whatever, you know, it’s somebody else’s money that comes in, which means I’ve been got an extra 80 quid to Ben spend on something else. And that’s how it builds, you end up paying for all your debts based on other people’s money. Yeah, it’s not your money. You just look at it and think, okay, I want 600 pounds a month extra? How do I get this? Right? What I need to do is get 20 pounds a day. How do I do that? And I think the quickest way, as I say is to drive leads into other people’s businesses, and there’s hundreds of them, you know, 7.8 billion people on the planet and you can just keep on doing it. Doing it doing, it’s what I teach. It’s what Do and everybody out there who’s been for my coaching will now know, they get that Penny drop moment, but I realised that opportunities are everywhere. So yeah, I put that post on. Why is everybody so hung up on finding the dream? Because I now think, is it the dream job that you want? Or do you want the dream life? You know, if somebody said to you, there’s 3000 pounds a month, don’t do anything. would you go? Oh, no, no, I still need to get the dream job. I don’t think you would. And so there’s so many posts on LinkedIn, so many posts on Facebook and stuff, and I just looking at them and I’m thinking, I think they’re missing the point. I think people I think that ultimately, we’re all lazy. You know, even the ones that are hard working and I work harder than most people. I think we still push comes to shove. We would love to do something that we want to do it in our own time and create like maybe a dream hobby. That takes out tonight. We’re not forced on monetizing it, but it gives us the engine Women and we wake up each morning and do it, you know, Join Up Dots. When I’m doing it, I love it. But Join Up Dots is the lead generation Join Up Dots and I speak people across the world connect with me, I’ve been speak to them. Some of them I never see again, some of them. I was talking to this person during the week. I won’t say any names, I won’t say any genders. But I gave him an hour. So of my time they came through by email, and then I sent a nice email back and I said, you know, if you ever need to talk, you know, just drop me a line. And I had nothing to do that time. So they did. And so I connected in zoom, and they were across the world. And I gave him about an hour of my time. And it was all thank you so much, David, thank you so much for you know, your help and your assistance. I said no problem at all. You know, that’s what I do. That’s what I do. You know, that’s I’m here. And I said, I’d really like to get onto one of your courses. Could you send me the invoice and I’ll sign up for it. And then finally, if that’s what you want, so anyhow, send the invoice down. And then about two days later, I get the most horrible email Back from this person, just you know, just, I won’t say the words, but if you imagine the worst words that you can think of directed at me, and I just went back to him and said, well, thank you for your understanding. And we’re obviously not a fit, you know, but you get that sometimes she gets some people talk about, but the majority of people that come through, I am about Penny drop moment when you see them go, yes. Okay, I can see what you’re saying. This is how we do it. So for all of you out there, oh, I’ve had a response actually, about this LinkedIn post. And I’ve just seen this. This is Robert load or low day, and he’s a gentleman in I think, Berlin, in Germany, but I was connected to God. He says two years ago, I’d be surprised if it was two years ago. And he says, David, in regards to your post here, I remember that you gave me the last push I needed for starting my coaching business two years ago. So I followed my dream and so far, it is still my dream job. I can help people and do what I’m good at, and all that without getting totally stressed out. So thanks again for your support. So that’s great. So Robert, you know, he has found a dream job. And he’s been doing it for two years. But I think there will come a time where but but it’s not the dream anymore. And that’s because you’ve grown, you’ve, you’ve moved into bigger things, and your vision is different. And you realise that what interests you, you know, when I was five years old, you know, I used to want to dress up like naughty and do jigsaw puzzles all the time. Now, I like to do jigsaw puzzles, but don’t often dress up like naughty, we change we move. And if we were the same people, as when we first met, and when you see people split up and I go, Oh, you’ve changed and you’ve been a cause of bloody change. You know, I’ve been with you for 30 years. You’ve got to change. You’ve got to move on and you’ve got to reassess what you’re doing in life. And I’m just in that stage at the moment of reassessing what I’m doing because I think I’m here to make a difference from you guys. And if we’re aiming for the bar to be too high, but you can Can’t see the dream because you don’t know yourself well enough. Why don’t we just get you earning some money and then, you know, walk around on a beach on a Tuesday morning? Yeah, do it that way and they maybe the dream will come later. You’ve taken that pressure off and you can move into into pasties new huh. I wonder, I wonder if this is the right direction I feel like it is and that’s why I say these things on the podcast to get people thinking and stuff. But um, yeah, so you know, if anybody wants to connect with me or drop me an email or whatever, you’re listening to these podcasts and you’re thinking, Oh, you know, I’d like to do this or maybe I don’t want to do bass or you want to do you know, learn how to podcast or whatever you want to do or just say hello, just drop me a line. Join Up email@example.com or you can book a time and I’ll speak to you one to one and we’ll see each other and we’ll try and reach out and touch until you become like Dan, when you can come into my office. And he said to me people say it’s a shade. This isn’t a shade. I said no Dan, I know is not a shade. I know it’s not a shirt. And when he bought me a lovely pint and we sat there, and yeah, he’s my mate, he’s my mate. Until next time everybody. Think about your life think about is to dream too big. Should you just be earning some money? Would you prefer to have more time just be yourself just floating around just enjoying stuff. Whatever you want to do is up to you to make it happen. But it always comes down to the offer and providing value to someone. If you’re not providing value, you are not going to make money and money unfortunately, makes the world go round. Until next time, I will see you again look after yourself. Cheers. Bye. When your dream job disappoints.Are you ready to start your own podcast and really make it work for you bringing customers and profits into your life and your business in the easiest way possible? Or perhaps you’ve already launched and aren’t getting the results you want? If so, I’m going to teach you the information that you need that makes all the difference to your success. Now, don’t be fooled into believing what others are teaching you when it comes to what matters. your podcast, get those results. podcasting success is not about the podcast. It has nothing to do with a recording or equipment. 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