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Introducing Monique Williams
Todays guest is a lady who likes nothing better than helping us all on our way to a better life than we presently have.
As she says “I was a freelance writer, for a small Sydney magazine, before I realised a dream to help others create the lifestyle that they truly deserved. I use the word ‘deserved’ with intention.
It was one of my first, big spiritual realisations: We are not all living our highest potential, we deserve so much more than we’ve been taught to expect.”
That’s a fascinating insight not just to this ladies outlook, but also life itself.
Why are we taught from such a small age to be realistic, be practical and leave the dreaming to, well the dreamers.
Shouldn’t we be encouraging people to go for the mad stuff, the big stuff, the stuff that real dreams are made off?
How The Dots Joined Up For Monique
Challenging them to grow to the highest potential possible?
Well since 2006 our guests life has been one intertwined with the all of this and more, and with such personal values such as laugh regularly, think differently, be persistent, be abundant (and give generously) and live what you love, she has clients flocking to her business looking for a similar mind-set to propel them to success.
So where did her positive outlook really kick in and allow her to speed forward to success?
And does she find it easier to change peoples mind-sets than most people might consider possible, bear in mind a whole life’s programming?
Well lets find out as we bring onto the show, to start joining up dots, with the one and only Monique Williams.
During the show we discussed such weighty topics such as:
How she was just like the rest of us and struggled with the self-limiting thoughts that she could provide huge value to others, and get paid for it too.
How her career started as a legal secretary, and she hated it for over six years until deciding that her future was up to her to create.
How she once was forced to declare herself bankrupt, and even as she filled out the forms, she felt truly grateful and at peace with herself.
Why it is so important to listen to that little voice that we have in our hearts, that can really show us the way to where we should be going.
Why even as her career started to gain momentum, she would self-sabotage and mentally put the brakes on, which she sees with so many other people across the world.
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Interview Transcription Of Monique Williams Interview
When we’re young, we have an amazing positive outlook about how great life is going to be. But somewhere along the line we forget to dream and end up settling. Join Up Dots features amazing people who refuse to give up and chose to go after their dreams. This is your blueprint for greatness. So here’s your host live from the back of his garden in the UK, David Ralph.
David Ralph [0:26]
Yes, hello, bam, everybody in Join Up Dots land or Join Up Dots. Well, because we are really absolutely a global show. Now, I was looking at the stats, I like to tell you this every now and again. And we’re in 123 countries across the world, which is astonishing. And some of you countries. I’ve never actually heard of you. But thank you so much for listening. And I will sort of check you out and see what you’re all about. I’m sure that Google Maps and Google streets are gonna find your way. So I might see you sitting in your garden listening to us. Well, let’s introduce Today’s guest who is a lady who likes nothing better than helping us all on our way to a better life than we presently have. She says, I was a freelance writer for a small Sydney magazine before I realised a dream to help others create the lifestyle that they truly deserved. I used the word deserve with intention. It was one of my first big spiritual realisations. We’re not all living our highest potential. We deserve so much more than we’ve been taught to expect. Now that’s a fascinating insight, not just to this lady’s outlook, but also life itself. Why are we taught from such a small age to be realistic, be practical leave the dreaming to, well, the dreamers Shouldn’t we be encouraging people to go for the Mad stuff, the big stuff, the stuff that we all dreams are made up, challenging them to grow to the highest potential possible? Well, since 2006, our guest life has been one intertwined with all of us and more, and we have such personal values such as laughing regularly, thinking differently being present. system be abundant and live what you love she has clients flocking to her business looking for a similar mindset to propel them to success. So where did a positive outlook really kick in and allow her to speed forward to success? And does she find it easier to change people’s mindsets when most people might consider possible? Bear in mind whole lives programming? Well, let’s find out as we bring onto the show to start joining up doors with the one and only Monique Williams How are you Monique?
Monique Williams [2:28]
I’m very well Thanks, David. How are you?
David Ralph [2:30]
I’m very well I got all inspired reading that introduction. You know that I I actually felt myself getting all pumped up halfway through it.
Monique Williams [2:38]
Well, well, thank you. I’m glad you did. You know that is absolutely my intention
David Ralph [2:43]
is your intention is your intention really from from the moment you wake up to the moment you go back to bed, so just be sort of fully like fat because it’s kind of exhausting, isn’t it to be like that all the time.
Monique Williams [2:56]
It’s it It feels exhausting. I think in the beginning Because you fighting your own story, you’re fighting the idea that you don’t deserve more. But once you get into the flow, it’s it’s a really cool space to be it’s a really awesome space to be because you kind of have this mindset that there’s nothing that can stand in your way of creating the life and the success that you really want. And, and a big part of that, for me is helping other people create the life and the success that they want to so it’s, it’s, it’s kind of cool.
David Ralph [3:26]
It is cool, isn’t it? And that, you know, you’ve got a life that is pretty much global as well. You’ve got a life that you zip around the planet, you meet different people, you have clients, where’s your forbus client away from where you actually live? Because you were actually in Sydney, Australia. I am. I’m in English, and I was a bit freaked out when it was so clear on the Skype call, but I thought you was in the same room as me, but where’s your furthest one away?
Monique Williams [3:52]
Ah, well, I have clients in the UK. I have clients in Belgium. And I’ve had clients in Botswana. So, you know, I think about as far away as you can get, and funnily enough, I was laughing at myself the other day thinking about travelling to the UK, and realising that you can’t fly nonstop from Sydney to London.
You actually have to have a
David Ralph [4:18]
stopover well in Singapore or Dubai or somewhere
Monique Williams [4:22]
Yeah, yeah, yeah, it’s too far. It’s too far to fly non stop. And I realised just how far away we were from
David Ralph [4:30]
the UK. is shocking Australia because I’ve been there a couple of times, and I’ll be honest, I’m not sure if I’m going to go there again. The flight killed me the first time and the second time was even worse because I’ve kind of done it the first time and didn’t enjoy it. And I say to people now, if people want me to go to Australia, they wouldn’t America so close. It’s coming to five hours I was I can be there is a hell of a journey. Isn’t it Australia
Monique Williams [5:00]
It’s big and travelling long, those long haul flights really takes it out of you. I’ve been to the US four times in the past sort of 1518 months and I’ll tell you what, it’s exhausting. But you know, the benefits are there too. Absolutely. I guess it depends what you want to get out of the trip really, doesn’t it?
David Ralph [5:18]
Oh, cosy does a is what you want to get out of life, isn’t it? And that’s that’s what you’re doing. when when when you do because obviously, we’re going to touch on how you built this business. That’s what we do in Join Up Dots. But it’s always an interest to me how you find a client in Botswana for example. How does an Australian lady living in Sydney? How does she find somebody from Botswana? Is it purely through the internet? Is it through referrals? How does that work?
Monique Williams [5:45]
Uh, yeah, my client in Botswana found me online. She was looking for some spiritual support. And she started doing Google searches and, and my name came up and she said she literally found my website and contacted me straightaway. So it was, you know, the power of power of Google, the internet, really. And most of my clients, in the first instance found me that way, via online and then bit by bit, I kind of got referrals. You know, my client from Belgium was the sister of another client. So yeah, I mean, it is just having that sort of global online presence. Absolutely.
David Ralph [6:25]
It is a mindset shift, though, isn’t it? Because I think at the everything is mindset. Once you overcome a certain mindset, you can move on to the next stage of your life once you start smashing down obstacles, blah, blah, blah, and all that kind of thing. But when you start any business, I think you do have a kind of localised mentality. You hear people say it’s a global community. You hear people say, the power of the internet, but when you start anything, you know, I didn’t dream I would be in 123 countries and many of those countries I’ve barely heard of it. blows your mind, but you can not only build something like that on a shoestring using the internet, but you can have such reach and provide such value. And also, if you do, it will create such wealth. It blows my mind again, money, I’ve blown my mind about four times in this conversation.
Monique Williams [7:19]
That’s great. You know, that’s kind of kind of my intention help people make those massive internal breakthroughs. So that’s really cool. It is, it’s a little bit scary at first, I think, you know, when I, when I first started out, you know, I had this one little Google ad that I put out there and people sort of started to find me, you know, one little drop at a time. And, and that that, to me, was totally amazing. Because, you know, I had never run a business before or, or done any kind of internet, you know, advertising. And I kind of realised just how mammoth my reach could be. At first that scared me a little bit, you know? Wow, that’s, that’s Kind of influence, you know that that’s there’s some kind of power that comes with that. But But over time, I kind of realised how empowering it actually was, you know, it wasn’t just about having the power to reach people and having that stretch it was, it was kind of empowering to realise that, you know, the universe has this miraculous way, this this incredible way of helping people like me who want to help others, you know, that there was, there was a gift in the internet that would allow me to just reach so far and help so many people in so many different situations. And how did you
David Ralph [8:35]
free yourself and that very first client and the very first client that comes through, you set yourself up as a business, and you kind of think like, this is what I want to do. And if you’re like me and the majority of the world, as soon as the first opportunity comes towards you, you kind of think, Oh, my God, I don’t think I can actually do this. The Am I going to be able to provide enough value to this person? What should I charge all those kind of things How did you overcome those kind of limiting fears that stop so many of my listeners in their tracks? And that’s what we’re trying to overcome on this show?
Monique Williams [9:08]
For sure, for sure. It was, it was a big one for me, my, my internal resistance was was huge, you know, and in fact, I actually went bankrupt in my first business attempt because I, I just didn’t know how to reach out to people and how to how to kind of let people into my into my space even. But soon after I realised something really valuable. And and what kept me going was the realisation that when people came to see me or people reached out to me over the Internet, and I was talking to them by email and phone, they would feel so unhappy, and they would feel so stressed and frustrated by their lives. And after we had finished speaking, they would feel lighter and happier. And they would say to me, wow, that was really cool. That was really amazing. And that’s what actually kept me going. That’s what made me realise that I had to push past my own resistance. And, and let it work and and let myself just share the message that I had. That was that was really powerful for me and and that’s something that I share with my clients now when they get stuck, it’s like find that find that good feeling realise what it what a good impact that you can make on somebody and stick with that, you know, feel the gratitude for that feel grateful for that gift and, and that that tends to inspire everybody to just keep on moving.
David Ralph [10:25]
And did you do to first kind of clients as freebies good This seems to be a theme. A lot of the entrepreneurs that I speak to, they say yeah, in the early stages, I didn’t really believed in myself. So I was kind of doing stuff on the free I was sort of just testing the waters. And then I got to a point where people were saying you should charge for this. And it was like, Oh, I don’t know, it’s just something as easy for me. I shouldn’t really be charging for this. So you had those same kind of vibes going on as well.
Monique Williams [10:53]
Yeah, I mean, I had it I had a great teacher in the first instance in that she kind of tried to teach me the value of Charging, but I certainly felt trapped to, to just not charging enough, you know, not believing that I could charge what, what I needed even to really keep my business afloat. And I think it was, it was when I, when I started to get those, those clients coming back, you know, six months later and saying well you made such a big impact. Can we do this again, that I started to realise that maybe it was okay to step my prices up a little bit. And I was amazed when I did that, that nobody freaked out and nobody ran away and nobody, nobody got really stressed about it. Everybody just went okay, great. Let’s Let’s go with it. So I think that it’s, it is that value question. And you know, I started little when I started very little, but bit by bit, I realised that that people were okay spending money on something that was really valuable to them and something that they got a lot out of. So that encouraged me for sure to keep on going and keep Keep on building a stronger business. financially speaking.
David Ralph [12:04]
Yeah. It’s a weird thing though, isn’t it? We’ve humans, that somebody comes along and says, Ryan, I’m going to supply the six week course, for $49. And you go, Oh, that looks good. And so you buy it, and you don’t do anything with it at all. It just kind of sits there, you don’t even sort of log on for some reason. And it seems a truth that if you charge 1000 quid for the same course, people are actually going to get more value from that than they are from 49 pound which it kind of goes against your mindset again, but people will put their heart into something that I just spent the money, so they’re gonna get the value out of it.
Monique Williams [12:45]
Yeah, yeah, it is. It’s a, I think it’s a connection. You know, when we are handing over that, that feels like a big wad of cash to somebody. We, we want to make sure that we’re going to get what we need out of it. And You know, there’s a there’s a lot of I think there’s a lot of power in that for for both, you know, student and teacher, so to speak or coach and client or, you know, it’s it’s something that I think we all need to recognise as business owners to that there is value in charging reasonable amounts of money and decent amounts of money for what we want to do if people are really going to embrace it more and if it’s going to serve them really deeply to do that. I fully believe today, you know, past struggles aside, that the people who are willing to pay a little bit more for the people who do I really going to step up and use what what what I’ve got to offer, you know, and same applies for any coach or teacher or, you know, hairdresser, counter, you know, it doesn’t, I don’t think it matters a great deal, what industry you’re in, but being able to, to recognise that that you know, money is of service and and when we have the the the capacity To spend that kind of money on something that we want something that we believe that we deserve. There’s kind of these these waves of energy, these waves of gratitude and waves of value that that gets shared around. And there’s such a good feeling that comes with that, too. So I think it goes even even deeper than just the money value. It’s the, it’s the personal value in there, and the ability to grow.
David Ralph [14:22]
So if we take you back in time, which we do on Join Up Dots, that’s what we’re all about on here. When he was a freelance writer, and I’m going to start at that point, but I’m going to go back even further later. But when he was a freelance writer was fat, a dream job, always fat, just a career about time and the moment I can just hear that you’ve found your thing. This is what you were made to be doing on this planet. But when you was a writer, was that one of those responsibility jobs? You’ve come through education, I’ve got to get a job. Oh, I’m pretty good at English. I’m going to do that.
Monique Williams [14:56]
No, it was it was kind of the opposite. I started my working career as a legal secretary, was very, very unhappy and decided that I wanted to go to university in my mid 20s. And the only thing that appealed was a writing degree. You know, and everyone was saying to me, Well, what are you going to do with that? And I was like, okay, you know, I’ve, I’ve been doing this really horrible job for the past, you know, six years, I’m going to do something for myself. And I actually, I moved back in with my parents enrolled in university had, you know, two jobs three jobs at one point. And, and I and I worked through it, and I realised when I was doing that degree that I had this kind of strange desire to help other people. And it came through the writing because I think I realised during that degree that words had such a powerful impact on people and words, people read a lot more into words than then sometimes I even intended and they were changed by that in some small way. And it kind of turned that little light on for me, there was a little spark saying, Well, you know, if you want to make meaning out of your life, maybe this is the way to Do it. And I and I set off with the intention of writing to help other people. And I moved moved back up here to Sydney after I’d done my degree. And strangely enough, you know, power of the universe if if you think that way, my flatmate had a friend who ran a little inner city magazine, and I went to work for her. And I kind of quickly realised that if I wanted to help other people on a really deep level, I kind of had to help myself first. And that was how the whole spiritual journey started. So the writing at that point was kind of fun. And it was it was serving a purpose of helping me sort of grow my skill one again, expand this idea that I could I could serve a purpose perhaps. But I soon realised that you know, if I wanted to write books, and I wanted to help people even more deeply, I didn’t have enough. You know, I hadn’t sort of taken part in enough healing and growth myself, and that That all led into the spiritual journey which led into the coaching which kind of led to where I am now, when kind of working on my second book now called the laws of giving and receiving, which is based on, you know, all of my coaching and, and and coming to understand the deeper the deeper elements that people need to engage with within themselves the gratitude the ability to give, but also to receive, people find it so hard to receive, you know, in following on from your money, your money comments before too So, yeah, it was the writing was always the dream. And it didn’t sort of come to me until I was in my you know, mid late 20s. So it was it was quite different. I’d done the I’d done the hard job on the job that I was expected to do. And that was really, you know, when I left school with, you know, very sort of middle class Catholic parents, who were wonderful, you know, don’t get me wrong, but I wasn’t expected to run my own business and, and live my dream life. I just had to go get a job and you know, Being a secretarial admin, you know, type role was, was what was expected and I kind of just did it. And then I realised how unhappy I was. And I think the scariest thing was realising that not only was I unhappy, but I, I didn’t expect anything else. And that that was that was a real lightning bolt for me. And that was like, right, you know what, this isn’t enough? This isn’t good enough. Nobody should be living like this. And I, you know, picked myself up and enrolled in university and, and and here I am.
David Ralph [18:29]
Well, you know, there you are. Yeah, you’re you’re you’re your guest on Join Up Dots you Episode 201. What could be better? So, the word expectation, it’s a bit of a swear word, isn’t it? Really, because so many people have been saying to me, you know, oh, it was what was expected of me. And more often than not, they don’t even ask whether it is expected of them. Yeah, they just go into the shoes. They assume that to make their parents proud. And payments are whipping I’m a parent. And I would love Michael kids to have the life that they want, not the life that I want. And I don’t think I’ve ever had the question with my older ones, whether they have been sort of manipulated somehow by me because they’ve gone off on paths that were very similar to the path that I was on, wherever you unknowingly kind of leave them in the direction that you feel is safe, because that’s what you know, did you feel that that’s where your parents were?
Monique Williams [19:27]
Yeah, it mean, it’s funny. I remember my mother actually saying to me one day, you know, when I was talking about how unhappy I was in my in my legal secretary job, and she said to me, Well, what are you going to do if you if you’re not a secretary? And I kind of went Oh, wow. You know, and and I and I saw her her mindset and her her working class upbringing in that and I just went wow, you know, I don’t want to do that. I so don’t want to do that. You know what, I don’t even want to be that parent. You know, when I do become a parent, I don’t want to be that parent either. You know, for most people, you know, I’ve studied the mindset a lot in the past sort of five years. And for most people, we we have these paradigms, you know, we have these stories that we that we pick up very unconsciously from our parents as kids. You know, there’s these kind of subconscious stories story that we just do certain things and, and I think for most of us, unless we’ve got a parent who has really done a lot of work on themselves and grown and, and, and and attempted to add value to the world and and allow themselves to expand and, and be more than their own upbringing. We just soak up what our parents have done, what they’ve said what they’ve, what they’ve expected. And our parents may not even have the intention of of taking us down the same pathway that they went down, but it’s still present. You know, it’s still present in the upbringing. It’s still present in the subconscious. It’s still present in the paradigm and the stories that they share. And I think you know, today Looking back, I can see how proud My parents are of what I’ve done for myself and become a coach and and, and and tried to create a different world. And I and I understand too that they’re scared as well, you know of course they are they worry that there’s so much risk involved in running my own business the ease is it mosquito
David Ralph [21:23]
always been with the million dollar question nowadays. Is it risky to get a job where one day you could go in there and the boss says, hang on, we’re closing down or is it risky to run your own business?
Monique Williams [21:37]
I believe that running your own business is only risky. If you’re not willing to take 100% responsibility for you know what you want to create and your own personal well being. And that’s where the old the old childhood stories tend to come into play. Because when you step into your own business, you often don’t realise just how much subconscious baggage You know if I can use that word is, is present. And we say, you know, for me personally and for a lot of my clients, you start to move into your own business and you get stuck, and you get stuck and you don’t know what to do. And if you’re willing to push through that, and to move through that, to, you know, to kind of go and do whatever it takes on an emotional and mental level to create the life that you want, there’s absolutely no risk. And you know, you you bring that you bring into that a sense of universal support or an understanding that there is kind of this, this greater power, this is universal laws, there’s this, there’s this amazing mindset of gratitude that you can create, the risk is easier, you know, but if if you’re going to step into your own business, and I absolutely learned this the hard way. If you step into your own business and you let the baggage and the old stories, the old subconscious paradigms speak for you, then there’s a lot of risk. And that’s where people find themselves back in back in the day job because They feel like they couldn’t make it work. And I think that’s a much more risky way to live, you know, and, you know, to bring in the, you know, global financial crises and all these things that people talk about these days and being influenced by those. There’s absolutely risk in not having 100% control or influence is perhaps a better word, not realising that you can influence your own world and feeling like you have to work for work for somebody else to make an income. You know, I think there’s a huge amount of risk in that too.
David Ralph [23:29]
Let’s play some words that really sort of emphasise this point. And this was a classic speech, Jim Carrey said recently, this is Jim Carrey.
Jim Carrey [23:37]
My father could have been a great comedian, but he didn’t believe that that was possible for him. And so he made a conservative choice. Instead, he got a safe job as an accountant. And when I was 12 years old, he was let go from that safe job, and our family had to do whatever we could to survive. I learned many great lessons from my father, not the least of which was that you can fail at What you don’t want, so you might as well take a chance on doing what you love?
David Ralph [24:05]
Do you think that kind of phrase should be played to your mum, or at that time when she was saying to you what you can be, she didn’t quite grasp the fact that you could be anything you wanted to be if you went for it.
Monique Williams [24:21]
Yeah, for sure. You know, I’ve got goosebumps listening to that, you know, and I and I heard that that Jim Carrey speech recently as well. I am, you know, this is where the subconscious paradigm really kicks in that, you know, my mom fully believed because it was repeated over and over and over and over again, that you had to go and get a safe sensible job. And you know, Jim Carrey kind of nailed it, you can you can find out what you don’t want. And I don’t think my parents understood that at all. And I think that a lot of, you know, I work with a lot of clients who are in their 30s 40s and 50s. And, and they had parents who didn’t understand that either and they A lot of kickback even today from parents saying but you know, is this safe we should you know, you should be doing something else, you know, you should be dot dot dot, you should be sensible you should be You should be happy or you shouldn’t need this. And, you know, for me, you know, I was I was I was a pretty defiant teenager. And so I I kind of I always had this perspective that my mother had a certain view and I had a different view and and when she started to speak to me about work and and those sorts of things, I A part of me Got a little bit scared and some of that defiance kind of it slipped away from me for a while. And and when it finally came back, because I realised how unhappy I was following that particular line of thought, I had to kind of put my foot down again and say, No, I can’t I can’t be that person. And I think at the time I thought I can’t be that person for you need to follow my own dream. You know, just like Jim Carrey says, you know, we will We have to follow our dream because finally, it’s something that we don’t want is kind of it’s kind of, it’s kind of sad. And it can be quite devastating to people too.
David Ralph [26:09]
I’m in a position with this job now, but I, I literally wake up and I giggle as I’m shaving in the mirror in the morning. And I kind of think I’m getting away with this. This this is this is amazing. I spent years working for a living and working hard and, and doing all the commute. And now I’m having a great time and nobody really realises and it’s kind of I’ve likened it to that that character in the Chitty Chitty Bang, bang, you know, the child catcher, who kind of like creeps around, not wanting to be spotted. And I’m a bit like that. And I kind of think somebody is going to sort of drag me off my store away from the microphone and say back to your day job Sunny, but at the moment, it’s like I’m having my cake and eat it. And the weird thing is, oh, it’s probably not weird, and you’re going to say this exactly how life should be is the more fun that I’m having. It seems to be more success I’m getting and the more success I’m getting, the more I want to do it. And then the more I want to do it, the more fun I’m having. And it’s going man, a man in circles. It was a Sunday morning today, freezing cold. And I was actually up at work by about five o’clock this morning. Because I woke up. I’m going to creep up here but radio Theatre on have a cup of coffee and do some work on a Sunday morning. You just wouldn’t do main corporate land.
Monique Williams [27:26]
Our God no, no, and I totally relate to that, you know, I’m, I’m up these days at 530 and I’m listening to some mindset work, I’m out exercising and I’m, I’m kind of at the desk, you know, and I’m responding to emails by you know, 8am whereas I used to kind of drag myself into the office at nine o’clock and, you know, you know, kind of, you know, suck down coffees trying to try to get myself motivated and, you know, now it today, it’s like, you know, I’m here I’m happy I got my cup of coffee. I’m just kind of working through what I want to do when setting my day up and you know, Having that element of control and choice is just huge. It’s It’s such a pleasure.
David Ralph [28:06]
You can have your cake and eat it, can’t you?
Monique Williams [28:10]
Absolutely. Absolutely. And I remember having that realisation one day about I don’t know, maybe eight years ago just going yeah, you know what I can I can have my cake and eat it too. And yeah, such a such a defining moment.
David Ralph [28:25]
So when you started, I’m looking at the introduction and you realise that the word deserved was an important thing to go after having tension on fading that word deserve come your way was was that the absolute sort of first dot was that the the.in the Join Up Dots timeline that really made you at least pause and start looking around and become aware, because it seems to be that awareness is the first start the starting point of actually moving on to your journey.
Monique Williams [29:00]
Yeah, for sure, for sure. It’s sort of it’s like waking up one moment and going, hang on. This isn’t quite right. I know that there’s something more here. And I know that, you know, I think it was that moment for me of Yeah, I deserve more than this, you know, what’s all these crazy? What’s all these crazy bankruptcy stuff that’s going on in my life? I don’t, I don’t deserve that. I deserve something else. And it was it was kind of, I guess, in a sense, it was that moment of having to declare myself bankrupt. That was the defining moment because I realised that I didn’t actually have to feel bad about this.
In fact, the really defining
I guess, the defining moment took even more depth when I went in there handed in this paperwork to declare myself bankrupt and and I felt a sense of okayness and there was this, this poor guy in the office doing the same thing and he was devastated. He was absolutely devastated and I thought to myself, I am so grateful. I do not feel that way. I’m so grateful that I’ve had the opportunity to make a big mistake. You know, it was it was a big mistake, you know, trying to survive on credit cards in a whilst I was not discovering how to market my message. And it was that it was that I don’t I don’t feel that way. I don’t feel like I have to beat myself up for this. I don’t feel like I have to suffer through this and why because I know that
David Ralph [30:24]
I why what made you different from that chap.
Monique Williams [30:29]
mindset mindset, you know, I had been going through all these spiritual teachings and trying to recreate myself and and learn a lot more and you know, I had these, these, this very strange experience of all these intuitive and psychic senses opening up. And and there was just that little voice in the back of my head that said, You screwed up, stand up, keep moving. And it allowed me you know, that little intuitive voice was showing me that I just didn’t have to feel that way and people don’t realise that that Have to feel that way. It doesn’t have to be the end of the world to screw up even if you screw up bad, you know? And, and, you know, I had I had a friend who had a friend in inverted commas at the time who said to me one day, you know, I think it’s just so disgusting that people can, people can go bankrupt and, and you know that you’re allowed to do this and I just went, Wow, there are so many people out there who, who really wants to bring themselves and other people down. And I got such a, it’s such a kind of shock. And it was a shocking view to understand that it’s kind of so easy to engage in that that desperation and that fear and that, and that, that shame, and that guilt. And I just had this little voice saying, just keep moving, don’t look back. And it was it was there I went, you know what I can choose to, to feel the guilt and the shame or I can just keep moving and I can keep Moving to what I, I feel like I deserve, which is success and wealth, which nobody’s taught me how to do yet, so I’m just going to have to figure it out for myself. He is the quiet voice is
David Ralph [32:09]
that little voice? Yeah, he is that is that key because I never, I’ve changed a lot after doing this show. I was always very open minded. But after doing so many, you know, hundreds of shows, and you get told the same thing time and time again, it would be a mess of me to go. Hang on this is this is rubbish you did, there’s got to be something in it. And so many people say their life changed when they allow themselves to be quiet so that they could listen to the little voice. And once you get fat, it’s almost like Hang on, you don’t have to reinvent yourself. You just have to be yourself. You just have to play to your essence. Listen to the little boys. And do you find that an important thing?
Monique Williams [32:55]
Oh, I think it’s I think it’s all of it. You know, I think that it is the journey. Self you know, it’s one of the things I noticed with my clients and they come to me and they’re not eating their own business, they’re doing a job they don’t like. And, and bit by bit, they just encouraged very slowly open up to that little voice and they, they suddenly very quietly go, you know, I’ve always had a dream to start my own yoga practice or, you know, go and work for myself or start a blog or write a book or, you know, in it is that and it’s like it comes out of it comes out of people very slowly, sometimes, but as soon as I’ve engaged with it, their life just opens up. It’s like you come into alignment with the universe, you come into alignment with some, some higher part of you that’s been trying to get your attention for a long time. And suddenly there’s opportunity everywhere, and suddenly their eyes are open to, to the ways that maybe they can, maybe they can follow through. Maybe they don’t have to listen to the old negative voice. And it was it was really interesting when I when I heard Sir Richard Branson actually say, I think I read it in his in his book, that, you know, we all have an intuitive sense of what’s best We need to follow that because that’s what he’s done. You know, and and when you look at the amazing, you know, wealth, the amazing things that he’s created the incredible things that he’s done in the some of the crazy things he’s done, Do you realise just how powerful that intuitive voice is, if you’re willing to trust it 100% and I came across a study not long ago, too, and they interviewed a number of Fortune 500 like CEOs, and, and managers and whatnot. And the majority of them spoke about their intuition. And they spoke about the power of being able to listen to that intuitive compass. And, and and use it to create the success that they’ve created for themselves. So, you know, I think that I think if there is only one thing that people need to succeed in life, it’s the ability to listen to that little voice.
David Ralph [34:49]
I love the little voice. I hear it, as I say in the bathroom in the morning, and I’m not even thinking about anything. I do. Think about the success of the show. I’ve Got a vision of where I want the show to go. And when I started it, it was just a vision. And now I can almost touch it. And but that that got a bit scary for a while that was thinking, oh my god, this is running away with me this is this is out of my hands. But now I’m just sort of going with the flow and seeing where it goes. But I do think that you need to have a vision, I do think you need to have a focus on what you need to do. I do think you need to listen to that little voice. But I remember and it’s just dawned on me as he was talking. I remember working for a company up in the City of London. And it was horrible. It was a terrible, terrible job. And before I went there, I used to say I was the luckiest person in the world. If I drove into a crowded car park, a parking space would appear in front of me and I would just sort of with into it. And I used to say I’ve got a parking Angel. And if we went to an airport, and I would just basically get off the plane and my luggage would be the first one there. And I would Just go and there be a big crowd of people. And a higher car would just be waiting for me and I just get into it in a way I go. So all these kind of amazing things which has happened when I got made redundant after being in this terrible job for six months, and my life just changed totally. But now I look back on it. I realise it wasn’t my luck. It was me. It was my mindset. I kind of twisted from believing that great things were going to happen to me to thinking, our life is crap. Everything’s crap. And so I’m going to get crap as well. And I think that is where people need to change as well. Don’t I think those three things have a vision. Listen to your intuition. And believe believe believe that a great things are going to happen to you and more often than not the pre come together.
Monique Williams [36:46]
Absolutely, yeah, you’ve really nailed it. These days. I’m actually facilitator for a programme that Bob Proctor who was in the secret room created and the programme is literally
David Ralph [37:01]
Every morning I seem to
Monique Williams [37:02]
me, that’s the one yeah, that’s the one who feels so amazing about himself that he’s just got this. Yeah. And and his work absolutely helped me anchor exactly what you’re speaking about the vision, the intuition or spirit, as he calls it, you know, I call it intuition and the belief and having this this strong, empowered belief in yourself that that you are capable. You know, I think that that feeling unworthy is such a big barrier for people. And yet, you know, what I discovered for myself was that when when you’re in that space of belief, those barriers literally disintegrate, they don’t exist, they dissolve, they, they just kind of disappear. And a lot of people don’t realise that, that when they’re in that space of feeling unworthy and hard done by and angry, and that, that it just takes one tiny shift in their mind one tiny change in their belief and the world changes. It’s something that Esther Hicks talks about, you know, she channels the the spirit, Abraham. And one of the things I teach people to do is to make tiny incremental changes in their mindset. To go from feeling helpless to feeling angry, for instance, is is a step up and to go from feeling angry to feeling hopeful is a huge step up to go from hopeful to, you know, and I’m kind of jumping up the scale quite a bit, go from hopeful to feeling joy, you know, we don’t even have to just go from feeling disempowered to, you know, feeling like we’re the most amazing, incredible person on earth because it doesn’t work. You know, it’s false, but we can make tiny little ships that completely change our perspective, and change the way we see the world and therefore change the opportunities that are presented to us.
David Ralph [38:49]
Well, well, that is the key thing, isn’t it? It doesn’t have to be a to be because I I see a lot of people who I do, I don’t present myself As a coach, but through face, I’m getting loads of people coming to me. And it’s something that I’ve suddenly found, but I’m very, very good. I just seem to be able to sort of tap into people quite easily. And one of the things that I had to sort of get over to them straight away is if they’re in a rubbish position, then something else is going to be better, just because you’re making movements away from that rubbish position. But they, they seem to have this idea when I start, but they’re going to go a to b, I mean, a rubbish position. I’m going to be in a brilliant position. And I say, No, there’s got to be a bridge, there’s got to be, you’ve got to change and the situation’s got to change. If you go straight into another position, you’re going to be taking all what you’ve got in the bad one with you. You haven’t you haven’t changed yourself somehow. And it’s a it’s a mindset. Once again, we we’ve been using mindset all the way through this show, but it is true. Once they actually get back and they realise that okay, it might be pretty rubbish The next thing they go into, but it’s amazing. movement away from where they were, but they realise that they’re actually taking those steps towards something.
Monique Williams [40:06]
That’s it. That’s it, that what I teach people these days is that, you know, to get from A to B, there’s a lot of growth that needs to happen, you know, there’s a lot of emotional and mental growth that needs to happen to help you anchor the mindset that allows you to, to achieve be, you know, and allows you to feel worthy of be as well. I actually, you know, you know, I went bankrupt, I had to go back to work, I got my business set up, I left that job, realised I still didn’t have it quite right had to go back to work again. You know, and, and, and I was, you know, I’m a manageable third thought that people are going to see this as failure. And then I realised that, you know, it’s not failure because every single time there was something better and better and better. You know, the second time I went back to work, it was literally a three month contract, I just needed to fill a gap. And and I realised that I had to allow myself to just go through that process of growth, because I came out of that three month. contract with an a very fierce determination to never let it happen again. And I didn’t, I made the business work I allowed myself to, to discover even more about the mindset and the growth and, and and allow myself to be to be taught even more and to then teach that onto my clients as well.
David Ralph [41:20]
What I think is astonishing is that money Williams is no different from Richard Branson. Richard Branson is no different from me, a baby that’s just being born is no different from any of us. It’s just decisions isn’t it is just the decisions that we make. And when you think about that, you kind of go now Branson now he’s special. He’s got talent. And when you see him interviewed, and I remember him being interviewed about bookkeeping, and he was saying, I just can’t get my head round net and gross and somebody has to explain it to me, so I leave it to other people. And then he was saying, and I can’t do this either. So I leave it to other people. And you realise then that what he’s doing He’s taking all the things away from him that he doesn’t like or can’t do, and handsome to people that do like doing them and are good. And he just plays to his key strengths. And that’s where the power comes. And that’s why when we look at him, we think he’s, you know, he’s some kind of magician because he can walk around on a speedboat for weeks on end, and create vast wealth, but what he’s doing, he’s creating the publicity for the company, and he’s making us realise that virgin is a fun brand to be involved in. And that’s where he tempt these talents and strengths come to and it’s, it’s fascinating when you see that he made a decision to do that. And he’s fine tuned it over many, many years to become successful, and we can all do the same.
Monique Williams [42:48]
Oh, absolutely. Absolutely. It is just, you know, it’s that word belief. Having just a tiny little speck of belief helps people to take that first step. And you know, I think I think my favourite story about Richard Branson was, was in his book losing my virginity, he talks about the first hot air balloon trip that they took and forgetting to pack toilet paper. And I had to laugh because it’s like, well, you know, he’s so he’s grounded enough to share that. But you know, he’s kind of saying, I’m just a human being, you know, I’m, I’m human, I’m not some super, you know, Superman. And, and people really do forget that. And, and, you know, I even had a client say to me once, that she didn’t feel like she had suffered enough to be able to create success. And I just, you know, it kind of broke my heart at the time, it was like, wow, you know, people actually believe that, that they have to be torn apart in some way to create success and you really don’t, you’ve just got to have that, that little speck of belief that leads to that first little speck of courage to take the first step in and and, you know, I think reading People like Richard Branson and reading autobiographies of really successful people, helps you realise that, that they’re not superhuman. They’re human beings, they’ve got emotions, they’ve got fears, they screw up, they go bankrupt, they, you know, they, they they self sabotage even. And they continue to just find a way to work through that. To grow to to grow through the challenges,
David Ralph [44:24]
I got introduced to a Hollywood a Lister who’s going to come on the show, and I won’t say their name because it won’t be fair. But I told my friends because I was kind of like, Oh my God, this person coming on the show, this is going to be amazing, and very resigned to me, when’s it going to happen is it always going to happen on this day, and it was a kind of a big build up between about three of us, me and a couple of my mates. And anyway, I got to the point, I set it all up, I was ready for them. And I Skyped for him like I did to you, you know, 10 minutes to go We’re about to interview and they came back to me and they went Ah, oh, sorry. Sorry, I didn’t, yeah, my wife just had to go shopping and I’ve got to look after the baby. Can we can we sort of move it on? And I went, well, it’s not really suitable for the sort timezone and stuff. So this person hasn’t come on the show. And my friends were upset, you were so disappointed. And I went, well, actually not. Because it’s taken them from superhuman as I felt going into it to this person screwed up, they haven’t got their calendar, right. They’ve got to look after the kids. It’s a normal person. And when I do come on the show, I know that he’s going to be a much better interview because I broken down that kind of hero worship that I probably would have had a bit because of this person and who they are.
Monique Williams [45:45]
Yeah, yeah, absolutely. I mean, you know, universe coming into alignment for you really, isn’t it because I’m sure it’s gonna be a much more powerful interview now, for you to feel so much more relaxed. And I’ve seen that In my own business, I’ve seen it when i when i get kind of worked up or nervous or too excited about something that those little shifts happen, and it brings you back down to ground and you go okay, right, you know, I had built this up too much. And that that was that was so powerful for me when it happened the first few times and now I now I see it, you know, it’s sometimes part of the process that the universe goes, No, hang on, you’re not quite ready for this. But something’s gonna have to break here in order for you to see you know, what’s really going on and, you know, maybe even get your feet back on the ground a little bit, which is the message that I get sometimes I think, because it’s, it’s so it’s so easy to get too excited. You know, it’s so easy to you know, I don’t want to use the word arrogance but but I think I’ve watched a couple of people in my life kind of get too big for their boots. And, and not and not see when the universe was trying to go hey, you know what? This is really awesome, you’re really powerful person, but it’s going to be so much better if you plant your feet here. And if you open your heart a little bit more and see the world through a slightly different lens, and and I’ve watched the people who haven’t seen those opportunities get really, really tangled up. And their success disintegrates very quickly. So I you know, I think that that’s such a powerful thing to be able to realise to David that you know, this is going to be this this person’s human and this is going to be so cool when it actually happens because I’m going to be able to speak to them one on one. How
David Ralph [47:41]
do you overcome that escalation of success your your legal secretary and you decide to quit and you become the writer and you just keep on moving on moving on. But in everyone’s journey, you have periods but doesn’t seem to move on at all, and you’re just doing stuff doing stuff. doing stuff. And then suddenly you get a crack and then suddenly there’s momentum for a little bit of a time. And which stops so many people because most most people get into that first bit, hit that plateau and think, Oh, it’s not working and try something else. But once you get through that, you suddenly realise you’re going to be moving on when you suddenly had your first step up, and you suddenly realised that you were dealing with bigger fish in bigger ponds. How did you convince yourself that you was worthy of swimming around with them?
Unknown Speaker [48:34]
Monique Williams [48:36]
I don’t think it was so much convincing. As a as an allowing, you know, I think, you know, one of the one of the first moments of realising that I was suddenly swimming with bigger fish was being accepted into a mastermind group with john SRF. Who was was also in the secret he’s written a couple of bestsellers and you know, meeting him for the first Tom, I just went, Wow, you know what your human being, and you’re really generous with your time and you’re really open to speaking to people. And, and I think the thing that really, that really nailed it for me was when he first walked in, there was about 20 of us 20 of these, you know, students in this group, and we’re meeting for the first time having a drink, and he walked into the world, and he actually looked really nervous. And it just completely broke the ice for me. But I also think that, you know, I had a period where things were going really, really, really well and a part of me put the brakes on, and a part of me put the brakes on before I even realised what had happened. And suddenly, I went from going really, really well, to just my income dropping away very, very steeply. And that was the point at which I realised that I hadn’t really gone deep enough within myself yet. And that was a big journey for me and learning to allow success and learning to allow that worthiness and low To just allow myself to, to recognise how much hard work I’d put into making this happen. You know, I kinda have to sort of jump back to my childhood for a second, I grew up with the belief that you weren’t meant to be successful. You know, my parents didn’t seem having enough money is a good thing. You know, there was absolutely always enough money but having enough money to to go on holidays and go and travel and go overseas back then they didn’t they didn’t perceive that as a good thing. You know, these days it’s completely different. They’re retired and they’re travelling all over the world. But I really had to crack that old subconscious story that it was okay to be successful. This little scared part of me kind of got away on me and, and started to sabotage a little bit you know, I in the way it happened was that I stopped working on my mindset. I stopped working on the gratitude every day and I stopped working on the vision and instantly all the successes just kind of bottomed out and That was such a valuable lesson for me in in just allowing, and it took me a little bit of time to work through that, that old fear, let it surface and, and, and and again, you know, like I said about going back to work as soon as I realised what happened, it gave me that motivation to never let it happen again. And it gave me that motivation to work on my mindset every day so that I was allowing success to come in. And I wasn’t going to put myself back in a position where money got that challenging again, you know, so I think we do have to circle around some of our issues a couple of times. If I asked him every time
David Ralph [51:36]
he it truly is fascinating that you can have the success that you want. And you so one because you’ve worked so hard for it, but then kind of start screwing it up.
Unknown Speaker [51:49]
David Ralph [51:50]
when you look at it, it’s actually you’re screwing up. I had a point in the show, when it really started speeding on big time and I was watching To the recording studio, well, I record all the shows. And I actually had this urge to just not open the door and just leave it behind. And I was thinking this is this is mad, why why am I doing this? And it was like the devil, an angel on my shoulder. And the devil was saying, Come on, come on, it’s not gonna work. You know, I know it’s going over at the moment, but this is a forced don’t just leave it. And the angels go, No, just keep on going, keep on going, keep on going. But it was fascinating that I actually had that desire to walk away from something that I had created because it was actually doing exactly what I’d wanted in the first place and becoming successful madness.
Monique Williams [52:36]
Yeah, yeah. I mean, I remember having a very similar moment. I was walking up the street one day and it was right in the midst of all this stuff with the money had kind of bottomed out and, and and I was and I was feeling you know, I was feeling feeling pretty depressed about the whole thing and frustrated by it too. And there was this guy, it was a beautiful sunny day and there was these guys sweeping leaves on the on the sidewalk. And I looked at him and I went, you know what, I want to do that Out in the sunshine just you know calm he looks so relaxed and laid back and then I kind of went wow you know what I’m not taking care of myself enough I’m not I wanted this business I wanted this success I’m just gonna have to keep working towards it and you know just it just hit me in that moment that if I if I did want this I was going to have to work a little bit harder keeping my myself in check keeping my mindset in check. Yeah, but it’s it’s a it’s a it’s a little bit scary The first time you get that hit to that well maybe I can just walk away maybe maybe I don’t really need this maybe I don’t really want this. But you know what I say to my clients is you know, go back to the go back to the vision go back to the reason go back to the go back to the the image of having to go back to work for somebody else and, and realise that’s not what you want. You actually want something else and start with the wire. Start with the why. Yep. Perfect.
David Ralph [53:59]
Perfect. I suppose as are the words I’m going to play now, these are the words and they are the theme of the whole show. Steve Jobs, my deck fantastic speech back in 2005. And I like to play these every day. And I’m not going to do any different today. So this is Steve Jobs.
Steve Jobs [54:16]
Of course, it was impossible to connect the dots looking forward when I was in college, but it was very, very clear looking backwards 10 years later. Again, you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something, your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart, even when it leads you off the well worn path and that will make all the difference.
David Ralph [54:51]
Do you like those words? Monique.
Monique Williams [54:53]
I love those words. They are beautiful words. Gosh, you know and and hearing him say that, you know, that’s that’s what I have said to, to a lot of people recently that there’s there’s no way when I when I, when I took that leap of faith and enrolled myself in university when I was 25 I couldn’t have perceived the journey that would have come out of that. And it’s such a good reminder to hear Steve Jobs say, you know, and that will continue in the future, that when you come into alignment with with with just listening to that little voice, there is a pathway that the dots will connect. I was kind of reminded to that as I was listening to that, that when when I’m in that space of just allowing, just allowing the success, things happen that I couldn’t possibly have perceived. You know, things happen that I couldn’t possibly have planned. It give us an example
David Ralph [55:48]
of a doozy something has been amazing is blowing blowing your mind There you go again.
Monique Williams [55:56]
You know, there’s there’s been there’s been a couple I think in the past on a mountain, the first one was getting accepted into Jonah syrups group. Because I didn’t even perceive that I should apply for something like that until one day I was just sitting there and this email dropped in and I just sat, and I let myself feel what my intuition wanted to tell me. And I was like, just apply, who knows what will happen. And I applied and literally, the moment that I applied, you know, I knew this was going to cost me a lot more money than ever paid in the past for any kind of coaching, like a lot more money. And the moment I applied, I just knew that everything would fall into place. And the very next day, I actually set myself a goal to bring in $200,000 worth of investment into my business. And I did it and i and i actually hit my my goal on Thursday night, really, and so kind of, you know, four days ago, and
Unknown Speaker [56:52]
it was just this
Monique Williams [56:58]
if I hadn’t had the courage to listen to That little voice and overcome my fear and apply and, and, you know working with with someone like john asrock and having access to his, his marketing brain, his marketing material, his his resources, his connections, his you know and then having the, the wherewithal to listen to the little voice that says, You know what this is how you’re going to do it. This is how you’re going to expand this is how you can take the next step. This is how you’re going to travel, you know, business class to the US This is how you going to have some adventures for yourself because you’re just opening the doors to the success that you want. You know, that was the big one for me in the past couple of years just going you know what, just give it a go. See what happens open the door and see where the universe leads you and I you know, again, I couldn’t have perceived going to the US four times in such short period of time and working with with guys like john and, you know, through that connection, I’ve met another amazing coach that I’m using for myself. To take my business to the next level again, and, you know, and through all that, you know, I don’t want to, I don’t want to make it just about business, it’s actually about the lifestyle that I’ve been able to create through all this as well. And, you know, I’m about to make the leap to move into a bigger apartment. And, you know, I’ve had these adventures around the US, you know, hanging out in New York and, and going to visit my cousin in Chicago and and just having all these incredible experiences and meeting his network of people and just, you know, it’s, it’s just been so cool. It’s been, it’s been so amazing. And it just started with that one little thought, you know, what, just don’t just apply, see what happens.
David Ralph [58:42]
Give it a go. That’s that. That’s the key word, isn’t it? That little key sentence really, but everyone out there, you got that little idea, but it’s just kind of did in bear, give it a go. And nowadays unless you want to open a shop or something, and then yeah, that’s going to be more expensive. You can give it a go for most Nothing, you know, most businesses on online now, my my whole business cost no more than about 60 pounds a month to run, which is unbelievable. You could know, create a global successful business on 60 pounds a month. But you can and that’s it, you can give it a go. And if it doesn’t work, well actually, I think it will work if it’s right inside you and you’ve got that that vibe, and you’ve got that passion, then you will do as quickly career but you will get power and you will make it successful. And it doesn’t matter how mad The idea is. You listen to the shows, you hear some nutty ideas. And I actually think to myself, that’s never gonna work. And when I say to me, oh, that’s bringing in 3 million pounds a year and you go really, how can you do that? But the greatest idea money I heard a little while ago and I listened back to the shows every now and again. So I listened yesterday and I thought Oh, I forgot this idea. Taxi Driver in London. decided that what he would do, he would create a company called bow meow. And he would go around and pick up dogs and cats and take them for walks for their owners. So that sort of the business people that go to work with their dogs, the dogs get picked up in a taxi, get tokens taken to a local park, run around all day. I mean, doggy finding caddy farm get put back in a taxi and brought back to the owners who take them home. Now what you give me that idea, I think that’s never gonna work. That’s just madness. Who’s gonna do that? He’s making a tonne of money. So you can you can do on a shoestring. You can do crazy stuff. And as long as it’s feels right in your stomach, I believe.
Monique Williams [1:00:43]
I agree. 100% Yeah, just give it a go. If it feels right to you, you know, it’s coming from somewhere inside of you. And I always say to people, you know, your imagination is the voice of the soul. So let it rip. let it speak to you come up with these incredible ideas and go with the one that that anchors inside of you. Yeah.
David Ralph [1:01:05]
How did you know your one was gonna be the one? Did you have all those same feelings?
Monique Williams [1:01:12]
I, I just knew that I couldn’t do anything else when the idea hit that was it. That was it everything. Everything was about doing that, you know, and I had to work and you know, do a few jobs I didn’t like in the meantime. But yeah, it was like, Well, nothing else makes sense to me anymore. Nothing else makes sense to me anymore. I had to just follow through.
David Ralph [1:01:34]
I love that, because that’s where I am. People said to me, oh, why don’t you do this? Why didn’t you do that? Like, I just like doing this. I don’t want to do other stuff. And I just want to get better and better at doing this. And like, Oh, yeah, but you can add this extra thing in and this and No, I don’t want to do that I just wanted to face and I don’t see why they want me to stretch myself all over the place. If I’m having such a great time doing this.
Monique Williams [1:01:58]
I’m going to just do this That’s it. That’s it. Yeah, do do what the heart wants.
That’s the only way to create fulfilment and happiness, I believe,
David Ralph [1:02:10]
I believe to this is the end of the show. Now, I don’t want this show to finish money. But um, this is the part where we send you back in time to have a one on one with your younger self. And if you could go back in time and speak to the Young Money, what age would you choose and what advice would you give? Well, we’re gonna find out because I’m going to play the theme tune. And when it fades, you’re up. This is the Sermon on the mic.
Unknown Speaker [1:02:37]
Here we go. With the best bit of the show.
Monique Williams [1:02:56]
Wow, well, I’m kind of sitting here with my My 18 year old self. And what I want to say to her is,
Unknown Speaker [1:03:08]
Monique Williams [1:03:10]
What I want to say is, man up, get those muscles, get those our muscles growing, use your voice, to express who you are and what you want to create. Because if you do that, you’re not going to struggle through your 20s you’re not going to struggle through your 30s you’re not going to worry about whether this business can succeed or not, you’re going to know. And if you implement that, that that feeling and that strength and that courage now, you will know that whatever is coming, you know, when those those greedy experiences that are coming in your life are going to be valuable. They’re gonna be challenging, but they’re going to be valuable. You’re going to know what they’re all about. You’re not going to have to hide you know, going to have to worry you’re not going to have to repress your, your feelings. You’re not going to have to be scared of what other people Also think you’re just going to know that everything has a purpose. Everything has value and everything is leading you toward this incredible soulful space this this alignment with who you can be and who you have the capacity to be and, and what you will achieve. So I just want to say to you that it’s okay to be scared, but feel the fear and do it anyway. Don’t worry about what others say. Just trust your gut, trust your heart. And even if your ideas feel crazy, and if other people are trying to bring you down for those ideas and tell you that you can’t feel that way, ignore them. And just keep on walking one step at a time towards who you feel that you are deep down inside who you know that you are deep down inside. So that’s, that’s all I want to share with you. That’s what I want to say to you and and just feel it just being Just be present. Be yourself.
David Ralph [1:05:02]
Monique, how can our audience connect with you?
Monique Williams [1:05:06]
Well, they can jump onto my website which is Monique Williams calm and I’m more than happy for anybody to reach out you can reach me on the contact page. And and I also wanted to offer you know if anybody wants to talk to me one on one more than happy to do a free 30 minute discovery session and and just get to know what you want to do and offer any suggestions that I have. So Monique Williams calm I’m also on Facebook. My fan page is Monique Williams fan mynique Williams fan, so you can find me there
David Ralph [1:05:40]
too. We will have the links all on the show notes. mynique. Thank you so much for spending time with us today joining those dots and please come back again when you have more dots to join up because I do believe that by joining up the dots and connecting our past is the best way to build our futures Monique Williams, thank you so much.
Monique Williams [1:05:58]
Thank you David. It It’s been an absolute joy speaking to you today and and hanging out with your listeners.
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