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You Never Fail Unless You Give Up
Let’s get this straight….life is hard.
Life can beat you so badly that you sometimes you want to roll up into a ball, close the curtains and keep the world outside.
That is one of the problems that entrepreneurs experience everyday when they are trying to build their dream businesses.
It is especially difficult for business coaches who are actually building their businesses, by helping others build theirs due to the multiple variables that can trip us up.
They may get knockbacks due to lack of effort,
They may get stumbles due to not following the processes.
So what can you do when things dont go your way in life?
How can we keep on moving on when things get tough?
Well in todays episode of Join Up Dots we focus in on just that, by sharing what has been going on behind the scenes on Join Up Dots.
You see this week, a client of Join Up Dots came to a crossroads in their business building and had to stop.
You see the landscape has changed which made the business doubly difficult to continue.
So as you will hear in the show and the transcript below, there is a time to reflect and a time to accept that you can do better.
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Intro [0:00]
Life shouldn’t be hard life should be a fun filled adventure every day. So now start joining up dots, tap into your talents, your skills, your God given gifts and tell your boss, you don’t deserve me. I’m out of here. It’s time for you to smash that alarm clock. And start getting the dream business and life you will, of course, are dreaming of. Let’s join your host, David Ralph, from the back of his garden in the UK, or wherever he might be today with another jam packed episode of the number one hit podcast. Join Up Dots.
David Ralph [0:40]
Yeah, good morning, jack. Good morning, and welcome to Join Up Dots. Thank you for being here. Well, what, what a week, what a week I’m, I’m recording this. And this is one of those ones that I kind of think to myself, should I record this? And I think No, there’s there’s somebody out there that will probably gain from this. And I’ve had, I’ve had a bit of a week where I’ve had no, not a few failures. I’ve just had one big failure. I’ve been working with a lady lovely lady for about 17 months. And she connected with me, and she wanted to change her life and create her own business. And so I said to her, yeah, that’s what I do. That’s what I do. And we’ve been working for 17 months, and this week, we came to a position in the road, where due to different reasons and situations and stuff, none down to her at all. We got to a point we thought, we’ve got to stop this. This isn’t working they we’ve come to a point now that we’re just moving in a direction. But it’s the light life and situation and things through COVID and stuff have kind of changed the landscape. And so we we sort of pull the plug on it. And it’s the first failure I suppose that I’ve had for I can’t remember the last time that anything really happened where I’ve had failures when the other person has given up. And they just sort of not met me halfway. But generally, this is the first one where I’ve gone Yeah, okay, I can see what you’re saying. This is where we are. And let’s pull a plug on it and stop. And because of that I spiralled into a depression this week, I’ve had a really bad week where I’ve been awake all night, I’ve been tossing and turning, I haven’t been sleeping. Well. My appetites gone. And I know because at my bit there’s two reasons for this. Number one, it’s because I’ve let the lady down. Okay. Have I done my best for her? Yes. Did I give her everything that’s worked time and time again with everybody else? Yes. should it have worked? Yes. But it didn’t. It didn’t. And so I’ve had to accept that. So I have got a deep I suppose it’s an Achilles heel, or it’s a flaw. Or maybe it’s a strength, I don’t know. But I care passionately to help people out there. I’m not just a podcast host that sort of rocks up and says the words and hopes about you know, somebody out there. But I never get to meet, we’re all sort of do some sort of magic album. I’m not a podcast host, but does ways to earn oodles of cash. And that’s why I don’t have lots of ads on here. And it’s not sort of spammy. I try to make it as as focused as possible on you guys. And I’m not the kind of podcast host that would keep doing these things. If it was just rewarding me and it’s not rewarding the other person 10 times as much. And so I’ve had this big.
David Ralph [3:50]
I doubt it’s been a doubt in my head. It’s been a doubt about, you know, okay, if this hasn’t worked this time, why didn’t it work? Was it me? Is it the processes? Can I change them and stuff. And I messaged the lady again today. And I just said to her, I just want to know that I’m not going to depart from you. You wanted to change your life and our first attempt didn’t work. And there’s reasons why it didn’t work. And I want you to know that you’re not responsible in any shape or form. It was me and things I did for you. Now these are exactly the same things that I do all the time for other people, but work time and time again, this is the message I’ve sent. But in this situation they haven’t and I need to find a different way of operating for you. I’ll be totally honest with you. I haven’t slept at all Well, this week, I plummeted into a depression because of it. I don’t lose. I always come out Trumps. I work hard and I’m focused. And I’ve let you and me down and I felt like giving everything up and just rolling into a ball. Now this is where I’m spinning it. Now. This is where I’m getting the Sort of the battle into me, I say I felt like giving everything up and just rolling into a ball. And that is good. That is the way I should be feeling as that shows, I’m not complacent and care about what I’m doing for myself and others, you’ve inspired me to raise my game, find better ways of operating and really go for it big time. Although once again, at the moment, I have a huge cloud over my head, and I’ve lost my way for a period, but I’m focusing in on you 100%, I will create new procedures based 100% on you. And I will make things right for you. I promise. Just promise me one thing you don’t stop believing because everything you want is out there for you. And it’s not a given that it comes to you straight away. So are drag myself out of the headspace I’m in and you keep focusing and believing and really think about what you want to do in your life, and how you can fund it and find it don’t give up. And I won’t give up on you either. So what it’s made me realise is just because something’s been working for other people, it doesn’t mean it’s going to work for everyone. And there are times when you’ve got to put your hand up and say, Yeah, okay, it didn’t. But it doesn’t mean you can’t bank out, let’s do it better. Let’s go for it again, let’s really push through and find a better way. And one of the things that high achievers get, and I am a high but high achiever. And I don’t always achieve everything, but I aim really high for everything is when it doesn’t work, it knocks you for six years because you kind of almost expect things to happen. So this week’s been a brilliant week for me, because it’s made me think, right, okay. There’s better ways of doing it, there’s got to be better ways of doing it, I’ve got to sharpen my tools. And just because, you know, 95% 99% of people that come through my coaching, come out the other side, as mates of mine with the rewards that they want and the success that they want. If it doesn’t happen once vain, there’s got to be a better way of doing it. And I realised that I had to allow myself to have that kind of period of mourning. And I also had to realise that it’s not healthy for me, it’s not healthy to have the bar set so high, that everything I do just works like magic, because that’s not life. That is not life. And everybody out there will have seen people where they’ve been training for the Olympics for four years, and they’re guaranteed the gold and then two days beforehand, they pull a hamstring and out of it and all their dreams crashed down. And at the beginning of Join Up Dots, he says, life shouldn’t be hard life should be an adventure and fun every day. And it should be it should be like that. But it doesn’t mean it’s going to be. And if it was like that, then there’s no room for growth. There’s no room for reflection, there’s no room for powering forward, there’s no room for
David Ralph [8:12]
accepting, but your good wasn’t good enough. And going again, and going again. So I’ve been working over the last few weeks on building a course to teach you guys how to go through the process at the high achievers. Do the guys out there making odours online. But by follow by follow step by step by step, and I’ve been recording videos and building it to take you right from the step of, you know, what ideas Should I create is it got value in it moving all the way along? And I’m gonna go back over it again. Because I’ve realised, although I’ve watched it many times, and I thought, yeah, it’s really good. This is great. I can bring something to the table extra. And that’s what I want you to think about that. Are you in a position where you’re sort of going to work and you’re not getting the promotions or you’re not getting the the profit sharing or the rewards and stuff? And you’re looking around and saying, Oh, yeah, I should have got that because yeah, x y Zed, and I’ve done so much this. You haven’t? Nobody has done as much as they can do. Nobody, but whoever is out there, no matter what they’re achieving, or what they’re letting you know, vapour cheap, they can still do more, they can still push harder, they can still go for it. And I think that we’ve all like that. We’re all in that. Let’s point our finger at somebody else and say why we haven’t got it. But ultimately it’s down to us. And it’s down to us to really accept that we’ve screwed up and our best wasn’t Good enough, and our best has to be better. And certainly I’ve had a big wake up call this week, I’ve had a week that physically has exhausted me just because of the space I’m in in my head. But I’m coming out of it now, and I’m coming out of it with no, this, this isn’t right, this is I’ve got to do better, I’ve got to push through, I’ve got to make a difference for more people. But I’ve got to make a difference to myself as well. And I can’t x or believe that everything’s going to work, because that’s not life. And I’ve been on a bit of a roller coaster over the last not even a roller coaster just to kind of ride it up where everything that I’ve been doing has been working. And you get a bit cocky, you get a bit accepting of you just have to roll up and it’s going to work, but it hasn’t. And to the lady out there, I am not going to say goodbye to you, we are going to get this happening to you, for you. And we are going to make a difference, because you will never find somebody more committed to your success by me, okay. And as I say, if you bought out on me vain, I can’t do anything about it at all, but you haven’t, you’ve done everything that I’ve asked you to do, we just got to look at a different way of doing it. So there’s always a different way of doing it people out there, there’s always a different way of doing it. And if you don’t get the results that you want, give yourself breathing space, move away from it for a while, look at it in a different way. Allow yourself to have that cloud over your head, allow yourself to have that depression, but push away from it. Okay, and Join Up Dots will get stronger because of this. And some of you out there might be thinking, What’s he talking about this is, this is personal to me, this is one of those podcast episodes, where I,
David Ralph [12:03]
I hate what I’m saying, because I hate that I’ve failed, and I don’t fail, okay, so I can now set a light under it and say, I didn’t fail, I just have to find a different way for me and that lady, and for everybody else out there, okay. And so for people out there, you’re gonna get a stronger platform, you’re going to get stronger training, you’re gonna get stronger coaching. Because I’m more committed when I was a week ago, or two weeks ago or three weeks ago, I’m more committed to you. And I’m more committed to the process of what I’m building and what I’m developing. So everybody out there, if you’re not getting the results that you’re getting men, point the finger at everyone. Yep, pointed out, your boss pointed out your situation, but it comes down to you and not doing the right things in the right order. You haven’t joined up the dots in the right way, okay, and back applies to everyone. And don’t let yourself down. Don’t think that you can just achieve because you can. It takes work. It takes persistence, it takes knockbacks it takes depression, it takes inspiration, it takes motivation. But when you come through the other side, when you think it was all worth it, it was all worth it. So I’m not as cocky as I was, but I’m stronger for it. I’m not as focused as I was, I’m more focused, and everybody out there. You if you’re listening to Join Up Dots, and you’re meeting me halfway, you will have your life change because I have the tiger time people, I’ve got it and I’m fighting back, and I’m going to be delivering it to you okay, now you’ve got to meet me halfway. If you’re just sitting out there just listening all the time, can’t do anything at all, you know, but if you want to connect with me and start making things move in that vein, we can make things happen okay. But of course the majority of people out there will just sort of sit there and point their fingers at other people and say why things haven’t worked but it’s down to you is down to me is down to all of us is always down to us. Until next time, mate, and mates. I will see you again you look after yourself. See ya. Bye bye.
Outro [14:24]
That’s the end of China. You’ve heard the conversation. Now it’s time for you to start taking massive action. Future create your life easy only you live. We’ll be back again real soon. Join Up Dots Join Up Dots. Join Up Dots john john jolina